Comments on: Are You Caught In The Relationship Trap? http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/ Learn how to survive after breaking up and read some great relationship advice for having new and healthy relationships. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:45:08 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Ann http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/comment-page-1/#comment-5468 Ann Fri, 23 Oct 2009 22:01:04 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/#comment-5468 I have been involved with a man for 4 years. It has been a roller-coaster, constantly breaking up and making up. I don't feel fulfilled in the relationship; sexual or emotionally. Even though we are together I still feel alone. He's not there for me, I barely see him. We hardly go out. Majority of the times that we see each other, he comes to my house and he spends a few hours and then leaves. I am usually the one does the breaking up because I feel so un-satisfied. After a couple of days he'll start calling or messaging me wanting to why am I doing this, and telling me how much he misses me whenever I am not around. I have told him about how I feel and what I want, but he usually just does enough to get me back in his life and then after he feels like has me, so to speak, it back to the same thing. He has hurt me alot, and whenever I feel like he is not giving me what I need, I tend to pull away, or get defensive. He doesn't really talk to me about his life, I feel like I have my life and he has his. I constantly ask myself, why am I still involved with him.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5468','Ann'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5468','Ann','I have been involved with a man for 4 years. It has been a roller-coaster, constantly breaking up and making up. I don\'t feel fulfilled in the relationship; sexual or emotionally. Even though we are together I still feel alone. He\'s not there for me, I barely see him. We hardly go out. Majority of the times that we see each other, he comes to my house and he spends a few hours and then leaves. I am usually the one does the breaking up because I feel so un-satisfied. After a couple of days he\'ll start calling or messaging me wanting to why am I doing this, and telling me how much he misses me whenever I am not around. I have told him about how I feel and what I want, but he usually just does enough to get me back in his life and then after he feels like has me, so to speak, it back to the same thing. He has hurt me alot, and whenever I feel like he is not giving me what I need, I tend to pull away, or get defensive. He doesn\'t really talk to me about his life, I feel like I have my life and he has his. I constantly ask myself, why am I still involved with him.'); return false;">quote</a></div> I have been involved with a man for 4 years. It has been a roller-coaster, constantly breaking up and making up. I don’t feel fulfilled in the relationship; sexual or emotionally. Even though we are together I still feel alone. He’s not there for me, I barely see him. We hardly go out. Majority of the times that we see each other, he comes to my house and he spends a few hours and then leaves. I am usually the one does the breaking up because I feel so un-satisfied. After a couple of days he’ll start calling or messaging me wanting to why am I doing this, and telling me how much he misses me whenever I am not around. I have told him about how I feel and what I want, but he usually just does enough to get me back in his life and then after he feels like has me, so to speak, it back to the same thing. He has hurt me alot, and whenever I feel like he is not giving me what I need, I tend to pull away, or get defensive. He doesn’t really talk to me about his life, I feel like I have my life and he has his. I constantly ask myself, why am I still involved with him.
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]]> By: Tim http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/comment-page-1/#comment-4813 Tim Tue, 23 Jun 2009 19:36:16 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/#comment-4813 <a href='#comment-4504' rel="nofollow">@Jesse</a> - I was in virtually the same relationship. Things got really stale but then I made the mistake of trying to make things work. Thinking if there's a will there's a way. It seemed like anytime I tried to work on intimacy I was in fact making her uncomfortable and irritated. She claimed "I was trying to change her." However, I knew the only way to progress the relationship was by developing intimacy and by communicating better. Both items she failed miserably at. Unfortunately, she was good at bringing down my self-esteem so I hung in the relationship until she's the one who called it off. And boy, I was sort of blindsided because I reapplied myself near the end for one last hurrah when she pulled the rug out from underneath me. I would get out while you can.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4813','Tim'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4813','Tim','<a href=\'#comment-4504\' rel=\"nofollow\">@Jesse<\/a> -\r\n\r\nI was in virtually the same relationship. Things got really stale but then I made the mistake of trying to make things work. Thinking if there\'s a will there\'s a way. It seemed like anytime I tried to work on intimacy I was in fact making her uncomfortable and irritated. She claimed \"I was trying to change her.\" However, I knew the only way to progress the relationship was by developing intimacy and by communicating better. Both items she failed miserably at. Unfortunately, she was good at bringing down my self-esteem so I hung in the relationship until she\'s the one who called it off. And boy, I was sort of blindsided because I reapplied myself near the end for one last hurrah when she pulled the rug out from underneath me. I would get out while you can.'); return false;">quote</a></div> @Jesse -

