The reason why you are reading this article full of quotes about moving on after a break up is probably because you’ve experienced a painful break up and you feel the need to move on, but – as often in life – this is easier said than done.
The hardest step in the arduous journey of break up recovery is this one painful decision to finally let go. It’s this single decision that means the difference between learning form this devastating experience or dwelling upon the negative for a long time, risking that this whole process might happen again in your future relationships.
The difficult part about moving on after a break up is that it takes a conscious decision.
It’s so much easier to hold on to the known, the hope that they will come back, rather than to find yourself cut off from your comfort zone.
Moving on, and letting go is exactly that – going out into the unknown, alone, without the one you used to love by your side.
Before you can take this important step, it helps if you are fed up back to the teeth with being powerless, dependent and so helpless about what is happening to you. This will give you the strength to take action, and this will to get a huge weight lifted off your shoulders.
Will it be easy after that?
No. But you will have made a major leap towards independence and healing.
The following quotes about moving on after a break up can help you with that step.
If you are a regular reader, you will notice that we’ve had some articles with uplifting quotes before, but none so far about moving on after a break up.
So, enjoy.
12 Uplifting Quotes About Moving On After A Break Up:
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“Moving on, is a simple thing, what it leaves behind is hard.”
-Dave Mustaine -
“Watching you walk out of my life does not make me bitter or cynical about love. But rather makes me realize that if I wanted so much to be with the wrong person how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along.”
-Anonymous -
“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving”
-Albert Einstein -
“You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore”
-Christopher Columbus -
“Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart”
-Washington Irving -
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us”
-Alexander Graham Bell -
“I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good as new. What is broken is broken, and I’d rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it and see the broken pieces as long as I lived”
-Margaret Mitchell -
“The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can’t go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.”
-Anonymous -
“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”
-E.M. Forster -
“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”
-Deborah Reber -
“Letting go has never been easy, but holding on can be as difficult. Yet strength is measured not by holding on, but by letting go.”
-Len Santos -
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
-Eleanor Roosevelt
This is from the song “A Tout Le Monde” by Megadeth.
This quote addresses one of the biggest dangers of suffering from a break up: not believing in love anymore and shutting down your heart.
This is wrong, because there is always someone out there better than your Ex, someone who will meet your needs perfectly. Whether we believe it or not.
Turning away from love out of fear means saying “NO” to life.
Passivity means death, activity is living. If you are passive, you allow negative things to come into your life.
Keep riding the bike.
This is one of my favorites.
In order to grow and to experience, one must leave his comfort-zone. Very often this means that you have to do what you are afraid of in order to find what you didn’t know you were looking for. This takes a lot of courage.
Ask yourself, who would Columbus be today if he hadn’t had the courage to lose sight of the shore back then?
Love is like positive energy, and like energy is never lost in this universe. It only changes it’s form, and so does love.
Love is a positive choice, and love always attracts more love. This is a fact. (Now I sound like Deepak Chopra).
This is so true.
We often focus and dwell too long upon negative events in our lives, the “whys” and “what ifs”, that we don’t allow new positive things to come into our lives.
We have to open our eyes and say “YES” to life more often.
Margaret Mitchell wrote Gone With The Wind.
“What is broken is broken”. This is often so hard to accept and yet so true.
All experiences, be they positive or negative, define who we are as a person. You can’t carry your unfinished past with you if you want to grow. Especially when entering a new relationship. You need to have gotten over past negative experiences. If you haven’t, then chances are that they will bite you in the lower back eventually.
One of the hardest things to do after a break up is to let go of the bright future that you’ve planned out together.
We don’t have any control over our Exes. If they want to leave, we have no power to hold them back. All we can do is to accept, let go, heal and aspire to be a better person.
What is easier, holding on or letting go?
This is the only way to overcome fears: first by doing and facing what you fear and then by gaining the confidence that no matter what comes your way, you can handle it!
I hope you’ve enjoyed the 12 quotes about moving on after a break up and that you’ve found some inspiration and help to do the most vital step in your recovery process – to let go and move on.
Your friend,
Eddie Corbano
(Photograph is a courtesy of Anna Gay)
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Hi, I split up with my girlfriend a week ago now and I’m just really struggling with that empty feeling I seem to get in my stomach! I so badly have the urge to want to contact her and try to work things out but this has conflict with my other thoughts like….I want her to come to me if she cares. It’s mad. I can’t stop thinking about where I went wrong. I try and think of the things that make me not want to be with her to try and ease my intense feelings of wanting her again but this is short lived. She so stubborn! She never could say sorry! I tried to love her but it didn’t change anything. Hurt and hurt. Even if she did love me and wanted to be with me she won’t ring me because she’s that prideful! I wish there was a pill you could take that would ease the pain antil you felt you didn’t need it anymore! Sorry if this comment seems mad and confusing! Love hurts!
I know what you are feeling. We’ve all been through the same thing. The only part that is hard is getting over someone. If someone loves you – REALLY loves you – they would not be able to stay one second away from you!! No matter how mad they are…
My husband and I fought one time, and I didn’t see him for 8 hours… He called me and we made a deal to never get that mad, and leave, ever again. And we didn’t. We were together for 10 years until he crashed in his jet… (Military fighter pilot) So, whenever it doesn’t work out with someone, I KNOW there is another person out there that would never let me suffer alone. Ever. Just keep moving on until you find the one that will fight for you.
It’s hard getting over a break up, and/or realizing it just won’t work out. I’m going through that right now… So, every time you think of this person, replace it with a thought of what you will do with the next person you go out with. Make mental plans, do anything, but don’t think of the other person. If you are religious, then every time you think of that person, start praying…. It’s hard at first, but if you let your mind control your thoughts, then it will drive you insane!! Read, or listen to “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle. He gives you the tools you need to help you take control of your thoughts. I didn’t realize how powerful my thoughts were, and how they were driving me nuts! One of the secrets is this….just stop and listen to the mind as it talks, and it will go away…
Get out, and get some exercise, too. I’m here if you need me. sleeplessn2010 at yahoo/dot/com
Good luck.
