Comments on: How A Relationship Break Up Can Be Your Best Experience http://lovesagame.com/how-a-relationship-break-up-can-be-your-best-experience/ Learn how to survive after breaking up and read some great relationship advice for having new and healthy relationships. Sun, 14 Mar 2010 04:51:41 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Kelsey http://lovesagame.com/how-a-relationship-break-up-can-be-your-best-experience/comment-page-1/#comment-5799 Kelsey Thu, 17 Dec 2009 06:25:17 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=233#comment-5799 So, I was in a Wnderful realtionship for 7 long months. It had its up and downs, twists and turns. The point of the matter is it made me happy, but more often than not it made me very very sad. The boy in question had effort problems and determination issues which became more prominent as time wore on. The last month of our love was the most difficult in which i spent more night crying myself to sleep than feeling the elated happiness of love. Despite the fact I loved him deeply, i broke up with him thinking it would be for the best if we were no longer stuck in this constant struggle. Ultimatly the moment after I broke up with him and he left I couldn't believ what i had done and spent the next month crying and begging to get back together, he just wanted to be friends. I had no idea how to deal with my situation. He was my first boyfriend, love, kiss, ect. and also my first break up. I was lost and confused. I eventualy got over sadness and resorted to anger and hate to hide the feelings for him i still had and resulted in him also beung very irritated with me and no longer caring to be friends. I regret that now but in the end it provided a sense of closure and i am all the happier for it. Yet in the back of my mind i worry i am not realy "over him," that breaking up with him was the right thing to do in the first place. In all my searching i haven't been able to find any advice for people in my posostion.....most are for the "dumpee," not the heartbroken "dumper." I just can't help but wonder if i am doing the right thing at that crossroad.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5799','Kelsey'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5799','Kelsey','So, I was in a Wnderful realtionship for 7 long months. It had its up and downs, twists and turns. The point of the matter is it made me happy, but more often than not it made me very very sad. The boy in question had effort problems and determination issues which became more prominent as time wore on. The last month of our love was the most difficult in which i spent more night crying myself to sleep than feeling the elated happiness of love. Despite the fact I loved him deeply, i broke up with him thinking it would be for the best if we were no longer stuck in this constant struggle. Ultimatly the moment after I broke up with him and he left I couldn\'t believ what i had done and spent the next month crying and begging to get back together, he just wanted to be friends. I had no idea how to deal with my situation. He was my first boyfriend, love, kiss, ect. and also my first break up. I was lost and confused. I eventualy got over sadness and resorted to anger and hate to hide the feelings for him i still had and resulted in him also beung very irritated with me and no longer caring to be friends. I regret that now but in the end it provided a sense of closure and i am all the happier for it. Yet in the back of my mind i worry i am not realy \"over him,\" that breaking up with him was the right thing to do in the first place. In all my searching i haven\'t been able to find any advice for people in my posostion.....most are for the \"dumpee,\" not the heartbroken \"dumper.\" I just can\'t help but wonder if i am doing the right thing at that crossroad.'); return false;">quote</a></div> So, I was in a Wnderful realtionship for 7 long months. It had its up and downs, twists and turns. The point of the matter is it made me happy, but more often than not it made me very very sad. The boy in question had effort problems and determination issues which became more prominent as time wore on. The last month of our love was the most difficult in which i spent more night crying myself to sleep than feeling the elated happiness of love. Despite the fact I loved him deeply, i broke up with him thinking it would be for the best if we were no longer stuck in this constant struggle. Ultimatly the moment after I broke up with him and he left I couldn’t believ what i had done and spent the next month crying and begging to get back together, he just wanted to be friends. I had no idea how to deal with my situation. He was my first boyfriend, love, kiss, ect. and also my first break up. I was lost and confused. I eventualy got over sadness and resorted to anger and hate to hide the feelings for him i still had and resulted in him also beung very irritated with me and no longer caring to be friends. I regret that now but in the end it provided a sense of closure and i am all the happier for it. Yet in the back of my mind i worry i am not realy “over him,” that breaking up with him was the right thing to do in the first place. In all my searching i haven’t been able to find any advice for people in my posostion…..most are for the “dumpee,” not the heartbroken “dumper.” I just can’t help but wonder if i am doing the right thing at that crossroad.
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]]> By: Jessie http://lovesagame.com/how-a-relationship-break-up-can-be-your-best-experience/comment-page-1/#comment-5740 Jessie Wed, 09 Dec 2009 15:15:24 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=233#comment-5740 <a href='#comment-5678' rel="nofollow">@Zack</a> - Zack, after reading your message I thought I had to reply to you. I miss my ex just as much as you do...... and I get sad that he hasn't contacted me. My problem is that I'm letting my life pass me by crying about it. You just gave me enlightenment....because you're moving in the right direction .....You are working on yourself and that's what I need to do. Keep growing...yay Zack! P.S.~>Thank you for the Post, If I hadn't stumbled on it I wouldn't realize what I'm doing wrong.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5740','Jessie'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5740','Jessie','<a href=\'#comment-5678\' rel=\"nofollow\">@Zack<\/a> - Zack, after reading your message I thought I had to reply to you. \r\nI miss my ex just as much as you do...... and I get sad that he hasn\'t contacted me. My problem is that I\'m letting my life pass me by crying about it. You just gave me enlightenment....because you\'re moving in the right direction .....You are working on yourself and that\'s what I need to do. Keep growing...yay Zack! \r\n\r\nP.S.~>Thank you for the Post, If I hadn\'t stumbled on it I wouldn\'t realize what I\'m doing wrong.'); return false;">quote</a></div> @Zack – Zack, after reading your message I thought I had to reply to you.
I miss my ex just as much as you do…… and I get sad that he hasn’t contacted me. My problem is that I’m letting my life pass me by crying about it. You just gave me enlightenment….because you’re moving in the right direction …..You are working on yourself and that’s what I need to do. Keep growing…yay Zack!

