Believe it or not, there is one thing that scares many men more than hell –
that is approaching a beautiful woman.
Why is that the case?
What can a beautiful woman possibly do to a man? Rip his head off? Not likely.
But I understand it. I once was there myself.
It is a fundamental fear of rejection that dominates here.
An attractive woman has lots of power.
Everybody is polite to her, wants to get her drinks, wants to be with her. She is a status symbol … an indication of personal power.
And she knows that.
But the power she has over you is only the power that you give her.
Besides the fear of rejection, what frustrates most men as well, is also an inhibitory approach anxiety.
What is approach anxiety?
It is a fear that society implanted in you.
Scientific research proves that the only thing a newborn baby is afraid of, are loud noises and free falling.
Everything else is induced by the outside world. The environment.
It's important to realize that. The fear has no foundation.
Approach anxiety is a fear society implanted in you.The bad news is, there is nothing you can read or resolve in your mind, that would make the fear of rejection disappear.
Like most fears that are blocking you, there is only one way to overcome them – by repeatedly facing what you fear.
Repeating over and over again what you fear, and realizing that there is, in fact, nothing to fear, is the only way to make that fear go away.
I know. You don't like that. I didn't myself.
The good news is, it takes only 25 approaches to conquer this fear.
So I suggest that you start right away!
Since you now know how to get what you wish for, I'd like to give you some insights on how to get this issue done right from the beginning.
Ok, so let's start with the 5 secrets to moving closer to a beautiful woman:
1. Make three fast approaches for warm-up
Look for three girls that you like, and are comfortable with, and ask them something. No matter what.
Ask for the way, the time, a place to go out since you're new in town, the next cool bar, etc. Be creative!
You don't have to get into a conversation, but if it happens, don't fight it.
The goal is to get into an “approaching mood,” and most important, to get comfortable with the idea of talking to women.
You will learn that it's ok and that nothing terrible will happen.
This will remove a lot of tension from you and believe me; your next attempts will be much, much easier.
2. Detach yourself completely from the outcome
This is very important.
In order to make progress and get beyond your fears, I want you to have no expectations whatsoever.
No matter what she says or does, I want your life to go on the same way.
Don't have expectations!
See it as a game. Be playful.
You're there to learn, and the only thing you want to get out of this is experience.
If you get a number or email in the end, that's great. But don't expect anything.
Should you get rejected, so what? No big deal. Just move on.
3. Pay attention to your body language
Would you believe me when I say, that your body language is affecting the outcome of your performance itself?
That means, even before you reach the woman, she might have already decided whether she will reject you or not.
Watch your body posture.
This subconsciously sends a signal of confidence and shows that you know what you're doing.
This also increases your attractiveness many times over.
- keep your head high, slightly above the horizontal line
- imagine an invisible string tied to your chest, lifting you straight up
- always lead from your hips when you are walking
- during the conversation, never lean physically in, always lean back
- sit and always stand in the most comfortable position … as if you were at home. Lean on a wall, put a leg on the chair, use a chair like a sofa, etc.
- watch your hands. Don't hang on to your glass. Put one hand into your pocket, and leave the other one free
- don't try to look cool, (if you are, you will anyway). Have a slight smile – always.
This is pure gold.
4. Forget all pick-up lines you've ever heard
Trust me, they won't work. You don't need them.
The truth is, what you say only matters less than 6% to the outcome.
You communicate the rest through other ways. Like the tone of your voice, and mainly through your body language.
The truth is, what you say only matters less than 6% to the outcome.
Maintain strong eye contact during the approach, watch your body language, put on your biggest smile and just say “hi.”
Later on, when you have more experience, you can do more sophisticated things. I'll cover this another time.
5. Have a story prepared
Let the conversation flow naturally.
Talk to the girl like you talk to your best friend. The more natural you are, the better.
Don't compliment her too much, again, be playful and cocky. Speak slowly, and keep your voice tone low.
What happens very often to newbies, is that they begin having trouble maintaining the conversation. They get stuck since they can not remember any topic to speak about.
Or they ask too many questions, which is also not helpful to getting the conversation going.
It helps to have some story prepared.
If nothing exciting has ever happened to you, you can make something up.
Tell how your best friend almost died on your last mountain hiking tour, or how you saved your cat from being washed in the washing machine.
It really doesn't matter what the story is about. What matters is how you are telling it.
It has to be told in an interesting and dramatic way.
She has to be sucked into that story, watching your lips, like she can’t wait to see how it ends.
Can you do that? I bet you can. If not, practice!
From here on, you have several options:
You can ask for her number/email, change the location with her, or simply move on.
The point is, to collect as much experience as you can with women. You must get comfortable with it.
If you are, then there is nothing that can hold you back anymore.
The world is yours.
Your friend,
Eddie Corbano
You need a disclaimer to not approach women who clearly want to be left alone. If shes reading a book, listening to music with headphones on or some other indicator that she is clearly busy you’re just going to piss her off.
dude, this is good stuff.
thanks.
I just want to thank the person who wrote this, I’m a 15 year old in high school and this really worked, I through I was ugly and no one would want me but I approached her and got her number no problem and I have been practicing and it works I have lots of friends now, some girls even noticed me and said I’m cute… I guess its because I never talked but thank you so much!