10 Rules To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

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6. Send A Written Letter Once In A While

Do not underestimate the marvelous feeling, when you look in your letter box and find a letter from your love, open it and see his/her writing. This is a pleasure we often forget about in this modern times. Not to mention that it’s far more romantic.

7. Beware Of Jealousy

Jealousy is a very dangerous thing and can threaten every long distance relationship. Jealousy is commonly a lack of trust and understanding. It very often reveals insecurities and bad experiences in other relationships.

The keyword here is simply: trust. You cannot control and observe your partner, you only can have faith in your relationship and in the things you build together in the times you had. Hold on to that and never give in to that green eyed monster.

Jealousy is one of the most negative and destructive emotions there is! Listen to Shakespeare:

O, beware, my lord, of jealousy
It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock
The meat it feeds on; that cuckold lives in bliss
Who, certain of his fate, loves not his wronger
But, O, what damned minutes tells he o’er
Who dotes, yet doubts, suspects, yet strongly loves!

8. Avoid Dangerous “Situations”

As mentioned before, trust is essential. If you completely trust your partner and also have faith in your relationship, you can pretty much do what you want without endangering your relation. However, I nevertheless recommend avoiding some specific situations. Of course it depends on the person, but I would not date the opposite sex alone, or go to wild parties. Simply avoid temptations that could distract you from each other.

Better safe than sorry!

9. Never Lose Faith

People will tell you that long distance relationships never work. Don’t listen!

Watch out, you will meet a lot of skepticism. People will tell you that long distance relationships never work, especially those who have had negative experiences about it. Don’t listen to them. People tend to negate things they failed on.

Listen to me: it can definitely work, but you both have to believe it. Check out my article on achieving goals.

10. Always Stay Positive

Always assume that your partner loves you and cares about you. Never assume anything negative, whether you read something in his/her e-mails or you disliked how he/she made a weird comment on something. Don’t interpret to much in it.

The problem with non-face-to-face communication is the lack of facial expression. It is so easy to misinterpret but unfortunately much harder to trust and stay positive.

I assure you, if something was wrong, you will know it.

As you can see, I’m definitely positive about long distance relationships. They expose ongoing life lessons, and prove that love, loyalty, and faith are the vital ingredients to a lasting relationship.

Have faith, have trust and you both will succeed in the end.

Your friend,

Eddie Corbano

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About The Author:

is a breakup-coach, relationship-advisor and founder of LovesAGame. He suffered from a devastating break up in 1998. Since then, he dedicated his life to helping others getting the best of this existential experience. The overcoming of a break up is an important step to autonomy and independency. Eddie Corbano developed some new coaching programs, which focus on evolving inner strength and the power to set and reach any personal goal. (Article written on March 21st, 2007)
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  • Spikey360

    Thank you Mr. Corbano, the article was very helpful.

  • B7urnett_

    girlfriend i understand how u feel but to meet a guy on the internet and hook up like that its a risk u taking since u dont know anything about him really just want he tells u .if u have afeeling he is cheating maybe he is

  • BabiiDee

    Hey sorry for the late reply i havent been on here in ages ….
    well they say the first year is hard and trust me it is ur going to experience so much different emotions it will be easier for u as u guys will have now and then visual tangible contact so it will help keep the relationship together but u must also balance the times u dont see each other by giving the same imput as u would seeing each other in real. falling in love is not planned it just happens and it catches u by suprise but as u know  it is an amazing feeling my advice for both of u is to never give up overcome  the doubts and always think positive wish u guys the best of luck stay strong and never let the feeling go :)

  • BabiiDee

    i havent been on this since early last year  and  ive recently been reading different peoples storys and their experiences of a long distance relationship and its amazing  how all of our storys connect with true love its shows how our relationships are the strongest from normal ones and how as individuals we hold on tight to our relationships. long distance relationships are not the easiest but it shows when u trully love someone u would do what ever it takes to be with them.

    from since last year since i last wrote in here we are still together <3  so thats 2  years  now and counting :) i went from a 14 year old to a 16 still mainting a long relationship especailly long distance as such a premature age and tht just shows love had no limits.

    i have  given advice to many people both here and in real life, i have felt everything there is to feel in a ldr and  i am happy to advice anyone on their relationships from my experience.

    there are so many interssting storys on here that shows long distances  relationship do last and eventually u marry that person.

    its the distance alone that brings the couples closer  as they learn more about eachother and trully learn to know the person inside and out  and the more the learn the deeper they fall.

    long distance relationships are not the easiest but are the strongest and i wish everyone good luck in theirs. <3

  • IlluminatedbyHim

    This is wonderful!  Very foundational advice here.  So many people suggest how to have phone sex or something stupidly superficial like that.  I appreciate your advocating romance in your article.

    • http://lovesagame.com Eddie Corbano

      Thank you for the nice words :) .

