Dating Tips 10 Tips On How To Seduce A Man

10 Tips On How To Seduce A Man

10 Tips On How To Seduce A Man

I am writing this article in spite of the possible danger of being penalized by other men for disclosing our weaknesses and leaving us – for lack of a better word – defenseless.

I can already hear the shouting, and see the torches lit in front of my house.

On the other hand, maybe they will celebrate because most men want to be seduced. They pray for it.

Like Jason Biggs said in American Pie:

“Oh my God, she used me. I was used. I was used! Cool!”

Dear Gals – you want to seduce a man, and you don't know how to?

Fear not. Help is on the way. I am writing this article only for you.

Exactly as in my article, how to approach a man, I thought about things I would fall for, (and have fallen for repeatedly).

But also, I asked my friend, Brigitte, (the man-eater), for her main techniques.

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I realize that there are two common situations here: you want to seduce YOUR man, or you want to seduce ANY man.

Either way, the principles are the same.

It really comes down to hitting that “hidden switch” that turns on the man.

Unfortunately, this particular switch is different for every man.

Sometimes it is not even related to physicalness.

It can be a word, an image in his head, an expectation. Other times, you can trigger it with a simple smile, a lascivious look, a seemingly coincidental touch.

It is your job to find and explore this “secret switch” for your man.

This article will help you to not only find this hidden turn-on but will also give you some ideas about how you can win the man you want.

My male readers will discover that several of these techniques can be used to seduce a woman as well. Surprise, surprise.

Maybe we're not that different after all.

So read on.

Here are 10 tips on how to seduce a man, (use it cautiously, because with great power comes great responsibility and us men are sooo weak):

1. Choose The Battle-Field Well

Believe me, the “where” is very crucial to your success.

Choosing a sports bar while the Superbowl is on may not be crowned with success.

A private dinner, with the appropriate romantic ambiance, on the other hand, will give you the best chances.

Choose places where you can minimize distractions, (and ideally competition). You must have his complete attention.

Besides, the proper surrounding can be very stimulative. Never underestimate the power of candlelight and accompanying soft music.

2. The Power Of Scent

The scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgments.

In a survey, 89 % of the men revealed that scent can enhance the attractiveness of a woman.

55 % of those polled men went a little further and admitted that they would get amorous with a woman just because of her appealing scent.

Do you believe that?

You better! Everybody who has seen or read, Perfume: The Story of a Murderer, would know what I'm talking about.

Scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgment about the other sex. The way you smell is a vital factor to your success in seduction.

You can compare it to pheromones in the animal world.

A woman can enhance her natural pheromones by using aromatherapy oils like sandalwood, rose, ylang-ylang, jasmine, and patchouli. They are known for their aphrodisiac properties.

Shakespeare wrote that Cleopatra received Marc Anthony on a ship with perfumed sails. The exotic scent made him fall in love with her immediately.

Even so much that he hopelessly gave his life for her.

Use a perfume that you like, but be careful not to overdo it.

Use it sparingly, and apply it to your body's so-called pulse points – wrists, behind your ears, in the bend of your elbow, behind your knees and on the inside of your ankles.

You can also try to spray the perfume in the air in front of you and walk into the mist.

Make your perfume a recognizable part of you. Make your scent imprinted in his mind.

3. Show A Little, But Hide A Little More

There is a certain way of dressing that drives men crazy. And I certainly don't mean going slutty.

That is a turn-off for most men.

You need to find a compromise between showing and hiding your feminine qualities.

It's the right combination that makes the secret.

I like women who enhance certain body regions without actually showing anything.

Steer clear of the obvious. It is crucial that you actually feel sexy.

And don't forget some killer lingerie and sexy accessories like bracelets and necklaces.

4. Be Super-Confident

Have the confidence of a supermodel.

Be a woman who knows what she wants, and how to get it.

Do you know how to do this?

But be aware – there is also a thin red line. If you overdo it, you will most likely look arrogant instead of confident.

You don't want that. Nobody likes arrogance.

You can start with renewing yourself.

