Comments on: The Magic Formula For Overcoming A Break-Up Fast http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/ Learn how to survive after breaking up and read some great relationship advice for having new and healthy relationships. Fri, 12 Mar 2010 22:07:19 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Kevin http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/comment-page-1/#comment-6763 Kevin Fri, 12 Mar 2010 19:29:34 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/#comment-6763 <a href='#comment-2398' rel="nofollow">@Jeff</a> - I am 18 and me and my ex broke up about a month ago. We had a more serious relationship then most people our age, which initially was a mistake(but now that it's over I'm glad it happened). We met when we were 15 and instantly fell into a serious relationship( which was based on need, since we were both insecure, unhappy people who found happiness and purpose within each other) after 7 months i had to move, so we decided that we would do long distance. after two years of long distance i moved back to the city and we moved in together, after I graduated. I'm beginning to realize that what got us through long distance wasn't our love, or our strong bond, but it was our fear of losing happiness and purpose. As for me, even when we met, i didn't develop feelings for her until i heard she liked me and heard the things she said about me. Anyway what i am trying to get at, is i'm learning that i need more purpose in my life than just a girl, and that only I ccan make myself happy. So now im really confused about relationships. I feel almost as if wanting to be in a relationship is wrong. My only experience with love was based off need. so, now i don;t know why i would want to be in a relationship if i can make myself feel happy. I'm really confused. Even after putting a 3 year relationship under my belt, i still have no idea what love is.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6763','Kevin'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6763','Kevin','<a href=\'#comment-2398\' rel=\"nofollow\">@Jeff<\/a> - I am 18 and me and my ex broke up about a month ago. We had a more serious relationship then most people our age, which initially was a mistake(but now that it\'s over I\'m glad it happened). We met when we were 15 and instantly fell into a serious relationship( which was based on need, since we were both insecure, unhappy people who found happiness and purpose within each other) after 7 months i had to move, so we decided that we would do long distance. after two years of long distance i moved back to the city and we moved in together, after I graduated. I\'m beginning to realize that what got us through long distance wasn\'t our love, or our strong bond, but it was our fear of losing happiness and purpose. As for me, even when we met, i didn\'t develop feelings for her until i heard she liked me and heard the things she said about me. Anyway what i am trying to get at, is i\'m learning that i need more purpose in my life than just a girl, and that only I ccan make myself happy. So now im really confused about relationships. I feel almost as if wanting to be in a relationship is wrong. My only experience with love was based off need. so, now i don;t know why i would want to be in a relationship if i can make myself feel happy. I\'m really confused. Even after putting a 3 year relationship under my belt, i still have no idea what love is.'); return false;">quote</a></div> @Jeff – I am 18 and me and my ex broke up about a month ago. We had a more serious relationship then most people our age, which initially was a mistake(but now that it’s over I’m glad it happened). We met when we were 15 and instantly fell into a serious relationship( which was based on need, since we were both insecure, unhappy people who found happiness and purpose within each other) after 7 months i had to move, so we decided that we would do long distance. after two years of long distance i moved back to the city and we moved in together, after I graduated. I’m beginning to realize that what got us through long distance wasn’t our love, or our strong bond, but it was our fear of losing happiness and purpose. As for me, even when we met, i didn’t develop feelings for her until i heard she liked me and heard the things she said about me. Anyway what i am trying to get at, is i’m learning that i need more purpose in my life than just a girl, and that only I ccan make myself happy. So now im really confused about relationships. I feel almost as if wanting to be in a relationship is wrong. My only experience with love was based off need. so, now i don;t know why i would want to be in a relationship if i can make myself feel happy. I’m really confused. Even after putting a 3 year relationship under my belt, i still have no idea what love is.
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]]> By: Eddie Corbano http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/comment-page-1/#comment-6726 Eddie Corbano Tue, 09 Mar 2010 06:45:10 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/#comment-6726 Hi Marcie, I know this is THE nightmare scenario for everyone who is maintaining no-contact, to accidentally bump into your Ex. What should you do, what should you say? You did the best thing you can do in this situation. If you are NOT ready to face the Ex, then don't do it. Ignore them. So you did good. Resist the urge to over-analyze the situation and just keep going. It really isn't important why she was there and why she didn't try to talk to you. The only thing that is important is that you keep hanging in there. "Continual mental reasoning" is a very normal reaction in the first months which you can only oppose with meditation and distraction. I know it's very tough, but it will be easier. This whole process is basically two steps forward and one step back. Just keep moving forward. Eddie P.S.: Don't you stop going to the gym, this is a great way to exercise "physical meditation".<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6726','Eddie Corbano'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6726','Eddie Corbano','Hi Marcie,\r\n\r\nI know this is THE nightmare scenario for everyone who is maintaining no-contact, to accidentally bump into your Ex. What should you do, what should you say?\r\n\r\nYou did the best thing you can do in this situation. If you are NOT ready to face the Ex, then don\'t do it. Ignore them. So you did good.\r\n\r\nResist the urge to over-analyze the situation and just keep going. It really isn\'t important why she was there and why she didn\'t try to talk to you. The only thing that is important is that you keep hanging in there.\r\n\r\n\"Continual mental reasoning\" is a very normal reaction in the first months which you can only oppose with meditation and distraction. I know it\'s very tough, but it will be easier.\r\n\r\nThis whole process is basically two steps forward and one step back. Just keep moving forward.\r\n\r\nEddie\r\n\r\nP.S.: Don\'t you stop going to the gym, this is a great way to exercise \"physical meditation\".'); return false;">quote</a></div> Hi Marcie,

