Comments on: The Most Often Given Consolation Speech After A Break Up http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up Learn how to survive a break up, rediscover your true self and find Mr/s Right Fri, 18 May 2012 14:22:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Toys http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-10661 Toys Thu, 09 Dec 2010 19:44:00 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-10661 Your advice is great and I will try to follow it. My ex and i am offically broken up for 2 weeks now after 3yrs. I say officaly because we lived together and that's how long its been since I moved out. In the earlier part of August things started going downhill and we never rose from that. There was a time when I still lived there and we tried but it just wasn't the same. I thought we were slowly getting somewhere but at the end of October he said it wasn't working anymore. He never was home anymore and we barely talked at all. I guess it was over from then I just didn't see it. He just came home to bathe and sleep. Since I moved I've been contacting him and it was all the same. He kept blaming me and telling me if I had done this and that things would be different and he was ready to marry me and how I'm not what he is looking for and how I need to improve on myself. Just monday which was the last time we talked I got tired of it. Everytime we spoke that was his story. Then he flipped the script he wasn't good enough for me and he was holding me back....etc....IT'S ALL MY FAULT!!! He kept saying he dosen't want it to be this way but it has to????? I decided not to call anymore. All this time i was the only one trying to make things work but he never tried. Your advice is great and I will try to follow it. My ex and i am offically broken up for 2 weeks now after 3yrs. I say officaly because we lived together and that’s how long its been since I moved out. In the earlier part of August things started going downhill and we never rose from that. There was a time when I still lived there and we tried but it just wasn’t the same. I thought we were slowly getting somewhere but at the end of October he said it wasn’t working anymore. He never was home anymore and we barely talked at all. I guess it was over from then I just didn’t see it. He just came home to bathe and sleep. Since I moved I’ve been contacting him and it was all the same. He kept blaming me and telling me if I had done this and that things would be different and he was ready to marry me and how I’m not what he is looking for and how I need to improve on myself. Just monday which was the last time we talked I got tired of it. Everytime we spoke that was his story. Then he flipped the script he wasn’t good enough for me and he was holding me back….etc….IT’S ALL MY FAULT!!! He kept saying he dosen’t want it to be this way but it has to????? I decided not to call anymore. All this time i was the only one trying to make things work but he never tried.

]]> By: Mandaholaway http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-9579 Mandaholaway Thu, 04 Nov 2010 18:08:51 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-9579 I agree with you, Eddie. Time does in fact heal all wounds. Nobody likes to WAIT for this "time" to pass, but coming to terms with the fact that there is no other choice can be helpful. I broke up with my ex 4 months ago. We have kept in contact here and there ( I just came across your website yesterday and boy oh boy have I been breaking all your rules!) and talked about getting back together. But then I would be strung along and we wouldn't end up getting back together because he "wasnt ready". You are 24 years old...when are you going to be "ready" and grow up? Every day I wake up (after having no more contact with him!!!) I feel stronger. I will never completely forget all the memories (good and bad) and some of the feelings associated with them, but as time goes on, those memories and feelings become less prominent and I can move forward. I know in a month from now I'll be stronger than I am at this very minute. That makes me excited because I can imagine how good I will feel and continue to feel. I don't regret my relationship with my ex because it was all a learning experience. I just know that I CAN get through the breakup and I WILL be okay. Just keep your head up and remember every day is a new day. Start your healing process now. I agree with you, Eddie. Time does in fact heal all wounds. Nobody likes to WAIT for this “time” to pass, but coming to terms with the fact that there is no other choice can be helpful. I broke up with my ex 4 months ago. We have kept in contact here and there ( I just came across your website yesterday and boy oh boy have I been breaking all your rules!) and talked about getting back together. But then I would be strung along and we wouldn't end up getting back together because he “wasnt ready”. You are 24 years old…when are you going to be “ready” and grow up? Every day I wake up (after having no more contact with him!!!) I feel stronger. I will never completely forget all the memories (good and bad) and some of the feelings associated with them, but as time goes on, those memories and feelings become less prominent and I can move forward. I know in a month from now I'll be stronger than I am at this very minute. That makes me excited because I can imagine how good I will feel and continue to feel. I don't regret my relationship with my ex because it was all a learning experience. I just know that I CAN get through the breakup and I WILL be okay. Just keep your head up and remember every day is a new day. Start your healing process now.

