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10 Best Break Up Songs For Killing Your Blues

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As you might know, overcoming a break up involves a roller coaster ride of emotions. One minute you feel great, the next you are in deep depression. To escape these downtimes is often a big challenge.

While there are different techniques that can help you avoid these moments, a lot of break up victims listen to sad break up songs to ease their pain. And it works: certain tunes can help you to get over those hard moments.

But I would like to warn you against making a big mistake in this situation.

There is one very important premise you need to remember when listening to these songs: they have to be empowering, inspirational and they have to pick you up again.

There is a temptation to listen to those “heart-killing” ballads, (you know what I mean).

Don’t do it!

I made that terrible mistake back then. I listened to some of these that reminded me of her over and over for weeks. It not only delayed my healing process, I fell into a deep depression and wallowed in my own misery.

Don’t make that same mistake.

These kinds of songs can help you to cry out accrued emotions, but this will only work at the very beginning – the 1st Phase. Later, they would likely throw you into the vicious cycle of your memories, from which it is very hard to escape. (Trust me – I know what I’m talking about).

The other kinds of music that you have to avoid are “hate-your-ex-songs”.

The goal in the long run is to get rid of your anger towards your Ex, so listening to this kind of song will only give you false ease, which will hurt you in the long run.

Listed below, I have collected for you the 10 best songs that you should listen to after a break up. I have not taken my personal musical taste into consideration here, (mine is really not mainstream), but rather focused on lyrics that will pick you up and pull you out of your depression.

Additionally, I looked for tunes which can convey these kinds of lyrics, (what’s the use of the great, uplifting lyrics if the song makes you fall asleep?).

So, pull out your iPod, check out the following tunes and create your playlist:

1. Gloria Gaynor – I Will Survive

This is the mother of all uplifting break up songs. Strong beat, great lyrics:

“I used to cry,
Now I hold my head up high
and you see me,
somebody new.
I’m not that chained up little person
still in love with you.”

2. Cher – Strong Enough

Are you?

“‘Cos I’m strong enough
To live without you.
Strong enough and I quit crying,
Long enough now I’m strong enough,
To know you gotta go.”

3. Johnny Nash – I Can See Clearly Now

A catchy tune and positive “feel-good” lyrics.

“Think I can make it now, the pain is gone
All of the bad feelings have disappeared.
Here is the rainbow I’ve been prayin’ for.
It’s gonna be a bright (bright), bright (bright)
Sun-Shiny day.”

4. REO Speedwagon – Time For Me To Fly

A classic!

“It’s time for me to fly.
Oh, I’ve got to set myself free.
Time for me to fly,
And that’s just how it’s got to be.
I know it hurts to say goodbye,
But it’s time for me to fly.”

5. REM – Everybody Hurts

This is a GREAT song, one of my all-time favorites.

“When the day is long and the night, the night is yours alone,
When you’re sure you’ve had enough of this life, well hang on.
Don’t let yourself go, everybody cries and everybody hurts sometimes.”

6. Bob Dylan – Most Of The Time

You don’t have to like Bob Dylan to like this song. Great lyrics.

“Stay right with it, when the road unwinds,
I can handle whatever I stumble upon,
I don’t even notice she’s gone,
Most of the time.”

7. Ace Of Base – Don’t Turn Around

“If you ever think about me,
Just know that I’ll be alright
I’m gonna be strong,
I’m gonna do fine,
Don’t worry about this heart of mine.
I know I’ll survive
Sure I’ll make it through.”

8. Carrie Underwood – Wasted

The proof that they really exist: positive country songs. A wonderful song!

“I don’t wanna’ spend my life jaded,
Waiting to wake up one day and find,
That I’ve let all these years go by,
Wasted.”

9. Justin Timberlake – Cry Me A River

I listened to this one a lot. A great musical piece and it gets you into an empowering mood.

“You told me you loved me,
Why did you leave me, all alone?
Now you tell me you need me,
When you call me, on the phone.
Girl I refuse, you must have me confused,
With some other guy.
Your bridges were burned, and now it’s your turn,
To cry, cry me a river.”