I know this is THE nightmare scenario for everyone who is maintaining no-contact, to accidentally bump into your Ex. What should you do, what should you say?

You did the best thing you can do in this situation. If you are NOT ready to face the Ex, then don’t do it. Ignore them. So you did good.

Resist the urge to over-analyze the situation and just keep going. It really isn’t important why she was there and why she didn’t try to talk to you. The only thing that is important is that you keep hanging in there.

“Continual mental reasoning” is a very normal reaction in the first months which you can only oppose with meditation and distraction. I know it’s very tough, but it will be easier.

This whole process is basically two steps forward and one step back. Just keep moving forward.

Eddie

P.S.: Don’t you stop going to the gym, this is a great way to exercise “physical meditation”.

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]]> By: Marcie http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/comment-page-1/#comment-6541 Marcie Sun, 21 Feb 2010 02:02:06 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/#comment-6541 I lasted posted on 2/7/10. I am still faithfully maintaining the "no contact" rule. It's been 3 months so far since the break up. Why do I keep thinking about her and "our" life we had before. There are days when I only "relapse" a few times a day and then other day's it feels like I think about the past all day long. I feel like I am loosing my mind. I know the wounds are still fresh and 24 years together is going to be hard to "get over" but I find myself wishing the days to go by quicker just so I will be that much farther removed from the break up. Then I think why should I do that, I am just wishing my life to go by faster without me!!! It's crazy thinking!!! I go to the gym just about every day, since September, the same gym. Four days ago I went to my gym and guess who was there? Yep. Why was she there? I know she goes to another gym and doesn't belong to mine! I maintained the "no contact" rule and did no even look her way. I could see her looking at me and kept running through my head what would I say or what would I do if she came up to me. She never did and left before me. I found myself feeling sad that she didn't attempt to talk to me. Is this normal? Now every time I go to the gym I hope she is there? Am I going crazy? Am I a glutton for punishment? I really need some help here, please?????<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6541','Marcie'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6541','Marcie','I lasted posted on 2\/7\/10. I am still faithfully maintaining the \"no contact\" rule. It\'s been 3 months so far since the break up. Why do I keep thinking about her and \"our\" life we had before. There are days when I only \"relapse\" a few times a day and then other day\'s it feels like I think about the past all day long. I feel like I am loosing my mind. I know the wounds are still fresh and 24 years together is going to be hard to \"get over\" but I find myself wishing the days to go by quicker just so I will be that much farther removed from the break up. Then I think why should I do that, I am just wishing my life to go by faster without me!!! It\'s crazy thinking!!! I go to the gym just about every day, since September, the same gym. Four days ago I went to my gym and guess who was there? Yep. Why was she there? I know she goes to another gym and doesn\'t belong to mine! I maintained the \"no contact\" rule and did no even look her way. I could see her looking at me and kept running through my head what would I say or what would I do if she came up to me. She never did and left before me. I found myself feeling sad that she didn\'t attempt to talk to me. Is this normal? Now every time I go to the gym I hope she is there? Am I going crazy? Am I a glutton for punishment? I really need some help here, please?????'); return false;">quote</a></div> I lasted posted on 2/7/10. I am still faithfully maintaining the “no contact” rule. It’s been 3 months so far since the break up. Why do I keep thinking about her and “our” life we had before. There are days when I only “relapse” a few times a day and then other day’s it feels like I think about the past all day long. I feel like I am loosing my mind. I know the wounds are still fresh and 24 years together is going to be hard to “get over” but I find myself wishing the days to go by quicker just so I will be that much farther removed from the break up. Then I think why should I do that, I am just wishing my life to go by faster without me!!! It’s crazy thinking!!! I go to the gym just about every day, since September, the same gym. Four days ago I went to my gym and guess who was there? Yep. Why was she there? I know she goes to another gym and doesn’t belong to mine! I maintained the “no contact” rule and did no even look her way. I could see her looking at me and kept running through my head what would I say or what would I do if she came up to me. She never did and left before me. I found myself feeling sad that she didn’t attempt to talk to me. Is this normal? Now every time I go to the gym I hope she is there? Am I going crazy? Am I a glutton for punishment? I really need some help here, please?????
