1. Make 3 fast approaches for warm-up
Look for 3 girls that you like and are comfortable with and ask them something. No matter what. Ask for the way, the time, a place to go out since you’re new in town, the next cool bar, etc. Be creative!
You don’t have to get into a conversation, but if it happens don’t fight it. The goal is to get into a “approaching mood” and most important, to get comfortable with the idea of talking to women. You will learn that it’s ok and that nothing terrible will happen. This will remove a lot of tension from you and believe me, your next approaches will be much much easier.
2. Detach yourself completely from the outcome
This is very important.
In order to make progress and get beyond your fears, I want you to have no expectations whatsoever regarding the approach. No matter what she says or does, I want your life to go on the same way.
“Don’t have expectations!”
See it as a game. Be playful. You’re there to learn and the only thing you want to get out of this is experience. If you get a number or e-mail in the end that’s great. But don’t expect anything. Should you get rejected, so what? No big deal. Just move on.
3. Pay attention to your body language
Would you believe me when I say, that your body language is affecting the outcome of the approach itself? That means, that even before you reach the person, she might have already decided whether she will reject you or not.
Watch you body posture. This subconsciously sends a signal of confidence and that you know what you’re doing. This also increases your attraction many times over.
This is pure gold.
Eddie Corbano is a breakup-coach, relationship-advisor and founder of LovesAGame. He suffered from a devastating break up in 1998. Since then, he dedicated his life to helping others getting the best of this existential experience. The overcoming of a break up is an important step to autonomy and independency. Eddie Corbano developed some new coaching programs, which focus on evolving inner strength and the power to set and reach any personal goal. (Article written on February 11th, 2007)
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I just want to thank the person who wrote this, I’m a 15 year old in high school and this really worked, I through I was ugly and no one would want me but I approached her and got her number no problem and I have been practicing and it works I have lots of friends now, some girls even noticed me and said I’m cute… I guess its because I never talked but thank you so much!
dude, this is good stuff.
thanks.
nice