Comments on: My Way Back Into Life – A Personal Story http://lovesagame.com/my-way-back-into-life-a-personal-story/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=my-way-back-into-life-a-personal-story Learn how to survive a break up, rediscover your true self and find Mr/s Right Thu, 17 May 2012 03:09:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Eddie Corbano http://lovesagame.com/my-way-back-into-life-a-personal-story/comment-page-1/#comment-20351 Eddie Corbano Thu, 15 Mar 2012 19:10:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=504#comment-20351 Hi Yokilittlerain, The "7 steps program" is my one-on-one live coaching program that I do since 2005. The last 6 month I have been working on transforming this into a home study program I call "Ex-Detox System". This will go live in approx. two weeks. Please subscribe to my list for updates and a huge discount. Thanks, Eddie Hi Yokilittlerain,

The “7 steps program” is my one-on-one live coaching program that I do since 2005.

The last 6 month I have been working on transforming this into a home study program I call “Ex-Detox System”. This will go live in approx. two weeks.

Please subscribe to my list for updates and a huge discount.

Thanks,
Eddie

]]> By: Beca http://lovesagame.com/my-way-back-into-life-a-personal-story/comment-page-1/#comment-18921 Beca Sat, 10 Dec 2011 01:30:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=504#comment-18921 This article is so true. I know because I have experienced the effects of not loving yourself and relying on your partner for happiness. This really contributed to my breakup. At the moment I am really struggling with feelings of self-worth. Because the FIRST time he dumped me, I told myself it would get better. I found this site and read Eddie's advice... Started working on loving myself and realising he wasnt good enough for me.... But then I broke no contact accidentally- we bumped into each other,,, and  it led to me falling for him again, and him AGAIN dumping me..... So I am back on this site re-reading Eddie's advice...  It is a lot harder for me this time around, because I feel i let myself down..  I should have followed the NC... instead I let myself become the needy emotionally unstable person I had been months before...  So that scares me. But I know I have to make an extra-big effort this time round...  He dumped me, I tried to make it work- but it could NEVER HAVE WORKED while I didnt love myself. So like Eddie says, him dumping me is going to be the best thing that ever happened...  And I need to start believing that and rebuilding my confidence after the knock it has taken in the last few months. This article is so true.

I know because I have experienced the effects of not loving yourself and relying on your partner for happiness.

This really contributed to my breakup. At the moment I am really struggling with feelings of self-worth.

Because the FIRST time he dumped me, I told myself it would get better.

I found this site and read Eddie’s advice… Started working on loving myself and realising he wasnt good enough for me….

But then I broke no contact accidentally- we bumped into each other,,, and  it led to me falling for him again, and him AGAIN dumping me…..

So I am back on this site re-reading Eddie’s advice… 

It is a lot harder for me this time around, because I feel i let myself down.. 

I should have followed the NC… instead I let myself become the needy emotionally unstable person I had been months before… 

So that scares me. But I know I have to make an extra-big effort this time round… 
He dumped me, I tried to make it work- but it could NEVER HAVE WORKED while I didnt love myself.
So like Eddie says, him dumping me is going to be the best thing that ever happened… 
And I need to start believing that and rebuilding my confidence after the knock it has taken in the last few months.

]]> By: BABA...BABABOOMANDCRASH http://lovesagame.com/my-way-back-into-life-a-personal-story/comment-page-1/#comment-18716 BABA...BABABOOMANDCRASH Wed, 30 Nov 2011 03:33:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=504#comment-18716 Hmmmm...does tht mean you broke up BEFORE someone could dump you ? was that a reactionary response as to what happened as oppossed to it just being a stronger sense of self...obviously I realize you cant quiet respond in depth and there were probably many different experiences and different reasons for any and all relationships.  I am happy that you are happily married.  I wasnt reliant on my partner for happiness. I am still very happy with myself and my life and I actually have a higher than normal need for alone time.  I was in real love I loved him he was awesome and a good person I am the one feeoling rejected and angry about it out of pain but my rational mind understands this.  I dont regret the relationship I was very lucky to have had an incredible 10 months with someone who I was happy to be around and luckier than alot of pople who havent ever felt such connectedness and love with someone.  It ran its course we never fought, disagreement maybe once.  it just wasnt meant to be I had too much baggage with a special needs child and it was too much, I think.  I feel strong in myself, just so sad at the loss of such an incredible time, even tho logically I KNOW there will be happiness as I am happy and have a happy full life and am sure , only because I choose to want to share my life with someone, that I will have more chances that will happen.  I LOVE your site your insight, your words are wonderful  and am thankfull it helps me as it does others.  thanks for responding, take care. NC working on day 9 tomorrow 1.5 hrs away...its tough LOL. Its for me!!! :) Hmmmm…does tht mean you broke up BEFORE someone could dump you ? was that a reactionary response as to what happened as oppossed to it just being a stronger sense of self…obviously I realize you cant quiet respond in depth and there were probably many different experiences and different reasons for any and all relationships.  I am happy that you are happily married.  I wasnt reliant on my partner for happiness. I am still very happy with myself and my life and I actually have a higher than normal need for alone time.  I was in real love I loved him he was awesome and a good person I am the one feeoling rejected and angry about it out of pain but my rational mind understands this.  I dont regret the relationship I was very lucky to have had an incredible 10 months with someone who I was happy to be around and luckier than alot of pople who havent ever felt such connectedness and love with someone.  It ran its course we never fought, disagreement maybe once.  it just wasnt meant to be I had too much baggage with a special needs child and it was too much, I think.  I feel strong in myself, just so sad at the loss of such an incredible time, even tho logically I KNOW there will be happiness as I am happy and have a happy full life and am sure , only because I choose to want to share my life with someone, that I will have more chances that will happen.  I LOVE your site your insight, your words are wonderful  and am thankfull it helps me as it does others.  thanks for responding, take care. NC working on day 9 tomorrow 1.5 hrs away…its tough LOL. Its for me!!! :)