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]]> By: mayra http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/comment-page-1/#comment-6428 mayra Fri, 12 Feb 2010 23:34:09 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/#comment-6428 eddie, i was looking online for healthy ways to get over a break up and i found this website. its amazing to finally find people that are going through similar things as i am. i would like to tell you my situation in hope that you could shead some light in all this turmoil i am going thorugh. i dated a guy for two and a half years. he had been my friend before that and i thought i knew him well. Things started off extremely fast. fast enough to say that he started to move in with me litle by little until it was official. Being a girl coming from a divorced family i have always placed strong importance on the unity of two individuals. anyway, we lived together for all this time and i found him cheating three times. he would apologize and tell me he would never do it again so stupid me i would give him another chance. he even tattoed my name on his arm as a promise that he would never do it again and that he loved me. for the past month we have been split up because someone lied to him and told him that i had cheated which was a true lie. when he heard that he went on and started dating another girl from work. i found him at the movies by pure luck with her and i decided to move out the next day. after that he kept telling me he loved and that he was sorry. i decided to forgive him and try to work things out, however, it only lasted less than a week. i recently have been receiving emails from him since i changed my number telling me that he misses me and loves me yet that all!!! if he loved me he would have looked for me right or make things work? we both love about 10 minutes away now and he knows where to find me. two days ago i fould out he bought his new girlfriend a nice valentines gift. i guess my question is... everyone keeps telling me that he will be sorry and regret all hes doing to me. people tell me that he made a big mistake by dating someone so fast is that true? i havent been able to be with anyone becuase i feel that i need to deal with this breakup before i start seeing anyone. people that know him and me also say that he will regret all hes doing because we lived together and had a life together. what do you think? is it possible to move on that fast and never look back? i have been crying my eyes out and i just want to think that he hasnt forgotten all we had and that he is hurting as much as i am.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6428','mayra'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6428','mayra','eddie, \r\ni was looking online for healthy ways to get over a break up and i found this website. its amazing to finally find people that are going through similar things as i am. i would like to tell you my situation in hope that you could shead some light in all this turmoil i am going thorugh. i dated a guy for two and a half years. he had been my friend before that and i thought i knew him well. Things started off extremely fast. fast enough to say that he started to move in with me litle by little until it was official. Being a girl coming from a divorced family i have always placed strong importance on the unity of two individuals. anyway, we lived together for all this time and i found him cheating three times. he would apologize and tell me he would never do it again so stupid me i would give him another chance. he even tattoed my name on his arm as a promise that he would never do it again and that he loved me. for the past month we have been split up because someone lied to him and told him that i had cheated which was a true lie. when he heard that he went on and started dating another girl from work. i found him at the movies by pure luck with her and i decided to move out the next day. after that he kept telling me he loved and that he was sorry. i decided to forgive him and try to work things out, however, it only lasted less than a week. i recently have been receiving emails from him since i changed my number telling me that he misses me and loves me yet that all!!! if he loved me he would have looked for me right or make things work? we both love about 10 minutes away now and he knows where to find me. two days ago i fould out he bought his new girlfriend a nice valentines gift. i guess my question is... everyone keeps telling me that he will be sorry and regret all hes doing to me. people tell me that he made a big mistake by dating someone so fast is that true? i havent been able to be with anyone becuase i feel that i need to deal with this breakup before i start seeing anyone. people that know him and me also say that he will regret all hes doing because we lived together and had a life together. what do you think? is it possible to move on that fast and never look back? i have been crying my eyes out and i just want to think that he hasnt forgotten all we had and that he is hurting as much as i am.'); return false;">quote</a></div> eddie,
