Comments on: What Pain Has Taught Me The Hard Way http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/ Learn how to survive after breaking up and read some great relationship advice for having new and healthy relationships. Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:43:05 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: crystal http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/comment-page-1/#comment-4719 crystal Thu, 11 Jun 2009 04:10:53 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/#comment-4719 I've been with my current ex for a little over a year. Things started to get different recently and we broke up today. We both love each other with every ounce of fluid in our bodies and I'm hurting more than I thought anyone could ever understand. I have to beat the fact in my mind that maybe him & I aren't good for each other even though I could have sworn to the gods we were made for each other. It hurts in more ways explainable but I must say that after reading various pieces of advice from your site I feel like I just might have a meaning without him after all. Even though he left me I composed a note to let him know how serious I am about working on life now by myself because I already know how big the possibility is that we might get back together. You can put this up by 'anonymous' if you please. I just feel so strongly that because love is universal & the reason why were here.. Someone will be inspired by this.. "I've literally cried until I was numb over the thought of loving you without you by my side. I could have sworn I found the meaning of love with you. You made me feel like life is worth it. & For you to hurt me burns deeper than you can ever imagine. I can't even imagine that I'd let you hurt me again so I have to let you go for good so it doesn't get worse in the future. We got so comfortable with each other that we forgot to love the right way. How can we ever spend years together ( like we planned ) if we can't be comfortable together? I will always remember you & never forget you but up until we see what the future holds for us we need to be apart. Love your Baby always, Anonymous.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4719','crystal'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4719','crystal','I\'ve been with my current ex for a little over a year. Things started to get different recently and we broke up today. We both love each other with every ounce of fluid in our bodies and I\'m hurting more than I thought anyone could ever understand. I have to beat the fact in my mind that maybe him & I aren\'t good for each other even though I could have sworn to the gods we were made for each other. It hurts in more ways explainable but I must say that after reading various pieces of advice from your site I feel like I just might have a meaning without him after all. Even though he left me I composed a note to let him know how serious I am about working on life now by myself because I already know how big the possibility is that we might get back together. You can put this up by \'anonymous\' if you please. I just feel so strongly that because love is universal & the reason why were here.. Someone will be inspired by this..\r\n\r\n\r\n\"I\'ve literally cried until I was numb over the thought of loving you without you by my side. I could have sworn I found the meaning of love with you. You made me feel like life is worth it. & For you to hurt me burns deeper than you can ever imagine. I can\'t even imagine that I\'d let you hurt me again so I have to let you go for good so it doesn\'t get worse in the future. We got so comfortable with each other that we forgot to love the right way. How can we ever spend years together ( like we planned ) if we can\'t be comfortable together? I will always remember you & never forget you but up until we see what the future holds for us we need to be apart.\r\n\r\nLove your Baby always,\r\nAnonymous.'); return false;">quote</a></div> I’ve been with my current ex for a little over a year. Things started to get different recently and we broke up today. We both love each other with every ounce of fluid in our bodies and I’m hurting more than I thought anyone could ever understand. I have to beat the fact in my mind that maybe him & I aren’t good for each other even though I could have sworn to the gods we were made for each other. It hurts in more ways explainable but I must say that after reading various pieces of advice from your site I feel like I just might have a meaning without him after all. Even though he left me I composed a note to let him know how serious I am about working on life now by myself because I already know how big the possibility is that we might get back together. You can put this up by ‘anonymous’ if you please. I just feel so strongly that because love is universal & the reason why were here.. Someone will be inspired by this..

“I’ve literally cried until I was numb over the thought of loving you without you by my side. I could have sworn I found the meaning of love with you. You made me feel like life is worth it. & For you to hurt me burns deeper than you can ever imagine. I can’t even imagine that I’d let you hurt me again so I have to let you go for good so it doesn’t get worse in the future. We got so comfortable with each other that we forgot to love the right way. How can we ever spend years together ( like we planned ) if we can’t be comfortable together? I will always remember you & never forget you but up until we see what the future holds for us we need to be apart.

