Comments on: How To Break Up With Somebody In 7 Steps http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/ Learn how to survive after breaking up and read some great relationship advice for having new and healthy relationships. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:45:08 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Rich Baum, Jr. http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/comment-page-3/#comment-5588 Rich Baum, Jr. Fri, 13 Nov 2009 18:43:28 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/#comment-5588 Great article. Thanks. Will keep the link for reference.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5588','Rich Baum, Jr.'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5588','Rich Baum, Jr.','Great article. Thanks. Will keep the link for reference.'); return false;">quote</a></div> Great article. Thanks. Will keep the link for reference.
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]]> By: cjniya http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/comment-page-3/#comment-5420 cjniya Sat, 10 Oct 2009 14:19:36 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/#comment-5420 Exchanges take place between people’s characteristics, don’t they? Some people with high age and lots passion still enjoy every new thing in their life, while some young people just are the diehard and refuse to change their mind to accept the new things.
Believe it or not, one young man I know lists all the exciting things on the forbidden list. He doesn’t drink, doesn’t smoke, and even doesn’t take part in the crazy party. All he likes to do is reading or taking part in some normal conferences. He even collects things he brought back from conferences. There are thirty rubber wristbands, twelve ID cards and even some strange hats used in the conference—- Jesus, what kind of conferences they are? —- in his collection. He is kind of bookish. But unfortunately, he is my boyfriend. Besides the old diehard things, he is a nice man. He cares about the family, cares about his friends, and the most important thing is we love each other. For the love’s sake, I could bear all the things for him. But when I am tired, I think may be I should give up him.
He is a nice guy, he could cook meals and he is a good cook. But he refuses all the new style of dishes; he only cooks what he wants to eat. He could be a good athlete, but he plays football only and considers the basketball game as the one for giant nuts. For showing his attitude, he forbids me to take part in the cheer leader audition. He even does not like me to wear the short skirts or short dresses. With the consideration of these actions as the proof of love, I keep myself staying beside him. But this insisting made me crazy and tired, should I leave?
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]]> By: tom http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/comment-page-3/#comment-5419 tom Sat, 10 Oct 2009 10:52:24 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/#comment-5419 I have gone out with my girlfriend for just over two years. The last several months have been flat, we have been drifting apart literally. She has an alcohol problem that always resulted in a fight whenever i brought it up. It is only recently when I mentioned breaking up that she admitted to it and even promised to get help. She didn't. Of course I am not a saint either. Lately we have been fighting over all sorts of issues, and she has even started being disrespectful and almost verbally abusive, especially when drunk. The more I think about it, the more I feel that the chance for long-term happiness in this relationship is too small to invest further. I therefore want out and I have brought it up with her, but she insisted on giving it a final chance but we never even got started on the actions we had agreed on. The issue I have is that she moved in almost a year ago. She cannot afford the rent by herself so she would have to move out. In addition to the break up she would have to deal with looking for a house and moving. What would be a sensitive way to handle this? Is there a 'sensitive' way? I was thinking about moving out for about a week to help her gather her thoughts and plans together. Is this good enough?<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5419','tom'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5419','tom','I have gone out with my girlfriend for just over two years. The last several months have been flat, we have been drifting apart literally. She has an alcohol problem that always resulted in a fight whenever i brought it up. It is only recently when I mentioned breaking up that she admitted to it and even promised to get help. She didn\'t. Of course I am not a saint either.\r\n\r\nLately we have been fighting over all sorts of issues, and she has even started being disrespectful and almost verbally abusive, especially when drunk. The more I think about it, the more I feel that the chance for long-term happiness in this relationship is too small to invest further. I therefore want out and I have brought it up with her, but she insisted on giving it a final chance but we never even got started on the actions we had agreed on.\r\n\r\nThe issue I have is that she moved in almost a year ago. She cannot afford the rent by herself so she would have to move out. In addition to the break up she would have to deal with looking for a house and moving. What would be a sensitive way to handle this? Is there a \'sensitive\' way? I was thinking about moving out for about a week to help her gather her thoughts and plans together. Is this good enough?'); return false;">quote</a></div> I have gone out with my girlfriend for just over two years. The last several months have been flat, we have been drifting apart literally. She has an alcohol problem that always resulted in a fight whenever i brought it up. It is only recently when I mentioned breaking up that she admitted to it and even promised to get help. She didn’t. Of course I am not a saint either.

