Archive for April, 2008

When you go through a break up or divorce, everything reminds you of your Ex. Sometimes it’s pretty weird, (you’ll know what I mean if you’ve been there). You make the silliest connections just to be reminded of what has happened to you.

That’s why I always recommend cleaning up your house and getting rid of everything that reminds you about your Ex. Nothing should remind you about the past at home.

And remember what is most important: do not torture yourself with unnecessary memories!

What do I mean by that?

There is this curious affinity to suffering. Something forces us to rethink, to evaluate, to relive the moments of the break up again and again (see no 2. here), as if we will gain something very important from it.

In fact the exact opposite is the case: we suffer and move deeper and deeper into the vicious circle of negative emotions (phase 2 of a break up).

Why do we torture ourselves deliberately?

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I would like to share with you what I’ve learned the last two weeks when I was tied to a hospital bed in agonizing pain.

I suffered for over 48 hours, from pain that was so overwhelming that all other reality was blurred out – until an emergency operation finally saved me from madness.

Pain so intense like that is absolute. It’s all there is. Another reality, another existence. You are all physical. Nothing left of your spiritual part, so it seems.

In fact, I tried all of the meditation techniques I knew, (and I am quite experienced with this), to get rid of the pain, but nothing worked.

So finally I gave up and surrendered to it.

Know what I’m talking about?

All there is, is pain

You know in moments like that, all you want is this pain to stop – you would do anything, take any medication. And behind all that, like a lurking giant, is this fear, the defeating fear that the pain will never end, that it will go on forever.

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