Love your Baby always,
Anonymous.

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]]> By: Morgan Faye http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/comment-page-1/#comment-4348 Morgan Faye Tue, 24 Mar 2009 02:27:59 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/#comment-4348 I too fear being considerd the local froot-loop, but hey, I now happen to be in a state of nessicary & self inflicted "evolution" into.. well I'm not THERE yet but lets say I'm trying to re-boot, & i gotta lay it all on the line so here i go. Im not saying Im special I'm simply making the logical assertation after careful observiance of all persons in totallity I have come into contact with throughout my lifespan.. I have always had the sense that myself & all others are equiped with all one would need to thrive (untill thier wisdom had mounted & physical selfvs were depleated, completing THIS particular "round" of life) and yet we were not to the point in civilization where we could commonly access these abilities, simply put were much too primitive yet to use our brain to its full capasity, our growth mostly being stunted be our less evolved drive for immediate entertainment & lacking the inititive required in self educating. I cearly remember contemplating this 11 years ago, in a strangers front yard picking stickers out of my favorite (& only)summer dress. I was 5. I honestly, truely had no clue that this was a little off the norm until recently, i was under the mis conception that philosophy, logic, psychology & spirituality were the cornerstines of everyones rational thoughts. A little sheltered, went from home schooled to housewife in a breath, and quite possibly loosing my mind. ~ Thank You for your time But hey, we'll get there some day! You can start now by turning off the t.v. and reading a book!<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('4348','Morgan Faye'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('4348','Morgan Faye','I too fear being considerd the local froot-loop, but hey, I now happen to be in a state of nessicary & self inflicted \"evolution\" into.. well I\'m not THERE yet but lets say I\'m trying to re-boot, & i gotta lay it all on the line so here i go. Im not saying Im special I\'m simply making the logical assertation after careful observiance of all persons in totallity I have come into contact with throughout my lifespan..\r\n I have always had the sense that myself & all others are equiped with all one would need to thrive (untill thier wisdom had mounted & physical selfvs were depleated, completing THIS particular \"round\" of life) and yet we were not to the point in civilization where we could commonly access these abilities, simply put were much too primitive yet to use our brain to its full capasity, our growth mostly being stunted be our less evolved drive for immediate entertainment & lacking the inititive required in self educating. I cearly remember contemplating this 11 years ago, in a strangers front yard picking stickers out of my favorite (& only)summer dress. I was 5. \r\n I honestly, truely had no clue that this was a little off the norm until recently, i was under the mis conception that philosophy, logic, psychology & spirituality were the cornerstines of everyones rational thoughts.\r\n A little sheltered, went from home schooled to housewife in a breath, and quite possibly loosing my mind. ~ Thank You for your time \r\n But hey, we\'ll get there some day! You can start now by turning off the t.v. and reading a book!'); return false;">quote</a></div> I too fear being considerd the local froot-loop, but hey, I now happen to be in a state of nessicary & self inflicted “evolution” into.. well I’m not THERE yet but lets say I’m trying to re-boot, & i gotta lay it all on the line so here i go. Im not saying Im special I’m simply making the logical assertation after careful observiance of all persons in totallity I have come into contact with throughout my lifespan..
I have always had the sense that myself & all others are equiped with all one would need to thrive (untill thier wisdom had mounted & physical selfvs were depleated, completing THIS particular “round” of life) and yet we were not to the point in civilization where we could commonly access these abilities, simply put were much too primitive yet to use our brain to its full capasity, our growth mostly being stunted be our less evolved drive for immediate entertainment & lacking the inititive required in self educating. I cearly remember contemplating this 11 years ago, in a strangers front yard picking stickers out of my favorite (& only)summer dress. I was 5.
I honestly, truely had no clue that this was a little off the norm until recently, i was under the mis conception that philosophy, logic, psychology & spirituality were the cornerstines of everyones rational thoughts.
A little sheltered, went from home schooled to housewife in a breath, and quite possibly loosing my mind. ~ Thank You for your time
But hey, we’ll get there some day! You can start now by turning off the t.v. and reading a book!
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]]> By: MARTIN http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/comment-page-1/#comment-2536 MARTIN Wed, 16 Jul 2008 08:10:14 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/#comment-2536 unfortunately for me pain is the only emotion i feel,i wish i had anger or bitterness but for my butterfly all i feel is love.your words are inspirational and true, yet after having my heart crushed enough times,words are not yet the answer.i find self hate and suffering to be my only friend. crying my weakness and time my enemy.i dislike my ways with regards to love as im always the “loser” but not really because if you love with your whole self then no one can say it was a mistake,it just wasnt meant to be.
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]]> By: Eddie Corbano http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/comment-page-1/#comment-2355 Eddie Corbano Sun, 29 Jun 2008 15:21:41 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/#comment-2355 @ Cindy If you think that the break up was the right decision, then it was. Just keep in mind that you probably WILL get depressed and lonely sometimes, but it's part of the process and it will pass. Always keep in mind that you've made the right step toward the relationship YOU want. Eddie<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('2355','Eddie Corbano'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('2355','Eddie Corbano','@ Cindy\r\n\r\nIf you think that the break up was the right decision, then it was.\r\n\r\nJust keep in mind that you probably WILL get depressed and lonely sometimes, but it\'s part of the process and it will pass.\r\n\r\nAlways keep in mind that you\'ve made the right step toward the relationship YOU want.\r\n\r\nEddie'); return false;">quote</a></div> @ Cindy