  • Crystal

    Thank you soo much for this article..i became very muh more confident reading this because my parents say that my relationship will not work because next year im moving to texas and hell stay in new york….but were already two hours apart! 9 months already…..8 months we havent seen eachother..ad we love echother like never before….i just want to say thank you very much for this……….i know….we can make it :)

  • Guest456

    Wow..this is so similar to my story…and after reading yours and your outlook on it, it has been inspiring. Its the same with me and this guy, I know I have very strong feelings for him and he said he likes me too but Idk how strong his feelings are for me…

  • Randolphfoster

    I, R. Foster, from Trinidad in the Caribbean, aged 62 have a long-distance relationship with a 47 year old highly religious female who met me while I was working at the U.S.C. in Trinidad, as a Security Officer. She, with two (2) degrees was doing Coleportering — selling religious books. She offered me one, and I promised to pay her in three (3) days time, and that was the start of a very deep relationship that lasted four (4) months before she left for her homeland in Guyana, because she was getting serious difficulties procuring a job with a religious link, and no other kind in more prosperous Trinidad. We only had about 8 to 10 meetings in Trinidad at her place (brother’s residence) where while studying the Bible and going to her Church  –  A Seventh Day Adventist in Maracas, St. Joseph we expressed our great love for one another.  She matter-of-factly asked if I would consider marriage, and at the outset I said, I wasn’t the marrying type as I lived’ with four (4) different women and the relationships ended. I said I had two (2) grown children aged 35 and 34 at the time. She didn’t mind.  But for the 9 months she is back in her country, my, nor her love has not diminished — in fact it has gotten stronger I feel.  But there is a humongous problem.  Because of her strict upbringing, she dosen’t trust no one and has a great fear of any marriage breaking up before death. She dosen’t want to hear such, otherwise no marriage.  That’s why at 47 she is still unmarried and claims to be a virgin still never having penetrative sex.  But, I do love her as I never loved another woman in my life. And would wait until whenever.  Of great significance is, she has never once gotten vexed with me in front my face and in our E-mail and Skype sessions.  She is my Queen

  • Abanadoraileen

    Thank you so much for this wonderful & positive advice for us who are in a LDR. I am much more confident & really i love him so much:)  Talking & texting over the phone every day is really helpful. Loving each other more everyday,trust, being faithful, time for each other,sweet moment thru phone,reminiscing our 1st times as a sweetheart & PLANNING for our future is our main foundation in our LDR.  Hoping our LDR will long last forever & god will be the center of our love:)

  • http://lovesagame.com Eddie Corbano

    Hi Amari,

    Thanks for the “essay” :) , I love your positivity and optimism. One can only profit from such an attitude.

    Thank you for contributing.

    Eddie

    • Amari

      Thank you Eddie! Your article really did reaffirm my positivity and helped cement that I was doing the best I can. Thank you for such a good read!

  • Brooke Angelle

    i def needed to read this post. i am feeling the exact same way as you. thanks for posting your comment. this makes me feel so much better. i hope i can do what u r doing and be positive and have faith in him

  • Ejr James

    DAMMMMMMNNNNNNNNNNN i hella feel u im a boy but i got a girl in atlanta and she hella far away she like 21 hrs away but omgosh i feel u its hard i have the same connection omgosh ( crying ) 

  • 4244 & 2447

    Thank you for a very helpful article. My girlfriend recently moved out of state, although I support and understand her decision 100%, I found it very difficult to be the man she loves and help her pack up, load, and watch them drive away. Not only did I help my best friend to leave but her daughter (who feels like my daughter),  and her mother, who is also like a mother to me. So bitter-sweet!! After reading numerous articles I know we are on the right track because neither one of us is done with the other. Almost everyone around us has been negative about our relationship lasting. Its funny how a few texted lines or a 2 minute actual talking phone call from her can raise my spirits so high. Once again thank you so much for the words that build my faith and hope that we can continue with and make our relationship last.

  • fatty

    I joined my first job at Goa last year where i used to stay in co accomodation and met him first there. We were just friends at first but den don know when i fell in love with him. When I told him about it, he denied the proposal. We were beyound friendship though but still stayed as friends. Later when I could not pretend and couldnot resist my feelings for him, I decided to leave job and come back home. During those last days, he showed ultimate care and love to me and also expressed that he loved me. Now I recently resigned and have moved to my hometown. I am perplexed if he really loves me and if I should consider it for a long distance relationship or should i just cut off all contacts with him and move on in my life.

  • Ashishmechfire09

    hey…don’t worry…you know distances doesn’t matters…you have to be very strong at every point of your life…or else you never know when you lose precious one’s…i live in india and my gf lives in south africa..i know how it feels but then compromises are part of life and if you really feel for a person you would never ever deceive him and leave him alone…consider it..:)

  • Chinni_govinda

    Awesome post….thanxxx dude…