Comments on: Getting Over A Break Up – The Final Chapter http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/ Learn how to survive after breaking up and read some great relationship advice for having new and healthy relationships. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:45:08 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: angelita http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/comment-page-2/#comment-5542 angelita Sat, 07 Nov 2009 23:57:48 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/#comment-5542 is been almost 7 months now, after he dumped me and i had broke the non-contact rule almost 10 times and every time i due it's worst, but i just can't understand why i still thinking about him and feeling bad and everything, if he is not the kind of guy i want next to me......... i guess everything will make sense later!<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5542','angelita'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5542','angelita','is been almost 7 months now, after he dumped me and i had broke the non-contact rule almost 10 times and every time i due it\'s worst, but i just can\'t understand why i still thinking about him and feeling bad and everything, if he is not the kind of guy i want next to me......... i guess everything will make sense later!'); return false;">quote</a></div> is been almost 7 months now, after he dumped me and i had broke the non-contact rule almost 10 times and every time i due it’s worst, but i just can’t understand why i still thinking about him and feeling bad and everything, if he is not the kind of guy i want next to me……… i guess everything will make sense later!
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]]> By: Adriana http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/comment-page-2/#comment-5527 Adriana Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:40:55 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/#comment-5527 <a href='#comment-5507' rel="nofollow">@jvrie</a> - I am so sorry to hear that,I know EXACLTY how you feel dont worry girlie you're gonna be okay just give it time at night instaed of thinikinngg watch one of your fav moviee till you get exhausted that way you dont end up tjhinking of him. Girl look at hte brightside of it!! if he;'s stupid enough to hurt youu he isnt worth itt you're so much valuablee than he'll EVER bee<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5527','Adriana'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5527','Adriana','<a href=\'#comment-5507\' rel=\"nofollow\">@jvrie<\/a> -\r\n\r\nI am so sorry to hear that,I know EXACLTY how you feel dont worry girlie you\'re gonna be okay just give it time at night instaed of thinikinngg watch one of your fav moviee till you get exhausted that way you dont end up tjhinking of him. Girl look at hte brightside of it!! if he;\'s stupid enough to hurt youu he isnt worth itt you\'re so much valuablee than he\'ll EVER bee'); return false;">quote</a></div> @jvrie -

I am so sorry to hear that,I know EXACLTY how you feel dont worry girlie you’re gonna be okay just give it time at night instaed of thinikinngg watch one of your fav moviee till you get exhausted that way you dont end up tjhinking of him. Girl look at hte brightside of it!! if he;’s stupid enough to hurt youu he isnt worth itt you’re so much valuablee than he’ll EVER bee