10. Louis Armstrong – What A Wonderful World

This is simply a classic feel-good song. It always reminds me that there is a life out there beyond the problems that we might have, and that there is strength already within us.

Listen and dream.

“The colors of the rainbow so pretty in the sky,
Are also on the faces of people going by.
I see friends shaking hands saying how do you do.
They’re really saying I love you.”

There you have them, the best positive music that I listened to back then. They have helped me to overcome my break up, and they can help you too.

Never forget – positivity is the key to success. Surround yourself with positivity, and your life will improve.

You will survive. I promise.

Your friend,
Eddie Corbano

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88 Responses to 10 Best Break Up Songs For Killing Your Blues

  1. amy August 12, 2009 at 11:52 am #

    I also like:

    Merry Happy by Kate Nash

    “Chatting on the phone
    can’t take back those hours
    but I won’t regret
    ’cause you can grow flowers
    from where dirt used to be….
    I can be alone yeah
    I can watch the sunset on my own.”

  2. Wendy September 10, 2009 at 9:43 pm #

    I like Bonnie McKee’s song, “Somebody”
    Definitely helps to know that there is someone else out there and I don’t need to be sad. Here’s just a sample of the lyrics, but the whole song is good…

    “Well I know, I won’t cry cause there is somebody, somebody,
    Somebody waiting for me, out in the rain.
    I won’t cry, not tonight,
    Cause there is somebody waiting for me.”

    How many words will go unspoken?
    ‘Til I hear knocking on my door?
    I need some talking the nights I spent heartbroken.
    But tonight I know,
    I won’t cry no more.”

  3. Teresa October 7, 2009 at 11:48 am #

    One Republic – Apologize

    Helped me a lot…

    I’m holding on your rope,
    Got me ten feet off the ground
    I’m hearin what you say but I just can’t make a sound
    You tell me that you need me
    Then you go and cut me down, but wait
    You tell me that you’re sorry
    Didn’t think I’d turn around, and say that…

    It’s too late to apologize, it’s too late
    I said it’s too late to apologize, it’s too late

  4. nutt October 27, 2009 at 6:31 am #

    So What – P!nk

    now, thats a bad ass F you song ;)

  5. Ringo November 17, 2009 at 4:46 am #

    I’m looking through you – The Beatles

    great song if you find yourself in that situation

  6. Courtney December 1, 2009 at 4:16 am #

    I like “Love Don’t Live Here Anymore” by Lady Antebellum:

    “…’Cause I been doin’ fine without you
    Forgettin’ all the love we once knew
    And girl, I ain’t the one that slammed that door

    Now you say you’ve changed your thinkin’
    Well I ain’t got a heart for breakin’
    So go and pick your bags up off my floor
    Oh, ’cause love don’t live here anymore….”

  7. w0lf January 28, 2010 at 6:56 am #

    I am surprised ‘Sound the Beugle’ and ‘You can’t take me’ by Bryan Adams didn’t make it to the top ten. The songs are extremely soothing and uplifting.

    YOU CAN’T TAKE ME
    “Got to fight another fight – I gotta run another night
    Get it out – check it out
    I’m on my way and I don’t feel right
    I gotta get me back – I can’t be beat and that’s a fact
    It’s OK – I’ll find a way
    You ain’t gonna take me down no way
    Don’t judge a thing until you know what’s inside it
    Dont’ push me – I’ll fight it
    Never gonna give in – never gonna give it up no
    If you can’t catch a wave then your’e never gonna ride
    You can’t come uninvited
    Never gonna give in – never gonna give up no
    You can’t take me I’m free ”

    SOUND THE BEUGLE
    “Then from on high – somewhere in the distance
    There’s a voice that calls – remember who your are
    If you lose yourself – your courage soon will follow

    So be strong tonight – remember who you are
    Ya you’re a soldier now – fighting in a battle
    To be free once more -Ya that’s worth fighting for”

