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12 Uplifting Quotes About Moving On After A Break Up

The reason why you are reading this article full of quotes about moving on after a break up is probably because you’ve experienced a painful break up and you feel the need to move on, but – as often in life – this is easier said than done.

The hardest step in the arduous journey of break up recovery is this one painful decision to finally let go. It’s this single decision that means the difference between learning form this devastating experience or dwelling upon the negative for a long time, risking that this whole process might happen again in your future relationships.

The difficult part about moving on after a break up is that it takes a conscious decision.

It’s so much easier to hold on to the known, the hope that they will come back, rather than to find yourself cut off from your comfort zone.

Moving on, and letting go is exactly that – going out into the unknown, alone, without the one you used to love by your side.

Before you can take this important step, it helps if you are fed up back to the teeth with being powerless, dependent and so helpless about what is happening to you. This will give you the strength to take action, and this will to get a huge weight lifted off your shoulders.

Will it be easy after that?

No. But you will have made a major leap towards independence and healing.

The following quotes about moving on after a break up can help you with that step.

If you are a regular reader, you will notice that we’ve had some articles with uplifting quotes before, but none so far about moving on after a break up.

So, enjoy.

12 Uplifting Quotes About Moving On After A Break Up:

  1. “Moving on, is a simple thing, what it leaves behind is hard.”
    -Dave Mustaine

  2. This is from the song “A Tout Le Monde” by Megadeth.

  3. “Watching you walk out of my life does not make me bitter or cynical about love. But rather makes me realize that if I wanted so much to be with the wrong person how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along.”

  4. This quote addresses one of the biggest dangers of suffering from a break up: not believing in love anymore and shutting down your heart.

    This is wrong, because there is always someone out there better than your Ex, someone who will meet your needs perfectly. Whether we believe it or not.

    Turning away from love out of fear means saying “NO” to life.

  5. “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving”
    -Albert Einstein

  6. Passivity means death, activity is living. If you are passive, you allow negative things to come into your life.

    Keep riding the bike.

  7. “You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore”
    -Christopher Columbus

  8. This is one of my favorites.

    In order to grow and to experience, one must leave his comfort-zone. Very often this means that you have to do what you are afraid of in order to find what you didn’t know you were looking for. This takes a lot of courage.

    Ask yourself, who would Columbus be today if he hadn’t had the courage to lose sight of the shore back then?

  9. “Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart”
    -Washington Irving

  10. Love is like positive energy, and like energy is never lost in this universe.  It only changes it’s form, and so does love.

    Love is a positive choice, and love always attracts more love. This is a fact. (Now I sound like Deepak Chopra).

  11. “When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us”
    -Alexander Graham Bell

  12. This is so true.

    We often focus and dwell too long upon negative events in our lives, the “whys” and “what ifs”, that we don’t allow new positive things to come into our lives.

    We have to open our eyes and say “YES” to life more often.

  13. “I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good as new. What is broken is broken, and I’d rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it and see the broken pieces as long as I lived”
    -Margaret Mitchell

  14. Margaret Mitchell wrote Gone With The Wind.

    “What is broken is broken”.  This is often so hard to accept and yet so true.

  15. “The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can’t go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.”

  16. All experiences, be they positive or negative, define who we are as a person. You can’t carry your unfinished past with you if you want to grow. Especially when entering a new relationship.  You need to have gotten over past negative experiences. If you haven’t, then chances are that they will bite you in the lower back eventually.

  17. “We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”
    -E.M. Forster

  18. One of the hardest things to do after a break up is to let go of the bright future that you’ve planned out together.

  19. “Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”
    -Deborah Reber

  20. We don’t have any control over our Exes. If they want to leave, we have no power to hold them back. All we can do is to accept, let go, heal and aspire to be a better person.

  21. “Letting go has never been easy, but holding on can be as difficult. Yet strength is measured not by holding on, but by letting go.”
    -Len Santos

  22. What is easier, holding on or letting go?

  23. “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
    -Eleanor Roosevelt

This is the only way to overcome fears: first by doing and facing what you fear and then by gaining the confidence that no matter what comes your way, you can handle it!

I hope you’ve enjoyed the 12 quotes about moving on after a break up and that you’ve found some inspiration and help to do the most vital step in your recovery process – to let go and move on.

