Break Up and Divorce How To Stop Yourself From Facebook-Stalking Your Ex

How To Stop Yourself From Facebook-Stalking Your Ex

Anyone who has been through a tough breakup, and finally come to the realization that the only way to heal is by following the no-contact rule, have eventually come to a point where they feel trapped.

The missing, the need to see, talk, and feel your Ex again can seem so unbearable. How easy would it be to get a glimpse of the “real thing” – a peek into their actual life – by searching through their pages in Facebook, Myspace and all those social gathering places?

A new photo of him/her, what s/he has done during the weekend, if s/he still misses you – all of that seems just one click away.

But would it make you feel better?

Not for a minute, I guarantee you that.

I've done it myself many years ago.

I couldn't bear it anymore. All I wanted to see was an actual picture of her, how she looked like at that time, nothing more.

I was just curious.

But we all know that curiosity killed the cat.

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I did some intense searching, (there wasn't Facebook or Myspace back then), and I finally found a little more than I had bargained for.

I found a picture of her and her new guy.

Now this is something that can destroy you in the beginning. I found myself thrown right back to the bottom of my recovery journey, with all its symptoms: panic attacks, deep despair and depression.

I took me 2 weeks to get out of that. And for what? For a short glimpse into her life?

The price was much too high.

Never ever do something like that. It's really NOT worth it. There is absolutely nothing you can gain. Nothing, believe me.

Now, IF you have decided to follow the no-contact rule, here are two things I really recommend you to do. It’s for your own sake.

1. Block Your Ex In Facebook

Facebook gives you very good help with the topic of blocking unwanted people.

Basically, everything you need to do is:

  1. go to your Ex's profile page
  2. navigate to the bottom of the page
  3. click on “Report/Block this person” link
  4. check “Block this person” and then hit “Submit.”

That's it. Your Ex will not be able to look into your pages and most importantly, YOU will not be able to follow your Ex's updates.

Your Ex will not be notified that you blocked her/him, but if s/he found out and contacted you regarding this, don't feel guilty. You are doing this because you've decided that you want to take your life and happiness into your own hands. You are doing this because YOU are the most important person in your life right now.

One important thing to know is that your Ex can still appear in mutual friends updates, so I recommend that you block them as well. You can still “unblock” them later when you feel better.

2. Restrict Access To Facebook

There is a computer-geek-way to block certain pages completely from access on your own computer. It's not difficult to do and I really recommend it for no-contact.

By doing this, you will not be able to visit Facebook or the pages where you can find current information on your Ex.

It's a little radical, but it's better to not trust yourself.

Here's how you do it:

  1. Find the hosts-file on your computer

  2. The hosts-file is located at (depending on your operating system):

    Windows XP, Vista and Windows 7
    C:\WINDOWS\system32\drivers\etc\hosts
    Windows 2000

    C:\WINNT\system32\drivers\etc\hosts
    Windows 98/ME

    C:\WINDOWS\hosts

  3. Append the following code and the bottom of the hosts-file:

  4. # Block Facebook
    127.0.0.1 www.facebook.com
    127.0.0.1 facebook.com
    127.0.0.1 static.ak.fbcdn.net
    127.0.0.1 www.static.ak.fbcdn.net
    127.0.0.1 login.facebook.com
    127.0.0.1 www.login.facebook.com
    127.0.0.1 fbcdn.net
    127.0.0.1 www.fbcdn.net
    127.0.0.1 fbcdn.com
    127.0.0.1 www.fbcdn.com
    127.0.0.1 static.ak.connect.facebook.com
    127.0.0.1 www.static.ak.connect.facebook.com

You can follow the excellent step-by-step instruction explained here.

For the Mac it’s the exact thing, except that the location of the hosts-file is a little more complicated.

Here’s a good instruction for Macs.

You can add all the URLs you want, like Facebook, their Twitter page, etc.

If you are not a computer-geek, ask a friend to do it for you. This is in any case the preferable way, because then it is harder for you to reverse the process.

