10 Positive Break Up Quotes And What We Can Learn From Them

by Eddie Corbano

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It’s time for another “quotes” article.

This time it’s going to be a collection of some of the most inspiring break up quotes.

What is it that is so fascinating about break up quotes anyway?

First of all, they help us to realize that we are not alone out there. People have suffered from broken hearts back through hundreds of years.

Thinking that you are alone with your break up is not as absurd as many of you perhaps might think. One of the main characteristics of break ups is that we are overcome with overwhelming loneliness. Knowing that other people have had this problem too, and survived, gives you comfort and strength to hang in there.

On the other side, it’s always helpful to see another angle. Artists especially seem to have a different view of the world and life – their gift is to enliven the unaware. They help us to understand what we may already know in our minds, but the feelings in our heart resist believing.

So, I’ve collected the 10 most inspiring break up quotes for you, which not only sound good, but actually make you feel better and more positive about the future if you are going through a break up right now.

Here they are:

The 10 most positive and inspiring break up quotes:

“‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

—Alfred Lord Tennyson

Everyone who has suffered from a broken heart at any time has heard this quote. Unfortunately it does not give comfort at the beginning, only years later will you realize its profoundness and value.

When you understand its true meaning, then you’ll know that you’ve overcome your break up or divorce.

It is one of my favorite break up quotes.

“If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours, if not it wasn’t meant to be.”

—unknown

I heard this the first time in the movie Indecent Proposal. It illustrates the necessity of detachment, of “letting go” after a break up.

If you can let go, you will receive.

“You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.”

—unknown

There is no moving on without forgiveness, and more importantly: there is no new beginning while carrying “old emotional baggage”.

“Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either.”

—Golda Meir

Experiencing the negative emotions is part of life. Only if we are able to go through them with our full consciousness can we also appreciate and benefit from the positive ones.

“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”

—unknown

Sometimes relationships can’t be fixed. That is when it’s better to move on. Sad, but very often true.

“Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.”

—unknown

Only when you are able to completely detach yourself, can you be free. After a break up, and elsewhere in life. Be a leaf floating in a river, not knowing where it might take you. This is true freedom.

“The loss of love is not nearly as painful as our resistance to accepting it is.”

—Tigress Luv

Acceptance is one important step in healing from a break up. This is part of the painful first phase.

“I’m going to smile and make you think I’m happy, I’m going to laugh, so you don’t see me cry, I’m going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I’m going to smile.”

—Lone Star

This is actually some great break up advice in two ways: first you are not being needy in front of your Ex, you demonstrate strength and your Ex may wonder if s/he has made the right decision.

Also, constant smiling despite the fact that you feel terrible is a great way “to trick” your mind. By smiling, the body sends signals to the mind that you are happy, even if you are not. Eventually the mind WILL accept the state of the body.

This is simple neuro-linguistic programming.

“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”

—M. Kathleen Casey

This is a great one.

It means that you have the choice to accept the pain and not allow it to turn into suffering.

One of the main reasons that mental pain turns into suffering is continual mental reasoning. We can break that vicious cycle by learning to control our thoughts.

“I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.”

—unknown

It is a great accomplishment to realize that we loved a concept, a picture we had in our minds, rather than the person himself. When we break up, it’s this concept we miss, and what causes the pain is the failure of the same.

The minute we realize this, we can kick our Exes from the pedestal.

These were some of the best inspirational break up quotes I could find; I hope you’ve enjoyed them.

They teach us about detachment, the necessity to forgive and let go, to live life to the fullest with all its dark sides, acceptance, neuro-linguistic programming, mental control and the existence of false pictures.

All virtues for overcoming a break up, and or that arduous task, I wish you all the best.

Your friend,

Eddie Corbano

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About The Author:

Eddie Corbano is a breakup-coach, relationship-advisor and founder of LovesAGame. He suffered from a devastating break up in 1998. Since then, he dedicated his life to helping others getting the best of this existential experience. The overcoming of a break up is an important step to autonomy and independency. Eddie Corbano developed some new coaching programs, which focus on evolving inner strength and the power to set and reach any personal goal. (Article written on March 3rd, 2008)
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jordan

@kiki – hey, i think that you should stay away from this guy. He sounds like danger, and it might not end well. I say break up with him before it gets out of hand. You should wait for someone who dates you for more then just sex.
jessica cardeas

Even after all that she’s been through she still finds a reason to smile
casey

im trying to get over my ex of.. about 4 days now. and i am really struggling. we dated on and off throughout my sophomore year, and for about a year and a half up until january 17th 2010, my senior year. He has broken my heart atleast two times, and ide accepted him back into my life. but this time i had had enough of the arguments and ended things between us. even though im 17 and he is 21, we got along great at first, but things got rough during my senior year. He never understood if i needed time with my friends, and if i decided to hangout with them one night i would end up in the bathroom arguing about it with him the whole night anyways. and i understand where he is coming from, wanting to spend time together, but he was relentless. Even if i needed to dye my hair one night and had to leave his house, it became a huge argument. it doesnt help that i live next door to him either. I found myself thinking constantly, he has the characteristics of someone i KNOW i dont want to marry. People can change, but these problems are deep, and its not like he can change his personality.. its like i had fallen in love with the wrong person. He never put any effort what-so-ever into making things work between us, either.
So here i am, missing him terribly. the person i grew so far apart from, the person i know im not meant to be with. i moved in with my mom so i dont see him, and yet i still feel the need to be with him and text him; we hungout practically everyday (the next door issue). I think the truth is that i am absolutely TERRIFIED to live my life without him, because im so used to it, i feel like it will be physically impossble. He has been the only guy ive cared for throughout highschool, and i feel like im trapped and will never successfully move on. sorry this is terribly long, two years is alot of time to cover in a little typed message. email me please and help me move on sincerely, casey