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]]> By: Eddie Corbano http://lovesagame.com/my-way-back-into-life-a-personal-story/comment-page-1/#comment-18687 Eddie Corbano Mon, 28 Nov 2011 19:32:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=504#comment-18687 I have not had any break-ups where I was the "dumpee" since that time, believe it or not (and I am married since 2007). I attribute that mainly to the fact that I gained a new sense of ME. A stronger me that does not rely on a partner to find happiness. If you need a partner in order to feel good about yourself you will always be in a needy and low power position. That was MY personal main issue. However, I had quite a few breakups where I was the "dumper" since then. This was very difficult at first as I knew how devastating it was, but later on it became easier (due to different reasons). Eddie I have not had any break-ups where I was the “dumpee” since that time, believe it or not (and I am married since 2007).

I attribute that mainly to the fact that I gained a new sense of ME. A stronger me that does not rely on a partner to find happiness.

If you need a partner in order to feel good about yourself you will always be in a needy and low power position. That was MY personal main issue.

However, I had quite a few breakups where I was the “dumper” since then. This was very difficult at first as I knew how devastating it was, but later on it became easier (due to different reasons).

Eddie

]]> By: BABA...BABABOOMANDCRASH http://lovesagame.com/my-way-back-into-life-a-personal-story/comment-page-1/#comment-18681 BABA...BABABOOMANDCRASH Mon, 28 Nov 2011 14:44:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=504#comment-18681 Question Eddie, Have you had any breakups post 1998 that made you feel as bad as that? and how different was your reaction and how did you handle it in comparrison to 1998?  Thanks. Question Eddie,
Have you had any breakups post 1998 that made you feel as bad as that? and how different was your reaction and how did you handle it in comparrison to 1998?  Thanks.

]]> By: Tanu http://lovesagame.com/my-way-back-into-life-a-personal-story/comment-page-1/#comment-10777 Tanu Fri, 17 Dec 2010 11:24:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=504#comment-10777 Well I never thought i would be writing this, but I dumped a guy after a relationship of 5 years. I loved him so much, but when he moved out of the country, just to get some emotional support i fell for some other guy. All this while my ex was trying to get back to me, and I was feeling very guilty. But i really did not wanted to go back to him and be alone here. Now this new guy is nice to me, but he is very practical, on the other hand i am very emotional and thought of being alone scares the hell out of me. We fight a lot, so he thinks that it is best we break up. I too want to get back to my ex and break up with thsi new guy, but just because I don wanna leave my life here and this guy with who i have so much fun and a great life (if we don fight), I don wanna go back. I am guilty and sad that i left him, and i don love this new guy much, but i still want to be here with him. And i cry whenever he says that he dosent want to be with me, even though i don love him much. This am sure is so confusing, for you to understand may be. But this is, how much confused I am. Well I never thought i would be writing this, but I dumped a guy after a relationship of 5 years. I loved him so much, but when he moved out of the country, just to get some emotional support i fell for some other guy. All this while my ex was trying to get back to me, and I was feeling very guilty. But i really did not wanted to go back to him and be alone here. Now this new guy is nice to me, but he is very practical, on the other hand i am very emotional and thought of being alone scares the hell out of me. We fight a lot, so he thinks that it is best we break up. I too want to get back to my ex and break up with thsi new guy, but just because I don wanna leave my life here and this guy with who i have so much fun and a great life (if we don fight), I don wanna go back. I am guilty and sad that i left him, and i don love this new guy much, but i still want to be here with him. And i cry whenever he says that he dosent want to be with me, even though i don love him much.
This am sure is so confusing, for you to understand may be. But this is, how much confused I am.