I urge you to make these changes as soon as possible, because I know it's a sore temptation to check on your Ex. You will gain nothing by doing so, it will NOT ease your pain or help you to stop missing them. This is an illusion. It will only bring you suffering.

I promise you that you will win so much if you stick to the no-contact rule. You will gain independence, strength and the certainty that YOU can make your own happiness.

Isn't that worth enough to kiss Facebook goodbye for a few months?

Do you know a better method for keeping yourself from computer-stalking your Ex? Have I missed something? Please share in the comment-section below.

Your friend,
Eddie Corbano

  • as per my last post, the reason I also suggest blocking them is their contact to you can stir things up…i've been NC for 1 yr now…my ex met some guy and 2 mo started dating him (we were together 2 yrs, broke up sept 08) , then they got engaged 8 mo later and in april of this yr they got married….so i'm NC and trying to grieve and heal in my life**…she sends me an email 2 mo ago in june asking ''how i'm doing, hoping my life is filled with joy & happiness and to drop her a line.''…yeah, I don't think so…that email just stirred up a hornet's nest of anger, sadness, longing, regret, etc….didn't do me any good at all.
    ** and as per myself, I'm DONE with love…I don't believe in it anymore….let's face it: the majority of all intimate relationships, whether via death, sickness, separation or divorce will eventually end…I have no wish to try again…i'll get out there and make new friends and open my heart that way to receive and give love….intimate gigs are overvalued that for the most part don't work out (sure in the end they're always 'great' as mother nature is jostling with your hormones/brain chemicals etc) but all in all, I'm 'closed for business'….now watch me look foolish as the universe then upends me on my ass when I run into someone who stirs up something romantic in me, LOL.

    anyone have similar feelings/thoughts?

    • I felt that before but I can tell you that you seems like having a lot of agony and resentment of you still, one year. Do not give up because of a lost relationship. Love is inside of us and once we meet up with the right one again, it blossoms. Stop hating and resent, let go the pass and move on.

      • i totally get you …i was in a 'woe is me' mode when I wrote it, that's all….i've been single 2 yrs now and in all honesty i have no desire to date…maybe when i'm more healed and in a better space (working on all that) I'll be more open, but have no desire at all right now)….anyway as per your 'stop hating and resenting' comment, well alot of it is self inflicted too: tis forgiving not only the ex** , but our own limitations at that time, too…maybe that's the equally hard part: letting myself off the hook, too and finding more self forgiveness.
        **she did say some very hurtful things in the end via an email, ie, that she never loved me but tried fooling herself cause i was such a good/nice guy…I don't believe it totally: more like her rationalizing to push me away

        • Gfsmisgbjrdm says:

          just wanted to say that i know exactly how you feel and i’m so glad i found your post. i just found out my ex is engaged through facebook, this is about five months after we broke up. we dated for a year and a half, he’s been dating the new girl for four months.
          i still miss him, and i hate myself for that.
          in times like this i want to turn to my friends and family for support but it seems like no one understands.
          i’m honestly not sure how to feel anymore either. on one hand it inspires me to not waste time and to follow my feelings the way he apparently did. on the other hand… i believed he loved me and would always love me. obviously i was very wrong. now i have no idea how i can trust anyone who claims to love me in the future.

          • i read from a book and would like to share with you. Human is basically full with love but because of some incident that having so much agony,resentment and sorrow inside, it becomes a mental block to accept the past and live in present. I do agree with what the author said, although I felt the same feeling as you before. Remember that the past few relationships that I had, I was always seeking for love and to be whole again from my partner even the former relationship was failed. That is only when we are fully healed and ready to start over again and we will feel want to be loved and love again, it is a nature that woman and man are finding each other to want to feel whole again. I suffer a lot from the past relationship by thinking I might not be able to open my heart again and subconsciously i am becoming a victim for myself – also thinking that will make him feel bad. But the reality is i was stupid to be in this negative path. Until the last time I saw my ex, he has moved on, happy and found his new girlfriend again. Believing that one day you will find love again and willing to open you heart to someone who deserves you. What you need to do now is feel the pain and watch your emotion, dont let it get into you – remind yourself that it is painful but it is a past. You are in the present and you are feeling the pain, believing that one day you will be whole again. That is nothing you can change the past or him – But you have control on yourself, that is choice in you to be healed and happy again. Do not resist the pain and lost feeling, feel that but do not comment on the feeling, just feel that and it will be going after some time. Good luck.

