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10 Positive Break Up Quotes And What We Can Learn From Them

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It’s time for another “quotes” article.

This time it’s going to be a collection of some of the most inspiring break up quotes.

What is it that is so fascinating about break up quotes anyway?

First of all, they help us to realize that we are not alone out there. People have suffered from broken hearts back through hundreds of years.

Thinking that you are alone with your break up is not as absurd as many of you perhaps might think. One of the main characteristics of break ups is that we are overcome with overwhelming loneliness. Knowing that other people have had this problem too, and survived, gives you comfort and strength to hang in there.

On the other side, it’s always helpful to see another angle. Artists especially seem to have a different view of the world and life – their gift is to enliven the unaware. They help us to understand what we may already know in our minds, but the feelings in our heart resist believing.

So, I’ve collected the 10 most inspiring break up quotes for you, which not only sound good, but actually make you feel better and more positive about the future if you are going through a break up right now.

Here they are:

The 10 most positive and inspiring break up quotes:

  1. “‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

    —Alfred Lord Tennyson

    2. Everyone who has suffered from a broken heart at any time has heard this quote. Unfortunately it does not give comfort at the beginning, only years later will you realize its profoundness and value.

    When you understand its true meaning, then you’ll know that you’ve overcome your break up or divorce.

    It is one of my favorite break up quotes.

  2. “If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours, if not it wasn’t meant to be.”

    —unknown

    3. I heard this the first time in the movie Indecent Proposal. It illustrates the necessity of detachment, of “letting go” after a break up.

    If you can let go, you will receive.

  3. “You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.”

    —unknown

    4. There is no moving on without forgiveness, and more importantly: there is no new beginning while carrying “old emotional baggage”.

  4. “Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either.”

    —Golda Meir

    5. Experiencing the negative emotions is part of life. Only if we are able to go through them with our full consciousness can we also appreciate and benefit from the positive ones.

  5. “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”

    —unknown

    6. Sometimes relationships can’t be fixed. That is when it’s better to move on. Sad, but very often true.

  6. “Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.”

    —unknown

    7. Only when you are able to completely detach yourself, can you be free. After a break up, and elsewhere in life. Be a leaf floating in a river, not knowing where it might take you. This is true freedom.

  7. “The loss of love is not nearly as painful as our resistance to accepting it is.”

    —Tigress Luv

    8. Acceptance is one important step in healing from a break up. This is part of the painful first phase.

  8. “I’m going to smile and make you think I’m happy, I’m going to laugh, so you don’t see me cry, I’m going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I’m going to smile.”

    —Lone Star

    9. This is actually some great break up advice in two ways: first you are not being needy in front of your Ex, you demonstrate strength and your Ex may wonder if s/he has made the right decision.

    Also, constant smiling despite the fact that you feel terrible is a great way “to trick” your mind. By smiling, the body sends signals to the mind that you are happy, even if you are not. Eventually the mind WILL accept the state of the body.

    This is simple neuro-linguistic programming.

  9. “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”

    —M. Kathleen Casey

    10. This is a great one.

    It means that you have the choice to accept the pain and not allow it to turn into suffering.

    One of the main reasons that mental pain turns into suffering is continual mental reasoning. We can break that vicious cycle by learning to control our thoughts.

  10. “I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.”

    —unknown

It is a great accomplishment to realize that we loved a concept, a picture we had in our minds, rather than the person himself. When we break up, it’s this concept we miss, and what causes the pain is the failure of the same.

The minute we realize this, we can kick our Exes from the pedestal.

These were some of the best inspirational break up quotes I could find; I hope you’ve enjoyed them.

They teach us about detachment, the necessity to forgive and let go, to live life to the fullest with all its dark sides, acceptance, neuro-linguistic programming, mental control and the existence of false pictures.

All virtues for overcoming a break up, and or that arduous task, I wish you all the best.

Your friend,

Eddie Corbano

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About The Author:

is a breakup-coach, relationship-advisor and founder of LovesAGame. He suffered from a devastating break up in 1998. Since then, he dedicated his life to helping others getting the best of this existential experience. The overcoming of a break up is an important step to autonomy and independency. Eddie Corbano developed some new coaching programs, which focus on evolving inner strength and the power to set and reach any personal goal. (Article written on March 3rd, 2008)
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  • Cindy

    @Kaleen –
    Thank you so much for your kind words kaleen, iam sure your break up is no picnic either. What Iam having trouble with is the that I thought we were happy and that our love was strong enough to get through anything because we constanly told eachother that. He told me one time that he loved me so much he could walk in on me cheating on him and still forgive me! So I dont understand how it went from that to I cant marry you. Maybe its not for me to understand. And my little voice is all screwed up it wont say anything anymore, its like my instinct is gone at first I felt it was the end, now its like not even there i cant hear it anymore. But anyway I guess you have a point Iam still a little young! thanks Ill keep on moving!!

  • Leah

    Hi girls,

    I am going through a very hard time in my life right now. My boyfriend of 6 years has broken up with me a little less than a month ago and I was completely devastated. He told me that he didn’t want to be with me. I asked him why, and he would tell me that it was because of the fights. I agree with him, we are constantly fighting. It was mainly my fault because I’m very insecure and have no self-confidence. This gotten worst when he moved away. We remained a couple, but he couldn’t handle the stress of our relationship whenever we fight because he’s really busy with school. He would go out with his friends and go drinking and go to lounges. I got really jealous and constantly call him and ask him what he did and stuff. He never gave me a reason to doubt him or to even make me think that he would cheat on me. But me being insecure made me think otherwise. I’ve known this but it was really hard for me to change while I was in the relationship. He helped me go through this but it was hard for me to do. During our relationship we always talk about going on a break or breaking up but we never really did it until now. I’m so depressed. I keep calling him and asking him to take me back. He told me that he can’t do it anymore and that he can’t handle the stress. I told him that I’ve changed because the fact that we broke up made me realize what I was throwing away. He didn’t believe me. He told me that we are both so young and that we should live our lives. I can’t go on without him. I talked to his room mate who is also my friend and he said that he didn’t even realize that we broken up because my ex boyfriend seem normal, like nothing has happened. I feel so hurt because my ex doesn’t even feel anything, as if this relationship does not mean to him. He’s not crying or dwelling like me. He’s happy, it seems like this break up didn’t have an effect on him. Did he actually love me? He said that he does still when I saw him the other day and that he cares about me a lot. I believe him when he says this because throughout the 6 years we were together, he treated me like a princess and I know in my heart that he does. I know that he has his flaws that I didn’t like and probably why we fought but I overlooked those because I love him so much. He was my first love. I don’t understand why he’s acting the way he is after a break up. I also heard that he’s being flirting with other girls. This is so painful. Every time I imagine him with other girls, I get so worked up and that’s when I break down. I don’t know what to think. I feel like our relationship meant nothing to him because of the way he’s handling it. Please help me. Please advice. Thanks. I really need someone to help me go through this. He’s my first love and my first boyfriend. I just don’t know what to do.

