The realization that there is no easy way out helped me a lot to make my decision. I was waiting for a better moment, for a certain occasion to make it easier but it would not come.
I was getting more frustrated every day. The article helped my decision along and now we got it done and I think we are both better of… and the pain will heal, I’m sure of that.

Absolutely brilliant!

That made my decision much easier.

Thank you so much for this excellent article.

If you need to say it, but really don’t want to have a conversation, try using Pinger. You can send them a voice message, telling them exactly how you feel, without getting sucked into a dialogue. Also for when I you want to get a message out fast without having a long conversation. Try it at pinger.com

Pinger is not saying it in person, it’s like leaving a message on their answering machine, and that’s cold.

The last rule is the most important; no contact should be made. I’ve always used this rule, but in my most recent breakup I’ve allowed my ex to call etc. She broke up with me. By calling and meeting in an attempt to be friends, I can’t put this thing to rest once and for all. I keep holding on and it’s tearing me up inside. I thought no contact was cruel but necessary in the past. But it’s not as cruel as not letting someone move on I’ve found.

I am just now going through a break-up and all this information is gospel. I moved out in November and we remained friends, going out to dinner, the museum, movies, even spent Valentines Day together. Now it is Feb 24 and she has another man living with her. Get out!!! and make it Final!!! Don’t set yourself up for further heartbreak.

There are at least 2 reasons why breaking up in person is not a good idea. The first is if the person is volatile or violent. Get out, get out fast, and get out quietly. Having an in-person breakup will exacerbate the person’s anger and could be dangerous. Second if the person is manipulative and if they use twisted dialogue to try to control or keep you. No doubt, you’ve tried to break up before and it didn’t work. Use your best judgement.

Breaking up after 4 1/2 months!! She does not want to accept the breakup and is trying to use personnal information to keep me connected with her by threats and manipulation!! I am following some of the 7 steps to break up, although this is not easy with Heart Emotions still attached! I feel the Negative Energy from & around her that keeps me spinning inside!!
Thoughts or comments welcome,
Blessing’s, Thank you!!!!

Eddie I sat here reading this with tears streaming down my face – think that means it’s time to break up? (kinda rhetorical question there)

We are so different and we have completely different values which really became obvious to me when we had a big fight about being ‘positive’ about life of all things. I’m the person who likes to see the good in everyone and look on the bright side whenever possible and apparently that’s wrong. We’ve had our problems for months and months though and our relationship has been pretty much stand-still for a long time.

I just googled ‘how to break up’ and found your post. Thank you so much for the advice and I’m not 100% sure what to do but this has helped

I just broke up with someone. I’m having a hard time of it because I still care about him a lot. He was shocked, if not devastated with the news. I don’t know what to do other than to get on with my life and make sure I don’t contact him.

I made it as clean as possible, but still feel like a bad person. I’m at a loss as to how I move on now. Thanks for your articles.

please dont feel guilty or beat yourself up. you have taken control of your life and helped your ex partner and yourself. that is a selfless and caring act. you hurt because you care and bccause you are a good person. i know from experiance it will get better. it just takes time. you are doing exactly the right things.

I also googled how to break up. I´ve been thinking about it for so long, I have ignored this feeling and I have tried to tell myself that it is safer to stay together. It is so hard and painful just to think about an end, we have been together 7 years. Last summer I was so unhappy and I still am, after my mother´s passing away later in September I just clung to my partner, he´s been so supportive and generous all this time and before, but we no longer have that spark, I don´t yearn for him, I don´t miss him when he´s away.

I fear to end so lonely though.

Anyways, thanks for all the advice I found on this site, if I ever find the courage to end this relationship I will surely follow your guideline.

How do you break off contact when you cant? I’m living with my gf of 8 years we dont have kids and arent married. I want to breakup ive spend years trying to fix the issues with her not communcating and other issues i wont get into her. We live together im currently broke and not close to my family, she pays rent i pay for everything else i still love her but i know its time to move on as she cant give me what i want :< what can i do? move into the spare room? be flatmates i cant make a clean break and have no contact.