sierra

ok well casey i have similar issues with my ex aswell except i moved away and we no longer talk but he told my friend that he cheated on my throughout our relationship and never loved me..i find it very hard to belive becuase everyone always told me how much he loved me and would never hurt me..but the reason im responding to you is becuase well i dated him for a little over a year and when we broke up i felt like moving on so i dated somone else for a month or so but i broke up with him becuase it kinda felt like i was cheating on my ex…even though me and him already broke up previous to me dating again…i often feel very trapped with my ex and think that maybe hes my somone that god put me on the earth to be with…but its not true if this boy your talking about has ever made you cry..hurt you..ignored you, or even ha been obsessed(sounds like he was) then dont worry theres your perfect somone and no matter how much you love this guy you’ll love your perfect sumone 100 times more you’ll know when you’ve found him cause i found mine and now were married so goodluck to your future!:)

Melissa

Hi, some great quotes in there! Just fyi: the Smile quote #8, is from a Lonestar song, called Smile, great song! I dont know if they originally coined the saying, or if they just incorporated it into the song, but either way, figure i’d give the credit where its due!
iamhurt

I never thought that I would go look fo a website just like this. I just ended a 4 1/2 year relationship and i feel like crap. I can’t talk to anyone because I don’t know how to. I feel stupid when I cry. I just didn’t think that this would happen to me. I had an almost perfect boyfriend but I guess things don’t really work out the way you want it to be. I feel so lost.

I’m crushed- bone and soul… =(

rita

hey i m soo soory that happend to you but your not the only one that feel soo lost. your story is like mine i had the most perfect bf too and we were together 4 about 3years and we were having a baby every thing was soo perfect i love hem and he loved me and then he just send me a message on my cell and told me we are over out the blue he changed hes cell # and evry thing i never thougt it would happen to me but it did and now im lost but when your down there it no were else to go but up i tell my self that every day and this just happend to me too the day after xmas so i no how you feel but keep your head up there is some one out there 4 you just hereing your story helps me cuz i no im not alone so think you

shannon

@casey – I’m so sorry. Funny enough my boyfriend and I had the opposite problem; he ignored me and practically dragged me around like a sad puppy dog. And even though I know he’s probably not the man for me I’m still in love with him too. Dont feel stupid when you cry; if one cannot truly cry then one cannot truly experience laughter either! It’s ok to feel like crap. It’s a crappy situation. Hold on strong casey!
Erika

my boyfriend of 3 years (2 of them living together) broke up with me 2 days ago. I am reeling. I realize that what we had was good and we gave it a good shot…but we are too different to live compatibly forever. I am more shocked and hurt that I have to live my own life again. This website has helped me tremendously to get through today…and i’ll look at it again tomorrow and probably the day after. its helped me to realize what I was doing wrong and what he was doing wrong. He is too immature to work on the relationship…but hey…now i’ll know for the next guy. its nice to know that i am NOT alone…and that there are people out there that feel as lost and shocked as i do. we can all be strong together!!
Ajay Subrayan

I loved her alot and the love which i had for her was not just for sex or money or something but for what she was…… And it has been since 8months we were going out and all those moments are flashing up my head and my eyes….. I have fought with my heart to let her go and finally when i got my heart broken i did not have the strength to keep her with me…..Because when i said i am tearing everyday she said that she does not care about… And which killed me was when she said i would not care even if you die~~~~Which dragged me into a pit of toxic acids whic ripped my heart and bled me out…….I did not lie to her neither did i cheat her…I always have been true to her and i had so much love to her i told my mum too…..But lastly when i spoke to her she scolded me like iam not worth anything…..I really am confused and very badly hurt with what i am going through but though i am hurt i am not going to blame her and i would not do that ever because maybe she was right that she does not really care about even if i did die….Maybe really she did not love me as i did for her…….But then why did she say she really loved me so much when i was with her????Why did she say that she will be with me lifelong and she promised me too…Why was all that???I really am hurt and more over confused…..I tried my best to keep her happy at all times even if i was angry with her i hurt myself and react in her much a cooler way because i hurt her once and i am yet suffering because of that and but yet i have been so frank i even told her that i did scold her like this and asked for forgivness!!!!I did make things and planned and designed a house even for her according to her likings and i did all that but i never saw that she will hate me so far that she scolded me like that…I never did!!!I am trying my best to smile just to make her feel guilt about anything such as she ruined my life and also i keep up because i should not make her feel about me at all because it will ruin her new life ahead with something she wished for and left me….I yet love her and neither i can throw it away!!!!I will keep loving her till i breath my last breath!!!!And that woould not stop……..
meera

@Ajay Subrayan – I REALLY FEEL FOR YOU AND I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING AS YOU ARE.
I HOPE SHE COMES BACK TO YOU.

