Comments on: 7 Reasons Why Your Break-Up is Killing You

By: BABA...BABABOOMANDCRASH

BABA...BABABOOMANDCRASH — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 03:54:00 +0000

NC day 6 (7days ago dumped) I think Im done crying nowat least the constant crying I DONT want to suffer Im too old to keep going thru this crap..43 divorced and behind me a zillion breakups but only a few serious ones..the first tore me apart for 10 yrs this one now has left me feeling blindsided and so sad this was so real non obsessive non rebound true honest stable content feelings of love and now Ive been so angry but even that has lessened..He was awesome, I loved him truly I need to accept and let him go..acceptance is coming, I feel it it taking over it may take a while, everytime i think I want to contact him in anyway when i read the angry letter it reminds me then I come back to this site and it all makes so much sense…NC is for me…and for him even if I dont like it. I have to take care of me, who else will? if i dont love me and help myself who really will? we are all alone on some level traversing this earth. We love and are loved but our experiences are ultimately ours and alone. So love yourself dont let the breakup kill you.

By: Pantone204

Pantone204 — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 05:50:00 +0000

Been a while since this post, but it’s what I’m going through now. She was amazing, I took her for granted an broke her trust, and it’s hard to accept that it was my fault. Hang in there, I know how tough it is, I can barely function right now.

By: Damaged82

Damaged82 — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 00:08:00 +0000

The feeling is like death in the family but I know this too shall pass. I finally broke it off with my son father due to a reoccurring problem of his cheating on social networking websites. It has been a stormy 10 years. Emotional abuse, sexual abuse, and physical abuse I endured thru the years. Financial abuse. Its funny that this cheating was the straw that broke my back after everything I went thru. I know its all for the better and I know where I messed up. I was a young kid when we hooked up, 18 years old, who was for the most part pretty up front and honest about things. I used to expect the same from other people I met. I have learned that all people are not necessarily good and honest. At least with their intentions. I took him as an honest person and I trusted and believed the things he said. I am 28 years old now. I have a 9 yr old son with this man. He had a lot of red flags that I missed or ignored due to my low self esteem, history of being abused, and low self worth. I disclosed my true honest past of being abused with him and he used it against me over the years. I am trying to be strong because all this is fresh like a week and a half if even that. Today I go to pick up my son and there is already a woman leaving the apt. I could have died! I was out of breath. I picked up my son and cried in the car for a while as I could not hold it in. My child never saw the woman as the kids (yes he has more kids) were in the back room but I was still shocked at how recent women are coming around now and the fact that this chick was a neighbor of ours at one point. I suppose this was alerting me to the fact that this was going on the whole time. I need counseling because I really have some issues that I dont think the standard breakup checklist alone can help me with. The problem now is finding affordable counseling for a single mother in my condition. My son and I live with my mother now and I am unemployed. I cant afford a therapist but I am dealing with abuse issues and self esteem depression and I need real help putting my life back together. I live in Northern California….

By: Stoned

Stoned — Mon, 31 Jan 2011 18:15:00 +0000

idk what is this feeling.. may be just like mentioned above..
im out of contact frm my ex since 11 months i guess..i was fine in between.. i moved on i guess..i even talkd with a new guy in chat.. good.. so just made exclusive relationship.. but i dont think im in love with this one.. i dont get the real feelings i used to get.. The problem is there is a thing haunting me every second..(i got pregnant with dat ex *and aborted but deep inside i wanted dat baby.. (im 20 only but it doesnt matter my age cant handle a kid, see ive even have huge ego…every human has) this things is haunting me alot.. everywhere i go i miss the fact i lost a part of me(forcefully) idk what da hell my ex is doing… afer abortion i had to left that country… so i’m 1000 miles far from ass!… but here now there’s a new guy met thru internet (hes good ok) but i cant make myself OK or fine i dont know what.. i feel empty seriously.. just like you mentioned devastated. help… i cant even share this with friends.. they are like what its your fault loving dat guy making bf and all but how i feel may be you Know .. Help me i cry sometime without anyreason crying over the fact something is missing in me.. may be i miss him alot but i dnt want to.. he aint worth i have realized but somehow i cant make my self ok when i want to. help me what do i do..
i go out work /shoppping and all i miss him in me. I see babies(new born) rips my heart feeling more worst! not having what i wished.Moreover the person is not with me. ( i cant even talk about this to the new guy hope fully i wont even cant) i did tried to make my self busy so i did at the end of the day i’m not happy just empty .. help eddie

By: Eddie Corbano

Eddie Corbano — Thu, 13 Jan 2011 06:33:00 +0000

HI DarkAngel, welcome to the community.

Please check out these two articles:

http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/
http://lovesagame.com/no-contact-help-how-to-fight-the-urge-to-contact-your-ex/

By: Eddie Corbano

Eddie Corbano — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 14:03:23 +0000

Thank you Sarah, I am happy you are doing better.

By: Janice

Janice — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 01:31:37 +0000

Ive been suffering from breakup this past 2 months ago.i thought i forgot him already coz i can smile and once in a while date other guys already,but i reealize everytime i see places and do things we did together i still remember him and felt so pain every time..he left me without saying anything..sms or even a short goodbye we dont have..he left me hanging and sometimes still hoping he buzz me and give closure to our relationship..but dont have..im tired lying to myself that i move on but im not..

By: sarah

sarah — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 01:15:36 +0000

I looked at this article about 20 days into my break up, at that time I didn't really care about making things better, I almost loved the pain I was drenching myself in, but I convinced myself that if I don't move forward I'll just fall behind cause the world isn't going to wait for me! So, I wrote the key points of this list down and I got to action. In the following weeks they were my bible, I followed as many as I could and kept them with me to look at when I was a little lost about what to do some days.

I'm now around 47 days into the break up and surprisingly, I've completely stopped/avoided 1,3,4,5,6,7 now! 2 I'm still working on, cause I'm a very analytical person and it's hard for me not to think, I sometimes catch myself thinking of the past and cut an end to it though.

Thank you Eddie. Would've taken me a LOT longer to pick myself back up if I hadn't found this article at the right time.

By: Habibah Ahmed

Habibah Ahmed — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 06:47:52 +0000

Hi! I think ur scared to let go. This post is old so i'm not sure where ur at with ur feelings etc now but it seems to me with all that distance you both should be with people u can see and hug. U deserve that too.

By: Tristan

Tristan — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 03:37:52 +0000

i think your information was just what i was looking for and i thank you very much,as i am traped in a bad relationship and have a child with her and a child with another person from the past,she has two of her own,i'v been with her for 7 years and its been a nightmare since we had a baby together.she give up entirly and i just feel so alone.she sleeps on the couch an i sleep in bed,she dose no house work and degrades the children.i have studied everthing and it makes it worse cos i can see it more,but whatever i say just makes maters worse.she has no love and very thik skin.