        • Hi Canali, i am glad because I went to read the book, The Power of Now suggested by Eddie. It helps me a lot. I am going to share with you a few important keys –
          1. stay in present and conscious – I do aware whenever I did not think about past or him, just Now and here – I am okay. Whenever I recalled the past and loss, my heart sank, I felt the pain is coming back. What I did was acknowledging the pain and be a watcher of my feeling – Yes I am painful but that is the past.
          2. Do not stay in past or future – do not wonder what if – next – those are out of our control. I have been always fantasizing a lot of what if-that is chance, then I will kill them by watching my attempt and realize I am not living at Now, focus on now and here I am.
          3. Surrender – did not mean give up or i dont care but understand that it is painful and I am trying to be alert in the present by trusting I am okay now, the more we resist to the pain and avoiding to feel the pain, we may be caught in surprise that how agony it would became. The more we resist, the deeper we are sinking and living in the past.
          4. Forgiveness – that is nothing but as long as we treasure our life in the present without stuck in the past, forgiveness is already here.
          5. We should not depend on our partner to feel peace but we should have peace inside us by wanting to live in present and be conscious about our feeling. Once we achieve that, it does not matter if we are seeing someone else or alone.
          I would sincerely hope that you can read this book as it gives me a lot of insight. By reading this book, it will not solve my issue but I learn more control on 'myself”, when the thought and mind creep in – i am able to kill them fast. Thanks to Eddie again for recommending this book. Good luck

  • you can also block them from contacting you, too….your microsoft outlook has 'junk mail' filters, into which you can put one's email address…the same with hotmail under 'options'…same thing on being able to block someone.

    remember the saying: 'friends can become lovers, but the opposite is seldom true.'….I hope NEVER run into or hear from or about my ex ever again…or any of her friends or relatives…NEVER…that would be such a blessing if it could occur….just causes me too much pain.

  • Great article 🙂 I can relate, and it's comforting to know I'm not the only one who got tempted by this.

    What I learned is:
    Before you click on his/her page just stop, think and ask yourself:
    “What for?”
    and no matter what reason you give yourself, ask again:
    “Will this help me move on?”
    The answer is usually No.

    It took me a few times at first, and I got the full dose of consequences. I got determined not to do that to myself again; and I remind myself of how I felt so bad everytime I catch myself thinking of looking him up. I am more aware of my actions and the reasons behind them.

    I put me first.

  • First of all, I just want to preface this by saying, through my break up, this website is what saved me. My boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me about two weeks ago. My life was shattered. My heart broke into pieces and I was literally devastated. I felt hopeless. I felt like my whole life had crumbled and turned into nothing. How could he do this? How could he leave me? How could he hurt me this way? Soon after, he removed me from everything, and changed his phone number.

    I threatened to kill myself. And I almost did. I was so low. I already suffered from depression, and this situation just made things so much worse. I ended up calling my employee hotline and was picked up by the police and brought to the emergency room. I was then evaluated and PEC'd by the doctor; which meant, I was admitted to a psych ward. I was in the hospital for about a week. The first few days were unbearable. I made friends and started focusing on myself. Of course, my first impulse was to just find another guy. Focus on them. Let them fill the hole inside of me. But I knew that I needed to fix myself. The only reason I felt like this was because of my low self confidence and lack of love for myself. I began taking anti-depressants, and then was sent home.

