10 Positive Break Up Quotes And What We Can Learn From Them

by Eddie Corbano

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It’s time for another “quotes” article.

This time it’s going to be a collection of some of the most inspiring break up quotes.

What is it that is so fascinating about break up quotes anyway?

First of all, they help us to realize that we are not alone out there. People have suffered from broken hearts back through hundreds of years.

Thinking that you are alone with your break up is not as absurd as many of you perhaps might think. One of the main characteristics of break ups is that we are overcome with overwhelming loneliness. Knowing that other people have had this problem too, and survived, gives you comfort and strength to hang in there.

On the other side, it’s always helpful to see another angle. Artists especially seem to have a different view of the world and life – their gift is to enliven the unaware. They help us to understand what we may already know in our minds, but the feelings in our heart resist believing.

So, I’ve collected the 10 most inspiring break up quotes for you, which not only sound good, but actually make you feel better and more positive about the future if you are going through a break up right now.

Here they are:

The 10 most positive and inspiring break up quotes:

“‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

—Alfred Lord Tennyson

Everyone who has suffered from a broken heart at any time has heard this quote. Unfortunately it does not give comfort at the beginning, only years later will you realize its profoundness and value.

When you understand its true meaning, then you’ll know that you’ve overcome your break up or divorce.

It is one of my favorite break up quotes.

“If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours, if not it wasn’t meant to be.”

—unknown

I heard this the first time in the movie Indecent Proposal. It illustrates the necessity of detachment, of “letting go” after a break up.

If you can let go, you will receive.

“You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.”

—unknown

There is no moving on without forgiveness, and more importantly: there is no new beginning while carrying “old emotional baggage”.

“Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either.”

—Golda Meir

Experiencing the negative emotions is part of life. Only if we are able to go through them with our full consciousness can we also appreciate and benefit from the positive ones.

“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”

—unknown

Sometimes relationships can’t be fixed. That is when it’s better to move on. Sad, but very often true.

“Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.”

—unknown

Only when you are able to completely detach yourself, can you be free. After a break up, and elsewhere in life. Be a leaf floating in a river, not knowing where it might take you. This is true freedom.

“The loss of love is not nearly as painful as our resistance to accepting it is.”

—Tigress Luv

Acceptance is one important step in healing from a break up. This is part of the painful first phase.

“I’m going to smile and make you think I’m happy, I’m going to laugh, so you don’t see me cry, I’m going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I’m going to smile.”

—Lone Star

This is actually some great break up advice in two ways: first you are not being needy in front of your Ex, you demonstrate strength and your Ex may wonder if s/he has made the right decision.

Also, constant smiling despite the fact that you feel terrible is a great way “to trick” your mind. By smiling, the body sends signals to the mind that you are happy, even if you are not. Eventually the mind WILL accept the state of the body.

This is simple neuro-linguistic programming.

“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”

—M. Kathleen Casey

This is a great one.

It means that you have the choice to accept the pain and not allow it to turn into suffering.

One of the main reasons that mental pain turns into suffering is continual mental reasoning. We can break that vicious cycle by learning to control our thoughts.

“I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.”

—unknown

It is a great accomplishment to realize that we loved a concept, a picture we had in our minds, rather than the person himself. When we break up, it’s this concept we miss, and what causes the pain is the failure of the same.

The minute we realize this, we can kick our Exes from the pedestal.

These were some of the best inspirational break up quotes I could find; I hope you’ve enjoyed them.

They teach us about detachment, the necessity to forgive and let go, to live life to the fullest with all its dark sides, acceptance, neuro-linguistic programming, mental control and the existence of false pictures.

All virtues for overcoming a break up, and or that arduous task, I wish you all the best.

Your friend,

Eddie Corbano

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Eddie Corbano is a breakup-coach, relationship-advisor and founder of LovesAGame. He suffered from a devastating break up in 1998. Since then, he dedicated his life to helping others getting the best of this existential experience. The overcoming of a break up is an important step to autonomy and independency. Eddie Corbano developed some new coaching programs, which focus on evolving inner strength and the power to set and reach any personal goal. (Article written on March 3rd, 2008)
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Unknown

he broke up wit me cuz things wasnt working out ''/ we broke up a day be4 are first anniversay. Havent evn made it a month but i rlly did love him

miss him

this is sorta what happened to me i was going out with one of my best guy friends friend and we had talked awhile and i sorta had a small crush on him. then this year he asked me out i gladly accepted and the small crush that had grown without me knowing turned into love. This is love like i had never felt before! we went out for almost three months. Actually he broke up wtih me a day before our 3 month anniversary and said because he wanted to see me more often. At the time both my parents finally got steady jobs and on the weekends (which was when he wanted to hang out) i had to babysit. I still cry to this day whenever “our” song comes on and when i think back to all the things he said to me even tho its been 2 months!

abc

I met the most amazing guy I've ever known/met over 2 years ago (online). We ended getting very, very close (could talk about everything etc). We decided to meet 2 years later, but only as friends. It turned out we were in love with each other for months already (thinking the other wasn't interested at all), and things happened. We decided to try the long distance relationship thing. After almost 5 months, we were really in love and best friends, and had met twice for a long time and we had the best time of our lives. But we knew we would have to be apart for about 4 years (due to school), which would be too hard, so we agreed to break up because of the distance. It's sounds so stupid, and it hurts me so much knowing it's the only reason we broke up. If there was another reason it would feel so much better and right. We didn't even say goodbye in person…

He is perfect to me, and he says I am to him as well. I love him so much! And he loves me too, and says he'll miss me and all that as well. We are so good tother, so alike. I don't want to be with anyone else than him. Honestly, I can see myself marrying him and having a family. But…I know I'll move on someday, but knowing I have to look for someone who is like him again is scary… Most guys are a**holes. I found the dream guy and now he's gone… What if I never find someone like him again? I'll be so unhappy.

We used to talk for hours everyday. Now we talk about once or twice a week, and it's really fake. Anyone think we'll always be internet buddies? I don't think so…that's why I was thinking we should stop talking all together. Anyone agree? But then again, we have such a deep relationship and why throw away something so special? He really is my best friend and he supports and helps me with everything. I only have one best friend as well… Now that we talk, I don't want to hear about him dating another girl…or anything like it. I just wish it was me.

It also hurts me that he says he'll always have a weak spot for me. That just means we can never meet in person again… And same here anyway. I'll always love him, he'll always be perfect to me until the day he proves me wrong.

“If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it's yours, if not it wasn't meant to be.” ~ I really hope that's true… Maybe in the future we'll be together for real again… I kind of hope so… Before that I'll have a lot of lonely days.

I don't know what to do or think. I feel so lost, lonely, depressed…desperate. I need advice on…everything I guess… At the moment I hate life. I just want to sleep all day. Life is unfair.
PS: Sorry for rambling, I just had a lot on my mind.

fmel

I feel your pain. I am also going through sort of the same situation, only mine has some really unfair differences, like we never got the chance to meet. I do feel like sleeping all day and not seeing anyone or anything. Life is unfair and i really hope that quote is true as well. Thanks for posting, i'ts nice to know i'm not alone.
Deepak

Ya it happens in love. Even I had a breakup after a long relationship of 14yrs When i have come to know that she is goin to marry smwhere else. She was my First love and Since then i have never made any relation with any other girl. I cant forgot her. Though She ditch me but what she is my love.
xyz ;)

to abc,
woah!!this is like readin my life story from a girls point of view!!kinda same thing happened to me!!we met online!!her friend was goin out wid my friend!!so we got to know each other n got really close!!but i had to move half way round the globe n the distance was the only reason we broke up!!!but she had asked me one favour long b4 we had broken up!!she had wanted to stay intouch even jus as frens even after the break-up..i was pretty reluctant but i agreed..so at the moment,we're still great internet buddies!!!:D i know she still has feelings for me n so do i for her..i really hope that one day( long for now) everything between us starts again!!but u no!!im not in a good position of offer advice but il jus let u know, that if he really does love u, he will go to great lengths to be with u!!but just do not keep too mch hope..coz if he cant do that, ul end up hurting urself!!stay frens with him..stay cool!!!
frm,
xyz
unknown

if you both want to be together all love, loyalty, honesty, marriage, family, now or in the future. than stay together. nothing is too hard when it is your soul mate, the love of you life. you can do it for your happiness and his. if you don't feel that, its not right, move on completely, don't sulk and don't regret, just remember those great memories and what you go to learn and experience.
long distance love

will i just have to say wow…..i cant belive that you broke up with out saying good bye or anything and just left like that even when you say that you guys were such in love….i have a similer story i know a guy that i really like and adore pretty much you can say we love each other i mean 2 more years and were both done with high school you know he told me that he loves me a million times and that he will do anything 4 me and i truly belive it caz he got in a fight 4 me……we have known each other for 9 years can you belive it 9 years there is a problem tho we live far away from each other…I live in the USA and he lives in the MIDDLE EAST but i am planning on going all the way there thats a 15 or 16 hour flight but im planning on going there to see him persist im planning on going after my high school because i know the second i get there he will be there to meet me and take me home i really miss him and he does 2 the past 9 years have been kinda hard with out him but im glad that im going to c him soon…..my regret to you was that you should of not broke up with each other and just waited

suvivor

I just found out the ex i broke up with 2 months ago is married and has a child back in canada..Just when i was starting to move on…Feel so shock and sick right now!

There was not a single clue or hint that he’s married( no ring on any finger). Never in a million years would i thought that was a married man…I was in love with him and even after broke up, i still had feelings for him( wanted him back), and now i just dont know how to think back on what we had knowing now everything about him was a lie and everything we had was based on that lie.It’ll take so long to heal from this…

Is there any quotes regarding a lying ex-boyfriend, any word of wisdom to help me through? I’m so hurt right now.

unknown

honestly, this has happened to me in some way. i have a child and he still pursues me, he is divorced because he was not happy and they both did wrong things to each other, but the fact is, i love him for almost 3 years and its gone. completely gone after all the wrong things, (right after the other). I met another and it was wonderful, but not perfect, because of my past experiences in life i left my new fiance and ended up back with my ex, stuck in a relationship i don't want, but he wont let me free, he is too emotionally attached and not good for our little girl. I wish i was free, it's easy for others to say make your choice leave him, he cant' control your life. I believe thought that others do influence you and I am stuck, I can't love a man again, I know this. I'm so blocked but I do love my baby and am working towards my career. I hope one day I can find what I need to do that will help me and my daughter. She is all that matters, I have make my choices and they didn't turn out being great, but I have also learned so much from them that I am grateful to them.
I can't say it doesn't hurt sometimes, but when I am not around him I am good. Im content with myself.
I love and miss my past three loves that I have, but to not love what has happened in your life so far, is wrong to me. You need to so you can love yourself in what you have become and are trying to become, be happy with what you long for and are trying to be.

i know i just rambled but I hope you found something helpful.
Angela

Dear Suvivor…
I was also lied to and was with a married man going through a separation. Didn't realize that after 9 years, he was on the mends with her and left and moved out of state with her, which was his plan all along.
Hang in there, you'll find someone better. I understand the pain this is causing you, I really do. If I knew how to get over it, I would tell you. You don't want to be with someone that lies like that. It's not worth it, we are only on this planet once and we have to be happy, and not in pain. If he's cheated on his wife with you, imagine what she must feel, not even knowing, and would you even want him back after what he's done to his wife? I have to keep asking myself that also. Karma comes back around!

