Comments on: 10 Rules To Make Long Distance Relationships Work http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/ Learn how to survive after breaking up and read some great relationship advice for having new and healthy relationships. Fri, 12 Mar 2010 22:07:19 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: tu http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/comment-page-6/#comment-6733 tu Tue, 09 Mar 2010 19:33:57 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/#comment-6733 hi~ thanks for the tips of long distance relationship. i think long distance relationship is work somehow!!! my sister had been in an relationship with her boyfriend in three years since she was in high school. then his boyfriend went to England to continue his degree. At that time period, my sister and him just keep sending e-mail to each other and not talk very often. Three years later, my sister's boyfriend came back. They started to dating again for two years. They got married in last July 2009. They had been dating for eight years. I am in an relationship. It is a long distance relationship too. We had been dating for a month before we separated. As what you say, I will went down to his place for each month. It is six hours drive to him. But after summer, he is moving to Hawaii to study there and i will still in US. We will not meet each other in three years. We both from Hong Kong, so after we graduate, we will both go back to Hong Kong. It is hard for me to keep close with him, because he do not like to talk on phone. he likes to chat with me on msn. We had lots of fun while we are chatting. Sometimes it just hard for me to stop thinking about our relationship. Because I moved up to North and all my friends and him still in the same states. It is hard to stand without your friends and your boyfriends. I hope that we can be secess on our relationship.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6733','tu'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6733','tu','hi~\r\nthanks for the tips of long distance relationship.\r\ni think long distance relationship is work somehow!!!\r\nmy sister had been in an relationship with her boyfriend in three years since she was in high school.\r\nthen his boyfriend went to England to continue his degree. At that time period, my sister and him just keep sending e-mail to each other and not talk very often. Three years later, my sister\'s boyfriend came back. They started to dating again for two years. They got married in last July 2009. They had been dating for eight years. \r\n\r\nI am in an relationship. It is a long distance relationship too.\r\nWe had been dating for a month before we separated. As what you say, I will went down to his place for each month. It is six hours drive to him. But after summer, he is moving to Hawaii to study there and i will still in US. We will not meet each other in three years. We both from Hong Kong, so after we graduate, we will both go back to Hong Kong. It is hard for me to keep close with him, because he do not like to talk on phone. he likes to chat with me on msn. We had lots of fun while we are chatting. Sometimes it just hard for me to stop thinking about our relationship. Because I moved up to North and all my friends and him still in the same states. It is hard to stand without your friends and your boyfriends. \r\nI hope that we can be secess on our relationship.'); return false;">quote</a></div> hi~
thanks for the tips of long distance relationship.
i think long distance relationship is work somehow!!!
my sister had been in an relationship with her boyfriend in three years since she was in high school.
then his boyfriend went to England to continue his degree. At that time period, my sister and him just keep sending e-mail to each other and not talk very often. Three years later, my sister’s boyfriend came back. They started to dating again for two years. They got married in last July 2009. They had been dating for eight years.

I am in an relationship. It is a long distance relationship too.
We had been dating for a month before we separated. As what you say, I will went down to his place for each month. It is six hours drive to him. But after summer, he is moving to Hawaii to study there and i will still in US. We will not meet each other in three years. We both from Hong Kong, so after we graduate, we will both go back to Hong Kong. It is hard for me to keep close with him, because he do not like to talk on phone. he likes to chat with me on msn. We had lots of fun while we are chatting. Sometimes it just hard for me to stop thinking about our relationship. Because I moved up to North and all my friends and him still in the same states. It is hard to stand without your friends and your boyfriends.
I hope that we can be secess on our relationship.

