Eddie Corbano is one of the most highly regarded experts in the field breakup recovery. He’s a professional coach, author, and founder of LovesAGame.com.
He has given breakup advice for adults on this site since 2007. He is happily married and has two twin daughters.
Helping people get over a breakup or divorce fast has become his life mission.
Eddie has over 13 years of experience in the field of breakup and divorce recovery and has written over 300 articles with over 27 million views overall, as well as three bestselling books.
He has been featured and interviewed by news outlets such as Washington Post, Bustle, Huffington Post, BravoTV, and many more.
He has personally helped thousands of people all over the world overcome self-imposed obstacles and use a relationship split as a catalyst to live a better and more fulfilled life.
“People rarely see breakups as an opportunity.”
Eddie sees it as his life’s mission to help people overcome tough breakups or divorces, turn their life around, and become the best version of themselves.
“People rarely see this as an opportunity,” he says, “But during such existential experiences, it’s the best time to take a deep look into yourself and face the demons you’ve been dragging with you your whole life.
“That’s why people keep going from breakup to breakup their whole lives. Because they avoid facing the deep-wired issues they have.“
“I had to make the decision if I wanted to live or die.“
Sixteen years ago, Eddie suffered from a devastating breakup that defined the direction and purpose of his life.
“I was figuratively standing at a crossroad,“ he said, “I had to make the decision if I wanted to live or die.“
He was lucky to have received unexpected help from a distant relative. He told him the three main things that he needed in order to get over his ex.
Since then, Eddie has been working on a daily basis to help people heal their broken hearts. He continuously looks for new, better ways to create the insights that helped him so much.
Every day, he answers emails, communicates with his course students, writes emails and articles, and educates himself even more on the topic.
What drives him is his life-defining purpose: working off the emotional debt he owes the relative who saved him so many years ago.
”I have the motivation, dedication, and knowledge to help you … and I’m doing it because it fulfills me and makes me happy.”
I’m not a therapist. Maybe that’s who you need. But then again, maybe who you really need is someone like me:
Unlike a therapist, I will tell you exactly what you should do and avoid in your particular situation.
I have worked daily with people going through breakups since 2005. It has taught me what works and what doesn’t.
I have learned through trial and error what brings people forward in specific situations and what throws them back. I know what helps them in their daily life and what doesn’t.
Years of experience with real people have enabled me to create an effective system to lead them to recovery after a breakup or divorce and as a result, break blockades they have carried around their whole lives.
I have tons of testimonials from clients/students to attest to the effectiveness of this system.
I have the motivation, dedication, and knowledge to help you.
”Acceptance is the key.”
I do this because it’s my life purpose, which my breakup led me to.
This is what fulfills me and makes me happy.
It’s as simple as that.
”The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” — Rumi
The first thing is always to help the client WANT to heal and get over their Ex.
This isn’t always obvious. Often, people subconsciously refuse to heal because “healing” means “losing” them.
Unfortunately, this can go on for years, where you learn to tolerate the suffering for the purpose of still having them around.
Of course, this is an Illusion and leads to identifying with the pain and more suffering.
In our course (and with my coaching), we help you overcome this obstacle by helping you to accept what happened. Acceptance is the key.
The next step is always the “Physical Detox”:
Give yourself the opportunity to get rid of the “Ex-Toxins” by going No-Contact. I help the client/student to do this by identifying and preparing for the biggest obstacles.
”You must get rid of the ‘Ex-Toxins.’”
Receiving support from myself or the community forum is a cornerstone of reaching 60 days without contacting an Ex.
After the 60 days have passed, many people will have changed. You WILL feel better and come to a new perspective about your breakup.
Then, it’s essential to do an “Emotional DETOX.”
This is when you reconnect to your true self, find “hidden core-pains,” re-build self-awareness and self-esteem, and “disengage consciously.”
This is the whole process I use, in a nutshell.
My mission is to teach as many people as I can:
I want to make authentic LOVE great again.
A breakup is the starting point or the foundation for this.
”I went through a never-ending cycle of failed relationships.”
I’ve always been an introvert-intellectual-artist type of guy (INFJ), which created constant tension with a practical, down-to-earth, authoritative father.
I’ve always felt like nobody ever understood me. I got my self-esteem destroyed on a daily basis — always critiqued, never praised.