Fresh Air Needed

She came into my life and went out of my life, like a fart in the wind
GettingBetter

Most of these are good. But the last one is not really universally true. I loved my ex for being a person with flaws and problems, and still do (it was less than a week ago, though I'm ready to let them live and move on. If you have this problem, yeah, you need to get them off the pedestal ASAP… but if you don't, you might still love them anyway.
Soul Bella

First of all, I can't not belive Im on this site and about to spill out my emotional distress.
Here it goes, I met a married man, and at the time I was in let say relationshit…….we gradually became friends. We started sharing thoughts about relationships and such. He was 15 years older than me…..so I gave him my ears to hope to learn some things from his past. We gradually started talking about his relationship and how unhappy he was…….before we know it, we had gone head over hills. I never thought I would be emotionally attached to a man who is way older than me and married. Knowing the fact that he explained, things weren't khoser at his house, such as he is not intimate with his wife, he couldn't leave because of his kids…….blah blah blah blah…….he fed me this bullshit for about 8month……and boy, I fed into it. I felt bad for what his life have become. I felt the need to nerture him…….I got too deep into the relationship we had. I wish something somehow……advised me……no matter what he told me, to go with my gut feeling of not pursing the toxic relationship with him. I attempted to break it off with him about three times or more, but somehow…….he found his way back to my life until now. His wife found out about the affire, and all of a sudden the guy, who said he will give up anything to be with me…..punked out. He called me and said, he is going to work it out with her because of the sake of his kids. Now, I realized all the bull he was feeding to me. I felt my heart sank in. I couldn't imagin what the psyco wife of his was going thru. Altho, she called me a million times, and send text to my phone. I somehow felt for her. If he lied to me this long, he must have lied to her. And I knew I didn't want this man in mylife, once a cheater always a cheater. Bottom line lesson is that, Love can be blind, but always go with your gut. Do the right thing. Married man, never again.
Broken hearted fool

Hey,

I just wanted to let you know that quote number 8 is from a song called “Smile” by Lonestar. It's a great song. Just thought you should know… since its listed as “unknown”
One love

i can relate to many of these stories. I have been deeply in love and also felt the brain twisting, gut wrenching , pain at the realization a relationship is ending. I once heard love is pain. So without the pain how would we know we really loved? If everything is only ever a bliss.
My love story is one that is full of love,laughter, sacrifice, determination, turning a blind eye to lies, cheating, and hanging on to a thread of hope for change. The more I realized there was deception the more I loved, tried and kept hoping for change.
Looking back I realize that it was me that loved madly and deeply, because he could be everything I needed. He was everything I dreamed of and I wanted my ex bf to be. He was the first man I didn't question being faithful to, the first man that I wanted to have children with, and marry.
It did not bother me that he was unable to support me financially,because I believed that in time with me helping him along he would find the love in his heart to do this. And it did not bother me that for a living he was a part time model. The pictures I seen always included near nudity either on his part or the female model. But that was his work before I met him so I went along with it. However it did bother me that we were in a long distance relationship. And our time apart was based on when I could afford to take the time off and money to travel. So some times it was three weeks apart and sometimes it was 4 months. In our times apart there was always some major thing he forgot to tell me, that hurt like hell. Or some woman on his facebook, saying something that hurt me. I am not a stupid woman, I wrote the players handbook in my day. How is it I turned a blind eye to all the signs? How is it that I continued this relationship, I would always say sorry for being a psycho and really try to win him back.
There are 11 years between him and I. I knew he was younger than me in the beginning, but thought no more than 4 years. I have always had a problem with the numbers, but never noticed an age difference when spending time together.
I have been living with him for two months, we were to be married a month ago. However, he left his facebook logged on and wow! the truth does set you free.(facebook now deactivated…hmmmm) All those signs I seen and denied, all that womens tuition i ignored, all the accommodating to his needs, and dieting, botox, and lip injections did nothing.
If I was to walk away I feel like I would fall over and die. So, I stay as close to him as possible, but it gets exhausting to be a CSI detective, when all I want is love and peace of mind.
HELP!

Anna

I broke up with my ex after 3 years because he started to lack putting any effort into the relationship and didn't treat me the way i deserved to. I loved him very much and thought breaking up with him would scare him into changing to get me back. I spent a whole year of my life still talking and seeing (and even sleeping with him) We were getting along even better then ever, and he showed signs that he had changed and was ready move forward with our relationship. In my head this breakup would of lead to us getting back together, and having a great relationship. I was positive of this, but sadly so wrong.

I spent an addional year loving him, and getting more attached, when I should of been healing and moving on with my life. I was just so scared to face the reality that it was over. I should of stuck with my gut instict rather then rationalizing my actions and telling my self what I was doing was okay.

Please do not do this to yourself and waste anymore of your life. I should of been dealing and healing from this break up a year ago, and not now. I have learned a very hard lesson and am so sad. Please take care and I hope you have the courage and are brave enough to do what you know is best for you. Deal with the loss and pain now, and not later. You will be thankful.

Xokristenn18

not everyone in the world is bad, dont be so hard on yourself. you went with your heart and thats the best thing you could have done..if you didnt do it, you probably would have thought forever “what would have happened if i gave us another chance” sometimes following your heart serves you wrong but sometimes you just have to follow it to know for sure. i feel where your coming from, trust me, ive been there..good luck and remember, sometimes the best cure for a broken heart is time. just dont be so hard on yourself, things happen, people change, people grow apart, doesnt make either one of you a bad person:]
Butterfly79

Hi Anna I did exactly the same thing and it ended up with him moving back in with me even though I thought and said it was not the right time. Im so angry with myself as it didn't even last a year he has just moved out again and now my son is more aware its even more hurtful cause he is actually asking for his dad. This time if he changes his mind he wont be comming back, but man it hurts like hell!!!

Cosmogalnc

Dear butterfly just reading this made me cry ,my relationship is bad and I know it is time to say goodbye but my son adores his dad and that is what hurts most how do i say goodbye?

Denise

This is such a similar story to mine.! Makes me feel slightly better that someone understands the situation. I was with my Boyfriend for three years and we split due to sudden lack of effort on his behalf. i was hoping for a change and as i was still madly in love with him i agrreed to continue meeting, talking and even sleeping with him. This lasted for another two years. I realise now that i made things so much easier for him as he was still able to see me etc. without any formal commitment. Eventualy as we went in a relationship he suddenly found someone else. its been over a year since hes been with this new girl and hes so happy. Ive never hurt so much

Angela

After nearly 9 years I broke up with my ex about a year ago. He was going through a separation at the time with his ex wife and moved with her and didn't tell me. He moved out of state and I found out that he went back to her without telling me, cut off all communication and never told me. Just like that.
Pain is tough, everyday is a new day. The lies are the worst part. Don't know how you can let those go and not being able to close the hurt and tell him how I feel about what he did. Just have to move on I suppose.
suvivor

Thanks, Angela and whoever read my post regarding the lair exboyfriend.
It's nice to know someone's been there and you are not complete alone.

Just want to tell everyone that i feel much better now. Still it's hurts sometimes,because it happend and it's there.It is what it is. You cant change that but you can learn from it. Let it make you stronger and wiser. Wallow in some self pity but dont dwell on it cause it prevent you froming going forward and life is about gong forward.Pain is inevitable, but suffering is opptional. It is a learning experience and all the experience we had leaded us to where we are and who we are now. Dont lose your heart and believe that someday, someone's gonna see it and fall in love with it.

These are the thoughts i developed to stay positive and going forward in life. Hope it can help the ones that need it.

Just move forward, keep living, loving and learning.
Ssudheerkumar89

my love is gone
Vince

I just got out of a 3yr realationship..I loved her and she loved me back..We always argued and we always fought..But we had some very good times..But i guess the memories is what hurts the most..No matter how much i try to forget..It hurts even more..When will this go away??

Dereyes47

Im going through the same thing here man. Just ended a five year relationship with my girlfriend. I never thought it'll hurt this bad
survior

A few month i guess. Just live your life and you will creat new momories with someone new to replace the old ones. Go out and meet people, it helps me.
Christina W.

Same exact situation im in. It all depends on how fast you heal. It will take a while because u really loved her but u just have to realize it just wasn’t meant to be or u guys would be together happy. I mean who know’s, it might just be the wrong time. But u can’t think as if she’ll come back. The easiest way to get over someone is to make yourself better. Live for u. Imagine life without her, and do things that will strengthen ur own life so u can jump back in the market with confidence. Eventually you will find the one who takes your mind off of her. It will be extremely hard but u gotta believe that u can move on. Give yourself time to be sad, but also give yourself time grow and move on. Goodluck buddy.

vivi84

How long will it take for me to find closure

youbishhh

Well Hi Idk You But I Know Wat Your Going Thru & I'd Say A Couple Of Weeks But In thos Weeks You'll Find Someone Worthh It(:
Wgrace1030

Dont know your case. But i havent find closure even after 4 months.
The fact is clear, he didnt care and played me like a fool. You think it's shame on him and i should have moved on long ago but i couldnt. I found out he was acutally married and had a wife back in canada. All i got was an email telling me the hard facts he should have told me from the start. You wonder how i find closure..i dont know. Sometimes you just never find the kind closure you want to. Guess you'll just have to live with it and hope time will heal.

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hello, But I'm still lost in thoughts of whether these sayings can touch someones … Jess wrote on !
wgrace

How's everybody doing with the broken hearts?

It's been 4 months after my breakup with the liar ex. Getting over somebody is realy not easy. Over the past 4 months, i've been going through the kind pain i didnt even know exist. Sometimes i'm mad and angry, other times i'm just sad and hurt. I know it's not worth it, he's not worth it. I know i should have moved on a long time ago. I rebounded and revenged, but too this day i'm still in pain.