Teri
Hi. Last week the day after valitines day my gf told me out of no where she fell out of love with me . I was confused I asked when did this start. She said 6 months ! I was very sad confused upset , I didn’t know what was going out , anyways after she told me I was very upset and just said please leave. We didnt talk for about 5 days, those 5 days we didn’t talk she was going out until 5 am doing god knows what. I know she used me for a good 6 months, we dated for 2 years. It breaks my heart terribly that I always thought we would always be togather. I love her so deeply. I can’t get her off my mind. Even though there’s a good chance she left me for another guy I still care about her. I miss her. I feel like everything’s my fault . I can’t sleep, eat. I can’t be happy. I feel broken . Iv never been this depressed , I feel like it will never get better. I try talking to her going to her house, calling, texting. She just ignores me and it hurts me so much. I miss cuddeling and kissing her , I wish I could go back in time and just never stoped forgetting to show her love. She was my best friend my girlfriend I wanted to put a ring on her. She made me so happy. I don’t see how I can just fall out of love with her when she’s all I want. I really don’t know what to do with my self anymore.
Dont worry I went through this this past 10months. I know it doesnt feel good right now. but you must do your brest to move forward. I was with my x for 4 years, she betrayed me then had me secretly thrown out of our apt. I was homeless this past year. But Ive slowly been bouncing back. You have to fight and not give up on yourself. Some people are just that evil. Ive had to recongnize this and swallow this hard truth. Keep moving forward
Yeah, go through this website, it has helped me so much, you all have no idea!!! I was in so much pain but now with the help of Eddie and his website i see this completely different, as something positve, life is too short, lets enjoy it to the fullest!!! to those who left us; then i guess we have to thank them for having taught us a lesson in love and most importantly about ourselves.
I especially connect with #11; I used SO much energy trying to hold onto my relationship, denying my instincts for the sake of a temporary happiness. I was miserable, but because I loved him, I thought it was worth the pain. Now I know better; I’m doing a hell of a lot better without him, and now I won’t let anyone hold me back from what I want to do in life. This is such a helpful website, it is exactly what I needed to help me through my breakup.
I love all these quotes. Now, 11 months after the break up, I am feeling better than ever and believing every single quote. I sometimes wonder if true love is really out there, but I also have nothing to worry: I’m 20 years old, and have a whole life in front of me. Life is what you make of it, and I think that all the heart ache really has a purpose: Development, and also Rationality: remember that there are always worse things than what happend to you. If people can survive horrible things as death, diseases etc, you can survive a break up.
I especially love this one:
“Watching you walk out of my life does not make me bitter or cynical about love. But rather makes me realize that if I wanted so much to be with the wrong person how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along.”
At this point, I am excited to meet TRUE love, not the kinda love I had with my ex.
Thanks so much for these inspiring quotes!
Everything was ok in my relationship; I don’t why my instinct tells me that something was wrong, the difficult part is that he’s planning for our wedding and I can’t tell him that I’m no longer happy on the relationship.
It hurts me so much just to think that I’ll hurt him because I love him so much but I know and I can feel deep inside that I’m not the right girl for him, he just settle on me for convenience because he needs me in his business and I’m the one who is always available when he needs help as in when he needs care of a girlfriend. Really love hurts.
hey steven, i was in a very similar situation about 2 years ago. i know that empty feeling all too well and remember the months i spent struggling to figure out what went wrong.
hope you feel better!
@steven – Actually, their working on a pill now, that triggers the chemical reaction in the brain that cause love and heartache.
I know exactly how you feel though. The pain WILL go away, and depending on your level of mental control and positivity, it could die away in a matter of weeks( not saying that you’ll be healed in weeks, but the pain will become tolerable).
Theres this martial arts training called “the iron shirt” and what it is, is every 20 minutes(or how ever long the training calls for) someone will hit(and i mean hit) the trainee across the chest with a broom stick. The first time it’s done, The trainee would scream in pain, rolling on the ground, dreading the next time this has to happen. But when the trainer goes to hit him, in the last 20 mins of his training, the trainee doesn’t even budge. It’s not that it doesn’t cause pain, he just got used to it.
this analogy got me through the first couple weeks. After that i started to use positive affirmations to deal with the negative thoughts. When these negative feelings( which you can’t ignore, you have to face them and deal with them) got intense, which they will sometimes, i would saying things to myself like, ” I am stronger than these feelings” and it would give me the strength to carry on through my day, and then when the time was right, deal with those feelings and emotions.
Hi Kevin,
The “Iron Shirt” analogy is very interesting, thanks for sharing.
Eddie
these are all amazing and helpful;
thank you so much
I had to initiate a break up with an amazing women that I care for greatly. Although highly compatible in many ways, I just could not see her as “the one” for some reason and I could not commit. On the other hand, she was genuinely committed to me, totalling accepting of the many peculiarities and faults I have, and eager to support me in so many ways. I fully believe she was very much in love with me.
And I feel AWFUL. ABSOLUTELY AWFUL. I feel like I CAN’T just make the decision to move on…I feel guilty that I led her on…perpetuated the relationship unecessarily. And I feel that her emotion must somehow be repsected, acknowledged, redeemed…That it can’t just be there unreciprocated.
And now I feel distrustful. I see how someone can feel so strongly, give so much…and be willing to give so much, and then someone like me doesn’t give back. Is this what I face in my next relationship? And our relationship had great intensity (perhaps not consistency).How does one go from there – to someone else – or nothing? Can anyone count on loyalty? commitment? a feeling of long-term security? dare I say “forever”. How can breakups just be one day, together, the next day, no contact?
hard for me to process…
I am the woman in your story. I knew from the beginning that there was something wrong; that he never had that desperation for me that I had for him. I never had that wonderful feeling that he thought life would be unbearable without me…but there were times we had fun, or thoughtful conversations, a sometimes good physical relationship…but there were times he would become enraged for what seemed like no reason, when he criticized everything about me, when he was suspicious of every step I took. Yet I was shocked and so hurt when one morning, a regular morning like so many others, he walked through the house, didn't really even stop to look at me, and said, “We're not going to be together anymore. I'll always love you but I can't be with you.” What? Was I hearing things? But I knew but didn't want to know. I had gone many years without “true love,” and I placed every moment of my life in the belief that we would be together. I've done the most incredible things…called him until he had his numbers changed, emailed with messages ranging from pathetic attempts to make him jealous to spilling my heartfelt dreams for him to stare at coldly. I found myself getting charged with dwi on my way to meet him for the last time. I have been doing my job without any concern for what may happen if I were no longer employed. I neglected my house, my family, even my wonderful dog! (which he said I would have to give up if we were ever going to be together) I'll go along for a couple of months and think things are better and then something, anything, nothing will put his face in my sight and I become insane again…emailing, trying to find his number, etc. It's terrible. I hope as I've never hoped for anything to find the steps to take to destroy this sickness that is destroying my hopes, wishes, energy and has wasted so much of my time. Thank you.