    I got home and lost it again. I cried straight for two days. Sobbing. Again feeling like I just wanted to end my life. Taking Xanax. Drinking wine. Sleeping. Not eating. I was miserable.

    How could he have done this to me? This boy who has loved me for so long. This boy who's been my whole life, who I have done everything in the world for. This boy that came along out of nowhere and is the most intelligent, perfect-for-me, boy. I felt like I lost my soul mate. I felt like I lost half of me. I felt like I would, never again, find anyone else that I could love like I loved him.

    I was in absolute agony. I found this website and saw comments from people who had been in pain for 8months to a year after a break up. It was terrifying to think that I could be hurting like this for a year?! No. I made up my mind RIGHT THEN, I would not let myself hurt anymore. I would go to the gym. I would go to group therapy. I would learn to be alone with myself and love myself.

    The next morning, as I was in the shower, I spoke to the Universe: “I am happy. I deserve good things. This day will bring only good. I love myself. Do you hear me, Universe?”

    And I prayed. I prayed whole-heartedly to my Jesus and begged him to heal me. He and the world responded: Each day became easier and easier. I focused only on myself, fixing myself, bettering myself. Loving myself.

    Finally, I felt free.

    After speaking to my ex a few times, we began to talk more about us. And about why he did what he did. There is even talk about us working on our relationship, fixing it, mending it and getting back together. In fact, he told me that he loved me.

    Regardless, even if your ex doesn't come back, you don't need their validation. What you're feeling is separation anxiety. You don't love YOURSELF. Work on you. Pray. Heal. Mend. And everything else will fall into place.

    Thank you for all your comments. Thank you, Eddie, for this website. I wish everyone all the best. God bless. – Naomi

    • heartbroken says:

      I just got tears on my eyes while reading this 🙁 it reflects my situation . Thanks for sharing , now I know I have hope.

    • Sneha Kundu says:

      Hi Naomi
      i dont know whether you visit this website anymore. But i recently had a breakup. I lost my dad about 4 years ago. and then i met this guy who seemed like my perfect soulmate. But then suddenly my world came crumbling down when he left me for someone else about a month back. I felt devastated. i tried to kill myself too. But ultimately i ended up in the psych ward. A week ago i stumbled upon this website. And reading your testimonial here gives me the strength to heal.
      I hope you are happy in your life now.
      -sneha

      • am so sorry hun and hope all is well with you , and let him go some one great will come. dont let go of your life over a man think about this is he letting go of his over you?? NO .Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”

      • HI SNEHA KUNDU. i am so sorry hun and hope all is well with you , and let him go some one great will come. dont let go of your life over a man think about this is he letting go of his over you?? NO .Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending

    • Naomi–all of that happened within 2 weeks?! -_- you started off your comment by stating, “My boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me about two weeks ago.” -_-

  • Yes! this is exactly what I did yesterday when my ex finalised the break-up . I am glad somebody mentioned blocking them on facebook. And yes, he texted asking me when I removed him from facebook. No reply. That was my best answer.

  • When I broke up with my ex-boyfriend, I just deleted him from my Friendster list (back when Facebook wasn't popular yet, yes). It helps.

  • Melanie Afshar says:

    Great post – with all the technology out there these days it almost feels impossible to get over an ex – especially with mutual friends. So the only way to do it is to TAKE CONTROL!
    I was able to get over my ex without blocking him – but it took all the strength in my being to not check his page every day….especially after I saw him dating a girl and had a panic attack over it. It's been a year since the break up and I find that days go by and I don't even think about going on his facebook or think about him at all – I just “hid” his feeds…it helped me. I know in some cases you just need to block them, it's the only way.

    So awesome post….

    I'm new to the blog world, and I love your blog! If you have the time check out mine I'm trying to make some new friends 🙂

    Here is the link: LOVE both Etsy and Regretsy. And your “single girl rantings” 🙂

    Based on your blog, I thought you might be interested in checking mine out, I'm new to the blog world and looking forward to making new friends!!