Memory is the hardest part. I have been tripping down the memory lane countlessly. I just keep having those fash backs of our past times. Even though it was all illusion but i was in love and happy. I just dont understand how it could all end to this. Rationally i understand it well the simple fact that he just played me and it just wasnt meant to be from the start. But emotionally it was ME who was there, gave her all and had her heart broken so i dont know how i'm suppose to just put this behind me and move on.

I guess the reason i wouldnt let go sooner is because he was my first love and i was really in love, well, at least that's what i thought at the time. We broke up mostly because i was able to sense that he didnt care and wouldnt never commit. And then two month later, i found out he was actualy married and had a child. That just added a new level of pain.I was coned and played. I couldnt yell or throw things at him because he was back to canada. I wrote emails to confront him and he admitted it all and said he never loved me.Yet for me it should take more than just a cold-facts email to disillusion me. I wrote emails to him to vent, rebunded and even revenged. I'm not proud of doing those things but i just didnt know how could i deal with this pain all by myself. I still dont.

Sometimes i feel better and move on a little. Other times i fell back and can dwell all back into the pain again. I try not let my mind go there but sometimes i just cant help it and each time it would drag me down again.

After the revenge, things between us went competely urgly.( after tried, i wouldnt recommend it to anyone, it's not worth it to drag youself down again even to get back at him) He called me a loser and never wanted to speak or see me again(well, like we were actually going to). But when i thought he couldnt possibly hurt me anymore, he did. We both said hurtful and mean words. There was no turning back. After that, i fell a big time into the mess i had been in. That's when i realized that i still cared. That i still dreamed about the day he would realize how wrong he had treated me and that he would crawl back to ask another chance. Stupid me uh?

Now that i just have to deal with the fact that i was treated wrong but he wouldnt never come back. I dont know why i still care.There are always people who could be cruel enough to break our heart like that. It's not fair that we were left a wreck and picking up the pieces. It's not fair that i have to go through the pain when i dont dserve them. All i wanted was to be loved. It still hurt a lot everytime i think about how much i cared and still care and that person just wouldnt care back. Why do i have to bring this pain on myself? Even when i try to move on, i still feel the pain. I now know it's not meant to be but stil i have a hard time dealing with it. Who doesnt want a happy ending with the one they love? As stupid as it sounds, i really loved him.

I wondered when would i find closure and thought that would be the time i could finally let go. But maybe you just never” find” closure or not the kind closure you want. But it is what it is. I guess now i just how to tough up and move on anyway.

How did you guys move on when you thought you really loved someone?

SAN

hi wgrace. i do also have a bad and worst experience with my bestfriend who as well became my lover and even we were married, we still pursued what we wanted. yet somehow i really felt he was just using me and i was just submissive because of the reason I dont want him to let go and i dont want to loose him, not just that he was my bestfriend, i cared a lot for him. it took me 15 years but untill now i hoped one day we will still be friends perhaps. i read a quote and i hope this will also help you to move on… “People who succeed in life are often those who know consciously or unconsciously to make the most of their talents, their advantages and their strenghts, while understanding how to maintain control over their weakness”. i hope we can both learn to be tough and show that we are not loosers but instead its such a lost for him that he had let you go. And even if you have problems, even you have done things you regret, or have made mistakes, your whole future still lies ahead of you. if you can just keep moving forward telling yourself “I'LL START FROM TODAY, I'LL START AFRESH FROM NOW ON, FROM THIS MOMENT”. Then a whole new world of possibilities will open up before you… SAN
lizzy

taking one day at a time. center on yourself by doing things that make you feel good. be around possitive people that upllft you. if you taught yourself disipline with losong weight, quit smoking. so now use thar disipline for losing the love of your life,[you thought].realizing you cannot make him love you so set him free. later after the breakup settles, their will be a time you will run into him and have no emotion what so ever. you may end up friends, what ever happens do not keep hate or resentment in your heart. it is poison to the soul. go out with friends and just do fun things . each day will get a little bit better. just do not go in that bedroom and weep a pity party . get dresses up and go to a party . time does heal all wounds.
Hurtsalot

wgrace, i am in the same situation you are…. i just found out because i confronted him but i knew a couple of things going into this as well.. like most things in life you never expect that it would get to this point.. i never thought that after 2.5 yrs later i would be here.. NOT AT ALL.. and neither did he…. we talk about it all the time how we are together and what needs to be done.. do we leave or stay? Im in the limbo… but he knows and i know that my heart is leaning to leave only because it hurts too much to stay… but when i think of him being out of my life it hurts even more. We talk every single day, see each other, the whole nine yards… he is not a liar or not genuine, we just met at the wrong time and to be honest i didnt want anything more at the time and now my heart and emotions became involved without me knowing it. And he says the same thing… we are stuck but he has another life as well and i am the other side that he wants to be in but cant. It hurts really bad. I am so confused… he says lets see where this goes and we have invested so much, etc but then i think you cant reassure me either… its a risk and i dunno how much i can take of it. Im hurting really bad, that i have lost weight, cant sleep on anxiety meds, everything… he is my best friend and i am his… it will hurt extrememely the day i cut off all contact which i am trying to do but i dont know if i am ready…. how do i get through this? I start medical school in a couple of weeks and he is pushing me to look forward to that, he has helped me in all ways and is there when i need him, but he is not the one married to me. Who knows what the future may hold, i have no idea if our feelings will be so overwhelming that something ends up happening or they dwindle over time… only time can tell and we dont have a crystal ball and i think thats my thing.. i want to know. I try to do everything i can to break free but it hurts… the only think i can say is that i am there with you and i know how it feels. I can only say is to say to yourself THIS TOO SHALL PASS…. And remember that God places people in your life that you NEED not the ones you WANT at the time…. take that and listen to what your feelings are telling you…seek help by any means, email me if u like, blog here, scream in your house whatever will help you.. but understand you are not alone… i wish there was a pill to take it away but this is our life and we need to take it back. Closure is within you…. in your heart.. when YOU are ready.. leave when ur ready… get him out of your heart when you are ready and strong enough… you will get there… this too shall pass hun… for my sake as well =)

n/a

It is crazy how many of us experience this enormous pain. I broke up with my ex 3 months ago completely after we were trying to work things out for 1 year. I should have leave him back then when I found out that he cheated on me, but I beleive in giving people a second chance. He never admitted anything but I found his emails. God knows how much I loved him, and still do. It feels now that I was in some kind of dream. I still cannot accept that he could do it to me, because we were so close, like a family. It still hurts so much, I wake up at nights with terrible anxiety, I am so depressed. I fell like a shit, disrespected and like a doormat. I was closing my eyes on him being out all the time with his friends and coming back home late. He never wanted to take me to vacation with him but would go with his friends. He would always say” YOU are my women, I love you”, but treat me like I am nobody for him. I helped him to recover all his money he invested in real esate when the market crashed and he almost lost everything. I signed up as a guarantor on his mortgage without being on the title or wanting anyhthing back for it. I was so stupid. Now his condo raised in value, I m still a guarantor, and he is not selling it. It is just not fair!I trusted him and gave him everything I could. I immigrated to Canada from Ukraine, I am alone in the country and have nobody to rely on.This longliness and fear is loss of loved one is killing me. I hope one day I will not be sick again.

Hope

I just broke up w/ my boyfriend of 5yrs..the only guy I’ve been with in my life. He was too emotional attached to me to the point where he tried to isolate himself from everyone around him b/c he just wanted to spend time with me. He would get mad easily for the stupidest things…I just couldn’t do it anymore. I didn’t know how bad this would hurt. I honestly thought I would just get over it and move on without the all this pain. But every second I think of him and my heart doesn’t want to listen to my mind right now. I guess this is a just another lesson in life we all have to go through…i keep telling myself that no pain lasts forever.

Sean

Dum head …He was emotional for you..loves you like crazy…what else you want in life ….C'mon grow up ….Stop learning lessons …If you love him then don't think …just goooo backkkk before its too late..5 yearsrr you guys could be family if you would have gotten married. Listen ..I know you will regret later ..its just the begining of pain you will get mad ….go back …run hug him and say “I Love you” and sit with him and explain the things ….nonia

Ellene_1924

how will i know if i truly love him?

lil miss silly

if you become teary thinking of him… and the fact that he doesn't feel the same way as you do. well, in my case, that's it.

Brokenharted

It's been 7 months since my ex and me spilt. Out of a 3 year realtionship high school sweethearts. I loved him with everything I had but he is stubborn he left me. I believe if u want a realtionship to work u fight for it and I did a whole 3 months to truly get back together. Days don't get easier if anything they get harder. It's hard to tell yourself to stop loving something that became natural to you for so long. I'd give anything to go back to how it was. We never cheated or lied. We had fun. I just loved him more then he loved me. So it's hard and hopefully I will look back at this and be with someone else.

Guest

I am literally going through the same exact thing as you. Three years in, and I broke up with him in January of this year. It's been harder some days, easier others, and he's already moved on to someone who he thinks could be “the one.” How is that supposed to make me feel? I just have to think that we grew apart, and that I'm better off without him now. Stay strong. You're better than any bad thing life can throw at you.

Naylea1212

I just moved out of my ex boyfriends apartment, we had been together 5 years, truth is he was too immature and thought it was ok to not come home till 5 in the morning everyday because he was hanging out with his friends. When I asked him why he didnt have the courtesy to call me or answer any of my calls ALL night he would say he forgot his phone. Leaving was the hardest thing I've ever had to do and till this point Im dying to go back but Im doing my best to resist. I looked up quotes to give me motivation and some help but only time can heal me I guess…
Cmrandolph13

Well, I just broke up with a boyfriend after two years, and then AFTER we broke up I found out he had been screwing around on me the entire time! I'm just sick over it. He used me, lied to me, made me feel like a complete idiot and now he's out there feeling cocky and having a good time while I sit here dying inside. I don't want him back. I don't ever want to see him again. What I want, and the part that hurts, is for him to actually feel bad about it. I keep telling myself that if he had any conscience at all he wouldn't have done it to begin with, why should I expect him to have a conscience now? I just want him to hurt like I'm hurting. is that too much to ask? (I know it is, just had to say it.) But that's the part I'm having a hard time letting go of.

wrace

You are right. If he had any conscience, he wouldnt have pulled those shits on you to begin with. Just keep telling yourself that. If he even cared a slight bit about you, he wouldnt have done what he did knowing he could hurt you in the end.Your situation is a lot like mine. I still dont understand to this day how somebody can hurt me like that and walk away like it never happened. Sometimes i still want him to realize how wrong he treated me and i didnt diserve any of these pain. Well, there are people who just dont care and break hearts without any trouble of conscience. What can you do when somebody just doesnt care? when they dont care, you cant hurt them. When you still care, you give them the power to continue hurting you. Why would you care about the ones that dont care about you? I dont know how am i able to just let it go. But you'll get to a point where you realize that you have to let it go and start letting yourself heal.Letting go is the first step towards healing. No one can help unless you choose to make a decision to let go, a decision towards healing. He doesnt worth your attention or time. Focus on YOU and YOUR life.It's up to you to choose to let go.

kish

in 2009 feb my girl friend get married with someone.i tryed a lot to forgot her, but i cant. i dont no what to do..every min i remeber her. she is my life.she is everything for me.it seems my life passing away from me..