P.S.~>Thank you for the Post, If I hadn’t stumbled on it I wouldn’t realize what I’m doing wrong.

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]]> By: Zack http://lovesagame.com/how-a-relationship-break-up-can-be-your-best-experience/comment-page-1/#comment-5678 Zack Wed, 02 Dec 2009 03:00:52 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=233#comment-5678 i can relate to Kevin in case #1, but with some differences,i too had my wife leave me after 3 years. I was so tore up inside, it felt like i couldnt breathe. I took 3 months and did alot of very hard self examination and totally turned my life around. Im in the Army, my life at work has done a 360, i have worked so hard and put so much time into being a better solider and im finally getting promoted. I started going to a gym, ive lost 40 pounds, I've gone out and been on many dates and it has been great. The only thing thats different is, even after all of this self change and self motivation , the pain of lossing my wife doesnt feel any better. I still miss her every day as hard as i have ever missed her. I have tryed " No-contact" and it just seems to make me want her more. I dont know what im doing worng.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5678','Zack'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5678','Zack','i can relate to Kevin in case #1, but with some differences,i too had my wife leave me after 3 years. I was so tore up inside, it felt like i couldnt breathe. I took 3 months and did alot of very hard self examination and totally turned my life around. Im in the Army, my life at work has done a 360, i have worked so hard and put so much time into being a better solider and im finally getting promoted. I started going to a gym, ive lost 40 pounds, I\'ve gone out and been on many dates and it has been great. The only thing thats different is, even after all of this self change and self motivation , the pain of lossing my wife doesnt feel any better. I still miss her every day as hard as i have ever missed her. I have tryed \" No-contact\" and it just seems to make me want her more. I dont know what im doing worng.'); return false;">quote</a></div> i can relate to Kevin in case #1, but with some differences,i too had my wife leave me after 3 years. I was so tore up inside, it felt like i couldnt breathe. I took 3 months and did alot of very hard self examination and totally turned my life around. Im in the Army, my life at work has done a 360, i have worked so hard and put so much time into being a better solider and im finally getting promoted. I started going to a gym, ive lost 40 pounds, I’ve gone out and been on many dates and it has been great. The only thing thats different is, even after all of this self change and self motivation , the pain of lossing my wife doesnt feel any better. I still miss her every day as hard as i have ever missed her. I have tryed ” No-contact” and it just seems to make me want her more. I dont know what im doing worng.
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]]> By: Wendy http://lovesagame.com/how-a-relationship-break-up-can-be-your-best-experience/comment-page-1/#comment-5368 Wendy Tue, 29 Sep 2009 08:46:15 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=233#comment-5368 Well I have read everyones notes on break-ups and feel nothing but empathy for everyone. I am just going through my first break-up after a 9 year drought of being single after abusive marriage and divorce. i have read all the advice on this website, and it is good advice. I spent 9 years trying to find myself, heal, build my self-esteem back after having to deal with an abusive ex who when you have children still have to deal with, however, I have found a way to protect myself, from the abuse, which is working really well. Once I had counseling after 8 years of thinking a wasn't a victim of domestic violence, but once I sort help i found i was already on the road of recovery, and once I was happy within I felt that I was ready for another relationship. I meet a wonderful guy who him and I have so much in common, love spending time with him, and we got along really good!! We thought we had the perfect relationship, and really loved each other. HOWEVER, when we did argue which was very really our relationship was off!! We have broken up 3 times, and tried to work things out, and nominally I would just break up and move on, but being older you would think we were more wiser!! Not so!! Out of the 3 times of breaking up, I did 2 of the break ups and now this 4th was the final one, which I made!! I have tried all methods of support that has been mentioned, and feel terrible about the break up still!! I left a message on his phone, cause he never answered it, I sent it in a txt message as well. The thing is I had doubts, doubts about his trust, whether I could trust him. He tried to organise times to go nightclubbing with his friends, and I understand why females go out clubbing, to dance and enjoy being with their girlfriends, but 2 guys?? This tells me their out to pick up, and we had heaps of fights about this. I thought I might be showing my insecurity as all the guys I went out with including my ex-hub cheated!! So what makes him so different? Once I had enough of the pressure to move in, his unemployment issues, I had had enough!! ended the relationship, and then that weekend he is spotted at the nightclub that my girlfriends go to, and then he was there the following weekend when I went, by himself??? Trying to pick up girls in front of my face!! He just didn't seem like a player, cause I know them, I married the "world's best