GOOD LUCK
accept the pain and smile..

my ex gf is getting married..
she deserves to be happy with someone. i just thought it should hve been with me.
Miss_Passive

so I honestly don’t know if anyone ever reads these things.. but I am going through a pretty rough breakup of 3 years.. He got in front of a web cam and got naked for some chick he didnt know.. He got her naked, and told me. I was fine with him as long as he didnt continue it. A day later, he sent an email to her of himself jacking off.. after i acctepted him back into my life, he did that.. We broke up for a while, and he told me he loved me and wanted me back.. So being the dumby that I am, i said i would try and make things work.. Little did I know, he went back to talking to random chicks on a web cam chat site.. We are currently not together, but I feel hurt.. I dont want to hurt anymore, but it just keeps getting worse..

Anonymous

You have the right to feel very very hurt, this guy is a jerk!! What is he thinking??! I noticed you posted this about two months ago, i hope you were able to muster all your strenght and were able to move on, this guy doesnt want to be in a relationship!! It has nothing to be with you, there are moments when you feel really bad but take care of yourself, exercise, take walks, and very important, dont isolate yourself you need alot of love from friends and family! I hope to hear that you are doing better!

armando

my girl freind just broke up with me she says we can be freinds abnd when we were going out she sayed we felt the same when we were freinds but i really want this to work out any advice ill take anything

Brooke

Yesterday my boyfriend broke up with me. i am so hurt. i cried for hours. i kinda saw it coming though because all of a sudden he wouldnt tlk to me as much… then he broke up with me… he said he liked me better when we where just friends. He had no clue at all how much i loved him. i loved him more then anything. and to know tht he didnt i felt so crushed…… now hes saying tht was the worst mistake of his life and he wantes me back… i still have very strong feelings for him… but after how he hurt me… i dont really no if i wana go though tht again. i have no clue what to do … part of me says yes take him back… the other says no stay strong and dont get invole with him anymore… please help.

Jessica

If anyone out there reads this and has some words of inspiration, I would more than appreciate it. I am going to have to break up with the person I most love. I have spent the last 2 years of my life with this man. We have been through the worst and the best together. Things many people don’t see in a lifetime I have experienced side by side with him. Today, two of my very good friends made me aware that they first hand saw him cheating on me over this past weekend. Sad to say, it happend once before, he came clean and told me about it and we worked past it. This time I can’t let it slide. For some odd reason, this time it hurt so much more than before. Maybe because the first time, we were having a lot of issues within the relationship. This time, we were happier than we have ever been. At least that’s what I thought. Now I’m stuck feeling worse than I have ever felt in my life before. I feel betrayed, confused, mad, sad, like someone just punched me in the stomach. These past 3 days he has been so affectionate, warm and loving to me but for what? Did he not think these guy friends would tell me? I know I cant submit to his lies or excuses. I can not think of myself as stupid because I honestly did not see it coming. But I fear I will be stupid if I let him stay in my life after this. I have stuck by his side when many other girls would run away, I’ve helped him when not even his family has. I’ve stood up for him when everyone around me disliked him. And I forgave him when most people would walk away. How then am I still the one who will be most hurt by this breakup?
cuckuu

@casey –
casey ur whle story really hurted …..
i feel tht guy sure tht u cant live wdout him ..
nd thts y he careless about yaw ….
nw u hav breakup ? r in contact ?
casey ur nice gurl ….
wht u expacting frm him i thnk he wouldn’t gv yaw ….
try to make urself strng ….
tht u can live wdout him ….
whch issues he make on yaw thy seems tht he couldnt trust n yaw ….
i feel u shuld meet wd him n take some kind of decisin nd ask him wht he want ?
wht he say tel me
i’ll tel u a perfect way n m sure tht it ll hlpful to yaw …
dontworry thnk me az yaw frend ….
ok ???
dnt b sad baby GOD ll HELP YAw …..
ok

@Jessica –
“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”
read thz liines
thy r totaly attract towards ur story ….
nw u shuld hav to survive ur self nd let ths guy away …..nd see wht he do wd u
dnt talk wrng to him
jst watch ….
Diego