Get a complete makeover – a new haircut, clothes, start losing weight. Never underestimate what a new haircut can do for you.

Also, watch your posture. Keep a straight spine with your shoulders back, exposing your chest.

Do everything that makes your confidence soar.

Men are very impressed by confidence.

5. Send Signs Of Interest

Now it's time to spread a little hint to the man that he may actually have a chance with you.

Send him little signs of interest from time to time that will make him come forward:

  • Show unclenched hands
  • Play with your hair or caress other objects. Push your fingers through your hair
  • Pick some fluff of his jacket, (even if there is none!)
  • Face him directly, and slightly lean forward now and then
  • Wet and bite your lips from time to time

Here again – do not overdo it!

Experienced men can read these signs, the inexperienced, well, even they will feel that something's going on.

6. The Magic of Anticipation

Now, here's a good one.

This is a variation of “playing hard to get,” which by the way is very doubtful to work. If overdone, it will harm you more than being of use.

Instead, play a little game called “anticipation.”

Anticipation, excitement, and tension can be a huge turn-on for a man. Delay the gratification.

Make two steps forward, one step back.

Create a strong feeling of dissatisfaction in him. A dissatisfaction which can only be resolved by having you.

It must never seem to be easy for him.

Make two steps forward, one step back.

Contradict yourself!

Use the before mentioned signs of interest, then suddenly show disinterest, ignore him for two minutes. Then start again.

Two steps forward, one step back.

7. Killing Eyes – The French Technique

Start with almost accidental sidelong glances. You can follow up with a straight look.

Now, something starts that can simply be described as playful innocence, (someone once said to me that the French girls invented that).

The moment he looks back, you instantly lower your eyes and put on an embarrassed smile.

You can even emphasize it some moments later by looking again, this time longer, and then again lower your eyes.

This is flirting without talking, (we can learn a lot from the French when it comes to lovemaking).

8. Touch Him “Accidentally”

When you reach for something, try to touch his hand accidentally.

Don't make it too obvious.

Also, touch him briefly during the conversation to make a point or when he just made an interesting remark about something.

The secret is being playful with casual touches now and then.

This creates tension as well as a physical connection. And more importantly, it subconsciously communicates that you’re not interested in “only being friends.”

9. The Power Of Erotic Dancing

This one is short and simple: learn how to dance in an erotic way, and look for an opportunity for him to see.

Don’t underestimate the power of this.

Most women love to express themselves on the dance floor. Why not learn it and do it the right way?

There are courses on this, or just go to a club, watch and learn.

This is very powerful.

10. The Secret Ingredient

Now, there is a final ingredient to a successful seduction of a man.

He must not feel seduced.

He must think that he seduced you, not the other way around. Give him his victory, let him be the hero.

Men like that. It gives them a feeling of security.

Why not take advantage of that, if you get what you want!

Conclusion

Some other useful tips in short:

  • Be mysterious and playful
  • Awake the explorer in him
  • Let him do most of the talking
  • Flirt intensively with 90% body language and only 10% with words
  • Contradict yourself, confuse him
  • Try to make an all-senses-explosion: looks, taste, music, touch, scent
  • Take care never to appear too needy

(MORE: Learn 10 Secrets About Men)

As we all know, Jason Biggs from American Pie was seduced the easy way, with not much effort, (who wonders?).

You are now ready to master – the art of seduction the sublime way, and getting any man you want.

Well, almost any.

Happy hunting!

Your friend,
Eddie Corbano

  • Of all the advice online, I have found this so very helpful. It’s been so long that I’ve had a first date and will be going on one tomorrow. Although the subject isn’t rocket science we sure can let it worry us to think it is. This article has calmed my nerves. I appreciate it and will certainly come back to this site for more info!