I have been with my gf for almost 6 years now, and its come to the point where i don’t see ourselves moving foward in our relationship or her as my wife.I have broke up with her before for this reason and only when were broken up do i think that she is my other half and i can’t live without her and the pain is so unbearable that we get back together.And when were back together im happy for about a month then i start to think i have taken step back in life and feel that i am not happy again.I know that i want to end it and not too sure at the same time but i also know that when i do end it im going to think i made a mistake and shes the love of my life and want her back, are these feelings normal after a break up?.I fell that if i break it off she will be lost and never find happiness again and i am the fault of that and i can’t bear to have that on my concious.I am thinking of her before me which i know is wrong but thats the way i am and feel.I am not happy being with her and i want to break up but can’t bear to live with out her.If i wish that i can end this relationship with no pain then i do not want to be with her right???I don’t know what to do i am too attached but not happy, any advice or comment will be greatly appreciated.

Thanks Eddie. I just broke up with girlfreind of 2 years tonight and also found you from Google. I spoke to her half an hour ago and she was hysterical. Its all very hard for me but I know I must leave her to accomplish what I want in life.

What makes it worse is the emotional torment I am putting her through. She is a very protective and not very social, and doesn’t have many friends. She always uses me to fall back on when she has troubles as she doesn’t have many others to turn to.

I am scared that she will be all alone after I leave her and find it extremely hard to not check up on her and re-assure her that its okay. While I have many friends, ambitions and hobbies to follow up (that i’ve missed out on during my time with her), she seems to have nothing at all to cling to. She works a 7 – 5 job every day and has not much to look forward to besides seeing me, and that seems to have gone now.

I feel terrible and can’t begin to imagine what she’s feeling. Is there any particular way I can deal with her grief or is it best to leave her alone to sort herself out?

Thanks again Eddie
Jeff

I’m going to be breaking up with BF after a 2 1/2 year relationship — however we have started a multi-million dollar business together and I’d like to offer that we stay business partners. It is all it has been mostly anyway for a year-and-a-half (i.e., no sex in 18 months!)

Our social lives are almost entirely separate now anyway; we travel separately (he is currently out of the country), have different interests, etc. But he has maintained that he still loves me but most of the time when we are together we fight – again, mostly about me being emotional.

Any suggestions on how to facilitate a break-up while maintaining a business relationship?

This has really helped, but its so hard. I just sort of rushed into this relationship. I had hung out with him like twice and talked on msn and he just sort of went in for the kill LOL. As I got to know him, I was like no, this isn’t going to work out. And now hes gone for 5 weeks. This whole in person thing is very necessary, i understand that. But do you think phone would be alright in this case? I mean, we only started dating like a week, maybe a week and a half ago.

I think people break up too easily sometimes because they think they are going to find perfection down the road and they just keep carrying their imperfect self along to the next set of issues with their next partner. Instead of being committed to someone they love and working on problems, it’s just easier to split and imagine that they will find perfection with someone else.The success of relationships are actually how unselfish a person can become themselves, giving to each other and compromising. It’s hard but that is what it comes down to. You may break up but guess what you aren’t going to find it easier on the next relationship. What you have to learn to work on is yourself to have any successful relationship. You either choose to love or not.

I am currently in a 5 yr relationship with a man that I have loved for 22 years. He was in prison for five years and contacted me that he still had feelings for me. Neither of us knew that the other had hidden these feelings for all these years. I had been married unhappily 14 yrs separated for 8 of them off and on, finally divorcing thinking that we would be married when he got out of prison. He has lived with a woman for the past year because of my faith not to live with a man. However we have been intimate more than Id like to say. Now it seems that we always fuss and argue almost all the time. He makes me feel totally crazy. Then he always says that he would be lost without me, that I am the only one who cares for him or that I am the only one he has. Tells me he loves me. When he was in prison he wrote to me all the time about how we would be together and how much he loved me!! NowI miss that man. Was this all just to keep me there for him . I dont want to believe this is true. He works and helps me financially at times. He is always at my house and telling me how much he needs me. Begging me not to leave him.Then the next thing you know he is acting as if he doesnt care at all !! I was recentley told by aclose family member of his that he is bipolar. whatever that means. i remember seeing that on some medical papers of his that had gotten ent to my house when he went to a work release program. i didnt know what it meant so paid it no attention. Now however i am concerned that he should be taking medication and hasnt been for the past year. I love him and cant stand the thought of losing him and i know hw loves me . but this emotional rollercoaster is taking its toll on me

what is our advice for on/off relationships. we have had on/off relationship for the past 14 months. how will i know if i should end it or not.

