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You Want To Lose Weight? Don’t Try The Break-Up Diet

When I first read this email from our dear reader Mike, I didn’t know if I should laugh or cry. The email was funny and very original but I immediately sensed the excruciating pain that was behind it. Someone who knew what he was talking about obviously wrote it.

I replied back if he would like to share his story and he did. I will post it below with his permission, I hope it will inspire you as it did me.

Here it is:

The Break-Up Diet Recipe

You want to lose weight? This diet guarantees to suppress your appetite.

  • 1ea. Heaping serving of broken heart crushed into many small pieces.
  • 1ea. Severe emotional pain sprinkled with “this is all my fault” never ending thoughts.
  • 1ea. Anxiety from hell – this will likely come with the above mentioned ingredients and will cause a sleep disorder

Blend well and mix with “I will never love again” with just a dash of “my ex has moved on and I can’t”.

You will consume this diet every second of the day until the seconds are minutes, hours, days, and finally months. Extreme cases require that the diet continue into years but it’s not recommended. After you have had enough of this diet you are encouraged to discontinue because it’s “NOT WORTH IT!”

This diet is not easy to stop but history has shown multitudes of people have stopped and led a happy life and you can too.

Mike’s Story

After more than five years my relationship was over.

That was 10 months ago and all the pain, hurt, and sadness cannot be put into words even though I’ve tried many times to explain to anyone who would listen what it was like to live this hell I was going through.

I was so hopeful that maybe someone, anyone, would have some magic words that would help me to at least be able to breathe. My life, my world was over and nothing would/could repair it. She was out of my life and had made it clear that she didn’t want anything else to do with me.

I then started what many people have experienced due to a breakup – unintentional self destruction.

I was so absorbed by the pain that nothing in my life mattered. Sleep was the only thing I looked forward to when it would come because that was the only time the hurt subsided. But as soon as I awaken it was back to the hell I was so dreading.

I wanted her back so badly I was willing to do anything but she had made it so very clear on that October day – it was over.

I began throwing out anything that would remotely remind me of her in hopes of just getting through the next minute and then maybe… just maybe the next hour. I felt I was alone on an island and no one knew what I was going through. It just seemed so hopeless.

My appetite suffered and the only thing I could eat was cereal and then only at night (Thus the breakup diet).

I of course began to lose weight and eventually decided that maybe something positive may come out of all of this suffering. So I just embraced the appetite loss and began to exercise more and started eating right.

I went from 207 down to 157 and have maintained that give or take a couple of pounds.

The one thing that I have done that has helped more than any book, article, conversations, counseling, and yes even prayer is No-Contact. I realize how hard that is to do and don’t beat yourself up if you have failed at it but that along with the passing of time is so much help.

A couple of weeks ago a co-worker ran into my ex whom I haven’t seen nor talked to in 10 months and her statement to him was “I miss him (me) every minute of every day”.

Now imagine what that did to me – I didn’t know how to process that information. Hearing that she misses me as much as I do her of course made me want to contact her.

But I did some inventory of the past 10 months of suffering and decided it wasn’t worth the chance of going even one step back that contact would cause. Yes I still love and miss her in every way and every day but I have come so far that I don’t want to look back.

I hope in some way these words will help someone that has a broken heart to know it WILL get better.



I remember to have experienced a similar weight-loss back then: from 150 to 134 pounds, which was really not so good considering my height (6 feet). It took me some time to regain my normal weight.

What about you? Have you lost or gained weight during your break-up? Please share below.

Your friend,
Eddie Corbano

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54 Responses to You Want To Lose Weight? Don’t Try The Break-Up Diet

  1. authenticity November 2, 2011 at 10:46 pm #

    I used to be in great shape–“cut up” 😉 –ate healthy food for the most part. Pre-break up, I stopped exercising on a regular basis, and my diet slowly went down the tubes…. Post-break up, I ate whatever I wanted,…used exercise to cope, but then I completely stopped exercising for toooo long…finally started exercising and eating right…need to drop 10 and tone everything.  The difference now is that I am doing it for me…not for external validation, and I am starting to really enjoy cooking.  It feels really good to be exercising and eating right…taking care of myself!  :))  It took me a looooonnng time to get here, and I still struggle with wanting comfort foods, and some days I don’t want to exercise, but step by step, I am making it…definitely a process…trial and error. 

