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It’s too late when it has happened.

A break up or divorce is most often a definite state. All we can do afterwards is adapt and survive.

While we try to figure out what went wrong in the beginning - (we spend a lot of time on that) – slowly but surely another sticky question arises:

What could I have done to prevent the divorce?

While the reasons for a break up or divorce are numerous, they all have one thing in common: a gradual break down in communication .

This is, in many ways, fatal for the relationship.

What is the one skill that will make a marriage or relationship happy?

It is, without a doubt, having distinctive interpersonal communication skills.

These skills can be specified into some secondary skills, which are: conflict resolution , self-disclosure, listening, non-verbal communication, perception and many others.

These skills are not inborn skills, we have to learn them…one way or another.

If we are lucky, we get a chance to see and learn how good interpersonal skills look like as we grow up, in our parental home. If this is not the case, we have to learn them .

It gets difficult if our parents demonstrated a false way of communicating and resolving conflict. We didn’t get a chance to see how it’s done right – and it then can take years before we even realize that we lack these certain skills.

All we need is knowledge and a little practice, and we’ll be on our way to success at work and at home.

I’ve put together a small list of those communication skills which I personally think are fundamental for having a great relationship.

Here they are – the 5 most important communication tips: Click to continue »

Today’s inspirational story is somewhat different.

Everybody knows the movie “Rocky”. When we think about this movie a likable underdog who never gives up immediately comes into mind.

Nothing wrong about that – that alone could be inspirational enough, but do you also know the story behind the making of the movie?

Tony Robbins tells the story behind the movie and I promise you, after hearing it you will see Sylvester Stallone in a new light (not to mention that you will be blown away by what this guy went through to make the movie happen).

Watch now how he had to sell his best friend – his dog – for $25 and how he finally got him back:

Here are a few memorable quotes for you:

“…he knew his whole life what he wanted to do since he was very very young, he wanted to be in the movie business. Period.”

“He said I was thrown out more then fifteen hundred times of agents offices in New York. I said there aren’t fifteen hundred agents in New York. He said, I know, I’ve been to them 5,6,7,8,9 times.”

“He said he went to the number 1 guy. I got in there at 4′o clock and he wouldn’t see me and I stayed there, I would not leave and I stayed there overnight. He came back the next morning and I was still sitting there. That’s how I got my first job…”

“He said I knew the only way I can do this as if it was the only choice if I burnt all other bridges, ‘cus if I did a normal job pretty soon I’d be caught up in that rhythm and that stuff and I feel OK about my life and I feel like my dream would just gradually disappear. I wanted to keep that hunger, that hunger is the only thing I thought was my advantage.”

“What did Poe do for you? He said Poe got me out of myself. He got me to think about how I can touch other people not to worry about myself so much.”

“I was so broke that I couldn’t even feed my dog. I had to sell my dog, my best friend for $25. It was the worst thing that ever happened in my life.”

“Here’s a man with no money, none, totally broke, offered a $125.000 and he walked away because he knew he real worth. And why, because he was committed to it.”

“The first thing he did after the contract was signed, he went to that liqueur store for 3 straight days and hoped to buy back his dog.”

Isn’t this amazing?

Just imagine how this kind of determination can matter in your life.

Have a goal you wholeheartedly believe in, stick to it no matter what, and one fine day it’s pay-time. Your dream come true.

Sounds simple, doesn’t it?

If Sly could do it, so can you.

Your friend,

Eddie Corbano

I had a terrible September.

It started out with some bad person hacking my email account, and sending a spam mail to all my contacts which made me literally a spammer.

This happened two days before I was to go off on vacation. So you can imagine that this was quite a challenge.

The following vacation went wrong in every imaginable way, from the flight to the accommodation to the personal level.

It was a disaster.

Two weeks later, when I finally arrived back home – more drained than recovered – I learned that my email account had been deactivated for unknown reasons.

And if all of that wasn’t enough, on top of that I caught a terrible cold that confined me to bed for almost a week.

Now that was the moment when I was thinking: “Man, what else can go wrong this September?”

I had taken the road to negativity with no exit in sight. Click to continue »

For most of us, one of the most painful things we can experience is a relationship break up. It’s like losing an important part of yourself.

But what if I told you that a relationship break up can turn out to be a very good thing for you? What if I said that it’s a chance to find yourself again and examine your priorities and your place in life?

You’re standing at a crossroads – all you need to do is make the right decision about how to proceed.

Why is a relationship break up so painful?

A divorce or other break up usually goes something like this: one partner leaves, the other copes with the loss. How well they manage to deal with this loss depends on three factors:

1. The kind of relationship which they had with their partner
2. Their expectations for the (now failed) relationship
3. Their life experiences and personality traits

A relationship break up isn’t an easy thing for anyone. The personality, expectations and life history of the partner left behind determines the degree of suffering they will experience. How well and how quickly they will heal depends on how well they can face up to these things. If they can look into themselves, identify problem behaviors and remedy them, then the healing will really begin – and every other element of their lives will begin to improve.

A relationship break up abruptly exposes our weaknesses and the fears and pain we have carried with us all our lives. This is an opportunity to get rid of these negative emotions once and for all.

A case study of two broken hearts

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It seems to be a complete mystery. Something we cannot understand. And yet it happens every day all around us: People who used to love each other madly suddenly fall out of love, just like that.

What are the reasons?

Sarah’s Story:

Sarah and her boyfriend had been the perfect couple. It was as if they had waited for each other their whole lives. They had the same hobbies, the liked the same things, they considered each other to be soulmates.

This went on happily for two years – the perfect relationship, until her boyfriend suddenly started to pull back, to act strange and get distant. Eventually he broke up with her, and when she asked for the reason he simply replied that he didn’t love her any more.

Sound familiar? Has this also happened to you or someone around you?

A disappointment.

Isn’t true love meant to be forever?

Well, I cannot give you an answer to this one, but I can give you the advice that you need to examine your perception of “true love”. I can tell you: All that glistens is not gold.

A high expectation of true love, and an exaggerated romantic view of the ideal concept of love can disturb the view to having a fulfilling and healthy relationship.

A realistic view is vital. Click to continue »