I broke up with my boyfriend Friday last week. he was devastated, he was due to come down on the Saturday, but I could see that him coming down was just going to make me uncomfortable. The truth is, we have been in a long distance relationship for a while, he lives in Scotland and I live in London, and it isn’t easy to keep up a good rapore apart from the telephone. he managed to convince me that he wanted to come down only if it was to spend time with me – I said fine but there is going to be no romantic involvment. Fat chance- as soon as i saw him, all suited and booted (he looked gorgeous) it made it so difficult not to hug and kiss him. i ended up being cold and saying everything that was on my mind, and felt awful for it. I had to give him so comfort, he was so hurt!
i wrote down some reasons why i don’t want to be with him, like “I don’t find him attractive” and “he is in a different league to myself” sometimes his comments are too much and he embarrasses me. i feel like such a snob but he just makes me cringe sometimes, and I wouldn’t want to change him, that’s him. he says he has never been happy before me! Arggghh, and then things got really frisky when he stayed over we ended up sleeping together. My head is screwed up – i care for him, and I miss him, but I just don’t feel like its right.

he is a good friend too which is why it hurts, we do have a laugh, but the attraction simply isn’t there! What do i do??????

I am in love with a beautiful younger woman from another country. Though I love this woman very much, I realize that there are things about our basic makeup that will likely prevent us from having a long and lasting relationship. We are from different cultures, I am significantly older than her and divorced. She is Roman Catholic, and I am agnostic, though leaning towards God. She has a great 5 year old son and I have no children. She is child-style and I am Adult to Parent. She is now 30, working on a PhD program and yet she continues to live with her parents and brothers in her native town. Her mother does everything for her and her two younger brothers, and for the 5 year old (grandson), so my girlfriend has never learned to fend for herself, nor taken care of her child in a serious way. She is very loving and affectionate, but also self centered and has a short fuse when things don’t go her way. She can be manipulative, though this is very subtle. She is also beautiful, intelligent, kind, caring, and loving and I am, frankly, wrapped around her finger (another detriment to long term relationships).

I am also not confident that her child was conceived based on her version of events. She said that she was forced…

We have talked much about marriage and how to make this relationship work. It has been difficult to have “normal” dating since we live so far apart, and rarely see each other. We talk almost daily by phone, email and chat and try to visit in person every couple of months.

The love that has exists between us is very strong (emotional, physical, and intellectual) and I am afraid that she will fall apart and lose her new self esteem if I break things off with her.

This is the most difficult and complex situation I have ever encountered in my life. If I had ANY confidence that this relationship work work for the long term, I would not be looking to break up. Any advice on how to break things off in a way that is non-damaging to this woman will be greatly appreciated.

Hello Eddie

My ex and I fell in love about 3,5 years ago through email. We have written 1000 letters, made dozens of international calls, and when we met we were really attracted in real life too.
We thought we landed in a fairytale. We decided this was unique and planned our future together.We travelled many times during a year to see each other. We clicked, but had different perspectives; I was positive and he was usually negative. Overall, we shared everything, had become best friends and confidants, and passionate lovers. We would help and stimulate each other all the time. We both were very happy with each other.
The last journey though,after having spent two wonderful days together,he suddenly told me he was afraid to start living together, he didn’t feel as if he was ready.
I was so shocked, since the day prior to this he had given me this beautiful letter saying he couldnt wait for us to be together. And, all his emails were full of his wants and wishes for us to be together.
I asked him what the alternative was and he was dumbfounded, couldnt reply a word to me.
The next day he said he made a mistake and was sorry, ofcourse we should be together. I was hesitant and confused and extremely hurt by now and wasnt sure if his words were trustworthy. And surely; The next day when he left he again said that he needs to move on alone, but that he couldnt bare to have me out of his life completely, AND that if we were meant to be we would be together in the future. NOW was not the right time for him, ”he needed to still learn so much’, he was not ready’.
I was so angry with him, I broke off contact and deleted my email account. I havent had any contact since. Now…two months later..I m doing ok, but Im still wondering if I my descision to cut off all conatct, has been too harsh. Neither one of us has said ‘it is over’. I understand him, and I m not angry anymore as much as I was. I still love him and miss him so much. I dont feel like we had any closure. I thought if he really misses me, he will try to get in touch.I would like to check up on him.The temptation is great. I feel good about having no contact overall…because he cannot confuse me with his doubts anymore.
But I wake up quite depressed every day..he is always in the back of my mind….Please could you offer some advice? Should I wait untill I hear from him? Or should I initiate the contact, since I was the one breaking it completely? He had said; it is vital you stay in my life. I thought; if it’s that vital you will try to get back in touch no matter what. But he hasnt so far. Does that mean he doesnt really care in the end if I stay in his life and he stays in mine?