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]]> By: Success Story: How Closure Made Me Stronger http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/comment-page-2/#comment-5513 Success Story: How Closure Made Me Stronger Mon, 02 Nov 2009 19:17:59 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/#comment-5513 [...] He fell off his pedestal. For me, this was closure. [...]<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5513','Success Story: How Closure Made Me Stronger'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5513','Success Story: How Closure Made Me Stronger','[...] He fell off his pedestal. For me, this was closure. [...]'); return false;">quote</a></div> [...] He fell off his pedestal. For me, this was closure. [...]
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]]> By: jvrie http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/comment-page-2/#comment-5507 jvrie Sat, 31 Oct 2009 23:41:12 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/#comment-5507 heLLo.. =') me & my boyfriend broke up a month ago. we've been together 4 almost 7 months, i know 8s not dat long compare to others experiences. but why do i feel so much pain. i thout breaking up w/ him can lessen the pain and gvs me relief. but why do i suffer more ? it really hurts to see he's doing well while im suffering.. crying ol nyt. :( and thinking of him ol d tym. T_T i know i should accept and face the fact. i know that im too young i know that there's a lot of boys out dr i cn find some1 better, some1 who deserve me some1 who will love me 4 hu i am some1 who will accept me some1 who will never leave me... but why do i can't 4get him why do i feel sooo much sadness why i want him back. i really3 do want him back. bt 8 seems dat he don't like & love me anymore. he don't even communc8 2 me. it really2 hurts to see dat we're both online but he dont even pm me. shud i do d 1st move? =( i already send him a priv8 msg b4... bt he didn't reply. he deleted ol my comments and msgs to him. what should i do? pls help me should i tell him dat i still love him??? what if he wl reject me? :( like wat he did to her ex girlfriend? T_T or should i 4get him? time heals as what dy always says. i really3 want to forget dis feelings . now . i cnt w8 4 dt tym to cum. i want to be HAPPY again. i did my best. i kept my self busy & enjoying my self w/ my friends. bt when im, alone i cant help it bt cry :'( d more i 4get him d more i think of him. ='( T_T i'm tired crying...<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5507','jvrie'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5507','jvrie','heLLo.. =\')\r\nme & my boyfriend broke up a month ago.\r\nwe\'ve been together 4 almost 7 months, \r\ni know 8s not dat long compare to others experiences.\r\nbut why do i feel so much pain.\r\n\r\n\r\ni thout breaking up w\/ him can lessen the pain and gvs me relief.\r\nbut why do i suffer more ?\r\n\r\nit really hurts to see he\'s doing well while im suffering.. crying ol nyt. :( and thinking of him ol d tym. T_T\r\n\r\ni know i should accept and face the fact.\r\ni know that im too young\r\ni know that there\'s a lot of boys out dr i cn find some1 better,\r\nsome1 who deserve me\r\nsome1 who will love me 4 hu i am\r\nsome1 who will accept me\r\nsome1 who will never leave me...\r\n\r\nbut why do i can\'t 4get him\r\nwhy do i feel sooo much sadness\r\n\r\n why i want him back.\r\n\r\ni really3 do want him back.\r\n\r\nbt 8 seems dat he don\'t like & love me anymore.\r\n\r\nhe don\'t even communc8 2 me.\r\n\r\nit really2 hurts to see dat we\'re both online but he dont even pm me. shud i do d 1st move? =(\r\n\r\ni already send him a priv8 msg b4... bt he didn\'t reply.\r\n\r\nhe deleted ol my comments and msgs to him.\r\n\r\nwhat should i do?\r\npls help me\r\n\r\nshould i tell him dat i still love him???\r\nwhat if he wl reject me? :( like wat he did to her ex girlfriend? T_T\r\n\r\nor should i 4get him?\r\ntime heals as what dy always says.\r\n\r\ni really3 want to forget dis feelings . now .\r\ni cnt w8 4 dt tym to cum.\r\ni want to be HAPPY again.\r\n\r\ni did my best. i kept my self busy & enjoying my self w\/ my friends.\r\nbt when im, alone i cant help it bt cry :\'(\r\nd more i 4get him d more i think of him.\r\n\r\n=\'(\r\n\r\nT_T\r\n\r\ni\'m tired crying...'); return false;">quote</a></div> heLLo.. =’)
me & my boyfriend broke up a month ago.
we’ve been together 4 almost 7 months,
i know 8s not dat long compare to others experiences.
but why do i feel so much pain.

i thout breaking up w/ him can lessen the pain and gvs me relief.
but why do i suffer more ?

it really hurts to see he’s doing well while im suffering.. crying ol nyt. :( and thinking of him ol d tym. T_T

i know i should accept and face the fact.
i know that im too young
i know that there’s a lot of boys out dr i cn find some1 better,
some1 who deserve me
some1 who will love me 4 hu i am
some1 who will accept me
some1 who will never leave me…

but why do i can’t 4get him
why do i feel sooo much sadness

why i want him back.

i really3 do want him back.

bt 8 seems dat he don’t like & love me anymore.

he don’t even communc8 2 me.

it really2 hurts to see dat we’re both online but he dont even pm me. shud i do d 1st move? =(

i already send him a priv8 msg b4… bt he didn’t reply.

he deleted ol my comments and msgs to him.

what should i do?
pls help me

should i tell him dat i still love him???
what if he wl reject me? :( like wat he did to her ex girlfriend? T_T

or should i 4get him?
time heals as what dy always says.

i really3 want to forget dis feelings . now .
i cnt w8 4 dt tym to cum.
i want to be HAPPY again.

i did my best. i kept my self busy & enjoying my self w/ my friends.
bt when im, alone i cant help it bt cry :’(
d more i 4get him d more i think of him.