Lately we have been fighting over all sorts of issues, and she has even started being disrespectful and almost verbally abusive, especially when drunk. The more I think about it, the more I feel that the chance for long-term happiness in this relationship is too small to invest further. I therefore want out and I have brought it up with her, but she insisted on giving it a final chance but we never even got started on the actions we had agreed on.

The issue I have is that she moved in almost a year ago. She cannot afford the rent by herself so she would have to move out. In addition to the break up she would have to deal with looking for a house and moving. What would be a sensitive way to handle this? Is there a ’sensitive’ way? I was thinking about moving out for about a week to help her gather her thoughts and plans together. Is this good enough?

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]]> By: Tri-Tri http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/comment-page-3/#comment-5392 Tri-Tri Mon, 05 Oct 2009 00:12:01 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/#comment-5392 I was married 18 years to my former husband. Our total years together totalled over 22 years. We have two children. In that time I felt abused. We argued. Spied on each other's whereabouts and cell phones. I survived 4 drug treatment programs, uncountable affairs by him, abandonment, verbal abuse, and ultimately I stopped making sense. Our worlds watched us get married, and our worlds witnessed a cataclysmic break up. Ending the relationship was the beginning of me saving my sanity. It was not easy. I cried and was definitely in mourning. But, I want everyone on this page to know that time and alot of work does, indeed, heal the wound. You have to be proactive in saving yourself. What do YOU need? You can restore your self respect, esteem, and worth. You can rise more dignified than when you started that relationship. Bless you all.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5392','Tri-Tri'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5392','Tri-Tri','I was married 18 years to my former husband. Our total years together totalled over 22 years. We have two children. In that time I felt abused. We argued. Spied on each other\'s whereabouts and cell phones. I survived 4 drug treatment programs, uncountable affairs by him, abandonment, verbal abuse, and ultimately I stopped making sense. Our worlds watched us get married, and our worlds witnessed a cataclysmic break up. \r\n\r\nEnding the relationship was the beginning of me saving my sanity. It was not easy. I cried and was definitely in mourning. But, I want everyone on this page to know that time and alot of work does, indeed, heal the wound. You have to be proactive in saving yourself. What do YOU need? You can restore your self respect, esteem, and worth. You can rise more dignified than when you started that relationship. \r\n\r\nBless you all.'); return false;">quote</a></div> I was married 18 years to my former husband. Our total years together totalled over 22 years. We have two children. In that time I felt abused. We argued. Spied on each other’s whereabouts and cell phones. I survived 4 drug treatment programs, uncountable affairs by him, abandonment, verbal abuse, and ultimately I stopped making sense. Our worlds watched us get married, and our worlds witnessed a cataclysmic break up.

Ending the relationship was the beginning of me saving my sanity. It was not easy. I cried and was definitely in mourning. But, I want everyone on this page to know that time and alot of work does, indeed, heal the wound. You have to be proactive in saving yourself. What do YOU need? You can restore your self respect, esteem, and worth. You can rise more dignified than when you started that relationship.

Bless you all.

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]]> By: Ellie http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/comment-page-3/#comment-5387 Ellie Sun, 04 Oct 2009 11:32:29 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/#comment-5387 Hi, I am going through a very difficult break up, it has completely crushed me - I am lost. I keep calling him, I must stop. I am gathering strength from these pages and have made myself a weeks plan to keep busy. Must keep going.xxxx<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5387','Ellie'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5387','Ellie','Hi,\r\n\r\nI am going through a very difficult break up, it has completely crushed me - I am lost. I keep calling him, I must stop. I am gathering strength from these pages and have made myself a weeks plan to keep busy.\r\n\r\nMust keep going.xxxx'); return false;">quote</a></div> Hi,

I am going through a very difficult break up, it has completely crushed me – I am lost. I keep calling him, I must stop. I am gathering strength from these pages and have made myself a weeks plan to keep busy.

