Comments on: The Secret How To Get Over A Break Up http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/ Learn how to survive after breaking up and read some great relationship advice for having new and healthy relationships. Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:45:08 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Alf http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/comment-page-10/#comment-5607 Alf Wed, 18 Nov 2009 01:28:06 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/#comment-5607 Hi all, there's some great stories up here, some good some bad, I thought I should add mine. My ex ended things about 3 months ago after what was about a 3 and a half year relationship. We had magical chemistry and mind blowing sex and really were best friends along the way. However, we were both in our mid 20s when we found out she was pregnant and I decided I was way too young to have the child. She didnt want to lose the baby so she decided to keep it. We broke up partially for about 3 months but I decided if she was going to have the baby, then I was going to be there for her and the child. We had the baby, moved in together and had been living with our bub for about 18 months when she decided she wanted to end things. To be fair, it wasn't completely from left field. We had grown apart to a degree, wanted to do different things (she wanted to move to the country, I wanted us to move to another country). I also felt she didnt really trust me as much as she used to after the initial baby bust up, and this was quite frustrating. She seemed to trust her parents more than me and just lost that twinkle in her eye for me. She ended it and I was devastated. I've probably made every mistake I can possible make since: begging, crying, stalking, rebounds.. I've tried to go no contact but in order to maintain contact with my son it's just so hard not to. I miss him as much as I miss my ex and I need to call a lot to keep in touch with him. Usually I can go a few days no contact, and it feels great, but as soon as swapping the baby around, I have to see her and it kills me. She seems to be having such a great time at the moment and has been seemingly getting a lot of attention from the guys. On top of all this, she wants to remain "best friends" for the sake of our boy. This is too hard. Any advice from those with kids?<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5607','Alf'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5607','Alf','Hi all, there\'s some great stories up here, some good some bad, I thought I should add mine.\r\n\r\nMy ex ended things about 3 months ago after what was about a 3 and a half year relationship. We had magical chemistry and mind blowing sex and really were best friends along the way. However, we were both in our mid 20s when we found out she was pregnant and I decided I was way too young to have the child. She didnt want to lose the baby so she decided to keep it. We broke up partially for about 3 months but I decided if she was going to have the baby, then I was going to be there for her and the child.\r\n\r\nWe had the baby, moved in together and had been living with our bub for about 18 months when she decided she wanted to end things. To be fair, it wasn\'t completely from left field. We had grown apart to a degree, wanted to do different things (she wanted to move to the country, I wanted us to move to another country). I also felt she didnt really trust me as much as she used to after the initial baby bust up, and this was quite frustrating. She seemed to trust her parents more than me and just lost that twinkle in her eye for me.\r\n\r\nShe ended it and I was devastated. I\'ve probably made every mistake I can possible make since: begging, crying, stalking, rebounds.. I\'ve tried to go no contact but in order to maintain contact with my son it\'s just so hard not to. I miss him as much as I miss my ex and I need to call a lot to keep in touch with him. Usually I can go a few days no contact, and it feels great, but as soon as swapping the baby around, I have to see her and it kills me. She seems to be having such a great time at the moment and has been seemingly getting a lot of attention from the guys.\r\n\r\nOn top of all this, she wants to remain \"best friends\" for the sake of our boy. This is too hard. Any advice from those with kids?'); return false;">quote</a></div> Hi all, there’s some great stories up here, some good some bad, I thought I should add mine.

My ex ended things about 3 months ago after what was about a 3 and a half year relationship. We had magical chemistry and mind blowing sex and really were best friends along the way. However, we were both in our mid 20s when we found out she was pregnant and I decided I was way too young to have the child. She didnt want to lose the baby so she decided to keep it. We broke up partially for about 3 months but I decided if she was going to have the baby, then I was going to be there for her and the child.

We had the baby, moved in together and had been living with our bub for about 18 months when she decided she wanted to end things. To be fair, it wasn’t completely from left field. We had grown apart to a degree, wanted to do different things (she wanted to move to the country, I wanted us to move to another country). I also felt she didnt really trust me as much as she used to after the initial baby bust up, and this was quite frustrating. She seemed to trust her parents more than me and just lost that twinkle in her eye for me.

She ended it and I was devastated. I’ve probably made every mistake I can possible make since: begging, crying, stalking, rebounds.. I’ve tried to go no contact but in order to maintain contact with my son it’s just so hard not to. I miss him as much as I miss my ex and I need to call a lot to keep in touch with him. Usually I can go a few days no contact, and it feels great, but as soon as swapping the baby around, I have to see her and it kills me. She seems to be having such a great time at the moment and has been seemingly getting a lot of attention from the guys.

On top of all this, she wants to remain “best friends” for the sake of our boy. This is too hard. Any advice from those with kids?

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]]> By: Emma http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/comment-page-10/#comment-5598 Emma Mon, 16 Nov 2009 00:35:36 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/#comment-5598 Joe! I know these were wrote a few mths ago but i hope your feeling better, ive just been through the same thing he moved on like i was nothing. I know how much it hurts. Keep faith and hope alive, chin up. You sound lovely. Emma<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5598','Emma'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5598','Emma','Joe!\r\n\r\nI know these were wrote a few mths ago but i hope your feeling better, ive just been through the same thing he moved on like i was nothing.\r\n\r\nI know how much it hurts.\r\n\r\nKeep faith and hope alive, chin up. You sound lovely.\r\nEmma'); return false;">quote</a></div> Joe!

I know these were wrote a few mths ago but i hope your feeling better, ive just been through the same thing he moved on like i was nothing.

I know how much it hurts.

