Comments on: Have YOU Made These Mistakes After Your Relationship Break Up? http://lovesagame.com/have-you-made-these-mistakes-after-your-relationship-break-up/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=have-you-made-these-mistakes-after-your-relationship-break-up Learn how to survive a break up, rediscover your true self and find Mr/s Right Wed, 08 Feb 2012 12:27:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Broken ass man http://lovesagame.com/have-you-made-these-mistakes-after-your-relationship-break-up/comment-page-4/#comment-19314 Broken ass man Thu, 05 Jan 2012 15:36:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=163#comment-19314 Dustin, I feel your pain and your story is much like my own.  The major difference is that I also WORK with my ex.  It is hell to see her everyday.  Beautiful, happy and cold.  You aren't alone, and I guess I'm not either. BAM Dustin,

I feel your pain and your story is much like my own.  The major difference is that I also WORK with my ex.  It is hell to see her everyday.  Beautiful, happy and cold.  You aren’t alone, and I guess I’m not either.
BAM

]]> By: Eddie Corbano http://lovesagame.com/have-you-made-these-mistakes-after-your-relationship-break-up/comment-page-4/#comment-19220 Eddie Corbano Fri, 30 Dec 2011 09:05:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=163#comment-19220 Dustin, I'm sorry for what you went through. But know that No-Contact is the beginning of a bumpy road towards healing. You are NOT alone. Eddie Dustin, I’m sorry for what you went through. But know that No-Contact is the beginning of a bumpy road towards healing. You are NOT alone.

Eddie

]]> By: Zaa http://lovesagame.com/have-you-made-these-mistakes-after-your-relationship-break-up/comment-page-4/#comment-18601 Zaa Sun, 20 Nov 2011 05:05:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=163#comment-18601 Sad thing is, when my (now ex) wife begged me not to leave her, I stayed. But when I begged her not to leave a few months later, she told her best friend that it was "A very low point" from me to ask her that. And then proceeded to leave me. "Treat others as you would like to be treated?" Yeah. Right. Sad thing is, when my (now ex) wife begged me not to leave her, I stayed. But when I begged her not to leave a few months later, she told her best friend that it was “A very low point” from me to ask her that. And then proceeded to leave me. “Treat others as you would like to be treated?” Yeah. Right.

]]> By: Ihotunot http://lovesagame.com/have-you-made-these-mistakes-after-your-relationship-break-up/comment-page-4/#comment-18598 Ihotunot Sat, 19 Nov 2011 09:55:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=163#comment-18598 Jessica when i read your post, it seems like i'm reading about the last 4 months of my life. I seem to have the exact same sequence of events as you. I have these phases every 2 or 3 days where at first I think i'm ready to move on and really happy and then on a different day I'm struggling to not call him and tell him to "lets give things another shot". The tougher part is not the fact that I need to move on, but that I seem to miss what I'm leaving behind.  Jessica when i read your post, it seems like i’m reading about the last 4 months of my life. I seem to have the exact same sequence of events as you. I have these phases every 2 or 3 days where at first I think i’m ready to move on and really happy and then on a different day I’m struggling to not call him and tell him to “lets give things another shot”. The tougher part is not the fact that I need to move on, but that I seem to miss what I’m leaving behind. 