@casey – hello casey,
i am sorry to hear what happened to you. i too have had this happened to me on january 6,2010. my life came crumbling down on that day. i was very much in love and i had held a relationship for a year and a half. it was on december 26 2009 taht i decided to take that extra step. i asked her to marry me on that day. even though i knew that we did fight but what great couple doesnt. we always got through the hard times and we couldnt go 10 sec with out talking to each other. i basically recreated out first date when i proposed and on the same spot where we irst kissed i got on my knee and asked her to spend the rest of her life with me. she said yes and i was very happy and so was she. even though i am 19 about to turn 20 and she is 18 i knew that i wanted her to be the one that i wanted to be with. at the time my parents didnt agree with me getting married soo young and not having the support of my paernts brought me down. but i never stopped the plans of us getting married. prior to us getting engaged we had gone shopping to almost 800 dollars worth of appliances and things for when we moved out. we basically had a set goal. we wanted to have something when we moved out and not be with nothing. well on january 6,2010 we had a agruement that morning. that mornign i was to go to her house at 9 am sharp and ask her dad for her hand. i was infront of her house on the phone 5 min prior of me walking into her door. the last thing i told her was she need to control her anger and learn to drop things that had no importance. she then said to me i am done. with everything. she broke up with me and broke the engagement off. i waited 15 min or so and knocked on her door. she then opened it and i saw her dad and mom sitting down and my x had her eyes ballin. she told me i was no longer welcomed att her house and that she didnt want anything to do with me. i told her that she didnt want to do this she said she did and it was over and she kicked me out. i left. i gave her 4 days and unfortunately we worked together. i talked to her the following week, she3 had changed her hair color and started to wear contacts. i sat down with her at the job before we closed and she told me in my face that her new look was for her new life that she didnt love me that she didnt want to be with me… i my head i asked my self how can this be possible over a week…and that thing is that she was smiling while she said this… it hurt me soo bad.i quit my job of 5 years because i couldnt work with her… till this day i have not spoken to her. believe me their is not a second i dont think about her but we all must learn to say this to our selfs… what gives that other person the right to tell me what i am worth. noone has the right to tell u what your worth. the only person is yourself. we dont need that person to live life. its like a habit. u and i were used to seeing that person everyday and u grew costome to that. we must break that habit and try to keep our mind in the state of what can i do to improve my self. not for his or her sake but for mine. if that person took the privalige of love then why should you give them the satisfction of them seeing you distraught in depression. its not worth it ur not keeping ur pride ur keeping ur mind healthy. depression leads you to do stupid things. i miss her i really do and i know that the person whom talked to me that tusday and said to me i dont love you wasnt her. unfortunately we listen to the person that influences us the most and that is our parents. she is listening to her mother and i know that all her mom is doing is blind folding her so that she wont be hurting. honestly i am a great guy i really am the people that know me know that i am respctful and mature for which is becoming a pediatric nurse, and even though i have 2 years to go i am going to stick to my goal. its hard o keep your head up but trust me its not impossible, keep in mind that its not that u lost something he or she were the ones who lost something greater. Keeping ur faith and going closer to god helps alot!! there is a quote that i saw on the internet that i told to my x a while back that i know made her open her eyes to some extent and i hope to god that she opens her eyes before its too late. “Watching you walk out of my life doesnt make me bitter or cynical about love, but rather it makes me realize that if i wanted to be with the wrong person all this time, how beautiful will my life be when the right person comes along?” this quote is strong in so many ways. beileve in urself and believe in god. ull get past it one way or another. whether its with him or in my case her in our lives. GOD is all powerful and he gives us what we need to make us stronger not to make us weaker. i hope that my story helps(i know its a novel hahah) . take care and keep ur head up.
Christinnna

My bestfriend has been dating this boy for like, ever . I can ‘t stand to see her with him . All he does is cheat and she isn ‘t strong enough to let go . I need advice .
Dan Hatcher

@iamhurt – It sometimes seems like the end of something but it’s not. Through divorce I learned that I was able to spend time with someone, grow with them, learn and exchange and it made me a better person. It didn’t feel good when it was over but, it could have been alot worse. I think getting to know myself and spending time with friends really helped. Of course there were those who would say- “Well there’s two sides to every story”, looking back I realized their judgemental attitude was because they didn’t want to deal with any problems. If you act like there’s no problem everyone seems to be OK with anything. But at home is where you can cry and let your support system be there for you until you feel strong enough to start back walking. Why spend your time though with someone that is selfish and thrives on trauma when you can eat a banana split and go to the mall with friends. Hope this encourages you- I’ve had a number of years of experience and like to share the ups and downs along my path.
melanie

and if you have to leave
i wish that you would just leave
cause your presence still lingers here
and it wont leave me alone
slynns

@casey –
He’s not worth you if he were a fool to let you go. Just like I did, move on! It may be hard but it’s worth it. Never give up!
Toya

I was with my boyfriend for 3 years In the middle of our relationship I move far away because I felt stuck where we were and the economy was bad i tried to find a better job so maybe he can move up with me but I moved back after 2 months and everything felt to different he acted different he treated me so bad when I came back I felt terrible because it was only 2 months and I moved back because it was to hard so instead of welcoming me he told me to go back we kept arguing from there plus he befriended his cousin in law and spend more time with her than me he also hardly talk to me on the phone during the 2 months I was away he treated me so bad I broke up with him during the time of the break up I was feeling desperately lonely and I met this guy and hooked up with him I felt bad about it and stop talking to him then my ex found out and said I cheated on him and started acting hysterical he said in his head it wasn’t over I moved away far and we didn’t talk for awhile I sent him a hate email during the time his internet was off few months later he emailed me back saying he still loved me we talked then I said don’t call me no more than awhile after that we started talking again talking over getting back together we talk and talked up to this point we got into a argument he ignored me and a week later he posted picture of him and another girl hugged up on myspace talk about cold blooded he was filling me up until he could break me with that he got revenge on me and it hurts so much because everything I did I loved him now I’m sitting here filling stupid cause i should have never got with him cause I feel like the whole time he didn’t love me I’m a fool in love He hurt me so bad its like somebody shattered my chest and back open and i can’t stop crying I’m trying to work out to clear my mind but I really need someone to talk to my family won’t talk all they will say is I told you to stay away from him I feel all alone someone please help me
Kelly