I was in virtually the same relationship. Things got really stale but then I made the mistake of trying to make things work. Thinking if there’s a will there’s a way. It seemed like anytime I tried to work on intimacy I was in fact making her uncomfortable and irritated. She claimed “I was trying to change her.” However, I knew the only way to progress the relationship was by developing intimacy and by communicating better. Both items she failed miserably at. Unfortunately, she was good at bringing down my self-esteem so I hung in the relationship until she’s the one who called it off. And boy, I was sort of blindsided because I reapplied myself near the end for one last hurrah when she pulled the rug out from underneath me. I would get out while you can.

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]]> By: Jesse http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/comment-page-1/#comment-4504 Jesse Tue, 28 Apr 2009 21:24:43 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/#comment-4504 Hi Tony. I just did Question 1 and am going to let it sit for a week like you said. I think I know the answer to Question 2 but Question 3 is the hardest as you said. I have been in a relationship for about 2.5 years. We have been living together for almost 2 years. She is a beautiful woman who takes care of me and is always willing to help, yet I am still utterly discontent. The fire is gone in the relationship, since I am the energetic and conversational one in the relationship and she is the exact opposite. I am always wanting to do new things and she likes to stay with whats comfortable. I know relationships can't be in the honeymoon stage forever, but I didn't think it would get stale like this. Short, brief conversations and no energy. I don't like being a quitter, but I feel like I need to move on. Hard since we live together.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4504','Jesse'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4504','Jesse','Hi Tony. I just did Question 1 and am going to let it sit for a week like you said. I think I know the answer to Question 2 but Question 3 is the hardest as you said.\r\n\r\nI have been in a relationship for about 2.5 years. We have been living together for almost 2 years. She is a beautiful woman who takes care of me and is always willing to help, yet I am still utterly discontent. The fire is gone in the relationship, since I am the energetic and conversational one in the relationship and she is the exact opposite. I am always wanting to do new things and she likes to stay with whats comfortable. \r\n\r\nI know relationships can\'t be in the honeymoon stage forever, but I didn\'t think it would get stale like this. Short, brief conversations and no energy. I don\'t like being a quitter, but I feel like I need to move on. Hard since we live together.'); return false;">quote</a></div> Hi Tony. I just did Question 1 and am going to let it sit for a week like you said. I think I know the answer to Question 2 but Question 3 is the hardest as you said.

I have been in a relationship for about 2.5 years. We have been living together for almost 2 years. She is a beautiful woman who takes care of me and is always willing to help, yet I am still utterly discontent. The fire is gone in the relationship, since I am the energetic and conversational one in the relationship and she is the exact opposite. I am always wanting to do new things and she likes to stay with whats comfortable.

I know relationships can’t be in the honeymoon stage forever, but I didn’t think it would get stale like this. Short, brief conversations and no energy. I don’t like being a quitter, but I feel like I need to move on. Hard since we live together.

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]]> By: Tony http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/comment-page-1/#comment-4137 Tony Wed, 14 Jan 2009 22:57:05 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/#comment-4137 <a href='#comment-4128' rel="nofollow">@Eddie Corbano</a> - Thanks for that. I have not seen her for over a week now but we are in touch via phone. She will not meet up with me unless i propose to her fullstop. I'm not sure what to do as she won't give me more time. I have been waking up confused most mornings. When i with her we have good times though. I think i am afraid of commitment.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4137','Tony'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4137','Tony','<a href=\'#comment-4128\' rel=\"nofollow\">@Eddie Corbano<\/a> - \r\n\r\nThanks for that. I have not seen her for over a week now but we are in touch via phone. She will not meet up with me unless i propose to her fullstop. I\'m not sure what to do as she won\'t give me more time. I have been waking up confused most mornings. When i with her we have good times though. I think i am afraid of commitment.'); return false;">quote</a></div> @Eddie Corbano –

