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Which moments will you remember when you are really old and looking back at your life? Will you remember your greatest moments? Your victories? Your achievements? Yes you will. Will you realize that what made life worth living, were the great moments you had with the love of your life? You most definitely will.

When I work with couples I very often advise them how important it is to create memorable moments together.

What do I mean by memorable moments?

Memorable moments are situations you create consciously or that happen accidentally that tie your relationship bond closer together. They make you realize, how happy you are together. Those are rare moments, which flash into your life and we use to call true love moments.

Ever had one of those? Aren’t they great, worth remembering, worth living for?

If you had not so many of those, then why not actively create them?

No ideas?

I have collected 5 very special memorable experiences for you that I have made myself and which I consider the perfect choice for making them shining beacons in the history of your relationship. Click to continue »

You will never guess where I have been a few weeks ago.

A very good friend of mine asked me to accompany her to her grandparents. She didn’t want to go alone, because their place was “a little weird”. I didn’t quite understand what she meant, but I said yes.

It turned out that “their place” was a retirement home. I immediately had a picture in my mind: a mixture of “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest” and the “Simpsons-Grandpa-Retirement-Surrounding”, where old people sleepwalk through rotten corridors, aimless and under medication like zombies.

It turned out I was wrong. Terribly wrong.

What I found was some kind of paradise on earth. It was a vast compound with cottages, golf courses, outdoor restaurants, swimming pools, you name it. All in all: a tropical island paradise. Not bad for retirement, isn’t it?

The pensioners behaved more like teenagers than senior citizens. They laughed, giggled, played around, having fun. Weird indeed. Click to continue »

“I would take the stars out of the sky for you”.

Well, actually here is your chance. Why don’t you buy a star?

I’m sure you hate those situations too: the birthday of your partner is coming and you don’t have the slightest idea what to buy. Same goes for Christmas, Valentines Days and all the other days, when your partner expects you to buy something nice. The bar is set very high. In fact nearly unreachable high. Sounds familiar?

Many of you asked me about the ultimate romantic gift ideas. It shouldn’t be just “nice”, it should also convey the intensity of your feelings towards the other person.

No, guys, I know what you are thinking, not a ticket to a basketball game, and gals, not a cooking course (although this was pure fun). I’m talking about something romantic here. Something so valuable and sooo romantically loaded that your partner would be blown away and treasure it for years, if not decades.

Impossible? No. I have exactly what you are looking for. Click to continue »

We have all been in this situation, you meet someone very special, you fall in love, everything is perfect, then suddenly it turns out that this very special someone had to leave far far away for college, better job, expedition, you name it. You then have two choices: breaking up or to go for a long distance relationship.

I am receiving many e-mails after my article how to make a long distance relationship work. People are asking me if they should go for a long distance relation ship or not, will it turn out well, for how long is it ok, and so on. I try to answer every e-mail detailed. But in the majority of cases my respond is usually: Yes, I would always go for it, if you feel it is special, if you have a clear time frame, if you are willing to follow my rules, and last but not least: if you believe in it.

Many of you have had a non-working long distance relationship in your past, so your hopes and self-esteem regarding long distance relationships are not high. For this reason I have decided to list some benefits of a long distance relationship to make your decision easier and to give you some hope as well. You are not alone, there are hundreds of thousands of working long distance relationships around the globe. Click to continue »

Healing a broken heart from a lost love seems to be the most challenging venture one could imagine. A break up usually starts with a phase of paralyzing shock then turns into helplessness and deep grief. It appears impossible to ever be happy again. Wouldn’t it be good if there was a secret how to get over a break up?

What if I told you that a break up or divorce is also a very good chance? Your opportunity? Look into the abyss and see who you really are! Do you believe in this?

Well, I for one, I believe. Because it happened to me and I experienced it myself.

"You don’t know what love is
Until you’ve learned the meaning of the blues
Until you’ve loved a love you’ve had to lose
You don’t know what love is"

–Chet Baker

My own break up in 1998 was on the one hand the most terrible and painful incident that ever happened to me, again on the other hand, the very best that happened to me. Sounds pretty paradoxical, huh?

For now, I would like to ask you just to take my word for it and read on, you will understand. Click to continue »