player" and the "world's best loser", but he did not show that when we were around other women, I would spot it, know the moves, know the looks that men give other women, or even ask about your friends, he didn't show any signs of this!! You would think after seeing him at the club that that would be the closure!! But no I feel absolutely terrible, got sick for a week with the flu, and just could not kick it after that weekend at the club!! It absolutely took me by surprised that I had trusted someone like this, first guy going out with after 9 years!! How could have picked so badly? or what kind of guys am I attracting that make them become or are this way? I think what started this whole thing of insecurity is when he went through my mobile phone contacts, which I forgive him for, then going out clubbing with his mate, then he went through my diary on the last weekend we spent together. Why would someone do that to me? I have nothing to hide, but why would someone use me to get what they want rather than give what they can give someone else please explain? Why do I feel so terrible even though I should feel relieved? I am sick of seeing counselors!!!<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5368','Wendy'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5368','Wendy','Well I have read everyones notes on break-ups and feel nothing but empathy for everyone. I am just going through my first break-up after a 9 year drought of being single after abusive marriage and divorce. i have read all the advice on this website, and it is good advice. I spent 9 years trying to find myself, heal, build my self-esteem back after having to deal with an abusive ex who when you have children still have to deal with, however, I have found a way to protect myself, from the abuse, which is working really well. Once I had counseling after 8 years of thinking a wasn\'t a victim of domestic violence, but once I sort help i found i was already on the road of recovery, and once I was happy within I felt that I was ready for another relationship. \r\n\r\nI meet a wonderful guy who him and I have so much in common, love spending time with him, and we got along really good!! We thought we had the perfect relationship, and really loved each other. HOWEVER, when we did argue which was very really our relationship was off!! We have broken up 3 times, and tried to work things out, and nominally I would just break up and move on, but being older you would think we were more wiser!! Not so!! Out of the 3 times of breaking up, I did 2 of the break ups and now this 4th was the final one, which I made!! I have tried all methods of support that has been mentioned, and feel terrible about the break up still!! I left a message on his phone, cause he never answered it, I sent it in a txt message as well. The thing is I had doubts, doubts about his trust, whether I could trust him. He tried to organise times to go nightclubbing with his friends, and I understand why females go out clubbing, to dance and enjoy being with their girlfriends, but 2 guys?? This tells me their out to pick up, and we had heaps of fights about this. I thought I might be showing my insecurity as all the guys I went out with including my ex-hub cheated!! So what makes him so different? Once I had enough of the pressure to move in, his unemployment issues, I had had enough!! ended the relationship, and then that weekend he is spotted at the nightclub that my girlfriends go to, and then he was there the following weekend when I went, by himself??? Trying to pick up girls in front of my face!! He just didn\'t seem like a player, cause I know them, I married the \"world\'s best player\" and the \"world\'s best loser\", but he did not show that when we were around other women, I would spot it, know the moves, know the looks that men give other women, or even ask about your friends, he didn\'t show any signs of this!! You would think after seeing him at the club that that would be the closure!! But no I feel absolutely terrible, got sick for a week with the flu, and just could not kick it after that weekend at the club!! It absolutely took me by surprised that I had trusted someone like this, first guy going out with after 9 years!! How could have picked so badly? or what kind of guys am I attracting that make them become or are this way? I think what started this whole thing of insecurity is when he went through my mobile phone contacts, which I forgive him for, then going out clubbing with his mate, then he went through my diary on the last weekend we spent together. Why would someone do that to me? I have nothing to hide, but why would someone use me to get what they want rather than give what they can give someone else please explain? Why do I feel so terrible even though I should feel relieved? I am sick of seeing counselors!!!'); return false;">quote</a></div> Well I have read everyones notes on break-ups and feel nothing but empathy for everyone. I am just going through my first break-up after a 9 year drought of being single after abusive marriage and divorce. i have read all the advice on this website, and it is good advice. I spent 9 years trying to find myself, heal, build my self-esteem back after having to deal with an abusive ex who when you have children still have to deal with, however, I have found a way to protect myself, from the abuse, which is working really well. Once I had counseling after 8 years of thinking a wasn’t a victim of domestic violence, but once I sort help i found i was already on the road of recovery, and once I was happy within I felt that I was ready for another relationship.