elle,
Looks like u are wonderfull person and u gave everything waht man needed to feel himself special…but he does not deserve it….dont feel sad for such people..u will surely meet someone who is meant for u…but make ur life painfull by running after him…Its hard..but i guess,its for ur own good…
Honestly, not sure how you feel know after already one month after the break-up, but have you try to find out why you couldn't commit to that amazing woman? I don't understand people who say they love someone and don't fight to save the relationship unless they don't really love that person enough and hence they are liying to theirselves. Hope you have found the way to process this. It would be very helpful to hear about your moving on cause I'm somehow in the same situation as you are.
Best
@Neo CM –
Sadly, that’s how break ups could be. Perfect one day, broken the next. My husband and I had a magical day celebrating our 3rd wedding anniversary. The next day, everything went haywire!
I guess, we all have a lot to learn from our experiences. This is a time for self discovery, for taking a good hard look at ourselves, what we did wrong, how we could improve. That’s not to say that we should blame ourselves. Rather, realise that it takes two to tango and that one way or another, we contributed to the situation. We have to approach it from a positive perspective, learn from it and move on, without the blame and the guilt.
Most importantly, learn from it and use that knowledge in our next relationship… Then, the whole thing wasn’t such a waste…
Thank you, this page is helping me to try and see things from a more positive and hopeful perspective. I’m in a lot of pain right now but some of these quotes are going to help in the time to come.
i broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years because he decided to go on a trip with another woman (my friend as well) i felt it disrespected our relationship- It is not that I didn’t trust him- I just needed him to know that it would hurt me if he went- He disregarded my feelings and decided that this trip was more important than our relationship- ouch it hurts so bad- i think i am still in shock over it..love is supposed to be selfless right? i don’t think he was capable of loving me like i loved him..
@Tina –
Hang in there. We’re certainly not alone in all this. Reading all the blogs has been a guiding force in my healing process. Along with talking to family and friends. I’m even thinking of buying a break up book to make sure that I do everething right and that there’ll be no left over garbage that I could pass on to my next relationship (whenever that happens). I’m sure when I’m ready, the right one will come along.
PS, I love Quote no. 2
tina, there is a good book called its called a break-up because its broken, By Gerg behrendt and Amiira Rutola- Berhrnedt. Funny and you can relate. Good luck Im also in a moving on process, and I take it one day at atime. Coz its really hard.
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
I was reading a lot of your posts and feel that this holds true for a lot of us here. We try to mend what is already too broken to fix or we just hurt ourselves in the process because we want to make it work so bad that at the end we already hit that delete button a long time ago but we didnt realize it. Or we just didnt want to see it. I feel all of your pain and i can relate. But there is light at the end of it. Healing is a long and drawn process but its how we deal with it thats important. Its getting there and the road we traveled on that is worth it and gives substance to our lives…. day by day is all we can do. And if we have tried to mend something that is already broken place a bandaid over it and learn from it thats all… its ok to try and to think your head it will be ok if i do this or that, sometimes its just not going to happen. And that in itself is hard to live with. But we are here living and breathing, urging ourselves to get over it.. but dont rush it, take it as it comes. Its a part of life and we will be ok soon. Recovery like anything takes time and we need to do it right.. do what our heart feels. Remember our hearts are broken too and our mind is at a state where it can go one way or another, mind over matter. Be strong everyone, we are going through the storm but it will clear soon.
Thank you…this was helpful to me. Right now I feel terrible….words cant describe. It feels as if I’m going to hurt forever, but your words gives me a little hope that one day I will be ok again.
I broke up with my gf again yesterday after having done this for the first time three weeks ago. She is dealing with so much right now after being newly sober and out of rehab now for 90 days. I tthought I could forgive her for lying to me about her drug addiction, I thought I could move forward and support her and hold her hand while she attended 12 step meetings and making all of her newfound sober friends it just wasn’t working.
I saw where she was incapable of being honest with herself and my insecurities and hurt from the shock of finding out about her vicodin habit for two yrs is still very real.
She continue to lie about stupid little things regarding her job, but she doesn;t see where that makes me uneasy that someday again soon she will lie to me again.
I ache so bad because I felt I was so there for her and never loved any woman the way I loved her. I know she is toxic and in need of finding herself right now and I need to let go- but I am taking things so incredibly personal.
I am beside myself and no matter how many quotes I read here- I am still so sad.
KevinB
Let go of all your aggresive feelings towards her it will never help in healing your heart, my ex-husband lie to me in every single thing every single thing and who can lie to you about small things will never be honest even about their feelings, think of it in this way at least you did you best in this relation you were loyal and honest with her, but she missed up so she is the one who lost you as a person not you. Move on and remeber one thing what doesnt kill you just make you stronger.
Thank you Eddie, it's just what I needed today. My heart is calmer now and my spirit stronger. I will face the challenges life has for me in a positive way. I will heal and open myself like a flower to welcome love again into my life!
reading this has given me some insight on starting to let go of the pain. i am still hurt because i felt the eight year relationship i had was perfect. i didn't know that there were problems. but after reading some of the quotes i feel a little better.Thanks
I have to let go and move on, I know I have. It is tough cause I don't he loves me ( even though he dumped me) and I still love him. We have fighted for so many years to be together, we had a special relationship, I think I would never be so close to someone in my life. Besides I'm 35 and I have no strengh or time to start again to find a partner, being a mum is something I have already dismiss. Therefore the only thing I can do is forget, I just want to forget, I don't care if I'm not going to be happy anymore, honestly as far as I am healthy and my family is all right and I have a job that allows me being independent I will be fine. It sounds like I saying “NO” to life, well is not exactly that. I'm saying “fine” to life, I will live cause I like to live and sometimes you have fun and it is lovely to go to the beach and lie under the sun. But I am not really excited about this precious thing that everybody say is love and life. I find life extremely tough and not easy to handle at all. I can not understand why we human beings have to go through all this suffering, what's the point of it? We are going to die anyway.