Must keep going.xxxx

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]]> By: babyj http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/comment-page-3/#comment-5386 babyj Sun, 04 Oct 2009 07:09:18 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/#comment-5386 I have been with my current boyfriend for almost 3 years now. Early on I got warning signs that he was overly jealous, and aggressive. He has even been abusive. However, there are many things I adore about him. Since we have been together I have finished school, got a job in my field, and even a promotion. I have seen no action on his part working to get a better job during this 3 years. On top on all of this we are in a long distance relationship, seeing each other on the weekends. He wants to move in, but I keep putting him off when he asks me about it. I have tried to break up with him before, and he calls or texts over, and over....and I eventually give in and we talk again. I know I could be so much happier, even if I was alone(do not like the idea of being alone), and I know that he will make it hard for me to leave him. That 's just the kind of guy he is. Any sugesstions??<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5386','babyj'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5386','babyj','I have been with my current boyfriend for almost 3 years now. Early on I got warning signs that he was overly jealous, and aggressive. He has even been abusive. However, there are many things I adore about him. Since we have been together I have finished school, got a job in my field, and even a promotion. I have seen no action on his part working to get a better job during this 3 years. On top on all of this we are in a long distance relationship, seeing each other on the weekends. He wants to move in, but I keep putting him off when he asks me about it. I have tried to break up with him before, and he calls or texts over, and over....and I eventually give in and we talk again.\r\nI know I could be so much happier, even if I was alone(do not like the idea of being alone), and I know that he will make it hard for me to leave him. That \'s just the kind of guy he is. Any sugesstions??'); return false;">quote</a></div> I have been with my current boyfriend for almost 3 years now. Early on I got warning signs that he was overly jealous, and aggressive. He has even been abusive. However, there are many things I adore about him. Since we have been together I have finished school, got a job in my field, and even a promotion. I have seen no action on his part working to get a better job during this 3 years. On top on all of this we are in a long distance relationship, seeing each other on the weekends. He wants to move in, but I keep putting him off when he asks me about it. I have tried to break up with him before, and he calls or texts over, and over….and I eventually give in and we talk again.
I know I could be so much happier, even if I was alone(do not like the idea of being alone), and I know that he will make it hard for me to leave him. That ’s just the kind of guy he is. Any sugesstions??
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]]> By: tebali http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/comment-page-2/#comment-5358 tebali Fri, 25 Sep 2009 06:52:43 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/#comment-5358 please help, i met this guy who i never asked 4 his financial assistance in anything in life,am an independent woman.i met this guy who never tell the truth even in small matters he will claim to be honest in lies he tells you.I wanted to quit long time back but is like he wasn't ready for it and asked me to give him a chance as he promised to become a better man in future.i gave him so many chances and this chances didn't do me good for i now regret the whole game we played.am left hopeless because of so many things he did to me.please help me withn ur advices so i can overcome all what happened to me.if anyone one wanting to give me advices please e mail me at manyaliteb@yahoo.com because there are a lot to be said.THANKS AND HOPE TO CHAT WITH YOU FROM THERE.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5358','tebali'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5358','tebali','please help, i met this guy who i never asked 4 his financial assistance in anything in life,am an independent woman.i met this guy who never tell the truth even in small matters he will claim to be honest in lies he tells you.I wanted to quit long time back but is like he wasn\'t ready for it and asked me to give him a chance as he promised to become a better man in future.i gave him so many chances and this chances didn\'t do me good for i now regret the whole game we played.am left hopeless because of so many things he did to me.please help me withn ur advices so i can overcome all what happened to me.if anyone one wanting to give me advices please e mail me at manyaliteb@yahoo.com because there are a lot to be said.THANKS AND HOPE TO CHAT WITH YOU FROM THERE.'); return false;">quote</a></div> please help, i met this guy who i never asked 4 his financial assistance in anything in life,am an independent woman.i met this guy who never tell the truth even in small matters he will claim to be honest in lies he tells you.I wanted to quit long time back but is like he wasn’t ready for it and asked me to give him a chance as he promised to become a better man in future.i gave him so many chances and this chances didn’t do me good for i now regret the whole game we played.am left hopeless because of so many things he did to me.please help me withn ur advices so i can overcome all what happened to me.if anyone one wanting to give me advices please e mail me at manyaliteb@yahoo.com because there are a lot to be said.THANKS AND HOPE TO CHAT WITH YOU FROM THERE.