I meet a wonderful guy who him and I have so much in common, love spending time with him, and we got along really good!! We thought we had the perfect relationship, and really loved each other. HOWEVER, when we did argue which was very really our relationship was off!! We have broken up 3 times, and tried to work things out, and nominally I would just break up and move on, but being older you would think we were more wiser!! Not so!! Out of the 3 times of breaking up, I did 2 of the break ups and now this 4th was the final one, which I made!! I have tried all methods of support that has been mentioned, and feel terrible about the break up still!! I left a message on his phone, cause he never answered it, I sent it in a txt message as well. The thing is I had doubts, doubts about his trust, whether I could trust him. He tried to organise times to go nightclubbing with his friends, and I understand why females go out clubbing, to dance and enjoy being with their girlfriends, but 2 guys?? This tells me their out to pick up, and we had heaps of fights about this. I thought I might be showing my insecurity as all the guys I went out with including my ex-hub cheated!! So what makes him so different? Once I had enough of the pressure to move in, his unemployment issues, I had had enough!! ended the relationship, and then that weekend he is spotted at the nightclub that my girlfriends go to, and then he was there the following weekend when I went, by himself??? Trying to pick up girls in front of my face!! He just didn’t seem like a player, cause I know them, I married the “world’s best player” and the “world’s best loser”, but he did not show that when we were around other women, I would spot it, know the moves, know the looks that men give other women, or even ask about your friends, he didn’t show any signs of this!! You would think after seeing him at the club that that would be the closure!! But no I feel absolutely terrible, got sick for a week with the flu, and just could not kick it after that weekend at the club!! It absolutely took me by surprised that I had trusted someone like this, first guy going out with after 9 years!! How could have picked so badly? or what kind of guys am I attracting that make them become or are this way? I think what started this whole thing of insecurity is when he went through my mobile phone contacts, which I forgive him for, then going out clubbing with his mate, then he went through my diary on the last weekend we spent together. Why would someone do that to me? I have nothing to hide, but why would someone use me to get what they want rather than give what they can give someone else please explain? Why do I feel so terrible even though I should feel relieved? I am sick of seeing counselors!!!

