Take a pen and paper and write out some ideas about what you really want and why. Take your time.
I believe that the writing process is a good way to sort out your thoughts and help you to concretize your true wishes. This allows you also to evaluate them objectively. The better you define your goal, the faster you will achieve it.
Now the important part: set an ultimate date on when you plan to achieve your goal. Be realistic here. Most people overestimate what they can do in two months but underestimate what they can achieve in two years.
Just write down a date, develop one powerful declarative sentence and post it all over your place.
Don’t take this lightly, for this is a very important step.
Take out pen and paper again, and this time write down what fears and obstacles you would expect. Don’t think much about it just write them down one below the other. Ask yourself the following questions: What may prevent me from success? What fears may come up? What or who may get in my way? Write it down!
Are there self limiting believes? Like: I don’t deserve happiness, I’m worthless, money is bad, etc. Write them down!
After you have made the list go down every point separately and write a possible solution directly beneath it.
Being aware of those fears and obstacles and their overcoming takes out their power. Since you then recognize them, you can immediately oppose them, and eventually they may turn out to be powerless in the beginning.
Eddie Corbano is a breakup-coach, relationship-advisor and founder of LovesAGame. He suffered from a devastating break up in 1998. Since then, he dedicated his life to helping others getting the best of this existential experience. The overcoming of a break up is an important step to autonomy and independency. Eddie Corbano developed some new coaching programs, which focus on evolving inner strength and the power to set and reach any personal goal. (Article written on February 4th, 2007)
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I would like to say that this was very helpful in addition I have found encouragement in your long distance relationship section. I got together with my fiance in 1/06 in Jamaica. I am moving there when we are financially able to make a living together there. I am here in Colorado and he is there….long time waiting…..looking to make it all happen sooner…
I hope for any further advice you may have…
Thanks! Mr. Corbano
this is a very motivating word which reall inspire me but the problem is that the strong belief of achieving this aim is so fast or the other way round
thats really fantastic….I am thankful to you for putting this article on ur website.I am thankful to the universe…the god for giving me an opportunity to go though your site.On a serious note,I gain back my hope..!!
I just want to say that this is the first time that I ‘m reading these articles and the reasons for why I feel terribly depressed was unclear to me until now and I’m excited to try the techniques you’ve spoken about. I haven’t gotten excited about much in a while, so I want to thank you for that. Hopefully I’ll be thanking you for much more in the future.
sincerely,
Lovely