  8. Chris February 2, 2010 at 11:31 pm #

    Skeeter Davis – END OF THE WORLD

    Why does the sun go on shining
    Why does the sea rush to shore
    Don’t they know it’s the end of the world
    ‘Cause you don’t love me anymore

    Why do the birds go on singing
    Why do the stars glow above
    Don’t they know it’s the end of the world
    It ended when I lost your love

    I wake up in the morning and I wonder
    Why everythings the same as it was
    I can’t understand, no I can’t understand
    How life goes on the way it does

    Why does my heart go on beating
    Why do these eyes of mine cry
    Don’t they know it’s the end of the world
    It ended when you said goodbye

    • Eddie Corbano February 3, 2010 at 8:37 am #

      Thanks Chris, I love this song and the lyrics are great, but it’s not exactly empowering when you suffer from a broken heart, isn’t it? ;)

  9. bella February 3, 2010 at 11:16 pm #

    “Better in time” by Leona Lewis….this song helped me A LOT when i was going through my break up. I just put it on repeat & listened to it all day

  10. Jessie. February 13, 2010 at 1:25 pm #

    Hello, Eddie and who ever else might read this.

    I, was I’m a relationship for 4 year’s and I was going to get married to him but are relationship was under alot of pressure and after one to many cracks at one another we ended thing’s and it was not ended on a great note. But, I had to move on and live my life with out him even tho it pretty much killed me. I, was doing great until i went to the movie’s, with a few of my friends and I saw him but he was not alone he was with one of my old friend’s, I said hello to them but he really did’nt even look at me. I, went home that night and put on

    secondhand serenade maybe

    Maybe it’s just me, Couldn’t you believe
    That everything I said and did, wasn’t just deceiving
    And the tear in your eye, and your calm hard face
    Makes me wish that I was never brought into this place

    And i cried my eyes out. I, was very upset for a week i left my house to go to starbucks to get some coffee and get some fresh air to just breathe and i was sitting there drinking my coffee when my ex came in he was alone but he got his coffee and sat down by me he told me that he was sorry how things ended but that he was in love with his new girlfriend and that we could never be anything again i just smiled and told him i understood i left and when home and cried my eyes out once again. that night i was looking for some music to listen to when i heard this song and the song just made me look into my life and i just cried and let everything out everything that was once in my system and just let it go my days wore hard but i just listened to

    Maria Mena Sorry

    And I say baby, yes I feel stupid to call you, but I’m lonely
    And I don’t think you meant it when you said you couldn’t love me
    And I thought maybe if I kissed the way you do, you’d feel it too

    He said I’m sorry
    so sorry
    I’m sorry
    so sorry

    i started to feel a little better about the break up but then i started to feel angry and mad and i was very upset that we broke up so i changed the music and i added angry songs very angry songs into my mix’s of music i would listen to when i would cry at night. I listened to songs like

    A day to remember – The Plot To Bomb The Panhandle
    I’m looking down at this mess that you’ve made
    and I can’t believe that I stayed
    So unhappy for so long
    Where did I go wrong?
    I’ve got to get out of this
    my hand is on the handle
    We’re leaving everything behind
    Goodbye for a lifetime

    Five Finger Death Punch – Hate Me

    I never had the chance to thank you
    (FOR RIPPING OUT MY HEART)
    It’s not enough
    It’s not enough
    It never was or will be
    I never got the chance to say
    (F*** YOU)
    You’ve got a gun
    I’ve got a gun
    Let’s write a tragic ending

    then i started to think its not really fair to be so angry at him for ending things because we both needed things to end for us so i started to listen to softer songs that wore sad but not so angry
    i was doing great until i ran into him again i found that him and his new wife wore moving and wore going to be having a baby something i always wanted to do with him i was very sad so i left and went home and just music on the music and sat down and cried

    Demi Lovato – Don’t Forget

    Did you forget
    That I was even alive
    Did you forget
    Everything we ever had
    Did you forget
    Did you forget
    About me

    Did you regret (did you regret)
    Ever standing by my side
    Did you forget (did you forget)
    What we were feeling inside
    Now I’m left to forget
    About us

