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Should I Text Him? Decide After Checking This Flowchart

Created by Becca Clason

Have you ever wondered whether you should send your crush/boyfriend/ex a text message or not? Now you can easily answer this pressing question by following a simple flowchart put together by Becca Clason.

However it’s not as easy as it seems, because you have to be able to make some difficult decisions like, “Are you sure that he is your boyfriend?” or, “Do you want to stay ‘just friends’ with your Ex?”.

The flowchart is nicely done, and a funny distraction… but don’t take it too seriously, especially not the “Is he an Ex” maze. The truth is that IF you are in this very situation right now, then it will be anything but funny.

To make it clear – if you are following the No Contact Rule, then you should NOT under any circumstances text your Ex.

Otherwise… just have fun.

Your friend,
Eddie Corbano


6 Responses to Should I Text Him? Decide After Checking This Flowchart

  1. Ella February 20, 2013 at 1:24 pm #

    My 1 and 1/2 year boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago because i made mistakes. But he kept coming back then leaving again.. I tried so hard and did my best to make it up for him, for i regret my mistakes and admit them, but he says his feelings have changed and I believe him but at the same time when he comes back every now and then, he says how much he misses me, seeing me and wishes we were together. We are in a long distance relationship, and i planned on visiting him at the end of next month because a closure is what we need, i thought. And because he kept coming back. I got my ticket, he was thrilled, then a week later he said he had no feelings…again. I am still going, but I think I’d better not meet him. Is this the right choice?
    I do want him back, but want him to want me back. I started the no contact rule few days ago, but his birthday is in 20 days.. Shall I send him a text/email saying “Happy birthday”?

  2. Minah March 1, 2013 at 11:19 pm #

    Hi Ella. I kinda know what you’re going through. I too have an ex that I am back and forth with (we both are).
    I think it’s best if you don’t contact him, don’t wish him a happy birthday because that just demonstrates that you care when you shouldn’t because he does not consistently return the feelings. And if you do cave in a wish him a happy bday… Make it short and sound non chalant like you’re doing it out of courtesy not in a “should-I-go-online-and-ask-the-Internet” kind of way… Just be cool if you must send one at all. A simple “Happy birthday! I didn’t forget :b have a good bday!” Should suffice and would probably be read in a butt hurt manner by him because it sounds like you’re doing just fine without him :)

  3. Joanne April 3, 2013 at 8:28 pm #

    I’m going to an important function tomorrow night and a conference for 3 days and I’m nervous that my x might be there with the woman he left me for.
    I’ve done no contact for 2 months and am wondering if I should send him a very short e-mail ( I blocked his phone #) telling him I’m planning on going and to give me a “heads up” if he’s going so that I can make an informed decision about what I want to do .
    BTW, his new GF ( who was his x before me) HATES me ( and I’m not too fond of her) and seeing them together would set me back to the beginning. However , I also don’t want him controlling what I do or don’t do.

  4. coco April 26, 2013 at 2:28 am #

    Hi everyone,

    I’m new here, but been reading for a long time and would love some advice

    I’ve met this guy online about 3 months ago. lots of texting in the beginning and calling, before we ever had met he said he had deactivated his account because he liked me, I did the same about a week later.

    After that we met for a speed date which went great

    we met up 2 other times which went really good as well. After that we had an argument and I wrote to him that it was best not to see each other again. I can be rather hot headed so a week later I regretted it and send him a message. he replied immediately and said he was very happy that I had contacted him again. we met up a week later and again it went great. in total we have met up 7 times.

    now here is my thing…..we never talked about being exclusive, but we speak everyday via text mostly and we call every few days. he seems very into me and even said he is falling in love and can’t wait to share new moments together and he has asked me to go away with him for a weekend

    My friend was over and we were on the internet and she said let’s check out the dating site (my account was deactivated until then) I log in and when I went through my messages I saw his profile!!!
    I didn’t want to click on it (obviously he would see that) so my friend created a profile and clicked on it. it said he was last online 3 days ago.

    I’m really disappointed, I am NOT a dater and quite shy. I met him after talking to him for 3 weeks and that was quick for me. also he is the first man after my ex….

    I wrote him a message saying I was disappointed and that I didn’t feel like sharing my feelings and being intimate with someone who was still looking around

    he wrote back that he was busy at work and would talk later.

    he never wrote or called me and has taken his profile down…..

    this all happened about a week ago

    • CHAU April 29, 2015 at 2:59 am #

      Hi Coco,

      My story is similar, I met my ex on dating site we spent nearly 5 months contacting with around 1 month staying together, after a trip we were together he changed we argued then now I found out he still keep looking for girls on dating site with paid membership when I contact asking him he said he loves me, he misses me, he wants me, he is busy then I see him online again. Then he said he misses me, he loves me, he wants me then he is online again.

  5. Angry dumpee October 26, 2013 at 8:24 am #

    Is it ok to contact them and gloat, when they dumped you by text and gloated that their life was better off without you? I was devastated and never cheated.

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