    Thank you for sharing your stories Mike and Eddie. I, too, feel as if I have come too far, and I know in my heart that there is no way I could ever turn back now…carefully climbing down the mountain now and headed onto the Path–Much Love and Light, Brooke

    • rachel January 14, 2014 at 2:26 pm #

      I got into a relationship with a guy I grew up with, it was long distance and the pain is unbearable. We ‘dated’ for about 3months, I was so sure he was ‘the one’ for me and ithat I no doubt was ‘the one’ for him. But he gave the meaningless excuse as to why we had to end things and ended it 2days after December 25. Since then he has called me and messaged me endlessly, as if nothing has happened and I have been telling him how I feel, that I care and love him and he brushes aside my words. However when I drift away he calls me for hours. Its torture. Its been 24 hours without contact, my fearis that its not me that’s not contacting him, its him that’s not contacting me. I still do have feelings for him. My confusion is that if he had to say he’s given it thought and wants to make it work. And I say no and he was genuine I would be throwing away a chance at making it work. How do I sift his words to pick out the genuine interest? What are the signs or key words I can look out for to know if its meant to be? I don’t want to fall for anything he says that’s positive and reading your various news letters I noted that somehow I keep believing the trick lines and thinking guys are genuine. Please help me Eddie.

  2. Zirta November 3, 2011 at 6:16 am #

    Oh boy. Been there, done that. I lost like six pounds because I couldn’t eat with the anxiety and obsessive, guilty thinking… It was only until a dear friend made me realize that I had done everything on my side to keep the relationship, and he had chosen not to, that I finally freed myself of the guilt and I could eat again. Two years later, I am a bit rounder on the sides now, but I am happy. I hope to NEVER go through that hellish breakup diet again.

  3. berny November 3, 2011 at 6:55 am #

    Mike, i feel u man…..esp. the last part…i love her, miss her and want her, but we have moved on so far that there is no looking back….

    and right after 18 days of break up…i was 64kg from 72kg….lol….i previously tried diet and exercise and stuff…but break diet was worth it. it brought me in shape..its been 2 years since break up..i am still maintaining it on 64..

    when ever she comes into my mind..i just say…” Screw the B***ch”…i have moved on…

    take care guys…

  4. Ms Jess M November 3, 2011 at 7:17 pm #

    I was so heartbroken over my last break up that I went from 100lbs to 80! I’m very petite but the weight loss made me skin and bones. It took me a couple counseling sessions and loves a game articles to snap me back into taking better care of my self. To those with a heart break..stay strong! Take care of yourself, eat right, be active, and spend time with family and friends. Find new hobbies to keep u occupied. It will get better 😉

  5. Selna November 4, 2011 at 12:30 am #

    Yeah I have lost 20 pounds so far since August. Pants I couldn’t fit into before now hang off me…

    I know this is for the best, I do. I just still cannot stop thinking about him though. One one hand I desperately want him to call and profess that he is willing to move mountains and on the other I hope karma bites him in the ass so hard he’ll never be able to sit down again.

    • Penney777 November 9, 2011 at 12:11 am #

      LOL Selna, I feel the same way about my ex! Frankly it’s shifting to more of the karma wish!!!! ha

  6. Penney777 November 5, 2011 at 12:29 am #

    Yes, I have lost quite a bit of weight after my breakup in the end of Septemer. I lost about 20 lbs 😮 Heartbreak Hotel diet, never fails!

  7. Jennifer Sternberg November 6, 2011 at 10:09 pm #

    Ugh, I ALWAYS lose weight when I break up with a boyfriend. Some people over-eat and I have no appetite at all 🙁  It’s horrible.I write about dating/love troubles also.

    Jen, please put your website in the appropriate form field. Thanks, Eddie

  8. Eddie Corbano November 9, 2011 at 9:59 am #

    You’re welcome!

    The whole process is difficult and it takes willpower, but it’s so worth it, it will give you your freedom back.

    Hang in there!

  9. Eddie Corbano November 10, 2011 at 8:36 am #

    I hear you Randy, I know what you going through.