]]> By: Isa Belle http://lovesagame.com/my-way-back-into-life-a-personal-story/comment-page-1/#comment-9693 Isa Belle Wed, 10 Nov 2010 01:55:32 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=504#comment-9693 Thanks so much for sharing, I felt like I was reading about my childhood in your post, but instead of it being my father, it was my mother. And instead of being the dumpee, I've been the dumper in my long-term relationship (over 8 years)- not once but at least 4 times. Each time going back because I loved her so much, and needed her constant acceptance of me as a way to boost up my self esteem. I also felt such guilt about being the dumpee and almost used that as a way to punish myself for not making it work. Needless to say, I've been in this vicious cycle for a long time. I left 2 years ago and went to New Zealand and thought that was it, but I left a lot of my stuff at her place. Now I came back thinking I could handle being 'friends', and take my stuff, but seeing that she is doing great without me, even better actually leaves me devastated. I also realize that I gave everything to her, all of me. How do you take that back? How do you start? I'm doing the no-contact rule as soon as I get my stuff out, but I'm terrified of who I'm going to find under this layer of guilt and loneliness. I just hope that I can move on the way she has. Thanks so much for sharing, I felt like I was reading about my childhood in your post, but instead of it being my father, it was my mother. And instead of being the dumpee, I've been the dumper in my long-term relationship (over 8 years)- not once but at least 4 times. Each time going back because I loved her so much, and needed her constant acceptance of me as a way to boost up my self esteem. I also felt such guilt about being the dumpee and almost used that as a way to punish myself for not making it work. Needless to say, I've been in this vicious cycle for a long time. I left 2 years ago and went to New Zealand and thought that was it, but I left a lot of my stuff at her place. Now I came back thinking I could handle being 'friends', and take my stuff, but seeing that she is doing great without me, even better actually leaves me devastated. I also realize that I gave everything to her, all of me. How do you take that back? How do you start? I'm doing the no-contact rule as soon as I get my stuff out, but I'm terrified of who I'm going to find under this layer of guilt and loneliness. I just hope that I can move on the way she has.

]]> By: Sparkynh2004 http://lovesagame.com/my-way-back-into-life-a-personal-story/comment-page-1/#comment-9622 Sparkynh2004 Sun, 07 Nov 2010 19:47:50 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=504#comment-9622 I have been googling how to get over a break up for several days. I was in a 6 year relationship with someone that I thougt was great for me since we had alot of the same interests and goals. Although I look back and I knew the last few years that things weren't that great. We both had problems the last few years with adjustments to our lives outside the relationship. I just hoped that things would improve I really wanted us to be back to the way we were before. Anyways I read the article and I saw myself in much of it. I had a controlling mother who clamped down on everything I did, she is very religious and got pregnant with me before getting married and was very controlling on everything I did outside of home. I guess she just didn't want me to make her mistake and get someone pregnant too, but it just made me want to just stay home and not do anything so I wouldn't get the fifth degree afterwards. It made me bitter to my mother and not talk to her but I have started again because I realize she was just doing what she thought was best at the time. It just stinks that my relationship ended and now I see all of this when it is too late to save it. I am feeling scared of being alone, I moved out of my hometown recently (my dilema outside of the relationship) due to my place of employment closing and had a hard time adjusting. Having a hard time meeting people when I had a good core of friends back at home. I guess that might have to do with my low self esteem too. I just find things frustrating and here I am just sitting in bed typing away when normally I would be out hunting, one of my favorite pastimes. I just don't know what to do or how to go about it. I have been googling how to get over a break up for several days. I was in a 6 year relationship with someone that I thougt was great for me since we had alot of the same interests and goals. Although I look back and I knew the last few years that things weren't that great. We both had problems the last few years with adjustments to our lives outside the relationship. I just hoped that things would improve I really wanted us to be back to the way we were before. Anyways I read the article and I saw myself in much of it. I had a controlling mother who clamped down on everything I did, she is very religious and got pregnant with me before getting married and was very controlling on everything I did outside of home. I guess she just didn't want me to make her mistake and get someone pregnant too, but it just made me want to just stay home and not do anything so I wouldn't get the fifth degree afterwards. It made me bitter to my mother and not talk to her but I have started again because I realize she was just doing what she thought was best at the time. It just stinks that my relationship ended and now I see all of this when it is too late to save it. I am feeling scared of being alone, I moved out of my hometown recently (my dilema outside of the relationship) due to my place of employment closing and had a hard time adjusting. Having a hard time meeting people when I had a good core of friends back at home. I guess that might have to do with my low self esteem too. I just find things frustrating and here I am just sitting in bed typing away when normally I would be out hunting, one of my favorite pastimes. I just don't know what to do or how to go about it.

]]> By: FreeDating http://lovesagame.com/my-way-back-into-life-a-personal-story/comment-page-1/#comment-8784 FreeDating Sun, 05 Sep 2010 11:30:07 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=504#comment-8784 I am in the process of working on myself. Thanks. I am in the process of working on myself. Thanks.

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