Comments on: The 7 Deadly Sins In A Relationship http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/ Learn how to survive after breaking up and read some great relationship advice for having new and healthy relationships. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:45:08 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Cynthia http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-5609 Cynthia Wed, 18 Nov 2009 08:56:24 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/#comment-5609 I love your website. Your insights on Break-ups have givien me a great deal of clarity. I just left my boyfriend of 4 years three days ago because I found out he had been seeing another girl. IT WAS SO HARD TO LEAVE. I can't describe it in any other way except that it felt like my heart had melted. He was my bestfriend. I thought we had a great relationship and that we would always be a team. He says it started because we weren't intimate enough. He was wrong to see someone else before ending it with me. He could have save undue hurt and pain by just being honest with me. He was right because we had talked about working on intimacy issues but I dreaded it because I got lost in routine and I lost attraction to him because the ambitions that once made him the man I loved were no longer there. He had no goals or interests in finding a direction in life. I felt like I was always mothering him and giving him things to get excited about that he could try to do. I got so lost in his indecisions that our whole relationship became that way too. It was hard to leave because I felt sorry for him because he has no sense of direction, no car, no furniture---it was all mine. But I knew that if I didn't I would resent him and would drive myself crazy with insecurities about where he was at ....what's he doing .....who's he with......kind of stuff........and I don't want to be that person. I'm accepting that it's hard to be true to yourself sometimes when your heart is broken but that there are people that care about you and want to see you happy. I know I will have weak moments but they are fewer as I start to decide more and more what I want out of life. I am taking this time to heal and to rebuild my self-esteem instead of focusing on what could have been. I have accepted that I don't want my ex-boyfriend anymore and that it's okay to start living again!<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5609','Cynthia'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5609','Cynthia','I love your website. Your insights on Break-ups have givien me a great deal of clarity. I just left my boyfriend of 4 years three days ago because I found out he had been seeing another girl. IT WAS SO HARD TO LEAVE. I can\'t describe it in any other way except that it felt like my heart had melted. He was my bestfriend. I thought we had a great relationship and that we would always be a team. He says it started because we weren\'t intimate enough. He was wrong to see someone else before ending it with me. He could have save undue hurt and pain by just being honest with me. He was right because we had talked about working on intimacy issues but I dreaded it because I got lost in routine and I lost attraction to him because the ambitions that once made him the man I loved were no longer there. He had no goals or interests in finding a direction in life. I felt like I was always mothering him and giving him things to get excited about that he could try to do. I got so lost in his indecisions that our whole relationship became that way too. It was hard to leave because I felt sorry for him because he has no sense of direction, no car, no furniture---it was all mine. But I knew that if I didn\'t I would resent him and would drive myself crazy with insecurities about where he was at ....what\'s he doing .....who\'s he with......kind of stuff........and I don\'t want to be that person. I\'m accepting that it\'s hard to be true to yourself sometimes when your heart is broken but that there are people that care about you and want to see you happy. I know I will have weak moments but they are fewer as I start to decide more and more what I want out of life. I am taking this time to heal and to rebuild my self-esteem instead of focusing on what could have been. I have accepted that I don\'t want my ex-boyfriend anymore and that it\'s okay to start living again!'); return false;">quote</a></div> I love your website. Your insights on Break-ups have givien me a great deal of clarity. I just left my boyfriend of 4 years three days ago because I found out he had been seeing another girl. IT WAS SO HARD TO LEAVE. I can’t describe it in any other way except that it felt like my heart had melted. He was my bestfriend. I thought we had a great relationship and that we would always be a team. He says it started because we weren’t intimate enough. He was wrong to see someone else before ending it with me. He could have save undue hurt and pain by just being honest with me. He was right because we had talked about working on intimacy issues but I dreaded it because I got lost in routine and I lost attraction to him because the ambitions that once made him the man I loved were no longer there. He had no goals or interests in finding a direction in life. I felt like I was always mothering him and giving him things to get excited about that he could try to do. I got so lost in his indecisions that our whole relationship became that way too. It was hard to leave because I felt sorry for him because he has no sense of direction, no car, no furniture—it was all mine. But I knew that if I didn’t I would resent him and would drive myself crazy with insecurities about where he was at ….what’s he doing …..who’s he with……kind of stuff……..and I don’t want to be that person. I’m accepting that it’s hard to be true to yourself sometimes when your heart is broken but that there are people that care about you and want to see you happy. I know I will have weak moments but they are fewer as I start to decide more and more what I want out of life. I am taking this time to heal and to rebuild my self-esteem instead of focusing on what could have been. I have accepted that I don’t want my ex-boyfriend anymore and that it’s okay to start living again!
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]]> By: April W http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-5427 April W Sun, 11 Oct 2009 15:07:54 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/#comment-5427 Eddie you are great! I have been going through a rough break up and everything you say has helped. I thought it was a good idea to watch the movie "He's just not that into you" I like the movie but the points you make are much more valid! You should make a movie. Thanks for the help, I have been referring people in similar situations to this website.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5427','April W'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5427','April W','Eddie you are great! I have been going through a rough break up and everything you say has helped. I thought it was a good idea to watch the movie \"He\'s just not that into you\" I like the movie but the points you make are much more valid! You should make a movie. Thanks for the help, I have been referring people in similar situations to this website.'); return false;">quote</a></div> Eddie you are great! I have been going through a rough break up and everything you say has helped. I thought it was a good idea to watch the movie “He’s just not that into you” I like the movie but the points you make are much more valid! You should make a movie. Thanks for the help, I have been referring people in similar situations to this website.
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]]> By: Angela http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-5041 Angela Sat, 01 Aug 2009 12:12:04 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/#comment-5041 oh yeah, really agree with it got an over 1 year long distance relationship even met his family, things goes well, until i back and made the huge mistake on point 2#, now seems break up last month.... dunno if anythig still can save it, feel too into it,can never be serious like this time i guess...<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5041','Angela'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5041','Angela','oh yeah, really agree with it\r\n\r\ngot an over 1 year long distance relationship even met his family, things goes well, until i back and made the huge mistake on point 2#, now seems break up last month....\r\n\r\ndunno if anythig still can save it, feel too into it,can never be serious like this time i guess...'); return false;">quote</a></div> oh yeah, really agree with it