Sandy

Practice forgiveness. Once you forgive you can move on. Believe me. It works. It did for me. Best of luck and love to you.
Adevil99

i felt that way once, he didnt marry, just wouldnt be with me anymore. i thought i would die! i loved him, i still do, but if the world were to split now, id stay on the side im on. cuz now i with someone who loves me. after experiencing them both, this is better. 9 years married with 2 kids. i wonder what it would have been like with him sometimes. but wouldnt trade to find out. ull be ok. move on, ull see.
Adevil99

i felt that way once, he didnt marry, just wouldnt be with me anymore. i thought i would die! i loved him, i still do, but if the world were to split now, id stay on the side im on. cuz now i with someone who loves me. after experiencing them both, this is better. 9 years married with 2 kids. i wonder what it would have been like with him sometimes. but wouldnt trade to find out. ull be ok. move on, ull see.
Adevil99

i felt that way once, he didnt marry, just wouldnt be with me anymore. i thought i would die! i loved him, i still do, but if the world were to split now, id stay on the side im on. cuz now i with someone who loves me. after experiencing them both, this is better. 9 years married with 2 kids. i wonder what it would have been like with him sometimes. but wouldnt trade to find out. ull be ok. move on, ull see.
Skagenjj

Just keep breathing…you WILL be fine.

kitaaa

I'm 6 months pregnant with my son. My boyfriend and we just broke up a week ago. It's so hard to hear that he doesn't want me anymore. I don't want to raise my child without him…I'm just trying to find motivation to get me through until the day my baby is here. I'm scared everday for what's going to happen. I hope he mans up for us. I'm the only one working, housekeeping. Just seems like he would want to be around for his son…

Becca

I'm Five months pregnant and broke up with my boyfriend because I don't want to be with him. I work two fulltime jobs and he sits on his butt like he doesn't need to work. He's not ready to be a man but wants to be there for this baby. He's gotta grow up but we wont be together. People do this all the time. They raise their child alone, If he doesn't wanna be a father now.. than he doesn't deserve to be one later. Be strong. Your more than capable of giving your son enough love for 2315 people. Don't let it stress you. If he wants to be there he will come around Everything will be okay. Tough times don't last, Tough people do. Your a mother and you will be a strong positive one!

lil miss silly

Today, I am glad to be back here after quite some time. And to tell you all the good news. Well, for me.

My ex, that I had been together for 3 years just got married. And I'm not hurt at all.

I am just so glad I overcame him. And I'm sure, all of you will do the same. God bless you all!
navyman22

i dont get it i dated this girl for two years and things were really good at first then she started lying to me and doing shady things behind my back and i found out she cheated on me. she kissed this kid once and i broke up with her and then a week later she felt so bad and begged for me back and i took her back thing were great for the next year and a half and i was about to leave for the military and i ended up asking her to marry me she said yes. so we started planning everything. well one weekend i had to take my cousin back to her house which is 7 ours from my house so i decided to leave friday and come back sunday night. well my fiance said ok thats cool im going to have a girls night out saturday. well she ignored me all day saturday didnt text or call didnt even answer her phone. well her and my best friend are also good friends and he called me up saying she was with this guy. well sunday came and she called me at 7am and she talked for about an hour then said she wanted to get in the shower. she never called me back two hours later she texted me we need a break. i came home and she spent the night in a hotel with him and all that shit. i broke off the engagment and she was really depressed and 3 days later she called crying saying she was sorry and she needed me back she swore on her life that they only kissed. she said she just needed time to think so i gave her time. a week passed by and i called her saying well whats going on bc your leaving to go to school in a week(4 hours from my house) and i leave in three weeks. she said ok well me and this guy are only buddies i promise so you have nothing to worry about. she said lets hangout on monday blew me off. she promised me everyday and came up with a reason why she couldnt see me. she leaves tomorrow and i got mad bc she didnt come see me today and now i wont see her for a long time. also she called me today saying i threw the ring away you bought me and the ring i bought you i gave to the guy and btw were dating and fucking beem for about a month before you asked me to marry you…im really depressed now and it hurts really bad..any advice…i dont understand why girls do this shit to me

listentome

wow what a freaking bitch !!! u need to stop being dumb and letting this dumbass hurt u . sorry for my language! There are so many good girls out there trust me. thats enough broken promises she'll never change. u needa kick her out of your life and be proud of it

Nashgirl63

Please…quit being her doormat. She has no respect for you and she never will. You are obviously a caring and decent guy and don't deserve a lifetime of lying and cheating! Please, please, please…love yourself first!
venessa

My boyfriend just broke up with me after he found out thet he and 20 other ppl were awarded 30+ million in a civil law suit. I was the onw who helped him through the entire process from beginning to end. I can't believe him but i am better off. I just want to sleep at night and not think about what could have been…
Infinity

Dear Eddie,
i came to the stage that I have to start talking to myself while I was driving and on the way to office. Telling myself that stop fantasizing me and my ex, stop being snooping on his trails in the office, his car, if he signs on the communicator; stop being childish and having hope again about what-if he still miss me, love me or want me; stop wondering if he has gone out with someone; if he has stopped hating me and start accepting me again… telling myself that appreciate people around me, the earth and nature ..tree, enjoy Now …
I just start realizing the strength is slipping off again, the feeling is going down hill once again.
I dont feel good and if i am heading to a right direction.
Need advise.
Lovesick

A guy I TRULY loved said he loved me then one day he straight up told me that he was in love with his ex and not me. I cried my self to sleep that night then the next day I saw him at school and cried 4-5 times and then he said that he still liked me, though.
Advice.

Jwelhaus

Respect yourself and move on Lovesick. If he can't get over his ex, then why should you let him use you as a rebound. Remember, you have a lot to offer and if he doesn't see that, than he isn't ready to move on. I know this hurts, but you will be better off if you let him go now.
Jeff

There are better guys out there, and plenty of us. It's hard to lose a loved one, but it get's easier. Time heals all wounds. Let this one go.

LostinNJ

This may be long. A little over a year ago June 2009, My ex *Mark broke up with me after 4.5 years leaving me heartbroken. I mended the pieces on my own pretty quickly with a 2-week trip to Europe and knowing he wasn't the one for me anyway. Three months later I met *Tom and although I wasn't ready for love so quickly, it sort of found me. We were hooked on eachother instantly and he was everything my ex wasn't plus more, he was everything I ever wanted in a man. Only problem is, he cannot handle emotions. He stopped being affectionate about 6 months in, shortly after he said “I love you” first and wanted to live with me. Everything seemed fine other than that except for lack of communication on feelings. He'd had a rough year, got laid of with the economy for 5 months and then got a new job which he hates. He always threatened “I don't fight, I walk away and shut down”. The other night I was a little bummed that he was too tired from his 12-hour day to hang out, but didn't yell about it, just whined a little. He hung up on me, turned his phone off, deleted Facebook alltogether and has not returned any of my phone calls or texts for 5 days now. He's shut down and I can't understand why. I want to approach him and ask him what happened but not sure how to do this since he won't answer my phone calls. He's almost 32, I'm almost 30 this is not the way adults act. I know men find it hard talking about emotions, but I don't think I deserve such disrespect. How do I approach him (at his house or after work) or should I just let it go? I need some answers from him in order to get over this (10.5 month relationship) that seemed to be heading for a future. He promised he wasn't going anywhere and that I had nothing to worry about with him, so I don't understand this.

Funnyfarm1993

he is acting like a child. Move on, trust me. you will be better off. I was married to a man like this for 15 years. It doesnt change.

Sad Indiana!

I'm 32 and my boyfriend is 27, he recently relocated to another state to pursue a different career and the original idea was that I was supposed to meet up with him in a couple of months…The couple of months went by and all of a sudden the calls and txt messages seemed to be shorter and less sweeter..no more goodnight baby..only plain goodnight and when I confront him about the move…he stops calling me for 5 days and tells me that he has to figure things out in his life and to this point its best if we stay friends…I get very upset and reply that at this moment I'm not ready to do that and when I am I will contact him…I will be taking a trip out of the country and hope to God that this will help me forgive and forget..I have staid strong and not called or begged..even though I have intense feelings of dropping everything and going to California to see him…but I wouldnt have a place to stay and what if he found another girl? …He states that he has always cared about me and he never meant to hurt me…Guys please tell me what that means…and he only says that he cares about me deeply and not once mentioned he loves me anymore

Pooja

he is just tryin 2 go away frm u but he really don wana hurt u so he used tis way…..
Insanedoggy

Hey long distance is hard. In fact, a couple of weeks without proper contact can dilute the love by a lot. Try to touch base more often>?

Loveandbeauty

I just ended it with my 14 month long boyfriend a couple day ago…as hard as it was, I needed the right guy for me. Don't get me wrong, the guy was as good as he could be, but I could barely go to him with my emotional problems without him calling me dramatic and starting a fight. So I stopped going to him for help and kept everything to myself and it eventually got to me and put me in a dark place. When I let him go, I felt relieved…but sad. I know we are going to be friends, eventually, we both agreed on this. But I find myself telling him “I miss you,” and I get so angry at myself. But I know in my heart, I will find that guy and I will have courage and strength to move on. I've had breakups before, but this is the worst, only because this is the most serious/longest one i've had, but I know I did the right thing, and I am proud of myself and I don't regret anything that I did.

carla

display of inner strength and loving yourself first ….good for you !