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]]> By: Nikki http://lovesagame.com/how-a-relationship-break-up-can-be-your-best-experience/comment-page-1/#comment-4975 Nikki Fri, 24 Jul 2009 02:43:53 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=233#comment-4975 Well I've been in this relationship for four years now n although I see it's not really going anywhere I'm still a bit terrified to end it. He doesn't love me for who I am. I've lost all of my self esteem n self confidence in this relationship, I'm really hurt to know I love him so much n can't receive this love back,. He loves me when he wants too and treats me like I'm his slave <blockquote><a href='#comment-4099' rel="nofollow">Originally Posted By Sara</a><a href='#comment-3484' rel="nofollow">@Ryan Peimer</a> - Ryan, Wow, I read your note and I feel that it does make sense..I am dealing with a break up and I know that I should be alone and deal with my low self-steem issues and to learn to live alone for now. Based on my ex pattern, I know that he will start dating soon, and it breaks my heart, but I feel that I don't have to do what he does. I should be strong and wait till my heart heals...</blockquote><div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4975','Nikki'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4975','Nikki','Well I\'ve been in this relationship for four years now n although I see it\'s not really going anywhere I\'m still a bit terrified to end it. He doesn\'t love me for who I am. I\'ve lost all of my self esteem n self confidence in this relationship, I\'m really hurt to know I love him so much n can\'t receive this love back,. He loves me when he wants too and treats me like I\'m his slave\r\n<blockquote><a href=\'#comment-4099\' rel=\"nofollow\">Originally Posted By Sara<\/a><a href=\'#comment-3484\' rel=\"nofollow\">@Ryan Peimer<\/a> -\r\n\r\nRyan,\r\n\r\nWow, I read your note and I feel that it does make sense..I am dealing with a break up and I know that I should be alone and deal with my low self-steem issues and to learn to live alone for now. Based on my ex pattern, I know that he will start dating soon, and it breaks my heart, but I feel that I don\'t have to do what he does. I should be strong and wait till my heart heals...<\/blockquote>'); return false;">quote</a></div> Well I’ve been in this relationship for four years now n although I see it’s not really going anywhere I’m still a bit terrified to end it. He doesn’t love me for who I am. I’ve lost all of my self esteem n self confidence in this relationship, I’m really hurt to know I love him so much n can’t receive this love back,. He loves me when he wants too and treats me like I’m his slave

Originally Posted By Sara@Ryan Peimer -

Ryan,

Wow, I read your note and I feel that it does make sense..I am dealing with a break up and I know that I should be alone and deal with my low self-steem issues and to learn to live alone for now. Based on my ex pattern, I know that he will start dating soon, and it breaks my heart, but I feel that I don’t have to do what he does. I should be strong and wait till my heart heals…