Sorry for being so negative but that is what I feel. If I do ever feel again as happy as I used to be with him I will come back to this site and I will let you know. Best wishes.
thank you so much everyone. This website is really very helpful
Eddie,
First of all, I would say you writee sooo very beautifully. I have never enjoyed reading such articles before this. And I myself am going through a breakup and it is the hardest thing in my life that I have faced so far. It has been 3 months since my break up and I still have nightmares or so called dreams about my ex leaving me. Atleast now, thanks to you, I know what kind of love it was and that what true love should be like. Also, I know now how important is to to let go and that the person that let goes is not necessary a weakling, but probably a stronger person
You made me feel a lot better..
God bless ya
and I really hope the best of you.
After two years in a relationship…April was all about denial, thinking that he would come back, that he was just going through a tough stage.
May, was harder, after about 3 weeks of not hearing from him since he had broken up w me, i called him broke the no contact rule, it was good in a way, because it trew me out of the denial stage and realize it was really over. I cried alot, talked to friends and did alot of what this site suggests which is to take care of myself, reconnected with friends and family, have an active life and challenge myself.
Then comes June, ahhhhhh what a difference. I am growning feeling great actually looking forward and starting not to worry about what he does, who he is with, Im slowly feel myself coming back, wow!! what a feeling! looking forward to life without him in it… Now in retrospect im glad i stood up for myself, im glad i let him know i wanted more than what he was giving, how dare heeeee!! who did he think i was?? He underestimated me and took me for granted. I was tired of making myself be small and passive so that he wouldn’t feel threatened by me. I was not being honest about who i was… so it now feels great to slowly come back to who i really am.
So June is all about regaining my strenght, finding out who i became after this experience! I feel thankful and grateful for the amazing friends i have, for my life, for my family, i can do this and you can to!! Before reading this site i remember thinking… if there is an easier way to get through a break up, im gonna find it and put it into practice, i did… and cant wait to see what awaits in July and August… ahhhhh, Summer how delightful..
i so admire you. for real. i hope i become as strong as you bc i really relate to you. thank you for your inspiration!
This gives me hope as is May now and im at the acceptance stage, but i know its over/: Life is such a crazy thing. and love is amazing but breakups are the worse.
its at a month since the break up.
im hoping each day i begin to forget.
Written by a 90 year old. This is something we should all read at least once a week!!!!! Make sure you read to the end!!!!!!
Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio.
“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written.
My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first pay cheque.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. Live one day at a time, for knowone knows whats in store for tomorrow.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger..
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.”
These are wonderful… thank you for sharing!
u are welcome Eddie…this is my small contribution to this site..And in a way thanking u for bringing up this site,which is helping broken hearts…These made no sense when i read it before break up.But now it makes lots of sense to me…All these words about life and ur website lifted me up and showed me the path to get back to normal….And i dont blame my ex rather i thank her giving this opportunity to go through this pain.It made me realize what i am and whats my identity.I thank god for lifting me up through this.i never thought i will get over that horrible pain…i almost felt it is end of my life…..guys,life is beautifull…please say it urself and live everymoment…jsut enjoy the difference in u after 2-3 days….and for those who are troubled with why and how…i just wanna say…'PEOPLE CHANGE,THINGS GO WRONG,SHIT HAPPENS BUT LIFE MOVES ONE'….take care everyone….
thats simply awesome.. thanks for such inspiring notes i will look at it everyday
Hi,so inspiring to read, mood uplifting actually.Let's live it up.
i sooo love your articles..it somehow help me realized things..i just came from a long-serious relationship of 5 years and 6 months.and its been 3 months since we're apart..i can say that im really okay after reading your article.it help me to feel better about myself.i think you should learn to love yourself first before anybody else.its hard to let go,but i think its much harder to hang on.thanks again for your inspiring article.
“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving”
-Albert Einstein . This one makes so much sense to me.
I mean Life has to go on, you can't get buried in the past nor can you be worried about the future. Hey, did I just make a new quote? lol guess I did.
Guys…..please watch this video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=puAUr6_dVOM&feat…
There are lots of better things in life than being in relationship….Living the past will never help us….just think about the present and just say….T.G.I.T…thank god its today and i am living….take care everyone…
That was so inspiring! Thank you.
thank you for posting that
i was in a really bad relationship for two years he cheated on me more than once and i always forgive him cause i really think people is able to change unfortunally i was wrong, then when everything was looking good, he start doing weed and that kills me cause see someone i wanted to shared the rest of my life with doing drugs kills me inside finally one day i told him i wanted to take a break and he start datiung someone else the bad part is that was less than 2 weeks ago (while im writting im thinking WOW i was stupid) he sent me this message trying to make me feel responsable and trying to make me feel i was the bad one cause i always acted like a mom instead of a girlfriend but honestly 3 days ago from that message i feel hes just trying to make me feel bad and i shouldnt let him do that to me, he was crying a lot a week ago cause we had “THE TALK” where he admit he had a serious problem with drugs and 2 days after that he was already with someone i dont know if he loves me or not im thinking that hes coming back wish i think is the reason i cant move on, but honestly thanks to this page and read what it says i think i have to put in my head that even if he comes back thats not a healty relationship and i have to let go as hard as it is, someday he will realised what he have lost and its hard MY GOD is hard but its not impossible what keeps me breathing is that i have nothing to regreat i was nothing but good with him and even if at the end he try to blame on me i know im a great person, im a wonderful person and theres our mistake after a break up believe that we are nothing when we are actually great and unique spirits. Im going to do crazy things im young im going to change for the better.