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]]> By: Lemar Lee http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/comment-page-6/#comment-6668 Lemar Lee Tue, 02 Mar 2010 18:00:36 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/#comment-6668 Hello my name is Lemar. My mom has gotten another job offer in San Antonio, Texas. I don't want to leave my girl becasue iknow deep inside she will be hurt.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6668','Lemar Lee'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6668','Lemar Lee','Hello my name is Lemar. My mom has gotten another job offer in San Antonio, Texas. I don\'t want to leave my girl becasue iknow deep inside she will be hurt.'); return false;">quote</a></div> Hello my name is Lemar. My mom has gotten another job offer in San Antonio, Texas. I don’t want to leave my girl becasue iknow deep inside she will be hurt.
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]]> By: the unlucky boy http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/comment-page-6/#comment-6661 the unlucky boy Tue, 02 Mar 2010 11:54:35 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/#comment-6661 are you saying that it's more realistic to break up then going through LDR?<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6661','the unlucky boy'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6661','the unlucky boy','are you saying that it\'s more realistic to break up then going through LDR?'); return false;">quote</a></div> are you saying that it’s more realistic to break up then going through LDR?
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]]> By: Kim http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/comment-page-6/#comment-6619 Kim Sat, 27 Feb 2010 18:20:37 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/#comment-6619 I have been in a LDR with a man for going on two years. It was from the first scenario- met online and realized we were 2000 miles apart. I agree with all of your tips, except for the "meet once a month". Sounds wonderful, and in an ideal situation it would be, but not many people can afford a date that costs several hundred dollars every month! (Especially in this economy, and it often includes time off from work, as well.) That was a luxury we indulged in just a few times before we decided the money was better off saved for a permanent relocation. We are in the beginning of that process now. :)<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6619','Kim'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6619','Kim','I have been in a LDR with a man for going on two years. It was from the first scenario- met online and realized we were 2000 miles apart. \r\n\r\nI agree with all of your tips, except for the \"meet once a month\". Sounds wonderful, and in an ideal situation it would be, but not many people can afford a date that costs several hundred dollars every month! (Especially in this economy, and it often includes time off from work, as well.)\r\n\r\nThat was a luxury we indulged in just a few times before we decided the money was better off saved for a permanent relocation. We are in the beginning of that process now. :)'); return false;">quote</a></div> I have been in a LDR with a man for going on two years. It was from the first scenario- met online and realized we were 2000 miles apart.

I agree with all of your tips, except for the “meet once a month”. Sounds wonderful, and in an ideal situation it would be, but not many people can afford a date that costs several hundred dollars every month! (Especially in this economy, and it often includes time off from work, as well.)

That was a luxury we indulged in just a few times before we decided the money was better off saved for a permanent relocation. We are in the beginning of that process now. :)

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]]> By: Kris http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/comment-page-6/#comment-6604 Kris Thu, 25 Feb 2010 10:31:32 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/#comment-6604 mate by the sounds of you saying that she would go looking for it(sex) i presume ur talking about you don't have to much faith in her as it is all i know is that and im not trying to disapoint you but girls are all sluts man they will never wait that long i mean look how many women cheat on there husband that are say even truck drivers for example they may only be gone for a week at a time and its still not good enough for the women imagine six years apart they would forget who there hubby was also two people change alot in six years mate your only option is to follow her or for her to sacrifice for you i guess it depends how much she means to you and vice versa if she is the one a degree doesn't matter bro you can finish study anytime in your life its never to late but thats just what i think<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6604','Kris'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6604','Kris','mate by the sounds of you saying that she would go looking for it(sex) i presume ur talking about you don\'t have to much faith in her as it is all i know is that and im not trying to disapoint you but girls are all sluts man they will never wait that long i mean look how many women cheat on there husband that are say even truck drivers for example they may only be gone for a week at a time and its still not good enough for the women imagine six years apart they would forget who there hubby was\r\n\r\nalso two people change alot in six years mate your only option is to follow her or for her to sacrifice for you i guess it depends how much she means to you and vice versa if she is the one a degree doesn\'t matter bro you can finish study anytime in your life its never to late but thats just what i think'); return false;">quote</a></div> mate by the sounds of you saying that she would go looking for it(sex) i presume ur talking about you don’t have to much faith in her as it is all i know is that and im not trying to disapoint you but girls are all sluts man they will never wait that long i mean look how many women cheat on there husband that are say even truck drivers for example they may only be gone for a week at a time and its still not good enough for the women imagine six years apart they would forget who there hubby was

also two people change alot in six years mate your only option is to follow her or for her to sacrifice for you i guess it depends how much she means to you and vice versa if she is the one a degree doesn’t matter bro you can finish study anytime in your life its never to late but thats just what i think