    EDIT: Please put the address of your blog in the “Website”-field of the form. Thanks, Eddie

  • This no coontact rule is so tough…sometimes I just want to give in but then I think of your advice Eddie and it gives me hope that I will feel better again soon. I just wish soon would come already 🙁
    And I wish I could stop missin him so much…ugh

    • It is hard, as I know after ten years of on and off, my x has contacted me over the last 25 years, and we got back together and then one day no contact at all, he removed from his friend list but has not blocked me.he comments on friends posts and photos I am in …. its hard

  • I am going through a pretty tough time. It has been 3 months since me and my ex split up. We were together for 5 1/2 years and have a 3 year old son together. After a week of us splitting up she started sleeping around and has not stopped since. Throughout the past 3 years she has always said that she never got to live her young days of being single and having fun. So that is part of the reason we split up because she wanted to be single and party. She is 22 by the way. I just can't comprehend why someone would break up their family just to be single and sleep around. Throughout the relationship she has almost cheated on me at least 3 different times. I just always caught her before she ended up doing anything, at least that is what she told me. It's hard to ignore her calls and texts when we share a child together. This is by far been the hardest past 3 months of my life.

    • Bellababe0018 says:

      Oh my God Bryan, thats the worse story I've ever heard. You have to move on for your own good, or it will be a never ending story. you are a man, and there's so many more girls out there than there's men so you need to block her off your life and start dating other people. u HAVE to, or it just keeps getting worse. I know its hard. I just broke up my 7 yrs relationship, but enough is enough!

    • Bryan,

      It is really hard and I'd love to find something to tell you to make you feel better. Your son is the one who needs you the most now. Give yourself to him, think about him and his wellbeing and you will feel less pain yourself. From the bootom of my heart I whish you meet a right woman for you. Hugs.

    • Mattgrijalva says:

      Hi Bryan, I'm sorry to hear how foolish your ex is. For her too leave her family for the enjoyment of freedom and partying is selfish and immature. I know this is hard because your attachment is so strong and its just so hard to deal with. But you have to keep yourself busy, never stay alone and always try to do something whether it be hanging out with friends, or working out, or anything u like.
      Please be strong my friend…
      -Matt G.

    • give all your love and attention to your lovely son. we all know that you're a great father. don't let the past change you. all the best and god bless! =)

    • Thanks to everyone for the encouraging comments. Each week seems to get better but there are those days where I can only think about her, who she's with, and what she's doing. I know that in the long run it is for the best but the process of getting there sucks.

  • The advice about face book is amazing and so true.Blocking your ex really is the best things that you can do.My ex removed me as a friend when we stopped going out after 4 years togther.That really hurt at first like you wouldnt believe.This didnt stop me looking at his profile picture a million times a day!!Just to see if it had changed!!! I felt like I was going mad for doing this!!!!!!I even looked at his new girlfiends pic just to see if that had changed.One day about 8 mths after we had broken up I looked at facebook and there he was with his new girlfiend looking so happy and loved up.She had a similar picture.I cannot tell u how much this hurt and sent me back into all those awful feelings of despair and anxiety and I really felt like giving up and that is was in the first few mths of breaking up again. However I couldnt help but keep on looking.My friends and sisters told me so many times just block them Now I have and feel good as I no they cant no what i am up to and i cant know about them!!!It really is the best way belive me!!!!Its like I was self harming myself every time I looked at his profile pic of him moving on and enjoying his life.Please follow Eddies advice it really is for the best to help try and move on.

    Take care of yourselves

    Lots of Love Tess

    xxxxxxxxx

  • A Healed Stranger says:

    Eddie,
    I found your website after a tough break-up while I was “stumbling” around the internet, I just want to let you know that your articles and many of the quote that you have posted have helped me out tremendously, it has been 8 months now, and I am so happy with myself, not being with him and I have to give you a lot of that credit. Every time I hear of someone going through a break-up I tell them to visit your site. I cannot even begin to attempt to tell you how grateful I am for your support during such a painful time in my life. From the bottom of my heart I truly thank you, and appreciate all of the courage and confidence that you have given me. 🙂
    Thank you Eddie

    • Hey stranger :), thank you very much for your kind words. I am very happy that this site has helped you.