    Then i started to get better where i was’nt even really mad or angry i was mostly over it but i still had some feelings left in my system so i started to listen to

    Little Wonders – Rob Thomas

    Let it go
    Let it roll right off your shoulder
    Don’t you know
    The hardest part is over
    Let it in
    Let your clarity define you
    In the end
    You will only just remember how it feels

    after a year I got better and and i even started to date well i found my mr, right and we are expecting our baby in less then a week so no matter how horrid it make seem right now in the end something better is waiting there for you (:

  11. Girlie February 25, 2010 at 12:27 am #

    Someday, Nina

    “Someday, you’re gonna realize…
    One day, you’ll see this through my eyes,
    By then, I won’t even be there,
    I’ll be happy somewhere…
    Even if I cared”

  12. Nathan March 9, 2010 at 8:09 pm #

    I don’t know “Most of the Time” being on this list…it’s really about holding on to love. He lists all the ways he’s healthy…but then, the truth of the matter is that it’s only most of the time, which means he’s a mess some of the time, haha.

    Good list otherwise, though.

  13. Kevin March 15, 2010 at 1:56 am #

    I am going to go out on a limb and say Eddie listens to metal, I’m even going to say extreme metal, considering the number 1 quote on one of his lists is from Dave Mustaine. And the fact that he had to state that he dosn’t listen to “mainstream music”

    • Eddie Corbano March 29, 2010 at 7:19 am #

      Well… close, but no banana! ;)

      It’s not mainstream, it’s not metal… (hint: somewhere in this blog I let the cat out of the bag).

  14. edizza March 15, 2010 at 5:42 am #

    hi nathan.. I never thought guys could also be hurt in a relationship. I thought it was just us, girls that are always meant to get hurt.

  15. John March 24, 2010 at 2:54 pm #

    Thanks for this. I will survive’ is a very powerful ‘empowering’ song which really helps.
    I do tend to listen to ‘wallowing’ songs. Like ‘I know it’s over- the smiths
    but now I know what to do,
    thanks

  16. Kendal March 28, 2010 at 1:19 am #

    Hey Everyone,

    My boyfriend of 5 years recently broke up with me (he suddenly felt he didnt want to marry or have kids with me.. we are only 23). Anyways, since the breakup this song has been great for me! Its called I just havent met you yet by Michael Buble.

    I’m Not Surprised
    Not Everything Lasts
    Have Broken My Heart So Many Times,
    I Stopped Keepin Track.
    Talk Myself In
    I Talk Myself Out
    I Get All Worked Up
    Then I Let Myself Down.

    I Tried So Very Hard Not To Lose It
    I Came Up With A Million Excuses
    I Thought I Thought Of Every Possibility

    And I Now Someday That It’ll All Turn Out
    You’ll Make Me Work So We Can Work To Work It Out
    And I Promise You Kid That I’ll Give So Much More Than I Get
    I Just Haven’t Met You Yet

    Mmmmm ….

    I Might Have To Wait
    I’ll Never Give Up
    I Guess It’s Half Time
    And The Other Half’s Luck
    Wherever You Are
    Whenever It’s Right
    You Come Out Of Nowhere And Into My Life

    And I Know That We Can Be So Amazing
    And Baby Your Love Is Gonna Change Me
    And Now I Can See Every Possibility

    Hmmmmm ……

    And Somehow I Know That Will All Turn Out

    And You’ll Make Me Work So We Can Work To Work It Out
    And I Promise You Kid I’ll Give So Much More Than I Get
    I Just Haven’t Met You Yet

    They Say All’s Fair
    And In Love And War
    But I Won’t Need To Fight It
    We’ll Get It By It ??
    To Be United

    And I Know That We Can Be So Amazing
    And Being In Your Life Is Gonna Change Me
    And Now I Can See Every Single Possibility

    Hmmm …..