    • caren

      I know that your break up was some time ago now but reading your story I am feeling the same way. My boyfriend broke up with me last week. I would like to know how you are now because I feel like it will never get better. I am so hopeless and depressed. I just know that I will never love again and I can’t think of how I will ever be happy again.

  • Amy

    Hi Leah,

    I know the feeling of being hurt. I believe that first love never dies but as you go along the way of letting go one day you will tell to yourself it’s only the memories remain but not the feeling anymore. Initially you might get hurt but if u will accept the fact that he’s not yours anymore time will come all wounds will heal. All you have to do is think what are those things that is important to you. Write in one paper the positve and negative things he have to keep him in your life maybe it will help. The final decision is always in your hand. Try to accept the things and be brave enough to fight for it. All this things and changes in your life will changed if you want to change it then do it. Open your eyes and heart to see whats beyond of it. I hope you can pick up again the pieces of the broken heart to make it a whole. Take care. It will heal at the right time.

  • Leah

    @Amy – Thank you so much Amy for the advice.

    Recently, I found out that during our relationship, he has been confiding to this girl about our problems, when all along he told me that he just keeps to himself. They have been hanging out and stuff and the whole time. When I found this out, I felt so betrayed because he lied to me. He’s a lies all the time. So, right after the breakup, he started sleeping with the girl that he confides to. I feel so betrayed and hurt and disrespectful because how can he just move on so fast. It hasn’t been a month since we broke up and he’s doing that. How can he do that? He’s such a jerk. Also, I found that 3 months ago, she broke up with her boyfriend. So now I feel like they broke up their previous relationship just to be together. He emotionally cheated on me. Do you think he did? (please advice) I don’t understand how he can do that to me. How can he just turn off his feelings when he tells me that he still loves me? I don’t want to be with him anymore, I’m done with him but the feeling of betrayal and knowing that he has no respect for the relationship we had really hurts. I’m so angry and full of hatred towards him. How can he treat me like this? What hurts more is that I don’t think he realizes that what he’s doing is hurting me and that i feel like he doesn’t realizes that he’s wrong and his actions are wrong, which makes me more angry and upset and hate him even more. I’m not sad that we broke up because I’m done with him, I don’t want to be with a liar and an insensitive guy, but I’m feeling this way because of the betrayal and the fact that our relationship meant nothing to him. How can he just throw 6 years away just like that? please advice. I’m so confused because I feel like he didn’t/never loved and cared about me at all. PLEASE HELP.

  • ruthy

    @Leah – hey gurl….remember us female tend to blame r self for everything when its come to relationship..I went threw the samething that you went threw but in my case I have a child with him…Everyday I ask my self why i waste my 6 years with a lier who never cared for me yet alone his own child…Its hard to move on you just have to prove to ur self he wasnt man enough to deal a lovely lady like you…the best thing to you right now is to party and go out with ur girlfriends and just keep ur mine busy….also i am ready this book I dont kno if you heard about it but let me tell you I look at him soooo diffrent that it make me laugh that this other gurl think that there boy friends isnt going to do the samething as they did to us 10 time worse then what they did to us…. the book is call Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey that book is a 2 dum up….your going to think diffrently…good luck take care wish you the best hope to hear from you

  • Josie

    My first love/boyfriend only survived for a month, and before that we were best friends. Very very close friends. I started liking him about a month before he asked me out, and when he did it was probably the best day of my life.

    For two weeks the relationship was perfect. He was so sweet and amazing and I really fell in love with everything about him. I’m an artist, so I drew pictures, 3 of the two of us, one of him because he asked for one. I knew a lot of love quotes, and I sent them to him, just to show my love. I felt obsessive, and I knew I was, but it was hard to control for a bit. I knew that if he just held on longer, I would stop and everything would be okay. I even told him that I felt obsessive, and he said that he was okay with it.

    I don’t think he knew I was serious.

    About a week ago, he broke up with me, saying he liked me better as a friend. I knew something was wrong, because I FELT the lie. Yesterday, my friend told me the real reason why he broke up with me, and it was because everything, the pictures, the quotes, and even the texts (which was only me talking to him a little more) was getting on his nerves and he was getting annoyed.

    I saw his side, and I didn’t mind at all for his reason to break up with me. I found it fairly reasonable and I understood.

    But then I really began to feel hurt. Why couldn’t he had trusted me enough to tell me the real reason why he broke up with me. We were still friends after all. He found out that she told me, and he was really sorry for it.

    Quote- “I’m sorry, I couldn’t bring myself to say it. I didn’t want to hurt you.”

    Boys can be dumb sometimes. I was so much more hurt that he couldn’t tell me the truth than what the truth really was. My friend told me to let him go, and take it as an experience.

    I already did let him go, I didn’t mind at all, and I know that this is an experience. She told me “Time heals, trust me, I’ve been there.”

    I replied “I know.”

    What I didn’t understand was, after we broke up before I knew the real reason, it was hard for me to talk to him in real life. (We usually IM or text). I did my best to start conversations, and he was getting annoyed at me for talking to him too much, and I was just so confused.

    Why is he annoyed at me when hes the one thats hurting me.

    That I still dont know, but it’s a touchy subject to deal with for him, because he is a bit stubborn. But i definitely saw his side and didn’t blame him at all for what he’s done and why he broke up with me.

    All I need right now is a little support, and a little advice as to how I should let him go. I did say earlier I already did, but I haven’t exactly.

    Our friendship’s a bit awkward now, and I wish I could turn back time and never dated him. But I did, and I can’t turn back time, and now I need to wait for time to pass. What can I do to make this less awkward? I know he hates talking about it, but it was one-sided. I really loved him a lot, and for a while I felt he didn’t love me the same back. He couldn’t take my affection, and politely gave it back…

    So down to the point.

    I just need a little advice as to what I should do to rebuild our friendship to make it the way it was. He’s been really supportive and he has been helping me…

    ….on IM.

    He ignores me in real life and doesn’t talk to me much. I was told to not talk to him unless he talked to me, because that meant he wanted to.
    She said- “He needs time. You need time. Time heals, you’re going to the same camp in the summer, you’ll see each other. I’m sure after a month or two, you two will be amazing friends again.

    And if you aren’t, then he was never the amazing friend you thought he was. Move on, dearie. There plenty of boys out there that will gladly take your affection.”

    I was really happy for her support, but I know because of this experience it’ll take a while for me to ever be so affectionate of a boy again.

    It’s probably a very common situation…but it’s really hurting me. Why couldn’t he tell me? Why didn’t he trust me enough? Why did I have to find out through a friend?

    Can we still be friends?

    Will time heal? Or will it pass by without bothering to help?

    Please, it’s my first experience, I’m young and I need some support and advice. Thanks for reading all of this if you did.

  • Steph Buckland

    Leah, I think everything you said happens to everybody that loses their first love.
    I dont think he got over you straight away, even if he did start sleeping with this other girl. I think he still loved you but was getting over you. And she was just there. It happened to me and my ex told me that he when he started seeing the other girl he wasn’t over me, we just couldnt make it work together anymore.