    Start No Contact as soon as you can and you will feel better. Hang in there!

    • Randy06820 November 19, 2011 at 8:41 pm #


      I was hanging in there.  2 weeks of No Contact from me.  Then on my birthday she sends me a text:  “Happy Birthday! :-)”.  And like Pavlov’s dog, I reply with a few sweet sentences to show I’m strong.  Now I feel like puking.  Why did she have to wish me Happy Birthday – – what was that all about?

  10. Eddie Corbano November 15, 2011 at 8:15 am #

    Maybe it got caught in the spam-filter… I’ll send it to you manually.

  11. BABA...BABABOOMANDCRASH November 28, 2011 at 4:13 am #

    Graham, Im sorry to hear, please understand we are all in the same boat, I have had yet another heartbreak last week, after a prevoius one 1 yr before and 3 yrs before a divorce after 10 yrs..Im not feeling to good about myself right now either, I havent broken the NC YET but oh god it get harder each day and I viciously want to send an incredibly angry letter….YOU WILL LOVE AGAIN your heart when its time…divorce leaves you in a state of FOG…it will clear I promise…work on you Graham..stay strong, love and peace!!

  12. BABA...BABABOOMANDCRASH November 28, 2011 at 4:17 am #

    WHy are you on this if YOU broke up with your boyfriend, enlighten me…I could use some insight from someone on the opposite side, what the dumper is going thru..tho I cant say I would feel as much for you at this point, maybe you could give all of us a well needed insight.  I have already lost 7.5 lbs in 7 days during PMS!!! Im too heartbroken cant eat feels like someone istearing my insides out with a knife., but the vomittting has stopped thankfully.

  13. BABA...BABABOOMANDCRASH November 28, 2011 at 3:20 pm #

    NC-not quite 7 days the end of today will be seven days…and 8lb loss (which in one way is good) but I cant eat have no desire for even chocolate. Yoday is a bit better Im trying to sit with the uncomfortable feelings they arent a harsh and sharp but definitively there and deep really deep.. But still can’t eat and I love to eat..or used to.

  14. BABA...BABABOOMANDCRASH November 30, 2011 at 3:44 pm #

    Nc-day 9 and 9lbs down…really I have this wierd pain in my stomach and it gets worse when I eat Im gonna go tothe dr make sure its not medical…as oppossed to heartbreak..funny I havent cried and am not quiet as angry but am still deeply sad but somehow ready relieved …odd i feel both bad and better than the extreme devastion the first few days..hope this stays and grows more positive daily!  ps I could use to loose at least 60 lbs anyway as per my cardiologist so…breakup diet might be sorta ok till i loose a few. lmao

  15. baba...bababoomcrashandburn December 2, 2011 at 2:57 pm #

    NC_day 11…down 11 pounds my stomach has had this pain that just doesnt go away and when I eat it gets much much worse.

  16. Madison King December 8, 2011 at 3:42 am #

    I always said it felt like there were rocks in my stomach. I lost 30 pounds in a month thanks to the gatorade and heartbreak diet. 15 months after the break-up, I’m happy, kept the weight off and life is good 🙂

  17. Ezeppell December 25, 2011 at 11:18 am #

    Merry Christmas Graham.  My name is Eli.  My partner had depression and left me last November for another woman.  We had been together for 20 years.  When he left me I weighed 47 kilos, two months later I weighed 33 kilos.  I am 5′, which is not very tall but my weight loss was very bad.  Today I survived my 2nd Xmas without him.  Cried most of the day but its now over.  Thank god for that lol.  One day the hurt will stop.  One day i will smile again.  One day i will be happy again.  One day I will find my eliness again.  You deserve to be happy.  Take care and stay safe….Eli

  18. Eddie Corbano January 19, 2012 at 8:28 am #

    Welcome… and thanks for the kind words.

  19. AnthonyFreedom12 March 9, 2012 at 2:46 pm #

    Hi Eddie, Its a nice article you have shared and the  Break-Up Diet Recipe is so funny which is also mind blowing. Thanks for sharing these with us.