Your friend,
Eddie Corbano

(Photograph is a courtesy of Anna Gay)

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124 Responses to 12 Uplifting Quotes About Moving On After A Break Up

  1. Gary November 11, 2013 at 3:24 am #

    My bestfriend/girlfriend broke up with me because of my anger outburst due to stress, after saying sorry to her after the tenth time she was angry told me to lose her number and f off….I decided to get anger management classes because i knew i had a problem, hoping she would come back to me, we got to talk after a couple of weeks and she said she did forgive me but that she was moving on because i should have treated her better and she deserved better…that right there was a hit to my heart, felt so bad and i love her and miss her, so i begged and begged and it was still no….i finally asked her…(do u really want me to let go?)….she paused and said i think so….i said ok and said take care and hung up peacefully. A month later after no communication what so ever, thought she would never talk to me again,….she text me and said she was thinking of me and wanted to see how i was, i said i was ok all she said was GREAT! and that’s it, does it mean she wants me back? if she really hated me she wouldn’t text me at all, i think she misses me but without saying it? should i try to talk to her and slowly try to win her back or should i just leave her alone and keep letting her go. please help me it hurts

    • Carmie November 23, 2013 at 4:46 am #

      Hi Gary!
      I’m sorry to hear about your break up 🙁 It’s never easy, especially when you’re not the one to end things. Honestly I think that she of course must miss you! You probably shared a lot with one another, so letting go completely is hard for both parties. However, do not get your hopes up. For as hard as it is to admit it, she wants to move on. So let her. And let yourself move on also. I know this may sound cliche, but what you need to do now more than anything is focus on YOU. Work on yourself, build yourself up again. Remember who you are completely stripped of anyone else. If you keep re-playing in your head the scenario where she will possibly change her mind and come back, you will only waste your time, energy, and will be hurt when each day goes by, and she is still not back, you know what I mean?

      I am speaking from experience, and from going through similar things right now. I have to remind myself constantly that I deserve happiness, and if this is making me miserable, I need to move on from it too.

      Keep yourself busy, do things that make you happy. Work on moving on. 🙂 You can do it, and you deserve it!! 🙂 Best of luck to you, and big hugs!!! 🙂

  2. Nancy December 30, 2013 at 5:03 pm #

    Hi i just broke up with my gf of two yrs it had been an on and off relationship, we always had problems. This time i was the one who messed up and lost her trust, she told me that she got tired like she never though she would. At this point i know that without trust theres no relationahip, i tried showing her tried to get her trust back but in her mind even a guy friend she automatically though that i had something with him. I never cheated i lied about talking to a guy to avoid problems but it was my fault. Now im stuck here wanting to talk to her. I just need some advice a way to handle all this.

  3. Leigh January 29, 2014 at 7:06 am #

    I just need to get this out in the open, I met this man on a dating site we talked for several weeks and wow I was totally In love with this guy and he was me we clicked in so many ways, I honestly thought I would marry him eventually, he lives in another town and so stayed at mine, loved his company I couldn’t be anymore happier but as time move on I was always paying for food bills, he doesn’t work and is seeking employment he gets very little money to live on, he has children from 2 previous relationships, two he doesn’t see, and the other 2 children he sees, his ex gf has been a big problem from day one, making out she’s slept with him constantly putting doubt in my mind calling me names etc, now I took on my partner knowing he had children and I was fine with it as long as everything was dealt with between them both she hadn’t moved on and was very Jealous, he assured me he was over her and moved on long time before but she never settled with any properly after their split, anyway me and him trying to have a life together, while still trying to have his children every 2 weeks. Has been very stressful coping with her constant nastiness and threats, so me and my partner would argue over her and to be honest I lost trust in him, he wouldn’t contribute to helping me with food bills etc never took me out for a meal or done anything special as time went on u tried saying I’m not happy with the money side of things and the fact his ex gf kept bothering us he wouldn’t go back to his flat as was quite far and he never had transport to money to get over here to me, which meant I would have to travel costing me all the time, plus I found it difficult him being away while his ex around, I have spent hours trying to reason with him he would fly off the handle never wanted to talk about helping us or trying to find work, in the end I have become very frustrated hurt and let down that he can’t seem to do anything that helps us, he shuts off ignores me I feel so frustrated that I can’t even speak to him anymore, causes me stress and worry and when things do get bad between us through me trying to calmly speak to him and he reacts nasty and drinks this only happens after a fight, he’s already been in trouble with police after smashing my garden up and scratching my car when I tried leaving him but I only do this to make him realise what he’s got to do to make things better for us, comfort me assure me and get a job and sort out having his kids without the ex gf making things hard for us, I am anxious stressed and have cried almost everyday, I adored him more then I ever have anyone, and as time gone on I have lost respect for him, I 33 and he’s 31″ just feels like he wants to stay in the situation he’s in, he was going to move to my town get work and have life with me while still seeing his kids, but none of that happened he has a cold damp flat and now he’s gone back to his place I have finished things between us, he had his children and got paid that day and just went without trying to resolve things between us, was to easy, no fight for me after all this time I have supported him spent money I didn’t have in keeping him, ran him around everywhere and took constant grief off his ex, I said its over hoping he would fight for me, he’s messaged me a couple times on fb I have changed my number, I just hoped he would stand up be a man and help us a little appreciate what I do for him, things have gone quiet now and ok I wanted to up punish him but only to wake him up, and it’s just proved he just can’t be bothered to deal with anything or resolve things with me, I feel deeply hurt that he hasn’t tried fighting for me or realising where he’s gone wrong, I won’t go chasing him, I feel like I want to but fear he’s either up to no good with someone, or he’s just sat waiting for me to come to him, if I try contacting him he won’t learn anything, am I being horrible, I feel bad that I have just gone, we spent everyday together and I feel so shit now but I gotta put my foot down and show I won’t have him treat me like this, all I want is comforting to be listened to and my feelings understood.. I guess him not trying to fight for us proves he never was bothered I was just around to make his life better. Really upsets me that I have been treated like a fool and I just carried him done everything for him and no respect or appreciation for putting up with the upset caused by his ex, and the lack of emotional support or appreciation for me helping him giving him a plat form to better his life, in return I got nothing, well I’m sat here down feel horrible. He’s just took the piss and I allowed it I just wish he would get a grip do something to show he cares, texts don’t work for me anymore begging telling me how much he loves me I’ve took him back couple times now but nothing changes, I am then left feeling frustrated again, I have gone this time, and I’m not budging untill he realises where things are difficult and support me better, if I hear nothing then that’s my cue to continue being on my own, ok when I met him he didn’t have much going for him but I see preternatural he just needed a women to take care and love him but turned out he’s happy to live in the misery he was in when I met him, and don’t wanna do anything to better his life. People say he’s never gonna change he’s a low life who has no motivation ambition to get better, I don’t feel like that I obviously care for him a great deal and just want to see him happy and standing up to his responsibilities. Very upsetting that I have just been mugged off, I thought he was the love of my life we both was so in love and now it’s gone, and I have no more fight in me, I have gone over things a million times and nothing changed, when we get on its fantastic he was perfect as a lover at first amazing, what a waste of time of it

