It seems to be a complete mystery … to fall out of love.
Something we cannot understand. And yet it happens every day all around us:
People who used to love each other madly suddenly fall out of love, just like that.
What are the reasons?
Sarah's Story:
Sarah and her boyfriend had been the perfect couple. It was as if they had waited for each other their whole lives.
They had the same hobbies, they liked the same things, they see each other as soulmates.
This went on happily for two years – the perfect relationship until her boyfriend suddenly started to pull back, to act strange and get distant.
Eventually, he broke up with her.
When she asked for the reason, he replied that he did not love her anymore.
Sounds familiar?
Has this also happened to you or someone you know?
A disappointment.
Isn't true love meant to be forever?
Well, I cannot give you an answer to this one, but I can advise you that you need to examine your perception of “true love.”
I can tell you: All that glistens is not gold.
A high expectation of true love and a distorted romantic view of the ideal concept of love can disturb the view to having a fulfilling and healthy relationship.
(MORE: How I Found The Definition Of True Love)
A realistic view is vital.
What is the Main Reason that People Fall out of Love?
Of course, there are numerous reasons why people break up, but they are not always the same ones as to why people fall “out of love.”
The term “to fall out of love” implies that they've been in love before and all of a sudden the love is gone.
This is, of course, an illusion.
Nobody loses his love overnight.
In my experience, there are three main reasons why people stop loving, and therefore break up with their partners.
1. Their expectations weren't met
If you meet a person to whom you are really attracted to, you tend to idealize things.
You fall in love with that person because everything is so new, so fresh.
The sex is great; you're having a great time discovering all the positive attributes of your partner.
All your needs and expectations are being addressed, and when they're not, you simply put your rose-colored glasses on.
The problem here is that your view of your partner is not always a realistic one, because everyone gives their best, tries to show a better self and to hide possible flaws.
We accommodate and compromise much easier at the beginning.
The problem here is that they met each other's expectations at the beginning … but later on in the relationship, when the fire has cooled off a little, they tend to pull off their masks and show their real selves.
Now suddenly, there are no more compromising, no more accommodation, no more meeting the partner's needs.
Just the pure, unfiltered THEM.
And here is where it can lead to conflicts because someone will not have their needs fulfilled, and will feel betrayed in a way.
This is usually the moment when the person “falls out of love.”
2. Was it LOVE in the first place?
Another problem is that people very often cannot say if they're in love or not. They confuse sexual fulfillment with love.
This happens very often to young people or people who have been in a long term relationship or marriage for a lot of years.
They confuse the initial fulfillment of a need which has not been met for a long time with love.
Once this urge has been satisfied, (this doesn't always have to be a sexual need), they suddenly lose interest and “fall out of love.”
Of course, it wasn't love in the first place, and that's why the whole thing appears to come out of the blue.
3. Mistreatment
Unfortunately, it happens frequently, especially with men, that they start sweet and kind, and later on, they become loud and abusive.
Violence is, of course, the most extreme case.
Very often the partners suddenly change their behavior in ways that cannot be tolerated anymore by the other one.
Good examples are drug and alcohol abuse.
The partner finds that they are very disappointed and lose their love because their basic needs aren't provided anymore.
(MORE: My Life With A Narcissist)
The relationship isn't fulfilling and healthy.
Conclusion
The knowledge of the three reasons why people can fall out of love can be helpful to us. They can teach us how to behave correctly at the beginning of a relationship.
We have to have realistic expectations about love and relationships, and most of all we have to be who we are right from the beginning.
Make clear what your needs are despite the risk that your new partner might not love it.
Pretending and cutting back your basic needs will only draw a false picture of you, a picture which will fade with time and possibly make your partner eventually fall out of love with you.
Would you take that risk? I won't.