=’(

T_T

i’m tired crying…

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]]> By: danny gomez http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/comment-page-2/#comment-5458 danny gomez Tue, 20 Oct 2009 08:32:41 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/#comment-5458 I have broke up with my girlfriend 5 years ago and i still can get over her.. i see her as the perfect one.. i have been in other realtionships but that has not made it any better. another thing that makes it tough is that we have a daughter so i can't avoid seeing her... i mean i hardly talk to her and I only see her when I see my daughter.. I know i was the one who screwed over but its tough!!<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5458','danny gomez'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5458','danny gomez','I have broke up with my girlfriend 5 years ago and i still can get over her.. i see her as the perfect one.. i have been in other realtionships but that has not made it any better. another thing that makes it tough is that we have a daughter so i can\'t avoid seeing her... i mean i hardly talk to her and I only see her when I see my daughter.. I know i was the one who screwed over but its tough!!'); return false;">quote</a></div> I have broke up with my girlfriend 5 years ago and i still can get over her.. i see her as the perfect one.. i have been in other realtionships but that has not made it any better. another thing that makes it tough is that we have a daughter so i can’t avoid seeing her… i mean i hardly talk to her and I only see her when I see my daughter.. I know i was the one who screwed over but its tough!!
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]]> By: Celiy http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/comment-page-2/#comment-5371 Celiy Wed, 30 Sep 2009 07:19:11 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/#comment-5371 My boyfriend broke up with me last friday and i went through the mourning stage, but i rarely cried after it being nearly two years. I'm ready to try to not make it awkward and be friends, but he keeps yelling at me, and won't let me talk to him, because my best friend keeps interfering, and its pissing me off frankly. Now my ex and i have been great friends before and i know he's really nice... but even if i retracted all my friends he'd still be mad. Should I try to talk to him and see what is bugging him, besides the obvious with my friend?<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5371','Celiy'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5371','Celiy','My boyfriend broke up with me last friday and i went through the mourning stage, but i rarely cried after it being nearly two years. I\'m ready to try to not make it awkward and be friends, but he keeps yelling at me, and won\'t let me talk to him, because my best friend keeps interfering, and its pissing me off frankly. Now my ex and i have been great friends before and i know he\'s really nice... but even if i retracted all my friends he\'d still be mad.\r\n\r\nShould I try to talk to him and see what is bugging him, besides the obvious with my friend?'); return false;">quote</a></div> My boyfriend broke up with me last friday and i went through the mourning stage, but i rarely cried after it being nearly two years. I’m ready to try to not make it awkward and be friends, but he keeps yelling at me, and won’t let me talk to him, because my best friend keeps interfering, and its pissing me off frankly. Now my ex and i have been great friends before and i know he’s really nice… but even if i retracted all my friends he’d still be mad.

Should I try to talk to him and see what is bugging him, besides the obvious with my friend?

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]]> By: Jay http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/comment-page-1/#comment-5334 Jay Sat, 19 Sep 2009 23:58:26 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/#comment-5334 Wow. After an 8 month relationship, I just got broken up with. I got a DM on Twitter (worse than a text message). Saying she thought her (abusive, manipulative) ex husband would make her happier than I would. We'd been together 12 hours previously (we're in a long distance relationship), and she'd been distant all week... so I guess I know why now. After we parted, I tried to call her to tell her I loved her. No answer. Tried to call her from the airport. No answer. Tried to call her when I got home. No answer. At midnight, breakup DM. It's 2 days later, and I have no idea how I'll ever get over this. Mostly it's the total lack of closure. Of why. Of what went wrong (the trip was great besides her distance, which I chalked up to her work). Of what I did. Of why she couldn't TALK to me, even via EMAIL, or a VOICEMAIL.... a 100 character breakup message, followed by silence? I've finally moved to the point where I'm no longer calling her. I've realized it wasn't an accident, nor was it her ex, since she's been silent for 36 hours. She did actually break up. While I feel a huge need to get drunk, I'm not going to call anymore. I have no idea why it happened or what to do, but I'm at least going to have enough self respect to not beg. I hope. Gawd.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5334','Jay'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5334','Jay','Wow. After an 8 month relationship, I just got broken up with. I got a DM on Twitter (worse than a text message). Saying she thought her (abusive, manipulative) ex husband would make her happier than I would.\r\n\r\nWe\'d been together 12 hours previously (we\'re in a long distance relationship), and she\'d been distant all week... so I guess I know why now.\r\n\r\nAfter we parted, I tried to call her to tell her I loved her. No answer. Tried to call her from the airport. No answer. Tried to call her when I got home. No answer. At midnight, breakup DM.\r\n\r\nIt\'s 2 days later, and I have no idea how I\'ll ever get over this. Mostly it\'s the total lack of closure. Of why. Of what went wrong (the trip was great besides her distance, which I chalked up to her work). Of what I did. Of why she couldn\'t TALK to me, even via EMAIL, or a VOICEMAIL.... a 100 character breakup message, followed by silence?\r\n\r\nI\'ve finally moved to the point where I\'m no longer calling her. I\'ve realized it wasn\'t an accident, nor was it her ex, since she\'s been silent for 36 hours. She did actually break up. While I feel a huge need to get drunk, I\'m not going to call anymore. I have no idea why it happened or what to do, but I\'m at least going to have enough self respect to not beg.\r\n\r\nI hope.\r\n\r\nGawd.'); return false;">quote</a></div> Wow. After an 8 month relationship, I just got broken up with. I got a DM on Twitter (worse than a text message). Saying she thought her (abusive, manipulative) ex husband would make her happier than I would.