    • Thelilly March 8, 2014 at 1:16 am #

      Leigh, are you for real? Seriously, read back your message as if you were reading it from the outside, you haven’t lost anything you’ve escaped a pile of shit! Stop harping on about that twat and go find someone else!

      • Sophia June 28, 2014 at 7:24 am #

        You need to get rid of this man Hun ! He is using you and is a coward at that ! he should stand up to his ex if he cares for you and tell her to shut up and back off ! Not only this he should be helping you ! Tye distance and silence he does when you have to talk to him I can relate to as that is what my ex did to me every time I had a legit relationship problem he gets mad and pulls away…I know it hurts and is frustrating…but hun he is just immature and selfish and not ready for any relationship ! Move on for sure even if it hurts ! Be strong and respect yourself enough to not let this man walk all over you and play with your head and heart ! Sound like his ex and him and a perfect nutty match ! Let them have each other ! You deserve so much better trust me !!! Don’t waste your life on him ! I am sure in this life you have been through tough times before and got through them some how ? You can do it again ! Start believing in yourself for a change ! Your with it !

    • Colette May 1, 2014 at 5:57 pm #


      A guy with 4 kids, one nasty ex, no job, and no money … Hello? what did you see in this guy? he is a loserrrrrr , come on!

  4. gie March 12, 2014 at 6:40 am #

    I met this man through on line dating site… we met and can’t help but notice his energy.Later on, he told me that he just got separated from his wife, told him she had affair. To make the story short our relationship is more like saving him from his misery. When he felt a lot more better himself as I looked after him. He starts to flaunt himself more and adding women on fb page. I told him from the very start that I have insecurity issues. Why add women when he knows we are in a relationship. Things got nasty. I argued but he always justify what he do is right.
    He never apologized but continue that he was stupid not to see it would affect the relationship. I didn’t bother to reply his emails anymore. It is just I felt like he never value what we had. And even it is hurting me right now, I can only pray this will pass. I just don’t understand no matter how I try some people are not sensitive enough to know they offend and hurt other people.

    • Sophia June 28, 2014 at 7:25 am #

      He is selfish and immature !

  5. Alyshia May 9, 2014 at 9:07 pm #

    My name is Alyshia. I am currently 16 years old, I know I am young and I am not experienced wnough to know love yet. But I have dared this guy name Damien for 3 years. We broke February 13th. Because he decided to get back with his ex. He has two kids by her. Damien is nothing but 17. I am hurt my 3 years with this jerk and he ups and leaves me for someone who trashed mom’s house and killed his animals and threatened to kill his kids. He use to beat on me that’s why we broke it off. When I called the police on him he swore he would kill me. I have been hiding behind the shadows ever since. But I am better now. we need to stop letting these men hurt us. We CAN DO SO MUCH BETTER!!

  6. CONCERN July 7, 2014 at 12:46 am #

    Alyshia you are very young– you have low self esteem that is why you look for men like that. You need to respect and let men respect you–problem with young girls today is they want to have joy of sex and confuse love for lust and I think that is what happened to you. In life you never let someone put you down nor degrade you. You go forward and learn and become strong. Love is hard to find—you need to become friends first and look at the person that has same kind of goals as you do. Anyone who has killed animals and made threats is not one you want to be with. He will only bring you down. Uplift yourself and just study for now and forget about men for right now. There is enough time for a real relationship in the future.