Keep faith and hope alive, chin up. You sound lovely.
Emma

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]]> By: joseph http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/comment-page-10/#comment-5597 joseph Sun, 15 Nov 2009 20:02:01 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/#comment-5597 Wow. I'm very intrigued by this blog. Some stories I can relate with and others I can't My situation is a little different because I live in the Florida Keys, on a small island, in a very small town (it gets better). I'm now 32 years old and have been in florida for 4 years. When I first met the love of my life, I had seen her in High School and thought she was the most beautiful creature that had ever walked this planet. After college, I had started hanging out with her a little and we became involved. We started our relationship in Ohio for four years and it was a little rocky at first but then panned out. I moved to florida for a 6 month internship and eventually landed a job. She followed shortly thereafter. She is a banker and a good one and finding a job was very easy for her. I lost that job in upper florida and moved to the keys. Of course being the best person on the planet, she moved with me. She stuck out it out with me and cared for me so much and I felt blessed. However, once we moved to the keys, I kind of got itchy feet and an old coworker started calling me and telling me how much she liked me. Well, we spent about two or three weeks emailing each other and saying things we shouldn't have. I broke the email affair off because I knew that I loved my girlfriend so much and was just confused. My parents were on the verge of divorce and my mother thought she was in love with someone else after 30 yrs of marriage. That really screwed me up for a minute. So that was my big mistake. 1 month ago my love said she wanted to move out because we would appreciate each other more and that she wanted to see where we were going because she was 31 and wanted marriage. Granted marriage scared the living hell out of me but I knew that I could never marry anyone else but her. We drove each other crazy, fought hard and loved harder. I started turning over a new leaf and began having so much respect for her. So, she came home one day with a signed lease in her hand and we both cried. I was so upset and didn't want to see her place. Well, it was only three streets down! So i stayed there with her the first week and then she went to Ohio for a trip to see her family. When she came back we talked for a day and then she said she didn't want to talk anymore. Two days later she said she wasn't in love with me anymore. I was devastated. I proposed marriage, therapy, church, whatever i could do to get her back into my arms. The answer was no. So i would get angry, try to be strong. didnt work. Next day i was apologizing and asking to talk or have dinner so we could talk. I'm very passionate about her and have been pretty controlling in the past when she has tried to leave (holding her arms and not letting her leave until she talked to me). I know it's really weird to hear me say this. So we had made plans to hang out at our old place and so she could see her cat that i had kept for her because she couldn't keep it. Well, she blew me off and i got curious so i stopped by her place. No answer but her car was there. So i went back to my place. I then poured a glass of wine and walked down there and was praying for god to give me some type of closure, explanation, etc... There was a white ford truck in her driveway. My heart sank. I walked up to the door, peaked in the window and saw her on top of someone kissing in a dimlit family room. I knocked on the door and walked in. When confronting them and screaming, she had a smirk on her face the whole time. Actually, made fun of my hat in front of this other man. He was my height, dark hair, brown eyes, clean cut, very handsome. So I apologized to him, shook his hand and walked out. I was so fucking devastated. My world caught fire and I was ready for death. I no longer feared it. Next day she called (after staying at his house because she was scared of me) and i went over to talk. I cried, no bawled the whole time. She seemed sympathetic at first and then began saying she couldn't talk to me anymore and asked me to leave. I begged her for answers and got none. Just that it was their second date, they had known each other for two years and that he felt sorry for me (that makes me feel just great). So i sent her a dozen roses, apologizing and saying i won't come around bugging her anymore. I am at a loss for words about how horrible I feel inside. I don't know if i can live like this much longer and 8 years is such a long time invested in someone. She followed me down here so I could work on my career and now all of that is in jeopardy. I don't have anyone to speak with down here about it as there are not many people my age. I'm horrified as to what is going to happen and I'm so scared. All i can think about is how that guys lips were supposed to be mine, and they were supposed to be mine forever. I don't understand how someone can love you so deeply and then lie to you and date quickly thereafter. This is very painful and I can only pray that I'll make it through it. She was always so kind and I never expected this ever. Please help. Joe<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5597','joseph'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5597','joseph','Wow. I\'m very intrigued by this blog. Some stories I can relate with and others I can\'t My situation is a little different because I live in the Florida Keys, on a small island, in a very small town (it gets better). I\'m now 32 years old and have been in florida for 4 years. When I first met the love of my life, I had seen her in High School and thought she was the most beautiful creature that had ever walked this planet. After college, I had started hanging out with her a little and we became involved. We started our relationship in Ohio for four years and it was a little rocky at first but then panned out. I moved to florida for a 6 month internship and eventually landed a job. She followed shortly thereafter. She is a banker and a good one and finding a job was very easy for her. I lost that job in upper florida and moved to the keys. Of course being the best person on the planet, she moved with me. She stuck out it out with me and cared for me so much and I felt blessed. However, once we moved to the keys, I kind of got itchy feet and an old coworker started calling me and telling me how much she liked me. Well, we spent about two or three weeks emailing each other and saying things we shouldn\'t have. I broke the email affair off because I knew that I loved my girlfriend so much and was just confused. My parents were on the verge of divorce and my mother thought she was in love with someone else after 30 yrs of marriage. That really screwed me up for a minute. So that was my big mistake. 1 month ago my love said she wanted to move out because we would appreciate each other more and that she wanted to see where we were going because she was 31 and wanted marriage. Granted marriage scared the living hell out of me but I knew that I could never marry anyone else but her. We drove each other crazy, fought hard and loved harder. I started turning over a new leaf and began having so much respect for her. So, she came home one day with a signed lease in her hand and we both cried. I was so upset and didn\'t want to see her place. Well, it was only three streets down! So i stayed there with her the first week and then she went to Ohio for a trip to see her family. When she came back we talked for a day and then she said she didn\'t want to talk anymore. Two days later she said she wasn\'t in love with me anymore. I was devastated. I proposed marriage, therapy, church, whatever i could do to get her back into my arms. The answer was no. So i would get angry, try to be strong. didnt work. Next day i was apologizing and asking to talk or have dinner so we could talk. I\'m very passionate about her and have been pretty controlling in the past when she has tried to leave (holding her arms and not letting her leave until she talked to me). I know it\'s really weird to hear me say this. So we had made plans to hang out at our old place and so she could see her cat that i had kept for her because she couldn\'t keep it. Well, she blew me off and i got curious so i stopped by her place. No answer but her car was there. So i went back to my place. I then poured a glass of wine and walked down there and was praying for god to give me some type of closure, explanation, etc... There was a white ford truck in her driveway. My heart sank. I walked up to the door, peaked in the window and saw her on top of someone kissing in a dimlit family room. I knocked on the door and walked in. When confronting them and screaming, she had a smirk on her face the whole time. Actually, made fun of my hat in front of this other man. He was my height, dark hair, brown eyes, clean cut, very handsome. So I apologized to him, shook his hand and walked out. I was so fucking devastated. My world caught fire and I was ready for death. I no longer feared it. Next day she called (after staying at his house because she was scared of me) and i went over to talk. I cried, no bawled the whole time. She seemed sympathetic at first and then began saying she couldn\'t talk to me anymore and asked me to leave. I begged her for answers and got none. Just that it was their second date, they had known each other for two years and that he felt sorry for me (that makes me feel just great). So i sent her a dozen roses, apologizing and saying i won\'t come around bugging her anymore. I am at a loss for words about how horrible I feel inside. I don\'t know if i can live like this much longer and 8 years is such a long time invested in someone. She followed me down here so I could work on my career and now all of that is in jeopardy. I don\'t have anyone to speak with down here about it as there are not many people my age. I\'m horrified as to what is going to happen and I\'m so scared. All i can think about is how that guys lips were supposed to be mine, and they were supposed to be mine forever. I don\'t understand how someone can love you so deeply and then lie to you and date quickly thereafter. This is very painful and I can only pray that I\'ll make it through it. She was always so kind and I never expected this ever. Please help.\r\n\r\nJoe'); return false;">quote</a></div> Wow. I’m very intrigued by this blog. Some stories I can relate with and others I can’t My situation is a little different because I live in the Florida Keys, on a small island, in a very small town (it gets better). I’m now 32 years old and have been in florida for 4 years. When I first met the love of my life, I had seen her in High School and thought she was the most beautiful creature that had ever walked this planet. After college, I had started hanging out with her a little and we became involved. We started our relationship in Ohio for four years and it was a little rocky at first but then panned out. I moved to florida for a 6 month internship and eventually landed a job. She followed shortly thereafter. She is a banker and a good one and finding a job was very easy for her. I lost that job in upper florida and moved to the keys. Of course being the best person on the planet, she moved with me. She stuck out it out with me and cared for me so much and I felt blessed. However, once we moved to the keys, I kind of got itchy feet and an old coworker started calling me and telling me how much she liked me. Well, we spent about two or three weeks emailing each other and saying things we shouldn’t have. I broke the email affair off because I knew that I loved my girlfriend so much and was just confused. My parents were on the verge of divorce and my mother thought she was in love with someone else after 30 yrs of marriage. That really screwed me up for a minute. So that was my big mistake. 1 month ago my love said she wanted to move out because we would appreciate each other more and that she wanted to see where we were going because she was 31 and wanted marriage. Granted marriage scared the living hell out of me but I knew that I could never marry anyone else but her. We drove each other crazy, fought hard and loved harder. I started turning over a new leaf and began having so much respect for her. So, she came home one day with a signed lease in her hand and we both cried. I was so upset and didn’t want to see her place. Well, it was only three streets down! So i stayed there with her the first week and then she went to Ohio for a trip to see her family. When she came back we talked for a day and then she said she didn’t want to talk anymore. Two days later she said she wasn’t in love with me anymore. I was devastated. I proposed marriage, therapy, church, whatever i could do to get her back into my arms. The answer was no. So i would get angry, try to be strong. didnt work. Next day i was apologizing and asking to talk or have dinner so we could talk. I’m very passionate about her and have been pretty controlling in the past when she has tried to leave (holding her arms and not letting her leave until she talked to me). I know it’s really weird to hear me say this. So we had made plans to hang out at our old place and so she could see her cat that i had kept for her because she couldn’t keep it. Well, she blew me off and i got curious so i stopped by her place. No answer but her car was there. So i went back to my place. I then poured a glass of wine and walked down there and was praying for god to give me some type of closure, explanation, etc… There was a white ford truck in her driveway. My heart sank. I walked up to the door, peaked in the window and saw her on top of someone kissing in a dimlit family room. I knocked on the door and walked in. When confronting them and screaming, she had a smirk on her face the whole time. Actually, made fun of my hat in front of this other man. He was my height, dark hair, brown eyes, clean cut, very handsome. So I apologized to him, shook his hand and walked out. I was so fucking devastated. My world caught fire and I was ready for death. I no longer feared it. Next day she called (after staying at his house because she was scared of me) and i went over to talk. I cried, no bawled the whole time. She seemed sympathetic at first and then began saying she couldn’t talk to me anymore and asked me to leave. I begged her for answers and got none. Just that it was their second date, they had known each other for two years and that he felt sorry for me (that makes me feel just great). So i sent her a dozen roses, apologizing and saying i won’t come around bugging her anymore. I am at a loss for words about how horrible I feel inside. I don’t know if i can live like this much longer and 8 years is such a long time invested in someone. She followed me down here so I could work on my career and now all of that is in jeopardy. I don’t have anyone to speak with down here about it as there are not many people my age. I’m horrified as to what is going to happen and I’m so scared. All i can think about is how that guys lips were supposed to be mine, and they were supposed to be mine forever. I don’t understand how someone can love you so deeply and then lie to you and date quickly thereafter. This is very painful and I can only pray that I’ll make it through it. She was always so kind and I never expected this ever. Please help.