@iamhurt – IAMHURT…i am going thru the exact with my ex. I known him for 4 years and even unknowingly gotten pregnant by him and lost our baby. I was there for him when his mom died and every other time he needed me. Only to find out he was doing his thang on the side with a gurl with half the beauty and class i had. I broke up with him even though i was still sleeping wit him from time to time, which only made my feelings hurt, made me sad all the time, and even lowered my self esteem and confidence. I literally did not wish 2 live without him. He told me he loved both of us and that we were a like in every way and that he couldnt choose. He wanted me and her, but I realized and told him that he couldnt love 2 people and that he didnt love me bc if he did we wouldnt be were we were. I told him I would make it easy for him and i left him alone. I could not b his gf here and she b his gf up there so i left him alone. I know it was the right thing to do but I still feel like im hurt,sad and lonely. I dont know now if im capable of ever feeling love or giving it again after all he was my first real love.
leese

@iamhurt –

I feel your pain. My boyfriend just broke it off with me after 5 years. I’ve been a miserable cow for the past week. Not eating, sleeping, and crying my heart out. What i found that worked was to be distracted by friends or working out. I swear i thought i was gonna die but you just have to hold your head up high and move forward with your life. It may suck and you feel like nothing is gonna get better unless your back with him but man i tell you. ITS OKAY. Time will pass by and it’s their loss

James

I like your attitude. good advice.

Toya

I feel better now I working on myself now and loving myself I’m trying to workout get really fit and go to school and just get my life good and confidence up

BUT he called me and I ignored it and I didn’t call him back I guess he was expecting me to do that . He called for two days straight I kept hitting the ignore button. he also send me a message on myspace saying I need to tell you something. He even took the pic of him and the girl off and put just him. I ignored everything cause right now its just to painful to talk or look at him. He makes me sick Oh yeah he gave up after those two days and put the pic of him and the girl back up guess he thinks Im stupid its whatever I’m totally done So until I find the one…I’ll be sitting here with a loaded gun protecting my heart so it doesn’t get broken apart again
kylee

well u deserve it if u broke her heart!!!
Dont play with girls hearts!!!
they will play with yours ever worse!!!
Jazzy

@Miss_Passive –
Wow!! Your story sounds a lot like mine!! Not only was I hurt, but I also felt ashamed… Not sure why, because he was the one doing those things, but it did. Learn from me, DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK!! I was extra stupid and continued to take him back because he said he had a “sex addiction”. He said he was getting help and going to work on his problems because he loved me and wanted our family back together. He used therapy appointments and meetings as a way of getting out of the house to meet the women he had been caught online with. Nice, huh? I know you are hurting without him, but it will only last for a little while. If you go back to him, you’ll end up hurting over and over again. Stay strong and keep your head, Ma…
Sabir khan

@Jessica –

m also feeling same
due 2 my G/F who which is not mine now
brittney

@Jessica – hey jessica, just wanted to reach out to you on this one because of all of these stories yours rings true for me the most. this by the way is the first time ive ever gone on any of these sites. I just broke up with a man I was with for almost three years. He cheated on me several times. I took him back because I loved the way he made me feel, until it happened again. It feels like someone is tearing your heart out. the reason your story rang so true is that the same situation happened to me i felt like I loved him so much for taking him back and sticking up for him when noone else could care. beleive me jessica these people see him for what he really is and if he cheated on you twice already i will stake money on it theres no chance he wont do it again. You seem like a smart girl I think you need to forget about it like im trying to do. Dont let yourself get to where I am where time was lost because you sat around waiting for someone to change- ITS NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN. even writing this is helping me take my own advise. – change your number if you have to but cut the scumbag out of yhour life for good
Lupita

hey well im 17 my boyfriend and i broke up yesturday. He was talking to some other slut behind my back he says he loves me but it just too far we had been dating for a year a ten months. I love him but i aint gonna stop him from dating other people if thats what he wants, it hurts but i just want this rough part to be over with so i can move on. I need some advice my mother doesnt really tell me anything she married my dad and i dont even know if they love each other

Miss T

He does'nt deserve you, He's just a player and you deserve better than that, your 17 for heavens sake. guys are still going to be all over you, guys who are too sweet. Let him go, It's gonna hurt but what does'nt kill you makes you stronger, right?

Saraaa

I feel so sorry for everyone and their losses. I was dating a guy for 8 months almost and im still in HS so thats a loong time. I had a huge crush on him for the longest time and i thought that he was perfect. So we were dating and everything was good we never really fought about anything major and i seriously thought he wass the love of my life..Well one day in school he wasnt talking to me…so i texted him after school he didnt reply till 10 that night and broke up with me in a text for no reason I am a Varsity Cheerleader and this happed at my team dinner the night before regionals. I was bawling my eyes out and i felt soo stupid… tmrw would be our 9 month and its killing me inside just thinking about it. I have been trying to act like i dont care and that it was his loss. I havnt let anyone see me cry(except my cheer girls) so noone thinks i’m hurting like i am… Idk what to do. I’ve heard from his friends that it was becaue i was annoying, prude or for another girll..): which sucks. I was his first gf and his first kiss so i hope when he’s in his 30′s he’ll remember me as his first lovee and how he broke up with me in a text. At least i will make him feel like a dushe years from now. ): High School Sucks. I’m still very much in love with him…And what makes it worse is were bothe o9n track together and i have 4 classes with him, which ironicly i sit next to him in….HELPP… i just wanna diee. ):
Gabrielle

my boyfriend just broke up with me after 2yrs. im so sad.
Sandie

How do you break up with your childs father and work the no contact rule? I have been in an on and off relationship with my daughters father, we are currently living together, but it is just not working out, more and more I am thinking I would be better off without him.

