hello again everyone. could you please Read through my last entry and respond. i could use some advice. thanx

hi there. I have been dating a guy for about 4 months now. it feels longer then 4 months because of the amount of time we spend together, we practically have been living together. I call it “playing house”. We have a great time together and really truly enjoy each other's company. but we knew that there was always a possibility of him moving because of the nature of his job/career. And well our worst nightmare has come true and he is moving to the opposite side of the country in just 2 weeks. Funny because we just made this “exclusive” a few weeks ago. I am having difficulties committing to a long distance relationship without knowing if this is love or lust. Do we put ourselves out there at the risk of getting hurt and ending this relationship on a bad note once he's out there?

So I have been dating my boyfriend for about 9 months now and he lives 9 hours away from me! He is wonderful and we both love each other and plan to get married when he gets out of school which will be in about 8 months. It is very difficult because i only get to see him sometimes every 3 months. Our relationship is awesome especially when we are with each other except for the communication part when he is gone. He is very busy and we dont talk very much during the day and sometimes when he calls at night he is either doing something or tired and wanting to go to bed. There are a lot of times i call or text and it takes forever for a response, and i know that does not mean he does not care because i know he does…But communication is very important to me when i do not get to see him every day and i dont know how to make him understand that. Its like he is ok with just texting me of a morning and speaking for a few min before he goes to bed. I can hardly deal with that and neeeedddd some advice. I feel like i fuss at him all the time because of this and i dont want to push him away because he means the world to me! I just need some help on communication or how to make him understand that i need to talk to him more than just a few min every day?? Thanks

Me and my girlfriend are both 17, we've been together for about 2 years, and it was the most amazing time of my life. But ym family wanted to move away, and I had no say in the matter. I know live about 180 miles away from her. Which is nothing compared to most people on here, but because of my age and my controlling family i'll barely be able to see her. We've made plans to get back together officially, (as people think we have broken up), after we have both finished university. We want to buy a house together, get married etc. But not being able to see each is other is eating away at us, and knowing that it's gonna be 5 years before we can be together properly is worse still. We keep in contact via texting and instant messaging everyday. We text non-stop all day everyday. We trust each other completely not to get together with someone else or anything along those lines. But i'm still doubting that what we want will actually happen. We've talked about this, and she's adamant that it will happen because we both want it to. But you never know what lives throws your way I was wondering if anyone had any advice to keep the relationship strong, and to make sure we stick it out through university. Bearing in mind we both have money issues, and we both have controlling families.

THANK YOU Eddie! You give me so much Hope!

I and my boyfriend are both twenty, we are together more than 2 years.

Now I am so confuses and not sure want to continue our long distance

relationship. We hardly see each other, only during summer holiday

when he is back to home town. The problem is we still don’t have any

sex experience till now, due to some of the religion issue.

Kindly please advise and thanks you in advance

ohkay soo…. i am 18 yrs old nd my boyfriend is 28….. i currently livein kansas nd he lives in flordia….. we have been together for about 6 months and i care for him nd vise versa… our relationship is great….. we both are attracted to each other, he makes me smile, nd laugh…. but the onnly problem is we dont communicate as much as i would like for us to….. im going through some finacial issues so right now im without a phone but when im around a computer and he’s not working (which is rarely ever) we talk via yahoo, and skype…. so we talk about 3 times a week on good weeks…. other times we might get to talk once a week….. i care for this man greatly and i would hate to loose him but i dont know what i can do in order to talk to him more

Yeah me and my boyfriend have been together for over 3 years now, and since I graduated and went off to college it’s been so difficult.
We didn’t have webcams last semester but now I got him one so hopefully this works better.

Hi, my name is shen. Just want to share this story to all. I hope you’ll be inspired after reading.

I met this guy, 5 years ago. He was my student’s older brother. His mother and sisters liked me very much. I was in a long distance realtionship at that time. It was because of his mother and sister why we met.