Thank you so much Eddy. Thank you for your extreemly helpful site.

Yours,
Laura.

Thank you Eddie, Im helped with your answer.
Im grateful.

@Eddie Corbano

Eddie:

Help! I started a relationship with this guy over a month ago. With in three weeks he had bought me a cell phone (which I am now dependant on b/c I don’t hae the $ for anew cell phone and the reason he BOUGHT me a phone was because the other broke) I am now on his plan.

I NEED to break up with him because he is smothering me, insecure and controlling. My phone, im or email goes off EVERY 20 MIN! Even when he sasy he’s too busy to talk.

I have been distant with him since a big argument last week. I cancelled our date that Saturday and went out of town. I agreed to to give him one more chance, but I am finding myself WANTING him to fight with me so I have a better reason.

He keeps insisting on buying me stuff. I give it back, refuse it whatever I can. He keeps trying to pay my bills and NOW he is trying to buy my daughter’s school clothes (we were supposed to take her to the fair on Saturday, but i am trying to get out of it, but now he wants to take her shopping).

I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to cripple him (I know I’m going to hurt him) I dont love him he keeps telling me he loves me misses me wants to spen eternity with me etc.

Help! I mean I am almost scared to do this. I don’t THINK he’d hurt me, but he’s so ridiculous. Advice, please….

Originally Posted By ManningThe last rule is the most important; no contact should be made. I’ve always used this rule, but in my most recent breakup I’ve allowed my ex to call etc. She broke up with me. By calling and meeting in an attempt to be friends, I can’t put this thing to rest once and for all. I keep holding on and it’s tearing me up inside. I thought no contact was cruel but necessary in the past. But it’s not as cruel as not letting someone move on I’ve found.

This is so importent. When my ex. broke up with me for a few years ago she left me with hope and still seeing and trying to be friends. We where doing that for a few months and it was pure torture to me, the feeling of getting to be with her just a little bit but nothing being like it was, was tearing me apart.
At last i told her that i dinent want to se her again, and that the next time we would se each other again would be on the street with new partners and proberly children. She accepted and it stayed that way for 6 months, then she send me and sms on my birthday, that was great and when have been in contact like that for over 3 years now, and offcourse seen eachother when we where at party´s and stuff like that.

anyways, the “no contact” is important. You cant heal

@Carolyn –

i am going thru something similar. however out business hasn’t really made much money. i want to continue being business partners, but our failed romance breaks my heart when i see him. he is sending signs that he wants to be an item again and i still have feelings for him. i need a clean break from him. but he will be hurt and we will have to see each other afterwards. i have to be brave. does any one have any advice on how to handle working the person you broke up with?

i dont know what to do, i want to leave him and i dont know how to, i dont want to break his heart, he makes it so hard for me to do it because hes always telling me how much he loves me and how beautiful i am, and i used to feel something for him back but i dont feel anything for him anymore, im so confused, at times, i feel like i dont want to leave him but lately he just wants for me to be all about him, he doesnt even want me to meet up with my friends and he just gets me so mad continously, WAT DO I DO????!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am thinking of breaking up with my boy friend from really long because we have no future.
But i haven’t been able to gather the courage to hurt him because i love him so much. I can’t see him in pain but things are not working out. We are two really different people and my family doesn’t approve of him as he isn’t good looking nor rich.
Its not possible to “follow no contact rule” because we are classmates.
Isn’t its possible to be friends right after calling off the relationship?

I’m really confused…how should i do it? i love him too but i can’t marry him.
Pleas help me out.

I have been thinking of a break up with my bf every time we argue. He always manipulates the conversation and its seems that I’m always wrong and he is always right, in most cases any how. I’m not allowed to keep communication with any of my male friends or meet them for dinner, because “a good woman does not do that”. He smoothers me and he questions me when i don’t have him on my phone screen saver. He is a type A personality and he can be scary when he is up set. He is pressuring me with marriage and we have only been together 1o months. I noticed that I am upset to take his calls sometimes since he calls too much, how can I brake it to him with out being scared of his aggression.

I want to get over a break up, because the guy I was with was really nice to me. However, there was someone else in the realtionship. I said some things that I shouldn’t have and it got back to him. He broke up with me. We tried to be friends but it just didn’t work. I called him one last time and he never returned my call. Now I know.