If you think that the break up was the right decision, then it was.

Just keep in mind that you probably WILL get depressed and lonely sometimes, but it’s part of the process and it will pass.

Always keep in mind that you’ve made the right step toward the relationship YOU want.

Eddie

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]]> By: cindy http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/comment-page-1/#comment-2333 cindy Thu, 26 Jun 2008 21:08:03 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/#comment-2333 I recently broke up with my boyfriend of ten years. we were always back and forth. He just keeps doing the same thing over and over. I just let him go. I am happy now, its only been two days now. I just a little scared I will start feeling sad and depressed as times goes on. What can I do if I was to feel so unsure of myself again.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('2333','cindy'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('2333','cindy','I recently broke up with my boyfriend of ten years. we were always back and forth. He just keeps doing the same thing over and over. I just let him go. I am happy now, its only been two days now. I just a little scared I will start feeling sad and depressed as times goes on. What can I do if I was to feel so unsure of myself again.'); return false;">quote</a></div> I recently broke up with my boyfriend of ten years. we were always back and forth. He just keeps doing the same thing over and over. I just let him go. I am happy now, its only been two days now. I just a little scared I will start feeling sad and depressed as times goes on. What can I do if I was to feel so unsure of myself again.
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]]> By: Sean http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/comment-page-1/#comment-1965 Sean Mon, 05 May 2008 22:15:32 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/#comment-1965 I really enjoyed another one of your great articles. I went through a pretty tough break up last October. I discovered the book "The Secret" it helped me immensely, but I have unfortunately fallen back into a really bad funk. I am trying to find my way back to my true self. Trying to find my positivity again. I'm looking for some good meditation techniques if anyone has any suggestions. Thank you<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('1965','Sean'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('1965','Sean','I really enjoyed another one of your great articles. I went through a pretty tough break up last October. I discovered the book \"The Secret\" it helped me immensely, but I have unfortunately fallen back into a really bad funk. I am trying to find my way back to my true self. Trying to find my positivity again. I\'m looking for some good meditation techniques if anyone has any suggestions. Thank you'); return false;">quote</a></div> I really enjoyed another one of your great articles. I went through a pretty tough break up last October. I discovered the book “The Secret” it helped me immensely, but I have unfortunately fallen back into a really bad funk. I am trying to find my way back to my true self. Trying to find my positivity again. I’m looking for some good meditation techniques if anyone has any suggestions. Thank you
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]]> By: searchingwithin http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/comment-page-1/#comment-1897 searchingwithin Sat, 26 Apr 2008 21:37:45 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/#comment-1897 I truly believe that all disease is created by our emotions, and beliefs, however, many of our "triggers" were formed when we were children, and all are controlled by our subconscious mind. That is why I believe so strongly in self-hypnosis, meditation and NLP; I believe they are the only way to understand and see what is hidden in the subconscious, and/or change it. Great article.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('1897','searchingwithin'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('1897','searchingwithin','I truly believe that all disease is created by our emotions, and beliefs, however, many of our \"triggers\" were formed when we were children, and all are controlled by our subconscious mind. That is why I believe so strongly in self-hypnosis, meditation and NLP; I believe they are the only way to understand and see what is hidden in the subconscious, and\/or change it.\r\n\r\nGreat article.'); return false;">quote</a></div> I truly believe that all disease is created by our emotions, and beliefs, however, many of our “triggers” were formed when we were children, and all are controlled by our subconscious mind. That is why I believe so strongly in self-hypnosis, meditation and NLP; I believe they are the only way to understand and see what is hidden in the subconscious, and/or change it.

