Comments on: The Most Often Given Consolation Speech After A Break Up http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/ Learn how to survive after breaking up and read some great relationship advice for having new and healthy relationships. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:45:08 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Chief http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-5540 Chief Sat, 07 Nov 2009 20:28:54 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-5540 <a href='#comment-5538' rel="nofollow">@DCnative</a> - DCnative i am sorry man. It has to be cut off. You must do it. My relationship just ended a month ago, people are schocked when i tell them that "no since the day we broke up we have not talked or made any contact since" its hard, heartbreaking, lonely and challenging but the reality is your not alone. Im going through it. I loved her, i feel it even deeper now that she is gone, but what good would it do if i tried to be friends or stay in touch. I will not heal. and i will not be stronger for it. because some night i would probably collaspe and try to get her back. But ive stayed away. It is hard, i feel a huge void in her wake, but it is slowly closing...i force myself out, and sociallize, i think about her everyday. Follow the wise advice on here. You could never even have a relationship with her again if you do not break away, become yourself again and really focus on what went wrong. What are your needs? You have them and im sure some were unmet. Ultimately if you break off and no contact you will develop strength and perhaps someday that strength will help another in a need as dire as yours. Best of luck my friend use this website it is wonderful and write to others -Chief<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5540','Chief'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5540','Chief','<a href=\'#comment-5538\' rel=\"nofollow\">@DCnative<\/a> - DCnative i am sorry man. It has to be cut off. You must do it. My relationship just ended a month ago, people are schocked when i tell them that \"no since the day we broke up we have not talked or made any contact since\" its hard, heartbreaking, lonely and challenging but the reality is your not alone. Im going through it. I loved her, i feel it even deeper now that she is gone, but what good would it do if i tried to be friends or stay in touch. I will not heal. and i will not be stronger for it. because some night i would probably collaspe and try to get her back. But ive stayed away. It is hard, i feel a huge void in her wake, but it is slowly closing...i force myself out, and sociallize, i think about her everyday. Follow the wise advice on here. \r\nYou could never even have a relationship with her again if you do not break away, become yourself again and really focus on what went wrong. What are your needs? You have them and im sure some were unmet. Ultimately if you break off and no contact you will develop strength and perhaps someday that strength will help another in a need as dire as yours.\r\nBest of luck my friend\r\nuse this website it is wonderful \r\nand write to others\r\n-Chief'); return false;">quote</a></div> @DCnative – DCnative i am sorry man. It has to be cut off. You must do it. My relationship just ended a month ago, people are schocked when i tell them that “no since the day we broke up we have not talked or made any contact since” its hard, heartbreaking, lonely and challenging but the reality is your not alone. Im going through it. I loved her, i feel it even deeper now that she is gone, but what good would it do if i tried to be friends or stay in touch. I will not heal. and i will not be stronger for it. because some night i would probably collaspe and try to get her back. But ive stayed away. It is hard, i feel a huge void in her wake, but it is slowly closing…i force myself out, and sociallize, i think about her everyday. Follow the wise advice on here.
You could never even have a relationship with her again if you do not break away, become yourself again and really focus on what went wrong. What are your needs? You have them and im sure some were unmet. Ultimately if you break off and no contact you will develop strength and perhaps someday that strength will help another in a need as dire as yours.
Best of luck my friend
use this website it is wonderful
and write to others
-Chief
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]]> By: DCnative http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-5538 DCnative Sat, 07 Nov 2009 17:31:48 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-5538 Thanks alot Eddie, for the great advice. My girl broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. Its been an emoational rollercoaster. I love her dearly and want her back but the more time that goes by and nothing has changed the more I start to realize that we most likely wont be together again. And this is killing me inside. I thought I was starting to get over her, accepting the breakup, especially since we have been talking as friends. But sometimes talks too me like we are still in a relationship and other times she acts like my buddy. There are even time when she just doest contact me at all. This has made it harder for me to get over her because of the back and forth treatment that she's giving me. It hurts me too do this but I may have too loose all contact with her.