When we finally met, we had that mutual interest towards each other. I was phisically attracted to him, and so was he. We became very close, and fell in love. We were intimately inlove. I was teaching in an elementary school by then, while he was jobless. He did not finish college. Our relationship began to become strong and serious. We started to build our future. He was embarrased that, he is not sure what he can give because he hadn’t finished college yet. He decided to open his thought to study college again. He was 22 and I was 23. His parents agreed and supported his want to study.

His grandmom, will be wanted to support him financially for his studies, provided that he’ll stay in with her in the country where he’s going to study. When i learned that he’ll be studying miles away from Manila, i was so sad amd depressed. I tried my best to tell him to open to his grandmom that universities in Manila are far better than in provinces. My boyfriend, was such a good boy. He could not disobey his parents especially his grandmom.

Two months before we celebrate our 1st year anninversarry, he left to the country to study a 5-year course. We promised each other to stay inlove, to be faithful, be honest, always communicate and work hard to make our long distance relationship work.

Everyday, we talked. We shared evry details of our day. We spent hours talking in the phone every night before bed time. It was almost perfect longdistance relationship. We missed each other evryday. We even learned to do SOP ( ^^ embarassing to tell this). We see each other during Christmas and summer breaks. We made it work the first year, the 2nd year the 3rd year. On our fourth year, i felt a little tired of waiting. I felt like, my waiting won’t end. I became very impatient, very insecure, very jealous. I became more demanding, possesive and I even became a manipulator. I was very controlling. There were so many complaints from both of us. He was complaining that my attitude is changing. I understanding and patience became very short. I could easily notice simple mistakes, simple mistakes makes me annoyed, annoyance makes me paranoid most of the time. We fought often in a month, become more often in a week. The relation became so unhealthy. There so many arguments. We argued because of the time he was spending with in the phone. I felt jealous when spend more time at playing basketball and when he spends more time doing his school homework and projects. In our 5th year, everything became worse. Everthyng about us, was routinary. I became predictable, he became predictable, the thrill was completely gone, i didn’t feel his sinserity anymore because, he was just doing things that he has been doing in the past years. When he said “ilove you” or “i miss you”, i could not feel it’s true.

In the middle of our 5th year, things became worst. I was like the owrst girlfriend, and i felt like he was the worst boyfriend. We were in that long distance relationship for such a long time already, that i was feeling nothing is going on. We have promised each other not to give up, and we’ll stay ok in that situation until he finshes his college. I would say, that i did not respect him. I did not value his being thoghful and failthful al this years. I always count the time he spends in school and in the basketball court. My man became so annoyed of my being possesive. I did not give freedom to his things all alone. I was taking note of the time he left and the time he promised to return back home. When he’s late for a single minute, i would acuse of anythings just to open an argument and make him feel that he is taking me for granted, that he not keeping his promises.

He was on his last year in college. He talked to me seriously that it’s going to be very crucial.He is graduating and needs to comply so many requirements. I told myself to understand and be patient this time. Unfortunately, it’s was hard for me to control my emotion. I did not change that way i treated and thought of him.

My man was the eldest in the family. His younger sister, got pregnant. When it happened he was burdened. His parents and grandmom always reminded him to not do the same. He was pressured to do better as son, as student. He forgot that he has girlfriend whom who needs his attention in the distance. I was taken for granted. There nights i could not sleep, waiting for his goodnight. He suddenly changed. The routine was gone. I confronted him in the phone, one night, i was crying, i was aking him to just focus on what he wants at the moment and just assure me that he will make it up w/ me when his college. I asked for a space. I asked him the space, that i know he needed. I was shocked to hear his words that evening. He told me, “ok, let’s just end this.” My world seemmed to have ended. So many questions enterned my mind. Why after 5 years, he’d say that. He was sorry to me that he can’t give my demands, he is not sure if he can give me the future he wanted for us. He was sorry that he can no longer fulfill the plans we wanted for each other.I accepted his reasons. I wanted him to fulfill his promises for his family, but my heart was crashed.

