Comments on: My 7 Life Rules – What I’ve Learned In 42 Years http://lovesagame.com/my-7-life-rules-what-ive-learned-in-42-years/ Learn how to survive after breaking up and read some great relationship advice for having new and healthy relationships. Mon, 06 Sep 2010 03:26:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Lara http://lovesagame.com/my-7-life-rules-what-ive-learned-in-42-years/comment-page-1/#comment-8619 Lara Tue, 17 Aug 2010 17:03:21 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=65#comment-8619 well, this is the first time i read these nice texts. i have to say they're really enlightening and help gaining a new perspective to life. <br>well, i'm going through one very difficult period in my life. i shall share. actually, up to 6 months ago i had one relationship, had job and a couple of friends. it was a long term relationship that took me a lot of time an energy, but also was my only priority besides my education. i had an organized life, but free from excitement and real enjoyment in love. after i have graduated (3 years ago) and gained an affirmation in the field of work, i fell helplessly in love with a man i thought was everything i've ever wanted for myself. after a long deliberation whether i should stay in an old relationship or pursuit my happiness with that man, suddenly our encounter happened and i slipped from one boring relationship and boring life into the relationship with the man of my dreams. it lasted five months , five months of extreme happiness. suddenly it all vanished and i'm feeling left alone with no friends, protection and support. i used to be a looked upon person, now i feel i'm nowhere, no friends, no love, no job, nothing..the thing that worries me most is that i lost my interest in professional improvement since i was left all alone and no one to turn to. i wish you could write about this or similar problem cos i 'choose to live' but need help.<br>sincerely yours, Lara well, this is the first time i read these nice texts. i have to say they're really enlightening and help gaining a new perspective to life.
well, i'm going through one very difficult period in my life. i shall share. actually, up to 6 months ago i had one relationship, had job and a couple of friends. it was a long term relationship that took me a lot of time an energy, but also was my only priority besides my education. i had an organized life, but free from excitement and real enjoyment in love. after i have graduated (3 years ago) and gained an affirmation in the field of work, i fell helplessly in love with a man i thought was everything i've ever wanted for myself. after a long deliberation whether i should stay in an old relationship or pursuit my happiness with that man, suddenly our encounter happened and i slipped from one boring relationship and boring life into the relationship with the man of my dreams. it lasted five months , five months of extreme happiness. suddenly it all vanished and i'm feeling left alone with no friends, protection and support. i used to be a looked upon person, now i feel i'm nowhere, no friends, no love, no job, nothing..the thing that worries me most is that i lost my interest in professional improvement since i was left all alone and no one to turn to. i wish you could write about this or similar problem cos i 'choose to live' but need help.
sincerely yours, Lara

]]> By: cheryl http://lovesagame.com/my-7-life-rules-what-ive-learned-in-42-years/comment-page-1/#comment-8478 cheryl Sun, 08 Aug 2010 03:33:02 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=65#comment-8478 My friend just told me about this site -- I think it's great! Really intersting thoughts and ideas.<br>I am curious about what you say in #4 & #5 -- feel like those 2 thing work against each other sometimes. I meet someone new and try not to be judgemental, but --as a friend recently pointed out to me -- the relationship usually winds up ending because of the reasons I saw right from the start. How do you know when to follow your intincts and when to be open minded? My friend just told me about this site — I think it's great! Really intersting thoughts and ideas.
I am curious about what you say in #4 & #5 — feel like those 2 thing work against each other sometimes. I meet someone new and try not to be judgemental, but –as a friend recently pointed out to me — the relationship usually winds up ending because of the reasons I saw right from the start. How do you know when to follow your intincts and when to be open minded?

]]> By: Victoria-Ozarks Crescent Mural http://lovesagame.com/my-7-life-rules-what-ive-learned-in-42-years/comment-page-1/#comment-8295 Victoria-Ozarks Crescent Mural Mon, 26 Jul 2010 13:29:33 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=65#comment-8295 I have my own ideas about a few of these.<br><br>1. Make decisions and never look back. I totally disagree. I think decision-making should take a lot of introspection and some deep thought. You want to make sure you are making the right decision and it's not easy to make the right decision quickly. Never looking back is bad advice too because I'd rather learn from my mistakes so that I never make them again.<br><br>3. Very true. It's a good way to live.<br><br>6. I think for some people saying NO more often would be better.<br><br>7. Goals are what determine my actions. I have my own ideas about a few of these.

1. Make decisions and never look back. I totally disagree. I think decision-making should take a lot of introspection and some deep thought. You want to make sure you are making the right decision and it's not easy to make the right decision quickly. Never looking back is bad advice too because I'd rather learn from my mistakes so that I never make them again.