]]> By: Confused http://lovesagame.com/have-you-made-these-mistakes-after-your-relationship-break-up/comment-page-4/#comment-18592 Confused Fri, 18 Nov 2011 01:26:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=163#comment-18592 Wow, am i glad to read this post. just when i thought nobody understood what it was like to be a girl that dumps a guy and feels so horribly afterward when she should be feeling strong for not settling, i read your post. after a very unhealthy relationship all throughout college of back and forth, i was single for an entire year and did the NC rule and it worked out great. a lot of pain at first, but ultimately made me realize that i will never settle for being treated poorly or with disrespect. my second year out of college, i met an amazing guy-who i honestly thought was the one. there were no games like my previous relationship, no disrespect..just honesty. unfortunately, him being an athlete he travels a ton which led us into being into a long distance relationship for a year. things began to change (namely, me trying to tell him things that were bothering me and him writing them off like he didnt care) and our relationship started being consumed by arguing. after my last visit to him, i realized how badly he really had started to treat me. name calling, constantly critisizing the way i look as if i wasn't good enough for him, talking to me poorly in front of his friends, etc. when i returned home i gave it a long thought and tried to talk to him about it for the last time, but he continued to call me "crazy"..gotta love when guys do that..and that he "treated me fine". so i did it, i brokeup with him. i have never broken up with someone before, and ill be honest..i thought that doing this would make him come crawling back and realize how poorly he was treating me and that i deserved better. the opposite happened. we continued to fight because he wouldn't leave me alone, then we saw eachother..things were great..and now it is him that holds all the power and knowing i want to be back with him has him constantly giving me the run around and playing games with me. it's like nothing has changed; then when i ask him about what we are hes "not ready" and "me bringing it up pushes him away". any advice for this..how did he regain all the power and get to push me around when i'm the one that brokeup with him? does he just want to have his cake and eat it too? Wow, am i glad to read this post. just when i thought nobody understood what it was like to be a girl that dumps a guy and feels so horribly afterward when she should be feeling strong for not settling, i read your post.

after a very unhealthy relationship all throughout college of back and forth, i was single for an entire year and did the NC rule and it worked out great. a lot of pain at first, but ultimately made me realize that i will never settle for being treated poorly or with disrespect.

my second year out of college, i met an amazing guy-who i honestly thought was the one. there were no games like my previous relationship, no disrespect..just honesty. unfortunately, him being an athlete he travels a ton which led us into being into a long distance relationship for a year. things began to change (namely, me trying to tell him things that were bothering me and him writing them off like he didnt care) and our relationship started being consumed by arguing.

after my last visit to him, i realized how badly he really had started to treat me. name calling, constantly critisizing the way i look as if i wasn’t good enough for him, talking to me poorly in front of his friends, etc. when i returned home i gave it a long thought and tried to talk to him about it for the last time, but he continued to call me “crazy”..gotta love when guys do that..and that he “treated me fine”.

so i did it, i brokeup with him. i have never broken up with someone before, and ill be honest..i thought that doing this would make him come crawling back and realize how poorly he was treating me and that i deserved better. the opposite happened.

we continued to fight because he wouldn’t leave me alone, then we saw eachother..things were great..and now it is him that holds all the power and knowing i want to be back with him has him constantly giving me the run around and playing games with me. it’s like nothing has changed; then when i ask him about what we are hes “not ready” and “me bringing it up pushes him away”.

any advice for this..how did he regain all the power and get to push me around when i’m the one that brokeup with him? does he just want to have his cake and eat it too?

]]> By: Jessica http://lovesagame.com/have-you-made-these-mistakes-after-your-relationship-break-up/comment-page-4/#comment-18522 Jessica Sun, 06 Nov 2011 15:41:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=163#comment-18522 My boyfriend of 4 months ended our relationship yesterday, I know a very staggering length of time (im being sarcastic), and I cried for at least an hour while hugging him. Even at the time, I knew it was a dumb move to make, but I couldnt help it. If it was up to me, I would just cry there for days on end and not have to leave him. It still hurts to think that I'll never get the chance to do that again; but he has clearly made up his mind that he had no feelings for me. For the last month, our relationship was lingering because he couldnt decide how he felt about me. Now I guess its clear. I've already said too much and done too much. I asked him why multiple times, knowing full well the answer. I guess its due time that I recover, knowing that I anticipated this for a while now. Its not easy, but I feel its possible. Though my urge to call him at night doesnt seem to be easy to fight.  My boyfriend of 4 months ended our relationship yesterday, I know a very staggering length of time (im being sarcastic), and I cried for at least an hour while hugging him. Even at the time, I knew it was a dumb move to make, but I couldnt help it. If it was up to me, I would just cry there for days on end and not have to leave him. It still hurts to think that I’ll never get the chance to do that again; but he has clearly made up his mind that he had no feelings for me. For the last month, our relationship was lingering because he couldnt decide how he felt about me. Now I guess its clear. I’ve already said too much and done too much. I asked him why multiple times, knowing full well the answer. I guess its due time that I recover, knowing that I anticipated this for a while now. Its not easy, but I feel its possible. Though my urge to call him at night doesnt seem to be easy to fight. 

