Comments on: 5 Reasons Why To Go For A Long Distance Relationship http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship Learn how to survive a break up, rediscover your true self and find Mr/s Right Wed, 08 Feb 2012 12:27:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: MrsGomez http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-19562 MrsGomez Fri, 27 Jan 2012 21:39:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/#comment-19562 IM CURRENTLY IN A LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP, AND YES I WOULD RECOMMEND IT.... WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 2 YEARS AND HE HAD TO GO SEE ABOUT HIS DAD IN ANOTHER COUNTRY, SOON AFTER WE BECAME A COUPLE. SO, WE HAD TO GET OUR COMMUNICATION AND TRUST ON POINT PRETTY QUICKLY. WE HAD TO FIGURE OUT WHEATHER OR NOT WE WERE WORTH FIGHTING FOR. WE HAD TO LOOK PAST THE OBVIOUS SEPARATION OF SPACE AND TIME, AND SEE IF THIS WAS SOMETHING REAL THAT WOULD LAST. AND TRUE ENOUGH WE HAVE MADE IT WORK, WE ACTUALLY FELL IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER WHILE WE WERE SEPARATED. AND YES, THERE WERE AND STILL ARE THOSE WHO THINK WE'RE CRAZY FOR BEING TOGETHER. NOT TO MENTION THAT THIS IS A MULTI-RACIAL RELATIONSHIP. PEOPLE JUST HAD ALL THESE NEGATIVE REACTIONS. BUT, WE DONT CARE, WE DONT ALLOW OTHERS IN OUR WORLD. WE DONT LET PEOPLE IN OUR BUSINESS, EVER. WHAT WE FOUND IN EACH OTHER IS A LOVE THAT FEW PEOPLE EVER FIND, AND THIS LOVE HAS BEEN TESTED AND TRIED......AND HAS BROUGHT US SO CLOSE TOGETHER, THAT EVEN AIR CANT GET BETWEEN US. AND WE'RE GETTING MARRIED THIS YEAR :-) " WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER LET NO MAN(or woman) PUT ASSUNDER". YOU NEVER KNOW WHERE LOVE IS GOING TO FIND YOU, BUT WHEN IT TRUELY DOES, JUST GO WITH IT, RIDE IT OUT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS. WE LOVE EACH OTHER AND OUR FAMILIES LOVE EACH OTHER AND THATS ALL THAT MATTERS......AND FOR ANYONE THAT DON'T LIKE IT, DONT COME TO THE PLATINUM WEDDING 8-)....BLESSINGS ALL. MR. & MRS. GOMEZ IM CURRENTLY IN A LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP, AND YES I WOULD RECOMMEND IT…. WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 2 YEARS AND HE HAD TO GO SEE ABOUT HIS DAD IN ANOTHER COUNTRY, SOON AFTER WE BECAME A COUPLE. SO, WE HAD TO GET OUR COMMUNICATION AND TRUST ON POINT PRETTY QUICKLY. WE HAD TO FIGURE OUT WHEATHER OR NOT WE WERE WORTH FIGHTING FOR. WE HAD TO LOOK PAST THE OBVIOUS SEPARATION OF SPACE AND TIME, AND SEE IF THIS WAS SOMETHING REAL THAT WOULD LAST. AND TRUE ENOUGH WE HAVE MADE IT WORK, WE ACTUALLY FELL IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER WHILE WE WERE SEPARATED. AND YES, THERE WERE AND STILL ARE THOSE WHO THINK WE’RE CRAZY FOR BEING TOGETHER. NOT TO MENTION THAT THIS IS A MULTI-RACIAL RELATIONSHIP. PEOPLE JUST HAD ALL THESE NEGATIVE REACTIONS. BUT, WE DONT CARE, WE DONT ALLOW OTHERS IN OUR WORLD. WE DONT LET PEOPLE IN OUR BUSINESS, EVER. WHAT WE FOUND IN EACH OTHER IS A LOVE THAT FEW PEOPLE EVER FIND, AND THIS LOVE HAS BEEN TESTED AND TRIED……AND HAS BROUGHT US SO CLOSE TOGETHER, THAT EVEN AIR CANT GET BETWEEN US. AND WE’RE GETTING MARRIED THIS YEAR :-)
” WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER LET NO MAN(or woman) PUT ASSUNDER”. YOU NEVER KNOW WHERE LOVE IS GOING TO FIND YOU, BUT WHEN IT TRUELY DOES, JUST GO WITH IT, RIDE IT OUT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS. WE LOVE EACH OTHER AND OUR FAMILIES LOVE EACH OTHER AND THATS ALL THAT MATTERS……AND FOR ANYONE THAT DON’T LIKE IT, DONT COME TO THE PLATINUM WEDDING 8-)….BLESSINGS ALL. MR. & MRS. GOMEZ