i was looking online for healthy ways to get over a break up and i found this website. its amazing to finally find people that are going through similar things as i am. i would like to tell you my situation in hope that you could shead some light in all this turmoil i am going thorugh. i dated a guy for two and a half years. he had been my friend before that and i thought i knew him well. Things started off extremely fast. fast enough to say that he started to move in with me litle by little until it was official. Being a girl coming from a divorced family i have always placed strong importance on the unity of two individuals. anyway, we lived together for all this time and i found him cheating three times. he would apologize and tell me he would never do it again so stupid me i would give him another chance. he even tattoed my name on his arm as a promise that he would never do it again and that he loved me. for the past month we have been split up because someone lied to him and told him that i had cheated which was a true lie. when he heard that he went on and started dating another girl from work. i found him at the movies by pure luck with her and i decided to move out the next day. after that he kept telling me he loved and that he was sorry. i decided to forgive him and try to work things out, however, it only lasted less than a week. i recently have been receiving emails from him since i changed my number telling me that he misses me and loves me yet that all!!! if he loved me he would have looked for me right or make things work? we both love about 10 minutes away now and he knows where to find me. two days ago i fould out he bought his new girlfriend a nice valentines gift. i guess my question is… everyone keeps telling me that he will be sorry and regret all hes doing to me. people tell me that he made a big mistake by dating someone so fast is that true? i havent been able to be with anyone becuase i feel that i need to deal with this breakup before i start seeing anyone. people that know him and me also say that he will regret all hes doing because we lived together and had a life together. what do you think? is it possible to move on that fast and never look back? i have been crying my eyes out and i just want to think that he hasnt forgotten all we had and that he is hurting as much as i am.
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]]> By: Alexis http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/comment-page-1/#comment-6395 Alexis Wed, 10 Feb 2010 21:31:40 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/#comment-6395 Eddie, I dated a guy for about 6 months. We had an interesting relationship. Trust was hard on all of our parts. We took a break about a month ago and I hadn't heard a word from him since. Then he came back last night and told me he wanted to be friends. That he still loved me. The month we were apart, I hurt myself. I stopped eating, sleeping less and so on and so forth. About 2 weeks ago I met some one and we clicked. He was fun to be with and such. We ended up sleeping together. I broke it off today as I didn't feel like it was going anywhere. I told the Mr. "I'm on a break" That I didn't sleep with the other guy when I did. Now I hurt him and I'm hurting myself more. I fear that it will finally be over. As I write this, tears are pouring out of my eyes. I've been reading through your site and getting some tips. Hopefully I'll apply them soon. This guy was my everything. Between he and my son, I felt whole. But now I feel like I've lost something and he hasn't even said it's over. I am younger then most on here. But I am hoping your advice helps. Because as of now I am at a loss for what to do. So I decided to google and I found your site.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6395','Alexis'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6395','Alexis','Eddie,\r\n\r\nI dated a guy for about 6 months. We had an interesting relationship. Trust was hard on all of our parts. We took a break about a month ago and I hadn\'t heard a word from him since. Then he came back last night and told me he wanted to be friends. That he still loved me. The month we were apart, I hurt myself. I stopped eating, sleeping less and so on and so forth. About 2 weeks ago I met some one and we clicked. He was fun to be with and such. We ended up sleeping together. I broke it off today as I didn\'t feel like it was going anywhere. I told the Mr. \"I\'m on a break\" That I didn\'t sleep with the other guy when I did. Now I hurt him and I\'m hurting myself more. I fear that it will finally be over. As I write this, tears are pouring out of my eyes. I\'ve been reading through your site and getting some tips. Hopefully I\'ll apply them soon. This guy was my everything. Between he and my son, I felt whole. But now I feel like I\'ve lost something and he hasn\'t even said it\'s over. I am younger then most on here. But I am hoping your advice helps. Because as of now I am at a loss for what to do. So I decided to google and I found your site.'); return false;">quote</a></div> Eddie,