How can I let go of someone I love when we have a small child in the middle.
James

I tried my first LDR. Avoid these at all cost. A relationship is like two people growing a tomato plant together. You can’t email a tomato plant back and forth in most cases. Also she was rebounding. Woe be to you who date a rebounding mate. Love yourself first!
Sowmya

I understand what you all are going through. Yes, its very difficult to get passed this stage, but the reality is this is not whole life. Its a phase in our lifes which we are in today. Its a passing cloud. Don’t hold to it for long, leave it and let it go. You’ll start seeing life in a different way which is really beautiful.

I wouldn’t suggest anyone to be hard on the people whom you loved because, you did love her/him truely. Nor I want any of us to be hard on ourselves. You lived those momenets, you lived his/her life and vice versa. Cherish those moments and wish them good. Forgiving, letting things go the way it is helps to come out of this hurt. We need to accept certain things, that our past was true and what we are going through is also true. It’ll help to plan your future. No one can share your pain, so you decide whether you’ll live this pain or want to see a new world waiting for you.

Yes we all miss our love, but think above it, beyond it. Certain relationship need not have names, but can help us heal our pain. God has created all of us and he know what is that we can withstand in our life. God has plans for everyone of us. If he has given birth, why will he let you shatter ???

Yes, I was in a relationship and talks were on in terms of marriage. But all of a sudden, he didn’t pick my calls nor replied to msgs. After 2 weeks, he said his parents have got him engaged. The worst part is, I even don’t know why our relationship didn’t work. And this happened just 2 weeks back. I did cry, I did feel shatter, I did feel no way out of this but how long? Its ok, that’s how life is…but yes, I still love him and wish him good. I can’t control him, but can control my feelings and myself. I wish I can talk to him once but I’m not sure what destiny wants.

I’ll move on, not because he did that but because I love him. I know somewhere he is happy and safe. Trust me, some day in their life they’ll think about you and wish that they had not broken. Isn’t that enough?

Its not easy to come out of the pain, but until we make a effort and want to come out of it, we will suffer. Its important we come out of it to see a new world, to see new people in our life and to start giving our love onceagain to the world.

Cheer up guys, life is all about experience….

leirun

I really like what you wrote swmya… i feel the same way, i think unless we choose to move on we wont be able to see whats awaiting for us. I think you are being very strong and brave, i actually go back and forth, sometimes i feel angry at him, at myself and sometimes i just feel angry of all the things that were againt us actually being together… but then i make the choice to not go there and to see what awaits me..I miss him alot and i still love this man alot, i always will, but i must let him go, like you said, i cant control his choice of ending the relationship, i can understand why he did, i dont blame him our situation was difficult, long distance, religious, cultural diferences, it was challenging… I have to respect his decision, i have to respect myself too, and trust that God allowed this to happen for a good reason. sometimes i wish him not to be happy, i hope i can get to that place were you are, were i can actually wish him the best even if that means not being w me… ugghhh! Anywho this is one experience i will never forget, was an amazing one. I am thankful for this and for experiencing the feelings i experienced with him.

Magen

ive been through that alot but stay positve .. if she really liked you enough shell come back maybe shes not the right one for you.. maybe there more out there you never know
amy

Love is sacrifice. It doesn’t mean once you let go the one you love it means the feeling is gone rarther you are helping him to find the happiness he’s searching for. And once you let it go, you need to step forward for the present chapter of life. One day you’ll realised your choice was right, because there is someone who will come along your way who is much better than him. So keep moving on because life is still beautiful..
amy

THIS IS WHAT AM TELLING TO MYSELF SINCE MY EX-BF INSISTING TO KEEP IN TOUCH TO ME “WATCHING YOU OUT OF MY LIFE DOESN’T MAKE ME BITTER OR CYNICAL ABOUT LOVE, BUT RATHER IT MAKES ME REALIZE IF I WANTED TO BE WITH A WRONG PERSON ALL THIS TIME, HOW BEAUTIFUL WILL MY LIFE BE WHEN THE RIGHT PERSON COMES ALONG”. I ALREADY MOVE ON AND EASE THE PAIN OF HAVING A BROKEN HEART BUT I NEVER REGRETS LIVING HIM OUT OF MY LIFE. THATS WHY AM HAPPY.
Beautifully Flawed

Im a 32 year old single mom thats just recently coming out of 4.5 year relationship with the man I thought i would spend the rest of my life with. I made so many changes for him and dont feel that he always did the same for me. Sadly, a little less then 2 month ago i left him and had to make the hardest decision to moved back home with my parents (at least for the next year) to save money.

It has been difficult for me and my son. I met my ex when my son was 2.5 and he is now 6.5. He is really the only man my son knows as a daddy and to him that is his daddy. Since i left my ex hasnt tried to see my son other then one time. My son seems to be taking it ok now, but i am having the hardest time moving on and i am sure it doesnt help that we continue to speak and see one another to be intimate from time to time. I know i need to end all contact with him, but i just cant seem to accept it. I guess i am hopeing that we can reunite after some time has passed.