got an over 1 year long distance relationship even met his family, things goes well, until i back and made the huge mistake on point 2#, now seems break up last month….

dunno if anythig still can save it, feel too into it,can never be serious like this time i guess…

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]]> By: Eddie Corbano http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-4944 Eddie Corbano Sun, 19 Jul 2009 10:45:08 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/#comment-4944 It feels so good to be able to say that, does it - to have learned something on that way makes all the suffering worth it.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4944','Eddie Corbano'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4944','Eddie Corbano','It feels so good to be able to say that, does it - to have learned something on that way makes all the suffering worth it.'); return false;">quote</a></div> It feels so good to be able to say that, does it – to have learned something on that way makes all the suffering worth it.
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]]> By: Shebear http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-4942 Shebear Sun, 19 Jul 2009 09:16:43 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/#comment-4942 I have taken 3 years to get over my last love. I have finally come to realise that this man never loved me and that he used me and degraded me and that instead of me speaking my mind on a few things I allowed him to in subtle way to put my body and my feelings down in a most extraordinary way . I hung in there way too long but I can say it now. HEY SUNSHINE I AM SO OVER YOU.I feel good now.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4942','Shebear'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4942','Shebear','I have taken 3 years to get over my last love. I have finally come to realise that this man never loved me and that he used me and degraded me and that instead of me speaking my mind on a few things I allowed him to in subtle way to put my body and my feelings down in a most extraordinary way . I hung in there way too long but I can say it now. HEY SUNSHINE I AM SO OVER YOU.I feel good now.'); return false;">quote</a></div> I have taken 3 years to get over my last love. I have finally come to realise that this man never loved me and that he used me and degraded me and that instead of me speaking my mind on a few things I allowed him to in subtle way to put my body and my feelings down in a most extraordinary way . I hung in there way too long but I can say it now. HEY SUNSHINE I AM SO OVER YOU.I feel good now.
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]]> By: Miz Helena http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-4467 Miz Helena Wed, 22 Apr 2009 09:40:49 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/#comment-4467 Boredom, communication breakdown, routine and lack of respect are serious issues that contribute to other areas failing. We slowly creep towards it, sometimes too busy to notice until we usually explode. We should be taking the time to connect, to listen, to share and to respect each other. Great post. You raise the import atributes of why relationships fail. <div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4467','Miz Helena'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4467','Miz Helena','Boredom, communication breakdown, routine and lack of respect are serious issues that contribute to other areas failing. We slowly creep towards it, sometimes too busy to notice until we usually explode. We should be taking the time to connect, to listen, to share and to respect each other. Great post. You raise the import atributes of why relationships fail. '); return false;">quote</a></div> Boredom, communication breakdown, routine and lack of respect are serious issues that contribute to other areas failing. We slowly creep towards it, sometimes too busy to notice until we usually explode. We should be taking the time to connect, to listen, to share and to respect each other. Great post. You raise the import atributes of why relationships fail.
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]]> By: Mutuelle http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-4438 Mutuelle Tue, 14 Apr 2009 09:55:05 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/#comment-4438 Thanks for the advises. Breaking up is really hard but life got to go on. I think that clingling is the worst of all.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4438','Mutuelle'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4438','Mutuelle','Thanks for the advises. Breaking up is really hard but life got to go on. \r\nI think that clingling is the worst of all.'); return false;">quote</a></div> Thanks for the advises. Breaking up is really hard but life got to go on.