Your friend,
Eddie Corbano
People develop attraction and want for some e due to their own private reasons often having nothing to do with the other person and people suddenly lose interest for the same private reading often having little to do with the other person
Women are specially prone to expecting their man to match or live up to the ideal fantasy they’ve created and bred in their head. In reality no man can and hence the eventual loss of respect and end of interest.
it recently happened with me. i was in 5 year long relationship. it was wonderful. he was wonderful. we loved each other a lot. but i felt that over the years we became more like friends and had other things be our priority. but we were still in love. though we dont share many hobbies. we are very different people but during our years of togetherness, we became like each other. I am starting my career and got a wonderful job. but he did not like my job and asked me to choose the job or him. I was so angry with him for this that i jumped to the conclusion and stopped talking to him for few days. I made it very clear to him that I will choose the job. but I do not want to lose him i also told him that. we were talking onn and off but he stopped telling me much things going onn in his mind. During that onn and off period, he said different different things. sometimes he said that he doesnt want me. sometimes he said that he is lost and wanted me to do something to get him back, get his feelings back. sometimes he asked me to wait for him until he recover from these lost feelings. At that time, I kept patience and did not contacted him again because it was heart piercing to hear him say that he doesnt love me anymore. It was much more difficult for me to accept because just 2 days before all this started, we celebrated my birthday in a very good way. it was loving. so i just dont understand what suddenly happened. We met after almost 20 days when this started and the meeting was good. we were laughing. happy. i thought he is back with me. he is coming back. but as soon as we left, i messaged him and he told me that he is sure that he doesnt love me anymore and want this relationship to end. It was devastating because the week before we met i was really hoping for things to come back to normal. but they ended up worst. I did not gt the job. I lost him too. This time is really harsh for me. I know he really loves me. i know he cant live without me for long. He doesnt has many friends and i was the only person with whom he used to go out for movies or lunches or dinners or hangouts. We were great friends cum lover. And there was nothing like a ” phase” in my relation where i felt he doesnt love me or something so this thing practically happened suddenly. I read some articles where they said that for guys ..its just a phase, if i will give him time for few months..some space. in which i am not supposed to contact him at all and continue with my life.It may happen that he comes back. He may realize that i was important to him and he comes back. He is just having an illusion that he doesnt love me. Hoping for the best!!
I was in a relationship for 4 years and finally my ex boyfriend ended it on New Year’s Day! I was heartbroken but it was my fault. Every time we were broken up I would go out thinking it was really over between us. I would drink and become an angry drunk. I guess on New Year’s Day I disrespected him and called him a bitch. I was so drunk, I don’t remember but my friends were my witness. After 4 years of no respect he call the quits. It only took one person to make that descision. This relationship brought a lot of confusion and mixed feelings. I grew to resent him. I became very stubborn and revengeful not knowing I would push him away. Now I’m all heartbroken wishing I would of doned things different. He was a great guy but I just didn’t feel he put his all in this relationship like I did. I was in pain for so long with his actions. I became an angry person because of all the hurt. Instead of making him aware of how I felt I pushed him away with my actions. I love this guy so so much but I couldn’t change with him or move forward. It was difficult but if he was to give me one more chance I would definetely do things different but first I need time to heal. I’m using this time to work on myself. I don’t want to hurt him no more or loose him. I love him so so much but we destroyed a relationship that could of been good.
So where do I start I have only been in one long relationship in my life beside the one I’m in now and in that first relationship I had my first love and it lasted a year. Now I have been in this relationship for 2 years and we are engaged to get married next year. Now she just gets me and I her and from the beginning of are relationship I have loved her so much, a whole bunch more than my first love and well a few years go by and we are engaged and the feeling of love is gone yet I say the words and they don’t seem to mean much…. I want to love her though is there a way the feelings will come back? When we get married will they come back? Or after we get married they come back then fade later….. why does love have to fade it is dumb. Just please if someone could give me any advice I’d love that.
Been married to my husband for a year now. And sept 1st he says he dont love me anymore. So he packed his stuff and moved back in with his mom. Im so hurt bc we were just doing so fine tjen all of a sudden he does this to me. I cry at home. I cry at work. I feel like its all my fault. I feel worthless. I feel like a piece of shit. I jusy dont understand. He said if his love returns he’ll return. Can a love return? I really hope so bc I love him soooo much. I hate being depressed.