In the 4.5 years we were together we’ve had many ups and downs and have taken time apart here and there, but we have always worked it out. This time when i left i took everything. I made a rash dicision and ran with it. Now i constantly ask myself why i ever left. i feel i could have made it work and at least i would still have him in my life.

Now that i left he, i think, is realizing htat he like being able to do what he want when he wants with no strings holding him back. he has cut me out of his life all together. when he calls he wispers so his friends or family doesnt know he is talking tm me. I feel like he is constantly playing head games with me. he tells me to call or text him, but when i do he take forever to respond to me and im not supposed to get upset about it because we arent together, but if he calls or texts me and i dont aswer fast enough for him he is asking why i dont respond back to him.

He tells me he loves me and wants to be with me, but he also says that he needs to be single for a year and save money, pay off some bills and be alone. he says that he doesnt want to be with anyone else and that he doesnt plan on dating anyone, yet he has many new friends that happen to be girls and he was never like that before. he tells me that he doesnt expect me to wait around for him, but that he knows in a year he will want me back in his life forever. what is that supposed to mean? he doesnt want me to wait for him but that he know in a year that he wants me back. i can help but think and slightly believe in hope for the future, but a year is so long and anything can happen.

Im not ready to move on a date, but a part of me wishes that i had as much down time as he did to go out with friends, meet new people and have fun. dont get me wrong i am happy i am a mommy, but it does make it hard not having a lot of “me” time in keeping myself busy and distracted once he is down for the night.

I can eat or sleep. I dont want to do anything or go anywhere because the thought of seeing him out having fun and being with a new girl would kill me. we live so close to on another i know its only a matter of time before its bound to happen. I would be heartbroken even more so seeing him and the fact that he is able to move on so easily.

Everyone is telling me to go back to school, take up a new hobby or do something that will distract me and help me feel better about myself, but between the cost and the lack of someone to help in watching my son i feel that i am unable to do anything at this point in my life right now.

I dont want to cry anymore, i want to feel good about myself again and most of all, i want to be the happy person everyone keeps reminding me of. I know that she is in there i am just not sure how to find her and bring her out again.
srinivas

Originally Posted By caseyim trying to get over my ex of.. about 4 days now. and i am really struggling[...]

“You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again”
amy

@Beautifully Flawed – Hi, I think your decision moving your son into your parents house was right. Its difficult to be a single mom taking responsibility of a dad and mom in one but I know you’re brave enough to face this challenges in life. You’re still have the chance to find a man belongs to you it will come on the right time. The best thing you can do now is to focus the love and affection to your child and give the best you can do for him. You can still be happy living with your son keep moving on for his future. Goodluck!!
sin bad

im trying to break up with my girl as (iknow this is gonna sound harsh) but i have no feelings for her. yet i care enough that it hurts me to know that i have caused her pain… any tips?

miss t

just tell her the truth and set her free, pretending to her will omly make things worse.
long distance love

will all i gatta say is that wats the point if you went out with her if u aint got no fellings for her thats just lame and bogus man u dont want no one to treat u like that….. thats for sure then justtell her now then later caz u dont want her to get hooked to u more

crystal

my boyfriend broke up with me then a week later he went out with my best friend which i didn’t really care until i found out that he was cheating on my friend then broke up with her.So then i got involved was that the right thing to do,or should i have done something else???????????????
James Gillaspy

@Ajay Subrayan – You will have many loves in your life. The transition from one love to another is often painful. Also part of the risk you take when you decide that you are indeed in love in the first place. The right one will present herself to you, without abuse or fickle head-games. Sometimes we are in love with the idea of being in love. All the euphoria you feel from all those “in love” chemicals your brain swims in at the time. the more intense the high the, lower the low. All we can do is try not to love in vain,(i.e., those who do not deserve our love) and love ourselves 1st and foremost. Be confident. this too shall pass. Peace. James
junior

@Kelly – you will love again… and it will be deeper than the experience he put you through. i promise you that.. hope your much better now..

your story touched me so i just a reply…
fed up w/the BS

@Jessica – Ok this is just creepy…. i Have been with my fiance for 4 years now and we have two kids and the exact same thing just happened to me 4 days ago. I am stuck right now between a rock and a hard place.
hope died