I felt so crazy to think that it’s all over. I could not believe it. I decided to go to him and see him personally and talk about why it had to end like that. Three weeks after we broke up on the phone, i decided to see him. I wanted to have a descent closure w/ him. I met him, tried to ask him to give me chance to support his dreams. I begged him, to keep me. He rejected me. He kept on telling me to move on and not expect that he will come back. It was o painful to accept his decision but i respected him. I was in the airport, going back to Manila. He was also there, i suddenly grabbed his cellphone. Browsed the messages, ” Gosh!!!!!

‘ I love you too my love” that was the message. I was extremely mad, extremely jealous, extremely in pain that i could feel the numbness in my body. I told him tos stay away from me and went straight ahaed to the departure area. I sat down, and checked more on his cellphone. I saw his kissing pictures with his new girlfriend. I felt so bitter. The pain was killing me.

He was trying to explain to me. I did not want to listen. For me, no need to explain. The answer to my question was already clear. I stopped communicating w/ him. I even removed his family in the least of my freinds in facebook acct. I was so angry. I even texted his parents to pay the money their owed from me. ( shameful)

We ddi not talk for 5 months. It’s been 5 months already, i have moved on, i have forgiven him. I accepted that we were not meant to be. It was Christmasday. Dec 25, 2010. He called me and said. I was glad he called. I was happy he called. he wanted to see me again, and kept on calling me then and texting me. And finally, i decided to meet him. Dec 27, we met, we had dinner, when i saw him, i was happy. Maybe because i have forgiven him already. The conversation was smooth. I gave him chance to explain himslef, i listened attentively. Even before we met, i have realized that i was also reponsible for the the break up. But, he admitted that the way i treated him was not an excuse to cheat. He and the other girl broke up 3 months after we broke up.

I love him, even he did that. Even though he caused me so much pain, i still could not see yslef ksiing, hugging walking hand in hand w/ others. I focused on myself when we were not together, i learned a lot. I told myself that in the nex6t relatioship, i will be better. I was just amazed that it was still with that i will apply what i have learned from the traumatic break up. I was surprised. He tols me, that when i stopped communiating w/ him, and while he was in a realtionship w/ the other girl, he realized my worth. I did not expect him to come back. I even did not expect that i would give him one more chance.

Now, were back together. We are starting a new relationship again.

Most of you think that i’m a fool, but i’m happy he came back. This is going to be out 2nd last chance.

Happy new year!!!!!

i’m 21 and lives in Malaysia and i met my girlfriend last year when she was in my college as an exchange student from Korea. i helped out in the cafeteria which was part of my course. I’ve been noticing her since she had her breakfast with her classmates in the cafeteria almost everyday. one fine day i finally asked for her name. she was sweet enough to had a small chat with me while i’m working at the cashier. she has a very beautiful smile and a pair of pretty brown eyes.

from that day onwards, we start having long conversations with each other in college. i even went to her hostel to visit her. we became closer as day passes by. surprisingly she told me she wasn’t attached to anyone at that moment. so i put my hopes a little higher for her…but later i found out that she was leaving back to Korea in less than 2 weeks. i was extremely upset about it. cause i didn’t had a chance of telling her that i like her.

2 days before she left, we spent the whole day in her hostel. we were on the same bed but we did not have any intimacy moments. all she did was held my hand as she fall asleep. as i was about to leave so she could pack her bags and return to Korea. she cried and asked me not to leave. i wanted to kiss her so badly but i was thinking it may not work out for us. cause we are too far apart. after awhile, i left.

since the day she left, we’ve been having webcam conversation ever since. every single day. sometimes she even call me when she misses me. few months later, we both finally confessed about our feelings to each other. we got together in April. we were having tough time having a long distant relationship..i even broke up with her once cause i was tired of it and felt insecure. in the end i realize i love her and i miss her like crazy. and she told me that shes deeply in love with me too. so i gave it another try, hoping it works out fine this time. in December she finally made a trip to Malaysia for me. we spend alot of quality time together, we even went on a trip with my family and of course just us to Singapore. my family likes her alot. now she has returned to Korea and i’m planning to visit her coming winter.

we’re now madly in love with each other. can’t live a day without talking to each other through webcam. we had alot of plans planned ahead of us. we’re definitely looking forward to it. And i hope this relationship will work out for us and one day we will stay together.

to those who are having a long distant relationships,
have faith in your partner.
one day you will earn what you deserve after some time.