    Time is such a healer.
    Things will get better.
    Just remember it happens to everyone.

  • Alissa

    @Leah -To be honest with you. I really just think that you should move on and find someone new. I know how you felt, the same thing just happened to me only we were together for a month but we never fought. I honestly really loved him and thought he felt the same. If your ex- doesn’t feel the same about you, then it’s his loss on a great person. If he really loved you, maybe he’ll come around and realize it. Just continue on and see if you can find someone new :) Hopefully i helped, but just do what you think feels right.

  • sierra

    @Leah – i just went through something that sounds freakishly similar. only two years less time than your six, but i loved him so much, and he felt like all we did was fight and i was to jelous of every girl. i know how it feels to think its your fault.. it makes it hurt even more. :( dont jump into something new im trying to figure it all out myself. but i can promise you it will get better soon your heart will mend itself and your regain all the peices you feel like he left with. be strong. show him that as much as youlove him , you dont neeed him. im sure he was fortunate to even have you in the first place, so please although its hard breathe, every breath every day will bring you closer to being happier. i promise you. your not the first person with these feelings at allll and you will unfortunalty not be the last. hope your feeling better , best of luck

  • Richard

    Hi Ladies, I had been hurt by my first love too before, we were good friends and when she got pregnant by this married guy she was seeing and left her, I tried to help her as a friend, and eventually we became more. I took on the role as father from the get go, helping her through pregnancy and delivery and accepting her daughter as my own…. to make it short… after 4 yrs she cheated on my and eventually left me , with nothing…the little girl i took as my own was suddenly taken away….the 2-3 yrs after that breakup was the most hurt and depressed Ive ever been , i ofter thought of bad things to do to myself and i drank a lot and treated women like crap…eventually my drinking got me in a bad car accident and after all that, she never did visit me in the hospital. it took that horrible ordeal to get my head straight to see that life does go on… it seems impossible at the moment, but time will take care of everything, im now married and have 2 amazing kids and when i think back…im almost embarassed to think of how i acted…..i guess what im trying to say is … the only thing we know about life…is that it goes on..and we must always love ourselves first…cuz if we dont love ourselves..how can we expect anyone to love us?… I went from depressed drunk to married with my first child in a span of 3 yrs….time will heal the pain, trust in love…it does exist….take care and god bless to all.

  • Sairah!!

    hi. I’m very confused about what to do and how to do. There’s this guy. I have known him since 4 years. We have been the best friends ever. We were very close and he asked me out one day and i said yes. That’s where all the mess started. I expected and he expected. We did a lot but some how the relationship was’nt compatible. Due to the fact that he was a deserter and i on the other side was a holy person and was very non social. While he was very social and had female friends too. I was caught up in shit a lot of times and i had problems and when i told them to him. He’d just laugh at me. But when he had problems. I’d just go beyond myself to help him or ease him. And one day tired of all this i decided to tell him to leave me alone. When things got out of hand. I called him up and said all that had been cursing me from a lot of months. His answer was totally something i never expected. He was still very placid. And said hallelujah. And talked very badly with me. After that he emailed me; “And he was like i’m totally upset. I just thought that this was just a bad phase and you were’nt serious. And i never thought about the leaving thing but now i guess i have to. He was sad and he said that he never showed his real thoughts to anyone and that he was never expressive. He said that he loved me and honestly he was very loyal to me too.” I was devastated totally deteriorated. He tried to approach me four or five times. And i could’nt help myself. I just could’nt see him upset. So we became friends again but then we fought again. This happened time and time again. I was totally confused about what to do. To leave him or be friends. It was clear that i just could’nt at all live without him. Then my school started and due to work load. I just got a lot busy. I could’nt concentrate on anything. My parents were upset and they din’t know what i was going through. I never discussed it with anyone. I was in my room all the time. But some how i was changed. Changed in a sense that i stared giving a shit about everything. I was cruel and rude. I was always laughing and talking to myself and trying my best to enjoy stuff. Just to ignore that i was living in hell and i was cursed. People got annoyed of me ’cause i was always laughing and smiling and the old serious and innocent me, was gone. I was a new someone that was him. I had somehow become him. That was what i despised in him. But now I was him. Laughing and giggling like he used to and some how that helped me a lot in a way that the phenomena of being lost in his memories and crying and mourning was a bit decreased. And now after 3 or 4 months he has approached me again. He is very upset this time. Literally crying. I could’nt help myself as always and we became friends. Now he’s a changed guy. And by change i mean that he’s not that guy anymore who used to laugh on everything, make fun of things, the cold one, and never used to take anything seriously. He was totally changed. He was being very polite. He was the old me and i was the old him. He was serious and polite like i used to be. And i was laughing and giggling like he used to. Things were weirder than we thought. He told me about this girl he liked and he said that she was the reason he was down and sad. ‘Cause she’s getting engaged with some other guy. And he can’t do anything. Now i don’t know what to do. To quit talking to him or just make him feel good. I feel very strange helping the guy i loved the most in trying to get over the sadness that his gf is getting engaged. They meet and they are still together. And he’s very fond of her. But what i’m confused about is that should i help him or not? should i quit talking to him and finish all sorts of contacts? please help me for i can’t live in confusion anymore. Thanks alot!!

  • Rach

    i@farfromhome – i know exactly how you are feelin, i moved away from home to be with my partner and 2yrs on he left me, i felt so alone and empty as i ddint have many freinds in the area i was devastated but i had my family behind me and supporting me and now i am arranging to move back home near my family which will help me move on with my life, my advice to you is tell your family and get their support iff you dont then your life will just stand still.

  • Crystal

    @Alissa -

    I totally agree with Alissa … I am now going through the exact same situation myself (I broke up with him about a month ago)and the worse thing is that my ex is from work and I get to see him everyday. It just felt so awkward that 4 weeks ago we were still kissing one another and now we are like enemies. However, as much as this is so difficult, I am trying my best to move on with my life because I really think he didn’t respect me enough to tell me what is really going on and for the fact that he just came up with some lame excuse to respond to my break up message just made me feel more strongly that he wasn’t sincere to begin with. Over the past few weekends where I knew it would be the most difficult because I have established a routine with him, I just kept myself very busy and was surrounded by friends who cared about me. I admit that my emotions are still going through cycles (esp when I see him) but you need to take care of yourself and really show him you have moved on. yet

  • dani

    okay so i’m 15 (so is my so called boyfriend].
    and we’ve been on and off for like over a year now. everything was great we were full of life and just loving each other. well, i wasnt allowed to have a boyfriend at the time so i did everything i could to get my mom to realize how much i cared. so she finally approved and everything was good.. i was so excited because we could finally be official without worries. things changed alot and we didn’t have anything to talk about anymore and he just didn’t really care i guess. one day we’re on good terms the next we just were just…blah. i always knew he was a player but i and everyone around us knew we had that love for each other so i believed in us. there was another girl,, that he actually told several lies about. and i believed it.. i felt really dumb & for some reason i couldn’t speak my mind to him. i don’t want to give up & leave but he’s pushing me away then pulling me back again i dunno what to do anymore!

