What Pain Has Taught Me The Hard Way
by Eddie Corbano
I would like to share with you what I’ve learned the last two weeks when I was tied to a hospital bed in agonizing pain.
I suffered for over 48 hours, from pain that was so overwhelming that all other reality was blurred out – until an emergency operation finally saved me from madness.
Pain so intense like that is absolute. It’s all there is. Another reality, another existence. You are all physical. Nothing left of your spiritual part, so it seems.
In fact, I tried all of the meditation techniques I knew, (and I am quite experienced with this), to get rid of the pain, but nothing worked.
So finally I gave up and surrendered to it.
Know what I’m talking about?
All there is, is pain
You know in moments like that, all you want is this pain to stop – you would do anything, take any medication. And behind all that, like a lurking giant, is this fear, the defeating fear that the pain will never end, that it will go on forever.
Unthinkable.
Would this be the case, I would have to kill myself, so I thought. Luckily, this was out of the question, (as it should always be), because the operation set things back to normal.
But what I experienced over those excruciating 48 hours, (besides that even the toughest narcotics had no impact on me), was something very interesting:
I observed that there are actually two different persons in me.
No, I’m not going nuts, and I’ve not developed a split personality.
The power within us
I actually observed that there was this one person that winded in pain like a worm, moaning over his terrible fate, and yet another one, a much stronger one. A personality, who doesn’t seem to be impacted by the whole thing: An almighty observer inside of me.
I know, I know, this really sounds crazy.
But it actually approves what I have read in many books: That there is a higher version of yourself inside of you.
It goes from the bible, to Freud, to “The Secret“.
A higher version of ourselves with the power of self-healing.
This was not the first time that I noticed the presence of this part of me, (and it WAS a part of ME). At times through a stroke of fate, when life really hit me hard – there it was, watching, observing, not judging, as it was sucking up life in all its facets.
I leave it to you how to call this part of you, if you WANT to give it a name, (and I know everyone of us has it inside of themselves, and its own definition if aware of it).
I am certain that this part of me could have healed me completely in a second, if only I had known how to make use of it.
I’m sure that there are people in the world who know how to do this. The internet is full of stories of spontaneous healings, and only heaven knows how much of them happen every day without anybody knowing about it.
All I know for now is that it’s there.
What I’ve learned
What I’ve learned in this two weeks is that no pain lasts forever, be it physical or emotional pain, and that we have the power in our own hands to heal ourselves, (of course, I knew all of this before, but an experience like this brings it more close to you).
To self-heal emotional pain that is torturing us, for example after a break up or a loss, seems much easier and there are many ways to approach this, (just take a look around this site).
To self-heal physical pain and diseases just by altering your state of mind seems to be A LOT more complex and is something humanity has yet to learn.
But, in what I absolutely believe in, is that we alone create our reality. And thereby will our inner emotional conflicts manifest themselves as illnesses. A logical conclusion here is that by solving these emotional conflicts, you can heal the illness.
All you would have to do is to get to the emotional core of this illness, resolve it and it will vanish.
There are really many books on this topic, which give a greater insight.
The book that comes to my mind first is, You Can Heal Your Life
So, if you happen to be in emotional or physical pain, look out for that “almighty observer” in you – he might help you.
Some day we all WILL realize that to heal ourselves we do not have to go to a doctor, the power is already within us.
Of course, this is easier said than done, especially when the doctors cured you recently from killing pain.
If you have had similar thoughts or experiences or book recommendations on this matter, please feel free to share them in the comments section. Thanks.
Your friend,
Eddie Corbano
(Photograph is a courtesy of Ali K.)
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Eddie Corbano is a breakup-coach, relationship-advisor and founder of LovesAGame. He suffered from a devastating break up in 1998. Since then, he dedicated his life to helping others getting the best of this existential experience. The overcoming of a break up is an important step to autonomy and independency. Eddie Corbano developed some new coaching programs, which focus on evolving inner strength and the power to set and reach any personal goal. (Article written on April 1st, 2008)
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The Brain That Changes Itself by Norman Doidge, MD is also very good and discusses the same topics. It’s amazing what people are learnig today about the brain. Positive thinking can be very powerful.
Man i love the stuff that you are blogging about.
Coz i soo get it!!