3. Very true. It's a good way to live.

6. I think for some people saying NO more often would be better.

7. Goals are what determine my actions.

]]> By: Kiera http://lovesagame.com/my-7-life-rules-what-ive-learned-in-42-years/comment-page-1/#comment-7565 Kiera Thu, 03 Jun 2010 05:27:03 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=65#comment-7565 Good advice! I enjoyed reading this, and yes I agree with the 'goals' aspect to life, I always feel better if I 'complete' something, I think I might try and finish the books I've started to read, at least then I can say I've read them, and might even give me a different perspective on life, thank you! Good advice! I enjoyed reading this, and yes I agree with the 'goals' aspect to life, I always feel better if I 'complete' something, I think I might try and finish the books I've started to read, at least then I can say I've read them, and might even give me a different perspective on life, thank you!

]]> By: Marie http://lovesagame.com/my-7-life-rules-what-ive-learned-in-42-years/comment-page-1/#comment-7004 Marie Wed, 14 Apr 2010 19:39:08 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=65#comment-7004 Omg! I'm so glad that I found this site, I'm amazed by the amount of tps that I have found here, I was searching random tips to break up,, ( I really don't want to) I will let time take it's course.. but I do agree with the inner voice, we all have that... " this is not good" but somehow we sometimes ignore it ( not all people) by really knowing what you want and where you are, and being truyly firm to yourself.. then things start to happen.. I love your site!!!!!!!!!! keep going.. =) Omg! I’m so glad that I found this site, I’m amazed by the amount of tps that I have found here, I was searching random tips to break up,, ( I really don’t want to) I will let time take it’s course.. but I do agree with the inner voice, we all have that… ” this is not good” but somehow we sometimes ignore it ( not all people)
by really knowing what you want and where you are, and being truyly firm to yourself.. then things start to happen..
I love your site!!!!!!!!!! keep going.. =)

]]> By: sheetal http://lovesagame.com/my-7-life-rules-what-ive-learned-in-42-years/comment-page-1/#comment-6970 sheetal Mon, 12 Apr 2010 16:44:11 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=65#comment-6970 hi eddie ......i m vry upset in dese days i hve no prblm wid my professional lyf its going gud...bt i m alone i found dat the people whom i used to cal my friend dey don't take interest in me now a days ,,,i really don't know wt to do bt i m feeling very bad,,,,,,,pls help me hi eddie ……i m vry upset in dese days i hve no prblm wid my professional lyf its going gud…bt i m alone i found dat the people whom i used to cal my friend dey don’t take interest in me now a days ,,,i really don’t know wt to do bt i m feeling very bad,,,,,,,pls help me

]]> By: shine http://lovesagame.com/my-7-life-rules-what-ive-learned-in-42-years/comment-page-1/#comment-6771 shine Sun, 14 Mar 2010 04:51:41 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=65#comment-6771 i am new here. . and i am really happy for i have found this website. . perfect for my situation. . everything i have read here in your article inspired me a lot. . and i enjoyed reading them, especially the article where you shared your life's lessons and experiences. . every words gave me confidence. . . and as i go on with your article. . i believe i will become a better person soon. . .. thank you so much! i am new here. . and i am really happy for i have found this website. . perfect for my situation. . everything i have read here in your article inspired me a lot. . and i enjoyed reading them, especially the article where you shared your life’s lessons and experiences. . every words gave me confidence. . . and as i go on with your article. . i believe i will become a better person soon. . .. thank you so much!

]]> By: Eddie Corbano http://lovesagame.com/my-7-life-rules-what-ive-learned-in-42-years/comment-page-1/#comment-6585 Eddie Corbano Wed, 24 Feb 2010 08:17:18 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=65#comment-6585 <blockquote>What or who is your inner voice?</blockquote> I believe that there are two distinctive things going on in our heads: <ol> <li>The ego-based fear polluted “inner talk”, the “monkey-mind” as the Buddhist call it</li> <li>The non-ego-based inner voice coming from a “higher source” (don’t interpret too much into this term) – the “gut feeling”</li> </ol> Usually the first one is MUCH louder than the second one. Now, I have learned that, when I am able to quiet my mind, to dive into the quiet as Deepak Chopra phrased it, I can feel that “higher source” inner voice. Call me crazy, but when I have an important decision to make, that inner voice ALWAYS knows the right thing to do. It has never failed me. The problem is - as I wrote in my article - to quiet the criticising and fear based part of your mind. This is sometimes extremely difficult, it takes practice, positive affirmations and self-confidence. If you master this (I haven’t… yet), then you have the perfect tool for doing the right thing in life. So much for theory… but I’m working on it.