  7. Eddy August 5, 2014 at 10:49 pm #

    Went to that site mainly to uplift my clouded brain and it kinda help me to know that everyone should have second chance, that’s what all those quotes are about
    Been with my girlfriend n later wife for 14 years and she cheated on me as I wasn’t given her desired affection, separated now but still heartbroken n I’m trying to clear my mind
    Is there is a hope for me too? Hope so 🙂

  8. angila September 28, 2014 at 9:31 am #

    hey i didn’t had a breakup but his daily drinking habit makes me a great problem, even there’s not a single day we didn’t have misunderstand in my relationship when he is drunk, just i said to him to avoid this habit slowly but what happen don’t know he told me that if u think i m addicted then live your life in your own way i wont disturb you. even told me i m imperfect for u. what to do i m born like that. i tried a lot to convince him. i even said i m sorry i wont ever tell u like that but what is in his mind don’t know. i called him many times,even text him many times but didn’t got any reply, i really love him, i had ex boyfriend, he knows about it but even after 5 months in a relation ship with my current boyfriend he still makes me ashamed while talking about past, what should i do and whenever i tell him tht i really want to go this place then he usually tells me that there are your guys friends you can go with them , i really feel too bad, even when i join him with his friends, he leaves me alone and jst talk with their friends and i should follow him…what should i do?????

    • Charli November 29, 2014 at 2:06 am #

      Leave he is a time waste there are many caring guys , be bold and dump him with his sorry drinking ass

  9. Nadie. October 3, 2014 at 7:33 am #

    Okay hey… I’m Mhvish. 18 on the go. Hmmm… here is something I wanna share.. I like a guy no no wait I love him. He is my uncle (mom’s cousin). But he is young like he is 21. I fell for him like love at first sight. He and his family had come over to my house when I was 13. Idk what had happened to me I couldn’t take my eyes off him. I dint know his name, was afraid to ask anyone at home. I asked my sis his name. I got his name.. I wanted to talk to him somehow.. I wanted his fb name when I was 15 I finally got his fb name. I checked on to his profile and came to know he was dating a gal.. I wasn’t honestly broken. Because all the while I used to think maybe I’m jus attracted to him.. I always tthot would move on.. but then no I couldn’t. I wanted to talk to him know him.. it wasn’t ofc possible for me to confess my feelings for him becoz he is my uncle. So… Jus to know him I added him on bbm but with a diff pic becoz he wouldn’t ofc accept a niece liking him nor would he talk to me. He dint show any interest in me. Not even a bit. I meet him at a weeding my eyes were all still on him. His brother noticed me staring at him he told the guy.. when the guy (my crush) looked at me he jus made a nasty expression. I was hurt I was totally broken. I told myself I shud move on. And honestly this guy drinks, smokes and does a lot of shit. I had told my cousins abt him and they knew him they all told me he isn’t a good guy I’m ruining my self for him. I actually wwent all insane started cutting, taking pills and shit.. This guy is no good.. but I love him. I love him like crazy. I’ve his number on WhatsApp I check this status, pics daily. He really seems like a guy who won’t understand me. This family is no good either. They are really too proudy and shit. I honestly hate his family.. I wanna move on for 2 reasons:
    1. Becoz he is my uncle, and it’s not acceptable.
    2. Becoz he isn’t a good guy at all. He is a play boy.
    I jus want someone helping me out of this pls. I’m dying everyday for him. I can’t see myself hurting, crying for him. He clearly doesn’t give a fuck on my face.. pls help me.
    It’s been 5 years since I’ve kept this thing in my heart.. and I can’t move on…

  10. Viridiana October 5, 2014 at 8:32 am #

    My ex just dumped me a month ago and I’ve been completely depressed ever since then! I feel like my heart has literally been ripped apart! I’m only 21 yrs old but we had been together since we were 12! Next month would’ve been our 9 yr anniversary 🙁 of course I know it was my fault because I treated him badly in high school and broke his heart then and he never got over it. Yet he decided to give me another chance and we’d never been happier we were going strong for a couple years, living together, got a dog together, and even got engaged!!!! Then suddenly as soon as I graduated college and moved back to our hometown 2 weeks later he just dumps me out of no where!! We were perfectly fine, I thought things were going great! We planned on getting married and even picked our future kids names. We were insepereable and he said he couldn’t live without me and never wanted to spend a minute apart then a week later he calls it off, I was so blind sided and all he told me was that it was because he just never got over the fact that I broke his heart in high school and doesn’t think it’s fair to keep the relationship going if he couldn’t get past it. I blame myself for it and I feel like it’s karma but I just didn’t expect it at all and that’s what hurts the most, thinking things were so perfect and planning a future with him. He was my first love and I don’t think I’ll ever find someone like him, I love him with all my heart and now it’s over and I hate myself for it!!