Ok so here is the thing. I heard a saying once and i love it and live by it.
“In time all things shall pass”.
I think the reason why i love it so much is because it affirms to me that nothing last forever. Its almost reassuring.
So when times are tough and you are in pain ( emotional physical mental) its very comforting to know that you will get through it.
That there is light at the end of the tunnel.
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I truly believe that all disease is created by our emotions, and beliefs, however, many of our “triggers” were formed when we were children, and all are controlled by our subconscious mind. That is why I believe so strongly in self-hypnosis, meditation and NLP; I believe they are the only way to understand and see what is hidden in the subconscious, and/or change it.
Great article.
I really enjoyed another one of your great articles. I went through a pretty tough break up last October. I discovered the book “The Secret” it helped me immensely, but I have unfortunately fallen back into a really bad funk. I am trying to find my way back to my true self. Trying to find my positivity again. I’m looking for some good meditation techniques if anyone has any suggestions. Thank you
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of ten years. we were always back and forth. He just keeps doing the same thing over and over. I just let him go. I am happy now, its only been two days now. I just a little scared I will start feeling sad and depressed as times goes on. What can I do if I was to feel so unsure of myself again.
@ Cindy
If you think that the break up was the right decision, then it was.
Just keep in mind that you probably WILL get depressed and lonely sometimes, but it’s part of the process and it will pass.
Always keep in mind that you’ve made the right step toward the relationship YOU want.
Eddie
unfortunately for me pain is the only emotion i feel,i wish i had anger or bitterness but for my butterfly all i feel is love.your words are inspirational and true, yet after having my heart crushed enough times,words are not yet the answer.i find self hate and suffering to be my only friend. crying my weakness and time my enemy.i dislike my ways with regards to love as im always the “loser” but not really because if you love with your whole self then no one can say it was a mistake,it just wasnt meant to be.
I too fear being considerd the local froot-loop, but hey, I now happen to be in a state of nessicary & self inflicted “evolution” into.. well I’m not THERE yet but lets say I’m trying to re-boot, & i gotta lay it all on the line so here i go. Im not saying Im special I’m simply making the logical assertation after careful observiance of all persons in totallity I have come into contact with throughout my lifespan..
I have always had the sense that myself & all others are equiped with all one would need to thrive (untill thier wisdom had mounted & physical selfvs were depleated, completing THIS particular “round” of life) and yet we were not to the point in civilization where we could commonly access these abilities, simply put were much too primitive yet to use our brain to its full capasity, our growth mostly being stunted be our less evolved drive for immediate entertainment & lacking the inititive required in self educating. I cearly remember contemplating this 11 years ago, in a strangers front yard picking stickers out of my favorite (& only)summer dress. I was 5.
I honestly, truely had no clue that this was a little off the norm until recently, i was under the mis conception that philosophy, logic, psychology & spirituality were the cornerstines of everyones rational thoughts.
A little sheltered, went from home schooled to housewife in a breath, and quite possibly loosing my mind. ~ Thank You for your time
But hey, we’ll get there some day! You can start now by turning off the t.v. and reading a book!
I’ve been with my current ex for a little over a year. Things started to get different recently and we broke up today. We both love each other with every ounce of fluid in our bodies and I’m hurting more than I thought anyone could ever understand. I have to beat the fact in my mind that maybe him & I aren’t good for each other even though I could have sworn to the gods we were made for each other. It hurts in more ways explainable but I must say that after reading various pieces of advice from your site I feel like I just might have a meaning without him after all. Even though he left me I composed a note to let him know how serious I am about working on life now by myself because I already know how big the possibility is that we might get back together. You can put this up by ‘anonymous’ if you please. I just feel so strongly that because love is universal & the reason why were here.. Someone will be inspired by this..
“I’ve literally cried until I was numb over the thought of loving you without you by my side. I could have sworn I found the meaning of love with you. You made me feel like life is worth it. & For you to hurt me burns deeper than you can ever imagine. I can’t even imagine that I’d let you hurt me again so I have to let you go for good so it doesn’t get worse in the future. We got so comfortable with each other that we forgot to love the right way. How can we ever spend years together ( like we planned ) if we can’t be comfortable together? I will always remember you & never forget you but up until we see what the future holds for us we need to be apart.
Love your Baby always,
Anonymous.