]]> By: Koi http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-18376 Koi Thu, 13 Oct 2011 20:33:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/#comment-18376 It's totally worth it. I've been through 4 past long-distance relationships, 2 of which were god awful, 1 that was so-so, and 1 that was absolutely lovely. But neither those nor my in-person relationships compare to the guy I'm with now. He lives in Colombia, and I in US; we've known eachother for over 2 years and been together officially for almost 9 months now and I've never been happier as a person, and as a girlfriend. You just have to wait for the person that is worth it, and who is willing to put as much of him/herself as you do into the relationship (or more!!). I say ALMOST always yes- if this doesn't work out (god forbid) I say, try focusing on yourself and maybe one or more in person relationships to give yourself time to mature and figure things out before trying another long-distance. It’s totally worth it. I’ve been through 4 past long-distance relationships, 2 of which were god awful, 1 that was so-so, and 1 that was absolutely lovely. But neither those nor my in-person relationships compare to the guy I’m with now. He lives in Colombia, and I in US; we’ve known eachother for over 2 years and been together officially for almost 9 months now and I’ve never been happier as a person, and as a girlfriend. You just have to wait for the person that is worth it, and who is willing to put as much of him/herself as you do into the relationship (or more!!).

I say ALMOST always yes- if this doesn’t work out (god forbid) I say, try focusing on yourself and maybe one or more in person relationships to give yourself time to mature and figure things out before trying another long-distance.

]]> By: Nicha Cygnel http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-17503 Nicha Cygnel Mon, 25 Jul 2011 10:07:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/#comment-17503 Hi, I thought exactly the same thing after my bad LDR in HS, and then I met my current bf!!  We went to the same school in the US (we both are from different countries), and just graduated this June. Just 3-4 months ago, we somehow starting to like each other. He's 25 and I'm 21. We both knew that we would have to split up and be sad in the end, but we agreed to hang out and enjoy our last few months together. We went from hanging out 1-2 times a week to spending everyday with each other. After a while I realized that I just didn't wanna break up with him anymore, but he got his own life and would be starting his first job after getting his masters degree, so I didn't want to tell him to stay with me either. My heart was aching so bad just by thinking about graduation, but I never regretted the decision to go out with him in the first place. One day he just came to my place and started to cry and we didn't talk much. He left after a while, but after a few days we decided to talk about it and agreed to keep our relationship after graduation. He didn't want to become a factor that would influence my decisions in life since I was only 21 and I had told him I wanted to go to grad school in EU, and he was also prepared to hear "no" from me when he asked me if I'd agree to have long distance relationship (he knew about my past LDR). We had just became serious about each other before we realized it. He introduced me to his parents (who came all the way from Japan to attend his graduation). He went back to his country a few weeks ago and we have no idea when we will see each other again. But we're really positive about it, and seriously he's the reason that keeps me optimistic about trying hard to get into grad school and achieving my goals in life. People at our school (even teachers!!) were curious about us after finding out that we were together, haha. I do believe that the world is not too big for us to end up being together eventually. Right now we're focusing on our own lives, which will probably take a few years (for me at least) before we become responsible and independent enough to make our dreams become reality. We believe that this choice is best in the long run. Hopefully we'll get to see each other every once in a while between now and the day we can be together.  Hi, I thought exactly the same thing after my bad LDR in HS, and then I met my current bf!! 