  • em and brooke

    @Leah – omg i know exactly what u are feeling. happened to me too.

  • amy

    @dani you are still young and a lot of things might change. Enjoy first your teenage time before making serious for a boyfriend. In the right time you’ll undestand that there’s no permanent in this world . Just enjoy being a young because you’ll never come back for that time anymore. Study hard and enjoy your youthful memories. Puppy love will always be a part of your life and true love will come just dont lose hope. If you think you are mature enough to handle that kind of stress its in your hand to choose what kind of life you want to be in the future. It’s very hard to choose the right path but you can have a peace of heart and mind.

  • Aaron

    number 8 is lyrics from the chorus of Lonestar’s song ‘Smile’

  • Leah

    Thank you so much for all of the advice. I REALLY REALLY appreciate it. I’ve been a lot better and happier. I’m going out a lot more with my friends. However, I still keep thinking about him. I hope this is normal and I hope that it will go away.

    Just as I thought things with me are going well, I found out that him and the girl are moving in together. As soon as I heard this, I was in shock because I couldn’t comprehend how this is even possible. It hurts but that just made realize that he’s a completely different person now. I don’t know anymore. I feel like I wasted 6 years of my life with someone who I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. I know that people change and I just have to accept this.

    Dating sucks. It’s so hard. Do you girls have any advice on dating?

  • Joceigh

    Heyy!! My boyfriend (ex now) we went out a little bit, then I told him I needed time to think, but then we got back together. My mom talked to me and told me of all the bad things that can happen when you go off together at a younger age, like immorality, and stuff like that. So I broke up with him AGAIN!! We still want to be friends………. but now I am thinking that maybe I didnt really love him, just the thought of having a boyfriend is what I loved. ANY IDEAS…………how do we become close friends again……what do I say to him when we talk?

    talking about me and my ex not you and I……just clearing things up……………………… @Joceigh -

    HEYY!! your name and mine are the same, just spelled different. Anyways your story is like mine, only different. If that makes sense………… I just want to be friends, maybe never have gone out. But I don’t cry because it’s over, I smile because it happened. Lesson learned, some pages burned, you and I will get through it in the end….. :) hoped I made sense, im kinda random…. ya know?

  • Alice

    NEED ADVICE!!!
    I am very confused about my ex, should I give my hopes up on waiting for him?

    Our relationship was great, we got along great. I’ve trusted him completely, I gave him his space and time whenever he needed it! I let him hang out with his guy and girl friends, etc. He would tell me he really likes me yet he’d say he wasn’t ready to commit. And I understood, if he didn’t want to rush. A few day after those words, he told me he thought about everything and how great we are for each other, he was ready to commit to me and asked me out.
    ( I was sure he really likes me, if he was able to make his mind up within a few days)

    A few months later into our relationship, due to some problems in his life, he has made it clear to me that it’s not the right time for him to be in a relationship, and that he needs time to think. I was really extremely upset, and felt like i was led on somehow. We talked it all out and decided to be friends. I truly love him, and I understand and support all of his decisions and choices. I have explained to him how much he means to me and I am not looking to be with anyone but him ( for now atleast) , even though we are friends, but he says for now we should remain friends, and we will see ” what the future has for us” , he also said he could see us dating in the future again.

    Now that we are broken up, he tries to talk to me almost every other day over AIM( that’s allot more communication than during our relationship). He tells me he misses me and wants to see me, and cuddle with me, but I am still hurt and trying to keep my distance. It’s hard for me to process this, since he was the one who said ” we should be friends”, and understanding this, I completely backed off. I mean i still love him and will wait for him if I need to but he’s keeping me unsure, so I’m trying to back off as well as move on , and it doesn’t make it any easier to get over him if he tries to talk to me about usual things, as if we have always been friends, and nothing happend between us.

    It’s very confusing to me because,I know he is going though personal problems , but lately he has been very tough on himself. One day he is warm , asks me how am I doing, and If im alright, and tells me what he has been up to. The next week he becomes cold, and tells me how negative he is in life, that he doesn’t want to live, and it’s only so long he can be happy for. He then says words like ” why are you even attracted to someone like me” because he is so negative and self conscious, and so on. It hurts me to hear these things because he sounds like another person saying these things that i never knew about. And i know him as a completely different person, everything i’ve always wanted in a boyfriend.( WHen he isn’t negative, there is no one out there i’d rather be with in the whole world )

    I love him more than anything, and I understand if there are some issues in life he is going through. But i want to be there for him( which he won’t let me ), no matter how many times i have tried, so i backed off trying to get over him and live life, thinking maybe he wants me to leave him alone. Well i did, but he is the one who tries to contact me, telling me he sees us dating one minute, and the next minute when he is negative he wonders why am I attracted to him?? Its extremely confusing, because i have many times showed him and told him how much he means to me, but it’s as if he doesn’t take me seriously ( when he is acting negative) Nothing gets through his head!It’s like he gets stuck in a negative hole. If he really saw a future for us, would he be saying all these things, even if he was really upset?

    We are broken up. I accept and love him, but Is he stringing me along, and isn’t man enough to tell me to leave him alone? ( I have asked him, if that is what he wants but he would say that he wants me in his life )? Or keeping me on the back burner until something better comes along?
    Should i give up my hopes on waiting for hm? I am capable of loving another living soul perfectly, and not the type to sit and wait around for something that will never happen. I just don’t want to see him slip away like this. He means the world to me.

  • amy

    @alice, hi I think you better let him go and start moving on. There are some man who will realised that he lost a very special person in his life when you are out of his sight and he get along with the other girls. Maybe he was just trying to proved that you are there when he needed you most but the question, is this what you want to be? you’re with him when he needed you and if not give me a space. Is this what you want to be hanging around, no direction for a relationship. Keeping him as a friend is good but as you did give space for it. Friends and lover are both different in many ways. But still the choice is yours.

  • Nikhil Varma

    Yesterday evening, i was shattered and shocked at what happened…i am sure that no one is expecting what i am going say…probably the most UNBELIEVABLE thing happened…but before that i will tell u the back story…

    I love my girlfriend Saachi, we have been going out since may last year…and in the recent months things were getting a bit wayward for us…and i take the blame i love her tooo much and the thought of losing her scares me to death ( i have partially lost her after last evenings event)…i am possessive and so is she and like really possessive…

    But those things apart, Saachi has been having trouble at her home with her parents mainly because of their abusive and arrogant nature towards our relationship and that once they even abused my parents full on…but unlike her parents my parents are calm and cool…btw our parents know each other since her dad plays tennis with my dad…but the main difference is in their attitudes, her dads a mean guy alwayz drinking and abusing and has no manners how to speak to a girl in my opinion…

    So Saachi hasnt been on talkin terms with her parents at all since past 3 months and is frustrated because of what all they said and what all they did to her till march (they used to beat her up coz of silly reasons : Saachi was sick of their attitude and obv ignored them and whomsoever came to their house she used to abuse out of anger)…they used to beat her up and nt like slap her but hit her with a belt and burn her with a freakin matchstick…so all this sick stuff…YES I AGREE Saachi was at fault since she was not acting cordially but this is not the way to treat ur own child is it??

