IDK, I just thought of it…

Vanessa, I think I’m in exactly your situation. For me it’s been just four weeks since the break-up. And although I’m doing much, much better than I was even two weeks, it’s the little things that keep bringing me back, tugging at the strings and reminding me. Causing the pain.

Like, I know Eddie emphasises about how it’s all about self-esteem… and that’s the root of most break-up problems. But I don’t know if it’s like that for me. I don’t feel lacking in self-esteem, other than the wonder at how she could break up with me. But basically, I just want her in my life.

I find I’m watching and enjoying something, and then – like you, Vanessa – something will remind me and I’ll immediately start thinking I’d enjoy it so much more if I was with her.

It just keeps coming back.

okay so my boyfriend and i broke up about a month and a halk ago, after dating for about 10 months. it started out great and we loved each other to death, but we always had these little pick fights that never really meant anything because we loved each other so muchh, and no matter what happened we got through everything. but in the beginning of summer in june 09 before school ended he told me that he wanted about a month break (and then wed get back together) because we needed time to “miss each other” and i guess just time apart,so that when we got back together our love would be stronger (though i didnt think that was possible because we loved each other to the fullest) he knew i was really upset and i told him i didnt think we would get back together, and that he was just saying that. but he promised me we would no matter what because he loves me so much, and though i doubted him i still let him have his space and we started our break. we still talked on our break and acted like a couple the only difference was we werent “in a realtionship” and we could “hook up with anyone we wanted too” (his idea, until the break was over) and everyday i asked him when hed ask me out and he always said soon, or when you do this, or when we stop fighting ect. and everytime we talked we always said i love you and told each other how much we loved each other, and hed tell me how wed get back SOON, but never exactly when. and after a month of this and having this stupid break, ( in july) all the sudden something happened, i dont even know what. he told me he didnt want to get back together, that it was over, everything changed, and he didnt feel the same way about me anymore. i cried and cried and cried for the whole month of august and am still crying till this day, i begged for him to come back that iv changed that we can be perfect again, and i reminded him numerous times how he PROMISED me we’d get back together and how much he USED to love me and how much i STILL love him. and everytime i bring it up he gets annoyed and tells me he doesnt want a girlfriend right now, he just wants to hook up and be single and have fun, and i tell him i love him to death and that i need him and he answers with the same thing, he deostn want a gf right now, he doesnt know when he’ll want one again (may be years) he just wants to be single and happy. but he also said that IF the time ever comes where he wants a gf, it MAY be me, or it may not be me, but thats only IF he ever wants a girlfriend before we finish high school (im a junior). and he said we can still be friends, but it hurts so much when i talk to him as a friend because i realize how much i love him, and i realize i cant have him, and that makes me love him so much more, and then im tempted to bring up the “why cant we just get back together” question and he just answers with, not this again. please. and gets annoyed and i have to change the subject. but i love him MORE THEN ANYTHING and i want him back and i dont want to cry everyday anymore i dont know if i should move on and just cry my heart out for months until i get over him, or to wait UNTIL that moment he wants a girlfriend again (which may take forever). i dont know what to do i want to believe he’ll come back soon and he’ll love me again like he did but everyday is the same. nothing happens. oh and he plays football at our high school which always makes him cocky because he’s like amazing at it, so i dont know if this whole “i just want to be single and hook up with no strings attach” thing is due to his cockyness, if so i really hope its a phase and he gets over it after football season and starts loving me again. but i dont know what to do, it kills me when i see him flirting with other girls i miss him soo much i cant stop thinking about him i cant stop thinking about what hes doing with or saying to girls or what hes thinking about, or if he misses me i dont knwo what to do HELP

I’ve sent him one single text message since he went away( 3 weeks ago). I haven’t been annoying or nagging him. I figured that he just thinks of me as old baggage and bought something new. That is what hurts the most

advice?
(ps: I have no idea what he really thinks right now, I’m just assuming since i can’t talk to him)

It’s been 8 days now…i have spoken to her 3 times under doctors supervision and each time her voice seemed different…more so the last time as if she didnt love me, or she was being told bad things bout me…coz last night wen i spoke to her she sed sarcastically or i dont knw hw…she said tht “nikhil u r enjoyin ur life without me, carry on while i rot in here” and i was shocked…how cud she say tht i was enjoyin my life…i understand theres a communication gap…

But then my dad said tht our love isnt true and tht if it was true then saachi wud hv sed nikhil u please stay cool and wait for me to come…instead of taunting me and sayin tht m enjoyin my life

Dad might be right also but i shud give the benefit of doubt to saachi since she must be going thru hell in there…
Please ppl pray my saachi comes back and everything becomes normal…