Eddie, great website!!

I have been reading thru several of your articles and whatnot, I’m sure you’ll see my entries and am still missing that last step to go and just do it(well end it). I feel sooo bad for our kids. The problem is I have never loved her and started this primarily for our first child,in hindsight a very bad idea, but here I am 18 yrs later. We can sit nxt to ea other and be so far apart, mentally, physically and every other way one could think of. This last article is giving me more fuel to do it., but I am still wary although I KNOW it’s the best option for all! my oldest is 17, but my two young girls..god i feel so bad!!

I’m scared to break up with my boyfriend of 2 years and 9 months because he is an alcoholic and has threatened suicide a few times, and is destructive towards himself.

Reply to lachase. While this may be true in some circumstances, its definitely not the case all the time. There are situations where it is much more loving to let someone go.

I broke up with bf after 1 1/2 . I loved him very much and I am devastated. The guy has a lot of things going for him. However, when we were together i noticed this need he had a need to flirt with not so decent women in front of me and that made me feel very uncorfotable. he also couldn’t committ to me stating that he was uncomfortable with me since i tended to be jealous. I ended it and he has tried to come back and I am trying to decide :did i make the right decision leaving him?” he says that he loves me very much and his friends say the same. Advice please?

Ive been dating my girlfriend for almost 6 months now & it almost seems like a hill. at first the relationship became better and better for the first four months, after that it seemed that she began to ignore me, she has a way of “acting” like she cant stand me around her freinds. though im pretty sure its just a joke, its said to often for comfort and its starting to gnaw at me. Im usually the one that does the flirting and “makes the moves”, she either just smiles or I get rejected (with a smile)… its confusing and its got my thinking ” was that good or bad??”. shes only had two real boyfriends so shes still a little “new” to this thing I guess , but either way ide appreciate it every once and awhile if she kissed me you know? she doesnt lie to me…but Its hard to tell if she loves me or not becouse she jokes around so much its hard to ask a serios question and get a reliable answer, by the way I am just a teenager so I dont know if its the relationship or just hormones tugging at me.

it may just be me though, im a real klingy mushy romantic person, im almost like glue. so is there such a thing as overkill when it comes to this kinda thing?? she’s has a more shy and boxed up attitude than I do, nothings technicaly wrong with that, in fact I kinda like it…while at other times I feel like a romeo without a juliet.

she also has big time mood swings, shes either really happy or really depressed, that may just be partly because of the rough life she has at home. she has two seperate families, ( step mom & real dad, step dad & real mom) shes not really loved much at home and she used to get abused by her step dad. at home she lives in fear and despair. Truly, I dont want her to be like that at school to. she seems so much more happy when shes around me. im afraid if i let her go shell go back to being the depressed little girl in the corner and start cutting her wrists ( which thank god she doesnt currently do).

Dont get me wrong though, I do love her (god so much…) but this love is a rollercoster of emotions and thoughts. Im a teen in need of advise. I really dont want to end it, theres really no one else in the school like her, but at the same time I feel that there could be someone better for her and for me. Eddie, Im certain at one time you were a lovestuck teenager… momentarily put yourselfe in my situation (if you havent already) and tell me… what would you do?

I have this boyfriend that i love so much but i just cant be with him any more wat should i do

I have broken up with the person I am with so many times, and so many times he has stuck around after the break up and waited until I broke down and took him back. And I have no clue if it’s from that, that I feel so incomplete about the relationship or what it could be. We are just getting things together but I’m still finding myself feeling incomplete, not happy. I love him and I know that but what/why could I be feeling this way?

Thanks so much for your article. I just broke up with my boyfriend and it was really really hard since he is deployed…and I didnt want to be a bad person. But things weren’t right…he wasn’t being true to our committed relationship since we had began. And I had given him another shot and he didn’t change. I had to decided whether to wait for him to get back (which would just upset him) or break up now (which would still upset him).

It feels good to consider my feelings. Why should I wait for 10 months for a guy that couldn’t keep true to a committed relationship of 10 months And I was actually waiting for this man!

It ’s hard not to contact him since I want to make sure he is ok. But then again it’s the best way for us to move on. Who knows maybe one day we could be friends…ONLY friends (but I took your advise and DIDN’T tell him this!!

