EDIT: I've added images of the quotes and also an excellent 11th bonus quote for you.
Just to be clear: this is NOT going to be one of those articles where they list sad break up quotes that make you cry and wallow in self-pity.
No. I wouldn’t be much of a breakup expert if I did that.
This is all about positive break up quotes that will inspire you and make you realize that there’s more to this experience than just excruciating pain.
Quotes that will actually help you, provoke positive thinking and further your recovery.
There’s a reason why they put quotes at the beginning of each chapter in almost every self-help book out there (mine included).
They summarize universal truths so beautifully in one sentence that we intuitively understand.
They help us to realize that we are not alone out there. People have suffered from broken hearts all through the history of humanity.
Loss is an essential part of us.
One of the main implications of breakups is that we feel overwhelming loneliness. Knowing that other people have had this problem too, and survived, gives us comfort and strength to endure what’s coming.
Also, it's always helpful to see another angle.
Artists especially seem to have a different view of the world and life – their gift is to surface the unaware. They help us to understand what we may already know intellectually but resist to believe in our hearts.
That’s why I’ve collected the 10 most inspiring break up quotes for you. Quotes which not only sound good but can actually make you feel better and more confident about the future.
Going through a break up right now? These are for you:
The 10 most positive and inspiring breakup quotes:
Let's start with a very popular one, controversial, especially after a recent split.
Positive Quote #1:
“‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
—Alfred Lord Tennyson
Everyone who has suffered from a broken heart at any time has heard this quote. Unfortunately, it does not give comfort at the beginning, only years later will you realize its profoundness and value.
When you understand its true meaning, then you'll know that you've overcome your break up or divorce.
It is one of my favorite break up quotes.
Positive Quote #2:
“If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it's yours, if not it wasn't meant to be.”
I heard this the first time in the movie Indecent Proposal. It illustrates the necessity of detachment, of “letting go” after a breakup.
If you can let go, you will receive.
Positive Quote #3:
“You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.”
There is no moving on without forgiveness, and more importantly: there is no new beginning while carrying “old emotional baggage.”
Positive Quote #4:
“Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either.”
Try to look beyond the pain and acknowledge to yourself that you have loved and you’ve been loved back. That’s one of the greatest gifts you can ever receive.
There is no light without darkness, there is no love without the feeling of loss. One of the toughest lessons of life we’ll ever learn.
All you can do is learn, move on, and when you're ready, start anew.
Positive Quote #5:
“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”
Sometimes relationships can't be fixed. Sometimes it's better to move on. Sad, but very often true.
Positive Quote #6:
“Some people think that it's holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it's letting go.”
Only when you can completely detach yourself, you can you be free.
After a breakup, and elsewhere in life. Be a leaf floating in a river, not knowing where it might take you. This is true freedom.
Positive Quote #7:
”Don't change yourself, so other people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will like you.”
Most breakups come with an identity loss. That's why it is our duty to use this opportunity to re-connect with ourselves again. To be the person, we truly are.
If you change yourself for the slim chance that your Ex will love you again, if you try to become who they want you to be, you will lose yourself.
Until you forget who you really are.
Be the person you are destined to be, and you will attract the right partner without even trying.
Positive Quote #8:
“I'm going to smile and make you think I'm happy, I'm going to laugh, so you don't see me cry, I'm going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I'm going to smile.”
This is actually some great break up advice in two ways: first, you are not needy in front of your Ex. You demonstrate strength and your Ex may wonder if s/he has made the right decision.
Also, constant smiling is a great way “to trick” your mind, despite the fact that you feel terrible. By smiling, the body sends signals to the mind that you are happy, even if you are not. Eventually, the mind WILL accept the state of the body.
This is simple neuro-linguistic programming.
Positive Quote #9:
“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
—M. Kathleen Casey
This is a great one.
It means that you have the choice to accept the pain and not allow it to turn into suffering.
One of the main reasons that mental pain turns into suffering is the continual mental reasoning. We can break that vicious cycle by learning to control our thoughts.
Positive Quote #10:
“I don't miss him, I miss who I thought he was.”
It is a great accomplishment to realize that we loved a concept, a picture we had in our minds, rather than the person himself. When we break up, it's this idea we miss, and what causes the pain is the failure of the same.
The minute we realize this, we can kick our Exes from the pedestal.
Bonus Positive Quote #11:
”You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”
You cannot try to stay in the now and constantly relive your past at the same time. You will prevent yourself from attracting new partners.
Or even worse: you are sabotaging your current relationship.
These are some of the best inspirational break up quotes you can find, and I hope you've enjoyed them.
They teach us about detachment, the necessity to forgive and let go. How to live life to the fullest with all its dark sides, acceptance, neuro-linguistic programming and mental control.
All virtues for overcoming a breakup.
For that arduous task, I wish you all the best.
Do you know quotes that might fit into this category? Please list them in the comments below. (Remember: they must be positive, inspiring and help with your recovery.)