What or who is your inner voice?

I believe that there are two distinctive things going on in our heads:

  1. The ego-based fear polluted “inner talk”, the “monkey-mind” as the Buddhist call it
  2. The non-ego-based inner voice coming from a “higher source” (don’t interpret too much into this term) – the “gut feeling”

Usually the first one is MUCH louder than the second one.

Now, I have learned that, when I am able to quiet my mind, to dive into the quiet as Deepak Chopra phrased it, I can feel that “higher source” inner voice.

Call me crazy, but when I have an important decision to make, that inner voice ALWAYS knows the right thing to do. It has never failed me.

The problem is – as I wrote in my article – to quiet the criticising and fear based part of your mind. This is sometimes extremely difficult, it takes practice, positive affirmations and self-confidence.

If you master this (I haven’t… yet), then you have the perfect tool for doing the right thing in life.

So much for theory… but I’m working on it.

]]> By: Cathy http://lovesagame.com/my-7-life-rules-what-ive-learned-in-42-years/comment-page-1/#comment-6583 Cathy Wed, 24 Feb 2010 01:54:54 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=65#comment-6583 Your rules seem pretty good but...... trusting your inner voice... eg determined said "It was hard for me to trust my inner-voice since I felt my inner-voice should have forewarned me of what I felt was a major tragedy in my life. I felt my inner-voice should known better..lol" What or who is your inner voice? I remember the cartoon when I was growing up about everyone having a little devil and a little angel on each shoulder - one saying "Do it." one saying "Don't." When did we stop believing this? Have you heard the song with the lyrics 'garbage in, garbage out'. We all have inner talk happening and much of it can be defeatist so I choose to put great stuff in - some of which has been mentioned throughout this conversation such as with techniques from gurus like Deepak Chopra. Motivational speakers especially based on firm foundations and ancient wisdom whether it be through the wisdom of women, or religions (eg Jesus or the Dalai Lama) can really help us to stay positive and focused on our goals without dwelling. Too me that is the key 'not to dwell'. If you feel sad don't deny it - feel it (quickly if possible) then do something to change your attitude back to positive and focused. Mindset - what a man thinketh so is he! Your rules seem pretty good but……

trusting your inner voice…

eg determined said “It was hard for me to trust my inner-voice since I felt my inner-voice should have forewarned me of what I felt was a major tragedy in my life. I felt my inner-voice should known better..lol”

What or who is your inner voice? I remember the cartoon when I was growing up about everyone having a little devil and a little angel on each shoulder – one saying “Do it.” one saying “Don’t.” When did we stop believing this?

Have you heard the song with the lyrics ‘garbage in, garbage out’.

We all have inner talk happening and much of it can be defeatist so I choose to put great stuff in – some of which has been mentioned throughout this conversation such as with techniques from gurus like Deepak Chopra. Motivational speakers especially based on firm foundations and ancient wisdom whether it be through the wisdom of women, or religions (eg Jesus or the Dalai Lama) can really help us to stay positive and focused on our goals without dwelling.

Too me that is the key ‘not to dwell’. If you feel sad don’t deny it – feel it (quickly if possible) then do something to change your attitude back to positive and focused.

Mindset – what a man thinketh so is he!

]]> By: David http://lovesagame.com/my-7-life-rules-what-ive-learned-in-42-years/comment-page-1/#comment-6575 David Tue, 23 Feb 2010 14:36:55 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=65#comment-6575 Thanks for the explanation Eddie! I don't know about anyone else but I do this ALL the time. Always making better or worse comparisons in my head. My solution to help practice this in my life is to FEEL love coming from my heart whenever I look at or talk with others. I imagine the love emanating outward toward them and that feeling helps me realize that all of humanity is here in this life together. It helps me feel we are all connected and gets me out of my fear. All that judging and ego I do is connected to my fear(s) and I can't just remove the fear, I have to replace it with it's opposite, love. Thanks for the explanation Eddie!

I don’t know about anyone else but I do this ALL the time. Always making better or worse comparisons in my head.

My solution to help practice this in my life is to FEEL love coming from my heart whenever I look at or talk with others. I imagine the love emanating outward toward them and that feeling helps me realize that all of humanity is here in this life together. It helps me feel we are all connected and gets me out of my fear. All that judging and ego I do is connected to my fear(s) and I can’t just remove the fear, I have to replace it with it’s opposite, love.

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