A Very Special Long Distance Relationship Tip

by Eddie Corbano
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Long Distance Relationship TipI receive e-mails every day where people ask me about tips for long distance relationships - how to make the distance a little more bearable, how to maintain the closeness you have established during the time you have been together.

Usually I refer them to my groundbreaking article, which has been translated to 30 languages, printed and sold over 30 million copies ;) , on how to make a long distance relationship work, along with a little tip.

Now I am about to reveal this very special long distance relationship tip I used myself and which helped me a great deal when I was in that situation myself. I haven’t found this on other sites, so I think I am sort of the inventor of this “technique”.

Lean back and read on, the following tip will help you tighten your long distance relationship bond.

The Main Problem In A Long Distance Relationship

“Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”
—Kahlil Gibran

The most important premise in a long distance relationship is trust.

If there is no trust, then sooner or later there will be plenty of problems. Jealousy will occur, there will be efforts to control your partner, which often leads to mutual distrust. The road the relationship will then take is not pleasant. Trust me on this one.

A lack of trust can have different reasons: low self-esteem, bad experiences in your past (experiences in the relationship as well as early childhood experiences), insecurities, a deep belief that you don’t deserve love, etc.

I will cover how you can specifically fight upcoming jealousy another time. For now I want to give a tip how you can minimize the opportunities for jealousy and at the same time keep your connection alive.

The Daily Reports Technique

Use this additionally to your usual communication:

I recommend that you send each other something I call “daily-reports”. These are emails with photographs enclosed which you have made during the day. Include a short report what you have done this today and the most remarkable experience of the day.

This does not need to be very long, just a small roundup of your day. This should not take you longer than 15 minutes.

If you want to do this more professionally, you could set up a free blog (this is done in minutes), password protect it and write these “daily-reports” into that blog. You could even include some videos.

A blog has the advantage that you can see all entries at once and they are easier to manage than e-mails.

As I have said, I used this technique myself with great success. You will notice that these “daily-reports” are much more intense and have a greater impact on you than phone-calls or chatting.

Try it.

There are two very important requirements for this technique:

Now, this is great and can only help you maintaining your long distance relationship, but be aware that there are two hidden dangers.

1. Both parties have to agree to do this.

There is no point in this, if one of you doesn’t really fancy doing that. This is supposed to be fun.

Imagine the joy you would feel when you sum up your day for your love. Imagine the great feeling when you’d get the text-massage: “new report online”.

2. No distrust and fighting if someone missed a day.

This is dangerous. All advantages would be for nothing at all if this happens.

Talk about it in advance. Agree that it’s no big deal, if someone hasn’t had the time and missed a day. The “daily-reports” should not be a pain in your lower back, but something you’re looking forward to.

Try it for a week and see how it works.

If done correctly this will reestablish trust and bring you closer together. You will play a more active part in your partners life despite the fact that there are miles and miles between you.

Long distance relationships are hard enough, try to make them more bearable.

For that I wish you all the best,

Eddie

(Photograph is from istockphoto / Goldmund)

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About The Author:

Eddie Corbano is Eddie Corbano is a breakup-coach and relationship-advisor who himself suffered from a devastating break up in 1998. Since then, he dedicated his life to helping others getting the best of this existential experience. The overcoming of a break up is an important step to autonomy and independency. Eddie Corbano developed some new coaching programs, which focus on evolving inner strength and the power to set and reach any personal goal. (Article written on September 22nd, 2007)
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3 Responses to “A Very Special Long Distance Relationship Tip”

Michelle 8-3-2008

This is a great idea. I give advice to people in long distance relationships and am always finding myself telling them that even if there is a little bit of distrust, then there will be problems. It is the absolutely necessary to have a successful long distance relationship.

zuby 1-1-2009

i feel the relaion become stronger when there is distance and make u closer to your partner and if u dont give her a break she wil never feel u absence and your impotance

Christina Contreras 2-6-2009

Hi, allow me to explain, I am staying on campus and have a full time job. And my boyfriend doesn’t have a job yet. We haven’t see each other in few days because he doesnt visit me on campus sometimes. I always sleep over at his place on weekends. I told him if he has a free time then he could visit me. Then he said I will. know what? he never visit me! I feel like he not misses me because he did not say how much he misses me. I like to listen how he feels how we treat each other in positive ways. But, he never.. what do you think? help me..


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