  • crabbypatty says:

    I unblocked him and re-added him! I'm so ashamed! I should never have caved in. I just removed the friend's request and as soon as 48 hours is up i'm going to re-block him! I can't believe i'm right back at square one again! I feel so pathetic!

  • Hey there. My ex ask for break up 4months ago, and it's really hard for me to cope since it's my 1st breakup. The 1st 3months was hell. He brokeup with me during holiday so both of us in a different states. I was doing all the wrong things like sms him every min, calling him, basically just push him away and make him hate me. And we agree to be in friend terms after the breakup. yet, it was so hard for me. I was emotionally unstable and I lost weight. He got himself a new girl right after he dumped me. And yeah, i was stalking him through FB and also the girl. And not only tht I have the pasword for his email. So, to tell you the truth it only hurt me more bcause the girl been changing emel of pictures with my ex. Going back to my campus I didnt spoke a word to him, we are in the same class btw, and the new girl also goes there. On the surface i might seem like fine but no one knows. For now, I am getting better thanks to this site. I read a lot of inspiring and uplifting articles. And being lost few kgs and a lil bit of self-improvemnt, everyone says I look good after the holiday and they didnt even know tht I was going through such a tough time. Im not going to lie, but I am still very fond of my ex. I love him deeply. But I know he is just an immature guy and I do learnt a lot from this breakup. I grow stronger. For the FB matter, I just decided to deactivate my FB a week ago. the reasons for this is mayb I want to prevent myself from looking at my ex page(they already declare it in fb after 2months of my breakup btw) and I think FB is not for me right now. It brings so much pain then goodness. But I will activate my fb someday when I feel like it. I chat will people and blogging as well as reading to spend my time. To those who are going through tough time, I recommend reading something that inspire you. Cry if u want to cause crying actually release toxins, and most of all try to excercise. Exercise release endorphins tht makes u happy. And Im hoping there will be any advice on how to deal with ex that you have to actually meet everyday. But I think I am handling it pretty well now,thnks to my friends and the sites like this one. Good luck for everyone.God bless:)

    • Hello annj
      i just want you to know that I am proud of you for handling the situation better now. You see , i was an fb stalker to my ex girlfriend. And i waited and waited to see what her next default would be,so the only way to put an end to this and beggin a new self beggining was too delete my facebook. Thankfully, ive thought of this idea just a month after we seperated, and this technique has helped so much. As for making a new one, its best to make it when you feel ready, when you are ready to start a healthy life. Because fb stalking is bad, it hurts and hurts and hurts and you trully have to dig deep and decide that the best way for people to stop fb stalking is too delete their facebook. and working out does help out. i get so angry and yet so said of what has happend. I use it as fuel to help me lift heavy and harder. But at the sametime i sumtimes cannot finish my workouts only because the saddness can build up so much when i reflect on it.
      anyways i hope your better, be smart and be safe.
      -matt

  • True. This is ultimate a brand new beginning. I did this too. Initially, I deleted him. Then I added him back because I thought we will still be best friends because I thought that I can forgive him and blessed him with his new found love. But soon I found out that, it was impossible because I was still hoping for him. I kept looking at his updates n I was even worst. My heart broke into pieces. All the sweet talks n lovely poems he wrote was not meant for me at all. He was meant to show off his new found love to the world. My mom advised me to delete him completely. He was not the one for me. He was a selfish guy that was playing with 2 hearts. I did that. And now I felt better though I was trying my best to get rid off him as soon as possible. I felt there is no use to hate him or get angry because of his selfish act. I should be able to take good care of myself, especially my heart. Thus, no more stalking, be true to myself.