  20. Pingride April 19, 2012 at 6:01 am #

    Isn’t it interesting how weight loss is such a common feature of breakups?
    The woman I loved and cherished broke up with me completely out of the blue. It was like an ambush. And the weight started falling off. I felt like i was still eating and exercising the same. Sure, I could barely breathe half the time and was on the verge of tears constantly and felt like my guts had been shoveled out of my abdomen and tossed into the back yard, but I was still eating about the same. And the weight came off, and off, and off.
    I couldn’t go 2 hours without someone commenting on how thin I was and asking me to not lose more weight. People thought I might have cancer. None of my clothes even remotely fit. I looked like a little boy wearing his daddy’s clothes. Eventually my weight leveled off..after about 25 pounds lost. But I never regained it. Maybe 25 pounds was the weight of the chunk of my soul and self-respect that my ex removed. 
    By the way, how did I survive? The breakup was devastating. It physically hurt like I had been in a horrible car wreck. My mind was sluggish and racing at the same time. A full night’s sleep was a distant memory. Many nights there was no sleep. But I adhered to the No Contact Rule extremely strictly…even though that was very hard at times. “If only he/she could see how much I love him/her and how much I’m hurting they would come back!!!” Sound familiar? Don’t do it. NO CONTACT. No Facebook, texts, IM’s, emails, phone calls, birthday wishes, nothing. The other thing I did was see a psychologist. I needed someone to talk to who wouldn’t change the subject or pat my hand and tell me I was a victim. I needed someone who could listen critically but sympathetically and just basically hear me out, then process what I said and challenge it if need be, and give me the opportunity to simply vent. The psychologist didn’t even really give me advice…she just listened, clarified, prodded, challenged, and encouraged.
    It wasn’t cheap but after 2 sessions I didn’t need to go anymore. I said what I needed to say and truly felt much better. Breakups suck. They are amazingly bad. It is a bereavement just like any other, and grief has the ability to inflict shocking amounts of pain. But…it does pass. Slowly, like a glacier, but it does pass. 

    • Sandra May 2, 2012 at 12:19 am #

      Yes…counseling is helping me greatly, too. I highly recommend it. Plus I went on Prozac…just a little for mood elevation. This is the second time I went on Prozac for this guy. I’m a slow learner ;>

      As for weight loss, some. But I am middle-aged, and the pounds stick like glue. Still I’m a little thinner and happy about that.

      Personally, I think that these break-ups are oftentimes worse than the bereavement of losing a spouse or significant other. It’s one thing if people leave you against their will. It’s quite another when they leave of their own accord or you must show them the door, only to find them traipsing around with other people while your eyes bleed. The exception would be suicide, when of course, the person has purposefully left you–and also saddled you with a lifetime of sadness and guilt.

      Thank you for sharing your great pain with all of us who are in the same sucky boat.

  21. Sandra April 25, 2012 at 10:19 pm #

    I am so sorry. It’s a tremendous amount of pain. Just awful. I am still reeling from the break-up of my 13-year relationship back in Jan. And yes, he’s already out on the make. Weak, shallow guy.

    You are strong and deep, however–strong and deep enough to feel your feelings. This acute phase will pass. You are doing the right things.

    Unfortunately, I haven’t lost much wait–6 pounds maybe?? Oh well. Bless your heart. Others are with you, if not in person, then in cyberspace!

  22. Pingride May 1, 2012 at 11:59 pm #

    Great post. You are so right that recovering from a painful breakup is not a linear process. A few good days can fool you into thinking that you are “over it”, and the next day you can be on your knees. A few weeks after my breakup I was feeling great and then someone at the gym said “That woman you were with at the (cafe) is really beautiful.”
    He may as well have kicked me in the balls and then punched me in the stomach. His comment deflated me like a week-old balloon. It was amazing and disconcerting how easily that one innocent comment tore me to shreds for 2 full days. However, the overall trend is always positive, always heading toward a complete healing, but those bumps in the road can hurt like hell. Your explanation is very thorough and clear. Thanks.

    • Sandra May 2, 2012 at 12:06 am #

      I know. The slightest thing can send you reeling. So very difficult. I yelled at friends and cried hysterically for the slightest infractions. Fortunately, they were understanding–more than my ex ever was!

