Comments on: Success Story: Contact vs. No-Contact

By: Kiman Thai

Kiman Thai — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 15:48:00 +0000

My friend I understand you completely. I been with my ex for 4 years and even got in engaged. And she started get stress from her job and got manic episode. I was there for her and have sleepless night and take care for her. I love this woman very much. She would blame me for everything and even tried to tell me that I was sick and have Bipolar Disorder. In May of 2011 we got into an argument and she said no more contact and she dumped me. It has been 6 months already now and I have not contact her in anyway. I even disconnected my cell number. We really love each other and during the last 4 years we have broken up so many time. But I was the one that have to be chasing her and get back with her. She would snapped and get angry for days. And its true people with BD is a very addictive. Don’t know why I love her so much and she even starting to make me sick too. Your story really helped me during these hard times. Please stay in touch.

By: Zane365

Zane365 — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 00:51:00 +0000

my gf of 7 months as recently asked me to give her space,no talking or texting,shes recently been diagnosed with breast cancer and we werent getting on too well mainly because of stress,she still has me as her boyfriend on facebook,but she needs space to determine if she wants to be with me,im confused and hurt,any advice please would be welcome.

By: Ohm1972

Ohm1972 — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 05:51:00 +0000

Tonight marks day 2 for me starting the NC rule. We were together off and on for over 8 months. I was strong the first night, he sent me a text right after I told him via email not to contact me. I again stated via text do not contact me unless u are willing to have a relationship. Our reason for breaking up. His narcissistic personality always pulled me in then away. I’m trying so hard not to think of him. I love him but I know this will get better. I’ve deleted his #but I want to text him so badly….. Reading the posts and stories here help. May we all find love!

By: Ohm1972

Ohm1972 — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 05:51:00 +0000

By: Marie

Marie — Mon, 20 Jun 2011 16:27:00 +0000

Today will be my first day of NC, we were together for 13 years, since I was 17- in that much time a lot can happen, I dislike his family, he dislikes mine, and it has become a big problem over the years. We are practically married, have mtg, bills together and about 3 months ago I kicked him out, we were living as roomates it felt and he gave me zero affection. He was deceptive after 11 years together, and I caught him having an emotional affair with his sisters friend, much younger than him. It disgusted me and I lost trust and respect for him. After that happened I completely changed and he was no longer my first priority and he didnt like that. I feel our relationship is beyond repair even though I still love him, its time to move on and stop the contact- hes ignored several of my texts so I basically deleted his # and texts off my phone, I dont have his # memorized so thats a good thing, it is a fairly new number. I would change my phone number but it is my work cell so I can’t. I am trying to remain strong and face reality

By: Lifeissweet

Lifeissweet — Wed, 15 Jun 2011 13:13:00 +0000

Eddie himself broke the no contact once, after one month of applying it. Which he regret later because it hurted him like hell and it took away all the progress he made and it took another couple to months to bring him back to the position he was before no contact, but he then realizes the mistake and didn’t make contact any further.
so he broke the rule once but still got over.

By: Vinka Maras

Vinka Maras — Fri, 03 Jun 2011 13:40:00 +0000

Is there any story you have that has success at breaking the no-contact rule I think it is ok to see both sides

By: sheisamess

sheisamess — Wed, 25 May 2011 05:16:00 +0000

So this is really hard for me and I almost feel on my own, compared to you all, about this whole break up thing because I am the dumper. Tomorrow I am going to start Day 1 of NC and I hope I can do it. To start off with, I broke up with my now ex. Long story short we were going in different paths (long distance), different future goals/plans, the relationship had a lot of baggage (previous cheating on me etc), and I wasn’t happy anymore. So I broke it off last week. I am currently having mixed feelings about the situation (you know, when you can’t decide if you made the right choice or not). This time I am going to stick to my guns and just do it. If I don’t do it now I will never do it! I am very lonely as I have just moved to a new town for summer work and I am going to move again for school in the fall. I find that it is hard to meet people when you are just working, but I am sure I will be fine. I feel like everything will get better and that I need to stop hurting him (and myself) and making him think that I will hold on to him and that we will be together because I don’t think it is the right thing for me and my happiness. I also don’t think that I love myself enough to be in a relationship and that I have a lot of emotional/mental issues that I need to fix/work on. Here is to a long journey to happiness ahead of me! Let’s hope I live through this mess I am in.

By: Analynne

Analynne — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 06:18:00 +0000

I’ve in a relationship for almost 11 years since i was 14 now im 25. He always cheated on me and I always got back with him because he did everything and showed me that he love me . He’s family didn’t like me because im american and according to them i don’t have the same values and he stood up for me and always gave me my place as his girlfriend and wife to be. He bought me a ring and everything. Then he moved to another state and for 4 years we tried the long distance thing. I discovered that he had a girlfriend so he sold his business and broke up with her to move back to my city . 4 months later she told him that she is pregnant. I really love him but im tired of everything , the lies the cheating i want to break up for good but i don’t know how to because he is all i ever known and my friends are his friend :”( HELP!

By: Osh

Osh — Sun, 26 Dec 2010 11:45:00 +0000

Hi every one and Eddie ,
My one year old boyfriend broke up with me one month ago just before our one year anniversary.
A week before the breakup he was on vacation telling me that next time our vacation will be together because he misses me so much there. I m divorced in may late and he is divorced too with two kids. This never bothered me as we were almost talking about marriage in time.
He just changed totally telling me he is confused , he does not feel for me anymore the same way, he does not love me but just cares for me etc the typical thing anyone would say when breaking up. He is in his late thirties and told me he still needs to settle down and may be later he will reassess and if he felt there is a little chance we might get together… Is so humiliating actually that am I side option?
He said he wants to remain friends and frankly I thought it would be a good idea that we will stay in touch and he might change his feelings and love me again. I am very upset as not for a single second he is out of my mind. We had great time together. He also wanted to get physical after break up which I totally refused to.
We still hangout like once in a while and although I try to draw the line some way or the other I find my self brining in the relationship question and which spoils his mood again. He just wants to be friends. Each time I see him I feel hurt because he is so casual and I still love him.
Frankly I called him after the breakup but not to an extend that would make me appear desperate or so. I have been trying to be patient.
I just want to know if I want him back , is there a chance if I stay in touch with him casually or I should just cut off the contact totally. I am not sure about this. Mostly of the time he initiated the contact.
But I have noticed since I talked about out relationship he stopped going that.
If I want him back should I cut off or stay in touch casually?
Can some one’s feeling change back in love?