]]> By: Scrapper14 http://lovesagame.com/have-you-made-these-mistakes-after-your-relationship-break-up/comment-page-4/#comment-18511 Scrapper14 Fri, 04 Nov 2011 22:17:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=163#comment-18511 Wow, I broke up with a guy NINE months ago and we were only together for 11. So basically it's taken nearly as long as we were together to get over the relationship. And I feel as though I might as well have been the "dumpee" with how things have worked out. The first 2 or 3 months things were great. I felt free and knew I deserved more than what he provided for me. Less than 3 months later i found out that he started dating someone new. From that month on, I fell apart. I never knew about the "no-contact" rule that Eddie talks about but I wish i would have. I was the one to reach out a number of times, not him. Why would he? He was stronger than me and quickly moved on. I did tell him i envied him for moving on so fast. He asked why I cared. Afterall I broke up with him. I could have had him. True, but nonetheless I cared for this guy and it was (and is) hard to imagine him with someone else. Then the missing him and loneliness started.. it was too hard to fight and 5 months after we broke up I broke down and called and asked for him back. he said he'd think about it and call me back. The fact that he thought about it for 5 days clearly showed that he wasn't that serious with this other girl. His answer was, "I don't have an answer for you.. yes or no.. so I guess that's the answer for now". I was relieved that was his answer because deep down i would have been getting back together with him for the wrong reason and that reason was: loneliness and regret. and denial that it was over. Had I done the "no-contact" rule, this would never have happened and I can honestly say I probably wouldn't be writing this post right now because the healing would have started WAY earlier than it did. I also tried the "let's be friends" speech because he was the best support I've ever had boyfriend-wise. But he said he could never see me than anything more than a girlfriend. 6 weeks ago I broke down and texted him after not hearing from him in 2 months. He didn't text back and since then I've been beating myself up for giving in. I want to look strong and by texting out of the blue I don't think it looks like that. I think this article is good because I need to stop hating myself and dwelling on the fact that I gave in 6 weeks ago and sent a text. I beat myself up and that is not going to help my self-esteem whatsoever. Most of all... I'm tired of living in the the PAST. While he moved on a LONG time ago, I've have woken up every single day since Feb. 10, thinking about him. I struggle everyday because I am the one who ended the relationship. It shouldn't have been this hard... I like this website but wish there were more stories from the "dumpers". I feel abnormal because this break up has been so painful due to wanting something so much but knowing something was missing... I wouldn't settle and won't.. but that doesn't mean I don't miss him everyday.  If there are any other people who have experienced the pain of ending something please write!  Wow, I broke up with a guy NINE months ago and we were only together for 11. So basically it’s taken nearly as long as we were together to get over the relationship. And I feel as though I might as well have been the “dumpee” with how things have worked out. The first 2 or 3 months things were great. I felt free and knew I deserved more than what he provided for me. Less than 3 months later i found out that he started dating someone new. From that month on, I fell apart. I never knew about the “no-contact” rule that Eddie talks about but I wish i would have. I was the one to reach out a number of times, not him. Why would he? He was stronger than me and quickly moved on. I did tell him i envied him for moving on so fast. He asked why I cared. Afterall I broke up with him. I could have had him. True, but nonetheless I cared for this guy and it was (and is) hard to imagine him with someone else. Then the missing him and loneliness started.. it was too hard to fight and 5 months after we broke up I broke down and called and asked for him back. he said he’d think about it and call me back. The fact that he thought about it for 5 days clearly showed that he wasn’t that serious with this other girl. His answer was, “I don’t have an answer for you.. yes or no.. so I guess that’s the answer for now”. I was relieved that was his answer because deep down i would have been getting back together with him for the wrong reason and that reason was: loneliness and regret. and denial that it was over. Had I done the “no-contact” rule, this would never have happened and I can honestly say I probably wouldn’t be writing this post right now because the healing would have started WAY earlier than it did. I also tried the “let’s be friends” speech because he was the best support I’ve ever had boyfriend-wise. But he said he could never see me than anything more than a girlfriend.
6 weeks ago I broke down and texted him after not hearing from him in 2 months. He didn’t text back and since then I’ve been beating myself up for giving in. I want to look strong and by texting out of the blue I don’t think it looks like that. I think this article is good because I need to stop hating myself and dwelling on the fact that I gave in 6 weeks ago and sent a text. I beat myself up and that is not going to help my self-esteem whatsoever. Most of all… I’m tired of living in the the PAST. While he moved on a LONG time ago, I’ve have woken up every single day since Feb. 10, thinking about him. I struggle everyday because I am the one who ended the relationship. It shouldn’t have been this hard…
I like this website but wish there were more stories from the “dumpers”. I feel abnormal because this break up has been so painful due to wanting something so much but knowing something was missing… I wouldn’t settle and won’t.. but that doesn’t mean I don’t miss him everyday.  If there are any other people who have experienced the pain of ending something please write! 