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5538','DCnative'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5538','DCnative','Thanks alot Eddie, for the great advice. My girl broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. Its been an emoational rollercoaster. I love her dearly and want her back but the more time that goes by and nothing has changed the more I start to realize that we most likely wont be together again. And this is killing me inside. I thought I was starting to get over her, accepting the breakup, especially since we have been talking as friends. But sometimes talks too me like we are still in a relationship and other times she acts like my buddy. There are even time when she just doest contact me at all. This has made it harder for me to get over her because of the back and forth treatment that she\'s giving me. It hurts me too do this but I may have too loose all contact with her.'); return false;">quote</a></div> Thanks alot Eddie, for the great advice. My girl broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. Its been an emoational rollercoaster. I love her dearly and want her back but the more time that goes by and nothing has changed the more I start to realize that we most likely wont be together again. And this is killing me inside. I thought I was starting to get over her, accepting the breakup, especially since we have been talking as friends. But sometimes talks too me like we are still in a relationship and other times she acts like my buddy. There are even time when she just doest contact me at all. This has made it harder for me to get over her because of the back and forth treatment that she’s giving me. It hurts me too do this but I may have too loose all contact with her.
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]]> By: Josie http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-4739 Josie Sat, 13 Jun 2009 03:46:58 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-4739 thanks eddie, this is amazing advice, you've helped me so much through my breakup...<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4739','Josie'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4739','Josie','thanks eddie, this is amazing advice, you\'ve helped me so much through my breakup...'); return false;">quote</a></div> thanks eddie, this is amazing advice, you’ve helped me so much through my breakup…
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]]> By: Brownhare http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-4527 Brownhare Tue, 05 May 2009 12:33:41 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-4527 When someone dumps you get a distraction, any distraction at all that makes you feel good not bad. You don't have to stay with the pain, work through the feelings or follow a grieving process if you don't want too. You can switch it off, switch them off and pitch your attention into somethign that really is happening and that positive and is present. I disagree with everyone who says "never rebound into someone elses arms" Whys the hell not, it feels a lot better than sitting snivelling and feeling unwanted, unworthy, and like a victim of someone else. So someone doesn't want to be with you, there will be plenty of others who will, go and find someone to have fun with. Nothing gets a man or woman over being dumped like being found amusing, sexy, attractive and interesting. There is time to miss the other person, do it in between dates with the new one.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4527','Brownhare'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4527','Brownhare','When someone dumps you get a distraction, any distraction at all that makes you feel good not bad.\r\nYou don\'t have to stay with the pain, work through the feelings or follow a grieving process if you don\'t want too.\r\nYou can switch it off, switch them off and pitch your attention into somethign that really is happening and that positive and is present.\r\nI disagree with everyone who says \"never rebound into someone elses arms\" Whys the hell not, it feels a lot better than sitting snivelling and feeling unwanted, unworthy, and like a victim of someone else.\r\nSo someone doesn\'t want to be with you, there will be plenty of others who will, go and find someone to have fun with. Nothing gets a man or woman over being dumped like being found amusing, sexy, attractive and interesting.\r\nThere is time to miss the other person, do it in between dates with the new one.'); return false;">quote</a></div> When someone dumps you get a distraction, any distraction at all that makes you feel good not bad.
You don’t have to stay with the pain, work through the feelings or follow a grieving process if you don’t want too.
You can switch it off, switch them off and pitch your attention into somethign that really is happening and that positive and is present.
I disagree with everyone who says “never rebound into someone elses arms” Whys the hell not, it feels a lot better than sitting snivelling and feeling unwanted, unworthy, and like a victim of someone else.
So someone doesn’t want to be with you, there will be plenty of others who will, go and find someone to have fun with. Nothing gets a man or woman over being dumped like being found amusing, sexy, attractive and interesting.
There is time to miss the other person, do it in between dates with the new one.
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]]> By: jj99toys http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-4451 jj99toys Fri, 17 Apr 2009 01:13:58 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-4451 If she can not forgive a little mistake... Then that should red flag!!!!! and You need to run...... Because she will never forgive nor forget and that is doom in any relationship<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4451','jj99toys'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4451','jj99toys','If she can not forgive a little mistake... Then that should red flag!!!!! and You need to run......\r\nBecause she will never forgive nor forget and that is doom in any relationship'); return false;">quote</a></div> If she can not forgive a little mistake… Then that should red flag!!!!! and You need to run……
Because she will never forgive nor forget and that is doom in any relationship