    I being her BF obv hated her parents for the single main reason tht they are not using their brains and they r doin the wrong thing by beating her up…so i hated them and still hate them…so since past 3 months shes not been eatin at home and shes not been stayin there the whole day and used to go there at night…minding her own business …she used to be with me, even though my parents didnt knw all this…

    Talkin bout me, i told my a lie to my parents, i told them 3 months back tht i have broken up with her coz of all the shit her parents are saying and my dad obv got scared and sed i will get stuck in a problem if i dont break up with her…even though i tried to explain to him…but finally i broke up according to them…

    So 3 months we were meeting the whole day without neone even having a slightest of ideas…she used to be with me in the basement, no one ever got to knw that we still r goin out and tht we love each other…my parents jus thought she meets me as a friend once a week…

    Finally, the last 3 days have been really really difficult for Saachi, 3 days back at 7pm she went back to her house and her father had put locks on the gate and she cudnt enter only, from the balcony he started abusing her in front of everyone , she immediately called me up and i baought her back to my house whithout anyone knowing bout it…at around 10ish i dropped her back coz i thought the gate wud be open now…but they werent and her dads mobile and moms mobile was off…tht freaked me out…

    So somehow i made her stay at my place the whole night…then the next morning i was worried about where she’ll stay so i went with her and found a small apartment for her nearby my house (by the way we both stay in the same locality in the same block !)…but before actually paying the rent for the apartment i thought it wud be better that her parents shud knw about all this…

    So i rang up my dad n told him tht Saachi wants to talk to u, and then she came to my house upstairs and sat in the drawing room with me ad my parents and discussed everything in detail…but i didnt knw tht my dad had a plan with her dad which i will tell in a bit…

    After an hour dad sed “Saachi now i will drop u to ur house”…i was a little surprised coz generally he wud hv asked me to drop her…but obv saachi got scared and told me to come along aswell…

    After reaching her house my parents and Saachi went into her house but i was sitting in the car with the driver as dad had asked me to (BIGGEST MISTAKE)…so Saachi called me up frm her house and wanted me to listen what was happening…i did but then suddenly my driver got a call frm dad n told me to go back to my house … i thought since saachis on the phone with me and m listening to everything its not a big deal…but then her phone got cut …as soon as i entrered the house…i was angry and frustrated …i kept tryin her no. it was off…and after 5 min mom n dad came back…they asked me to relax and listen

    THEY SAID THAT SHE HAS BEEN SENT TO A psychiatrist in a hospital and will be kept there for a week or two…I WAS LIKE WTFFFFFFF…and since they didnt knw tht i still love her they asked me y i was crying…so i said yh coz thts wrong she is a normal girl her parents need psychic help not her…

    I felt soo much anger sooo much…againsdt her parents…u cant imagine…i was still wondering wtf happend and then at 8pm i got a call frm her she was dizzy and was speaking very awkwardly…those bastards had drugged her , but u knw what she said…”nikhil, i love u soo much these peolr have given me tablets and have tied my hands, i will sneak out from here at night, please be there i love u”

    I am crying now i cant do nething but i m helpless for the poor girl…what can i do…they r her parents thts wt dads telling me… i m pissed of sad, tensed, i need her, i love her i am missing her, we used to talk everytime the whole day and now all of a sudden shes gone… im DEVASTATED im broken…the poor girl wud be too…but i dont knw what the fuck r they doing to her…what medicined they will give her and can they wipe out her love for me…i am sure they cant but still y hasnt she called me till now…its 11am…is she being forced , what is happening…

    I AM FEELING GUILTY, TENSED WORRIED WHAT SHUD I DO PEOPLE… NOW I CUDNT SLEEP ONLY LAST NIGHT…WHAT SHUD I DO …SHUD I GO TO THE HOSPITAL.. ..please help required urgently…

  • diana

    ok so i just recently went through a breakup with my first boyfriend a few days ago. i cried everyday except for today over it. i think im over it now bc i see how much it was his fault. but it really really hurt me bc he led me on then basically rejected me..he really confused me and now i dont know what to do or what to think, im kind of lost. i was never in love with him but i loved him as a person and i still do but the fact that he wanted to date me so bad and then just wanted to be friends 3 weeks later just killed me, i want to be his friend but i dont know how to…i dont know how to be someones friend who made up lies telling me how much he loved me and needed me in his life and then buys me and expensive ring then the next day tells me he can only see me as a friend and never a girlfriend in tht romantic way. i just need some advice on what i supposed to do. i want to be his friend really bad. i cared about him so much and i still do but im just confused..i see him differently now and i cant look at him the same way anymore. i just see him as the past and the person i dated. i want to see him as a friend but i cant really explain it, like i feel hes not a friend cuz he rejected me but i know he only did it cuz he couldnt help the way he felt. he just didnt feel the same way about me as i did of him and that hurts. i dont know how im supposd to call that person my friend..please help me find him my friend again. i really dont want to lose him in my life hes such an amazing person and i love him to death but not as a friend. but i need to look past the whole bf and gf thing with him since he doesnt feel the same way. its just hard for me..this is my first heartbreak and he was m first bf i just need some advice

  • amy

    @ nikhil varma You are lucky to have a very understanding parents and for saving your future not to be miserable. Your age, makes you for having an impulsive behavior but still you need to move on and start a new life. I wouldnt say that you need to forget Saachi whatever they will say, she’s still become a part and memories of your life no one can changed that but you need to move forward. I feel sad for Saachi for having disturbed behavior but need to be treated. She needs more counselling rather than escaping for whatever problem she have right now. Since you are under the custody of your parents you need to obey. When your alone and ready to be yourself that’s the time you can decide what you want to be. You can never turn the clock again when you commit mistake but you need to move forward.

  • Nikhil Varma

    Amy i understand that…but its traumatizing for me and her…we r soo young…shes 18 and i am just 19…and all this is not good…i just wish we wud have had a joint meeting, me and saachi and our parents …i am sure i wudnt have to see this day then…

    It’s been 8 days now…i have spoken to her 3 times under doctors supervision and each time her voice seemed different…more so the last time as if she didnt love me, or she was being told bad things bout me…coz last night wen i spoke to her she sed sarcastically or i dont knw hw…she said tht “nikhil u r enjoyin ur life without me, carry on while i rot in here” and i was shocked…how cud she say tht i was enjoyin my life…i understand theres a communication gap…

    But then my dad said tht our love isnt true and tht if it was true then saachi wud hv sed nikhil u please stay cool and wait for me to come…instead of taunting me and sayin tht m enjoyin my life

    Dad might be right also but i shud give the benefit of doubt to saachi since she must be going thru hell in there…
    Please ppl pray my saachi comes back and everything becomes normal…

  • Vanessa

    So i was in a relationship with a guy, whom I also thought as a best friend. Maybe he didn’t realize i though. We had alot of inside jokes and were incredibly in synch. When he left for college I was fine with just being friends. I’m a pratical girl I understand. But I really confided with him alot. I told him my problems, and vice versa. So when he went away I at least thought we could stay in touch. But his only communication to me was through a facebook message just catching up with me on how amazing his life was going. Everyone thinks hes a really great guy, I thought he was the best. Now, I’m not so sure. How can I ever be friends with someone who completely shut me out. I just hope that I can forget him eventually , but something always reminds me of him. I hate it. I can’t even enjoy my favorite tv shows or music, because we like the same things and such.