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]]> By: ayesha http://lovesagame.com/how-a-relationship-break-up-can-be-your-best-experience/comment-page-1/#comment-4323 ayesha Tue, 17 Mar 2009 12:47:34 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=233#comment-4323 <a href='#comment-4171' rel="nofollow">@Amanda</a> - hi amanda, i am a final year medical student, am having exams in 1 month and my boyfriend of 4years, dumped me!!!! i also find it hard to concentrate... but i guess in any lovestory the ex always always come back. so i dnt think you need to worry.. just be confident, dont act desperate or clingy, am sure he also must be thinking of you. try to send him an sms like 'am sorry....i miss you' dont overdo, he'll come back if he really cares for you. gudluk!!!!<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4323','ayesha'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4323','ayesha','<a href=\'#comment-4171\' rel=\"nofollow\">@Amanda<\/a> - \r\nhi amanda,\r\n i am a final year medical student, am having exams in 1 month and my boyfriend of 4years, dumped me!!!! i also find it hard to concentrate... but i guess in any lovestory the ex always always come back. so i dnt think you need to worry.. just be confident, dont act desperate or clingy, am sure he also must be thinking of you. try to send him an sms like \'am sorry....i miss you\' dont overdo, he\'ll come back if he really cares for you.\r\n gudluk!!!!'); return false;">quote</a></div> @Amanda –
hi amanda,
i am a final year medical student, am having exams in 1 month and my boyfriend of 4years, dumped me!!!! i also find it hard to concentrate… but i guess in any lovestory the ex always always come back. so i dnt think you need to worry.. just be confident, dont act desperate or clingy, am sure he also must be thinking of you. try to send him an sms like ‘am sorry….i miss you’ dont overdo, he’ll come back if he really cares for you.
gudluk!!!!
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]]> By: Amanda http://lovesagame.com/how-a-relationship-break-up-can-be-your-best-experience/comment-page-1/#comment-4171 Amanda Sat, 31 Jan 2009 01:18:39 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=233#comment-4171 I was dating my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. We arent together anymore, well we pretty much broke up once a week anyways, and that was my fault. I really never meant it, I was just so frustrated and hurt, and i felt the only way for the pain to go away is just to say forget it all. We would eventually be okay after a few hours, but our happiness was always temporary. I really love him so much, and I try so hard to make it work, I cared so much and when he didnt thats when i came crashing down and decide to give up. I really dont know what to do. I am in University, with an extremely stressful semester and I dont know how i am going to get through it. I cant concentrate on my work, i cant stop crying. I just dont know what to do.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4171','Amanda'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4171','Amanda','I was dating my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. We arent together anymore, well we pretty much broke up once a week anyways, and that was my fault. I really never meant it, I was just so frustrated and hurt, and i felt the only way for the pain to go away is just to say forget it all. We would eventually be okay after a few hours, but our happiness was always temporary. \r\n\r\nI really love him so much, and I try so hard to make it work, I cared so much and when he didnt thats when i came crashing down and decide to give up. I really dont know what to do.\r\n\r\nI am in University, with an extremely stressful semester and I dont know how i am going to get through it. I cant concentrate on my work, i cant stop crying. \r\n\r\nI just dont know what to do.'); return false;">quote</a></div> I was dating my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. We arent together anymore, well we pretty much broke up once a week anyways, and that was my fault. I really never meant it, I was just so frustrated and hurt, and i felt the only way for the pain to go away is just to say forget it all. We would eventually be okay after a few hours, but our happiness was always temporary.

I really love him so much, and I try so hard to make it work, I cared so much and when he didnt thats when i came crashing down and decide to give up. I really dont know what to do.

I am in University, with an extremely stressful semester and I dont know how i am going to get through it. I cant concentrate on my work, i cant stop crying.