]]> By: Chief http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-5540 Chief Sat, 07 Nov 2009 20:28:54 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-5540 <a href='#comment-5538' rel="nofollow">@DCnative</a> - DCnative i am sorry man. It has to be cut off. You must do it. My relationship just ended a month ago, people are schocked when i tell them that "no since the day we broke up we have not talked or made any contact since" its hard, heartbreaking, lonely and challenging but the reality is your not alone. Im going through it. I loved her, i feel it even deeper now that she is gone, but what good would it do if i tried to be friends or stay in touch. I will not heal. and i will not be stronger for it. because some night i would probably collaspe and try to get her back. But ive stayed away. It is hard, i feel a huge void in her wake, but it is slowly closing...i force myself out, and sociallize, i think about her everyday. Follow the wise advice on here. You could never even have a relationship with her again if you do not break away, become yourself again and really focus on what went wrong. What are your needs? You have them and im sure some were unmet. Ultimately if you break off and no contact you will develop strength and perhaps someday that strength will help another in a need as dire as yours. Best of luck my friend use this website it is wonderful and write to others -Chief @DCnative – DCnative i am sorry man. It has to be cut off. You must do it. My relationship just ended a month ago, people are schocked when i tell them that “no since the day we broke up we have not talked or made any contact since” its hard, heartbreaking, lonely and challenging but the reality is your not alone. Im going through it. I loved her, i feel it even deeper now that she is gone, but what good would it do if i tried to be friends or stay in touch. I will not heal. and i will not be stronger for it. because some night i would probably collaspe and try to get her back. But ive stayed away. It is hard, i feel a huge void in her wake, but it is slowly closing…i force myself out, and sociallize, i think about her everyday. Follow the wise advice on here.
You could never even have a relationship with her again if you do not break away, become yourself again and really focus on what went wrong. What are your needs? You have them and im sure some were unmet. Ultimately if you break off and no contact you will develop strength and perhaps someday that strength will help another in a need as dire as yours.
Best of luck my friend
use this website it is wonderful
and write to others
-Chief

]]> By: DCnative http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-5538 DCnative Sat, 07 Nov 2009 17:31:48 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-5538 Thanks alot Eddie, for the great advice. My girl broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. Its been an emoational rollercoaster. I love her dearly and want her back but the more time that goes by and nothing has changed the more I start to realize that we most likely wont be together again. And this is killing me inside. I thought I was starting to get over her, accepting the breakup, especially since we have been talking as friends. But sometimes talks too me like we are still in a relationship and other times she acts like my buddy. There are even time when she just doest contact me at all. This has made it harder for me to get over her because of the back and forth treatment that she's giving me. It hurts me too do this but I may have too loose all contact with her. Thanks alot Eddie, for the great advice. My girl broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. Its been an emoational rollercoaster. I love her dearly and want her back but the more time that goes by and nothing has changed the more I start to realize that we most likely wont be together again. And this is killing me inside. I thought I was starting to get over her, accepting the breakup, especially since we have been talking as friends. But sometimes talks too me like we are still in a relationship and other times she acts like my buddy. There are even time when she just doest contact me at all. This has made it harder for me to get over her because of the back and forth treatment that she’s giving me. It hurts me too do this but I may have too loose all contact with her.

]]> By: Josie http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-4739 Josie Sat, 13 Jun 2009 03:46:58 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-4739 thanks eddie, this is amazing advice, you've helped me so much through my breakup... thanks eddie, this is amazing advice, you’ve helped me so much through my breakup…

]]> By: Brownhare http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-4527 Brownhare Tue, 05 May 2009 12:33:41 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-4527 When someone dumps you get a distraction, any distraction at all that makes you feel good not bad. You don't have to stay with the pain, work through the feelings or follow a grieving process if you don't want too. You can switch it off, switch them off and pitch your attention into somethign that really is happening and that positive and is present. I disagree with everyone who says "never rebound into someone elses arms" Whys the hell not, it feels a lot better than sitting snivelling and feeling unwanted, unworthy, and like a victim of someone else. So someone doesn't want to be with you, there will be plenty of others who will, go and find someone to have fun with. Nothing gets a man or woman over being dumped like being found amusing, sexy, attractive and interesting. There is time to miss the other person, do it in between dates with the new one. When someone dumps you get a distraction, any distraction at all that makes you feel good not bad.
You don’t have to stay with the pain, work through the feelings or follow a grieving process if you don’t want too.
You can switch it off, switch them off and pitch your attention into somethign that really is happening and that positive and is present.
I disagree with everyone who says “never rebound into someone elses arms” Whys the hell not, it feels a lot better than sitting snivelling and feeling unwanted, unworthy, and like a victim of someone else.
So someone doesn’t want to be with you, there will be plenty of others who will, go and find someone to have fun with. Nothing gets a man or woman over being dumped like being found amusing, sexy, attractive and interesting.
There is time to miss the other person, do it in between dates with the new one.

]]> By: jj99toys http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-4451 jj99toys Fri, 17 Apr 2009 01:13:58 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-4451 If she can not forgive a little mistake... Then that should red flag!!!!! and You need to run...... Because she will never forgive nor forget and that is doom in any relationship If she can not forgive a little mistake… Then that should red flag!!!!! and You need to run……
Because she will never forgive nor forget and that is doom in any relationship

]]> By: khayree http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-4450 khayree Thu, 16 Apr 2009 17:52:56 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-4450 I said something stupid to my girlfriend and I meant nothing by it but I said something like if I were not with here and saw her and her friend on the street I would approach her friend first instead of her and now that after apologizing profusely she still has insecurities regarding this matter. I do not know how to make amends and are relationship is on the brink of a break up. I love her very much and I happened to make a stupid mistake and cannot get her back to the way we were before. I said something stupid to my girlfriend and I meant nothing by it but I said something like if I were not with here and saw her and her friend on the street I would approach her friend first instead of her and now that after apologizing profusely she still has insecurities regarding this matter. I do not know how to make amends and are relationship is on the brink of a break up. I love her very much and I happened to make a stupid mistake and cannot get her back to the way we were before.