    I’ve sent him one single text message since he went away( 3 weeks ago). I haven’t been annoying or nagging him. I figured that he just thinks of me as old baggage and bought something new. That is what hurts the most

    advice?
    (ps: I have no idea what he really thinks right now, I’m just assuming since i can’t talk to him)

  • miserable

    NEEEEDDDD HELP!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE

    okay so my boyfriend and i broke up about a month and a halk ago, after dating for about 10 months. it started out great and we loved each other to death, but we always had these little pick fights that never really meant anything because we loved each other so muchh, and no matter what happened we got through everything. but in the beginning of summer in june 09 before school ended he told me that he wanted about a month break (and then wed get back together) because we needed time to “miss each other” and i guess just time apart,so that when we got back together our love would be stronger (though i didnt think that was possible because we loved each other to the fullest) he knew i was really upset and i told him i didnt think we would get back together, and that he was just saying that. but he promised me we would no matter what because he loves me so much, and though i doubted him i still let him have his space and we started our break. we still talked on our break and acted like a couple the only difference was we werent “in a realtionship” and we could “hook up with anyone we wanted too” (his idea, until the break was over) and everyday i asked him when hed ask me out and he always said soon, or when you do this, or when we stop fighting ect. and everytime we talked we always said i love you and told each other how much we loved each other, and hed tell me how wed get back SOON, but never exactly when. and after a month of this and having this stupid break, ( in july) all the sudden something happened, i dont even know what. he told me he didnt want to get back together, that it was over, everything changed, and he didnt feel the same way about me anymore. i cried and cried and cried for the whole month of august and am still crying till this day, i begged for him to come back that iv changed that we can be perfect again, and i reminded him numerous times how he PROMISED me we’d get back together and how much he USED to love me and how much i STILL love him. and everytime i bring it up he gets annoyed and tells me he doesnt want a girlfriend right now, he just wants to hook up and be single and have fun, and i tell him i love him to death and that i need him and he answers with the same thing, he deostn want a gf right now, he doesnt know when he’ll want one again (may be years) he just wants to be single and happy. but he also said that IF the time ever comes where he wants a gf, it MAY be me, or it may not be me, but thats only IF he ever wants a girlfriend before we finish high school (im a junior). and he said we can still be friends, but it hurts so much when i talk to him as a friend because i realize how much i love him, and i realize i cant have him, and that makes me love him so much more, and then im tempted to bring up the “why cant we just get back together” question and he just answers with, not this again. please. and gets annoyed and i have to change the subject. but i love him MORE THEN ANYTHING and i want him back and i dont want to cry everyday anymore i dont know if i should move on and just cry my heart out for months until i get over him, or to wait UNTIL that moment he wants a girlfriend again (which may take forever). i dont know what to do i want to believe he’ll come back soon and he’ll love me again like he did but everyday is the same. nothing happens. oh and he plays football at our high school which always makes him cocky because he’s like amazing at it, so i dont know if this whole “i just want to be single and hook up with no strings attach” thing is due to his cockyness, if so i really hope its a phase and he gets over it after football season and starts loving me again. but i dont know what to do, it kills me when i see him flirting with other girls i miss him soo much i cant stop thinking about him i cant stop thinking about what hes doing with or saying to girls or what hes thinking about, or if he misses me :( i dont knwo what to do HELP

  • Mick

    @Vanessa –

    Vanessa, I think I’m in exactly your situation. For me it’s been just four weeks since the break-up. And although I’m doing much, much better than I was even two weeks, it’s the little things that keep bringing me back, tugging at the strings and reminding me. Causing the pain.

    Like, I know Eddie emphasises about how it’s all about self-esteem… and that’s the root of most break-up problems. But I don’t know if it’s like that for me. I don’t feel lacking in self-esteem, other than the wonder at how she could break up with me. But basically, I just want her in my life.

    I find I’m watching and enjoying something, and then – like you, Vanessa – something will remind me and I’ll immediately start thinking I’d enjoy it so much more if I was with her.

    It just keeps coming back.

  • christina

    well, i was dating my boyfriend for three years we were inlove at least i was. we were perfect liked to do the same things i felt comfortable with him. we had complications but despite them i still loved him. his mother didnt like me and didnt like her son having a girlfriend so she never let us see each other and that hurt. i tried i even talked to her to see if things would change i always dod everything my boyfriend never really stuck it out for us. because i am sure that we could have fixed things. he just gave up on us and it hurt so bad i dont now what to do people tell me hes not worth it and whatevver else and that doesnt help nothing helps for three weeks ive bee upset i miss more each day. and he broke up with me over texting i asked him if he could call me and tell me because i thought that our relationship meant more than over a text message he goes” no we dont have a realtionship anymore and why are you tell,ing me waht to do” i dont understand i wish i could do something he was the first guy ive given everything to and as well as him. i need help on waht to do hes out im sure not even thinking about me as usual but im here miserable

  • augustina

    Well we met during our internship and became bestest friends. We were in a relationship since past three years and everything was going great but soon as we got engaged (last year), everything got changed. He started taking me for granted and I hated it. We fought for hours together almost every fortnight, since he lived in the town far away. My family also didn’t find the idea, of marrying him, so great and more over they got some really bad reviews about his family background and they suggested to me to just forget about him. I also thought as it was practically impossible to live with him in that situation but somehow I’m unable to forget him. I miss him in what ever thing I do. Now a day it was like – I was attached to him him n him only n suddenly i found hes no longer with me any more. It’s pretty sad, knowing the fact we wont be able to see eachother anymore. And I don’t know how to come up from this situation.
    Please HELP!!!

  • Jessica

    Just remember that “break-up is the light that shines on the path to the next person”

    IDK, I just thought of it…

  • Liz

    hey farfromhome…i know exactly what youre going through…my bf and i have been together for nearly 4 years, and have been doing the long distance thing for about half that time. we’ve had more than our fair share of ups and downs and the distance really does take its toll as im sure youve come to learn. i moved 6000miles away from home so we could finally be together and try to have a normal relationship. 3 days after getting here it all went to shit. we had a massive argument…at the time i’d been staying with him and his family, and had no where to go. so i jumped around from house to house staying with friends until i found my own place. i very nearly jumped on the next plane home, but decided that this move was something i had to do as much for ME as for US. So i stayed. we managed to regain some semblance of a relationship over the last couple of months, but have now again hit another rough patch…and again im struggling. so i feel your pain. just hang in there. make the most of your new home. it should be all about YOU and not your relationship. good luck.

