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The Secret Of The Butterfly

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The Secret Of The Butterfly

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Years back, at the time when I was really down, (I had been left just before marriage, was devastated, and had lost my direction and joy in life), I received a mysterious letter.

It came in a beige envelope with nothing on it but my handwritten name.

At first I thought it was some kind of new advertising and I nearly threw it away – I wasn’t in the mood for reading letters anyway. But would they handwrite only my first name on it, and then manually throw it in my mailbox?

Very mysterious.

I will never forget the moment when I opened the envelope and pulled out the letter.

It was some kind of vintage-made paper, like an antique papyrus.

When I finally read it, I was so touched that tears ran out of my eyes.

I would like to share with you what was in that letter. Maybe you are in the same situation I was back then, and maybe it will give you some hope and relief as it gave me:

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day, he saw a small opening in the cocoon. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and could go no further… so, the man decided to help the butterfly.

He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But, it had a swollen body, and small shriveled wings. He continued to watch the butterfly, because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It was never able to fly.

What he did not understand in his well intentioned kindness and haste, was that the restricting cocoon, and the struggle required to get through the tiny opening were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes, struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If nature allowed us to go through our life without any obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as we could have been, and we could never fly.

Later, I found out that it was my cousin who sent me this letter. She tried to cheer me up a little, which she certainly accomplished.

The author of this little story is anonymous, yet it can be found all around the internet.

It’s a great short story, which should remind us that everything in life has its reason and purpose.

Sometimes it is necessary to go through difficult times in order to learn and grow. Often, it is not easy to realize this when you are in pain, but years later you will know that that certain event opened a door to a new path.

A new path of better understanding of yourself and others. Then you will know and be thankful for the struggle you had to go through, for you emerged from a caterpillar into a beautiful, lovable butterfly.

Your friend,
Eddie Corbano

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13 Responses to The Secret Of The Butterfly

  1. Diva July 23, 2007 at 3:50 pm #

    Your cousin is quite creative. I know someone who could use that same kind of pick me up…I think I’ll “steal” the idea.

  2. Eddie Corbano July 24, 2007 at 7:53 am #

    Hey Diva,

    thx for commenting, I’m sure my cousin wouldn’t mind if you use her “idea” :) . I wished that anyone who needs it would get such an email. It really helped me a lot back then.

  3. Irene August 11, 2007 at 1:30 pm #

    Hi Eddie,
    This is a great article, thanks for sharing. I am very much enjoying your blog! Thank you for the wonderful life tips :-)

  4. Eddie Corbano August 13, 2007 at 12:51 pm #

    Hi Irene,

    thank you very much for the kind words, you’ve just made my day :) .

  5. sobriety girl January 11, 2008 at 2:11 am #

    thank you, i needed to read this.

  6. Anisa February 16, 2008 at 11:01 am #

    The story is really amazing…thanks…

  7. sheela April 3, 2008 at 3:27 pm #

    you are a great help to me..your article are the once that lift me up right now..this moment im on a verge of a break up.my boyfriend made another girkl pregnant,and i find it hard to let him go because i love him so much…
    not until i found and read your article that i have decided that its time to give up…thank you so much.

  8. Claire April 15, 2008 at 3:59 pm #

    I am having a really tough break up, it has seriously damaged my self confidence and ability to trust, but by reading your articles I know that I will make it through, and the journey there will make me a stronger person. Thank you for the great words, they really help in bad times. Many thanks

  9. Aleta September 17, 2008 at 3:16 pm #

    Your articles are very inspiring. I recently went through a break up with a guy I’ve been off and on with 3 times. The last words I just read, about “facing your ex”, I just did that and now realize how wrong this guy is for me. It cemented in my mind just what my family and friends have said about him all along, that he doesn’t deserve me, and that I deserve much better. I will keep reading your words of wisdom to help get me through this break up and any other bumps in the road that come my way.

  10. Sandy November 12, 2008 at 2:19 am #

    Thanks. I really needed some encouragement.

  11. Vinka Maras June 6, 2011 at 7:44 am #

    Nothing to say, but a big thanks! :)

  12. Penney777 November 16, 2011 at 4:48 am #

    I have always loved this story :-)

  13. Amitaf August 22, 2013 at 3:07 pm #

    Very inspiring.. Thank you very much Eddie. :)

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