]]> By: riette http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-4395 riette Mon, 06 Apr 2009 05:19:41 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-4395 <a href='#comment-4369' rel="nofollow">@Beth</a> - Beth, i have been in very similar position! Y To get him out of your mind, you need to remove,destroy or store away everything that reminds you of him! If there is a day that you cannot help yourself, take a look at old pics, gifts ect BUT put it away again. DELETE emails/ text messages from him, also delete him from myspace/facebook if you keep checking his profile, it may be hard at first but you will be to see the usefulness of this as time goes by. Be strong and just do it all in the same day. Then ,make a list of why the relationship couldnt work and ACTUALLY DIDNT. Clearly there are many. Take a look at it everytime you miss him. Also make a list of some mistakes you made in the relationship and how you would act differently in the future, for future relationships. You get what you ask for in life and if you dont acknowledge that you deserve better treatment you will never get it. Thats why its important to analyse the mistakes you made in the relationship, and why you stayed with him despite everything. Then go out and expand your horizons and find your identity again! Avoid places things you use to do together. What do YOU want to do that he was never interested in? Go to new places and make new friends! Develop different interests and find yourself again. How about salsa dancing, pole dancing classes, taking up a sport, traveling, voluteer work at an animal shelter, or anything else that could be fun and make you feel good about yourself! Its time to rebuild your confidence. NOT EVERYTHING LEADS TO HIM, in fact there are so many paths that dont , but you choose to stay on the only one that does.... Good luck, and let me know how it goes.... The key here is to be PROACTIVE. It was not time that helped me forget, but rather sheer effort on my part. @Beth – Beth, i have been in very similar position! Y

To get him out of your mind, you need to remove,destroy or store away everything that reminds you of him! If there is a day that you cannot help yourself, take a look at old pics, gifts ect BUT put it away again. DELETE emails/ text messages from him, also delete him from myspace/facebook if you keep checking his profile, it may be hard at first but you will be to see the usefulness of this as time goes by.

Be strong and just do it all in the same day.

Then ,make a list of why the relationship couldnt work and ACTUALLY DIDNT. Clearly there are many. Take a look at it everytime you miss him.

Also make a list of some mistakes you made in the relationship and how you would act differently in the future, for future relationships.

You get what you ask for in life and if you dont acknowledge that you deserve better treatment you will never get it. Thats why its important to analyse the mistakes you made in the relationship, and why you stayed with him despite everything.

Then go out and expand your horizons and find your identity again! Avoid places things you use to do together. What do YOU want to do that he was never interested in? Go to new places and make new friends! Develop different interests and find yourself again. How about salsa dancing, pole dancing classes, taking up a sport, traveling, voluteer work at an animal shelter, or anything else that could be fun and make you feel good about yourself!

Its time to rebuild your confidence.

NOT EVERYTHING LEADS TO HIM, in fact there are so many paths that dont , but you choose to stay on the only one that does….

Good luck, and let me know how it goes….

The key here is to be PROACTIVE. It was not time that helped me forget, but rather sheer effort on my part.

]]> By: Beth http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-4369 Beth Mon, 30 Mar 2009 09:32:38 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-4369 5 weeks into my break up. I dumped him because I felt like he only told me he loved me, but actually treated me like shit (a piece of good looking meat infront of his friends etc.), yet I made the worst mistake asking him to take me back two weeks later because I felt valueless without him, miserable and hated not having his life in mine anymore, but he said no. Now Ive cut of contact, realizing how the break up was a learning curve for me, that I can survive without him and dont need to be so relyant on him for my happyness. However the problem is that I seriously can not stop thinking about him! I want him out of my life, yet everything leads to him, I keep telling myself time will make me forget, but 24/7 he's on my brain, and I cant stop it! Any advice? 5 weeks into my break up. I dumped him because I felt like he only told me he loved me, but actually treated me like shit (a piece of good looking meat infront of his friends etc.), yet I made the worst mistake asking him to take me back two weeks later because I felt valueless without him, miserable and hated not having his life in mine anymore, but he said no. Now Ive cut of contact, realizing how the break up was a learning curve for me, that I can survive without him and dont need to be so relyant on him for my happyness.
However the problem is that I seriously can not stop thinking about him!
I want him out of my life, yet everything leads to him, I keep telling myself time will make me forget, but 24/7 he’s on my brain, and I cant stop it!
Any advice?

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