  • this is coming from a guy 😉

    you girls must know that we males are very simple minded and to seduce us isnt all that hard just play a little game of cat and mouse. such as when a guy leads you to think hes to busy for you then flip that table and go out with a guy friend and put it in his head that this guy told you that your an amazing girl.. it seems to drive me a little crazy and it is a great way to prevoke jelousy. but if you really like the guy you must tell him after you have been out with the guy that you only want him and it doesnt matter what others say your feelings are set. !! I also understand guys only wanting friends and keeping things low and simple for the real reason of family expectations and so many stressful things a relationship entitles for the fact that alot of women make a man cower in his shell and hurt him to much so that he cant express himself properly due to a mind set which is almost impossible to change. . love and determination will slowly help but dont go crazy there. theres a few sweet an d incredible men out there that will make you feel like the princess that you are inside and will give you something you have only dreampt about

    if you wanna talk more email me davidrobb2003 (at) hotmail (dot) com

  • One of my closest friends is a guy, we’ve known each other for almost 7 years. We’ve dated on and off, but the issue is this: he will only go out with me or do anything physical if I’m with someone else! He’s not very subtle about it either, he’s practically jumped me at parties at soon as the (now exs) backs are turned. He hasn’t had much luck with relationships, in fact when every one has ended he runs right back to me for support. Note: We have never had sex.

    I’m married now with a child (not with this guy) and he’s once again started asking me to hang out with him. (my husband works out of town, I see him maybe one week a month) I, much to my embarrassment, have been in love with him for years. We’ve always had a physical friendship, with much cuddling, so what is on the go?

  • have a problem, my busband can,t kiss me. says hez not interested, how can i overcome this.
    he also says i dont know how to seduce him.there is no activity in bed , he seem not to be interested in sex, he ignores me. what can i do

  • Anonymous says:

    ok , so i work for this company my sisters best friends family im a valued employeee i met the son and he is soadorable he immediatly took me in and made me fall for him
    one problem im gay wel ithought i was andive never had sex with a guy but he was so charming he wouldnt take no for answer well we kissed adn no we HAVE NOT had sex but i let him go down on me i was having problems with my girlfriend she was beaiting me up andlying and cheating onme one day she hurt me so bad he was going to xome get me , long story short i like him and not to long ago i told him i didnt wanna be with him anymore and he stopped but i misshim i see him everyday but he wont try to be with me no more and allot girls want him , idk what to do idk if he likes me but i do , and i want to kiss him so bad but no one here knows we have or had a thing so that we dont have problems he looks out for me and most poeple that work here like me and idk if it makes him jeloaus he comes close to me but he doesnt even try like before he was into me , how can i get him to like me again ,,, he is an asshle now , just yesterday i asked him ( why are u so shady )? he said ( born like that ) and then i told him one of these days i was jsut gonna kiss hm and not care whos watching but i didnt get a respond idk what to do ,,, im so mad at myseklf ,,, !!!!!!!!! =( ,,,, can anyone help me out

    • CookieeeNerddd says:

      Okay, not the best situation to get yourself into but by the looks of it, youve been in worse. If he was adorable and charming once, the chances are he still is. maybe he's hurt from when you said you dont want to be with him anymore and doesnt want to get hurt again. Let him know how you feel and if he's not ready he can have time and you will be there for him. If he is still a-hole then dont bother with him. If you still wanna try and make things work even though he is being an a-hole, then just give him the 1 chance, if he does something stupid then just leave. In the end you like him, if you think you could have a strong working relationship then try your hardest to make it work. Next time you are alone somewhere kiss him, let him know there are still feelings, if he cares for you he'll respong in the right way =] Hope this is some use, sorry its a lot to read

  • i like miss dang comment you gave me a good idea thanks

  • What he is doing is part of the seduction game. Sending mixed signals. You should send him mixed signals too..be sweet one moment and act aloof next time (act like you barely want to be with him)…then he will start to wonder why you don’t want him anymore. Or, blow off a few of his calls, then tell him you miss him. Hey, that behavior drives us nuts but makes us like them more, right? Try reading the book, The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. He also wrote the Art of War and The Art of Power. Fascinating and gives tips on how to seduce people

  • @others

    i have problem the same…i have a friend also, always telling that he don’t like me at all and yet always calling and chatting with me, we’ve even kiss and he is asking to have that again and again… guys are sometimes crazy.