    • Hannah January 2, 2015 at 9:48 pm #

      Hey Viridiana, so sorry to hear about your break-up 🙁 that is a really heart-wounding situation. Out of the blue hits are the hardest to take, but maybe you could look at this as a blessing in disguise – you can always learn from your mistakes of the past, I think it goes without saying that you would never dream of doing whatever you did to hurt your ex to another partner again. And relationships are never wasted time; sure it can be painful to reminisce on the happy times of the past and it can be easy to hate yourself over everything you did wrong, but hey, just because you made a mistake doesn’t mean you should punish yourself forever, right?

      If you can learn from your ‘mistakes’, as they were, then it wasn’t a painful waste of time. I’m sure everything will work out for you in the end and your perfect man will be out the somewhere just waiting for you to spill hot coffee over him someday or some other cheesy meet-cute.

      You will love again, and I think it’s more enriching to have the ability to love a number of people than just love one person your whole life. It’s not over yet, as you said, you’re only 21 🙂 Your life is probably only just beginning.

      Don’t look back in anger on your relationship – it is what it is, and maybe some day it will all make sense and it will definitely someday be less painful. Sorry for the late reply I realise you commented around 3 months ago but love and hugs and peace, stay strong sister x

    • Hannah January 2, 2015 at 9:57 pm #

      Btw –

      this is an awesome page with a few good starting points for lifting yourself out of a rut. Sure some of them are quite similar and not all of them are everyone’s cup of tea, but I reckon there would be a couple of exercises on there to help you release your pain and move on.

      Love and hugs and peace x

  11. Bobby's December 13, 2014 at 5:09 am #

    Was dating this girl for 4 months. She was in a 4 year relationship and married 8 months of it. I meet her a week after they split up.
    We hard an amazing 4 months together. We both had fun enjoyed each other. attraction was there sex was good.

    A week ago she decided we needed a break and some space. Couple days after breakup we had sex. Hung out a few days now its only every other day. Can feel it all dwindling down.

    She also lied about going to the movies with her ex and they went out for drinks as well. She said I would of good mad if she told the truth. There would be 1 year anniversary is in 2 days I feel that has something to do with it.

    I’m going to start moving on. I know she’s going to call eventually and say hey and even want too hang out. But I guess I should say no.

    • Hannah January 2, 2015 at 9:40 pm #

      Also Bobby’s – your situation sounds really tough too 🙁

      My guess is she’s having second thoughts about the ex and that (no offence) you were something of a rebound after her marriage ending.

      Same advice as to ShowOff – if she’s not 100% perfect, lose her. Life is too short to waste your time with the wrong person, your soulmate will be out there somewhere. Just stay strong and try not to lapse back into comfortable habits i.e. hanging out together too much, sleeping together – it will only cloud your inner judgement. Trust your instincts, she’s probably confused about what she wants as well.

  12. showOff January 2, 2015 at 7:03 am #

    Hey, I just needed some place to place my case cause its seriously hurting me. I had an affair with a girl. We were actually cheating her boyfriend who was abroad. We slowly started being real close like spending days together. She did not break up because her guy was douche and always threatened to suicide and once even cut his veins. We quietly went on. We were great. Laugh, fun, affair love kisses. She was my best relationship too date. We started having sex more frequently. Actually she never had sex and I was her first. But one day i found out that she still used to sex chat with her boyfriend, exchange nude pic and all. I felt so much cheated by that and foul mouthed her and leave her. i just want to get off her and move on. My one side of heart says I was wrong to get between them in first place, my other side says she was not totally worth it such a b*tch. and no matter what there’s still so much of awesome memory thats haunting me. This is making me go crazy as hell. Somebody any suggestion what to do in these situation. Cause i am literally going mad thinking about different stuffs.

    • Hannah January 2, 2015 at 9:37 pm #

      ShowOff – you probably need to just forget about this girl; as amazing as she may seem and as much as you two might click, she’s probably not worth your time. The fact that she has been unfaithful already to her boyfriend and then double-crossed you behind your back doesn’t give her much of a reputation for being a loyal girlfriend.

      It completely sucks losing someone you have a connection with – 3 months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of nearly 2 years. I miss him every day but sometimes your heart rules your head and in the end you’ve gotta just look after yourself. We weren’t right for each other so that’s my justification and I’m sticking to it. Your girl sounds like an unfaithful ho (no offence) so that can be your justification – whatever your justification is, remind yourself of this when you start missing her/wanting to text her. Also trust your instincts – the ones that told you to leave her in the first place.

      Don’t lose sleep over someone who isn’t 100% perfect – she’ll be out there somewhere.

  13. Glenn January 6, 2015 at 5:35 am #

    It’s really hard…but thank you for posting these. Pray for me as I will for anyone that is dealing with anything similar to what I’m dealing with.