We’d been together 12 hours previously (we’re in a long distance relationship), and she’d been distant all week… so I guess I know why now.

After we parted, I tried to call her to tell her I loved her. No answer. Tried to call her from the airport. No answer. Tried to call her when I got home. No answer. At midnight, breakup DM.

It’s 2 days later, and I have no idea how I’ll ever get over this. Mostly it’s the total lack of closure. Of why. Of what went wrong (the trip was great besides her distance, which I chalked up to her work). Of what I did. Of why she couldn’t TALK to me, even via EMAIL, or a VOICEMAIL…. a 100 character breakup message, followed by silence?

I’ve finally moved to the point where I’m no longer calling her. I’ve realized it wasn’t an accident, nor was it her ex, since she’s been silent for 36 hours. She did actually break up. While I feel a huge need to get drunk, I’m not going to call anymore. I have no idea why it happened or what to do, but I’m at least going to have enough self respect to not beg.

I hope.

Gawd.

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]]> By: Sharon http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/comment-page-1/#comment-5312 Sharon Wed, 16 Sep 2009 00:00:19 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/#comment-5312 I can now look at this message and it seems soooo dramatic. I thought my husband was the the best thing that had happened to me, but since the previous message I discovered he was texting and forwarding my personal texts to his new lady friend. He slept with her on the 13 july and text me on the 15th July to say we could make a go of it. I NOW FEEL LIKE i CAN NEVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I love him, but now that i KNOW HE HAS SLEPT WITH Sarah St Clair Gunn within a few hours of meeting ( slapper ) I dont think the relationship will work. Although it is me who has travelled 208 miles to be together, and he still thinks he has done nothing wrong cuz we where on '' a break ''. Everyone and anyone can do beter !<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5312','Sharon'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5312','Sharon','I can now look at this message and it seems soooo dramatic. I thought my husband was the the best thing that had happened to me, but since the previous message I discovered he was texting and forwarding my personal texts to his new lady friend. He slept with her on the 13 july and text me on the 15th July to say we could make a go of it. I NOW FEEL LIKE i CAN NEVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I love him, but now that i KNOW HE HAS SLEPT WITH Sarah St Clair Gunn within a few hours of meeting ( slapper ) I dont think the relationship will work. Although it is me who has travelled 208 miles to be together, and he still thinks he has done nothing wrong cuz we where on \'\' a break \'\'. Everyone and anyone can do beter !'); return false;">quote</a></div> I can now look at this message and it seems soooo dramatic. I thought my husband was the the best thing that had happened to me, but since the previous message I discovered he was texting and forwarding my personal texts to his new lady friend. He slept with her on the 13 july and text me on the 15th July to say we could make a go of it. I NOW FEEL LIKE i CAN NEVER TRUST HIM AGAIN. I love him, but now that i KNOW HE HAS SLEPT WITH Sarah St Clair Gunn within a few hours of meeting ( slapper ) I dont think the relationship will work. Although it is me who has travelled 208 miles to be together, and he still thinks he has done nothing wrong cuz we where on ” a break ”. Everyone and anyone can do beter !
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]]> By: Sharon http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/comment-page-1/#comment-5311 Sharon Tue, 15 Sep 2009 23:51:01 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/#comment-5311 <a href='#comment-4869' rel="nofollow">@stephanie</a> - please get in touch and let me know how you are gettign on, Sharon x<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5311','Sharon'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5311','Sharon','<a href=\'#comment-4869\' rel=\"nofollow\">@stephanie<\/a> - please get in touch and let me know how you are gettign on, Sharon x'); return false;">quote</a></div> @stephanie – please get in touch and let me know how you are gettign on, Sharon x