Joe

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]]> By: ashley http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/comment-page-10/#comment-5596 ashley Sun, 15 Nov 2009 19:22:27 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/#comment-5596 <a href='#comment-5529' rel="nofollow">@GIRLS view...</a> - im going through something like this with my ex. we were both each others first true love & we lost our virginity's to each other & everything. but he broke my heart for ANOTHER GIRL!! who happens to be my ex best friend, who stopped being friends with me because i was always with him & never had time for her anymore. but he chose her over me & he treats her sooo much better & he looks happy. but i began to move on & the very first day me & the new guy started dating...he texted me a long text asking to be friends!! why now?! i don't understand him! like he texts me for the dumbest reasons & he always stares at me or tries to do things to get my attention. in high school, there isn't much you can do to avoid the guy you were in love with & another girl. i walk different ways as him & i don't look at him or pay him any attention anymore. his best friends tell me that he was crazy about me & always talked about me...but he doesn't do that with her! like they all tell me that he will come back & he will realize that im the better one for him...but i don't see that happening! i just don't know what to do anymore. i honestly don't think he is over me & i think he is starting to have some regret for dumping me for her. she isn't anything like me & she is just....not him. like me & him had a lot in common & they just seem like two totally different people. they don't even look cute together. & we looked way more happier together & you could tell we were in love. i just don't understand. he has been dating her for almost 2 months now & im not as sad anymore. im just confused at why he picked her! but i know life goes on. i just hope one day he regrets it & misses me. did you ever regret it?<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5596','ashley'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5596','ashley','<a href=\'#comment-5529\' rel=\"nofollow\">@GIRLS view...<\/a> - im going through something like this with my ex. we were both each others first true love & we lost our virginity\'s to each other & everything. but he broke my heart for ANOTHER GIRL!! who happens to be my ex best friend, who stopped being friends with me because i was always with him & never had time for her anymore. but he chose her over me & he treats her sooo much better & he looks happy. but i began to move on & the very first day me & the new guy started dating...he texted me a long text asking to be friends!! why now?! i don\'t understand him! like he texts me for the dumbest reasons & he always stares at me or tries to do things to get my attention. in high school, there isn\'t much you can do to avoid the guy you were in love with & another girl. i walk different ways as him & i don\'t look at him or pay him any attention anymore. his best friends tell me that he was crazy about me & always talked about me...but he doesn\'t do that with her! like they all tell me that he will come back & he will realize that im the better one for him...but i don\'t see that happening! i just don\'t know what to do anymore. i honestly don\'t think he is over me & i think he is starting to have some regret for dumping me for her. she isn\'t anything like me & she is just....not him. like me & him had a lot in common & they just seem like two totally different people. they don\'t even look cute together. & we looked way more happier together & you could tell we were in love. i just don\'t understand. he has been dating her for almost 2 months now & im not as sad anymore. im just confused at why he picked her! but i know life goes on. i just hope one day he regrets it & misses me. did you ever regret it?'); return false;">quote</a></div> @GIRLS view… – im going through something like this with my ex. we were both each others first true love & we lost our virginity’s to each other & everything. but he broke my heart for ANOTHER GIRL!! who happens to be my ex best friend, who stopped being friends with me because i was always with him & never had time for her anymore. but he chose her over me & he treats her sooo much better & he looks happy. but i began to move on & the very first day me & the new guy started dating…he texted me a long text asking to be friends!! why now?! i don’t understand him! like he texts me for the dumbest reasons & he always stares at me or tries to do things to get my attention. in high school, there isn’t much you can do to avoid the guy you were in love with & another girl. i walk different ways as him & i don’t look at him or pay him any attention anymore. his best friends tell me that he was crazy about me & always talked about me…but he doesn’t do that with her! like they all tell me that he will come back & he will realize that im the better one for him…but i don’t see that happening! i just don’t know what to do anymore. i honestly don’t think he is over me & i think he is starting to have some regret for dumping me for her. she isn’t anything like me & she is just….not him. like me & him had a lot in common & they just seem like two totally different people. they don’t even look cute together. & we looked way more happier together & you could tell we were in love. i just don’t understand. he has been dating her for almost 2 months now & im not as sad anymore. im just confused at why he picked her! but i know life goes on. i just hope one day he regrets it & misses me. did you ever regret it?
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]]> By: lia http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/comment-page-10/#comment-5537 lia Sat, 07 Nov 2009 10:25:32 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/#comment-5537 hey everyone.....i just wanted some advice...maybe someone can help. well....me and my boyfriend of 4 years broke up about 3 months ago. we have a 3 year old daughter together. but he decided that he just wanted a year to himself then we would see where we are at with everything. but all of a sudden like 3 or 4 days ago he started to act a little rude to me but i just ignored it so all of a sudden yesterday he said he didnt want to be with me. so i cried my eyes out and i said all the things that i was holding in all this time. he was just full of lies and mood swings. im just so confused and i dont know what to do anymore cuz i gotta deal with him for the rest of my life bcuz i have a little girl with him and he will continue to be in her life...he tells me that its my fault bcuz i dont trust him (obviously u cant trust someone who lies 24/7) and that he just doesnt love me anymore and that he cares about me but not in that way. its just so amazing to me that he can just walk away from this relationship after we have been through EVERYTHING with each other. i was always there for him and always thought for him for everything and i think that was the reason why this didnt work...bcuz he felt like he had me wrapped around his finger so it made him feel good and he always said"u will never leave me"... it drives me crazy and i just dont know what to do bcuz i know that i need to think about my daughter and about getting my life in order but its so hard when i see him so often and my daughter talks about him and asks why we arent living with him and i dont even know what to say. im just afraid that she is gonna grow up and feel bad. if he has another family and other kids, i dont want her to think that she wasnt good enough so he went and had other kids...its hurts me so much bcuz he is being so selish and thinking of noone but himself. he doesnt even think about our daughters feelings. im also afraid of having to split custody of my daughter if it ever comes to court bcuz i dont want to have to throw my daughter from one household to the next. his friends and family are not a great help either....they always brainwash him. thx for reading = ) if anyone has any advice please dont hesitate to help ....thx<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5537','lia'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5537','lia','hey everyone.....i just wanted some advice...maybe someone can help. well....me and my boyfriend of 4 years broke up about 3 months ago. we have a 3 year old daughter together. but he decided that he just wanted a year to himself then we would see where we are at with everything. but all of a sudden like 3 or 4 days ago he started to act a little rude to me but i just ignored it so