    Thanks again

  14. Fiona January 12, 2015 at 11:34 pm #

    Hi everyone. I wanted to share my story with you all. Today is exactly 1 month (31 days) since my boyfriend and I broke up. We had been together for 4 years but over the last year, things were getting worse. I kept trying to break of the relationship but we always seemed to ‘make up’. Everything would be ok for a few months and then the problems would start again. I guess I was naïve. I thought it would sort itself out. Well, I finally made the decision to end it. It has been really hard but I have had no contact for 28 days. I am trying to keep myself busy with work and spend time with my friends. My family live in another country so I don’t have the same contact with them as I do my friends. I understand everything Eddie says but for some reason, although my head is telling me I have done the right thing, my heart is telling me I have made a mistake. How crazy is that?
    I do feel, however, that every day I feel a little more confident. I have started doing the things I used to do before I allowed him to change my life. I am not innocent, the blame is not all on him. I have to forgive him and also forgive myself for the mistakes I made. But, I also have to move forward. My life and my happiness must come first. If I sound selfish, then I apologise but we have all wasted energy on something that has drained us emotionally, physically and maybe spiritually.
    I found a great quote on the internet today;
    ‘You are only limited by your imagination’.
    I still find it hard sometimes, I hear a song or see something that reminds me of him. However, I know that I deserve better.
    I hope this may help some of you.
    Thank you for reading this.

    • Godislove January 14, 2015 at 12:15 am #

      Dear Fiona .

      I hear you , I was in the same boat , I was in a relationship for over 4 yrs and we kept breaking up and make up, until finally I had enough and broke it off 2 months ago. I was like you , I thought that the problem will work itself out. It drains you , it takes you on a emocional roller coaster until you feel you had enough. My problem was that at 2 yrs of been together I ask him if he wanted to marry me – he kept stalling and stalling , until I told him 2 months ago , to get me a ring or I will walk out- he decided not to get a ring, so I walked out .

      • Fiona January 21, 2015 at 12:11 am #

        Thank you for your reply Godislove. I agree completely with you. I have gained so much confidence although it has only been 6 weeks. I find myself thinking about him less and less. I have had the confidence to start a class, something I wouldn’t have done before because I was too scared. I do still feel sad sometimes about how it ended but I know that we had no future together. We have had no contact for over a month now and I now don’t feel like I want to make contact with him. Before I had to struggle with myself to stop trying to text or e-mail him. It will take me more time to feel I am completely over the relationship but I think I am making good progress.
        If we are strong and believe in ourselves, we can achieve anything.

  15. brian February 6, 2015 at 12:40 pm #

    i have been with my girl friend and today we broke up since she has been flirting with other men on facebook and dating sites, i am so low i need help.

    • glenzel February 22, 2015 at 10:56 am #

      hi brian,

      cheer up!!i’m not really good in this….pain will always be there but you need to make decisions. Decision to move on..decision to forgive her…and decision to smile again..

  16. lei March 23, 2015 at 9:43 am #

    I had a friend and I love him so much. I went up to this page cause i’m looking for quotes to help him move on with his ex who happens to be a friend of mine also. It kills me to do these things cause deep inside im wishing itwas me he loves. Still hoping for the day he’ll notice my worth. I dont want to ruin our friendship so here i am secretly hurt. Thanks for having such inspiring collection of quotes. These i hope will work and help him move on real soon. I miss talking to my best friend.

  17. jessie March 24, 2015 at 6:22 pm #

    I have been in a relationship for tje last five years and now my partner left me for someone else and hurting and somehow cannot figure out what went wrong because we wrre all happy. am heartbroken and am confused.

  18. Harriet April 5, 2015 at 11:02 pm #

    Well how to start, me and my husband broke up around 8 months ago after a 6 year relationship and married 2 years. He has no real reason for walking out as just keeps blaming it on my family. Which to me isn’t a good enough excuse. We have a 2 year old son together too which complicates things even more. He has been flittering back and forth ever since. But this time I really don’t want him back but I want my guard up as to me enough is enough. He can’t mess with mine or my sons head up any longer. He has nothing going for himself either as he’s early 30s and still living with family. What I want to know is, I know time is a great healer but I need to get through each day without hate, love or any other emotion. Especially as right now I’ve had enough as I deserve better than someone who can walk in and out of mine and my child’s life claiming he loves me then he doesn’t want a relationship but wants our family back them doesn’t want me! Any help welcome. Thank you x x

  19. Lisa May 16, 2015 at 6:09 pm #

    I dont really know where to begin…2 years ago I met up with a guy paul I used to go to school with we clicked instantly everything was perfect apart from the fact he was getting over a break up from a long term relationship but we got together anyway. I fell hook line and sinker and kept saying it was ok he was trying to get over his ex…after 6 months of this and a promised relationship he decided to go back to his ex leaving me heartbroken. ..i then picked up the pieces and over the next two years had a fling then got into a fairly serious relationship which ended after almost a year at the moment of breaking up paul came back into my life he’d broken up with his ex. I was pretty cut over my last relationship and very cautious we became Friends again and then at the beginning of this year we started to get a little more involved but I told him I needed to get over my ex before we had a proper relationship. .Paul said this was ok and he would wait for me to be ready. He then said we needed to look at things in June as a deadline for me to move the relationship forward…I started to fall in love with paul but stupidly held back because I was scared. .we were fine as usual then suddenly Paul pulled back.I eventually pinned him down by text and he said his feelings had gone and even though I told him I wanted a relationship he said it was to late…I was heartbroken….last night he agreed to see me as I deserved an explanation. ..he said his feelings had gone and he’d kissed another women when he was out…i asked for another chance but he said no he agreed that we get on really well and want the same things but his feelings were dead….he wants to be friends and stay in my life…I’m so upset and hurt and keep blaming myself for losing him. Thank you for listening x