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]]> By: Staci http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/comment-page-1/#comment-5264 Staci Wed, 02 Sep 2009 18:50:24 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/getting-over-a-break-up-the-final-chapter/#comment-5264 Reading all of these comments have helped me feel not so alone. My boyfriend lived with me for 2 years. I had never let myself trust or love anyone before him. From the beginning, he told me repeatedly that i needed to trust him and stop being insecure and I did. I believed we would always be together and love each other no matter what. From the beginning, if we got into an argument he would leave and not take my calls. He would say he was never coming back but after a day or two, he always did. He did that about 5 times in 2 years. The last time he did it was 4 months ago. He told me he would never come back and that i needed to focus on myself. After a week, he came back. He said that being without me didnt feel 'normal' for him. He said that he couldn't imagine his life with out me. Then, he lost his job. I've been financially and emotionally supporting him for 4 months. I did my best to keep his self esteem up. We got along better and argued less than we had for the 20 months before. I was really truly happy and felt at peace. Then, Saturday before last, i went to my neices birthday and he called and said he was leaving. He hasn't spoken to me sence. I have emailed him and he has only responded to 3 of my emails. Each time, he has said i need to move on and get over him. He said he is never comming back and he has things he needs to accomplish. In his last email, he told me he has "been where I am" and he know's it hurts, but i've got to let go. He said he couldn't be "everything" to some one. I told him that he wasn't everything to me, but he was everything i wanted in a man. I'm just in such incredible shock. I don't understand how some one can just shatter the life of someone they supposedly loved.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5264','Staci'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5264','Staci','Reading all of these comments have helped me feel not so alone. My boyfriend lived with me for 2 years. I had never let myself trust or love anyone before him. From the beginning, he told me repeatedly that i needed to trust him and stop being insecure and I did. I believed we would always be together and love each other no matter what. From the beginning, if we got into an argument he would leave and not take my calls. He would say he was never coming back but after a day or two, he always did. He did that about 5 times in 2 years. The last time he did it was 4 months ago. He told me he would never come back and that i needed to focus on myself. After a week, he came back. He said that being without me didnt feel \'normal\' for him. He said that he couldn\'t imagine his life with out me. Then, he lost his job. I\'ve been financially and emotionally supporting him for 4 months. I did my best to keep his self esteem up. We got along better and argued less than we had for the 20 months before. I was really truly happy and felt at peace. Then, Saturday before last, i went to my neices birthday and he called and said he was leaving. He hasn\'t spoken to me sence. I have emailed him and he has only responded to 3 of my emails. Each time, he has said i need to move on and get over him. He said he is never comming back and he has things he needs to accomplish. In his last email, he told me he has \"been where I am\" and he know\'s it hurts, but i\'ve got to let go. He said he couldn\'t be \"everything\" to some one. I told him that he wasn\'t everything to me, but he was everything i wanted in a man.\r\nI\'m just in such incredible shock. I don\'t understand how some one can just shatter the life of someone they supposedly loved.'); return false;">quote</a></div> Reading all of these comments have helped me feel not so alone. My boyfriend lived with me for 2 years. I had never let myself trust or love anyone before him. From the beginning, he told me repeatedly that i needed to trust him and stop being insecure and I did. I believed we would always be together and love each other no matter what. From the beginning, if we got into an argument he would leave and not take my calls. He would say he was never coming back but after a day or two, he always did. He did that about 5 times in 2 years. The last time he did it was 4 months ago. He told me he would never come back and that i needed to focus on myself. After a week, he came back. He said that being without me didnt feel ‘normal’ for him. He said that he couldn’t imagine his life with out me. Then, he lost his job. I’ve been financially and emotionally supporting him for 4 months. I did my best to keep his self esteem up. We got along better and argued less than we had for the 20 months before. I was really truly happy and felt at peace. Then, Saturday before last, i went to my neices birthday and he called and said he was leaving. He hasn’t spoken to me sence. I have emailed him and he has only responded to 3 of my emails. Each time, he has said i need to move on and get over him. He said he is never comming back and he has things he needs to accomplish. In his last email, he told me he has “been where I am” and he know’s it hurts, but i’ve got to let go. He said he couldn’t be “everything” to some one. I told him that he wasn’t everything to me, but he was everything i wanted in a man.
I’m just in such incredible shock. I don’t understand how some one can just shatter the life of someone they supposedly loved.
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