I’ve been in my currant relationship for two years. He wasn’t my first love but he was the one I lost my virginity to. A couple of months ago, I began to lose interest in our relationship. I don’t want anyone else, I just want to be alone for awhile. I was with my ex from when I was twelve until I was fifteen and then with my currant boyfriend from when I was sixteen until now, so I’ve only had a year gap of learning how to be myself . I don’t want anybody right now, I want to focus on myself and my life but I feel like I’m trapped because we both had our first time together. I don’t like this feeling, and I don’t even want to be touched anymore, I just feel lost in a sense and I know if I leave him there’s no going back. He’s a nice guy, he does everything for me but we no longer share similar interests, we no longer want the same life path. I sound like a bitch, I know but I just want to be myself for awhile.
its a simple reason he/she fall with an another love and thinked thats more better (especially girls)
Thank you for the information Eddie.
I was in a relationship for almost four months. When we first met, there was instant attraction. Our relationship blossom very quickly and that was my biggest worry. We had heart to heart discussions about what we look for in a partner, spirituality, work, family, friends, work, and the future, and we agree on almost everything. Everything came to a halt when we had our first misunderstanding, and she immediately told me she didn’t want to see me anymore. I was utterly devastated. I still think about her sometime but time is slowly healing my wound.
Hi Steve,
Just like you, I was in a relationship for four months, and it seems like I went through the same thing at the same time as yourself. We hit it off from the very first time we met and everything went fantastically well. But like yourself, we had our first misunderstanding and I was dumped. It left me heartbroken, and I had counselling for many months after that. Twelve months later, my wounds are still healing. It makes me wonder if she ever really loved me.
Thank you, Eddie. Just thank you. That helped me a lot, though I am crying. :*
I was in a relationship just over 6 years. Unfortunately, mistreatment is what led to the end of my feelings of love for this man. The relationship had issues from the beginning, but due to circumstances I tolerated, compromised my values really. Last week after yet another reconciliation, he started behaving abusively, ended up throwing a plate of food across my kitchen and threatening to take my belongings from my home, claiming they were his. Of course he has tried to get back in, I told him no way. I’m done! I’ve been thinking and know it will never work, I’ve been pushed beyond my limit. I would never allow him to be human, any little infraction and that’d be it for me. The sad part, imho, is he doesn’t get it, or doesn’t care enough to get it. A man, at his age, in the state he’s in, is pretty pathetic to me. I’m content in my own company, and just have no desire to be in his company. I really did love him, but he just humiliated, disrespected, mistreated me past my tolerance and right out of love.
Love…Such a weird thing. Finally got back together with my BF a few months ago…we are talking babies and rings and living together. Up until this weekend i was crazy about him….then late Friday night its started…something switched and now although i am attracted to him i don’t feel proud of him and i feel kind of grossed out and think he is cheesy…of course me pulling back is making him love me all the more. Naturally… SO now what does one do? I dont even want to go back to my house later for fear he didnt make the bed or did it wrong…. Just when i got everything i wanted i feel like i may ruin it…Does love just eb and flow?
Eddie, I have a great response to this awesome article. We do not go from work to home, we go from work to work. We must put in just as much work into our relationships/marriages as we do our jobs. We are always spending over 8 hours at our places of employment, one hour max with the person you share an intimate connection with is not enough.
I have a question, Ive found all these articles very interesting and helpful, but Id like to get your insight on what its like for the people falling out of love with someone. I was with my partner for a little over a year, sharing very deep, passionate and meaningful experiences on all levels. He is really the most beautiful, kind and caring person I have ever met. I have no words to express the happiness, joy and wholeness I felt with him. After that, as always problems arose, and we were always commmited to making them work. Somehow, my feelings changed and I cant understand why it is so painful and hard to accept. I wish it could go back to the way it was. but I dont know how.
This is the first time I have ‘blogged’ my thoughts on my break-up which occurred in December last year.
I had been with my partner for 6 and half years, of those we lived together in our home for the last 2 and half. Obviously, our relationship started off fantastic, we even went travelling together and decided to settle down with the intention of having a family.