    • I did the same thing – deleted him and then added him back cos I thought we could be friends. But then you see all the status updates and how much fun he seems to be having, without you and it sucks! I added him again a few times after because everytime you think that you can handle it and cope with it, until I finally deleted and blocked him for good. Good Luck Mayzel.

  • This is soo true – I did the exact same thing. I had deleted my ex after breaking up, but because he didnt have proper security settings I could access his account as well as the new girl in his life.

    It almost killed me the day I saw a pic of them holding each other. That day I decided to block him and her completely. What I love about blocking on Facebook, is that it's like they dont exist at all – if I go into friends profiles that I know they are mutual friends of, they don't even appear on the contact list. So there's no way of “bumping” into them on Facebook.

    I actually feel so much stronger for doing this, because I felt like a total loser when I was stalking there pages.

    • what a trooper, very proud of you.
      -veloria

  • Such a relevant, timely article with excellent advice. Thanks Eddie!

    I deleted my Facebook account today felt nothing but….freedom! Deleting may be considered a drastic measure to some, but in my case I was never a fan of Facebook to begin with…so when I found myself torturing myself looking at the profile of my ex, that really was the nail in the coffin and I decided enough is enough!
    There IS life beyond Facebook, and there are plenty of other ways to keep in touch with people (the people in your life who care about you – NOT your ex!). I don't need Facebook, and feel better off without it..it's not for everyone!
    I have a long road of recovery, but I'm ready to face it and I even welcome the challenges ahead – hoping that I will grow personally from them.

    To all those struggling with getting past a breakup: you can do it, hang in there and don't give up!

  • Great advice Eddie, this is something that I did instinctively about 4 months ago because I knew how sick seeing her with someone else would make me. But rather then blocking her and all of our mutual friends I just delete my FB account entirely. I figured when I'm ready I can always create a new account again someday, I made it 27 years without FB so I can go a couple more months.

  • That’s brilliant. I agree it can really set you back. Not only that, you start tracing wall-to-wall comments, status updates, photo history… Trying to figure out where, when, why and how things happened. But that doesn’t matter, you can’t change the past.

    When I first broke up with my ex I thought it wouldn’t do any harm a few months later to see how she was.. Just one profile picture made me feel hurt and angry in seconds. Best to leave it in the past or far, far into the future when you have moved on completely.

    Great article.

    • eddie ur doing an amazing job by helping us god will always help u achieve success. watever u said is 100 % true i did the same mistake i blocked him n after few week i unblock him and wat he did he contacted me again. i felt like a looser.

  • Haha, I’m guilty of this!

    I got a little lucky. He was never an avid facebook guy, and when we broke up, he also lost his password to the account, and he’s been unable to remember it or change the e-mail when we were together. He wont contact me on Facebook, I know that much. I would still pop by his page for a split second, or see his name on a friend’s friend list, and I’d get all sorts of crazy flashbacks. No. Bueno.

    My recommendation is to go to a friend’s facebook page and start commenting. Not in a excessive 2456 comments between wall and photos, but just say hi to them, ask what they’re up to. Or go to someone who’s a “liking” addict, and flip through their pages and start liking things.

    If the impulse is too strong, just click the pretty red ‘X’ in the right corner, and go do something else. Like… maybe.. calling up a friend, going out on a walk, veggin’ out to some TV.

    As well, APPROACH YOUR EX WITH INDIFFERENCE. Stop caring. Stop being curious. If you see his/her name just see it as another name. They probably learned to do this themselves when they got over you, you have to do the same. This is an awesome technique for small triggers, like seeing their name on someone else’s friend list, or maybe coming across a stupid comment they made on your wall ages ago.

    That’s all I got!

    • “As well, APPROACH YOUR EX WITH INDIFFERENCE. Stop caring. Stop being curious. If you see his/her name just see it as another name. They probably learned to do this themselves when they got over you, you have to do the same.”

      I really like that.

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