I dated a guy for about 6 months. We had an interesting relationship. Trust was hard on all of our parts. We took a break about a month ago and I hadn’t heard a word from him since. Then he came back last night and told me he wanted to be friends. That he still loved me. The month we were apart, I hurt myself. I stopped eating, sleeping less and so on and so forth. About 2 weeks ago I met some one and we clicked. He was fun to be with and such. We ended up sleeping together. I broke it off today as I didn’t feel like it was going anywhere. I told the Mr. “I’m on a break” That I didn’t sleep with the other guy when I did. Now I hurt him and I’m hurting myself more. I fear that it will finally be over. As I write this, tears are pouring out of my eyes. I’ve been reading through your site and getting some tips. Hopefully I’ll apply them soon. This guy was my everything. Between he and my son, I felt whole. But now I feel like I’ve lost something and he hasn’t even said it’s over. I am younger then most on here. But I am hoping your advice helps. Because as of now I am at a loss for what to do. So I decided to google and I found your site.

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]]> By: Eddie Corbano http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/comment-page-1/#comment-6357 Eddie Corbano Mon, 08 Feb 2010 07:18:09 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/#comment-6357 Dearest Marcie,

My heart goes out to you, I can truly feel your pain.

I want you to know that you are NOT alone, I am here for you and every breakup survivor on this community will stand by your side.

When you think that the pain is unbearable then just post here. We’re here to help.

