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8. Not able to be reached
In the past, there was never a problem reaching your partner, be it at work or in private. They were always answering the phone or cellular.
Now s/he rarely answers the phone, and doesn’t call you back any more. Text messages are also answered late, if at all.
Another indication of seeking independency.
9. Makes unusual confessions
There were issues in your mutual past, which were never addressed before. Now they are not only a subject of discussion, they often lead to disputes.
“I never liked your mother, father, friends, outfit, political view, nose, etc.” are just some examples for sudden confessions of dislike and disagreement.
This is a very serious indication and should not be taken lightly.
10. Avoidance of long and intimate eye-contact
This is another serious red flag, which unfortunately often manifests when it is already too late.
Your partner cannot look you in the eye, because they have either noticed that they don’t love you any more, or because of guilt. They may have already separated her/himself emotionally, and is considering the next step.
Be careful!
If you notice only a few of these red flags in your partnership don’t panic! Going on a witch-hunt now is the worst you could do. A few of these signs doesn’t have to mean anything, if they appear every once in a while.
Just talk to your partner about it, without pushing the panic button.
Be aware of jealousy, that green-eyed monster.
Jealousy is one of the most negative emotions there is. Never accuse your partner of something without proof, you can create irreversible damage.
If you notice more than a few red flags at once, if not all of them, then heads up, something‘s going on.
As mentioned, communication and a recollection of your initial relationship virtues is a vital step in finding a way back together again.
If Kevin wouldn’t have shut his eyes to the facts, he might still be in a relationship.
Always walk through life with trust, but keep your eyes wide open.
I know you will now.
Your friend,
Eddie
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1 Other Infidelity related blogs · Survive Your Partner’s Affair // Nov 11, 2007 at 6:43 pm
[…] Lovesagame carried a post by Eddie Corbano, a relationship coach on the red flags that indicate a relationship is going downhill. […]
2 Khalil // Dec 4, 2007 at 11:44 pm
Another home run, Eddie! I love it! For me I got the basic bottom line is something we should be doing no matter what stage our relationship is in…Be Aware! As long as we are always paying attention to our significant other, we will always be in a situation where we can either keep injury from happening, stop the bleeding, or, pardon the analogy, cut and run. Great work again, Eddie!
Khalil
He Said She Said…A Love & Relationships Blog
http://www.khalilanddiday.com
3 Toneah // Dec 8, 2007 at 12:21 pm
I wish I had read this 10 years ago. I’m still recovering from that breakup.
4 Jaime // Feb 25, 2008 at 12:16 am
The 10 steps really helped me out on what my man is doing. Now I see that he might be trying to end it with me. And here I feel it is all my fault but, it is not. He is just wishy washy and needs to grow up a lot more before he really decides what he wants in a relationship and I really guess it is not me.
5 bella // Apr 27, 2008 at 10:08 pm
If someone can please give me some advice on how to break up with my boyfriend. We have only been together for 4 months but it feels like forever… hes a really nice guy and he gets me whatever I want but im starting to feel he is just buying my affection. I dont find myself attracted to him at all and since we got together he doesnt have a life of his own. Im a 20 year old female with a two year old daughter, I told him when we got together I wanted to take it slow because I had been going through alot of stress and pain from my last boyfriend. Everything was good for the first week, now it just feels like he never wants to go home and he calls every hour when hes not at my house. I know it sounds pretty simple and i should just leave him, but its difficult for me to tell him this. How can I put it in a nicer way?
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