    • Kunal Roy May 5, 2012 at 6:09 am #

      The recovery process is a VERY fragile process. Remember that the tremendous pain that we feel after a devastating breakup is not because of “true love”, but because our emotions are giving us legitimate, important signals that we need to listen to. They are trying to tell you that the has hurt you really badly and you need to recover ASAP. They want to be liberated from the pain and the only way to do it is to cut out the source (the ex), entirely. This means that if thoughts about the ex come to you, redirect those thoughts entirely. Fires will burn only for so long after fuel is cut off.entirelymeansthatthatafwaqdefasfascabout thr ex come to you,

    • Kunal Roy May 5, 2012 at 6:09 am #

      The recovery process is a VERY fragile process. Remember that the tremendous pain that we feel after a devastating breakup is not because of “true love”, but because our emotions are giving us legitimate, important signals that we need to listen to. They are trying to tell you that the has hurt you really badly and you need to recover ASAP. They want to be liberated from the pain and the only way to do it is to cut out the source (the ex), entirely. This means that if thoughts about the ex come to you, redirect those thoughts entirely. Fires will burn only for so long after fuel is cut off.entirelymeansthatthatafwaqdefasfascabout thr ex come to you,

  23. Greg R May 16, 2012 at 6:06 am #

    Oh yes I have. The only bonus at this point is I have some nice clothes that fit me again. I am in the same situation after reading Mike’s story. I can’t eat because I still can’t believe she dumped me after 7 years (via tesxt message and she is 43 years old) I gave up a lot for her but it obviously was not enough.

  24. tv2012 June 5, 2012 at 5:12 pm #

    Ive lost weight, dont know exactly how much though. My super tight jeans are now loose and i have my mother trying to feed me protein shakes as much as possible. I still eat I just get filled quicker i guess sometimes you can eat but the stress you feel wont let you gain weight. Im not that anxious anymore, i was more anxious when i was with him. I just wish the void and the sadness would go away…

  25. cherise August 7, 2012 at 1:23 am #

    how do i go about the no contact rule when i work with my ex (we broke up last month)??

  26. Charly August 8, 2012 at 8:31 pm #

    I really enjoyed your post and it was hugely insightful. I wanted to know if anyone is still struggling even months and months on? For me it’s been over 5 months and I still miss him all the time, my life is just so different now, it doesn’t feel ‘right’. I feel like I will never adjust and be happy again, all the while he has moved on with a new girlfriend. Will it really ever get better??

  27. Shirl August 13, 2012 at 11:12 pm #

    I went through an unexpected divorce after 2 yrs about 6 months ago and have lost 20pounds. With no appetite I resorted to fIrving myself to eat only healthy foods. I figured if I’m Irving myself it might as well be healthy. It makes me feel amazing to be asked how’d u loose it. I respond with a casual “divorce, I don’t reccomebt u try it but it does work.” it’s an awesome feeling to know something good can come from all the pain. Next step finding someone who won’t put me through that misery again.

  28. Terry@ Online Dating Emails October 19, 2012 at 4:23 pm #

    i would try Atkins diet rather than this breakup diet!!! i am scared of breakups!! 🙁

  29. jazz1 October 31, 2012 at 1:15 am #

    I have actually put on 2 stones in weight; I comfort eat because I am still feeling in pain but I dont beat myself up, I have suffered a trauma and this is one of my ways of coping.

  30. jazz1 October 31, 2012 at 1:20 am #

    I think I left my comment at the end of the page, silly me. I wrote that I have actually put on 2 stones since he dumped me. I comfort eat because it brings me a bit of release from the pain in me I still tend to feel, I know I am doing this but I recognise I suffered a emotional trauma which is what it is when the person you love decided they did not want to be with you any longer and you are coming to terms with the loss. Weight loss, weight gain all part of going through the recovery process.

  31. chistace January 13, 2013 at 3:25 am #

    During my break-up I lost about 10 pounds off of my already thin frame on a diet of mainly chocolate, red wine, cheese, and crackers. Eventually my body grew tired so I highly recommend odwolla protein shakes or some other nutritional drink. After 8 months of being apart…it wasn’t until we got back together that the weight came back on. After another year we are engaged….but I’m thinking about calling it off. I thought I was an exception to the rule here but maybe I thought wrong. I’m back on this site and its making me absolutely dread the thought of even having to go experience a break-up again….even if it is me the one doing the breaking up.I don’t think I can handle it again.

