Comments on: How I Found The Definition Of True Love

By: Vm

Vm — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 17:07:51 +0000

plzzz someone help me cleaar my mind am so confuse dnt knw wat to do. i just broke up with my bf of 3 months. it did hurt me a bit in the beginning but deep inside me i wasnt really happy being with him. n wen we broke up i realise am much happier without him. but now there another prob. before i met my ex bf i was friend with another guy we use to do so many fun stuff together we were just so happy being best frd we were so compatible as frd so many thng in common between us. but since i met my ex my friend got really distant from me. i never really told him about my boyfriend. but now i really miss the moment me n my friend had. i knew he liked me but he never really propose me so i cant even approach him in that way. now wen i think back i was so much happier with him n so myself with him but i dnt knw wats happening to me. why am thinkg abt my friend is it becoz i just broke up with my ex or i did liked him before but becoz he never propose me we couldnt be together. wats wrong with me….what to do???

By: Lisa

Lisa — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 22:57:42 +0000

OH this is exactly what I am going through! It really sucks to love someone and accept them as they are and yet they don't reciprocate! We had the most wonderful friendship but I had to give that up because my heart broke looking at him and knowing he did not want more. Hindsight he is immature and emotionally unavailable and I knoew that but I was not smart and threw caution to the wind and allowed myself to love him anyway. I will be smarter the next time.

By: Christine

Christine — Thu, 27 May 2010 06:46:22 +0000

Hi Eddie, I do agree with you with people thinking of "the one" it doesn't exist also, about the six (6) type of love it give me a better understanding of true love. What you said about A relationship is good if both are compatible and willing to make an effort to make it work "I totally agree". I am going through a break up presently and recently found your site and I was feeling really down and I knew your site would have something to make me feel better and this article did.

Thank you so much

Christine
Guyana, SA

By: joseR

joseR — Tue, 11 May 2010 22:31:54 +0000

way to go bella! congrats hahha how long did it take u to get to this point? bc i am on the same path and wow i suffered from low self esteem and really codependent on my x partner for everything i know ew! anything that u found that helped u would be great to know

By: berny

berny — Tue, 11 May 2010 14:36:55 +0000

@Jack and joseR..
Guys….u have one more partner here….i was being the same,trying to jump from one relationship to other…tryign to mask the pain.But this time it was quite devastating,but however i am holding on not to jump into another relathionship and makes things worser for me.It hard to come out of it.But i am far better compared to last month except bit of haunting memory.its the time to grow up and love ourself..
@Jack:its been 3 months since u broke up.how are u feeling now??…i hope u are fine….

By: joseR

joseR — Tue, 11 May 2010 01:56:16 +0000

dude wow your story has touched me i am the same way bro and i killed the relationship but bro i am finally learning to love myself put myslef first i hated being so insecure and codependent on my partner i suggest you get into a support group or something or a course to love yourself and focus on yourself bc in the end its never about her but about you! so hey i dont wanna push u or anything but i want to challenge you to love yourself bro i hope you are up to the challengwe to do w.e it takes to love yourself and be “mania” again

By: Alexis

Alexis — Mon, 10 May 2010 10:06:27 +0000

I completely agree! I have recently broken up with my boyfriend of 10 months and he was always asking me to try and be someway else that I wasn't. In the end I told him exactly that I was waiting for him to love me unconditionally, faults and all without trying to change me, because that was how I felt towards him. Needless to say we didn't work out.

By: lili

lili — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 09:56:52 +0000

wow. i am in love with this site. my boyfriend of 5 years ended things with me two day ago,and it was ROUGH!! I entered a crazy depression and anxiety state back in November and I have been all over the place in trying to find that happiness i once had in my life.If you have gone through anxiety and depression you know how essential your family and loved ones are at keeping you grounded. there were days when i really thought i was going crazy and my boyfriend was really a big motivator for me. I have been seeing a therapist for about a month a half and things were really looking amazing. Last week I felt happy for the first time in a looooong time and it felt soooo GOOD. my boyfriend and i were doing “great” but then he said i dont want to hurt you but i need something different. I had two panick attacks and thought i was gonna be right back where i started with my depression. then i found this site =) i dont know if something is wrong with me, but the first day i cried like there was no tomorrow and after coming on here and reading some of the posts i feel so empowered!! the fact that we are not together still hurts like hell because i though, and maybe still think, that he is “the one” but i am slowly starting to realize that the fantasy doesnt exist. i am the only one that can be “the one” for me. so my new goal has become to truly find and love myself like no one else can, and then i will be ready to commit to someone else, without forgetting about myself. thanks eddie!!!!!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 10:47:02 +0000

Where is the category of love called ‘unexplainable’?

I have been involved in a long distance relationship for two years now, and despite not seeing the man who holds my heard for one year (will be seeing him in a few days though !), my feelings for him have not swayed. We met in a conflict zone and it took two months of eye contact and smiling before we actually said hello to each other. The following 4 months we spent all of our free time together – talking (well trying to!) and drawing pictures to get our point across. We come from different countries and I don’t speak his native language and he speaks limited English. The electricity certainly flew between us.

Once we were both back home, we continued to communicate regularly over the phone and via txt messaging (challenging when language is an issue) and I’ve visited him a few times. Due to both of our jobs and the distance between us, it is extremely difficult to see one another but when we are together ….. sighhhhh… He treats me like an absolute princess and the physical/emotional connection we have is mindblowing.

For me, I feel like I would wait as long as I had to, to see where this relationship will take us but at the same time there is no pressure to make things happen.

Is there a definition for that?

By: Anthony

Anthony — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 11:15:19 +0000

I’m very happy to have tumbled on to this blog ( Thanks Eddie). From what it sounds like nearly all of you are taking a good look at yourselves and trying to find real answers.

I’ve been separated now for around 16 months of my marraige of 17 years. The separation, now divorce (St. Pats day) has been very hard, and has left me feeling hallow, empty, angry, well you name it. The ex announced just announced to me that she met someone and will be going to Europe to get married in September. As you can imagine, this has crushed me, because, as it turns out, I’m still in love with her. Or at least, I think I am. If I am or not, have no power to change this situation. Slowly, I am coming to terms with it, and hopefully, one day, I will loose my hostility towards her and her new husband. This is also hard as we have 2 great kids, and my daughter will be moving in with my ex.

I turned 40 yesterday. I have been dating a nice girl for about 7 months now. She’s right for me in many ways, but ultimately, I’m not recovered from my breakup and I carry a lot of baggage, considering. On top of that, I’m not “IN” love w/ her. I have been trying, but I just cannot will it to be. We are at a crossroads where she has to go back to her country, but she’s only staying for me. I have been thinking quite hard and have determined that I’m doing her a great diservice and need to let her go. This is very painful as I care for her and want to love her, but I have changed as a person within a commited realtionship for so long. I just don’t have what it takes to invest myself in someone else anymore.

The glass 1/2 full on this unfortunate situation is I know we both will be better off after I let her go. I am more jaded based of my long recovery experience, so I feel I will end up on my feet faster than she might. Though I hope all the best for her. I’ll likely do this this weekend, though there NEVER seems to be a good time to do this.