The last year of our relationship was not the easiest, I lost my Grandfather after losing my Grandmother the previous year. I had a difficult time at work and I have to admit that my concentration was always focussed in her.
Then the bombshell; she decided that she needed a ‘break’ as ‘she didn’t know what she wanted’ and felt ‘caged’ by our relationship. She walked out of our home which was an absolute crushing blow that bought me physically to my knees – I never thought the person who I loved would ever do that to me as I thought she loved me.
Being the type of person I am I gave her space to work things out of Christmas and NY – I then asked her to come back, and she told me although she cared she didn’t feel the same and no longer loved me. She said I could give her everything that she wanted and knew that I would look after her, but that wasn’t enough.
As it turns out she’s being seeing someone else immediately after me – well I let everyone guess what my thoughts were and I told what I thought had gone on and told her she left me to be with him – although she denies it.
I am still feeling very bruised by it all as we had a lot of mutual friends together and I had a close relationship with her Dad. I even asked her back again because I truly felt she was ‘the one’. How often do we all feel this way? She said that the relationship ‘wasn’t right’ and it was therefore unfair to continue.
What is getting to me is that this other person is sharing time with her and doing all the things I enjoyed doing with her and I can’t get these thoughts out of my mind and it often wakes me up.
I do feel better than I did four months ago, but I do feel very shaken by it all. I have been dating again, and I have meet some very nice girls and have been socialising a lot more than I had been doing but I do feel that empty void and I keep mulling and analysing and re-analysing where it all went wrong. Did I do something that made her fall out of love with me? It hurts me as I feel I had a hell alot to offer her but she didn’t want it
It is also the loss of the home we ‘built’ together as it’s now on the market and it pains me greatly that someone else could be living there as I do consider it to be the place I live in.
I am trying to work out where I am in the cycle of getting over it?
after 6 years of communicating and being with him is great but suddenly after 3 n half years of not seeing each other because of distance at first its a nervous and happy despite of thinking i still really know him or i have to pretend that i still love him so our vacation will not spoil after 5 weeks we go back to the place we belong and i realized i’m already fall out of love for him i’m trying and understand what i really feel it;s easy for me to forget him just thinking the bad movement and experience with him ;m not saying his a bad guy it’s just he never give me a “RESPECT” mybe he just used me for everything that i think off….i realized i just want give myself freedom for everything im so freaking tired off loving him that i just ignored that he really never love me since the first day of this fucking relationship but because i like and love im the one who did everything just to be with him now that i realized that stupidity of mine its time for me to let go and let GOD to it for me….all i can say is that we have a choice in life because were the one who manipulate and drive our life to most and beauty future…i never lose anything on losing him because i know for fact that all his own life is revolve in me….everything that he will see is mine he will never ever forget me im in his system….no one can do that i did to him so gurls fucking goodluck hope u can give to him what i gave…so for u goodluck too and u know that u will not be happy for the rest of ur life….
@Lauren – Good Luck to you! I am happy for you.
I was in a relationship for 5 years. Everything was going great. I thought we were going to be together forever. We were perfect for each other. We shared common interests and had so much fun just hanging out. We were planning on getting married and sharing a life together. I thought I was the most fortunate person on earth. Then just last month month he told me he had lost his feelings for me and he seen me as just a friend. I was so hurt. I was devastated. I still am. He is such a great person and I know he did love me but I just can’t get rid of this constant hurt I am going through. I still love him and of course I will always want to be with him but I believe he is going through a life struggle that I just don’t understand right now. I try not to bug him with what I am going through but he was always the one I would go to with all my problems. It was the same with him. It hurts that I am going through this pain and I don’t have him here to help me through it. I am now trying to give him his space so he can figure his life out. I know dealing with me is last on his list but it just hurts so bad and not having him around is just ripping my heart to shreds. I am trying to hang in there but I know I need to let him go and continue on with my life as difficult as it is. I know he feels bad for what he did but I also know he just doesn’t need me in his life right now. I tried to talk to him about it and pleaded for him to stay with me but he is just not there anymore for me. I feel so alone even though I am not. I have my family and God to help me through. Part of me is just so scared of losing him forever. I just hope I can find peace with all this. I also hope that he can find peace in his life as well.