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]]> By: Kris http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/comment-page-6/#comment-6602 Kris Thu, 25 Feb 2010 10:20:26 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/#comment-6602 well i think it depends on how you confronted him about the issue im am in a long distance relationship myself i have been with my girlfriend for nearly three years and have been separated for the last 5 months its hard i know. i am 1 myself and i know that when my girlfriend confronts me about something like that i tend to get my back up very quickly when being accused of something even if i am in the wrong. if he is anything like me the typical guy he would not have ment any disrespect to you by watching the video and would not have been doing so 'because your not good enough' the fact is that every guy checks out every hot girl weather they will admit it or not. as long as they don't act on it it should not be a problem however i do not think that it was apropriate for him to advertise the fact on a website that he was checking out other guys if he was any kind of smart he would have kept it secret to himself so to not hurt your feeling hope i have helped you understand guys a little AND GUYS OUT THERE HERE IS A LESSON FOR YOU THIS KIND OF THING DOES UPSET THE LADIES SO DON'T DO IT OR DON'T SHOW THEM THAT YOU DO IT REGARDS KRIS<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6602','Kris'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6602','Kris','well i think it depends on how you confronted him about the issue\r\nim am in a long distance relationship myself i have been with my girlfriend for nearly three years and have been separated for the last 5 months its hard i know. i am 1 myself and i know that when my girlfriend confronts me about something like that i tend to get my back up very quickly when being accused of something even if i am in the wrong. if he is anything like me the typical guy he would not have ment any disrespect to you by watching the video and would not have been doing so \'because your not good enough\' the fact is that every guy checks out every hot girl weather they will admit it or not. \r\nas long as they don\'t act on it it should not be a problem however i do not think that it was apropriate for him to advertise the fact on a website that he was checking out other guys if he was any kind of smart he would have kept it secret to himself so to not hurt your feeling hope i have helped you understand guys a little AND GUYS OUT THERE HERE IS A LESSON FOR YOU THIS KIND OF THING DOES UPSET THE LADIES SO DON\'T DO IT OR DON\'T SHOW THEM THAT YOU DO IT\r\n\r\nREGARDS\r\nKRIS'); return false;">quote</a></div> well i think it depends on how you confronted him about the issue
im am in a long distance relationship myself i have been with my girlfriend for nearly three years and have been separated for the last 5 months its hard i know. i am 1 myself and i know that when my girlfriend confronts me about something like that i tend to get my back up very quickly when being accused of something even if i am in the wrong. if he is anything like me the typical guy he would not have ment any disrespect to you by watching the video and would not have been doing so ‘because your not good enough’ the fact is that every guy checks out every hot girl weather they will admit it or not.
as long as they don’t act on it it should not be a problem however i do not think that it was apropriate for him to advertise the fact on a website that he was checking out other guys if he was any kind of smart he would have kept it secret to himself so to not hurt your feeling hope i have helped you understand guys a little AND GUYS OUT THERE HERE IS A LESSON FOR YOU THIS KIND OF THING DOES UPSET THE LADIES SO DON’T DO IT OR DON’T SHOW THEM THAT YOU DO IT

REGARDS
KRIS

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]]> By: Yujin Wong http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/comment-page-6/#comment-6591 Yujin Wong Wed, 24 Feb 2010 15:29:23 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/#comment-6591 It is lucky that my parents had accepted my sexuality since I officially came out at the age of 19. I am 29 years old now.

I had ended my 10 year relationship with another man last year. It should have ended on the 5th year but we tried to fix it. It survived another 5 years but those extra 5 years are becoming more and more difficult for both of us. and so, the relationship ended.

After it ended, I had short term relationships.. This has been I guess my way to tell myself that I am “still” young and I will be just fine without him (the man I lived with for the last 10 years). But since these were all “rushed” It did not work as well. I will be honest that my sexual level was high and I had those new relationship to satisfy the need.