I felt alone constantly.
Unfortunately, this led to many relationship problems: codependency, attachment, and even lower self-esteem.
I went through a never-ending cycle of failed relationships.
My last breakup changed all that.
It forced me to look deep into myself and recognize who I really was, how I really ticked.
It made me strip away all the toxic layers that I had accumulated through external input and influence.
I discovered what I really wanted in life.
It’s impossible to describe in words how much this freed me.
This happened at the age of 38.
Today, 13 years later, I’m married, a father of two, happy, self-centered, at peace, and fulfilled through my mission.
The breakup made all this possible.
What’s important to me? What are my values?
Family, honesty, integrity, love, kindness, closeness, appreciation, thankfulness, authenticity, altruism, courage, and heart.
My advice for you is this: Take this breakup and your recovery seriously, and see it as an opportunity.
Do NOT wait for time to heal you; take your life into your own hands and force change.
You do NOT depend on your Ex for your happiness. You do NOT want a partner who left you.
Know that there’s nothing wrong with you. You are enough as you are.
“A year from now, you will wish you had started today.” —Karen Lamb
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“Eddie, you are an Angel and have helped me in so many ways, I can never say thank you enough. I would recommend this course to anyone going through a breakup, because it has helped me. I went to counseling, but nothing else has helped me except you.”
“Eddie, you’ve got me through the single biggest hurt of my life. And although you probably get lots of emails, I hope this one reaches you, and you can accept and appreciate what you do for people who have broken up with someone they love. Your advice, wise counsel, and understanding have helped me immeasurably, and for this, I wanted to write to say a big thank you. I would have struggled much more without you.”
“I am English, and it’s not terribly ‘British’ to subscribe to this type of support … stiff upper lip and all that, and I am certainly of that ilk. I wholeheartedly and unashamedly recommend you to anyone I come into contact with who is suffering this pain. I was at the end of days in the aftermath and thought that the pain would consume me.”
“I just want to let you know I am doing fantastic thanks to you and God. I have a new beautiful person in my life, but the best thing is, I was doing great before I met her, all due to your teaching. I still receive your emails and enjoy reading how you are giving people the tools to save themselves and teaching them how to always use those tools. Never stop doing what you are doing, my friend. And to all the people who are out there taking Eddie’s help, let me say, he is the real McCoy. No matter how long you are at rock bottom, you will get out with Eddie’s help.”
You can read more helpful testimonials from real customers over here.
The most authentic thing about us is our capacity to create, to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love and to be greater than our suffering. —Ben Okri
You are probably here because you have difficulties in moving on after a painful breakup or divorce. You are looking for ways out of the pain.
Maybe your breakup was fresh, but perhaps you feel stuck for a long time ... still thinking and obsessing too much about your Ex.
But maybe deep down you already feel that this might be an opportunity for you to grow and correct lifelong challenges all around relationships.
If any of this feels true for your situation, this is how you start your recovery:
There are three time-proven secrets to get over a breakup that work for every situation. The following article describes my personal experiences and the very moment my recovery really started (including the things my relative said to me that truly changed my life).
A must-read article, if you want to heal fast:
(If your relationship was toxic, I recommend reading this article additionally. It helps you to evaluate if your Ex was a narcissist or not.)
This following article is also based on my own experiences, and it will help you to deal with all the obstacles that will come up during your recovery. It will give your recovery a purpose and direction:
The no contact rule is one of the most critical tools of your recovery. But it's often used the wrong way.
This article will show you step-by-step how to use the rule to speed up your recovery after a breakup or divorce. It will cover the advantages, the drawbacks, the dangers and the one thing you must do to succeed.
This is one of the most detailed and comprehensive articles on this topic.
Where do you stand in your recovery? How much progress have you made already? I've created a free quiz which you can take in less than 3 minutes, and receive a score from 0 - 100 (0 = you’ll take a long time to heal, 100 = you’re already healed).
PLUS... an evaluation from myself relevant to your quiz answers and your specific situation, with tips on how to move on quicker!
Here are a few questions that came up very often, answered in selected articles:
Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved. —Helen Keller
If you have any questions, don't hesitate to contact me.
I wish you all the best!
Your friend and coach,