Comments on: Getting Over A Break Up – The Final Chapter

By: ready2moveon

ready2moveon — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 03:42:00 +0000

My ex and I have broke up more times than I care to admit, I am the one that usually leaves recently we decided to move back in together as I packed up my things to move back in she picked a fight with me, and told me to stay in my apartment, I am just wanting to move on with my life because this relationship is an unhappy and unstable one but what happens is I don’t seem to get all the way through the grief process and cave in and go back of which is usually worse, and I am always regretful of going back. I just want to move on with my life but over a period of time it becomes very painful and like I said I cave in and go back.

By: Eddie Corbano

Eddie Corbano — Fri, 16 Sep 2011 15:15:00 +0000

You’re welcome, glad I could help!

By: Poop

Poop — Mon, 12 Sep 2011 05:57:00 +0000

For me it actually took about a month. First week or two was bad. I almost quit my job and I had been driven out of my apartment close to my family and I was in horrid debt. I lost alot but I gained so much more. Now I know what never to do again. I dated a sociopath or close go it.. It’s been over a year. I’m healed about 95%. you’ll never be 100% but don’t you dare let a negative breakup affect you and change you into a bad person for your next one. Or it’s just a cycle you see

By: Bla

Bla — Sat, 18 Jun 2011 17:02:00 +0000

these articles are amazing and after feeling awful i feel so much better now. thank you.

By: Frozen-in-time

Frozen-in-time — Mon, 04 Apr 2011 13:30:00 +0000

I can’t believe I found this site. Sort of an on-line support group! My story is short. My huband died in 1995 at the age of 35 leaving me with a 3 year old and a 16 month old. I didn’t date anyone until 2005, married him in 2006, divorced in 2007. He ruined my life, destroyed me financially. Now I can barely make ends meet as he took me for all my savings and my farm. It was 3 years before I tried going on a date….and he certainly wasn’t the match for me. A year later, was contacted by someone. Started with emails, led to phone conversations, talked twice a day, got along great! And yesterday, he decides we live too far apart to continue the relationship…It’s about an hours drive and yet both of us own our own business and don’t have to worry about kids.

Quite frankly, I am disillunsioned and tired of rejection. It just doesn’t seem to get any easier. I think it is the “starting over again” that I am tired of. It’s really really hard to see the positives in myself. Or to be confident at all. It’s like someone has knocked the wind out of my sails and I sit in limbo again.

What I really want to do is just go and talk face to face with this man (we ended it over the phone!) and discuss the “distance” issue. But I know this would be wrong. Why can’t I just accept this and let it go? Why do I keep thinking about this when he has told me how he feels. He says it isn’t about me, it is about the distance. Why do I feel the need to discuss this with him further?? Why can’t I just give it up? How do I just give up this feeling that I need to talk about this still with him?

Agggghhhhhh!! I feel frozen in time again!

By: Eddie Corbano

Eddie Corbano — Sun, 06 Mar 2011 10:04:00 +0000

Facing the Ex means seeing them, talking to them.

But Careful! This is the very last step in breakup recovery, do this when you are essentially over your Ex, but feel incapable of making the very last step because of over-idealizing your Ex.

This can help you to realize that you are already over them, all that held you back was in your head alone.

Again careful! Do this too early and you will crush and burn.

By: Fred

Fred — Sat, 12 Feb 2011 20:01:00 +0000

Hey Ms. Florida- Call a friend or relative. You have a lot on your plate. If your son says you are beautiful you must be! What happened? Tell us your story. It will help.

By: Anon

Anon — Tue, 28 Dec 2010 15:50:00 +0000

Thank you. It is a relief to hear that others have been there and are somehow getting through. I have read practically everything there is to read on this website and practising the no contact rule. Mine was a partnership of 27 years and I never thought for one minute that this would happen. Its just dismal: the crying, the hollowness, the endless thinking of her, the imagining of them together, the inability to function normally, no eating. Can’t even contemplate how my own life might be changed for the better. I guess its true, but impossible to see at this juncture. Thanks so much for the suppor.

By: Bubbies

Bubbies — Tue, 28 Dec 2010 00:37:00 +0000

I’m so sorry to hear how hard you are finding it. I know exactly where you’re coming from, I was there 11 weeks ago. You’ve taken the first big step finding this website. The best place to start might be reading all of the articles. The one that really clicked with me is the one about ‘why a break up might be the best thing to ever happen to you’. Basically, it is asking you the question why you think that you need your ex to be happy, and telling you that you don’t, and true happiness lies only within yourself.

This is a huge, difficult, rocky and sad journey. But you will be ok. You will survive. You’ve got to view it as an opportunity to change your life now for the better. This site is a life saver, read everything, all the comments as well, post regularly, and in real life, use your friends and family if you can.

Good luck x

By: Anon

Anon — Mon, 27 Dec 2010 17:37:00 +0000

Does anybody know when the crying actually stops? I haven’t come out of the shock of it after four weeks and can’t get her out of my head, and have no energy to do anything but sit still and gaze into space and cry. I am terrified that there is no end to this awful situation and I feel like I would rather not exist than feel this pain.