I have gone out with my girlfriend for just over two years. The last several months have been flat, we have been drifting apart literally. She has an alcohol problem that always resulted in a fight whenever i brought it up. It is only recently when I mentioned breaking up that she admitted to it and even promised to get help. She didn’t. Of course I am not a saint either.

Lately we have been fighting over all sorts of issues, and she has even started being disrespectful and almost verbally abusive, especially when drunk. The more I think about it, the more I feel that the chance for long-term happiness in this relationship is too small to invest further. I therefore want out and I have brought it up with her, but she insisted on giving it a final chance but we never even got started on the actions we had agreed on.

The issue I have is that she moved in almost a year ago. She cannot afford the rent by herself so she would have to move out. In addition to the break up she would have to deal with looking for a house and moving. What would be a sensitive way to handle this? Is there a ’sensitive’ way? I was thinking about moving out for about a week to help her gather her thoughts and plans together. Is this good enough?

Exchanges take place between people’s characteristics, don’t they? Some people with high age and lots passion still enjoy every new thing in their life, while some young people just are the diehard and refuse to change their mind to accept the new things.
Believe it or not, one young man I know lists all the exciting things on the forbidden list. He doesn’t drink, doesn’t smoke, and even doesn’t take part in the crazy party. All he likes to do is reading or taking part in some normal conferences. He even collects things he brought back from conferences. There are thirty rubber wristbands, twelve ID cards and even some strange hats used in the conference—- Jesus, what kind of conferences they are? —- in his collection. He is kind of bookish. But unfortunately, he is my boyfriend. Besides the old diehard things, he is a nice man. He cares about the family, cares about his friends, and the most important thing is we love each other. For the love’s sake, I could bear all the things for him. But when I am tired, I think may be I should give up him.
He is a nice guy, he could cook meals and he is a good cook. But he refuses all the new style of dishes; he only cooks what he wants to eat. He could be a good athlete, but he plays football only and considers the basketball game as the one for giant nuts. For showing his attitude, he forbids me to take part in the cheer leader audition. He even does not like me to wear the short skirts or short dresses. With the consideration of these actions as the proof of love, I keep myself staying beside him. But this insisting made me crazy and tired, should I leave?

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