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This is another guest-article by our dear friend and reader Darren Fletcher. As an experienced music expert Darren spared no time and effort to create the ultimate break-up recovery music playlist for you.

“Ok, so I LOVE the song”.

So a letter from a friend started after sending her a sample from my current playlist. I was trying to encourage her to get back into listening to music after a breakup, as she put it; “I stayed away from it for a long time due to past experiences.”

Her terrible breakup had played a big role in the negative emotions she was experiencing because she related much of what she heard with the unfortunate situation she now felt inside.

“But new music is new territory, isn’t it?” she finished. And to all the readers and alumni that belong to lovesagame.com, this is my full intention.

As we progress through our recoveries at different levels it is wonderful to discover new music after a breakup that inspires us, music we identify with now and moving forward. Timeless and current classics that deliver a message that is undeniable. What is more, songs can be affirmations you sing to remind you of what is good in our lives.

For those recovering from a painful breakup there is real value and benefit to listening to this playlist. Click to continue »

This is a another guest article from our dear reader and contributer Darren Fletcher.

“Brett says it’s too easy. He wants it harder!” Dawn shouts over the thumping music track while we do the last few of a hundred squats for this track.

The energy and music in class is contagious. Dawn leads the group with warmth, enthusiasm and drive. My legs are burning and swollen and Dawn glares at me smiling.

“How are we doing on this side of the room?” A few whistles and woot’s ring out as our legs shake from fatigue. Actually the last thing on my mind right now is a painful break up. The endorphins are kicking in, my head is clearing and the workout has just started….

Can you picture yourself there?

Are you still recovering from a recent breakup that smarts sharply? Ever find yourself so emotionally ragged and dealing with so many thoughts racing through your head it is difficult to catalogue them all?

You now remember you promised your friend you would join them at the gym for group fitness class. Being in a room full of strangers is the last thing you feel like now. Your Tuesday feels like a Monday all over again and you can’t get you ex out of your mind.

What will you decide? Click to continue »

This is a another guest article from our dear reader and contributer Darren Fletcher.

“Son let me tell you a story, It’s one of the reasons I loved Missing (the Ex) so much.” My son turned to me with a look of sincerity in his eyes.

“You know where that bike shop is in McHenry Village?”

“Yeah I know McHenry Village Its where that Mexican restaurant is…” he answered.

“Right. Well one day early in 2010 Missing and I decided to head over to the bike shop because we were interested in getting into cycling for fitness and fun. When we parked and got out of the car we noticed a young man about your age (20) who was homeless and looked quite sad. Missing said: ‘Wait here’.

The rest unfolded in a surreal way for me. Click to continue »

This is a guest article from our dear reader and contributer Darren Fletcher.

I think it is fair to say we all shared a similar experience after our break-ups.

We were imbued with a heightened sense to sounds, smells and sights. As the body as a whole goes through “hurt” of any kind we find our reactions to the same stimuli take on different meanings.

Take the example of music. We all love it and connect with it on some level.

After your breakup how were you effected?

Did you find it difficult to hear certain tunes without getting upset? Perhaps you enjoyed some of those same songs with your ex and now they simply remind you of “old times”. For myself I found even certain types of music held so much emotion and memory that I just had to change it because the tears would come.

Music has great power, we should never underestimate its ability to soothe, heal or even bring back vivid memories.

Being an avid music lover of many genre’s I have found some music I wanted to share that might help you as it did me. Let’s face it break up songs or even songs with fairytale endings may not be the best for rotation in our ipods right now during our heightened sensitivity to emotion and memory. Realize though that in time you may be able to come back to some of those favorites and not attach them to negative emotions.

Give yourself some time. Click to continue »