I think that clingling is the worst of all.
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]]> By: Douw http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-4360 Douw Thu, 26 Mar 2009 09:39:30 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/#comment-4360 Thanks for this info. I passed it on to a friend who is now going through a relationship crisis and about all you mention here I told him already... Relationships are hard work, that is for sure a fact ! Keep up the great work.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4360','Douw'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4360','Douw','Thanks for this info. I passed it on to a friend who is now going through a relationship crisis and about all you mention here I told him already... Relationships are hard work, that is for sure a fact ! Keep up the great work.'); return false;">quote</a></div> Thanks for this info. I passed it on to a friend who is now going through a relationship crisis and about all you mention here I told him already… Relationships are hard work, that is for sure a fact ! Keep up the great work.
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]]> By: kim c http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-3427 kim c Sun, 21 Sep 2008 23:03:17 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/#comment-3427 Markus, i can relate.. it's the worst but he doesnt ever actually leave.and i dont ever want him to go!!! i feel that u don't know what you have till you loose it. And maybe she'll realize..you're for her..and she'll be back for u and only u!!!<a href='#comment-1691' rel="nofollow">@Markus</a> -<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('3427','kim c'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('3427','kim c','Markus, i can relate.. it\'s the worst but he doesnt ever actually leave.and i dont ever want him to go!!! i feel that u don\'t know what you have till you loose it. And maybe she\'ll realize..you\'re for her..and she\'ll be back for u and only u!!!<a href=\'#comment-1691\' rel=\"nofollow\">@Markus<\/a> -'); return false;">quote</a></div> Markus, i can relate.. it’s the worst but he doesnt ever actually leave.and i dont ever want him to go!!! i feel that u don’t know what you have till you loose it. And maybe she’ll realize..you’re for her..and she’ll be back for u and only u!!!@Markus -
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]]> By: Avis Bailee http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-3411 Avis Bailee Mon, 15 Sep 2008 10:11:15 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-7-deadly-sins-in-a-relationship/#comment-3411 all of them: Pride because I often take pride in something I've achieved. Greed because I always want more than I have Envy because I'm often jealous of my husband and anyone else who's better off than I am. Wrath because I'm quick to get back at people. Lust is sort of a past one. I cheated on my husband for a full year while we were in separate countries. I haven't cheated in two years but I still Lust for him. Gluttony... we're in America. Sloth is a big one. I'm always on my rear and I hate work. Wow, I sound like a terrible person.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('3411','Avis Bailee'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('3411','Avis Bailee','all of them:\r\nPride because I often take pride in something I\'ve achieved.\r\nGreed because I always want more than I have\r\nEnvy because I\'m often jealous of my husband and anyone else who\'s better off than I am.\r\nWrath because I\'m quick to get back at people.\r\nLust is sort of a past one. I cheated on my husband for a full year while we were in separate countries. I haven\'t cheated in two years but I still Lust for him.\r\nGluttony... we\'re in America.\r\nSloth is a big one. I\'m always on my rear and I hate work.\r\n\r\nWow, I sound like a terrible person.'); return false;">quote</a></div> all of them:
Pride because I often take pride in something I’ve achieved.
Greed because I always want more than I have
Envy because I’m often jealous of my husband and anyone else who’s better off than I am.
Wrath because I’m quick to get back at people.
Lust is sort of a past one. I cheated on my husband for a full year while we were in separate countries. I haven’t cheated in two years but I still Lust for him.
Gluttony… we’re in America.
Sloth is a big one. I’m always on my rear and I hate work.

Wow, I sound like a terrible person.

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