I really hope it went well with you, It would be nice to see where are you now in life…. I believe everything is better now, I hope 🙂
am going through the same right now, Pls some one should help me, I am developing high blood pressure
I also have a hard time of letting it go. 9 years of great and not so great relationship. For me i just cant seem to understand how you love each other so much, have a baby together but while 7 months pregnant she leaves. Meets another man and unintentionally falls in love with him and has sex with him while still pregnant with our daughter. He cheats on her 3 times in 6 months time frame. Comes back to me 4 times for about 2 weeks at a time only just to realize shes not in love with me anymore, that she still loves the man who cheated on her. In her own defense about the guy that cheated on her “everyone makes mistakes” . Our daughter is now 6 months old and we never even had a chance of being a family. i just dont get it. how can one just throw something so beautiful away as a family you once wanted with me. I bent over backwards harder and harder every time she came back. giving it all that i could possible give even when she was disrespectful and ugly towards me. i overlooked all her past and present mistakes because of how much her and the baby meant to me as family. Now currently 4th time of her leaving me she now knows she doesnt love me at all and im just the father of her child. it’s a very upsetting, heartbreaking experience. what do you all think about this situation? im just the person inside the box so it would be nice to hear views outside the box. I know i shouldnt just sit and wait . That she will be the one to let me know that she made “possible mistake.” Is it just lust for her? how can someone love a person that has done so much cheating on her with his own baby momma? not to mention that also does drugs pills, coke, weed. How could you possibly want a child to grow up around something like that?
I stumbled across this entry today and the uncanny resemblance to my life prompted me to pause and drop in a reply even though it is 7 years. 🙂
I don’t expect to but I’m taking a chance here and hoping I’d hear what happened next. I’m broken into pieces and the worst part is that I don’t know if I should wait or try to pick up the pieces and move on.
@Rosey – 6 years ago i met a guy and i fell so much in love with him, or so i thought. we did everything together, he was always around, we hung out with friends all the time, we were completely unseperable! to me that was love and because i thought i loved him, i gave up my virginity to him.
Now, (6years later) we dont talk anymore, he cheated on me twice and even after i found out he continued to cheat with the same girls.
Broke my Heart for the very first time….
HOWEVER: now im older, more mature. one of my bestfriends was tellin me about this guy who wanted to meet me so i asked her some things about him and her response was “Hes an ugly white boy with a really nice car” haha, what am i supposed to think about that?
so he eventually talked to me on my screen name and he kept asking if he would come see me, pick me up, go to the beach, have a few beers, hang out, anything just to see me… & i kept blowing him off
so this one particular time he asked if we could hang out the next day and i felt bad repetively blowin him off so i pt it in a nice way by saying “Maybee, ask me tomorow…;”
but i guess he was a step ahead of me… instead of asking me in the morning, he asked my bestfriend if her and would go with him and hang out. so my bestfriend called me and told me he was on his way to get us. i had no choice but to see him.
so we hung out. he brought me to Narriganset Bay. and slowly as we were hanging out i started to like him more and more.
what really trigger’d me to start liking him was because he was outgoing, he was funny, we seen eye to eye on alot of things… it just seemed like everything was clicking together and i couldnt understand how. and he blew me away when he seen me shivering whie we were sitting on the wall near the beach and he took his sweater off, wrapped it around me, and put his arms around me… INFRONT of one of his (boyz) and my bestfriend.
after a couple weeks we finnaly told each other we loved each other. and from there on out it was like i was his everything and he was mine too
i wasnt physically attracted to him but my feelings for him continued to get deeper and deeper. like there was no end to my emotion. i never felt anything like it before and it scared the hell out of me!
we started dating, he picked me up pretty much every day and we’d go out or go to a friends house and have a few drinks. we were always doing something TOGETHER.