Thanks for the support this page really is helping me
My boyfriend who I was with for over a year broke up with me saying it wasn't me, it was him and that he wanted to be single and didn't want any commitment. He says I'm “the one” and maybe we would get back together in the future if he wants commitment. How can someone feel so strongly and say that I'm the one, yet not care whether or not I'm in their life? Our relationship was extremely stable and loving, we had great communication and of course we had some issues but we always got through them. I thought we were always on the same page and he always told me how much he loved me and we made plans for the future and everything then out of the blue he breaks up with me. He assures me that it has nothing to do with me and he just wants to be able to do whatever he wants whenever he wants without fear of hurting someone. Right after he said this, he tells me that I wasn't a cage in any way. Whaaaat? I'm so confused. He also said that he doesn't want to commit to anyone so I know there's not another girl or anything. I know I need to move on but I just can't help feeling that in some way it's my fault. I have started to tell myself that he just didn't love me the way I loved him…although he always showed his love more than I ever did so I have a hard time convincing myself of that. He is also two years younger than I am (I'm 19) and he's going to turn 18 in a few days but he was never immature about his feelings or anything like that. I had no doubts about him. Is this happening because he is just young or something? I was also his first real relationship so that sits in the back of my mind as well. We had the perfect relationship except for the fact that he doesn't want commitment…anymore. What am I to think and do????
The only thing that i can think of hun, is that either his friends are influencing him more on his decisions. let's say, if they were like “you never come out with us anymore because of her”. or something along those lines. My ex boyfriend's friends ALWAYS said that and i could tell it had affect on our relationship. The other only thing i can think of is that he cheated on you and he wants to break up with you in that way without hurting you with feelings of betray and being unfaithful. It's known that guys (and girls) after cheating, think of anything and everything to break up with their loved ones without them finding out. So they take little arguments or try to start arguments and eventually break up with you. Thats why i think it could also be cheating because he said “its not you, its me.” and by saying your the one he obviously feels guilty he just doesnt want to break your heart more than it is. I really hoped this helped and good luck
Yeah turns out he was cheating. Wow, didn't expect that at all. I have no idea why…like I said the communication was awesome and we always talked openly about issues/feelings and whatnot. I supported him endlessly and was always there for him. I am also pretty darn attractive and our sex life was good, I am fun to be around, have a good sense of humor, and am going far in life. Obviously I'm not perfect, and neither was our relationship, but I always made a conscious effort to work on myself and the relationship. I don't understand how someone can make so many false promises and have so many fake feelings. How can someone even be so cruel to do that to someone else? I wish he would have been man enough to tell me from the start so I could get closure sooner on instead of hoping it was just a phase. At least now I see him for who he really is…a liar, a manipulator, a selfish person who will never go far in life, and most of all, someone I don't want in my life. PERIOD. I'm glad I know this now, and looking back I can see it's truly his loss. Anyone would be lucky to have me in their life and I hope that someday he will realize what a big mistake he made. I'm glad that I can fully move on now and this helped me to kick him from the pedestal. Like he once told me “He's an asshole who can be nice.” Now I really believe it.
You see, my ex boyfriend and I were madly in love. And one careless night i made a terrible mistake. i didnt sleep with the guy to get that straight. And I know all of you out there will be saying that i deserve a break up and i know that. But It's way more complicated than that. We had been dating for almost two years since he “broke up” with me. Now i say “broke up” in quotations because he still said he is in the phase of “deciding whether to give me a second chance”. So a month ago i found this as a great opportunity to show him how sorry i am and i did everything i could to show him this. I did everything i could to show him the other guy didnt mean anything. And he said this wasn't enough, he said that I had to follow his “rules” he had set for me. 1) No texting guys, 2) No talking to guys, 3) No looking at guys, 4) Stay home every weekend, 5) Don't drink. So me thinking that this was a reflection stage for him, that he would think about us and what he wanted, i said sure. Little did I know that this was not a reflection stage for him… Every weekend since September, he has gone out every friday saturday and even sunday nights and gotten obligerant drunk. Whether it's at the clubs, someone's house or at the university. There he is. Not only this, but he has been texting and calling girls to hang out, even inviting them over. Now I know, “why don't you just break it off with him?” See, this is where the hard part comes in. He is in every one of my classes, and two of the days of the week we carpool to another city for classes. Also, we signed up to be eachothers lab partner and study buddy. Believe me i wish more than anything I could cut this guy out of my life but i literally cant when i see him 5 days a week. I'm so confused as what to do. I feel as if he is giving me false hope, i feel as if he is never going to get back together with me and the thought of me sitting at home alone all weekend to him is just making him feel even better. especially when he is drunk with all these girls. To me right now, the only reason i am abiding by these rules is because he gives me the illusion of us getting back together. And if i dont abide by these rules i can kiss whatever we had behind. He likes to call me names, like a slut, attention whore. The other day he told me i was a fucking retard cause i didn't know how to order food somewhere. I know he is treating me horrible but he has made me believe that i “deserve” how i get treated. I would have broken this off if he wasn't going to be in every class of mine, carpooling with me twice a week, sitting beside me and if he wasnt assigned my lab partner. I don't think i could live seeing him everyday knowing he's with someone, or knowing we could never be again. I need a lot of help and begging anyone to answer me what i should do in this horrible situation
Don't give up hope. I know sometimes you might think it's easier to hang on, but sometimes you just gotta let go. And don't believe one word that he calls you, it's not true at all. After all 'Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names can never hurt me.' If it really is that hard letting go and just leaving him, you should make some rules of your own. It'll be extremely scary, but if he's the guy for you he'll understand. Tell him that you've kept all of his rules, and now it's his turn. The questions you need to ask yourself are, 'How will he father my children? Can I really see myself spending the rest of my life with him? Do I really love him?' If he treats you like crap, why would you want him in your life? If he treats you bad, and is giving you a faint illusion tell him that. You need to stand up for yourself. You are who you are, and nobody can change that. If he can't accept that he isn't the one for you. And if he really did like you he wouldn't be calling you such horrible names. I hope this helps.
Sincerely,
Kennedy
wow get rid of a jerk like that, u deserve better…no gf should be treated like that….let this dude go, u’ll be in pain for a while but believe me u’ll meet someone else who respects you and loves you in a real way….this guy’s jus using u, in life, its mostly yes and no, illusions r jus there, to keep u as a second fiddle so let this guy go.