Your friend,
Eddie

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]]> By: Marcie http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/comment-page-1/#comment-6349 Marcie Sun, 07 Feb 2010 19:16:11 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/#comment-6349 Its been two and a half months since my 24 year relationship with my partner ended. I have not seen or heard from her since November 23rd when she attempted suicide. I have been trying to move on but every day has been difficult for me. I can't seem to get her face or all of the memories out of my head. I knew things were getting bad between us about a year before the split but didn't know where it was coming from. I went to counseling, as did she, (seperate) but it didn't work. We owned the house together so we continued to live there but apart. During that time she kept trying to talk to me saying she was sorry and "didn't know" what she was doing and that she was confused? She said she didn't want to hurt me. I guess the straw that broke the camels back was when she told me she wasnt sure if she was gay anymore. After 24 yrs? I guess you could say I ended it and told her so. She said she didnt know if she wanted it to end and "if I had just "sucked it up" and stood by her we could have gotten through this. I could not do that. Her statement hurt me too much to do that. That is when she attempted to hurt herself. Before she was released from the hospital I put my things into storage and left. The wonder of if I did stick by her would it have worked out haunts me daily. I am confused as to how to move on.. Did I make a mistake by leaving..could i have gotten past her "confusion"? I'm not sure to this day. As i said i have been keeping the no contact rule in place, for my own mental health. The other day I was in my car and when i looked in my rearview mirror she was right behind me. When i stopped at a red light she pulled from behind me to along side of me but i looked the other way and then drove off. She does not know my new cell number or where i'm living but does know where i work and my work number. Somedays i find myself wishing she would and wondering why she has not tried to contact me. Friends and co-workers tell me she will one day, as "no one can let 24 yrs end without some kind of contact even for closure". I find myself wishing i could go back in time and redo things. Other times I find myself just trying to move on...Either way its hard. I am looking for something but i'm not sure what it is...I read ur site and newsletters from my e-mail daily looking for strength...I just feel so lost and alone..<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('6349','Marcie'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('6349','Marcie','Its been two and a half months since my 24 year relationship with my partner ended. I have not seen or heard from her since November 23rd when she attempted suicide. I have been trying to move on but every day has been difficult for me. I can\'t seem to get her face or all of the memories out of my head. I knew things were getting bad between us about a year before the split but didn\'t know where it was coming from. I went to counseling, as did she, (seperate) but it didn\'t work. We owned the house together so we continued to live there but apart. During that time she kept trying to talk to me saying she was sorry and \"didn\'t know\" what she was doing and that she was confused? She said she didn\'t want to hurt me. I guess the straw that broke the camels back was when she told me she wasnt sure if she was gay anymore. After 24 yrs? I guess you could say I ended it and told her so. She said she didnt know if she wanted it to end and \"if I had just \"sucked it up\" and stood by her we could have gotten through this. I could not do that. Her statement hurt me too much to do that. That is when she attempted to hurt herself. Before she was released from the hospital I put my things into storage and left. The wonder of if I did stick by her would it have worked out haunts me daily. I am confused as to how to move on..\r\n\r\nDid I make a mistake by leaving..could i have gotten past her \"confusion\"? I\'m not sure to this day. As i said i have been keeping the no contact rule in place, for my own mental health. The other day I was in my car and when i looked in my rearview mirror she was right behind me. When i stopped at a red light she pulled from behind me to along side of me but i looked the other way and then drove off. She does not know my new cell number or where i\'m living but does know where i work and my work number. Somedays i find myself wishing she would and wondering why she has not tried to contact me. Friends and co-workers tell me she will one day, as \"no one can let 24 yrs end without some kind of contact even for closure\". I find myself wishing i could go back in time and redo things. Other times I find myself just trying to move on...Either way its hard. I am looking for something but i\'m not sure what it is...I read ur site and newsletters from my e-mail daily looking for strength...I just feel so lost and alone..'); return false;">quote</a></div> Its been two and a half months since my 24 year relationship with my partner ended. I have not seen or heard from her since November 23rd when she attempted suicide. I have been trying to move on but every day has been difficult for me. I can’t seem to get her face or all of the memories out of my head. I knew things were getting bad between us about a year before the split but didn’t know where it was coming from. I went to counseling, as did she, (seperate) but it didn’t work. We owned the house together so we continued to live there but apart. During that time she kept trying to talk to me saying she was sorry and “didn’t know” what she was doing and that she was confused? She said she didn’t want to hurt me. I guess the straw that broke the camels back was when she told me she wasnt sure if she was gay anymore. After 24 yrs? I guess you could say I ended it and told her so. She said she didnt know if she wanted it to end and “if I had just “sucked it up” and stood by her we could have gotten through this. I could not do that. Her statement hurt me too much to do that. That is when she attempted to hurt herself. Before she was released from the hospital I put my things into storage and left. The wonder of if I did stick by her would it have worked out haunts me daily. I am confused as to how to move on..

Did I make a mistake by leaving..could i have gotten past her “confusion”? I’m not sure to this day. As i said i have been keeping the no contact rule in place, for my own mental health. The other day I was in my car and when i looked in my rearview mirror she was right behind me. When i stopped at a red light she pulled from behind me to along side of me but i looked the other way and then drove off. She does not know my new cell number or where i’m living but does know where i work and my work number. Somedays i find myself wishing she would and wondering why she has not tried to contact me. Friends and co-workers tell me she will one day, as “no one can let 24 yrs end without some kind of contact even for closure”. I find myself wishing i could go back in time and redo things. Other times I find myself just trying to move on…Either way its hard. I am looking for something but i’m not sure what it is…I read ur site and newsletters from my e-mail daily looking for strength…I just feel so lost and alone..

