Archive for May, 2009

The no-contact rule is the most discussed rule in the whole break up recovery field. You only need to check out the comment section of my article The Secret of How To Get Over a Break Up to see examples.

People know that the rule is essential, but are constantly fighting it – looking for loopholes to break it – which is understandable. Others, however, are reporting that the only thing that helped them to get over their Exes was following that particular rule.

It’s the most important precondition to healing from a break up or divorce.

I actually talk about this in detail in my free newsletter , but I just wanted to add some small things.

The problem with this rule is that we do not recognize its urgency in the beginning.  We only begin to understand after we have had some bad experiences with this “friend thing”.

Why do we aspire to stay friends with our Exes, even though we sense that it’s bad for us?

Let’s examine the “Dumpers” and “Dumpees” separately: Click to continue »

Who wants to be a REAL man?

What IS a real man anyway?

Maybe it is the lonely “cowboy-type”, who rides through the wilderness, his horse is his only friend. (This type seems to be emotionally unavailable, thus not very useful to women. Have you ever seen the Marlboro Man with a girl in his arms)?

Or maybe it is the brave fireman, running into a burning house unselfishly risking his life to save others?

It is definitely NOT the “artist-type”, who lives in his own complicated world trying to express what is inside him, is it?

Whatever type it is, and I don’t pretend to know the answer, it seems that it’s defined by the skills you have and the action you take, rather than by your looks.

The magazine Esquire has put together a list of the 25 essential skills every man should ever have.

Some of them seem to be very useful and mannish, like for example “give a good massage”, ”wire a ceiling fixture” or “skin a moose”.  (While the latter seems to be the ultimate man-skill, I seriously question its usefulness – especially when you are living in a big town, but hey, you never know).

Others, on the other hand, seem not to make sense for the modern urban man at first glance, like for example “fell a tree” or “kill an injured animal”.

But, see for yourself and make your own opinion.

Here’s the link:

25 Skills Every Man Should Know

Whatever you do, whatever skills you acquire, remember: being a man starts first in your head… I think.

Your friend,
Eddie Corbano

…and still be on my feet.

After talking about the best breakup songs, I received some e-mails asking what songs I was hearing during my own personal break up.

Unfortunately, I made THE fatal mistake – which I don’t want you to do: I listened to all of the heart-wrenching break up songs that not only make you cry, but they kill from inside. I listened to them and wallowed in self-pity.

I wanted to feel bad.

Do yourself a favor and don’t listen to these songs.  (I won’t list them – you know which ones I mean).

But there was one particular song that I listened to over and over again. I somehow related to this song, because I really liked the lyrics. It seemed to express what I felt at that moment back then.

It’s not a typical break up song and it is definitely not mainstream. It felt very uplifting, so I’m sharing this with you.

The song is called “A Case of You”, by Joni Mitchell. I listened more to the Diana Krall version, which is completely different to Joni Mitchell’s. Joni’s version is definitely more uplifting and positive, and it fits better with the lyrics.

Read the great lyrics and listen to the music. Click to continue »