Im in a LDR now and its going to be year of being together, when we got together we both lived in the same city and 5 minutes away from each other so we would spend all our free time together, then after he left he would miss me like crazy since he moved to a new city that he didnt know anyone so he would always be driving down to see me almost every weekend now he has made his life over there and thats what i think bothers me the most, i loved knowing i that i was his #1 priority and that he would do anythign to see me but now i feel like we can go weeks without seeing each other and he could care less. I dont know if i can deal with this for another two years, and feeling like im not his priority anymore and his friends are… i know he just has his life over there and i should be understanding but deep inside it kills me and just makes me doubt his feelings for me. Because even though i have my life over here i will still want to see him all the time and hes ok with not seeing me, im a big believer that a guy will do anythign when hes in love but hes not doing so. hes ok with me driving over there to see him and we will spend all the weekend together but he dosent care about drivign to see me… what should i do?

Thanks for sharing

 Hey Derrick, my name is Robert and I’m in a similar situation. My lady is in Ohio and I’m in Minnesota. This is only the second time I’ve had a relationship and this is definitely the “better” of the two. I’m only 19 so I know how it feels to be young and in love. I’ve got some advice though man, DO tell your parents. Please. If you want this to work out between you two then you need to be open with people besides each other. I know this is scary, I just told my parents about the girl I care for last week and I was nervous but it turned into something very positive. I cant say that I know your parents but if you’re committed to her like you say, the truth will come out somehow. Also, talk to her about this. Maybe she has protective parents but if she cares about you enough, eventually she will find the confidence to tell her parents about this. It takes time and understanding and things may not go well with the parents right away. You’ll have to prove yourselves somehow I’m sure but please be honest with each other and your respective parents. Thats the biggest piece of advice outside what I saw on this page. Good luck, man, I’ll say a prayer for you. Everyone deserves to be happy and sometimes that means going the distance. 

This love thing is a piece of s***. I’ve never fallen for anyone, until I met this guy online. I (20yo male) swore to be straight as hell, until this guy won me over. Now, I am 2000 miles away from him, with an existential crisis because of my newly discovered bisexuality AND  because the love of my life it’s way far away. I’m thinking to give love a chance, drop school for about six months and work. that way i’ll be able to pay for my own ticket without my parents permission, and give him a visit. Am I being too stupid?

Lived in Woodland, CA for most of my teenage life. Was kinda friends with this guy called Jason and his girlfriend Breeann, I met them early 2008. In late 2008 I went to Australia for 2 years to live with my mom(I had lived there in 2005-6 as well) and I for the most part lost contact with them. Me and her messaged a couple times through myspace, but thats it.

At the very beginning of this year, I had moved back to California, this time to my childhood home of San Diego, about 400 miles away from Woodland. I randomly found Bree on Facebook and added her. We pretty much just started talking, and talking, and talking more, within a week we were having  8 hours, 4 hours and well, just really long conversations over facebook and msn and the phone. We were kinda unsure of the long distance thing, so we decided to be in an ‘open relationship’, where we could see other people if we wanted. After a couple months of this, I bought a bus ticket up to Woodland and stayed with her for almost a week(was the longest I could stay up cos our spring breaks were different), and yeah. We were kinda unsure about things in April, but things got much better and in mid may I went up to see her again, this time for 2 weeks.
Wow, those 2 weeks, staying with her, essentially living with her, were just the awesomest 2 weeks of my life!!
Mid june I went back to Australia, for a 6 month stay so I can hang out with friends and work to save up money to go move up to Woodland.

And yeah, early July, that’s where we are now, we love each other, and its so awesome, even when I annoy her by calling at the worst possible times!! ( 7 hour time difference makes it hard haha)
But now, im fervently looking for work and in 5 1/2 months, it will no longer be long-distance and I will be in Woodland going to school, working, and having the best girlfriend a guy could ever ask for! <3

I'm really looking forward to the future <3

p.s. I told myself I wouldn't write a huge essay like comment, and look what I do hahaha