  32. reality chick January 23, 2013 at 9:01 am #

    Weight loss is the only PERK of a break-up (well, it was for me anyway). As a keen cook I knew I was on the mend when I stopped living on cereal and toast 🙂

  33. Shirley February 4, 2013 at 1:58 am #

    I have just broke up in Novemeber after 13yrs, my decsion, couldn’t feel powerless anymore, even though there were some wonderful times. It was a novelty at first but then I started to feel overwhelmed with sadness, even though we have contact and I assumed he would be friends. He helps with certain things in my new home, but he keeps things very professional. I recently went to LA to my daughters wedding from the UK, I felt sad that he wasn’t involved as he had been in her life for 13 yrs. On my return he called to help me with the cat and dogs return from the kennels, and I realised that in that time he seemed to have made progress and was moving on. He left as he was rushing toi keep a meeting at the casino, which he had now a membership for. I then realised I needed to move on, and not feel sad. I had made the decsion to go, he was not going to change, and beg me to come home, I left 3months ago,It has only been a week I have not been intouch, but I have had to really restrain myself not to text with something trivial.
    Well, I try to remember how I felt going home to him and for so long I dreded going in the house, and all the mind games that were being played, and the fact that it was his house, and he would always let me know. Now I come home to my own home, and I may feel lonely but I am less stressed and I feel like I have my power back.
    I believe the universe set it up for me to go, as it happened in 2 week, all my friend were stunned cos they knew how unhappy I was. So how can I complain, when it was provided for me. I am going to follow my bliss. I know there may be tears, but I must ‘Just Be’ and I will get my hearts desires :). oh and by the way, I haven’t lost weight, I love my red wine to much lol !!!

  34. suzanna February 15, 2013 at 8:34 pm #

    i’m trying to over come from break up from last 2years but its not happening i tried to start new life with new guy but i was ditched again now with no hopes and depression i’m alive.i really want to live normal life but how i dont know. Past is killing me. Pls help some one. Ya i’m gaining weight day by day and recently i was told by my doctor i got hypothyroid i’m just 23.

  35. Lori February 18, 2013 at 4:54 am #

    On Mothers Day of 2012 , 1 month before our 10th anniversary and 2 months before my son got married, my partner looked at me and said ” I am not in love with you, I have feelings for my girlfriend from the past and I want to be with her” no need to even try to describe the downward spiral my life turned into; ALL the posts here very accurately describe the agony, depression, hurt, loss of sleep and the diet… I went from 145 to 120 in 3 weeks…. Fast forward I have come a long way and am eating, getting more sleep, little by little my mind, body and soul is working thru the stages of grief; not rushing it, letting emotions work themselves out, and there are days when a little memory, song, etc will thrown me into brief moment of hurt…. But mostly I have learned that I NEVER knew I was sooooo resilient; I always knew I was strong but WOW ; I surprised myself!! Am I 100% over it, done, finito?? NO, but what has helped me tremendously is: reflection, re-evaluation, and self-assessment; putting everything into perspective and understanding what the lessons are that I needed to learn and letting karma rule because “what is meant for you, will not pass you.” Thank you.

    • Rosa September 10, 2013 at 10:25 pm #


      Reflection, re-evaluation and self-assessment, putting everything into perspective. That’s what I need right now. I don’t have a scale, but I’m down from a size 16 to a 12 in just over six weeks. I have no appetite and eating is a chore. I have started smoking, but realize that I have to stop. I am in so much agony and despair. I want to get better but it almost seems impossible. Like it will never happen to me. He left me for someone younger, not necessarily better, just younger. I suppose he is in-love with her and it breaks my heart to even fathom it. I want to so much be one of those people on here who post about being 100% over their ex and that they’ve found a special someone, but to me it seems unattainable at the moment or near future.

  36. thuy April 11, 2013 at 9:08 pm #

    I nearly lost 20lbs in a month after she left me.. its gonna b a year by this April 30..