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]]> By: George http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/comment-page-1/#comment-5940 George Sat, 02 Jan 2010 18:34:14 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/#comment-5940 Eddie, Thanks for creating this site, it really helps to point out the importance of reflection and self improvement as a means of overcoming emotional adversity. Sometimes it can be very difficult to move on, especially when there are feelings of things left unsaid and undone. This is even more difficult to deal with when you realize that your ex has moved on and is in another relationship, and not necessarily in a "rebound" but perhaps in one with more meaning. We tell ourselves that what happened is for the best, and sometimes we're even happy for our exes, and for ourselves momentarily... but we are victims of our selective memories and tend to dwell on all the good times, forgetting altogether the truths of our situation. Many times it is a factor of our low self-esteem, and perhaps deeper psychological patterns. Refocusing our energy on ourselves rather than mulling over the what-if's is absolutely the key to recovering. It's easier said than done, but it all comes down to will power, and the strength of ones desire to not only survive, but to thrive.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5940','George'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5940','George','Eddie,\r\nThanks for creating this site, it really helps to point out the importance of reflection and self improvement as a means of overcoming emotional adversity. Sometimes it can be very difficult to move on, especially when there are feelings of things left unsaid and undone. This is even more difficult to deal with when you realize that your ex has moved on and is in another relationship, and not necessarily in a \"rebound\" but perhaps in one with more meaning. We tell ourselves that what happened is for the best, and sometimes we\'re even happy for our exes, and for ourselves momentarily... but we are victims of our selective memories and tend to dwell on all the good times, forgetting altogether the truths of our situation. Many times it is a factor of our low self-esteem, and perhaps deeper psychological patterns. Refocusing our energy on ourselves rather than mulling over the what-if\'s is absolutely the key to recovering. It\'s easier said than done, but it all comes down to will power, and the strength of ones desire to not only survive, but to thrive.'); return false;">quote</a></div> Eddie,
Thanks for creating this site, it really helps to point out the importance of reflection and self improvement as a means of overcoming emotional adversity. Sometimes it can be very difficult to move on, especially when there are feelings of things left unsaid and undone. This is even more difficult to deal with when you realize that your ex has moved on and is in another relationship, and not necessarily in a “rebound” but perhaps in one with more meaning. We tell ourselves that what happened is for the best, and sometimes we’re even happy for our exes, and for ourselves momentarily… but we are victims of our selective memories and tend to dwell on all the good times, forgetting altogether the truths of our situation. Many times it is a factor of our low self-esteem, and perhaps deeper psychological patterns. Refocusing our energy on ourselves rather than mulling over the what-if’s is absolutely the key to recovering. It’s easier said than done, but it all comes down to will power, and the strength of ones desire to not only survive, but to thrive.
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]]> By: Jonny http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/comment-page-1/#comment-5746 Jonny Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:26:46 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/#comment-5746 Getting over a breakup?
If you are a man, it is very easy. Just release one of our basic instincts, aggressiveness and use it to improve yourself as a person.
Go to a gym, train your ass off. I’m talking about boxing, kick-boxing, krav maga, anything. When I say train your ass off I mean go train at least 5 to 6 times a week and 1 or 2 times in a day.

Be a fighter, don’t give up…NEVER GIVE UP, IT’S NOT AN OPTION.
Even when your beaten down, tired, physically hurt or in pain, forget all of this with another workout. Do it over and over and over again, and when you realize, you will be watching what happened to you from an outside angle.
Go search your guts for courage, energy, rage, anger or get it from anywhere, any reference at all and use it. Use it all, day after day, workout after workout.
This is my advice to you.
Don’t waste it.