  20. Marj June 5, 2015 at 10:01 pm #

    So um, hey. I’m so confused rn. I know what I need to do but, I can’t. So, here’s my story. Back when I was a kid, I have a cousin who told me he likes me and I also like him back. The mere fact that he’s my cousin, is already so wrong right? But, yeah. We were kids back then, so I let it pass. But, just this summer, we went to mom’s province for a reunion and stuff and I’m already 19, he’s 19 also. Eventually, we met at the reunion, we stayed in the province for a week or so. The weird thing is, the moment I saw him, my heart beat was so fast like I was going to get a heart attack or something. He gets really clingy. We exchanged numbers and everything and I found out he already has a girlfriend. We spent most of our time there, together. We were even sometimes teased by our other cousins like, we look cute together. But, they were just playing around because they know the thing we had in the past. But now, it’s weird because he keeps on texting and calling me and we call eachother babe. He says iloveyou, I say iloveyou back. I want to stop this non-sense but at the same time, I can’t. I get jealous of his girlfriend and he also gets jealous if I entertain suitors or even talk about my ex and stuff, his mood would easily go from happy to grumpy. I’m really confused on what to do. Right now, I stopped answering his calls and messages because I know it’s wrong. But, I don’t know if I can continue doing this because I miss him.

  21. broken July 13, 2015 at 2:11 pm #


    I dated this guy for almost 9 months. We met at varsity both from different town. We met through my friends. We immediately had a connection and at that time I had a boyfriend who was toxic and I couldn’t break up with. I told this guy that I had a boyfriend and I didn’t want to attached to until I let go of my boyfriend and he told me break with him until I was ready and I eventually broke it off with him. Although I don’t remember mentioning that to him. We started seriously dating after that and everything was good until I went back home. He started ignoring me and stuff and I also had problems at home with my parents. So I told him that I needed some time off seeing that he was occupied with other things. Then he suggested we break up. I explained what was happening then he said he understood. I guess at some point I fall in love with him. We got back together when we went back to school. Of course nothing was the same. He told me he didn’t invest in someone who was depressed, I had once told him that I had depression, but hour eventually agreed to be with me again and after getting back together things go worse he only wanted to be with me to have sex with me and he ignored me for weeks and days. I tried talking to him about but he would use not being sober as an excuse, so we couldn’t talk about things. Then he would ignore me or try to avoid talking when he was. Eventually my friends told me that we cheating on me, the whole time. I broke up with him. He started posting things about other girls on Facebook two days after I broke up with him. A week after he tried “fixing things” but I didn’t cave in. I switched universities due to other reasons but went back to the previous one to visit my friends I saw him then we slept together. A while after that I told him that he was the last person I slept with before that he said I was the last person too. I realised how much of a lair he was but I couldn’t really accept that I fall for his lies this whole time. I saw his inboxes where he texting how much he loved this other girl but I don’t remember him telling me that. He was even hitting on my best friend. I sometimes regret that maybe I didn’t show him that I really loved him or maybe he changed or something did

  22. agada ikeh August 17, 2015 at 7:59 am #

    i broke up wit ma girlfriend of 3yrs cos she saw in my whatssap chat wer i told a very loose girl in skul i love her more ,d experienc was so painful,i cried,begged,suffered,fell sick,but d surprising part of d whole saga was d fact dat she moved on too soon n i even went to spiritualist jst to see if i cld get back her love bt dey collectd my money yet nothing happened even as i type im stil hopin dat someday we could cum bak yet nothing has happened pls somebody advise me,im going mad

  23. sophie September 14, 2015 at 3:05 pm #

    hi jesse….the same thing happened with me. my bf left me for his ex when we were ready to settle. his family too knows about us but they preferred her more than me. letting go was hard but it is us who suffers not them. when they live a happy life, why not we ? why would we suffer for a coward like them.

  24. K October 6, 2015 at 11:11 am #

    Hi! So I broke up with my partner for 5years last February, there was no formal closure on our relationship. 2months ago we started talking again, calling each other with our old endearments and doing things like a couple would do. I told her i still love her and that letting go of the ager i have for her before made me realize that i still love her. I begged and begged for her to take me back and to love me again but she told me she has someone else. It hurts because its been 6months since our break up and she found someone new. I tried comitting suicide just to get her back, told her i would do everything, will love her more than the other one has to offer. I begged for her to love me again but she told me she can’t leave what she has now. It hurts to hear those words. I’m doing everything now just to win her back but she told me to stop. I dont know what to do, i just love her so much. I felt like im dying and not wanting to live my life.