Until one day October 19, 2009. I was seen by a guy whom I just added in one of those Social Network sites. He was just there in my profile page but we never get a chance to communicate. The next day, I received a letter from him saying “I saw you walking in front of Gateway Mall…just want to say hello”. I replied to him “You could have greeted me then please reach me at (my mobile number)”. And that afternoon, I received a text message from him.

And so we met in my house. lets call him by the name “Merck”. Of course since this guy waited for 2 years just for me know that he exists, he was so exited about it (both emotionally and sexually). One the very first time we met, something happened. But according to him he did not do it for lust. He did it to let me know that his waiting has come to an end. He asked if I am still seeing another person and he will understand..he just wants honesty. I told him of course I am free.

I do not know if destiny is really playful because when he visited my house for the first time, he received a call from the Employment Agency that his application to The Middle East is approved and he can now start working with his requirements. He is a Registered nurse. I told myself secretly “did he come just to say goodbye?”. I pretended happy but of course I was sad..I hate all forms of goodbyes. But I cannot hinder this person of his dream.

We dated and courted each other for the next 2 weeks until we official on October 30, 2009. He revealed to me everything. From his childhood, his favorites, family. The challenge that I had with him was he gets jealous..not in an unhealthy way. Its because he does not want to lose me anymore. It was nice and I assured him that “he will be the one”. He knows that I am prone to temptation and since he is a Christian, he had asked me to throw all my porn related materials. According to him, if I believe and I truly love him, I will do it because this act is for me anyways. I did that.

We enjoyed each other. He sees to it that we meet everyday, we go to church together, spend time quietly. We made plans and schemes and we do our best to survive. We were able to enjoy our “Monthsary”, Christmas and New Year. On January 1, 2010..He bought a pair of ring. Though we know that same sex marriage is not yet recognized in the Philippines, a simple moment of vows is good enough.

I love this guy. So in love with him that I forgot that time flies. February 17, 2010, we talked and he said that he will leave for Middle East on March 1, 2010.

I know that he will have to fly one of these days. I had accepted that situation. But I cant help but to cry and be sad. I have been reading books regarding LDR but how come I feel restless and fearful?

He assured me that he will be on vacation every 6 months and he is going to do this for our dream. He even looks forward that he will find me a job there related to my work My mom is very supportive with me and him and encourages us. He even told my mom that “I am HIS forever”.

Any advise on how I can survive this sadness?

also I wanted to knopw
why i fear so much
of not seeing him for a couple of months
could it be im seeing my reflection of my bad past that is why I do not see my partner being loyal to me? 9:29
am I depressed?

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]]> By: the unlucky boy http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/comment-page-6/#comment-6582 the unlucky boy Wed, 24 Feb 2010 01:49:07 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/#comment-6582 My relationship has been off n on for 4 yrs now. Come to think of it, it's doing pretty well. We've been apart from state to states. But we get to meet on holidays in our hometown. Now the problem is, she's leaving the country soon. For 6 years. I never want to talk abt it to her, because this is what she wants to do. Medical , in russia. She'll be leaving in a few months. We just celebrated our 1st valentine's day together this year, because all these years before we didn't had the chance to. My heart aches to think that she'd need someone ovr there, and it stings to think that she'l fall for a new person who take cares of her there for all those year. i can't go ovr because i need to finish of my degree here, Aus. And long distance communication won't do much, because i believe every person needs comfort. And comfort comes in 2 forms. emotiontly & physcly I can't provide physically, and its a sure thing that'd she'l go look for it. I need Help.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6582','the unlucky boy'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6582','the unlucky boy','My relationship has been off n on for 4 yrs now. Come to think of it, it\'s doing pretty well. We\'ve been apart from state to states.\r\nBut we get to meet on holidays in our hometown.\r\n\r\nNow the problem is, she\'s leaving the country soon. For 6 years.\r\nI never want to talk abt it to her, because this is what she wants to do.\r\nMedical , in russia. She\'ll be leaving in a few months.\r\nWe just celebrated our 1st valentine\'s day together this year, because all these years before we didn\'t had the chance to.\r\nMy heart aches to think that she\'d need someone ovr there, and it stings to think that she\'l fall for a new person who take cares of her there for all those year. i can\'t go ovr because i need to finish of my degree here, Aus.\r\n And long distance communication won\'t do much, because i believe every person needs comfort. And comfort comes in 2 forms. emotiontly & physcly \r\nI can\'t provide physically, and its a sure thing that\'d she\'l go look for it.\r\nI need Help.'); return false;">quote</a></div> My relationship has been off n on for 4 yrs now. Come to think of it, it’s doing pretty well. We’ve been apart from state to states.
But we get to meet on holidays in our hometown.