Okay, well a couple days ago I broke up with my boyfriend. We were really happy and I thought I loved him very much. But things took a turn for the worse. He started swearing a lot, and the way he talked about sex was revolting. I told him this, and he promised he would change. He did for a little while, but then it got even worse! He swore more when I was gone then he did when I was there. He never talked to me when he was with his friends, but when we were alone he was a totally different person. He was kind, and hardly swore. He would tell me love stories, and quote songs for me. He'd show a side of him that I don't think anyone else knew about. He told me he loved me constantly, and kissed me like he meant it. I looked forward to the nights when we were alone. But it didn't take long for me to realize that I was unhappy. I couldn't base my relationship on just a couple nights when we were alone. And the way he ignored me hurt, really bad. I tried telling him, but he would just shrug me off or say sorry. He was so convincing that I would forgive him, but it got really old really fast. He started swearing even more when he was around me, and it was to a point where when he was with his friends and I would leave and he wouldn't even notice! I talked to my friends, and they said that they noticed this too, but I still kept hanging on hoping that he would change. One day I went with him and his friends and we were talking, well they were talking. I tried to get into the conversation, but after many times of failing I stopped trying. It was as if no one could see me. I left, just left for a whole hour,and no one even noticed. He didn't try calling me or anything. I felt like I had to be perfect all the time, and if I made a mistake it was like I had killed someone. I couldn't be funny all the time, and I couldn't be happy all the time, and I couldn't be flirty, loving, or perfect 24/7. I talked to my friend about it and she totally agreed to me. So I asked my boyfriend what would happen if I broke up with him. He said it would take about 2 weeks to get over it, and then he'd be fine. I was in shock, only 2 weeks? He didn't say I could never live if you left me, nothing loving just a straight 2 weeks. I told him it was gonna be a crappy two weeks for him then, and told him it was over. I had absolutely had it. He said okay, and left. No begging for another chance, no nothing. He just said bye, and left. And then I find out he already likes someone, the exact same day I broke up with him. I know I didn't really love him, but I miss him. Why do I feel so empty inside? All I can think of is him leaving me. I remember telling him that the only way I could hate him was if he left me, forever without saying goodbye. Well I guess he said goodbye, but it still hurts. I try and stay positive, smile, and laugh. It's hard though. I feel like something's died inside me, and I can't help it. I need to feel happy, but I'm not sure if I can ever again. Everyone is convinced that he's this terrible person, but I can't quite convince myself. I know if I don't do something soon I'll fade away, and my life won't be worth living. And what makes it even more hard is that all my friends expect me to be happy. They've told me they've depended on me. They say I'm this positive and caring person, but even I sometimes need serious help. I feel like if I make one mistake my life could be over, I need to stop feeling this way. I need advise if you will.
Sincerely,
Kennedy
I am saying a prayer for you, Kennedy! I relate to your situation so much, as I broke up with my boyfriend three weeks ago Friday, and some things are very similar–especially the part about feeling ignored and it getting worse. I never let it get as bad as you did, because as soon as I realized it was a pattern I decided to end it. However, I still feel the same feelings of emptiness you describe, and I also know what you mean about friends expecting you to be happy. I am known for my bright, cheery smile, but I have never felt less like giving it. Just hang in there, though! Healing happens, with time, as the quotes say.
I DONT KNOW IF U WILL SEE THIS message.However i was on hear feeloing yhe same way u are 5 months ago.Ineeded answer.I think u knew all along what u needed to do,we do ask are freinds for advice but it don’t take away the pain.Your gonna be fine i know right know u feel as though you have been gut punched,im here to tell u once u have moved on your ex will know thats when he’ll start to feel the gut punches, someone will treat him the same way he treated u. and he’ll rember u.Keep your head up .Personally im dating again,im not rushing into any relationship.Breaking up with my ex is the best thing that happened to me.I can breath again.The funny part about tis he cant breath know. too bad. move on when 1 door closes another will open, but rember stop looking back at the door that closed. GOOD LUCK youll be fine. your only human greive, get sad angry and clse that chapter
(I’m just new to this)I’m a 24yr.old male living in Philippines. My girlfriend broke up with me last November 29 morning by sending a message in facebook. I asked her why she’s doing this but she would just answer “Don’t ask me cause I really don’t know what’s going on with me. All I want is you out off my miserable life!” She started acting like this 2 weeks ago. Our relationship last almost 5yrs. But we had some issue about breaking up and getting back again those past years. But this time is the worsts. I begun thinking to myself about those reasons of her, i can only think and felt that she don’t mean those words. I know she’s very loyal to me. She told me that there is no third party going on and i know how she loves me. I actually realize that is it all my fault? Did I spoiled her? I always give her what she wants, support her every need and give her time to mingle with her friends. She always go home late every time she go drinking with her friends. I remember she told me that she love her friends more than me. I accepted that. The only thing really hurts is that our relationship grew strong and i can’t even remember when was the last time we had a fight. Her reasons that she wants to break up with me is that “she don’t love me anymore”. She don’t want to see me even though i asked her to take this conversation in person but she just said that (theres no need for us to see or to talk in person, i had my decisions and i don’t want to see those feeling sorry look of yours and make me realize that i’m wrong. All i need is for me to find out or to see what is really going on with me, and looking for myself what i really want and just to be happy who i’am and not with someone like you close to me. And besides if we are ment for each other i’ll be back just like before, and if not, you already know whats the answer. I know it’s hard for you to accept but i also do. It hurts me too.) Am i being selfish? I need advices on what should i do. Do i have to move on? I can’t understand why she’s doing this. Acting like nothing happens. I still love her, i really do. But it hurts a lot waking up in the morning with tears in my eyes thinking of her. I love her more than everything. But i can’t force her to get back. And if she does, i know things will not work out like it used to be. What should i do? Do i have to move on even though i still love her this much? And i know her love never fades that quick! Sorry for the long message. I just don’t know what to do. All i can think about is the pain. Does she have to do this? Does her love really fades? What’s wrong with me? Am i the reason for all of this? For almost 5years of fighting for that love, for holding on. For all of her promises and our plans for our future together. Are those only lies? Is it time for me to let go of those fantasies? I don’t understand, of what she really feels right now. Is her friends really important to her than our relationship? I need some advices. I’M STILL LOVING MY EX.