  37. Jackalope June 25, 2013 at 10:18 am #

    I had gained some weight while with my chef ex, but at 125 I was hardly overweight. When he picked me up from the airport after a visit to my parents and asked me to move out of his house, I lost 17 lbs in the first two weeks that followed. Why do we do that to ourselves?

  38. Jonesy July 14, 2013 at 12:22 pm #

    I’ve lost 25+ pounds myself, I used to work out but now I honestly have no desire to. I did weigh around 180 (fluctuating) now I barely hit 150. I’m 5’11”. I was doing good with the no-contact..until she contacted me. Really got my hopes up and I was stoked to hang out, now I’m sitting here miserable again. Tried some new drugs, started smoking cigs again, who cares right

  39. DenailNotJustARiver July 25, 2013 at 3:42 am #

    Its been a month since he ended things. I think Ive lost about 10lbs in the last 2 weeks, haven’t even been conscious of it, everyone has been commenting lately and Ive just kept brushing it off and telling them its their imagination. I guess I had to notice the other day when I needed a new pair of jeans. Im 5’11, from size 8 to 6 with wiggle room

  40. Amytha April 18, 2014 at 4:07 pm #

    I was with the love of my life for 3 years 7 months. I am not even looking at it with rose-tinted glasses when I say it was perfect. He left me because he didn’t feel mature enough for a serious commitment, and needed space to grow up. I am just starting the No Contact for 60 days and it was so hard to cut off contact. I have lost quite a bit of weight due to the break up and I am only just starting to taste food again, all my sense went numb for a while. This website has helped me so much.

  41. Kiwii May 15, 2014 at 1:44 am #

    We loved eachother and it was beyond perfect , but then I don’t know what happened , it’s like we don’t know eachother anymore , so much distance between us for reasons I cannot find !! He stopped calling , texting just out of the blue , we’ve had our share of fights but I thought we resolved them clearly not everything is resolved .. Sometimes I feel he never really loved me or that he’s definitely over me now .. I honestly think over thinking burns the calories and fat :/

  42. CardioQueen October 28, 2014 at 7:10 am #

    Same boat, but not regrettably so….

    Ive gone from about 210 to 177, and I am embracing it.

    I was the one who broke it off after about a year, and was actually at peace with my decision. But SHE wanted to stay friends. Every time I saw her feelings flooded back. I couldn’t eat, had really bad indigestion. Started working out just to get my mind in the right place which served as a catalyst for my weight loss.

    Then, get this, she starts seeing someone else and is telling me all this explicit stuff about her current relationship. I couldn’t do the “friend” thing anymore. I broke off the relationship because we weren’t going anywhere as a couple, only to find myself with a bunch of irrational and ill-placed feelings.

    The strides Ive made in the past three days without any contact from her are invaluable. Its not even worth opening that can of worms again.

  43. A June 1, 2015 at 1:52 am #

    I lost a lot of weight after my breakup of a 5 year relationship that drained me emotionally and I didn’t want to be in it. It was really difficult still, and i found myself being extremely depressed with no apetite. The only thing that helped was just sitting there doing nothing. I went to therapy eventually which seemed to help, and no contact was difficult.
    I was 145 (5’3) and went down to 115, i’m now a healthy 123 pounds, i’m not over weight anymore which i’m happy about. I never thought i’d be able to regain my life but I look better and I’m doing so many things …

  44. michelle July 21, 2015 at 2:47 am #

    I too have lost weight but feel like im losing my mind also i dont no what to do. I have bad headache and stomach pain. I was with my man for 14 years and wasnt married and didnt see our relationship going any where so i called it quit.. he was mad and said i will be back.. i do want to go back but i want him to change.and miss me and treat me better it been 19 days and ive found a place and still haven’t heard from him i wont call just to prove him wrong but if i go back i no things will stay the same if i move on i might find happiness one day.. please help confused lost and and wondering did i make the right decision.

    • Sarah July 31, 2015 at 5:30 am #

      You did make the right decision. If he really misses you and wanted to be with you, he would contact you and do whatever it takes to be together. He might change his mind, but in the mean time, take care of you. I was recently Dumped by the man I thought was “the one”. I’m not sure when I’ll feel better, but I know what I want out of my next relationship. Maybe my guy will change his mind, but I hac a feeling it’ll be too late.

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