We went to the same school in the US (we both are from different countries), and just graduated this June. Just 3-4 months ago, we somehow starting to like each other. He’s 25 and I’m 21. We both knew that we would have to split up and be sad in the end, but we agreed to hang out and enjoy our last few months together. We went from hanging out 1-2 times a week to spending everyday with each other. After a while I realized that I just didn’t wanna break up with him anymore, but he got his own life and would be starting his first job after getting his masters degree, so I didn’t want to tell him to stay with me either. My heart was aching so bad just by thinking about graduation, but I never regretted the decision to go out with him in the first place. One day he just came to my place and started to cry and we didn’t talk much. He left after a while, but after a few days we decided to talk about it and agreed to keep our relationship after graduation. He didn’t want to become a factor that would influence my decisions in life since I was only 21 and I had told him I wanted to go to grad school in EU, and he was also prepared to hear “no” from me when he asked me if I’d agree to have long distance relationship (he knew about my past LDR). We had just became serious about each other before we realized it.

He introduced me to his parents (who came all the way from Japan to attend his graduation). He went back to his country a few weeks ago and we have no idea when we will see each other again. But we’re really positive about it, and seriously he’s the reason that keeps me optimistic about trying hard to get into grad school and achieving my goals in life. People at our school (even teachers!!) were curious about us after finding out that we were together, haha. I do believe that the world is not too big for us to end up being together eventually. Right now we’re focusing on our own lives, which will probably take a few years (for me at least) before we become responsible and independent enough to make our dreams become reality. We believe that this choice is best in the long run. Hopefully we’ll get to see each other every once in a while between now and the day we can be together. 

]]> By: Lhea Diones Alberto http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-16991 Lhea Diones Alberto Tue, 28 Jun 2011 07:19:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/#comment-16991 i have been in a long distance relationship for 4 months now and i find it difficult to handle..but no matter what, i am happy....i am blessed to have a boyfrnd i have now.........distance is a challenge to our relationshp. i have been in a long distance relationship for 4 months now and i find it difficult to handle..but no matter what, i am happy….i am blessed to have a boyfrnd i have now………distance is a challenge to our relationshp.

]]> By: Cupid Lover http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-14735 Cupid Lover Sun, 10 Apr 2011 08:06:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/#comment-14735 Hi there, A guy that I was seeing for 3 months has left to travel for around 6 months. He has been gone for only 3 weeks and I am feeling anxious already. He had planed this trip way before I met him and he had no intention of meeting anyone before he went away but then we did meet and connected like neither of us have ever connected with anyone before. He believes that if this works out then we know that it is meant to be. He is calling it a test. Why am I finding this so hard? I am thinking about it constantly because I miss him but I am also feeling lonely and worried that I am wasting my time in case it doesn't work out. I don't like feeling this way because it taked over my life. I am very sensitive and prone to getting down and worried easily. I like to have the person that I am involved with to ACTUALLY be WITH me. I want him to tell me an exact time that he is coming back so that I have something to strive for but I don't know wether asking questions is the right thing to do while he is gone. He said before he left that this is the last trip that he will ever be doing and that when he somes back there will be no more travelling. So do I just shut up and wait or do I ask him for a date so that there is a "light a the end of the tunnel"? Before he left, everything was left so wishy washy that I am feeling very unstable. We have been emailing about once per week and we are both 30 years old. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you x Hi there,

A guy that I was seeing for 3 months has left to travel for around 6 months. He has been gone for only 3 weeks and I am feeling anxious already.

He had planed this trip way before I met him and he had no intention of meeting anyone before he went away but then we did meet and connected like neither of us have ever connected with anyone before.

He believes that if this works out then we know that it is meant to be. He is calling it a test. Why am I finding this so hard? I am thinking about it constantly because I miss him but I am also feeling lonely and worried that I am wasting my time in case it doesn’t work out. I don’t like feeling this way because it taked over my life. I am very sensitive and prone to getting down and worried easily. I like to have the person that I am involved with to ACTUALLY be WITH me.

I want him to tell me an exact time that he is coming back so that I have something to strive for but I don’t know wether asking questions is the right thing to do while he is gone. He said before he left that this is the last trip that he will ever be doing and that when he somes back there will be no more travelling. So do I just shut up and wait or do I ask him for a date so that there is a “light a the end of the tunnel”? Before he left, everything was left so wishy washy that I am feeling very unstable.

We have been emailing about once per week and we are both 30 years old. Any advice would be much appreciated.

Thank you x

]]> By: Eddie Corbano http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-14129 Eddie Corbano Mon, 28 Mar 2011 08:57:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/#comment-14129 I'm not sure if you should take Penelope, who actually waited longer than 10 years (and Odysseus cheated on her twice), as a role model. Better not :). I’m not sure if you should take Penelope, who actually waited longer than 10 years (and Odysseus cheated on her twice), as a role model. Better not :) .