I just dont know what to do.

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]]> By: Sara http://lovesagame.com/how-a-relationship-break-up-can-be-your-best-experience/comment-page-1/#comment-4099 Sara Fri, 02 Jan 2009 20:22:16 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=233#comment-4099 <a href='#comment-3484' rel="nofollow">@Ryan Peimer</a> - Ryan, Wow, I read your note and I feel that it does make sense..I am dealing with a break up and I know that I should be alone and deal with my low self-steem issues and to learn to live alone for now. Based on my ex pattern, I know that he will start dating soon, and it breaks my heart, but I feel that I don't have to do what he does. I should be strong and wait till my heart heals...<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4099','Sara'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4099','Sara','<a href=\'#comment-3484\' rel=\"nofollow\">@Ryan Peimer<\/a> -\r\n\r\nRyan,\r\n\r\nWow, I read your note and I feel that it does make sense..I am dealing with a break up and I know that I should be alone and deal with my low self-steem issues and to learn to live alone for now. Based on my ex pattern, I know that he will start dating soon, and it breaks my heart, but I feel that I don\'t have to do what he does. I should be strong and wait till my heart heals...'); return false;">quote</a></div> @Ryan Peimer -

Ryan,

Wow, I read your note and I feel that it does make sense..I am dealing with a break up and I know that I should be alone and deal with my low self-steem issues and to learn to live alone for now. Based on my ex pattern, I know that he will start dating soon, and it breaks my heart, but I feel that I don’t have to do what he does. I should be strong and wait till my heart heals…

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]]> By: Christian http://lovesagame.com/how-a-relationship-break-up-can-be-your-best-experience/comment-page-1/#comment-3653 Christian Tue, 11 Nov 2008 21:55:43 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=233#comment-3653 Thank you, this is very encouraging. I am in CODA right now (Codependents Anonymous) and for anyone who identifies with either case scenario, but especially Kevin's, then I would highly recommend searching the internet and seeing if there is a CODA meeting near you. Try this site: http://www.codependents.org/ Thank you again, I am very encouraged.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('3653','Christian'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('3653','Christian','Thank you, this is very encouraging. I am in CODA right now (Codependents Anonymous) and for anyone who identifies with either case scenario, but especially Kevin\'s, then I would highly recommend searching the internet and seeing if there is a CODA meeting near you. Try this site: http:\/\/www.codependents.org\/ Thank you again, I am very encouraged.'); return false;">quote</a></div> Thank you, this is very encouraging. I am in CODA right now (Codependents Anonymous) and for anyone who identifies with either case scenario, but especially Kevin’s, then I would highly recommend searching the internet and seeing if there is a CODA meeting near you. Try this site: http://www.codependents.org/ Thank you again, I am very encouraged.
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]]> By: hana http://lovesagame.com/how-a-relationship-break-up-can-be-your-best-experience/comment-page-1/#comment-3493 hana Tue, 14 Oct 2008 09:09:37 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=233#comment-3493 thanks ryan. i know this relationship wont work. it started because i wanted to show my ex that i can get a new better guy than he is. now i realize i dont really love the guy but are too afraid to break my new guy's heart. i dont know what to do.. now im pretending to love the guy even though i didnt. i'm a bad person. i know.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('3493','hana'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('3493','hana','thanks ryan. i know this relationship wont work. it started because i wanted to show my ex that i can get a new better guy than he is. now i realize i dont really love the guy but are too afraid to break my new guy\'s heart. i dont know what to do.. now im pretending to love the guy even though i didnt. i\'m a bad person. i know.'); return false;">quote</a></div> thanks ryan. i know this relationship wont work. it started because i wanted to show my ex that i can get a new better guy than he is. now i realize i dont really love the guy but are too afraid to break my new guy’s heart. i dont know what to do.. now im pretending to love the guy even though i didnt. i’m a bad person. i know.
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