]]> By: Jonny http://lovesagame.com/have-you-made-these-mistakes-after-your-relationship-break-up/comment-page-4/#comment-18413 Jonny Fri, 21 Oct 2011 15:59:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=163#comment-18413 Don't there is nothing you can do! Act strong keep your mind of her if you stay strong there is better hope in the future for a relationship... If you want it, show her and yourself you can cope as a strong self motivated individual trust me it will just knock your confident and self respect if your crawl back it's not attractive!! Hope that helps Don’t there is nothing you can do!
Act strong keep your mind of her if you stay strong there is better hope in the future for a relationship… If you want it, show her and yourself you can cope as a strong self motivated individual trust me it will just knock your confident and self respect if your crawl back it’s not attractive!!
Hope that helps

]]> By: Awwadmona http://lovesagame.com/have-you-made-these-mistakes-after-your-relationship-break-up/comment-page-4/#comment-18377 Awwadmona Thu, 13 Oct 2011 20:43:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=163#comment-18377 my ex dumbed me after avoiding me, by cancelling dates , less calls and msg. Gave so many wayout to come clean and decent breakup, we were friend for 25 years, and I told him I deserve respect and honesty. so he wrote me that he prefers to stay friends, especially when he got to know me better, he gave no reasons. but he still calls, msg and asks me out, and calls me dearing names. what should i do? my ex dumbed me after avoiding me, by cancelling dates , less calls and msg. Gave so many wayout to come clean and decent breakup, we were friend for 25 years, and I told him I deserve respect and honesty. so he wrote me that he prefers to stay friends, especially when he got to know me better, he gave no reasons. but he still calls, msg and asks me out, and calls me dearing names. what should i do?

]]> By: Movin On http://lovesagame.com/have-you-made-these-mistakes-after-your-relationship-break-up/comment-page-4/#comment-18337 Movin On Sat, 08 Oct 2011 12:58:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=163#comment-18337 If he can't give you the things that are normally given in a relationship then its best that yuopu broke up with him. wither he is not ready to give love or not mature enough to give love. I'm in the same boat right now. A mature man will be SENSITIVE to your needs and to make efforts to make you happy.  If he can’t give you the things that are normally given in a relationship then its best that yuopu broke up with him. wither he is not ready to give love or not mature enough to give love. I’m in the same boat right now. A mature man will be SENSITIVE to your needs and to make efforts to make you happy. 

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