Archive for January, 2008

Women are constantly testing us.

It’s a fact.

They do it not because they consciously want to – they do it because nature forces them to do so. It’s hardwired in their brains since Early Man. Nature has made sure that the only children to survive are the healthy and strong, to ensure the overall survival of the tribe.

So women have to be extremely picky. Even today. Especially today.

By the way, we men are “brain wired” too when it comes to selection for mating. Why do you think that we prefer large breasts?

Most women have cultivated a deceitful detection system that can spot freaks and wackos. Some have taken this to a level of perfection. They smell if the wrong man is around them.

What is their secret weapon, their scanner for unworthy sperm donors, you might ask?

They use questions (among other things). Click to continue »

Sam’s Story

Sam caught his wife cheating with his best friend. It was an excruciating experience and even though he felt terribly betrayed, he decided to stay and try to forgive and trust her again. After all, they have a daughter of 4 years and he didn’t want her to suffer for her parents faults.

But Sam’s biggest problems have always been jealousy and distrust. This became ever worse after the infidelity of his wife.

8 months after the incident Sam’s wife decided to get divorced – allegedly she couldn’t bear his distrust and need for control any longer.

Needless to say that Sam was devastated. After her misbehavior, it was him who had desperately tried to keep their marriage going, despite the fact that he had every reason to go. Now she was leaving?

“She left without giving me a chance. This isn’t fair. First she humiliates me then she leaves. I won’t let her do this to me. I swear she will never have a happy day with our daughter again!”

After that Sam felt extreme anger, even hate, which manifested mainly in physical complaints.

Sam’s story is an example of how break ups can lead to anger and hate towards the one who leaves. The break ups or divorces are sometimes more extreme, sometimes less, but the anger is almost always present. Click to continue »

Many of you may have had a rough time last year – going through a devastating break up or divorce. I know from personal experience that a new year is an excellent opportunity to draw a line through your “old life” and start a new one.

While New Year’s resolutions are actually a good thing, they alone cannot accomplish a change of attitude. What we need is a mental shift.

Why do people make New Year’s resolutions?

New Year’s resolutions are an annual ritual. They give us the opportunity to change what we do not like in our lives by “resetting” and starting all over again. A new year allows us to look back at bygones and consider them in the past. That’s why it’s easier to make a new start.

Sounds great, huh?

Actually this sounds great in theory, but there is a problem.

They rarely stick.

So, what to do? How do we know that we will not fall into the same old pattern again?

There is a way which can help you focus on your new goal. This can be used for all kinds of New Year’s resolutions, be it to heal from a break up or divorce, lose weight or quit smoking. Click to continue »