1. Make 3 fast approaches for warm-up

Look for 3 girls that you like and are comfortable with and ask them something. No matter what. Ask for the way, the time, a place to go out since you’re new in town, the next cool bar, etc. Be creative!

You don’t have to get into a conversation, but if it happens don’t fight it. The goal is to get into a “approaching mood” and most important, to get comfortable with the idea of talking to women. You will learn that it’s ok and that nothing terrible will happen. This will remove a lot of tension from you and believe me, your next approaches will be much much easier.

2. Detach yourself completely from the outcome

This is very important.

In order to make progress and get beyond your fears, I want you to have no expectations whatsoever regarding the approach. No matter what she says or does, I want your life to go on the same way.

“Don’t have expectations!”

See it as a game. Be playful. You’re there to learn and the only thing you want to get out of this is experience. If you get a number or e-mail in the end that’s great. But don’t expect anything. Should you get rejected, so what? No big deal. Just move on.

3. Pay attention to your body language

Would you believe me when I say, that your body language is affecting the outcome of the approach itself? That means, that even before you reach the person, she might have already decided whether she will reject you or not.

Watch you body posture. This subconsciously sends a signal of confidence and that you know what you’re doing. This also increases your attraction many times over.

• keep your head high, slightly above the horizontal line
• imagine an invisible string tied to your chest, lifting you straight up
• always lead from your hips when your are walking
• during the conversation never lean physically in, always lean back
• sit and stand always in the most comfortable position. As you were at home. Lean at a wall, put a leg on the chair, use a chair like a sofa, etc.
• watch your hands. Don’t hang on your glass. Put one hand into your pocket and leave the other one free
• don’t try to look cool (if you are, you will). Have a slight smile always.

This is pure gold.