Persian_bruha

i met my boyfriend in the internet so happened he was in the same city as i was.. the first 5 months were great then i started to see sign of frustration like he was tired of some things i did one of them was dancing because im a dancer.so in 9months things started to fade but dont get me wrong we saw each other 6 times a week.coz if i didnt poush myself to see him i know we'd drift apart. i just went on to college and my bf started getting jealous with all the guys around me asking my number because im a new face…led to fights and screaming on the phone and crying til one day he broke up with me in the ineternet which hurt me a lot because he didnt have much to say all he said was he wanted a break -up i didnt even get any closure or explanation.3 days later i found out he had hooked up with one of my highschool friends ( its been a year since i broke up with my boyfriend.i still dont have anyone new.i stopped trying because im waiting for the day and wishing the right person would find me.Recently i met this guy in the internet iliked him alot and i thought the other way around was coming along too.But now i dont know anymore

John Wood

you seem like a sweet girl Bruha, becareful online alright guys lie a lot.

If you want some advice, here they are. He was a very unhealthy guy he show all the signs, he not confident of himself the reason for the jealousy and anger, high chance of him becoming verbally abusive, and physically too. He doesn't seem like all that, he couldn't control his emotion, there for losing you. I can't said exactly but it seem like he couldn't take the self inflicting pain he was creating for himself, so he back out.

I was exactly like him 2 years ago, but the girl i liked was fake, i didn't realize that. I end up imprisoning my self. It wasn't until i realize that I free my self of the pain and suffering. We should learn to forgive, holding on to pain anger will only inflict more pain to us.
Try to forgive him and continue your journey, no need to hold on to it anymore, for it will bring you grief and pain.

-Sincerely John

george

I loved my girlfriend, we would always party and i hated it. So we stopped because we both agreed it'd be healthier for our relationship. On our two year anniversary I went to go see a boxing match at a friends house. I started drinking and i got wasted and she came and picked me up. I thought we were going home but we were going to where one of her fake friends was partying at. This fake friend does ANYTHING to convince my gf that being single is better (even though she has a baby and still goes out and parties instead of being with her kid). So then we go to that party after me begging for us not to go. We get there we get down and I cant even walk, i had to be carried to where the party was at. I then got “hit on” by a girl while my gf was away and the girl took my hand and took me into a room and we had sex for a little bit cause i got out of her asap and told her it was wrong. The girl was pissed that i did that so the next day she claimed i had “raped” her. my gf was embarrassed and we went through the craziest drama but she stayed with me. It was 10 months of court process and before court the girl confessed that it wasn't rape. She was just jealous that i chose my gf over her. That i wasn't willing to break up with my gf for her. (what a bitch, yea i know). So then after my court is cleared i thought everything would be better, but soon my gf broke up with me and wants time to “heal”. She says she loves me but she doesn't think we can be together unless we move on separately then later on maybe get back together. I can't give her up. We were together for 3 years. She wants to be my close friend and always have me there. Do you guys think she might still love me and get back with me soon? or is she just suffering from attachment and as soon as she finds someone she can “crush” on shell move on?

Ronyaa

coming from someone who’s going thru something very similar to yours,minus the rape and court part,i think you should give her,her space and if she loves you then she’ll come back and if she doesn’t come back then you need to move on because you guys weren’t meant to be,it’s hard i know but sometimes the easiest thing isn’t always the right thing.:) good luck
tader

i think you should give her her time and space. women dont always no what they give up until its gone. so just try to stop talking to her completly. even tho she wamts to be friends just tell her you cant because it hurts to bad. and in time im sure if its ment to be she will be back.

Nathan

Hi Eddie,

I thought you might be interested to know that quote #8 might actually be part of the chorus from Lone Star's “I'm Gonna Smile.” The words are quite similar:

“I'm gonna smile
Cause I want to make you happy
Laugh
So you cant see me cry
I'm gonna let you go in style
And even if it kills me
I'm gonna smile”

That's one of the songs I had playing on loop during the first stage following my breakup; I still listen to it occassionally these days. A similar one I quite enjoy is Tim McGraw's “Just To See You Smile.”

Ta.

http://lovesagame.com Eddie Corbano

Thanks, Nathan.

Actually this was pointed out a few times by now in the comments, but I never got around to change it in the article. Until now!

I will check that song out!

paintedlady

Well i have read most of these stories about break ups on here and all of them are extremely personal to the poster and sad. Everyone has such a sad story to tell as i do also – so here goes…

Me and my guy had been together 3 years, we had laughed, loved, cried, supported each other through family trials and tribulations, in fact we really were soulmates. Originally he could not understand the word 'love' when i told him i loved him but after i explained what it was about he told me a few months later he had been thinking and came to the conclusion that yes, he did love me. We went everywhere together as much as we could and had a great compatible physical relationship.

Then after 2 years he seemed a bit distance from me, little things i could not put my finger on bothered me and with hindsight i suppose i should have queried his behaviour but carried on as before.

Just 3 months ago, when we had been together 3 years he changed in a lot of ways towards me which confused me somewhat and then i found out he had been cheating on me with someone from his workplace. He did not tell me himself i did a little detective work on my own and sure enough i saw him with this OP who is nothing like myself which confuses me more! I confronted her and she did not even know i existed and was shocked, not as shocked as i was because i would never imagined he had anything to cheat on me for. I immediately called off the relationship and advised her to do the same as 'once a cheat etc' and have not seen him since. But i truly miss him, still in love with him and it hurts. Some days are better than others and i feel he must surely miss me (does anyone want to comment on that)? I dont think there is any going back though, i just wish things had never happened at all.

How can people do that to another person, why cannot they be honest and talk things over if things are going wrong in a relationship and put things right, instead of cheating?

I would love to turn back time but know i cannot, but right now i can not move forward. How do i do this and does anyone think he will feel sorry for what he did eventually, or even come back to me? Please would appreciate any feedback whatsoever, especially from the guys point of view.

Aniket

So sorry to know that dear.. but I will suggest you.. All man are dogs.. so plz, choose sum1 wise and honest for u…
Tintinchikara

Ur suffering will go off in some time and u'll realise tht for such an honest person like u, a dishonest coward isnt at all d right choice. He dosent respect himself, else he wud hv respected the integrity of relation he had with you. My best wishes to u.
Dave

He probably loved you, but he is a man! All men cheat if they get the offer, its their animal instict.I am a man who has not got one friend who has not cheated on there wife or partner. When will women realise it does not mean they dont love them..Never trust your man due to the fact we are all the same……fact

Vipul The Heart Break Kid

who are u to say something for entire male comunty….
prbably u hv such a grp but not all men are dogs….
i am comitd for 4 years now and havnt cheatd on my gf and i never will….
i still love her with all my heart and will always….
it only gets stronger……
love you my baby…..
Awaroa

I know this is an old post, but I would like to reply to this. Not all men cheat. I was with my man for over 10 years and not once did he cheat on me and I know this for a fact. I have brothers that have been married for well over 15 years, and not once have they cheated on their wives. I am so glad that there are still descent men out there. So ladies take comfort in the fact there are still descent men out there.

brokenheartedgirl

hey, i dont know if this will work as i only came on this website to read quotes lol. because like you I am going through a relationship problem. I am only 18 but i have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now(yep a longgg time) and we too have shared alot of memories, special holidays, family problems etc. He has been a big part of my life, if not the biggest for a very long time. He has done alot to hurt me in the past. some things others may see as big, and some that may seem small. But throughout it all i have put aside the bad and held on to the good, after all. he hasn't always been a jerk. which makes it harder because one minute he can be the most romantic, genuine, kind hearted person then the next, selfish, disrespectful, untrustworthy person. which i guess makes it harder to move on because I still know that he can be that nice guy he once, and still sometimes is. We broke up for 4 months last year. because he suddenly got over me( please tell me how you can just get over someone you have shared so much with so easily!) and during that time he treated me like absolute dirt. Even though he hurt me and I still wanted to be friends. Anyways after all the tears and pain he put me through. he ended up catching up with me. crying once and i automatically took him back. a year and a bit has past and i am now in the same situation. He is over me once again, and apparently he just doesn't have time for me. Poker(yes poker! wtf) and the gym are far more important. He just feels that im getting in the way. wow doesn't that hurt, to know that the guy you have love and would do anything for just all of a sudden after 5 years together finds poker and gym more convenient and enjoyable then spending time with you. and the fact that I tell him he can do all that and still be with me and see me when ever he has time. he still has to”think about it” he says he loves me, shouldn't that be enough? It truly is worst feeling to love someone and have them not love you back. someone that you could and expected to spend the rest of your life with. anyways. He started acting weird again after he got a new job and started talking to his manager( how unethical right?) so i know something is definitely up. it pains me if anything is going on because how could u throw away something so special for someone you just met. and may i add talks, acts and looks like complete trash. Whilst i sit at home now waiting for him to decide if he wants to be together or not he is probably out with her. or taking her lunch to work like he did the other day:| but there “just friends”. what makes it even worse is shes in my uni degree!:| anyways. tips on detective work? lol and as for helping you. I think that you answered it yourself. “once a cheat always a cheat”. you dont want to be with someone thats going to continously hurt you. sometimes its better to hurt because its over and have time to heal. rather then hurt while your in a relationship and keep hurting. and its the same thing for me. Ive relised that theres no reason being with someone that doesnt love me. when i can find someone that does want to see me and does love me. He clearly doesnt love you if he goes and cheats on you. so you deserve to find someone that would drop everything to make you happy. not drop you to make himself happy. ok so its 3:30 am so if my spelling or grammer is bad please excuse it. and i just told you my life story so enjoy haha

StudentofLife

One quote goes “Never make someone a priority that makes you and option”..I am not sure who said that, but they are wise. If you have been in a relationship since you were 13yrs old and are now 18yrs old, both of you have grown and probably changed a lot. 18 is a perfect age to think about yourself. What do you want to accomplish in life, who do you want to be? Go to school or get a job that can help you attain those things. Most importantly come up with a plan to be self-sufficient. This isn't 1950 anymore, so more than likely you will have to get a good job that hopefully leads to a happy career choice. People change so much from the time they are 13 to 23 and from 23 to 33 and so on. I don't remember much about who I was at 18 because I've changed (hopefully for the better) so much since then. Its hard enough to find out who you are, before adding another person into the mix for 5 yrs and expecting to stay on the same wavelength when both of you are still figuring out who you are. If you want to date, do so, but don't take anything too seriously at this age. This is the time for figuring out where your path is going to take you and what is best for YOU. Don't commit yourself to a relationship during a time when you, no doubt, will change a lot. The sooner you find out what you really want out of life, the sooner you will be on the healthy path to find someone perfect for you. Someone that will grow with you (and with your own independent part of your life/career)and will be at the right place and time in life for a relationship with you. The happier you are with yourself due to achieving your life goals, the more likely you will attract the perfect partner in life. It all fits in to place when its supposed to, just get make a plan of how you are going to achieve everything else in life, and love will fit in when its time.