  • Nikki

    @miserable –
    Baby girl i wanna tell you the more you try to get him back an beg him the worse you wil fee;. i was with my sons dad for two years an i been here for him threw so much an yet he still decided he wanted to be single basically the same stuff your ex is doin an believe me every time we would speak an id bring us up i would just be disapointed when he began to get annoyed an started sayn mean things.all your doing is pushing him more an more away.i kno how you feel believe me iv cried an cried an stilll sometimes i look at my son an cry you just have to be strong an kno its not u its him he really is young stil an you have to face the facts that he is going to be mess with other people.if he really loves u after a while he will wana come back but dont sit an wait cus it may not happen..its mind over matter just keep tellin urself you dont care an eventually the pain will go away

  • Kami

    Eddie,
    i really thought i was in love with the most amazing guy. we went out for almost a year now, but its been the long didstance realtionship. he would always tell me he loved me and that we would work things out but it just got worse. we quit talking for months and then i felt broken and i would cry everythime i heard his name. it was a bad few months. then i called him one day and told him i missed him. we started going strong again and then a few weeks ago he told me he loved me more than anyting and then the next day he said he found a better chick. i was devistated. i havent been able to sleep through the nights without waking up crying. he was my first love i thought. i was so heartbroken when he told me goodbye. i understand it better now by seeing the quotes and the explainations but what else is there to heal the heart? should i try and get him back or should i just give up. i love him, and i dont want to feel pain anymore. what should i do? please help me. i feel like its killing me!

  • Jennifer

    @Kami – To be honest I think you should let him come back to you. Trust me, i’m going through the whole long distance relationship in January it will be our one year, we only live a few hours away from each other but I don’t have a car and he has one but he is always working….So we don’t see each other but once or twice a month. It sucks girly, TRUST ME I know…..I always hear things about him from my friends back home and then he tells lies I’m not sure what to believe. Last night I got a little stupid and broke up w/ him and now he probably won’t talk to me. Its hard not calling or texting the first few days but eventually it gets better and he’ll sooner or later call. I’ve learned that the past few times my boyfriend and I broke up….So keep your head up and everything will fall in place. Remember “If its meant to be it will come back”……If it doesn’t thats how you know its not meant to be.

  • bamagurl

    Okay me and my bf were dating for abt 8 months and just recently he td me that he didnt feel tha love from me anymore like he did in the beginning of our relationship….he said everything he has for me is still ther and it isnt going anywhere. Okay me being a fool i would say i listened to him tell me this he went on and on with the i love you’s and everything. The a coupe of dayz later he sed we needed to kool down for a little while but he wanted me to be happy and move on becuz he still wud be there as my bestfriend. and i sed ok…..then i stayed home from skl fro 2 dayz and my bestie who goes to his skl txt and askd me did we still go together becuz him and this other chiq were gettn a little to close! now this gurl he was gettn close to we grew up together and all we use to spend tha nite @ each others house but she moved wen we were in tha 9th grade and all ended. And then me and him were txtn one nit e and he was telln me how he felt abt me and that we were just doing this break to not lose a vauable relationship and telln me how he saw us in tha future and he wanted me to have his kiddz and have his as name….but we jus need to chill and then yesterday my friend that goes to skl with them 1st and 2nd period came to me and askd how can i let that ugly chiq take my man, he sed im not teln you what sumbodi tld me i m telln u what i seen cuz dey were kissn he was like wtf….im still confused on why we he go spendn all this tyme tell me sumthn he dnt even think…..im lost on my whole situation i need hep becuz i really love this guy with all my heart!!!!!!!

  • Karen

    This makes me sad hearing this about heartbreaks… :/… anyways, my boyfriend broke up with me six months ago, and I don’t blame him for doing it. We were together for two years, and after, he ended up liking a girl from school. I begged him back for five months, I tried everything I could to get him back. But as a result, I met someone better, yet it was his friend that I like. Today, my ex boyfriend wants me back, clearly because he realized that he loves me. But I wont take him back. Too bad for him.

  • aanchal

    i fell in love with this boy when i was in 8th grade… actually i was new in school and he had eyes on since 7th but i never knew. in 9th grade he finally took the courage to propose to me. but my family found out about him and they didnt want me to be with him. i didnt stop talking to him. i thought i couldnt live without him. after 10 th grade i moved to america and thought if i become independant i would be able to have him. but destiny wanted something else. my family made me loose contact with him. through the times i needed him i emailed him but somehow he didnt manage to understand and at that time someone came in to my life. we worked together and thought we loved each other. he was muslim and i am not… he was really obessed about his family. he wanted me to change my religion.. in front of him i would say yes but my heart knew that i didnt want to. days passed year passed we went on just thinking things would work out. but somewhere when ever i would pray i knew that this was not something i wanted in life. maybe i was with the wrong guy. even though i was with him thoughts of my ex would remind me of his love… but i didnt let him come in my life again cause parents didnt want me to… they story is pretty long but i just someone to listen to me just to feel better. so i tried to keep my self away from my bf. i started going out with my friends and avoid him. he found out that i was with friends enjoying and he got jealous and decided to ruin my life.. he would stalk me coming back from work in the middle of the road at night and become agressive.. i never knew was like that. and one day when i got home he called my house and my father picked up the phone . he told him that i was going out with someone… and he should watch over me… i think ur confused actually i am from india and we are not allowed to have bfs. so my parents did some inquiry from where i worked and found out that i had been off from work and went out with my friends… it was the worst day of my life. my life turned upside down. ididnt know what was happening. i loved him and he did this to me. then my parents sent me back to my country. now i am sitting home doing nothing. my whole is ruined and i have nothing to loose. i felt my life was nothing but suffering. years passed and i felt better. maybe leaving him was also gud….but i hadnt forgotten my first bf. i had decided i would never anyone again in my life. but god wanted something else. 6 years passed since then and suddenly one day a boy from my neighbour hood went on telling people that he loved me . i had no clue about this. till someone told me. i didnt want to talk to him but he kept on saying things to people about me that made me mad… so i called him up one day and asked him what his problem was. he told me he loved me . i thold him that i dont want him please leave me alone. but then he said he’d be my friend. so we talked on the phone almost everyday. even though i knew that it wasnt right i kept on talking to him . i trusted him that he would never tell anyone that i talk to him. but only if i knew he was the biggest liar in the world. i never met anyone so stupid. he forced me to have sex with him but i told him that it wasnt not going to happen. his greed for my body was increasing everyday. yeah i was still stupid enough to still be in touch with him. maybe it was infatuation and soon enough i knew i was in trouble. he went around telling everyone that he had sex with me , when i knew it ws a lie. but there was no one to believe cause i couldnt go around presuading people…i cried and cried for months and stopped talking to him. it took me a while to get over. but he is around here and i dont talk to him. he took me for granted. maybe i was foolish enough to make such severe mistakes. i dont feel good about my self… some times i feel like a whore… 8 months have passed and i am over him now . but there is this empty space in my life …. i went in to deep depression and tried killing my self… i am scared of being alone. it freaks me out when i think about i am alone. i have so much to say . but no one to listen… my parents think i am not gud child… they always say that i never made them happy. is it worth living???? i tried alot of things but each day feel like helll. i just prayed to god please help . i cant live alone. i am seriously scared to be alone. no one loves me. then suddenly something happned and my first love came to my contact and now i think that maybe after praying maybe god made me talk to him. i still love him… but he doesnt anymore. … he says things that makes me cry.. i basically weep everyday. i dont know what to do… help me….. i never realized that i loved him that much till today… i know i am not right . i did alot of things i shouldnt have but i am sorry…. what should i do???? i dont know what to do maybe i do… i will let him go…. and if he comes back then he is mine.. the rest is just life.

