Basically it made her think I'm just a wimp. No matter how many times I told her that the things I did for her I did because that's what I wanted to do. Then one day she says that she doesn't feel like we have a romantic relationship, and it's more like we're just friends. She has had a rough childhood with not that much loving or parents staying around, whereas I have always been loved very much my both my parents.

I've never felt so bad in my life. I was in shock, fainting, feeling sick. I couldn't eat for days. Then I found your site and it has helped me a lot. I did some research on the no contact rule and applied it, just to make her realize that it's loving or nothing.

It's been a week now and I can almost eat again. Sometimes I still wish I had the strength to be her friend, as I still care about her. But I know I'm only going to break myself when she starts going out with some exciting drug addict or “manly” heavy metal clown.

Back to the original subject. I don't believe that I'm ever going to RECEIVE the same kind of love that I give. And I find it very hard to settle for less. As for keeping the girls, I think in the future I'm going to have to hide some of my love and not be that nice anymore.

I'd appreciate any comments very much.

I have absolutely no idea. My breakup has taught me that I know absolutely nothing about anything. As much as I'd like to say “I think Love is this, and this and this…” the truth is, the fickle nature of human beings and our feelings will continue to catch us completely off guard at how quickly they can seem to change, turning our world upside down again and again and again.

It sounds like to me, that you are at an emotional maturity level which is greater than your current partner. Yes you may have things in common, like a common history and you met in a mutual environment, but are your values aligned? Is how you handle arguments and how you overcome obstacles aligned? Is he able to grow at the same rate as you are growing.

I find that a lot of the time relationships are there to show us, what we want and also what we don't not want in a partner. The only thing that stunts our growth is the length of time we hold onto a partner, hoping that he is the right person.

I would take a reassessment of where you are at the moment. Of what you really want. Take some time to get that emotional distance from your partner and see what your mind not just your heart has to say.

Deep down I'm sure you already know what you need to do.

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