all of a sudden yesterday he said he didnt want to be with me. so i cried my eyes out and i said all the things that i was holding in all this time. he was just full of lies and mood swings. im just so confused and i dont know what to do anymore cuz i gotta deal with him for the rest of my life bcuz i have a little girl with him and he will continue to be in her life...he tells me that its my fault bcuz i dont trust him (obviously u cant trust someone who lies 24\/7) and that he just doesnt love me anymore and that he cares about me but not in that way. its just so amazing to me that he can just walk away from this relationship after we have been through EVERYTHING with each other. i was always there for him and always thought for him for everything and i think that was the reason why this didnt work...bcuz he felt like he had me wrapped around his finger so it made him feel good and he always said\"u will never leave me\"... it drives me crazy and i just dont know what to do bcuz i know that i need to think about my daughter and about getting my life in order but its so hard when i see him so often and my daughter talks about him and asks why we arent living with him and i dont even know what to say. im just afraid that she is gonna grow up and feel bad. if he has another family and other kids, i dont want her to think that she wasnt good enough so he went and had other kids...its hurts me so much bcuz he is being so selish and thinking of noone but himself. he doesnt even think about our daughters feelings. im also afraid of having to split custody of my daughter if it ever comes to court bcuz i dont want to have to throw my daughter from one household to the next. his friends and family are not a great help either....they always brainwash him. thx for reading = ) if anyone has any advice please dont hesitate to help ....thx'); return false;">quote</a></div> hey everyone…..i just wanted some advice…maybe someone can help. well….me and my boyfriend of 4 years broke up about 3 months ago. we have a 3 year old daughter together. but he decided that he just wanted a year to himself then we would see where we are at with everything. but all of a sudden like 3 or 4 days ago he started to act a little rude to me but i just ignored it so all of a sudden yesterday he said he didnt want to be with me. so i cried my eyes out and i said all the things that i was holding in all this time. he was just full of lies and mood swings. im just so confused and i dont know what to do anymore cuz i gotta deal with him for the rest of my life bcuz i have a little girl with him and he will continue to be in her life…he tells me that its my fault bcuz i dont trust him (obviously u cant trust someone who lies 24/7) and that he just doesnt love me anymore and that he cares about me but not in that way. its just so amazing to me that he can just walk away from this relationship after we have been through EVERYTHING with each other. i was always there for him and always thought for him for everything and i think that was the reason why this didnt work…bcuz he felt like he had me wrapped around his finger so it made him feel good and he always said”u will never leave me”… it drives me crazy and i just dont know what to do bcuz i know that i need to think about my daughter and about getting my life in order but its so hard when i see him so often and my daughter talks about him and asks why we arent living with him and i dont even know what to say. im just afraid that she is gonna grow up and feel bad. if he has another family and other kids, i dont want her to think that she wasnt good enough so he went and had other kids…its hurts me so much bcuz he is being so selish and thinking of noone but himself. he doesnt even think about our daughters feelings. im also afraid of having to split custody of my daughter if it ever comes to court bcuz i dont want to have to throw my daughter from one household to the next. his friends and family are not a great help either….they always brainwash him. thx for reading = ) if anyone has any advice please dont hesitate to help ….thx
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]]> By: stronger ;) http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/comment-page-10/#comment-5533 stronger ;) Thu, 05 Nov 2009 19:01:27 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/#comment-5533 <a href='#comment-5525' rel="nofollow">@Taylor</a> - Taylor, You can't have feelings for the person and hang out/be friends pretending that there is nothing there. It would just hurt too much and you'll never stop hoping while you are around them, that something will change at some point (and by change i mean getting back together with him). This is a torture, and it will not allow you to move on. You need to decide for yourself whether you would still want to give that person a second chance after the talk you had and the developments that followed. But once you have decided, consider the relationship a closed chapter, that is, don't look back and just walk on to your new life. I know it sounds easier said than done, and disbelief is the first thing that strikes you when someone you have been so close with says 'it's over', but you have to live your life for yourself - can you really switch every two weeks that he changes his mind? It would emotionally exhaust you, trust me. I've been on the other side and theirs isn't too easy either - probably the person still has some feelings for you and probably feels very guilty for breaking up, but once the shadow of the doubt is there, it really isn't the same, unless you have been together for a really long time and you are both willing and able to work it out. Really, things rarely change beyond this point...You can end up getting back together and breaking up again, and I've done that, and trust me, it is much more painful than taking the decision once and sticking to it. And, really, if you have some feelings for the person, do not stay with them just as a back-up option - it may seem more secure to you now, but it is really a great waste of time for both of you, it is emotionally confusing, and it doesn't show the proper respect for the person you are with. I've been there and I know how you feel but getting used to insecurity is a very important part of life, and it gives you an opportunity to really grow as a person through the experience. Don't deny yourself that chance,<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5533','stronger ;)'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5533','stronger ;)','<a href=\'#comment-5525\' rel=\"nofollow\">@Taylor<\/a> - \r\n\r\nTaylor,\r\n\r\nYou can\'t have feelings for the person and hang out\/be friends pretending that there is nothing there. It would just hurt too much and you\'ll never stop hoping while you are around them, that something will change at some point (and by change i mean getting back together with him). This is a torture, and it will not allow you to move on. You need to decide for yourself whether you would still want to give that person a second chance after the talk you had and the developments that followed. But once you have decided, consider the relationship a closed chapter, that is, don\'t look back and just walk on to your new life. I know it sounds easier said than done, and disbelief is the first thing that strikes you when someone you have been so close with says \'it\'s over\', but you have to live your life for yourself - can you really switch every two weeks that he changes his mind? It would emotionally exhaust you, trust me. I\'ve been on the other side and theirs isn\'t too easy either - probably the person still has some feelings for you and probably feels very guilty for breaking up, but once the shadow of the doubt is there, it really isn\'t the same, unless you have been together for a really long time and you are both willing and able to work it out. Really, things rarely change beyond this point...You can end up getting back together and breaking up again, and I\'ve done that, and trust me, it is much more painful than taking the decision once and sticking to it. And, really, if you have some feelings for the person, do not stay with them just as a back-up option - it may seem more secure to you now, but it is really a great waste of time for both of you, it is emotionally confusing, and it doesn\'t show the proper respect for the person you are with. I\'ve been there and I know how you feel but getting used to insecurity is a very important part of life, and it gives you an opportunity to really grow as a person through the experience. Don\'t deny yourself that chance,'); return false;">quote</a></div> @Taylor –