    And Someday I Know It’ll All Turn Out
    And I’ll Work To Work It Out
    Promise You Kid I’ll Give More Than I Get
    Than I Get Than I Get han I Get

    Oh You Know It Will All Turn Out
    And You’ll Make Me Work So We Can Work To Work It Out
    And I Promise You Kid To Give So Much More Than I Get
    Yeah I Just Haven’t Met You Yet

    I Just Haven’t Met You Yet
    Oh Promise You Kid
    To Give So Much More Than I Get

    I Said Love Love Love Love Love Love Love …..
    I Just Haven’t Met You Yet
    Love Love Love …..
    I Just Haven’t Met You Yet

  17. Kevin March 29, 2010 at 12:29 pm #

    @Eddie Corbano

    ah, you like REM, i was close… :P.

    I don’t know why, but i got that vibe off you that you were into heavier music. lol

  18. KSgirl April 2, 2010 at 5:01 pm #

    @Girlie – beautiful, thanks! had never heard this song before but i love it :)

    @KSgirl – in reference to Someday by Nina*

  19. amy April 10, 2010 at 12:32 pm #

    @Chris – yeah eddie was right it will not help to boost your ego but makes you feel sad and hard to move on. Better find songs that will boost your ego. Finding the right songs that help you to move on.

  20. Jessie April 23, 2010 at 4:41 am #

    Savannah Ray was born she was 6 pounds 8 ounces and 19 inchs long (:

    Even when if you think your never going to find love again just keep your head high because you never know who is out there (:

  21. Genghis April 23, 2010 at 7:48 am #

    Riding Solo – Jason Derulo
    Told You So – Jesse McCartney
    This Letter – Vibekingz
    U Turn – Stevie Hoang
    No Coming Back – Stevie Hoang
    Moving On – Taio Cruz
    Can You Hear Me Now – J Rice
    Dead And Gone – Travis Garland
    Echo Remix – Gorilla Zoe ft. Neyo
    I Hate Love – Claude Kelly
    It’s Over – Jesse McCartney
    Never Again – Danny Fernandes
    I Love You But – Jeremy Thurber
    Walking Away – Craig David
    Set Me Free – Edd Holloway
    Taking Back My Love – Enrique Iglesias ft. Ciara
    Too Late – Stevie Hoang

  22. Harley April 25, 2010 at 12:27 pm #

    I think “Picture to Burn” by Taylor Swift is a kick ass song, “Watch me strike a match on all my wasted time! As far as Im concerned, youre just another picture to burn!”

  23. Cara May 14, 2010 at 8:07 pm #

    I love the song 'Best Thing You Never Had' by Butch Walker. All of his lyrics are so wonderful, but this one in particular really helped me!

    When you act like nothing ever happened,
    I feel like I should feel bad, but I can't like
    someone who thought they're the only one that mattered
    While my heart got shattered like romantic road-kill
    My heart is all splattered; your ego got fatter
    I hope that you're flattered – you broke this down
    The best thing that you never had

    Oh, it's great singing that at the top of your lungs!

    Another that helped me to look back on my previous relationship with fond memories rather than sadness and regret was Without You by Hinder.

    Without you, I live it up a little more every day
    Without you, I'm seeing myself so differently
    I didn't want to believe it then
    But it all worked out in the end
    When I watched you walk away,
    I never thought I'd say I'm fine
    Without you

    It's about learning to appreciate that you had the relationship, but it's time to focus on your own happiness, and truly loving yourself. It allowed me to let go of all of the negativity I began to harbour for him and our relationship that was cut short.

    A couple of others that I enjoyed were Over You by Daughtry, and for an empowering song, listen to Breakdown by Seether. :)

  24. Rissa May 24, 2010 at 10:59 am #

    Smile by Nat King Cole… It came on the ipod right when I needed it during a long car trip

    Smile though your heart is aching
    Smile even though it's breaking
    When there are clouds in the sky, you'll get by
    If you smile through your fear and sorrow
    Smile and maybe tomorrow
    You'll see the sun come shining through for you

    Light up your face with gladness
    Hide every trace of sadness
    Although a tear may be ever so near
    That's the time you must keep on trying
    Smile, what's the use of crying?
    You'll find that life is still worthwhile
    If you just smile

    <instrumental interlude>

    That's the time you must keep on trying
    Smile, what's the use of crying?
    You'll find that life is still worthwhile
    If you just smile

    Good Times by Marcy Playground

    When life has got you down and everything about it makes you blue pick up keep moving on 'cause that's the very best thing you can do

    To say “Hey Woz whatever this is, it's alright”
    “Hey John, this too shall pass, it's a season in your life”

    Well I'm kickin' down the back streets, and people want to break my stride, everyone has a time when they lose their pride, but when I'm old and in my chair thinking back, looking back, what will I remember? All the good times…they were alright.

