Approaching Women – 5 Secrets For Newbies

by Eddie Corbano
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4. Forget all pickup-lines you’ve ever heard

Trust me, they won’t work. You don’t need them.

The truth is, what you say only matters less than 6%. You communicate the rest through other ways. Like the tone of your voice and mainly through your body language.

“The truth is, what you say only matters less than 6%”

Maintain strong eye-contact during the approach, watch your body language, put on your biggest smile and just say “hi”.

Later on, when you have more experience, you can do more sophisticated approaches. I’ll cover this another time.

5. Have a story prepared

Let the conversation flow naturally. Talk to the girl like you talk to your best friend. The more natural you are, the better. Don’t compliment her to much, again, be playful and cocky. Speak slowly and keep your voice tone low.

What happens now to newbies very often is that they’re having trouble to maintain the conversation. They get stuck, since they can not remember any topic to speak about. Or they ask too many questions, which is also not helpful to get the conversation going.

It helps to have some kind of a story prepared. If nothing interesting ever happened to you, you can make one up. Tell how your best friend almost died on your last mountain hiking tour, or how you saved your cat from being washed in the washing machine.

It really doesn’t matter what the story is about. What matters is how you are telling it. It has to be told in an interesting and dramatic way. She has to be sucked into that story, watching your lips, couldn’t await how it ends.

Can you do that? I bet you can. If not, practice!

From now on you have several options. You can ask for her number/e-mail, change the location with her, or simply move on. The point is to collect as much experience as you can with approaching women. You must get comfortable with it. If you really are, then there is nothing that can hold you back any more.

The world is yours.

Your friend,

Eddie Corbano

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Eddie Corbano is a breakup-coach, relationship-advisor and founder of LovesAGame. He suffered from a devastating break up in 1998. Since then, he dedicated his life to helping others getting the best of this existential experience. The overcoming of a break up is an important step to autonomy and independency. Eddie Corbano developed some new coaching programs, which focus on evolving inner strength and the power to set and reach any personal goal. (Article written on February 11th, 2007)
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4 Responses to “Approaching Women – 5 Secrets For Newbies”

I just want to thank the person who wrote this, I’m a 15 year old in high school and this really worked, I through I was ugly and no one would want me but I approached her and got her number no problem and I have been practicing and it works I have lots of friends now, some girls even noticed me and said I’m cute… I guess its because I never talked but thank you so much!

noone 9-29-2007

dude, this is good stuff.

thanks.

dima 12-6-2007

nice


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