As always with major decisions, not one can tell if it’s a mistake or not. It is my opinion that there is no such thing as a wrong decision. There’s only experiences.

If you think that your relationship is the real deal, then no “reasonable” LDR could harm you (plan for the future, regular visits, etc.).

Eddie

I broke up with my long distance boyfriend of two years almost 3 weeks ago. He is a Sagittarian, and I am a Cancer. We were dating for a year before he moved. He moved because he offered a much better job opportunity.Although it broke my heart I agreed to let him go out there.

I broke up with him for two reasons. 1. He had so many issues going on in his life, that I didn’t want to be a burden anymore. 2. I felt ignored amongst all of his problems; he was not willing to be affectionate to me anymore.

With our relationship, when things were good, they were amazing. When things were bad, we seemed to fight about everything!

I asked him a week after the break up if we could be friends, as I am obviously still in love with him and I regretted my decision. He said that he would like to be but not now which was understandable.

For a period of time I would hope he would come back to me or at least be friends. On January 1st he contacted me saying that he missed me, and i went ahead thinking that I should pour out my feelings and tell him I still love him and that I regret my decision. He ended up telling me he did not want to get back together, but then he said he didn’t know..then asked what was in it for us. I decided to no longer speak to him.

Three days later, he sent me a text message saying, “I don’t think its right to cut you off the way I wanted to, so we are cool if you want and you can talk to me if you want to.”

My question is, should I attempt to win him back, or should I let him come to me again, or should I simply let it go?

I don’t want to lose him I am truely in love with him and could not see myself without him) it just gets really hard sometimes..

need some advice of bringing up the subject of moving??

Any advice for him?

When we started dating, he was seeing someone else and yet did not tell me. It was only after I found out (through ways I am not proud of) that he was “in love” with this other woman and asking her to move to New Zealand with him if that was where work took him. He was saying all this to her, whilst sharing my bed at night. I confronted him. He admitted it. Then he moved in with me and told me he loved me. However, the lies continued and it wasn’t until a couple of months ago that he finally stopped all contact with this other woman. Now he is back in the UK and I am a habitual snooper. I constantly feel the need to check back on him. He has bought me a ticket to move to the UK with him and I am scared. I don’t feel as strongly for him as I did before and the illusion has completely shattered. I tried breaking up with him and told him I wasn’t coming. My mother (who constantly gets involved in my relationships and abuses me when I break up with someone (even if they abused me!), managed to convince me that I should go; that she would pay if it doesn’t work out. So I told him I would come and try. But to be honest, I don’t know if I want to. I don’t want to hurt him (again) but I don’t want to be with him. What do I do?

Trust and consistency of communications are important aside from LOVE (obviously it must certainly follows in deep..strong affection you really feel it).

Its really hard especially if TIME is always an issue to be constantly given by solution (effort must be work out by both of you like a real team). Rare intimate moments to be treasure are the best part of having this kind of set-up.