    When every morning brings a struggle just to get up from the bed, say “Hey man, whatever this is, it's alright”, “Hey man this too shall pass, it's a lesson in your life”

    Well I'm kickin' down the back streets, people want to break my stride, everyone has a time when they lose their pride, but when I'm old and in my chair thinking back, looking back, what will I remember? All the good times…they were alright.

  25. Telina June 1, 2010 at 6:20 am #

    Here are a few great breakup songs that I thought would be uplifting:

    Over You-Daughtry
    Let It Go-Cavo
    I Look So Good (without you)-Jessie James
    Walking Away-Johnny Lang
    Best Days of Your Life-Kellie Pickler
    Better In Time-Leona Lewis
    Someday-Mariah Carey
    I Can't Be Bothered-Miranda Lambert
    Love's Looking for You-Miranda Lambert
    These Hard Times-NeedToBreathe
    Girlfriend-Pebbles
    How Was I to Know-Reba McEntire
    Someday-Robb Thomas
    Rise Above This-Seether
    Nah!-Shania Twain
    Hit the Freeway-Toni Braxton

  26. Stella October 7, 2010 at 10:59 pm #

    Heya… I think “Yes” by Mcalmont and Butler is pretty feel good, good song, seems to fit…

    “Yes I do feel better, yes I do, I feel alright, I feel well enough to tell you what you can do, with what you've got to offer…”

    Or “Feeling Good” by MIchael Buble… bloody awesome song ;) xx

  27. fairytalegonebad October 20, 2010 at 12:08 am #

    There are millions of sad breakup songs, but my favorite empowering ones are:
    1. Free as a bird – Beatles (just to remind me that although i broke up, i'm free again and that's a good thing!)
    2. You'll see – Madonna (motivating…)
    3. Good riddance – Green Day (when you come to the moment you realise that you broke up and decide to let your ex, and yourself, free and take your own paths. Really healing song, it helps me everytime i hear it)
    4. You oughta know – Alanis Morissette (for the first angry period..)
    5. Mmmbop – Hanson (this ones reminds me of my teenage years! This part of the song is the right thing to do:
    plant a seed
    plant a flower
    plant a rose
    you can plant any one of those
    keep up to find out which one grows
    it's a secret no one knows
    That's right! We must keep planting!

  28. Dumpee_Guy November 5, 2010 at 11:28 am #

    This might sound weird, but most of the songs here (except for Everybody Hurts) just make me feel bad. However, I found incredible comfort listening to All Saints – Never Ever. “Now I'm just waiting, 'cause I heard that this feeling won't last that long.”

  29. Muscletee00 November 9, 2010 at 7:41 am #

    been over a month of sleepless nights and embarrassing myself crying in front of people…but it does help to know that so many people go through the same thing…i guess all girls cheat…these songs do help some

  30. polina November 27, 2011 at 6:35 pm #

    i wanna also add two songs to this list. no, three songs. 
    1. Uriah Heep-Free Mу
    2. Uriah Heep – Love or nothing
    3. A-ha – Forvere not yours

  31. tv2012 August 7, 2012 at 4:19 am #

    I think two of the best songs that have helped me through this recently have been wide awake by katy perry and fighter by christina aguilera. For those that listen to spanish music Corre by Jesse y Joy is also a great one.

  32. Russell August 31, 2012 at 5:00 pm #

    Part of Me- Katy Perry
    Stronger- Kelly Clarkson

    Awesome songs..they help me get through when I’m having a bad day..

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