Your’s, Benz
Well I was dumped by my boyfriend of 2 years about 6 months ago, and it was so incredibly awful at first. But after a while I just began to realize that it had never been the perfect relationship I had believed it to be, and that he just wasn’t so good for me. Right after the break up I started dating because I thought I should and because others pushed me to, but I was miserable. Now after having some epiphanies and a little time to learn to love myself, I’m actually enjoying dating. I wouldn’t say that I’m 100% completely and totally moved on yet, there I still moments when I hurt over it all, but I’m doing so much better and am actually sort of interested in someone new!
This site has really helped me and has been very inspirational, and I definitely plan on continuing to read all the different articles.
As someone who has had breakups before, let me just say these words — it gets easier, the more you have faith in yourself and the goodness that your life is about to be filled with the faster you heal and the faster you get there my friend. When in doubt just read this poem by a wise person:
I feared being alone
Until I learned to like Myself.
I feared failure
Until I realized that I only Fail when I don’t try.
I feared success
Until I realized that I had to try in order to be happy with myself.
I feared people’s opinions
Until I learned that people would have opinions about me anyway.
I feared rejection
Until I learned to have faith in myself.
I feared pain
Until I learned that it’s necessary for growth.
I feared the truth
Until I saw the ugliness in lies.
I feared life
Until I experienced its beauty .
I feared death
Until I realized that it’s not an end, but a beginning.
I feared my destiny,
Until I realized that I had the power to change my life.
I feared hate
Until I saw that it was nothing more than ignorance.
I feared love
Until it touched my heart, making the darkness fade into endless sunny days.
I feared ridicule
Until I learned how to laugh at myself.
I feared growing old
Until I realized that I gained wisdom every day.
I feared the future
Until I realized that Life just kept getting better.
I feared the past
Until I realized that It could no longer hurt me.
I feared the dark
Until I saw the beauty of the starlight.
I feared the light
Until I learned that the Truth would give me Strength.
I feared change,
Until I saw that even the most beautiful butterfly had to undergo a Metamorphosis before it could fly.
hi Rubi..where you from in the Philippines?
thanks.
thanks for the advice. but the hard part is, i really still love her. and i’m still expecting her to come back. hope time can really heal a broken heart,,as they say..
My boyfriend/Partner father of my only child has broken up with me after 8 YEARS!!!! I’ve never been able to let him go. I”m very independent, I can take care of myself, but I”m scared to be out on my own with the thought that I can never do things with him like I loved to!! He’s never been the good boyfriend, he’s never been affectionate/romantic. I should’ve walked away a LONG time ago, but my love has always been so strong! He’s left so many bruises and scars in my heart and my mind that it’s hard to ever trust a man in my life..I’m traumatized I feel as if I know how a man THINKS!!! I’ve left him with a deep scar as well that was caused 3 years ago, but that’s pretty much the only negative memory he’ll ever have of me!! As far as good memories with him, there isn’t that many, but I still love him! Is there something better out there for me? I dont know.. but I will hope that my journey to find out isn’t very painful, stressfull and long. =(
my boyfriend of 2 years and 9 months left me on Monday…i didn’t know why at first and it killed me he was talking about the weekend then he just was like I’m done? it tore me to pieces after a few days apart i called him and asked to come down to my college and see me and he did…he went on to tell me he still loved me, but he doesn’t know who he is anymore and only for him to admit that after telling me from the start of our relationship he has a “sleeping problem” that he actually was addicted to sleeping pills…and he NEVER had a sleeping problem! it killed me, but i told him we cant be together until he gets better and i cant be there to help him because he needs to understand why he did this for so long and couldn’t tell me till it was too late. We agreed to talk in 2 months and i would see how he was going with his recovery and in 6 months we might meet back up to see each other. I love him so much and being only 19 i knew i wanted to spend my life with him, but now after all this time i don’t know how to function without him and there’s reminders of him everywhere i go! At my home and college. How am I suppose to move on when we both still love each other? =’(
I really appreciate these quotes. It is good to read something inspirational and uplifting after experiencing all that I have. I caught my what is now ex-boyfriend cheating on me by texting other girls. At the time I caught him cheating we had been together for five years. We were at a relatives house of mine and after his texting was interfering with him interacting with me and my family I decided to snatch the phone and to my surprise he was texting another girl. I confronted him about it and he insisted that she was just a friend and if I didn’t trust him then we didn’t need to be together anyway and with that I told him he was right and that it was over. After a week he contacted me saying he was sorry and he would never do it again but since this was not the first time I had caught him texting other women I told him I couldn’t forgive him. We continued talking and hanging out against my better judgment and I was slowly starting to regain trust in him. Although we weren’t officially together he would tell me how he wished we could be and that there was nobody else in his life. I ran into a relative of his and he told me how he had met the girl I caught my ex texting and that they had gone out to the movies and that my ex had been cheating on me all along with many different women. I was devastated to say the least. I confronted my ex about it and again he insisted that she was just a friend and that he was lonely and needed someone to be there for him while he was coping with our break up and that it was nothing more. He also said that his relative lied on him to make him look bad so he could sleep with me. I wasn’t buying it and I insisted on knowing the truth about her and any other women and when he wouldn’t tell me the truth I didn’t talk to him for over a month. After I ignored all of his calls, texts, and a letter he wrote he came to my house crying with flowers saying how sorry he was for the misunderstanding and how he was telling me the truth about her just being a friend of his and how he wants me back and can’t live without me. I told him before I could even consider it I had to know the truth about everything. Initially he kept saying he was telling me the truth but then after I kept pushing he said if I tell you the truth about everything you will never be with me again but just know I did you wrong and I’m sorry. I wanted to know just how he did me wrong and he became angry and finally said forget it I’ll give you what you’ve been asking for but this is for you not for me….he then went on to tell me how he had been having sex with girls he worked with, girls he met at work, girls he met on the bus to and from work, how he had one night stands towards the end of our relationship and after we broke up. He blamed me for why he was doing the things he did by saying that I wasn’t paying him enough attention and how he intentionally texted girls in front of me as a way of getting my attention. When I asked him if that was the case then why did you have sex with them and he said he didn’t know that he was drunk and rebellious but that it was just pussy to him and that he didn’t have any sort of feelings for any of the girls he had sex with. I never suspected he was having sex with other girls because he was always so emotionally available to me and literally every moment of free time I had he wanted to be with me all the way up until the day we broke up. This is why finding out he was cheating has come as such a shocker to me and honestly I still haven’t come to grips with all the dirt he’s done. I feel so stupid for still loving someone who is capable of such horrible things and although I know I could never be with him again I can’t get over not having him in my life because he was my best friend for six years. A couple weeks ago he invited me to have breakfast with him and his son and I politely declined and about a week ago he called me in the middle of the night several times. I haven’t heard from him since then but I’m sure I will hear from him again and I desperately need to get over him for my own mental health because he means me no good.
