Comments on: Getting Over A Break Up – The Final Chapter

By: Berny

Berny — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 02:58:00 +0000

@6739f26b5ba8490a48a6555121ef7a01:disqus : Bro, i can understand what u are feeling. I guess most of the men been through it…thats why i have decided not to date anyone in same class/office… the only thing u can do is be strong and try to be normal. Dont get into depression mode when u see here. Try putting on that fake smile and fake happiness. Dont let her win over u and…Even she thinks u dont exist, she may have eye on you. Best way to fight back is to be happy..i know its hard. But be a man, try having fun and keep saying urself ‘u are fine’..because at sometime ur brain starts accepting it. and u will move on. I know how it feels at this moment. But after few days u will just sit and laugh about it for wasting ur precious student life. I have been through hell of a times dude..so dont give much importance to all these things..buzz me back if u are still wanna talk..we all are here for u..remember : “cry for cuts and stiches, not for bastards and bitches”

regards

berny..

By: fish74

fish74 — Mon, 13 Feb 2012 18:50:00 +0000

Tejas,

I feel your pain, I truely do. I work with my ex and seeing her everyday is SHEER HELL. She has no problem laughing and carrying on like we didnt even ever happen. She moved out of my home suddenly, a few days after Thanksgiving and though my birthday was two weeks ago, she didnt say a word. That is after I went WAY out of my way to make her birthday a special one. Leave your email if you want/need someone to talk to. Though I dont have good advice on how to handle it, I find that reading stories here helps.

By: Tejas Shastha

Tejas Shastha — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 16:59:00 +0000

Sophie help me understand this, you chose to leave him because he loved you TOO MUCH?! I ask because i feel i have been the victim of similar circumstances.

By: Tejas Shastha

Tejas Shastha — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 16:51:00 +0000

Do you have any advice for dealing with an ex-girlfriend in the same class who pretends i don`t even exist while i`m drowning in misery every second? I have to see her everyday for the next year before college finally ends and i can get far away from her.

By: ready2moveon

ready2moveon — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 03:42:00 +0000

My ex and I have broke up more times than I care to admit, I am the one that usually leaves recently we decided to move back in together as I packed up my things to move back in she picked a fight with me, and told me to stay in my apartment, I am just wanting to move on with my life because this relationship is an unhappy and unstable one but what happens is I don’t seem to get all the way through the grief process and cave in and go back of which is usually worse, and I am always regretful of going back. I just want to move on with my life but over a period of time it becomes very painful and like I said I cave in and go back.

By: Eddie Corbano

Eddie Corbano — Fri, 16 Sep 2011 15:15:00 +0000

You’re welcome, glad I could help!

By: Poop

Poop — Mon, 12 Sep 2011 05:57:00 +0000

For me it actually took about a month. First week or two was bad. I almost quit my job and I had been driven out of my apartment close to my family and I was in horrid debt. I lost alot but I gained so much more. Now I know what never to do again. I dated a sociopath or close go it.. It’s been over a year. I’m healed about 95%. you’ll never be 100% but don’t you dare let a negative breakup affect you and change you into a bad person for your next one. Or it’s just a cycle you see

By: Bla

Bla — Sat, 18 Jun 2011 17:02:00 +0000

these articles are amazing and after feeling awful i feel so much better now. thank you.

By: Frozen-in-time

Frozen-in-time — Mon, 04 Apr 2011 13:30:00 +0000

I can’t believe I found this site. Sort of an on-line support group! My story is short. My huband died in 1995 at the age of 35 leaving me with a 3 year old and a 16 month old. I didn’t date anyone until 2005, married him in 2006, divorced in 2007. He ruined my life, destroyed me financially. Now I can barely make ends meet as he took me for all my savings and my farm. It was 3 years before I tried going on a date….and he certainly wasn’t the match for me. A year later, was contacted by someone. Started with emails, led to phone conversations, talked twice a day, got along great! And yesterday, he decides we live too far apart to continue the relationship…It’s about an hours drive and yet both of us own our own business and don’t have to worry about kids.

Quite frankly, I am disillunsioned and tired of rejection. It just doesn’t seem to get any easier. I think it is the “starting over again” that I am tired of. It’s really really hard to see the positives in myself. Or to be confident at all. It’s like someone has knocked the wind out of my sails and I sit in limbo again.

What I really want to do is just go and talk face to face with this man (we ended it over the phone!) and discuss the “distance” issue. But I know this would be wrong. Why can’t I just accept this and let it go? Why do I keep thinking about this when he has told me how he feels. He says it isn’t about me, it is about the distance. Why do I feel the need to discuss this with him further?? Why can’t I just give it up? How do I just give up this feeling that I need to talk about this still with him?

Agggghhhhhh!! I feel frozen in time again!

By: Eddie Corbano

Eddie Corbano — Sun, 06 Mar 2011 10:04:00 +0000

Facing the Ex means seeing them, talking to them.

But Careful! This is the very last step in breakup recovery, do this when you are essentially over your Ex, but feel incapable of making the very last step because of over-idealizing your Ex.

This can help you to realize that you are already over them, all that held you back was in your head alone.

Again careful! Do this too early and you will crush and burn.