]]> By: JB http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-13287 JB Mon, 14 Mar 2011 08:37:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/#comment-13287 I've been in long-distance relatioins for a 2 yearsWe met at facebook and same day we understood that we are soulmates we spend our nights chatting and talking, than was our first meeting, we met in January and it was only February, I was so scared that in life it will be not that magical, or that he wouldn't like me same in person and all kind of fearsbut it was even better, it was just 3 days - but those were 3 most happy days of my lifethan we got far from each other again next time we could see each other was in April, it was possibility to see each other for 4 hours - and i traveled 48 hours by bus to make it possible - I never thought I would be able to do that for someoneThan my boyfriend came in August and he told me that he can't live without me anymore and in November he is moving to my country, so we can be togetherNow little bit more about distanceI live in small town in Ukraine and my boyfriend lives in Paris, Ukraine is almost 3rd world country with ruined economic system and corruption at all levels, He speaks perfect english and little bit of russian - but since he moved here - his life turned into a hell - only person he had here - was me, no friends, no family, no opportunities to find a job or just have some time for himself - cause you it's nothing to do hereAnother thing - documents - you have to have job or be married to stay in country more than 6 months but noone wanted to get french guy - cause there is a lot of paperwork for employer and we can't marry each other - not cause we didn't want to - but cause we are gay (yeah one more detail). Same sex marriages are still prohibited here.So after year (it was 3 month than he supposed tocome back to france for another 3 month and than he got 6 months visa to get here) and loosing life (basicly he just stayed at home all time or was helping me with my projects) - we decided that it's better for him to come back to France.After his coming back he wrote me an e-mail, saying that he thinks it's prolly better to be unhappy in Ukraine but with me, or be unhappy back home without meSo we decided it's my turn to move to France, and here it started just to fall apart - same situation - you have to have job or to be married (and in france same sex marriages are not allowed as well) during 2 years I learned french, but my level is still far from good speakingI was trying all possible and impossible things to get there - but my country is really like prison We still spnt all our time online talking and trying to be together, but this February my boyfriend said he is coming for 3 days (he got job in France and didn't really had days off) - I was so happy...He came to tell me that he can't live like this anymore, because of all this distance and hurt - his feelings changed and he is not sure we should maintain it further - as we can't see future together due to all circumstancesActually he did almost all things described in article "Things NOT to do during break up" we even had 2 weeks for him to re-think it all and than broke up on msn - but it was hard for him as well, he was hurt same by bringing it.Now I'm heartbroken and can't see any future for myself (Maintaining NC for 16 days already and not going to break it - I'm strong)I don't blame him, and grateful for most happy (yet complicated) 2 years of my life.So my advice about long-distanceYou really need to be sure that at some point you can be together, and same time you can have normal life for yourself - job, friends, do things you enjoy to do feel yourself complete humanYou need to be ready to give up on all your previous life, and start to build new one from scratch NEXT to your love (don't ever build your life AROUND someone - it's wrong choice)And also remember - there are no borders for love, but unfortunately, they still exists for people to live wherever they want to.One more thing - I know it hurts now - but if someone asked me if I'm ready to live it again, even knowing it will hurt same at the end - I would go for it without shadow of doubt - this feeling of happiness and true love worth every tear I cried after it was overPlease take care of your love I’ve been in long-distance relatioins for a 2 yearsWe met at facebook and same day we understood that we are soulmates we spend our nights chatting and talking, than was our first meeting, we met in January and it was only February, I was so scared that in life it will be not that magical, or that he wouldn’t like me same in person and all kind of fearsbut it was even better, it was just 3 days – but those were 3 most happy days of my lifethan we got far from each other again next time we could see each other was in April, it was possibility to see each other for 4 hours – and i traveled 48 hours by bus to make it possible – I never thought I would be able to do that for someoneThan my boyfriend came in August and he told me that he can’t live without me anymore and in November he is moving to my country, so we can be togetherNow little bit more about distanceI live in small town in Ukraine and my boyfriend lives in Paris, Ukraine is almost 3rd world country with ruined economic system and corruption at all levels, He speaks perfect english and little bit of russian – but since he moved here – his life turned into a hell – only person he had here – was me, no friends, no family, no opportunities to find a job or just have some time for himself – cause you it’s nothing to do hereAnother thing – documents – you have to have job or be married to stay in country more than 6 months but noone wanted to get french guy – cause there is a lot of paperwork for employer and we can’t marry each other – not cause we didn’t want to – but cause we are gay (yeah one more detail). Same sex marriages are still prohibited here.So after year (it was 3 month than he supposed tocome back to france for another 3 month and than he got 6 months visa to get here) and loosing life (basicly he just stayed at home all time or was helping me with my projects) – we decided that it’s better for him to come back to France.After his coming back he wrote me an e-mail, saying that he thinks it’s prolly better to be unhappy in Ukraine but with me, or be unhappy back home without meSo we decided it’s my turn to move to France, and here it started just to fall apart – same situation – you have to have job or to be married (and in france same sex marriages are not allowed as well) during 2 years I learned french, but my level is still far from good speakingI was trying all possible and impossible things to get there – but my country is really like prison We still spnt all our time online talking and trying to be together, but this February my boyfriend said he is coming for 3 days (he got job in France and didn’t really had days off) – I was so happy…He came to tell me that he can’t live like this anymore, because of all this distance and hurt – his feelings changed and he is not sure we should maintain it further – as we can’t see future together due to all circumstancesActually he did almost all things described in article “Things NOT to do during break up” we even had 2 weeks for him to re-think it all and than broke up on msn – but it was hard for him as well, he was hurt same by bringing it.Now I’m heartbroken and can’t see any future for myself (Maintaining NC for 16 days already and not going to break it – I’m strong)I don’t blame him, and grateful for most happy (yet complicated) 2 years of my life.So my advice about long-distanceYou really need to be sure that at some point you can be together, and same time you can have normal life for yourself – job, friends, do things you enjoy to do feel yourself complete humanYou need to be ready to give up on all your previous life, and start to build new one from scratch NEXT to your love (don’t ever build your life AROUND someone – it’s wrong choice)And also remember – there are no borders for love, but unfortunately, they still exists for people to live wherever they want to.One more thing – I know it hurts now – but if someone asked me if I’m ready to live it again, even knowing it will hurt same at the end – I would go for it without shadow of doubt – this feeling of happiness and true love worth every tear I cried after it was overPlease take care of your love