Now the problem is, she’s leaving the country soon. For 6 years.
I never want to talk abt it to her, because this is what she wants to do.
Medical , in russia. She’ll be leaving in a few months.
We just celebrated our 1st valentine’s day together this year, because all these years before we didn’t had the chance to.
My heart aches to think that she’d need someone ovr there, and it stings to think that she’l fall for a new person who take cares of her there for all those year. i can’t go ovr because i need to finish of my degree here, Aus.
And long distance communication won’t do much, because i believe every person needs comfort. And comfort comes in 2 forms. emotiontly & physcly
I can’t provide physically, and its a sure thing that’d she’l go look for it.
I need Help.

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]]> By: Paul http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/comment-page-6/#comment-6531 Paul Fri, 19 Feb 2010 15:47:11 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/#comment-6531 I'm in a gay long distance relationship and I think your post makes lots of sense. I can relate to many of the things you describe. It's helped me and I'm sure many others. Thanks for taking the time to write the article.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6531','Paul'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6531','Paul','I\'m in a gay long distance relationship and I think your post makes lots of sense. \n\nI can relate to many of the things you describe. \n\nIt\'s helped me and I\'m sure many others. \n\nThanks for taking the time to write the article.'); return false;">quote</a></div> I’m in a gay long distance relationship and I think your post makes lots of sense.

I can relate to many of the things you describe.

It’s helped me and I’m sure many others.

Thanks for taking the time to write the article.

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]]> By: Lette http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/comment-page-6/#comment-6530 Lette Fri, 19 Feb 2010 07:00:37 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/#comment-6530 ok me and this guy have been talking for a while and were dating I live in louisiana and hes in the navy in cali, he's coming to see me and everything b4 deployment cuz he cant get time off now. But for some reason some days i can't wait to talk to him and some days i dont want to, i feel like i love him and i know he loves me. But I know this sounds bad on my part but most of my friends are guys so im always listening to them saying how they think hes lucky to have me and how they wished they could be with me and its making me wonder about everything cuz i could have someone here that i could see whenever i wanted versus have someone MILES away from me. I dont want to break up with him or anything but on the other hand im more scared of getting hurt cuz im so used to it and that i dont want to do this. any advise??<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6530','Lette'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6530','Lette','ok me and this guy have been talking for a while and were dating I live in louisiana and hes in the navy in cali, he\'s coming to see me and everything b4 deployment cuz he cant get time off now. But for some reason some days i can\'t wait to talk to him and some days i dont want to, i feel like i love him and i know he loves me. But I know this sounds bad on my part but most of my friends are guys so im always listening to them saying how they think hes lucky to have me and how they wished they could be with me and its making me wonder about everything cuz i could have someone here that i could see whenever i wanted versus have someone MILES away from me. I dont want to break up with him or anything but on the other hand im more scared of getting hurt cuz im so used to it and that i dont want to do this. any advise??'); return false;">quote</a></div> ok me and this guy have been talking for a while and were dating I live in louisiana and hes in the navy in cali, he’s coming to see me and everything b4 deployment cuz he cant get time off now. But for some reason some days i can’t wait to talk to him and some days i dont want to, i feel like i love him and i know he loves me. But I know this sounds bad on my part but most of my friends are guys so im always listening to them saying how they think hes lucky to have me and how they wished they could be with me and its making me wonder about everything cuz i could have someone here that i could see whenever i wanted versus have someone MILES away from me. I dont want to break up with him or anything but on the other hand im more scared of getting hurt cuz im so used to it and that i dont want to do this. any advise??
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