I know everyone got lot of problems in life about relationships but i dono, I feel like i have more than any .3 yrs back i broke with my first love .I moved on with a hope that a right person will come in to my life for sure.On december 9th 2009 a guy came in to ma life ,he did send a request on facebook i added him up ,we did yahoo chating for 2 months knowing each other he said he likes me ,he also said he dont want to comit right away after seeing .He also said i need some time coz i broke up with my grilfriend 2 yrs back “.And I thought we were going through same phase in life,after that we met 3 times,he kissed me he huged me he said he likes me and he was alwayz talkin about sex,i just did wateva he told coz i felt he was the one whom iam waiting for in life ,so i played my part.When i text him he wont reply ,says he is preparing for his interviews i understood that and dint forced him or argued.All i did was tried to understand him and did what he said.Even though he said dont keep any hopes i did coz i dono i just fell in love with him.He moved to a different city for his job.2 days back I texted him sayin missin u honey he replied sayin “this long dist thing wont work at all,iam sorry”.Now i realy dont know why he came in to my life what he did but iam crushed again ,i just lost hope in life ,cant imagine my furtue.I dono how to comeout of this coz i cant think thr will be someone else who will come again or i cant wait for him coz he said he didnt fall in love.I even had sex with him coz he said he wont break my heart.I called him n asked him y u said tht u wont brk my heart he said i meant not to cheat u but iam leting u know and being honest i realy dont have feelings for u we hardly met we hardly spoke on the phone so i dont fell like it anymore.Iam wondering y this is hapenin to me again and again i just read a quote if it is urs it will come back but i cant even think that way coz he neva loved me.But from deep down of my heart i loved him so much ,i have i planed everythin.From the day he came in to my life thr is no moment me not thinkin about him,i knw iam crazy abt him i begged him on phone and askd him to think abt it he said he thght abt it and dont have any feelings for me.I realy dono whr he came ffrom ,y he came all i did is accepted what came in to my life but its gone on its way.Do i need to belive in destiny thinking tht he will showup one day or do i need to move on thinkin that someone else will comeup?.I feel shattered

juri

Hey…so sorry to hear ur story…u r a strong girl..good luck to u.
skittles

I know how you feel i was crushed by my ex boyfriend and then 2 years later i met the love of my life and we were together for 5 years and engaged and 2 weeks agoi found out he was cheating on me we also had a long distance relationship because he was out of state on parole i feel the same way i cant even imagine starting all over again but dont think about a new love focus on healing and getting rid of your pain trust me i'm going through the same pain take care

Cheyenne

My ex broke up with me 9 days ago. We were together for 2 years and a month. We were doing the whole long distance thing, I went away to college and things were okay. Last week, he broke up with me and said that he just thought it would be best. He said he would always love me. Well, for 9 days, I didn’t hear a word from him. And today, he called. I loved hearing his voice, and I stated how i thought he hated me, and he asked why. I told him it was because he hasn’t called or anything. I told him that i thought he forgot about me and he asked “how could i?” I eventually asked if there was someone else, and he said yes. They just met, and they are “talking” It hurt so bad. I couldn’t believe it. Here he was, all moved on and stuff, and I am still stuck on him. He promised me he would call tonight. He seemed genuine. I don’t know what he has to say. He said I am not the only one that hasn’t slept, and that it wasn’t easy for him either, but it sure does seem like it is so easy if he has someone else already. I feel like he is giving up our love for someone he just met. I feel alone and shattered. I dont know what to do…

Katie

my ex boyfriend did the same thing..he is all moved on and i am sitting here just crying and not even knowing how to function. it is horrible especially if you see any pictures or facebooking going on between them. stay strong though we both have to. friends are the best medicine…although i really dont even feel like doing anything. its funny how one person is doing this to us…i hope things turn up for you..dont forget to remember all the good things in your life:)

rima

@crystal – @fed up w/the BS – The fact that he broke up with u and started going out with your freind, shows no respect for himself, or you. and your freind? well, shes not a freind, to be a [part of something u were finding cmfort in. who takes that away from someone??? it only happened to her , coz she was a part of doing it to someone else.
rima

@sin bad – be staright up and honest with her, coz it’l be alot harder for her to stay in a relationship with you , beleiving the feeling are genuine when really there not. dont be slack about it, just be honest, but sincere. show her all her positives, because she might see it as something she’s lacking, thats why your feelings dissapeared, keep enforcing, thats it soemthing that just happened, and u feel like there’s nothing there anymore, just dont use the line ” its not you its me” coz, weve all heard that one. at the end of the day, just be honest you can never go wrong in being honest..:)
grace

“If you love me, let me know. If not, please gently let me go.” My bf just broke up with me, but i understand why and i thank him for not hurting me.
heartbroken

I broke up with him because I realize he is not who I thought he was. I watched him fall off of the pedestal that I put him on. 7 1/2 years of waiting for something that simply was not going to happen. I am still in love with who i thought he was.

Jane

Dear Heartbroken – I sincerely feel your pain. Am going through the same thing right now … for what sounds like the same REASON … with a guy I've been with for 8 years now. Our relationship has always been rocky but it's been worse than ever these last 2 months. It's going to break my heart to watch him leave (we live together in my home), but I can't continue to do this to myself. Would like to hear from you if you're interested in corresponding.
Jane / Richmond, VA

vesh

hi jane

im going through something similar as you. although i only had a relationship a year and a half…we broke up end march….ever since then i find it hard to get out of bed, it hurts the whole day..i try to throw myself into studies..but every single moment i think of him..our relationship has always been rocky but we loved each other…it hurts so bad to go through all the emotions, to wonder if he is with someone else. he was my first love, i sometimes wonder how could he forget me that easily….we lived together and now coming home to an empty house kills me . i feel as if no one understands my feelings…and that im so alone…you are right in saying that we cant continue to do this to ourselves…its eventually going to take a toll on us physically and mentally…i replied to you, cos you would know how it feels to love someone and to come home to them daily..spend all your time with them…..so i just wanted you to know i feel your pain..it helps to know that theres someone out there that feels what you feel, and will not just look at you and tell you everything will be okay…..everything will be okay..sometime i would just like to wallow in self pity and get it all out of my chest..

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