Rbdgalvan

good quotes love them
Free23we

I Love These Quotes,Its More To Them Than Meets The Eye.:)
thalia

we have been together almost a year now.even its look just a short period but we have been together facing ups and down in life.he had chated on me twice.and he beg me to return to him.and guess what?i did..i know its would hurt me so if i just leeting him go as i still love him..and its been three month since the returning and he started to do something fishy.we used to hang up on phone late at night almost every night and we enjoyed it..most of the time i did the calling as i used to have a free talktime..lately he seem not to care much bout me and he keep avoiding talking to me as he making some excuses.when i confront him and tell him what is his problem he just saying nothing.i usually ask if he did truly love me or just plays on me he say that he really do.i miss the old him..and its hurt the most as today we officially break up as i think it is the best for us and we also need to focus on our study.but still it keep hurting me and i dont know why
stuffystuff.

Me and my ex dated 2 years before we broke up.

He broke up with me.

I wasn't even considering breaking up with him.

It was traumatic for me because I didn't see it coming. At ALL. It happened so fast and so suddenly I couldn't wrap my head around it. I couldn't stop crying. It was just a huge mess.

And suddenly one day it just hit me that crying and being upset about it wasn't going to fix it. Things were rough between us during the last year anyways, so I guess I kinda just felt.. relieved.

Eventually I found someone else who I've been dating for 4 months now, and it's been amazing.

The thing is, 4 or 5 days after I got together with him, my ex got together with another girl.. which made me wonder whether he was just trying to “even out the score” or something, or if it was just a coincidence.

It was when I got together with this new guy that my ex started saying all these nasty things about me.

Either way, I've been going about my life as usual but people keep telling me all of these crazy things that he and his new girlfriend say about me..

They both hate me.

Not that I'm really bothered by it, because I don't talk to either of them, but I can't help but be a little curious about the sudden anger towards me.

I mean it doesn't even make any sense because since we broke up I haven't even had a conversation with him.

I guess people are just crazy.
LCC2010

I just boker up with my boyfriend today. We were together for 10 months. It is my decision. Since we are not in same area right now, I had to just pick up the phone and call and told him I wanted to end this. The relationship is not healthy, and I have not been happy for a while. He lied to me, and he did a lot things do not make me believe he is the right guy for me. He is the wrong guy. I think for some reason I feel so relieved after I told him I wanted to end this. It still hurts, but I think it will be over soon. Try to think about the bad part of the relationship more, and you will feel much better and you will think the break up is the best for you.
HopelessRomantic

Brilliant quotes.

I just “broke it off” with a guy that I hadn't even met in person. We'd met once before (online) about a year ago. We found each other again 7 months ago and have been chatting (online and phone) ever since. But things have cooled down – he told me he'd come to see me but that didn't happen. I got tired of waiting. We didn't officially have a relationship but we did have a great time getting to know each other. I wrote him an email telling him goodbye on Sunday morning.

It stings a little to imagine what we could've had. Sure we lived thousands of miles apart – but who's to say that I wouldn't have moved for him? Oh well…I don't regret what we had. It was a nice fantasy…but I guess that's all it was.

“It must have been love…but it's over now…” – Roxette

rain

WOW…you are describing one of my breakups as well! i totally know how you feel Roxette! no worries things will get better. You deserve it
<3

Rain.

Survivor

O.M.G!!!!!!! I am in the same situation. I am in a relationship with this dude who lives miles apart… He says he loves me and will come visit me, but today I read on his fb wall this chik asked him how to say ''U are cute'' in his language coz she forgot what he had told her. The thing is, he was kinda with me when he told her :O :O
Ass****!!!!! And I love him sooo much. I cant stop thinking about him
I am sooo thankful u guys posted ur experiences. I was really feeling alone in the world. But now I know I am not the only1 and WE CAN GET THROUGH THIS
Thanx again

Zeefjgirl

aww i have been through the same thing we lived miles away we made beautiful dreams together….but as i was stupid to think that it was real until it all came shattering down he was going out with some1 else behind my back but m trying to forget him well he simply aint the guy i would want to make my dreams come true with

jakgirl

I just got into it with my boyfriend last night again (im assuming we broke up). The thing about us, I dont trust him and he dont trust me nither. now the reason i dont trust him is becuz I have caught him in a few lies and the reason i think he dont trust me is becuz of his past. but I like him alot and really want to make it work. but im tired of trying to prove myself to him. part of me want to say f**K the whole thing and move on but the other part want to give it a try. Im stuck like chuck right now.

ana

I know what your going through, my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me yesterday cause he wanted to be with someone else, sad thing is we had a baby together and i thought he was the one. Our relationship never had trust cause he was always talking to other girls so when he broke it off i didn't beg him to stay, i let him go and i've never felt so much better, yeah i'm hurting cause the same day he broke up with me he took that girl out on a date, he doesn't deserve my love. I've tried to make a broken relationship work and i'm finally happy to move on with my life.
StudentofLife

Trust is a basic foundation of a relationship, as is respect, consideration, and communication. The estimated age that people live to is like 86 or something close to that, not everyone is guaranteed to find “the one” in the first 30 yrs of their life and some never do (though this could be by their own design). You are supposed to date and have a few relationships to help you, and narrow down the type of person that is a perfect fit for you. Don't be fooled by “perfect fit”, you will still have disagreements and different points of view. If you both are happy in your relationship and with the other person 95% of the time, you probably have a good thing going. Relationships still need work, though if you find yourself not trusting each other now, it will most likely not get better. There are many other people in the world and quite a few that you can be happy dating and will make you a better person, a few that you will have both that and have that special chemistry and love. Never settle. Good luck!

Alison Ali

I met a guy through a good friend. We got close really quickly and he became a best friend to me. He was the only guy i could trust and be myself around. I let go of myself and put my defences down. A year went by, we were still as strong as ever, i loved him with all my heart and i truly believed he loved me too. I never felt anything like this before in my entireee life. It was like we were made for each other. Another 6 months went by, i received a call. A woman. She told me she was married to him. I literally felt like falling to the ground. I didnt even cry because i just didnt know what to think. I phoned him straight away and he admitted it to me. Couldnt believe it. As much as i hated him for doing that to me, and breaking my heart, i cant hate him.I still have that love for him. And i pray everyday that God helps me get over him
Lexxie

My boyfriend and I met last yr my senior yr in highschool. We started talking and became really great friends. At first, I was very scared to open up because Ive never had a bf before, but after a while it went away. He broke up with me last Thursday after 13 months. It hurts so bad because he promised me the world and everything. I feel stupid for falling for it all since hes dumped me in the past too. We've been having a hard time because he was three years younger than I was. His mom loved me at first….then thought I was too demanding when I kept asking him when hes going to do his license or get a job. Its so sad….because the relationship started off amazing. He ALWAYS was texting me or calling me and after 8 months of going out he told me he loved me…i never said anything back….from that point on the relationship went downhill. He started pressuring me to have sex and I told him i didnt want to, i wanted to wait…and he respected that for a while…then the influence from his friends got to him. In june he dumped me because he was getting sick of my complaining and things couldnt workout. I begged him pathetically and finally told him i loved him and not to leave and he said no so we promised to be friends. Friends didnt workout too well because he never wanted to communicate with me. A couple weeks after that he had to have his second knee surgery. I went to his house and of course like always, helped him, brought him soup, etc. He apologized and begged for me to come back…stupidly, i did. Since then, everything has been broken promises after promises. His mother forced him to leave me….though i always picked him up, drove him everything, bought him new Jordans for xmas as well as the new call of duty modern warfare 2 because his bday was a week before. But anyways, he broke up with me Tuesday of last week and I begged him not to, then on wednesday i met up with him and he apologized and took me back….then we almost did something i wouldve regretted but we didnt, then the next day he sends me a text saying he feels single….he breaks up with me for good. We broke up with no grudges but i want to hate him so badly, he used me…he says yes were still friends but doesnt ever text me or call me and is afraid if we hangout hell be tempted to do stuff then get back together….so im thinking of just ignoring him and forgetting him forever. I still love him but i cannot deal with it anymore…Ive cried myself to sleep ever since this relationship started and ive had thoughts of just hurting myself….all because of a boy. I think i may be too attached because he is my first boyfriend but to all girls out there, no guy is worth your tears…dont ever give up yourself to anyone so easily, im so thankful i wasnt so blind.
Dawn1johnson

Hey, I just read all these stories and girls, I feel your pain. Some people can be just downright cruel. And it's not fair. But, I thought I'd share my story..maybe this will brighten things up a bit..

So, when I was fourteen, I had never had a boyfriend. I was gorgeous, but I was picky. And pretty mature for my age. The only guys that liked me where college guys, for some reason. But for six years, I hadn't cared about college guys. I was crazy about a guy my age that lived in a different town. We had been best friends when we were little when I would go visit my grandparents who lived in the same town. I had pretty much lost contact with him, though, I hadn't seen him in 3 yrs and I was starting to forget about him…then, still 14, this super hunky 20 yr old breaks onto the scene and steals my heart. He made me so happy, he told me he loved me from day one and he meant it. We did everything together, we had the perfect relationship. We never fought. We were crazy in love. And we were beautiful too. Well, after two years of perfection, we were out on a date, my parents and sibling had gone to a movie and had a car accident. They were killed instantly. I was really strong the first two days, he wanted to marry me, said he would quit college to support me. Even though, I was miserable, I was also overjoyed. I loved him, and that was just it. Well, a week after the accident, I found him CHEATING. Yes, that's when I wasn't sure if I could make it. I'd lost my whole family. Him included. We had never had any problems like cheating. Or problems at all, for that matter! So, I had to move away from my town, my friends, to live with my grandparents. And guess who shows up at my house the very next day to offer me a ride to the new school? Now, I couldn't deny that I was extremely happy to see him, but I had thought after all I'd just been threw that love was completely over for me. That changed pretty quick. I was more in love with him than I'd been with the other guy. He treated me right. I was so happy when he was around it was unreal, and even when he wasn't. Just knowing that he loved me. We stayed together until the end of high school, no cheating, no breaking up, no problems at all. We were what a relationship was supposed to be. He took me out to the lake the night of graduation and asked me to marry him in the sweetest way possible. that was nine months ago! We're getting married in three months and going off to college together so some stories do have happy endings. If you make up you're mind to be “the one” then you'll attract “the one”. I know it looks bad now, but things will all work out!
Renae85