  • Mary

    I heard this from a talk by the Dating Doctor
    the number one question to ask your bf/gf is

    Am I an option for you, or am I a priority to you?

  • Nikhil

    Hey i am back and this time its worse than what it was…
    Incidently Saachi has left me like i am a piece of Sh*t…shes gone to mumbai thats a 2 hour flight from delhi…and all this happened on the 9th of dec…everything was going fine and she was happy so was i…and next thing i know shes not there anymore…i have been able to locate her as her mom told one of our common friends tht shes in mumbai at her grandparents house…i am livid with her…late till 2am in the morinin we were talkin on the phone and then she just left me high and dry…
    Her father took her forcefully but it doesnt make sense how can she go to mumbai FORCEFULLY…its just doesnt add up…even if she wanted o go…she should have informed me…and nw tht shes gone she hasnt even bothered to call or msg once…doesnt she care for me…
    What bullshit…
    Please read the post that i made (just see the one where its mention written by nikhil)…
    Shes always had trouble with her parents and she hated them as far as i know…we had been goin out since 11th may’08…shocking that someone whos done everything with u for such a long tym just one day decides to leave u…
    I loved u saachi…and still theres a faint hope that u still care for me but still 10 days no contact what does this mean…
    ?????????

  • Anne

    Hey all,

    Would a guy tell a girl that he doesn’t like her anymore if he doesn’t want to have a relationship with her anymore? What does it mean when he doesn’t know how he feels in the relationship?

  • Ashley

    hey

    well i need some help i wanna break up with my boyfriend cause im not allowed to see him or anything and i want a normal relationship how can i do this without making it worst for him? i feel like there is no point in this relationship help please i just don’t want to hurt him but i feel its the best i just cant find the words so maybe you can help a lil

  • Ashley

    @Mary –

    i asked my boyfriend this and he said both what do i do

  • claudia

    HI i had been with my husband for 19 years, we just got married 2 yrs ago, but had been together for 17 before that. So last week he says that he doesn’t love me anymore and that he cares for me but he can’t continue to live with me. I was floored I was like what?? After 19 years together you come out of nowhere with this. We have had our problems and separated before mad, but never like this, he says he needs time and space to himself. I said I won’t be here when you are done with your space. He said if I come back to you begging you back and you won’t take me well then it will be my loss. He texts me goodnight every night which sends me into a river of tears, i beg him not to text but he still does, I don’t know what to do, I don’t know if I still love him or the fact that he is leaving me is what really bothers me. I am 37 years old so I have been with him my whole entire life practically I keep thinking he is seeing someone else, and that makes me go crazy. I want to forget him but we share the same cell phone account and he says he want s to remain knowing about what is going on in my life, i wanna just leave the country and go as far away as i can from him. What can I do?? His stuff is still here but I have not seen him since christmas eve when we were at his parent’s home. He said he purchased new clothes not to worry about the clothes he has here, i asked straight out if he wants a divorce and he won’t give me an answer.

  • Muneera

    @claudia –

    19 years is a really long time. I think more than anything you need time alone to think and reflect on what is important to you. If after 19 years he doesn’t know if he wants to be with you then I don’t think he deserves you. But that’s easier for me to say than for you to do. And if he doesn’t want to be with you then he has no right to know what’s goin on in your life. Don’t give him any power over you. He cannot get his bread buttered on both sides. I let my ex do just that but now I have taken the power back. Remember anything is possible.

  • ashley

    hey everyone,
    so me and this guy never offically went out, but we “talked” if anyone knows what that means. We basically went out, but never made it offical. We talked everyday for hours and hours. At the begining, we both were just seeing other people. Then, about 2 months into it we both shut all the others out and only “talked” to each other. Everything was great. We did everything a boyfriend and girlfriend would do, but still not offical. It wasn’t like he was keeping me a secret; Everyone knew about us. He would walk to class with me and all that cute highschool things. Then one day, we were in class and he kept being different. Then he said “see this is why we cant go out, you get mad and would break up with me in like two days.” After that i was like well, i am not going to waste my time so should we stop all this? We both thought about it and he agreed that we should stop “talking.” We ended it peacfully, still trying to be friends. I mean i was really hurt but other then that we were still friends. Then, I find out he had a side chick. I also found out a lot of things he was telling me were lies. The problem is Its been almost a month now and i still think about him almost everyday, i still miss him. Why? I don’t know what to do. How do i get over him? He was the first guy to treat me right? Any Suggestions or advice?

  • karma

    hey anne…certainly a guy wud say tht he doesnt like u if he doesnt want a relationship….u see..guys r not emotional like us girls..no matter how much hell they put us thru..we still melt wen they hug us….
    and wen he says” he doesn’t know how he feels in the relationship”…then he hasnt realised ur importance yet…or he’s takin u for granted….

  • jordan

    So I had the perfect boyfriend and everything was fine. Maybe I was just ignoring what was going on but he started treating me badly. saying like “no you dumbass!” and after a while it got to me. So I broke up with him and now he’s being really immature. He’s ignoring me and on aim he’s blocked me. I still wanna be friends because I dont want him to be mad at me forever. I can’t get through to him! advice please!

  • kiki

    hi my name is kiki ive been reading every single storys about ya relationship..im 15 years old and me and this guy been dating since Nov 6, 2009..his mom died and he dont know his father so he live with his aunt and uncle…his sweet at times than straight mean to me..every time we talk on the phone or in a text message he talks about sex and how much he want to fuck me..and he always master bate on the phone every time i talk to him… i cant take this no more i feel like he want me for sex and he dont love me…he said he dont want to go to college he just want to be a rapper…were in a far distance relationship….so far things been going bad…he told me his addicted to sex..so i think his cheating on me

    what should i do? should i break up with him or continuing to date him?

  • Katie

    @dani – Your situattion is identical to mine. And i have just let him push me away and once i was gone…i was gone. I taught him that he cant play with my heart like that and if he wants a relationship he needs to show that he cares and he needs to open up. Dont let him play with your heart, let him know that once he pushes you away, your gone…because otherwise your just that girl that will put up with his bs. Dont put yourself through that, as hard as it you you have to let go..maybe later you guys could try the reationship again, but for now i think it would be best if you moved on. Good luck

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