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]]> By: Brian http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/comment-page-1/#comment-5265 Brian Thu, 03 Sep 2009 01:23:08 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-magic-formula-for-overcoming-a-break-up-fast/#comment-5265 Thanks for this site Eddie! I was just dumped by a girl after 5 months of going out and this was very comforting to find. I still feel pain and break down often and just want it to stop. I know it will eventually and I will follow these steps but I think the most messed up things and just go crazy sometimes. I think about her dating another guy or sleeping with a guy often. That on top of the anxiety in your chest of missing them dearly. Is it normal to think those things after just breaking up? For some reason I fear of hearing she's met someone else or slept with someone else or is just happy with someone else. It just makes me go crazy sometimes. I met her 5 months ago and I was the first guy she has dated since losing her husband in a rafting accident 2 years ago. They were together for 13 years and have 2 beautiful little boys together (which also makes it so tough to leave them too). She ended it because she said she wasnt ready even though we connected so well together. Hung out all the time, I stayed over sometimes 4 nights a week and even took the kids on a trip together. I know she was still hurting inside and could never promise me a real relationship. But it just felt better than anything I've had before and she never left my arms when we were together. I dont want to think this but I guess I was the rebound guy and that bothers me too. So much. Is all this jealousy, insecurity normal after a break-up? Am I just crazy? And how come I hurt more after this than I did when I ended it with my fiancee 3 years ago. If anything this helped me to vent my hurt and frustration. Thanks Eddie for this site and I will read it everyday to help me get better.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5265','Brian'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5265','Brian','Thanks for this site Eddie! I was just dumped by a girl after 5 months of going out and this was very comforting to find. \r\n\r\nI still feel pain and break down often and just want it to stop. I know it will eventually and I will follow these steps but I think the most messed up things and just go crazy sometimes. I think about her dating another guy or sleeping with a guy often. That on top of the anxiety in your chest of missing them dearly. Is it normal to think those things after just breaking up? For some reason I fear of hearing she\'s met someone else or slept with someone else or is just happy with someone else. It just makes me go crazy sometimes.\r\n\r\nI met her 5 months ago and I was the first guy she has dated since losing her husband in a rafting accident 2 years ago. They were together for 13 years and have 2 beautiful little boys together (which also makes it so tough to leave them too). She ended it because she said she wasnt ready even though we connected so well together. Hung out all the time, I stayed over sometimes 4 nights a week and even took the kids on a trip together. I know she was still hurting inside and could never promise me a real relationship. But it just felt better than anything I\'ve had before and she never left my arms when we were together. \r\n\r\nI dont want to think this but I guess I was the rebound guy and that bothers me too. So much. Is all this jealousy, insecurity normal after a break-up? Am I just crazy? And how come I hurt more after this than I did when I ended it with my fiancee 3 years ago.\r\n\r\nIf anything this helped me to vent my hurt and frustration. Thanks Eddie for this site and I will read it everyday to help me get better.'); return false;">quote</a></div> Thanks for this site Eddie! I was just dumped by a girl after 5 months of going out and this was very comforting to find.

I still feel pain and break down often and just want it to stop. I know it will eventually and I will follow these steps but I think the most messed up things and just go crazy sometimes. I think about her dating another guy or sleeping with a guy often. That on top of the anxiety in your chest of missing them dearly. Is it normal to think those things after just breaking up? For some reason I fear of hearing she’s met someone else or slept with someone else or is just happy with someone else. It just makes me go crazy sometimes.

I met her 5 months ago and I was the first guy she has dated since losing her husband in a rafting accident 2 years ago. They were together for 13 years and have 2 beautiful little boys together (which also makes it so tough to leave them too). She ended it because she said she wasnt ready even though we connected so well together. Hung out all the time, I stayed over sometimes 4 nights a week and even took the kids on a trip together. I know she was still hurting inside and could never promise me a real relationship. But it just felt better than anything I’ve had before and she never left my arms when we were together.

I dont want to think this but I guess I was the rebound guy and that bothers me too. So much. Is all this jealousy, insecurity normal after a break-up? Am I just crazy? And how come I hurt more after this than I did when I ended it with my fiancee 3 years ago.

If anything this helped me to vent my hurt and frustration. Thanks Eddie for this site and I will read it everyday to help me get better.

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