  • well i get confuse with this guy he said his not inlove with me but he is crazy for me. he also said that he is thinking of me even if he is with someone else.. what do you think?

  • I have a question. What if your trying to get an ole flame back, and u never run into him. Communicate mainly by texting.
    What would I say to him for us to try again, something to seduce him or make him think about it?
    His X wife left him for another man pretty quick so he doesnt want to commit and I understand. But, I made some mistakes and see where I went wrong by telling him I liked him.
    So, email me and give me some tips, please.
    Thanks,

  • I am 31 years old, and I am single. I want somebody in my life…to seduce, but the point is that I am surronded by men either younger than me or married… what shall I do?

  • How do you think his wife would feel about you being the “other woman”? You basically making it sound like you are only interested in him because he is taken. So you like to go for the ones that should normally be off limits. So because you learned from one of the biggest jerks out there you are willing to do damage to another person’s relationship? That doesn’t sound right to me. He’s married. Simple to the point. If anything you should just be friends. YOU could be turning a good marriage into something bad if you start anything with him.

  • I know he wont leave his wife… I don’t want him to. Women are the ones all emotional about sex, not men. Cheating isn’t as big of a deal for men as it is for women, because we relate sex to feelings. I can separate the two, because I learned from one of the biggest jerks out there. The thing is, I really like him, and I am just extremely attracted to him, and have been for a long time. He’s a great guy, that’s probably why he hasn’t done anything yet… If I thought he would leave her, I wouldn’t pursue him.

  • well he might like you but you knw wat honey he will never leaves his wife for you…its just a fling nd once he gets over it u just gonna be another girl so ur guy is still out there dnt waste ur time flirtin nd likin someone tat is already taken

  • I know it’s wrong, but I want this married man. I have been flirting with him, and he gets this goofy grin on his face when I do. Sometimes he flirts back with me. I want to know if you think i can get him, or what should I do.

    I started persuing him a while back. I started bumping into him “accidently”, complenting the way he looks, and smiling and talking with him alot more. He is a little bit older than me, but I noticed after I started flirting with him, he started dressing up more. He started complementing me too. The thing is that sometimes he seems to push me away. And other times he tries to do the opposit.

    Do you think this guy wants me or not, and what should I do to get him?

    • he obviously is feeling conflicted because of his marriage. Honestly, if sex is brought into the picture someone will get hurt. He may lose his marriage and family. Do you want to be the cause of that? You may be able to separate sex and feelings, but it is likely his wife cannot. Just back off and find an unmarried man to have sex with. Personally I see nothing wrong with flirting, but sex is a big no no.

  • Hi. i have read some of th comments here and I’ am impressed. With this matter, I would like to ask on how or what way i can seduce my boyfriend? (despite of the fact that he’s mine now, im threatened.) He’s a lawyer and to tell you honestly, I’m just a concubine. thank you.

  • Hi Eddie,
    These hints are very useful, having tried and tested them they have so far been successful.
    However, there is one person/guy i haven’t tried it on because i don’t know whether it is too late…
    We have been friends for months but it is only recently i realised i like him more. He’s shown interest before but i just brushed it off because i didnt feel the same way. I don’t know whether it is now too late to use these techniques and whether he will respond. I’ve been flirting and dropping hints of interest but he seems completely oblivious!
    Is there any tip you could give me on how to approach?
    Rose X

  • I have been best friends with this guy for 15 years started dating a few months ago. We have always been there for each other for anything. He was with another woman for a few years about a year ago a cant seen to get over her. Now he is trying to say we have nothing in common. Im not sure what to do. We live together kinda as roommates since we have now broken up, but still sleep in the same bed, spend all of our time together outside of work & school & still have sex. He knows how I work, how I play to win. All the seduction tips are my old game. What do I do now???

  • i had a three mnth relationship with a guy who was 4 yrs older than me. i had never been with a man before him. Six months have passed and i found a way to make it back into his life. he has a girlfriend now tho. How do i get him back?

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