Taylor,

You can’t have feelings for the person and hang out/be friends pretending that there is nothing there. It would just hurt too much and you’ll never stop hoping while you are around them, that something will change at some point (and by change i mean getting back together with him). This is a torture, and it will not allow you to move on. You need to decide for yourself whether you would still want to give that person a second chance after the talk you had and the developments that followed. But once you have decided, consider the relationship a closed chapter, that is, don’t look back and just walk on to your new life. I know it sounds easier said than done, and disbelief is the first thing that strikes you when someone you have been so close with says ‘it’s over’, but you have to live your life for yourself – can you really switch every two weeks that he changes his mind? It would emotionally exhaust you, trust me. I’ve been on the other side and theirs isn’t too easy either – probably the person still has some feelings for you and probably feels very guilty for breaking up, but once the shadow of the doubt is there, it really isn’t the same, unless you have been together for a really long time and you are both willing and able to work it out. Really, things rarely change beyond this point…You can end up getting back together and breaking up again, and I’ve done that, and trust me, it is much more painful than taking the decision once and sticking to it. And, really, if you have some feelings for the person, do not stay with them just as a back-up option – it may seem more secure to you now, but it is really a great waste of time for both of you, it is emotionally confusing, and it doesn’t show the proper respect for the person you are with. I’ve been there and I know how you feel but getting used to insecurity is a very important part of life, and it gives you an opportunity to really grow as a person through the experience. Don’t deny yourself that chance,