hii i should say that the guy who come in your life will be very happy to find a divine soul ..u always looked for his happiness and i am sure god must have seen some one very special for you ..and more over he never deserved you ..god can not give his angels to aaltu phatu dear ..u vl very dear soon..all the very best…my email id is satish.singh.kumar@gmail.com
I wish I knew what to tell you to do but I am still going through the pain myself so I haven’t quite figured out how to solve that part. I don’t know if you are religious or not but I can tell you that God doesn’t take something out of your life not to put something better in it’s place. Now these may just be words to you now but if you repeat it to yourself enough and remind yourself everyday of all the wonderful things you can do without your ex than eventually you will see that all things happen for a reason and he wasn’t meant to be in your life. As far as continuing to be there for him I would say follow your heart and only make decisions based on how YOU feel about it. I don’t even know you but I know you will be ok…smile you deserve to!
Aww thank you so much and I will keep you in my prayers. The hardest part about all this aside from the fact that I didn’t see any of it coming was that he still comes around or tries to contact me and every single time he does its like I start from ground zero all over again. Everyday I pray to just get through the day….thanks again
this is very beautiful … thank u sooooo much …. finally move on..
Well I have a similar story to these, but I didn’t come here for me. I was researching stuff to help a friend out. You know stuff like quotes and images to make her feel better. Shes been doing great thanks to some of these quotes. And I would like to say that anybody who has suffered through a bad break up should look for a friends help. Unfortunately when I went through my break up I was alone, no friend was there to help. Luckily I learned quick to live with out her, and now I can continue without fear. Not a lot of people come out great as I did, and after several years they keep suffering for their lost love. Just like my friend here. It’s been years since she lost her love and thanks to my help she’s been doing better and learning to let go. What I learned is that keeping it inside isn’t doing any good reading post from other people who suffered too doesn’t help as much as a friend could. I’m not saying its a waste of time or something like that but instead I’m saying look for more help, look for a friend.
i was in a dark shadow not knowing wt to do or where to go bt ever since i googled this page WOW i got inspired.many thanx,il b fine in time.
My girlfriend broke up with me for the same reason you did to your ex. Why must living life as a teenager be more important than the love of your life?
My boyfriend of almost two years ended our relationship a little over a week and a half ago. We had gone through eight months of dating, one year of officially dating, a month break up, and made it through another nine months before he broke it off. A month before our two year anniversary. He was the love of my life and thought that I would spend the rest of my life with him, but that wasn’t the case anymore. I knew that this time around it was it for good, for he had lost that connection with me. I wanted to get some closure with him, and I knew that it would be difficult, but I had to do it.
As expected, it was hard to see him knowing that I was no longer his and that it was over for good. I didn’t completely get the answers I wanted, but have to learn to accept that feelings fade, it takes two to make it work, and that I shouldn’t just blame myself (even though I continue to do so sometimes). I wanted to leave on a good note with him because I didn’t want any negativity between us or in my life in general. I just wanted to say my peace and let things go.
The way I ended it all was that I told him that I could just sit here and be angry with him, curse at him, and tell him how much I hated him for what he’d put me through, because making him feel like complete shit would be the easiest way to move on, but I wasn’t going to do that. I wasn’t going to say hateful things to him because I know that he was put into my life for a reason, whether we would be together or not, and that he has been there for me when I needed him, that he was a big part of my life, and that I couldn’t thank him enough. I thanked him and told him I appreciated everything he’s done for me, and for putting up with my shit because I know that I am not the easiest person to deal with sometimes. I told him that this was just a life lesson and that I will learn from it. I told him that I really wished him the best, and that I hope that he will find peace and be able to fully open up his heart to someone (as much as it hurts that it wasn’t me and how much I wanted it to be me). Lastly, I told him that I hope that one day in the future we will be able to cross paths with one another and be okay.
While I said all of this to him, I cried and and did not look at him once. I just wanted to say my peace without seeing his face because I knew it would just make it even that more difficult. After I was finished, I looked at him and saw tears in his eyes. Never in my life have I seen him cry for anything. I remember he told me he didn’t even cry for his father’s funeral, that he never cries, and doesn’t remember the last time he did. And to see him in tears makes me realize that I touched his heart and that I still meant so much to him, regardless of the circumstances. It also made me realize that he is human – we are human – and there are just some things that you cannot control. We left on that note and gave each other a long hug and wished each other the best as we embraced each other for the last time. I hugged him tight, for I knew this was the last time I would be able to. He got out of my car and then I drove off, looking back at him in the rearview mirror for one last time.
He is a special person to me and will always have a piece of my heart forever. I will move on from him, I know it. It will take time, but I can do it. I will find the one that I was meant to be with. I will.
About a week ago, after a fight with my girlfriend, i decided to initiate a breakup with my girlfriend because i felt that she doesn’t really love me. She always texts other guys behind my back and always keep a lot of things from me. I felt under appreciated in the relationship and feel miserable at least thrice a week. On the day of the breakup, while we were fighting, she ran away half away expecting me to chase her. I saw her texting someone else to “save her” before she ran away. That was the point where i realise i could no longer stand the relationship. So i called her up later and met her at where we parted. I told her my reasons, and she accepted it at first and told me to go away. So i went away. She called me after 10 mins and we met up. She told me that she wants to save this relationship and i agreed on it, I just wanna know whether there are still hope for this relationship and whether it will really last