Requirements

• The existence of a very strong desire to reach the outcome is essential. You have to want it badly. Very useful is a critical absence of something that make you want it even harder, like, a common example, having no money to pay the rent. A strong urge gets things moving.
  If you don’t have this strong need, create it artificially. There a many ways to do this. Behind every need is an urge. Just intensify this urge. If you want to be rich, tell all your friend that you’re soon going to buy a Mercedes Benz, the wish not to be a liar intensifies your desire for money. If you want to find your dream girl/boy, well, there are many ways to intensify this need. You get the point.
• Take responsibility for your current situation. No one else is responsible for you, if you don’t care, who else will?
• You must be aware that change is indispensable. The person you are now, will not be able to accomplish your set goal. Embrace that change. Want it.
• Don’t try to change reality, change to suit reality instead. You must be prepared to adopt another course, if the previous one turned out to be wrong. “Be the water, not the rock”.

Step One – Fleshing Out

Take a pen and paper and write out some ideas about what you really want and why. Take your time.

I believe that the writing process is a good way to sort out your thoughts and help you to concretize your true wishes. This allows you also to evaluate them objectively. The better you define your goal, the faster you will achieve it.

Now the important part: set an ultimate date on when you plan to achieve your goal. Be realistic here. Most people overestimate what they can do in two months but underestimate what they can achieve in two years.

Just write down a date, develop one powerful declarative sentence and post it all over your place.

Don’t take this lightly, for this is a very important step.

Step Two – Identifying Fears And Obstacles

Take out pen and paper again, and this time write down what fears and obstacles you would expect. Don’t think much about it just write them down one below the other. Ask yourself the following questions: What may prevent me from success? What fears may come up? What or who may get in my way? Write it down!

Are there self limiting believes? Like: I don’t deserve happiness, I’m worthless, money is bad, etc. Write them down!

After you have made the list go down every point separately and write a possible solution directly beneath it.

Being aware of those fears and obstacles and their overcoming takes out their power. Since you then recognize them, you can immediately oppose them, and eventually they may turn out to be powerless in the beginning.