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]]> By: GIRLS view... http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/comment-page-10/#comment-5529 GIRLS view... Thu, 05 Nov 2009 06:34:07 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/#comment-5529 Wow, this sounds like exactly what happened between me and my boyfriend. I hate to admit it to you, but hes falling for this other girl and he is way too scared to tell you. The fact that he mentioned one specific girl indicates that hes not concerned with going out and meeting " other people" hes actually into this ONE person and knows he cant pursue them because of you. I know because I'm going through the same thing right now with my boyfriend. I thought I was in LOVE with him, and then I met someone who I just clicked with. I wasn't looking, I wasn't putting myself out there, but something in this persons eyes made me more interested. So interested that I started losing focus with my boyfriend and started to have actually feelings for this new guy. I was scared of losing my boyfriend so I never told him about the other guy. I hate to say it but its to protect him, I am a terrible person and should just tell him about the other guy, but I'm too selfish, because as messed up as this sounds, I would want my ex boyfriend to still be around if things didn't work out between me and the new guy. So basically he's stringing you along. I think anyone can agree, its not your fault and you should just be the one to move on. Closure is so hard, but when you find someone better than him you will have no problem moving on. Until then, cry, get mad, get angry, and then go out and meet new people, life will ALWAYS go on!<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5529','GIRLS view...'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5529','GIRLS view...','Wow, this sounds like exactly what happened between me and my boyfriend. I hate to admit it to you, but hes falling for this other girl and he is way too scared to tell you. The fact that he mentioned one specific girl indicates that hes not concerned with going out and meeting \" other people\" hes actually into this ONE person and knows he cant pursue them because of you. I know because I\'m going through the same thing right now with my boyfriend. I thought I was in LOVE with him, and then I met someone who I just clicked with. I wasn\'t looking, I wasn\'t putting myself out there, but something in this persons eyes made me more interested. So interested that I started losing focus with my boyfriend and started to have actually feelings for this new guy. I was scared of losing my boyfriend so I never told him about the other guy. I hate to say it but its to protect him, I am a terrible person and should just tell him about the other guy, but I\'m too selfish, because as messed up as this sounds, I would want my ex boyfriend to still be around if things didn\'t work out between me and the new guy. So basically he\'s stringing you along. I think anyone can agree, its not your fault and you should just be the one to move on. Closure is so hard, but when you find someone better than him you will have no problem moving on. Until then, cry, get mad, get angry, and then go out and meet new people, life will ALWAYS go on!'); return false;">quote</a></div> Wow, this sounds like exactly what happened between me and my boyfriend. I hate to admit it to you, but hes falling for this other girl and he is way too scared to tell you. The fact that he mentioned one specific girl indicates that hes not concerned with going out and meeting ” other people” hes actually into this ONE person and knows he cant pursue them because of you. I know because I’m going through the same thing right now with my boyfriend. I thought I was in LOVE with him, and then I met someone who I just clicked with. I wasn’t looking, I wasn’t putting myself out there, but something in this persons eyes made me more interested. So interested that I started losing focus with my boyfriend and started to have actually feelings for this new guy. I was scared of losing my boyfriend so I never told him about the other guy. I hate to say it but its to protect him, I am a terrible person and should just tell him about the other guy, but I’m too selfish, because as messed up as this sounds, I would want my ex boyfriend to still be around if things didn’t work out between me and the new guy. So basically he’s stringing you along. I think anyone can agree, its not your fault and you should just be the one to move on. Closure is so hard, but when you find someone better than him you will have no problem moving on. Until then, cry, get mad, get angry, and then go out and meet new people, life will ALWAYS go on!
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]]> By: Taylor http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/comment-page-10/#comment-5525 Taylor Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:05:14 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/#comment-5525 My boyfriend of five months broke up with me 2 weeks today. We started fighting the week before we broke up and I noticed he was acting really weird. Instead of being nice and caring like he had always been he started acting like a jerk and getting mad alot. One day we decided to talk at lunch at school. He said he wanted to be with me but he also didnt. He wanted to because he stil had feelings for me, but he didn't because he was starting to loose them and there is other people out there. I said that I felt the same. We decided we were going to hang out on the weekend and see how it went, then the belll rang. I said that if he was intrested in anybody else then we could just be friends but if not then we could try to get back to normal. He replied with "Sorry were just going to have to be friends" I couldnt believe it, i wasnt sure if he was being serious or not but I went to class. After the next two classes I seen him outside of the school in the front. I walked up to him and asked him who he was intrested in, he said nobody but somebody liked him. Someone he had been hanging out with because she is like a 'sister' to him. I said I thought you loved me? He said I do and I said so whats this? he said i dont know. Its not fair that i've been around this hole time then I just get dumped for another girl. I asked him if he wanted to hang out on the weekend and he said he thinks we should just move on. I was absolutely crushed. The next week at school he carried on like nothing was wrong, while I cried every night... This following weekend he texted me telling me he was upset because he loved me and its so hard to let go. This really confused me cause I thought he didnt want to be with me anymore? I've had my hopes up that we are going to get back together because that is what I want wether I deny it or not.. Now he said he is good and feels better, but i'm not I hate the change. Were friends and we talk often and it hurts alot. I know that I will get over him but I don't know how long its going to take.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5525','Taylor'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5525','Taylor','My boyfriend of five months broke up with me 2 weeks today. We started fighting the week before we broke up and I noticed he was acting really weird. Instead of being nice and caring like he had always been he started acting like a jerk and getting mad alot. One day we decided to talk at lunch at school. He said he wanted to be with me but he also didnt. He wanted to because he stil had feelings for me, but he didn\'t because he was starting to loose them and there is other people out there. I said that I felt the same. We decided we were going to hang out on the weekend and see how it went, then the belll rang. I said that if he was intrested in anybody else then we could just be friends but if not then we could try to get back to normal. He replied with \"Sorry were just going to have to be friends\" I couldnt believe it, i wasnt sure if he was being serious or not but I went to class. After the next two classes I seen him outside of the school in the front. I walked up to him and asked him who he was intrested in, he said nobody but somebody liked him. Someone he had been hanging out with because she is like a \'sister\' to him. I said I thought you loved me? He said I do and I said so whats this? he said i dont know. Its not fair that i\'ve been around this hole time then I just get dumped for another girl. I asked him if he wanted to hang out on the weekend and he said he thinks we should just move on. I was absolutely crushed. The next week at school he carried on like nothing was wrong, while I cried every night... This following weekend he texted me telling me he was upset because he loved me and its so hard to let go. This really confused me cause I thought he didnt want to be with me anymore? I\'ve had my hopes up that we are going to get back together because that is what I want wether I deny it or not.. Now he said he is good and feels better, but i\'m not I hate the change. Were