Mucha Gracias
Lina

Hi, iv hv just recently made the decision to break up with my boyfriend in prison. This is the second time he has been there, and even though they are not that serious and it is going to be a wakeup call for him, i realised i couldn’t wait for him any longer. Im only 17 and he’s 20. He’s not a bad person, just doesnt think before he does all these things. It took me a lot of strength to tell him i wanted to break up ,over the phone, and in a visit. He doesn’t quite get the message yet, and thinks that we are going to get back together when he comes out. I dont know what may happen in the future between us, but for now i think its best that both of us dont have any contact with each other. I just don’t know how to tell him this without being very mean , or giving him false hope

x

well i am jsut so confused. i wish that i could make up my mind but everything just seems so blury and foggy and i just cannot clear my head. i want to break and then i dont want to break, and i’m scared that if i break up 2 soon then i will regret everything later, at the same time though, i find it impossible to act like everything’s fine all the time. he thinks that i don’t talk to him enofe and my head is so filled up with things that i’m worried about that it aqusts me already, sometimes i just need a break from everything, and i just feel like he expects 2 much from me.

ok, tomorrow will be two week since the official break up and I’m feeling much better today. Going home to the house we lived in is the worse for me. I would stay away more but we had a dog together and i must be there to tend to her. I’m jealous that she was able to walk away and have a new life with new things and I’m stuck here in OUR old life, trying to pick up the peice while looking at all the things that remind me of her.

Originally Posted By Jeff
What makes it worse is the emotional torment I am putting her through. She is a very protective and not very social, and doesn’t have many friends. She always uses me to fall back on when she has troubles as she doesn’t have many others to turn to.

I am scared that she will be all alone after I leave her and find it extremely hard to not check up on her and re-assure her that its okay. While I have many friends, ambitions and hobbies to follow up (that i’ve missed out on during my time with her), she seems to have nothing at all to cling to. She works a 7 – 5 job every day and has not much to look forward to besides seeing me, and that seems to have gone now.

I feel terrible and can’t begin to imagine what she’s feeling. Is there any particular way I can deal with her grief or is it best to leave her alone to sort herself out?

Thanks again Eddie
Jeff

It’s heart-breaking to read so many people tormented over break-ups. This article was excellent in breaking down the do’s and don’ts — more so than any other I’ve seen on the internet.

Jeff, your story is very familiar to me. I sympathize with you, because you are so torn up over your girlfriend’s well-being — it’s apparent that you obviously want what’s best for her.

At the same time, you know that you HAVE to follow your heart, and you can’t be in a relationship that serves you. To just stick around would be leading her on. There’s nothing you can do right now except give her time to heal.

I was in your shoes once. I was so torn up about wanting to break-up that I stuck around for WAY too long, and just made things much worse. I actually wrote a guide to breaking up for guy’s like us — guys who might need a little help. You don’t need it cause you were able to break-up on your own, but some guys are absolutely STUCK.

I want to break up with my boyfriend Jacques of a few years. I love him , he has great qualities but also major flaws that can no longer be overlooked.

I want to take your advise on how to go about it. There is one major problem. I’m sensitive and cry easily. When I think of the things he’s said and done to me. The waterworks come on. He believes I do this to make him feel guilty.

The fact is that he is heartless, and mean-spirited. He’s crushed my belief in love. How can this not hurt? As hard as I try to keep myself together tears still manage to roll down my face. ( i cried a few times while writing this )
There is no way i can do this break up face to face. I want to do it in a way so we can both have closure and i can still walk away with my dignity. Crying is not an option. An e-mail? No…. I think there is no other way than to face him and look like a fool.
Help! Please advise.

I just broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half, but i think i messed up somewhere along the process.

I broke up with him over the phone because he was in jail. As selfish as it sounds, I figured that i am too young to stress over some one elses life, and although i love him and care for him dearly, there were too many holes in our relationship. But the truth is that i do eventually want to get back together with him once his life is back on track and im ready for a serious relationship, and i told him this.

The problem is that now, in all his anger and rage, he still wants to be friends, and this means, he doesnt want me to be interested or involved with any other guys. How am i going to remain friends with him? The truth is that i don’t right now, because if i stayed friends with him i wouldn’t be able to live my life comfortably because the guilt of doing anything that he would be against would linger over me every time id see him or talk to him. But if i dont stay friends with him and cut off all contact, hes going to drive himself crazy! I don’t want him to do anything drastic

Any advice?