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Do you make these mistakes in your relationship?

There is one particular fear that is usually waiting for you when you are finally over your break up or divorce: The fear of the next relationship. The fear that all you went through, will eventually happen again.

The path to the healing was arduous. The pain unimaginable. You really never want to go through something like that again. Ever!

That is very understandable. Unfortunately nobody can guarantee you that, but there is one thing I can guarantee you:

If you have gone through the phases of a break up correctly, you will cope much better with a potential future break up than you did before.

Also, it helps, if you know the 7 deadly sins in a relationship. Click to continue »

When she dumped Kevin, it was like a kick in the head for him. He needed days to come around and realize what happened. Even then it was an absolute mystery to him what caused the break up. It will take months for him to finally get a clue to the reasons.

Had he seen it coming? Well, he said no. But when I dug a little deeper, it became apparent that he actually had noticed unusual things in his relationship. He just dismissed them as meaningless. He never would have guessed that they could lead to a break up.

Apparently they were anything but meaningless.

If he would have given them some attention, he may have been able to do something to prevent the forthcoming events. He could have talked to his girlfriend, uncovered the problem and tried to do something to fix it before it was too late. If there is no communication, nothing will ever change.

The reasons why two people in a relationship drift apart are numerous. But I believe that if you spot the early signs, there is a very good possibility to get back on track again.

Why didn’t Kevin see it coming? Why didn’t he react upon the “unusual” things he noticed?

I believe that he knew what was about to happen, but it is very typical in such situations to simply refuse to believe that something is wrong. We would never believe that our partner, who was on our side for so long, would actually leave us. This appears so unreal.

Denial seems to be a good way of handling the problem. Of course, this is only self-deception.

Unfortunately, many simply do not know the early signs, the red flags, that something is going very wrong in their relationship.

Why should you pay attention to the red flags?

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Someone said to me a very long time ago: “Eddie, there is no sadder thing in the world than a missed opportunity. When I look back on my life, the only things I regret are the things I haven’t done, never the things I’ve done”.

What is a missed opportunity?

A missed opportunity is a chance you have not taken because of fear. It’s most often fear that is holding us back from progressing.

Now, you can apply this to anything in your life, from the business you want to build to the cheap car you didn’t buy last weekend. But the missed opportunity I am referring to, is not living the life you want to.

For example, when you met someone who could have a great impact on your life, and you didn’t take the chance because fear was holding you back.

Here is a very interesting quote for you from the movie Indecent Proposal, which illustrates what I mean:

“I remember once when I was young, I was coming back from someplace. A movie or something. I was on the subway.

There was a girl sitting across from me. She was wearing this dress that was buttoned clear up right to here. She was the most beautiful thing I’d ever seen. I was shy then. So when she would look at me I would look away. Then afterwards, when I would look back she would look away.

Then I got to where I was gonna get off. Got off, the doors closed and as the train was pulling away she looked right at me and gave me the most incredible smile. It was awful. I wanted to tear the doors open.

I went back every night, same time for two weeks. But she never showed up.

That was years ago and I don’t think there’s a day that goes by that I don’t think about her.

I don’t want that to happen again.”
-Robert Redfort in “Indecent Proposal”

Believe it or not, something very similar happened in my life as well. Click to continue »

I was interviewed the other day regarding my article on how to break up with somebody. This article is one of my favorites, because I really think that it’s very important to learn how to break up the right way. If you have never done it before, how would you know what is the right way?

To lose someone, no matter on which side you are, is always painful. You cannot run away from that. What you can do is make sure that you follow some rules to make it easier for you and the one who’s left behind.

Here are three interesting questions and answers for you that can help you get a deeper understanding on how to break up gracefully. Click to continue »

Ever had a bad time in the morning while driving to work? You see all the people around you on the train or bus, or all the other cars stuck with you in the traffic jam and you just hate them. Everything seems to upset you.

You feel miserable.

Maybe you have some reasons to be, maybe your wife left you, or maybe you hate your job and just can’t stand another day in “paradise”.

Then it’s time to turn on the “switch”.

I wrote about this before, how to start your day successfully, I hope you’ve implemented my suggestions about using the law of attraction into your daily routine, they really work. This is the best way to plant the seed for a successful and happy day.

However, there are times when positive thinking alone cannot pull you out of the mudslinging negativity. The problem here is that it gets worse during the day, like a self-induced chain reaction.

But you can fight it.

There is a neat little visualization technique you can use to fight negativity.

Here it comes. Click to continue »