friends and we talk often and it hurts alot. I know that I will get over him but I don\'t know how long its going to take.'); return false;">quote</a></div> My boyfriend of five months broke up with me 2 weeks today. We started fighting the week before we broke up and I noticed he was acting really weird. Instead of being nice and caring like he had always been he started acting like a jerk and getting mad alot. One day we decided to talk at lunch at school. He said he wanted to be with me but he also didnt. He wanted to because he stil had feelings for me, but he didn’t because he was starting to loose them and there is other people out there. I said that I felt the same. We decided we were going to hang out on the weekend and see how it went, then the belll rang. I said that if he was intrested in anybody else then we could just be friends but if not then we could try to get back to normal. He replied with “Sorry were just going to have to be friends” I couldnt believe it, i wasnt sure if he was being serious or not but I went to class. After the next two classes I seen him outside of the school in the front. I walked up to him and asked him who he was intrested in, he said nobody but somebody liked him. Someone he had been hanging out with because she is like a ’sister’ to him. I said I thought you loved me? He said I do and I said so whats this? he said i dont know. Its not fair that i’ve been around this hole time then I just get dumped for another girl. I asked him if he wanted to hang out on the weekend and he said he thinks we should just move on. I was absolutely crushed. The next week at school he carried on like nothing was wrong, while I cried every night… This following weekend he texted me telling me he was upset because he loved me and its so hard to let go. This really confused me cause I thought he didnt want to be with me anymore? I’ve had my hopes up that we are going to get back together because that is what I want wether I deny it or not.. Now he said he is good and feels better, but i’m not I hate the change. Were friends and we talk often and it hurts alot. I know that I will get over him but I don’t know how long its going to take.
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]]> By: Me http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/comment-page-10/#comment-5523 Me Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:36:06 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/#comment-5523 I broke up from my bf 3 days ago, after 4 months of absolute torture. I must admit I loved him, so bad. In summer, after almost 2 years of living together, he cheated on me abroad. Of course he got cute Chlamydia, otherwise he probably never had told me. He said he loved me, and proposed soon after. I accepted, I still don`t know why. And here I am,crying my heart out, in pain and agony, I have never felt before. I guess he was the love of my life, but things could not simply go on the way they used to. Will I ever get over him, I don`t know. I turn 24 in spring, and I have wasted almost 3 years on him. And I can not move out until end of november, and he is sleeping in the other room, and I, in bed, where we once were so close.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5523','Me'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5523','Me','I broke up from my bf 3 days ago, after 4 months of absolute torture.\r\nI must admit I loved him, so bad. In summer, after almost 2 years of living together, he cheated on me abroad. Of course he got cute Chlamydia, otherwise he probably never had told me. He said he loved me, and proposed soon after. I accepted, I still don`t know why.\r\nAnd here I am,crying my heart out, in pain and agony, I have never felt before. I guess he was the love of my life, but things could not simply go on the way they used to.\r\nWill I ever get over him, I don`t know. I turn 24 in spring, and I have wasted almost 3 years on him. And I can not move out until end of november, and he is sleeping in the other room, and I, in bed, where we once were so close.'); return false;">quote</a></div> I broke up from my bf 3 days ago, after 4 months of absolute torture.
I must admit I loved him, so bad. In summer, after almost 2 years of living together, he cheated on me abroad. Of course he got cute Chlamydia, otherwise he probably never had told me. He said he loved me, and proposed soon after. I accepted, I still don`t know why.
And here I am,crying my heart out, in pain and agony, I have never felt before. I guess he was the love of my life, but things could not simply go on the way they used to.
Will I ever get over him, I don`t know. I turn 24 in spring, and I have wasted almost 3 years on him. And I can not move out until end of november, and he is sleeping in the other room, and I, in bed, where we once were so close.
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]]> By: Airfairy http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/comment-page-10/#comment-5453 Airfairy Mon, 19 Oct 2009 13:48:19 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/the-secret-how-to-get-over-a-break-up/#comment-5453 Joe.. I'm exactly in your shoes.. My boyfriend who called me the perfect one for himself, one day out of the blue started to act weired and after a while I come to know he was seeing the HR of my company( yes he was my colleague too). We both were together always and he wanted me to join that work place so that we both would be together. But he ended up with that woman. She on the other hand was someone I was approaching to solve my issues with my guy coz I knew he was being good frds with her(apparently) and I didn't even know that it was the same person my guy was fooling around with! I am so humiliated and feel like crap between those two, now that I came to know what exactly was happening. I don't even know how to get outta this coz that guy broke up with me putting all the blame on me for a few things said and done to hop outta his guilt feeling I believe.. And still claimed he loves me and that no one can take my place!! whats that supposed to mean?! If you love why would you leave.. But whatever it is.. I've never suffered so much in my entire life and still going through it and the thought that they both are all together and happy, laughing behind my back is a master killer.. I suddenly wake up from sleep almost everyday with such kinda thoughts still haunting me, even in my sleep.. Only God(if He exists) and I know what I'm going through. God forbid this happening to any sensitive people out there. I don't know how to get outta this thing. I've tried to quit the job but my boss only allowed me to take a break and come back in a month or two. By that time I dunno what is gonna happen or how I might become.. The thought of getting back to work itself is scary.. Coz I'm just stagnant and unable to move on from him yet.. How can people be so rude, mean, emotionless and value less... Most importantly how can they forget "love" and "Promises made"<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('5453','Airfairy'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('5453','Airfairy','Joe..\r\n\r\nI\'m exactly in your shoes.. My boyfriend who called me the perfect one for himself, one day out of the blue started to act weired and after a while I come to know he was seeing the HR of my company( yes he was my colleague too). We both were together always and he wanted me to join that work place so that we both would be together. But he ended up with that woman. She on the other hand was someone I was approaching to solve my issues with my guy coz I knew he was being good frds with her(apparently) and I didn\'t even know that it was the same person my guy was fooling around with! I am so humiliated and feel like crap between those two, now that I came to know what exactly was happening.\r\nI don\'t even know how to get outta this coz that guy broke up with me putting all the blame on me for a few things said and done to hop outta his guilt feeling I believe.. And still claimed he loves me and that no one can take my place!! whats that supposed to mean?! If you love why would you leave.. But whatever it is.. I\'ve never suffered so much in my entire life and still going through it and the thought that they both are all together and happy, laughing behind my back is a master killer.. I suddenly wake up from sleep almost everyday with such kinda thoughts still haunting me, even in my sleep.. Only God(if He exists) and I know what I\'m going through. God forbid this happening to any sensitive people out there.\r\n\r\nI don\'t know how to get outta this thing. I\'ve tried to quit the job but my boss only allowed me to take a break and come back in a month or two. By that time I dunno what is gonna happen or how I might become.. The thought of getting back to work itself is scary.. \r\nCoz I\'m just stagnant and unable to move on from him yet.. \r\n\r\nHow can people be so rude, mean, emotionless and value less... Most importantly how can they forget \"love\" and \"Promises made\"'); return false;">quote</a></div> Joe..

