3. Rejection? No big deal!

Even if you get rejected, this is really no big deal when you have the proper mindset. Remember, that most of the time the man is more embarrassed than you would be. Men also tend not to reject an approaching woman. They always maintain a conversation,
even if not interested, so you have the chance to show personality.

4. Dress wisely

Don’t go too tarty. The more sexy the better philosophy is a very common mistake women make. It’s more important to wear things you are comfortable in, rather then to show as much flesh as possible. Showing to much can be construed as desperation and also interpreted in a wrong way.

5. Don’t talk too much

Many women talk too much when they are nervous. This not only depresses the men, it annoys them. Let them do the talking. Help them, if the conversations stucks, but listen more than you talk. Nothing impresses the man’s ego more than listening to him.

6. Don’t be afraid to smile

If you like a guy, then simply smile at him. Men are as nervous about approaching as you are. Sending out smile signals makes it easier for both of you.

7. Either approach actively or use passive “tricks”

Walk directly to him, make sure he sees you coming, and say “hi”. Don’t forget to smile. That’s not easy, but it sends out a strong confident signal and takes him off-guard.

Another thing I recommend is going to the bar: this is the easiest spot for approaching. It’s always crowded here and people are waiting for their drinks. It is really easy here to start a conversation by simply asking something like: “can you recommend me a cocktail?” or “would you please order for me?” or something like that.

As you can see, some of my “wishes” are consistent with Brigitte’s rules. That is very soothing.

You will also notice quite a few parallels to the mens approaching guide. On the whole we are the same. Would there be no “play around” life would be much easier, for that I’m sure.

Now good hunting.

Your friend,

Eddie Corbano