I am so glad I am not the only one. It is true that you feel like your the only one in the world getting your heart broken. After 7 years in a relationship with the man I wanted to marry and have kids with and everything I have done for him and taken care of him, it's over just this past week due to cheating. I wake up in the middle of the night hoping it was just a dream and I'll be happy again. I feel like I will NEVER be happy again. No one will make me feel the way he did. I can't be as comfortable or open with anyone else. I know it's for the best and I know all the cliche sayings like he doesnt deserve you, set it free if it's meant to be and so on and so on but tell my heart that. A breakup is like death. You're grieving a loss and the person seems dead to you. God I hope this feeling goes away soon.
OhioBoy23

this chick that i was going out with for 3 years had a one night stand a month ago just because she wanted to experiment to see how things felt with somebody else… she asked for forgiveness and wanted to try to restart the relationship.. i tried to forgive her but its too hard.. suddenly she came up to me and told me that she wants to be single and that our relationship was “too” serious for her… shes young and needs to learn and experiment… so i understand and we said good bye for good, i miss her.. the truth of what i want is just to NOT care anymore, i don't want to be tortured by thoughts or if i ever see her with somebody else i don't want to mind… im sad the relationship ended this way and like i said i miss her, i can’t have her, i cant/don't want to be with her.. but i need to get over it RIGHT NOWWWWWW in order to move on with my life… you guys are probably either laughing at this point or thinking im a freak crazy man, but that's just how things are right now..

maria

yeah i know what you mean. you need to get over her now. the only way you can start is by throwing away everything that she ever gave to you. & little things that remind you of her. i'm sure she will realize what she left. & when she does & comes back as a different person would you forgive her? ONLY if she really has proven to you she has changed. im just asking & making you think of a possibility.

forgotten

I came home thursday and my boyfriend of 2+ years had packed all his stuff and moved it to his moms. He said he wanted his space, but still wanted to be together. Friday I got my keys back, because that just seemed weird to let him keep it. Saturday he told me he wanted a break, and wasn't sure if he loved me like that anymore. I described what kind of love I hoped someone would feel for me and he said he wasn't capable of that now. Today he changed his profile status to single and posted that he will moving into his own apartement in two weeks. I don't know what to think or feel. I just keep sitting here thinking of all the plans we made for halloween, for everything. I feel like at times i know I will be completely fine and others I don't. I guess he just needed some space to grow we were friends for 3 years before we dated and I was the girl next door. He is a younger than me and will be turning 21 next April. Maybe he was just to young I'm not sure. I just graduated with a bachelors of science degree last may got a great job. He is still in school, and last December lost his best friend. Maybe we are just at different places in our lives. Or maybe I just wasn't the one. It's just really hard to accept that it is over when I really didn't even know there was anything wrong not that it was perfect, but nothing I thought was worth ending it over. I know its only been four days. I just feel so hurt, alone, forgotten, unwanted, etc.

Lexxie

my boyfriend is younger too…(Lexxie) i wrote that other story before this…but yeah….he broke up with me then begged for me back, promising hed tell his mom about us and that he doesnt care what she thinks and so on….yeah that was about two weeks ago and when i asked him what happened, he said he doesnt want to mess things up. He is a liar…were still together now but um starting to lose feelings for him for the way hes been treating me. I try to show him i care all the time. I always ask him to hangout, or ask if he wants to go out anywhere, I text him all the time…his answers delayed now…I always call wanting to talk…but you know what, i gave up. Ive been ignoring him the exact way hes been ignoring me. If he loves me as much as he says he does then he will change…cause im so sick of crying and asking myself whats wrong when im not the one at fault…hes been nothing but an asshole to me and when it comes to other people they are his priority….my advice, try to forget…its really hard trust me i know…we just celebrated out 14 month and i explained to him how i felt for the millionth time and he promised he will change…im over it…he never acts on it so im just going to ignore him and see where that leads….seems like its a very immature thing to do but i cant cry anymore…so try and move on…thats what im trying to work on :/

Jjj

Oh my goodness. The same thing happened to me, the only difference is he's older than me.

I was also sick of crying etc., so I dumped him (finally). I didn't cry about it at all, I thought to myself “What's the point?! I've cried too much already because of an asshole”. We agreed to be friends though, which was fine to me.

I started dating someone else later, and life was great. Then 5 months later (after we broke up) we met up to hang out. Things happened that day, I can't even describe it. He was depressed and I hated seeing him that way (Later he told me it was because we broke up)… Well, a while later he proved to me that he had changed, 99%!!! That was a shock I tell you. I thought no one would change for anyone at all, but I was wrong it seems. Also, I was very hesitant and careful, and didn't trust him one bit.

We're together now, and he's another person, I don't recognize him. I like who he is now. He respects me and shows me he cares, and he's not all talk anymore. I don't trust him etc. yet, but I will after a year or two. But if he goes back to being an asshole, well, goodbye to him.

The point of this reply is that some people do change, but sometimes you have to show them how crappy the relationship is, by for example breaking up, or in your case, ignoring. If he loves, needs and cares about you enough, he will change. Maybe this gives you a little bit of hope.

So, Lexxie, if this guy is treating you badly after you ignore him, then yes, dump him. I believe in the quote “If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours, if not it wasn’t meant to be.” Sadly most people won't come back, but that just proves they're not worth our time.

Lexxie

Its terrible , he never asks me to go out cause hes afraid of asking his mom for permission, and since she doesn't really like me, she automatically comes up with reasons to say no. Im a working girl, I have a job and a car…he doesnt have any, and she has the nerve to think im with him for wrong reasons. What does he have that i need? Nothing….infact i dont need him now but I choose to stay because I love him…though I hate how he is…he cant keep a promise for his life…he really cant. I get the feeling he says things just so i take him back. Hes dumped me about 5 times and I stupidly have taken him back each time….idk if its because Im afraid to move on since hes my first boyfriend but he just doesnt show me the same interest since june (2010). He dumped me back in june saying he didnt love me and lost interest….then when i went to see him after his surgery he said he did it cause his mom made him…..its been a roller coaster since. Last night i asked him if he thought i was a weak person…..he said yes. As much as he denies saying it he said yes. I try not to let the thinngs he says to me get me but theres only so much i can take. He hasnt changed a bit. If anything, the first 8 months of our relationship were heavenly but of course i messed it up…he told me he loved me after 8 months and i said i wasnt sure….then when he dumped me in june i realized i did….so alot of the time i feel he just stays with me cause im his last choice or a fallback girl or something….he doesnt show me interest at all….i wish someone can reach out to him and tell him how lucky he is that he has a girl friend who is out of his league, in college (yes while hes in his sr yrs in hs) who drives him around and takes him places and always asks to go out….everytime i tell him he never listens….hes still very immature….so i can see why….but idk im just stupid for thinking something like this could work….idk what to do
jade

Broke up a month ago with an abusive guy who tells me he loves me and wants to marry me but sleeps around. Got tired of his crap and drama and his lies. In my case, he is way older and thinks I'm naive and stupid. Calls me names like B**ch, W**re, crazy, etc, etc… He still hangs out with this older lady that I work with and when I say old, she's like old enough to be my mother. Anyway, he was cheating on me with this old lady but denies it cuz they just sleep around. Now he threatened me cuz I think he wants me to come running back to him….whatever! when I move on, I'm not looking back anymore…

If a guy always makes you cry, makes you feel insecure and less worthy then he doesn't love you… it may take time for you to wake up but you will… Pray and don't isolate yourself. Talk and hang out with your family and friends…

Julbia1201

I happened to stumble apon this as I was searching for a quote.

Your story hit home to me. My boyfriend & I lived together for over 1.5 yr. & Just like that he came home one Friday night to say he didnt think he could live with me anymore. Over the course of less then a week he was back at his moms. He is 23 yrs old and JUST like you we were friends for over 3 yrs before we started dating. He does not got to school & I am in the process of getting my BA in Communications with a minor in Paralegal Studies. @ first I kept beating myself over the fact that I too did not think anything was really wrong or worth breaking up over? But then I came to the conclusion that we were in two different places in our life. He still has a lot of growing to do and slef reflection before he can commit to someone again. It took me less time then I expected but I am happy to say that I realized he couldnt possibly be the right one for ME (not necessaruly that I wasnt the right one for HIM) because the right one for ME would never walk out on his partner. We were not growing together. I deserve someone that wants to be by my side day and night. & I am even happier to say that God ripped him out of my life so that he can place a better one in his place. You see, it shoudnt be so difficult. The union betweent two people should be natural, logical & most importantly strong.

If there hasnt yet, there will be a man that comes into your life that is that much more then your previous. So much more he doesnt compare. Now, you know not to settle & because you will be wiser in your selection as I was, he will be incredible, & you will be his treasure. =)

Reuben71

hey i was with my girlfriend for just over a year. we seemed to be really happy (Noticed i said seemed) i have recently moved away for work and everything was ok we would chat everyday and she said she was looking forward to visiting me. she said i was her soul mate and that she wanted to marry me and have kids then a week later she says that we need to talk and it was over saying she didnt feel the same way that she did, i cant understand how this can change over night either she was lying about her feelings for a long time or something else has gone on. so it is hard for me to move on as i dont really have any closure. advice would be gratefully recieved.

KeN

I have a similar experience, except I broke up with him. Some days I have no clue why I did it, but others I am very grateful that I did. One day we were holding hands and laughing together, and the next it's nothing. I am very grateful I did though, because he said okay and left. No arguement, no begging no anything. And then the same day, he likes someone new. I too have no closure, but I'm very confident I made the right decision.
It's very possible that the long distance was too much for her, or maybe she really saw where you both were going. I guess my point is that maybe it was right to break up. Don't give up hope, if it was meant to be you'll see each other again. You might not be happy, but maybe she is. Don't look at it as a bad thing, but maybe a mistake you can learn from. Take everything head on, and try to remember good memories instead of bad ones. Smile at everything you see, and try and be positive. Positive attitude is far better than any negative attitude. You might never forget about her, but that doesn't mean you should dwell in the past. The past is behind you, the future is too far out of reach, but the present is what matters the most. It will take a lot of effort to look past the pain, but eventually everything will be okay. I hope this helps you, just remember to smile.
Kennedy
Angiemckeown

Girls change their minds in two seconds, although boys can never figure this one out.. But If I was you, I'd move on.. I just broke up with my boyfriend and I feel empty now, as if I have lost everything but nothings going to change when you just sit around with a frown on ur face!

nic

Well, not all girls like that. My bf leave me without a single word couples of months ago.when i asked him, he told me tht he still loved me but we cant be together because of his family. i feel so sad. i feel the same way like you do. I was hoping one day he will come back to me and fixed everything. but he never did. he said he loves me but he leave me. My love for him never change until now but knowing he's happy out there with other girl without knowing my pain thinking of him day n night, i feel like a fool. i tried to let him go unwillingly and when the day tht i really think i can move on without him, he came to me n saying tht he think of me while we r seperated .. and since the day he said tht to me till now, he never come or look for me anymore. i just don't understand why he want to do this to me ..