I’m exactly in your shoes.. My boyfriend who called me the perfect one for himself, one day out of the blue started to act weired and after a while I come to know he was seeing the HR of my company( yes he was my colleague too). We both were together always and he wanted me to join that work place so that we both would be together. But he ended up with that woman. She on the other hand was someone I was approaching to solve my issues with my guy coz I knew he was being good frds with her(apparently) and I didn’t even know that it was the same person my guy was fooling around with! I am so humiliated and feel like crap between those two, now that I came to know what exactly was happening.
I don’t even know how to get outta this coz that guy broke up with me putting all the blame on me for a few things said and done to hop outta his guilt feeling I believe.. And still claimed he loves me and that no one can take my place!! whats that supposed to mean?! If you love why would you leave.. But whatever it is.. I’ve never suffered so much in my entire life and still going through it and the thought that they both are all together and happy, laughing behind my back is a master killer.. I suddenly wake up from sleep almost everyday with such kinda thoughts still haunting me, even in my sleep.. Only God(if He exists) and I know what I’m going through. God forbid this happening to any sensitive people out there.

I don’t know how to get outta this thing. I’ve tried to quit the job but my boss only allowed me to take a break and come back in a month or two. By that time I dunno what is gonna happen or how I might become.. The thought of getting back to work itself is scary..
Coz I’m just stagnant and unable to move on from him yet..

How can people be so rude, mean, emotionless and value less… Most importantly how can they forget “love” and “Promises made”

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