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]]> By: nafs http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/comment-page-2/#comment-5314 nafs Wed, 16 Sep 2009 13:44:10 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/#comment-5314 i try to not contact my boyfriend for a day but i dont want to break up with him.i just want make he start to call or massage me first.bUT on that day i did,t get any respond from him.there look likes i am not important to him anymore..and now he change!we are not go for a date at all.i am very sad now!what should i do??? pleasssss HELP ME...................<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5314','nafs'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5314','nafs','i try to not contact my boyfriend for a day but i dont want to break up with him.i just want make he start to call or massage me first.bUT on that day i did,t get any respond from him.there look likes i am not important to him anymore..and now he change!we are not go for a date at all.i am very sad now!what should i do??? \r\npleasssss HELP ME...................'); return false;">quote</a></div> i try to not contact my boyfriend for a day but i dont want to break up with him.i just want make he start to call or massage me first.bUT on that day i did,t get any respond from him.there look likes i am not important to him anymore..and now he change!we are not go for a date at all.i am very sad now!what should i do???
pleasssss HELP ME……………….
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]]> By: Alexis http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/comment-page-2/#comment-5270 Alexis Thu, 03 Sep 2009 18:29:31 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/#comment-5270 A bad marriage. A bad boyfriend. Then the worst of the worst, a married man! So many years wasted on a man that lied to me about everything but his first name. Emotionally, he became a major player in my life even though we never had a holiday together, we was never available when I was ill, I slept alone every night, saturday nights were always spent with a girlfriend or alone, he lied. Yet I waited for him to tell me how much he loved me...then he did! Wow, how happy was I for a moment because when those words were finally spoken I thought action would follow but instead I was only to witness more lies. Well, as much as it hurts the rose coloured glasses are off and I can see that he is a selfish man that is only holding on to me to fill the massive holes in his own life while mine sits on hold waiting for the call waiting for the visit JUST ALWAYS WAITING. Life is too short to sit and wait on someone you know is using you like spackle to fill the holes in his own marriage. So she is a drunk blah blah blah, it was always his choice to stay or go and he chooses to stay, that is not my problem. Reality Check Time. It is the grief that I was always avoiding and in doing so I avoided living instead.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5270','Alexis'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5270','Alexis','A bad marriage. A bad boyfriend. Then the worst of the worst, a married man! So many years wasted on a man that lied to me about everything but his first name.\r\nEmotionally, he became a major player in my life even though we never had a holiday together, we was never available when I was ill, I slept alone every night, saturday nights were always spent with a girlfriend or alone, he lied. Yet I waited for him to tell me how much he loved me...then he did! Wow, how happy was I for a moment because when those words were finally spoken I thought action would follow but instead I was only to witness more lies. Well, as much as it hurts the rose coloured glasses are off and I can see that he is a selfish man that is only holding on to me to fill the massive holes in his own life while mine sits on hold waiting for the call waiting for the visit JUST ALWAYS WAITING. Life is too short to sit and wait on someone you know is using you like spackle to fill the holes in his own marriage. So she is a drunk blah blah blah, it was always his choice to stay or go and he chooses to stay, that is not my problem. Reality Check Time.\r\nIt is the grief that I was always avoiding and in doing so I avoided living instead.'); return false;">quote</a></div> A bad marriage. A bad boyfriend. Then the worst of the worst, a married man! So many years wasted on a man that lied to me about everything but his first name.
Emotionally, he became a major player in my life even though we never had a holiday together, we was never available when I was ill, I slept alone every night, saturday nights were always spent with a girlfriend or alone, he lied. Yet I waited for him to tell me how much he loved me…then he did! Wow, how happy was I for a moment because when those words were finally spoken I thought action would follow but instead I was only to witness more lies. Well, as much as it hurts the rose coloured glasses are off and I can see that he is a selfish man that is only holding on to me to fill the massive holes in his own life while mine sits on hold waiting for the call waiting for the visit JUST ALWAYS WAITING. Life is too short to sit and wait on someone you know is using you like spackle to fill the holes in his own marriage. So she is a drunk blah blah blah, it was always his choice to stay or go and he chooses to stay, that is not my problem. Reality Check Time.
It is the grief that I was always avoiding and in doing so I avoided living instead.
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]]> By: Barbie http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/comment-page-2/#comment-5269 Barbie Thu, 03 Sep 2009 18:15:45 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/how-to-break-up-with-somebody-in-7-steps/#comment-5269 I waited 17 years my hope is that you will do this quickly so you have the best chance to rebuild your life. The kids deserve sanity.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5269','Barbie'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5269','Barbie','I waited 17 years my hope is that you will do this quickly so you have the best chance to rebuild your life. The kids deserve sanity.'); return false;">quote</a></div> I waited 17 years my hope is that you will do this quickly so you have the best chance to rebuild your life. The kids deserve sanity.
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