Thanks for that. I have not seen her for over a week now but we are in touch via phone. She will not meet up with me unless i propose to her fullstop. I’m not sure what to do as she won’t give me more time. I have been waking up confused most mornings. When i with her we have good times though. I think i am afraid of commitment.

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]]> By: Eddie Corbano http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/comment-page-1/#comment-4128 Eddie Corbano Tue, 13 Jan 2009 08:34:38 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/#comment-4128 <a href="#comment-4127" rel="nofollow">@Tony</a> - Tony, ask yourself a question: Would you leave the relationship immediately if there was the perfect woman waiting for you? If your answer is yes, then your problem is low self-esteem. You do not think that you can make it alone. That's why you stay in a broken relationship. If you are that depressed, then it's really time to leave. It will be hard at the beginning, you will feel lonely, but it will get better. There is a whole new life waiting for you, exciting and adventurous. Eddie<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4128','Eddie Corbano'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4128','Eddie Corbano','<a href=\"#comment-4127\" rel=\"nofollow\">@Tony<\/a> -\n\nTony, ask yourself a question: Would you leave the relationship immediately if there was the perfect woman waiting for you?\n\nIf your answer is yes, then your problem is low self-esteem. You do not think that you can make it alone. That\'s why you stay in a broken relationship.\n\nIf you are that depressed, then it\'s really time to leave.\n\nIt will be hard at the beginning, you will feel lonely, but it will get better. There is a whole new life waiting for you, exciting and adventurous.\n\nEddie'); return false;">quote</a></div> @Tony -

Tony, ask yourself a question: Would you leave the relationship immediately if there was the perfect woman waiting for you?

If your answer is yes, then your problem is low self-esteem. You do not think that you can make it alone. That’s why you stay in a broken relationship.

If you are that depressed, then it’s really time to leave.

It will be hard at the beginning, you will feel lonely, but it will get better. There is a whole new life waiting for you, exciting and adventurous.