Nick S

Feeling sorry for you, but just keep one thing in mind, Never expect anything which was never yours. Stop thinking about him & think about your future, they are good memories of life, but that taught a lesson to you too….I agree when a girl luv's any guy there luv from that guy is more precious than diamond. Hats off to your luv & seriously saying, come back to life, this is only option you have, accept the fact & move on, Its time you think about your family & future. Take Care, Cheers

Xoxohellokitty18

I know what you mean. I Had the same EXACT thing happen to me! And I am gonig to admit it was the wost thing i ever ahd to go thought but just know that you are better then that and even if it feels like you cannever let go and that she is “the one” for you, shes not and you deserve someone who will love forever and never stop. and i know that you thinking but im never going to stop loveing her… then dont you dont have to and you dont have to move on all at once you can take as long as youu need and who knows,, you might even get back with her. alls i can stay is stay strong and love like you've never been heart and never close your heart!

Zara

Although I partly agree with what you have written. I so disagree with the latter part – because recently I dated someone whom was “in love” with his past… so how can someone be open to the possibilities of a happier future with someone new in their life? He is stuck in the past…

I do not believe in continuing loving someone that does not love you any more! Even when you show them that your heart is true! I think you are just putting yourself through more anguish and suffering of your heart…

I have learnt that our “heart” is so precious. Please find a way to give yourself a time limit to get over someone once to thought was the “one”.

Because hoping that they will be back is one in a million and anyway how much do you trust that person once they have left you for someone else… will you not be in fear that it will maybe one day happen again… can you imagine the time you have wasted. Don’t get me wrong breaking up with someone you thought was so right is not easy; I think if you ask anyone about their stories of breaking up with someone definitely send a little shiver down anyone’s back… as we all have been there.

Be kind to yourself! Never ever think it will never be the same again… only when you let go will you be able to receive the most wonderful experience of true love… this special someone will not appear if you are in love with the past. So believe that your new love of your life will this time not be RIGHT but REAL!! “There is no moving on without forgiveness and more importantly: there is no new beginning while carrying “old emotional baggage”

To all the millions of people who are going through a break up tonight… know that your heart is so PRECIOUS. So be kind to you. God will not give us anything that we are unable to handle…

From a girl who is learning to love herself again… and to be beautiful again inside and out… xox

EJ

I can empathise with your situation. My husband left me over 4 weeks ago and we had been together for 20 years. I suspect that he had been planning it for a while therefore had been unhappy for a while. I was devestated and thought that my life had come to an end. I was very angry that he could not give me any other reason than he was unhappy. I also got angry because he has refussed point blank to talk about it.

4 weeks down the line you may be surprised to hear that the reasons do not matter that much now. I thought I needed to know them so I could get closure and that it would help me to move on. I have recently accepted that it simply wasn't working and we were “both” unhappy but no one had been strong enough to make the first move. I have accepted that he wanted to leave for what ever reason/s he had.

Rejection is a hard thing to take when you have been left by some one. You take it personally and think that you must have been the reason it all went wrong, especially when you have no answers from the person who left. The gut wrenching sick feeling in your stomach will ease. The confussion and desperation will ease. Trust me – I never though it would but it actually does. I understand that people's situations are different and people themselves deal with things differently. You have to focus on you now so that you can (and you will) get through this. You can only change you. You can not change other people. Only they can change themselves.

Take care. I hope you feel stronger soon.

Unknown

You and I have similar situations. My husband for 12 years told me that he’s been unhappy that he has no more love for me. It hurts me when he said that he doe’nt love me anymore. I tried to convince him to stay with me and even asked him to go together for counseling but he said it too late for us to do it. To make this letter short I kicked him out and just set him free again. The bad part is I have to be nice with him for the sake of our kids. I hope someday all the pain he had left me will ease and can move on and be happy again…Im still suffering and hurt real bad, but I guess I needed to move on and just think that a guy like him is not worthed a dime to cried on and start thinking about my future on how to start over again and devote myself to my kids…

photi

i am pretty much sure, she was lying for a long time…, it is hard to believe but it is the real truth…, i don’t know exactly how the relationship flowing…, but maybe she is only telling you those sweet lines for her to get your trust, but behind, she is dealing with someone else, but bec she doesn’t have the assurance of the same feelings of the third party of course she doesn’t want to live with nothing, and now, she got what she wants… that’s why, in just a moment she will give up the relation with you.. hope you got my point…,

Taniia<3Broken

I was with my Boyfriend for 4 years, and I broke up with him last night, i'm really hurting and things feel like they won't get better. When we first got together everything was PERFECT like a fairytale, but when we started having sex things started to go wrong he became really arguemental and quite possessive towards me. Then one day after about a year of being together we was in his car in a lay by and he wanted to have sex but I wasn't up for it, then his phone lit up and it was from a girl called Kelly saying “do you want to come down i have a cup of waiting in my bedroom for you”. I was truly devastated, and then i looked through all of his phone and all of his messages were from her, my heart sank into my stomach, and I was actually physically sick out of the car door. I told him to take me home and that I didn't want to see him anymore. Three days later I got a text off of him saying “I hope your okay darling, but me and Kelly are going to make a go of it” I was sickened and really hurt, I didn't bother replying to him. The same night I was sat with my best friend talking and i recieved yet another text off of him, he said “Are you okay, what are you up too sweetheart, i'm just laid in bed with Kelly”. I went to the toilet and burst into tears it was like he wanted me to die of heart brake. Anyway a few months later i started to date someone new but i still wasn't over my ex, so it was hard for me to relate to him. And as i was texting my new guy, i recieved a text off my ex saying “I made a mistake I want you back”. I couldn't believe it, but I felt happy, then he asked me to meet him and go to the cinema with him, and stay at a hotel for the weekend, and I was stupid and said yes to him. Anyway it kicked off from there and we were going back out again. We were happy for a while, until one time, his parents went on holiday to Bulgaria, and he asked me to come stay and look after the house with him, so I did and one day while he was in the kitchen cooking food, i got his phone and looked through it, and yet again he was texting another girl called Gemma which was his best friends girlfriends friend, if you get me. And there was one text that shook me it read “Yes coourse I am it's just i've been a bit bust darling and yes i will sleep on the floor and you can take my bed” thats what he had said to her, so i read the reply back from her and read “No i need to be warm so you can sleep in the bed, can i kiss you?” and he replied back to her “I want to maker love to you” I just couldn't handle this, why did he do it again to me. Anyway i left that night and she came round and it they had it off with each other and i had to beg the truth out of him he eventually addmitted it, and i just went crazy. But once again I took him back and he swopre that he would never hurt me again and proposed to me, and i was convinced this time with him buying a ring for me. And now I broke up with him last night because he wouldn't add me on his facebook, but he had gemma on their and his ex girlfriends and loads of other women but not me, his own girlfriend and truth be told i absalutely hate him for what he has put me through and even since i took him back he still was flirting with other girls, i just don't think he's ready to settle down because he's such a compulsive, cheating liar. I don't want to take him back, but because i love him so much and he knows it, he knows every trick and every string to pull with me that will make me fall again, I need someone to tell me that I don't need him anymore, i've tried ignoring him, eating chocolate and even dating a really cute guy but not even that is working . . . I just wish he could feel this hurt and pain that I am feeling . . .

Pragna Bhatt1

wow….i understand u…..becuz i love some1 who waz playing wid me, i broke up wid him about 2 weeks ago, and now im wid a really sweet guy who loves me alot, but i cant forget him…i try to tell myself that i dont need him, but nothing works, i cant believe tht i still fall for him and he doesnt even care about me, i wish he knew how i felt and would care, now i live in a shattered, broken world, i cant stop loving him
Charneice_nunya

OMG….I HAVE NEVER BEEN IN UR SITUATION, BUT I FEEL UR PAIN…IM ALMOST IN TEARS OVER HERE….PRAY FOR HELP….BUT I CAN TELL U NOW THAT UR HEADED FOR DISASTER….LET HIS NASTY, LYING, CHEATING ASS GO!!!
guest

I have totally been there.. only we had a child together.. i hate having to see him everytime i take my son to his house, makes it so much harder..
Lexxie

thankfully my boyfriend has never cheated on me…after he broke up with me he blew up my phone with texts after i started ignoring him and begged for me back, he was crying and everything and straight up i told him i dont want to deal with any of this if your not going to change…since then, we havent argued or faught once, he really changed and im soo happy , except his mom still hates me -.-……but basically, dont lose your self respect, hes the one who will regret it, hes the one whos going to miss out, so forget about him, its hard but be honest, do you really want to stay with someone who has sex with other girls and lies about it? Leave, trust me, theres plenty of great guys out there, and theres going to be one that worships the ground you walk on so dont settle for someone like this
Paul

I am going through the same thing with my ex and the best thing to do is ignore him or her, I came back to Chicago finding my ex fiance cheating on me and it took me 1 day to realize that all the rumors and things I heard back in Arizona were true! She was flirting with her ex or so called guy friend or friends” from college and I caught her in action! So the best think I can say to you is to just IGNORE it and just move on and he will eventually move on and the drama will all fade away. I know it might not mean much from me, but you have to stay strong and alway have faith in what you and others do! If its meant to happen it will, if not then it's written! So just enjoy your life and try hanging out with family because they will always be there through these rough times! Hope your pain level and broken heart will heal soon, and I feel your pain TRUST ME! Chocolate and shopping does help lol, but don't get all crazy for it like I have done in the past lol…. Good luck and keep your head up high girl
happysingle

ive never been into that situation but i feel the pain that your feeling, but whats the best thing to do is to ignore him and move on before its too late, he's totally immature and sex addict, he absolutely dont deserve you and he will never stop hurting. if i we're you, i will never let that happen to me for the second time, but you, you already gave him second chance but still nothing happens, he's still the same, he's still a pervert. so go get find another cute guys and forget about him, coz you have nothing to get in return of your love and care for him but pain. think about it, all you'll get is pain and tons of tears if your with him, forget about love as of now coz it will lead you into messirable life, just go, enjoy being single, date with lots of cute guys, go out with your friends, and enjoy your freedom!! i just broke up with my boyfriend too yesterday, ive wasted more than 3 years of my life with him!! and now, im soo happy of being single. )

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