]]> By: priti http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-13261 priti Sun, 13 Mar 2011 19:15:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/#comment-13261 hi claudia...m hvng th same experience as you...school time friends meeting after years getting into a relationship..and that too a long distance one...hmmm its difficult..but believe me if there is true love from both the sides its going to work out anyhow. so believe in it and enjoy it. hi claudia…m hvng th same experience as you…school time friends meeting after years getting into a relationship..and that too a long distance one…hmmm its difficult..but believe me if there is true love from both the sides its going to work out anyhow. so believe in it and enjoy it.

]]> By: priti http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-13260 priti Sun, 13 Mar 2011 19:08:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/#comment-13260 hi..i really liked your articles on long distance relationships.i was in a long distance relationship but jealousy crept in from my side,however my partner gave me a short break in which i realized my mistake.now we have been together for a few months..and yes we are happy.we are looking forward to marry each other in near future.i would just say that trust trust and trust is the biggest factor that makes a long distance relationship work. hi..i really liked your articles on long distance relationships.i was in a long distance relationship but jealousy crept in from my side,however my partner gave me a short break in which i realized my mistake.now we have been together for a few months..and yes we are happy.we are looking forward to marry each other in near future.i would just say that trust trust and trust is the biggest factor that makes a long distance relationship work.

]]> By: Angel http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-2/#comment-12958 Angel Mon, 07 Mar 2011 18:06:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/5-reasons-why-to-go-for-a-long-distance-relationship/#comment-12958 hi pacer,i recently met this amazing guy during a short term course n i knew i had to tell him how i felt for him...well i did..n its been 9mnths we're still going strong...all i can say is take a chance in love..u nvr know how it will end up but u seriously won't want to think "what if ....????" tk cr hi pacer,i recently met this amazing guy during a short term course n i knew i had to tell him how i felt for him…well i did..n its been 9mnths we’re still going strong…all i can say is take a chance in love..u nvr know how it will end up but u seriously won’t want to think “what if ….????” tk cr

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