  25. Batshitsane November 2, 2015 at 6:44 am #

    So…everything you’re not supposed to do, stalk, harass, beg, cry, threaten to commit suicide, revolve ones entire world around a person – is exactly how my ex-lover’s gf won him back and trashed *our* amazing connection. I’ve been struggling with this for a year and he just moved in with her. I’m so baffled and my fundamental belief on ‘how to be a mature person to win the respect of your partner’ and ‘how to be positive and have faith in positive karma’ is shattered! Anyone care to share any insight?

  26. Niko July 5, 2016 at 7:32 am #

    Firstly I would like to thank the kind people organising this page, I think it’s great that you take the time to offer all of us a shoulder to cry on.
    I too have recently been dumped, thrown away for what seems to me no apparent good reason, I am 39 and it’s not the first break up that I’ve had, but it still hurts like hell, it has been about 4 weeks since my girlfriend of almost two years dumped me, we never argued we never disagreed and we always had lots of laughs and fun together I can almost say I didn’t put a foot wrong in this relationship and reason been because of the lessons I have learned from previous past failed relationships, the one and only mistake that I did was I had received a phone call from overseas that a close family member had just been tragically killed and I totally freaked out panicked and immediately booked a plane ticket to make the funeral, and in my panic state after booking the ticket I texted my girlfriend to inform her of what had just happened and that I am leaving asap which was later on that same day, I didn’t receive a response which at the time it did seem a bit odd but I continued on with my organisation for going overseas, speaking to work packing a small suit case etc etc
    Anyway my girlfriend finally responded back to me just before I needed to board the plane, and her response was that she is sorry for the loss but she is very disappointed in me because I didn’t call her to tell her I’m leaving.
    Anyway I arrived at my destination 24hr later and try to establish some sort of communication with her ring and text she would not answer her phone but did text me saying that it’s over and to stop calling her, over the next two weeks I texted her maybe 4 times and every time she responded it over stop contacting me, and so now I have and it has been prob six weeks since this all started 01-june-16 and prob abt 4 weeks since last contact, it really hurts like hell and the last thing I wanted is to have another break up, maybe I’m cursed and not meant to be happy with someone, I’m trying really hard not to beat my self up about mainly because I really really was a great guy to her and treated her really good, and it hurts like hell and I want to see her and speak to her right now….

  27. Madara July 7, 2016 at 2:14 pm #

    My boyfriend dumped me.i am so sad of this.i really feel lost at the moment.He is a son of my uncle’s son’s wife.he is the son of that girls aunt.we met at the engagement,wedding,homecoming and at a funeral.he contacted me through one of my friends at school.actually i have not been much interested on boys.i often met boys at classes but i dont even look at them.he is the only person with whom i fall in love.i live in sri lanka.soon after we started our relationship he had to go to Australia to do his higher studies.he went.he called me and said that he loves me a lot.the thing he always said was not to lave him.he said that he can even die for me,me feels empty when i didnt talk to him,and that he will not live even for a second without me.i get tears into my eyes when i remember how sweet he was.i collected money to buy him a teddy bear and i bought.i gave him a t shirt,toys and notes and letters.i loved him in the maximum.he talked with girls but i was told not to talk with boys.i didnt go beyond his wishes.his parents knew about the relationship we had.i called them when he wanted me to do so.i loved his family.i loved the way he took care of his little sister and he loved his family.i loved those qualities of him.
    he losses his temper soon.he shouted at me for others matters but i kept on listening to them.cuz i didnt want him to get pressurized.he recently called me and said i love you a lot and that he will never leave me.on the last day he spoke good he repeated the same things.the day after he didn’t talk so good.and he sent me a msg saying that he cant be with me anymore.bcuz his cousins dont like him to date a girl who is related to his cousin sister.(they have got some problems)he then said that he found his life partner and that she doesnt annoy me like i did.i did my maximum for him.still i love him so much.i want to fix my heart now.:( i need your help)

    • khan September 24, 2016 at 9:08 am #

      forget this person and find a person who loves u because he can come beck but not with his pure heart.he will cheated on u and at that time u will compromise so this is the best time please move on.actually i suffered same way and my relation was 6 year old.we have got married to each other without shareing anyone because our faimly opposite to each other and my age 19 and his 18.please leave that person otherwise u will comprimse only and he will do same thing after sometime.

  28. Dee September 16, 2016 at 8:13 pm #

    hey.. too much love isnt good i think. i have been with man for 3yrs. he has been cheating on me and when i ask am beaten up or left. though it has been a break up and make up type of a relationship.but always have loved him and forgiven him. now we have a kid together 2 months old but he doesnt want anything to deal with me. so its after breaking up with me that i realized he has a galfriend who is 2months pregnant. i still love him. dont know what to do. please advice

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