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]]> By: khayree http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-4450 khayree Thu, 16 Apr 2009 17:52:56 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-4450 I said something stupid to my girlfriend and I meant nothing by it but I said something like if I were not with here and saw her and her friend on the street I would approach her friend first instead of her and now that after apologizing profusely she still has insecurities regarding this matter. I do not know how to make amends and are relationship is on the brink of a break up. I love her very much and I happened to make a stupid mistake and cannot get her back to the way we were before.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4450','khayree'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4450','khayree','I said something stupid to my girlfriend and I meant nothing by it but I said something like if I were not with here and saw her and her friend on the street I would approach her friend first instead of her and now that after apologizing profusely she still has insecurities regarding this matter. I do not know how to make amends and are relationship is on the brink of a break up. I love her very much and I happened to make a stupid mistake and cannot get her back to the way we were before.'); return false;">quote</a></div> I said something stupid to my girlfriend and I meant nothing by it but I said something like if I were not with here and saw her and her friend on the street I would approach her friend first instead of her and now that after apologizing profusely she still has insecurities regarding this matter. I do not know how to make amends and are relationship is on the brink of a break up. I love her very much and I happened to make a stupid mistake and cannot get her back to the way we were before.
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]]> By: riette http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-4395 riette Mon, 06 Apr 2009 05:19:41 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-4395 <a href='#comment-4369' rel="nofollow">@Beth</a> - Beth, i have been in very similar position! Y To get him out of your mind, you need to remove,destroy or store away everything that reminds you of him! If there is a day that you cannot help yourself, take a look at old pics, gifts ect BUT put it away again. DELETE emails/ text messages from him, also delete him from myspace/facebook if you keep checking his profile, it may be hard at first but you will be to see the usefulness of this as time goes by. Be strong and just do it all in the same day. Then ,make a list of why the relationship couldnt work and ACTUALLY DIDNT. Clearly there are many. Take a look at it everytime you miss him. Also make a list of some mistakes you made in the relationship and how you would act differently in the future, for future relationships. You get what you ask for in life and if you dont acknowledge that you deserve better treatment you will never get it. Thats why its important to analyse the mistakes you made in the relationship, and why you stayed with him despite everything. Then go out and expand your horizons and find your identity again! Avoid places things you use to do together. What do YOU want to do that he was never interested in? Go to new places and make new friends! Develop different interests and find yourself again. How about salsa dancing, pole dancing classes, taking up a sport, traveling, voluteer work at an animal shelter, or anything else that could be fun and make you feel good about yourself! Its time to rebuild your confidence. NOT EVERYTHING LEADS TO HIM, in fact there are so many paths that dont , but you choose to stay on the only one that does.... Good luck, and let me know how it goes.... The key here is to be PROACTIVE. It was not time that helped me forget, but rather sheer effort on my part.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4395','riette'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4395','riette','<a href=\'#comment-4369\' rel=\"nofollow\">@Beth<\/a> - Beth, i have been in very similar position! Y\r\n\r\nTo get him out of your mind, you need to remove,destroy or store away everything that reminds you of him! If there is a day that you cannot help yourself, take a look at old pics, gifts ect BUT put it away again. DELETE emails\/ text messages from him, also delete him from myspace\/facebook if you keep checking his profile, it may be hard at first but you will be to see the usefulness of this as time goes by.\r\n\r\nBe strong and just do it all in the same day.\r\n\r\nThen ,make a list of why the relationship couldnt work and ACTUALLY DIDNT. Clearly there are many. Take a look at it everytime you miss him.\r\n\r\nAlso make a list of some mistakes you made in the relationship and how you would act differently in the future, for future relationships.\r\n\r\nYou get what you ask for in life and if you dont acknowledge that you deserve better treatment you will never get it. Thats why its important to analyse the mistakes you made in the relationship, and why you stayed with him despite everything.\r\n\r\nThen go out and expand your horizons and find your identity again! Avoid places things you use to do together. What do YOU want to do that he was never interested in? Go to new places and make new friends! Develop different interests and find yourself again. How about salsa dancing, pole dancing classes, taking up a sport, traveling, voluteer work at an animal shelter, or anything else that could be fun and make you feel good about yourself! \r\n\r\nIts time to rebuild your confidence.\r\n\r\nNOT EVERYTHING LEADS TO HIM, in fact there are so many paths that dont , but you choose to stay on the only one that does....\r\n\r\nGood luck, and let me know how it goes....\r\n\r\nThe key here is to be PROACTIVE. It was not time that helped me forget, but rather sheer effort on my part.'); return false;">quote</a></div> @Beth – Beth, i have been in very similar position! Y