Eddie

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]]> By: Tony http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/comment-page-1/#comment-4127 Tony Mon, 12 Jan 2009 22:55:43 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/#comment-4127 I have been in a relationship for 1.5 years and it has degraded. I think i will never meet another girl and that scares me. She wants me to commit and i am hesitant and depressed about the whole situation. it is hard to get out bed in the mornings. I thought i would give it a go even though i was hesitant going in to the relationship and have been fighting my gut feeling ever since<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4127','Tony'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4127','Tony','I have been in a relationship for 1.5 years and it has degraded. I think i will never meet another girl and that scares me. She wants me to commit and i am hesitant and depressed about the whole situation. it is hard to get out bed in the mornings. I thought i would give it a go even though i was hesitant going in to the relationship and have been fighting my gut feeling ever since'); return false;">quote</a></div> I have been in a relationship for 1.5 years and it has degraded. I think i will never meet another girl and that scares me. She wants me to commit and i am hesitant and depressed about the whole situation. it is hard to get out bed in the mornings. I thought i would give it a go even though i was hesitant going in to the relationship and have been fighting my gut feeling ever since
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]]> By: Ray http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/comment-page-1/#comment-4117 Ray Fri, 09 Jan 2009 04:06:19 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/#comment-4117 Interstingly I have thought of the many reasons, why I should not be in my relationship. I married young(20yrs old), we had son, I did not have that full-fledge love in me for her. We have since had 2 more children and my need to not fail has kept me here secondary to the children. I've been thinking about moving on for 5+ years. MY recent frequent business trips have really opened my eyes, since I do not miss her. I am not in an affair, nor would I want to start another relationship,but I'm am truly stuck and also know I just can't keep on doing this - living a lie!!<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4117','Ray'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4117','Ray','Interstingly I have thought of the many reasons, why I should not be in my relationship. I married young(20yrs old), we had son, I did not have that full-fledge love in me for her. We have since had 2 more children and my need to not fail has kept me here secondary to the children. I\'ve been thinking about moving on for 5+ years. MY recent frequent business trips have really opened my eyes, since I do not miss her. I am not in an affair, nor would I want to start another relationship,but I\'m am truly stuck and also know I just can\'t keep on doing this - living a lie!!'); return false;">quote</a></div> Interstingly I have thought of the many reasons, why I should not be in my relationship. I married young(20yrs old), we had son, I did not have that full-fledge love in me for her. We have since had 2 more children and my need to not fail has kept me here secondary to the children. I’ve been thinking about moving on for 5+ years. MY recent frequent business trips have really opened my eyes, since I do not miss her. I am not in an affair, nor would I want to start another relationship,but I’m am truly stuck and also know I just can’t keep on doing this – living a lie!!
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]]> By: Eddie Corbano http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/comment-page-1/#comment-3518 Eddie Corbano Wed, 22 Oct 2008 11:09:43 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/#comment-3518 <a href="#comment-3505" rel="nofollow">@Liz</a> Dear Liz, What is the alternative? To be unhappy and sad for the rest of your life? If you think that your relationship has come to an end, then unfortunately you don't have any choice, IF you want to live a fulfilling life. Eddie<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('3518','Eddie Corbano'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('3518','Eddie Corbano','<a href=\"#comment-3505\" rel=\"nofollow\">@Liz<\/a>\n\nDear Liz,\n\nWhat is the alternative? To be unhappy and sad for the rest of your life?\n\nIf you think that your relationship has come to an end, then unfortunately you don\'t have any choice, IF you want to live a fulfilling life.\n\nEddie'); return false;">quote</a></div> @Liz

Dear Liz,

What is the alternative? To be unhappy and sad for the rest of your life?

If you think that your relationship has come to an end, then unfortunately you don’t have any choice, IF you want to live a fulfilling life.

Eddie

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]]> By: Liz http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/comment-page-1/#comment-3505 Liz Fri, 17 Oct 2008 03:23:40 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/#comment-3505 I wish that was the only problem my boyfiend loves everything else about me except all the sudden he stopped having sex with me. I'm not the muscular sexy type he befriends on the net! Were better friends than anything else he refuses to let me go. unfortunately I've been raising his two kids with him and they call me mom. How do I get out now? I am truely trapped There birth mother left them and if I leave they will be two messed up kids! All sound lovely<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('3505','Liz'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('3505','Liz','I wish that was the only problem my boyfiend loves everything else about me except all the sudden he stopped having sex with me. I\'m not the muscular sexy type he befriends on the net! Were better friends than anything else he refuses to let me go. unfortunately I\'ve been raising his two kids with him and they call me mom. How do I get out now? I am truely trapped\r\nThere birth mother left them and if I leave they will be two messed up kids! All sound lovely'); return false;">quote</a></div> I wish that was the only problem my boyfiend loves everything else about me except all the sudden he stopped having sex with me. I’m not the muscular sexy type he befriends on the net! Were better friends than anything else he refuses to let me go. unfortunately I’ve been raising his two kids with him and they call me mom. How do I get out now? I am truely trapped
There birth mother left them and if I leave they will be two messed up kids! All sound lovely
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]]> By: lizzy http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/comment-page-1/#comment-977 lizzy Wed, 16 Jan 2008 07:29:22 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/are-you-caught-in-the-relationship-trap/#comment-977 For all the over-analyzing women who drive themselves crazy worrying about their relationships, these articles are nice to keep a perspective on things<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('977','lizzy'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('977','lizzy','For all the over-analyzing women who drive themselves crazy worrying about their relationships, these articles are nice to keep a perspective on things'); return false;">quote</a></div> For all the over-analyzing women who drive themselves crazy worrying about their relationships, these articles are nice to keep a perspective on things
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