Great article.

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]]> By: Hot Alpha Female http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/comment-page-1/#comment-1824 Hot Alpha Female Wed, 23 Apr 2008 05:39:09 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/#comment-1824 Man i love the stuff that you are blogging about. Coz i soo get it!! Ok so here is the thing. I heard a saying once and i love it and live by it. "In time all things shall pass". I think the reason why i love it so much is because it affirms to me that nothing last forever. Its almost reassuring. So when times are tough and you are in pain ( emotional physical mental) its very comforting to know that you will get through it. That there is light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks Hot Alpha Female Latest Post - Talk is cheap and so are YOU! www.hotalphafemale.blogspot.com<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('1824','Hot Alpha Female'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('1824','Hot Alpha Female','Man i love the stuff that you are blogging about. \r\n\r\nCoz i soo get it!!\r\n\r\nOk so here is the thing. I heard a saying once and i love it and live by it.\r\n\r\n\"In time all things shall pass\".\r\n\r\nI think the reason why i love it so much is because it affirms to me that nothing last forever. Its almost reassuring.\r\n\r\nSo when times are tough and you are in pain ( emotional physical mental) its very comforting to know that you will get through it.\r\n\r\nThat there is light at the end of the tunnel.\r\n\r\nThanks\r\n\r\nHot Alpha Female\r\n\r\nLatest Post - Talk is cheap and so are YOU!\r\n\r\nwww.hotalphafemale.blogspot.com'); return false;">quote</a></div> Man i love the stuff that you are blogging about.

Coz i soo get it!!

Ok so here is the thing. I heard a saying once and i love it and live by it.

“In time all things shall pass”.

I think the reason why i love it so much is because it affirms to me that nothing last forever. Its almost reassuring.

So when times are tough and you are in pain ( emotional physical mental) its very comforting to know that you will get through it.

That there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Thanks

Hot Alpha Female

Latest Post – Talk is cheap and so are YOU!

http://www.hotalphafemale.blogspot.com

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]]> By: karen http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/comment-page-1/#comment-1671 karen Sat, 05 Apr 2008 21:46:58 +0000 http://lovesagame.com/what-pain-has-taught-me-the-hard-way/#comment-1671 The Brain That Changes Itself by Norman Doidge, MD is also very good and discusses the same topics. It's amazing what people are learnig today about the brain. Positive thinking can be very powerful.<div class="comment-remix-meta"><a href="#" class="replyto" onclick="replyto('1671','karen'); return false;">reply</a> | <a href="#" class="quote" onclick="quote('1671','karen','The Brain That Changes Itself by Norman Doidge, MD is also very good and discusses the same topics. It\'s amazing what people are learnig today about the brain. Positive thinking can be very powerful.'); return false;">quote</a></div> The Brain That Changes Itself by Norman Doidge, MD is also very good and discusses the same topics. It’s amazing what people are learnig today about the brain. Positive thinking can be very powerful.
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