To get him out of your mind, you need to remove,destroy or store away everything that reminds you of him! If there is a day that you cannot help yourself, take a look at old pics, gifts ect BUT put it away again. DELETE emails/ text messages from him, also delete him from myspace/facebook if you keep checking his profile, it may be hard at first but you will be to see the usefulness of this as time goes by.

Be strong and just do it all in the same day.

Then ,make a list of why the relationship couldnt work and ACTUALLY DIDNT. Clearly there are many. Take a look at it everytime you miss him.

Also make a list of some mistakes you made in the relationship and how you would act differently in the future, for future relationships.

You get what you ask for in life and if you dont acknowledge that you deserve better treatment you will never get it. Thats why its important to analyse the mistakes you made in the relationship, and why you stayed with him despite everything.

Then go out and expand your horizons and find your identity again! Avoid places things you use to do together. What do YOU want to do that he was never interested in? Go to new places and make new friends! Develop different interests and find yourself again. How about salsa dancing, pole dancing classes, taking up a sport, traveling, voluteer work at an animal shelter, or anything else that could be fun and make you feel good about yourself!

Its time to rebuild your confidence.

NOT EVERYTHING LEADS TO HIM, in fact there are so many paths that dont , but you choose to stay on the only one that does….

Good luck, and let me know how it goes….

The key here is to be PROACTIVE. It was not time that helped me forget, but rather sheer effort on my part.

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]]> By: Beth http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-4369 Beth Mon, 30 Mar 2009 09:32:38 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-4369 5 weeks into my break up. I dumped him because I felt like he only told me he loved me, but actually treated me like shit (a piece of good looking meat infront of his friends etc.), yet I made the worst mistake asking him to take me back two weeks later because I felt valueless without him, miserable and hated not having his life in mine anymore, but he said no. Now Ive cut of contact, realizing how the break up was a learning curve for me, that I can survive without him and dont need to be so relyant on him for my happyness. However the problem is that I seriously can not stop thinking about him! I want him out of my life, yet everything leads to him, I keep telling myself time will make me forget, but 24/7 he's on my brain, and I cant stop it! Any advice?<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4369','Beth'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4369','Beth','5 weeks into my break up. I dumped him because I felt like he only told me he loved me, but actually treated me like shit (a piece of good looking meat infront of his friends etc.), yet I made the worst mistake asking him to take me back two weeks later because I felt valueless without him, miserable and hated not having his life in mine anymore, but he said no. Now Ive cut of contact, realizing how the break up was a learning curve for me, that I can survive without him and dont need to be so relyant on him for my happyness. \r\nHowever the problem is that I seriously can not stop thinking about him!\r\nI want him out of my life, yet everything leads to him, I keep telling myself time will make me forget, but 24\/7 he\'s on my brain, and I cant stop it!\r\nAny advice?'); return false;">quote</a></div> 5 weeks into my break up. I dumped him because I felt like he only told me he loved me, but actually treated me like shit (a piece of good looking meat infront of his friends etc.), yet I made the worst mistake asking him to take me back two weeks later because I felt valueless without him, miserable and hated not having his life in mine anymore, but he said no. Now Ive cut of contact, realizing how the break up was a learning curve for me, that I can survive without him and dont need to be so relyant on him for my happyness.
However the problem is that I seriously can not stop thinking about him!
I want him out of my life, yet everything leads to him, I keep telling myself time will make me forget, but 24/7 he’s on my brain, and I cant stop it!
Any advice?
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]]> By: D http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-4363 D Sat, 28 Mar 2009 01:46:42 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-4363 I too failed to follow the NO CONTACT rule. I left a comment on this site on the 23rd and was really thinking that I was making progress. I undid all of that by taking a phone call. Why did I answer?! I'm almost back to the very beginning now. I feel like I'm dying. I know it will get better but right now it just hurts so bad...<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4363','D'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4363','D','I too failed to follow the NO CONTACT rule. I left a comment on this site on the 23rd and was really thinking that I was making progress. I undid all of that by taking a phone call. Why did I answer?! I\'m almost back to the very beginning now. I feel like I\'m dying. I know it will get better but right now it just hurts so bad...'); return false;">quote</a></div> I too failed to follow the NO CONTACT rule. I left a comment on this site on the 23rd and was really thinking that I was making progress. I undid all of that by taking a phone call. Why did I answer?! I’m almost back to the very beginning now. I feel like I’m dying. I know it will get better but right now it just hurts so bad…
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]]> By: Ang http://lovesagame.com/the-most-often-given-consolation-speech-after-a-break-up/comment-page-1/#comment-4353 Ang Wed, 25 Mar 2009 01:36:40 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/?p=408#comment-4353 I failed to follow the NO CONTACT rule very well and now I am stuggling all over again. I'm coming out of a 5 year relationship involving my partner cheating...nothing can hurt more. I'm two weeks into it and still feel like I'm going crazy.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4353','Ang'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4353','Ang','I failed to follow the NO CONTACT rule very well and now I am stuggling all over again. I\'m coming out of a 5 year relationship involving my partner cheating...nothing can hurt more. I\'m two weeks into it and still feel like I\'m going crazy.'); return false;">quote</a></div> I failed to follow the NO CONTACT rule very well and now I am stuggling all over again. I’m coming out of a 5 year relationship involving my partner cheating…nothing can hurt more. I’m two weeks into it and still feel like I’m going crazy.
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