2 months after this whole fairy tale feeling, he started to ignore me… stopped calling, stopped coming by. It was like he never exsisted. one minute hes always by my side, next minute he was never around.
he called me a week after ignoring me, we talked for about an hour he was telling me about a problem he had and what was gong on.. but wat scared me was he kept saying “im sorry”…… “Im so sorry”
then i pulled myself together and said “why do u keep saying sorry to me?” and he sighed & said “your gonna hate me” my heart sunk as i prepared my emotion for a break down.
he had told me that he was loosing his house and he had to move back in with his ex girlfriend of 1 &1/2 years and that was the reason he hasnt been keeping in touch with me or seeing me.
i lost my mind, i have never been so heart broken my entire life. i felt like someone just cut my chest open grabbed my heart and ripped 3/4 of it out of me.
i got depressed, stopped eating, i suffered insomnia, i pulled away from everyone including my family. i hated my bestfriend for introducing me to him even though it wasnt her fault that i fell in love. the only person i would talk to was the friend that he brought along with us to narriganset bay.
he became my bestfriend. he wa the only one who made me smile, or came over just to hang out or pick me up to get my mind off of things. mind you this was my ex’s BEST FRIEND.
so me and his bestfriend were always talkin n laughin he was like the highlight of my day cause he was the only one who could make me smile. but something happen that shouldnt have happend…
we mixed our friendship with emotions and started dating, he met my mother and some family, introduced me to his parents and sister.
it was like the perfect little relationship starting (or as i called it a pre mini marraige lol) so after things started going good for us i hit a big ass stone wall… my ex called me and asked if he could swing by n pick me up for a few just to talk to me…
now of course i loved him still, he was my first true love whom i never wanted to give up in the first place. so i snuck behind my bf’s back to see my ex and we all started hanging out and everytime id walk away from my bf into a drfferent room my ex would follow me and sneak me kisses, or tell me he missed me..
my heart was starting to feel torn considering i just started a healthy relationship with his bestfriend… then one night my ex called me, it was about 4:00am and he was still at his friends house drinking and what not and he asked me a personal question about me and his bestfriend. he asked if we had slept together.
i tried to avoid the question but i ended up just answering it and told him yes i have and the moment i answered him i regreted it so soo soooo much. he started calling me all these horrible names and puttting me down and laughing with his drunk friend
never talked to me again after that. so me and his best friend continued dating and everything was goin good for us but for some reson i had to ask my ex something that would make us or break us. i sent it in a myspace message and he replied back with derogatory terms towards me and fowarded the message to my bf (his bestfriend).
that night my bf broke up with me, my ex stopped talking to me. . . once again i was hurt.. but this time instead of loosing just 1 thing i lost 2, i lost my bf (who was my comfort and bestfriend) and i lost my ex for a 2nd time. i felt so foolish.
how ever. me and my recent ex boyfriend remained good friends, and me and my other ex just stopped talking. we didnt talk for about….. 4 or months.
last week i was online and i seen him on and i figured id try talkin to him, cause i mean, really could it get any worse? i was at the bottom of bottoms i was at lowest terms with him.
to my surprise, he replied with “he whats up” and “what are you doing tonight?”
he ended up picking me up, we went had a few drinks, he took me to the movies, we grabbed a bite to eat, and he payed for the whole night.
and for once we werent arguing, we were laughing, jokin around, we actually had a good time, and as he dropped me off, i looked at him dead in his eyes to see if i still got the same feeling … and it all came back to me.
he looked back at me and i thanked him for taking me out and everything and that i had fun with him. and as i said bye to him and went to get out of his car he gently grabbed my hand.
so i paused, and looked at him, sat back donw in the seat, he ran his fingers through the side of my hair, touched my face. i touched his face and we slowly kissed. but this kiss had so much love in it. i could feel it.
since that day last week we have hung out about 4 or 5 times, he’ll take me out to lunch or just come pick me up and drive around just to see my face…
then last night (November 15, 2009) he called me up. i was in the middle of painting my friends walls at the house and i was a mess, my hair looked horrible, i had black sweatpants on with dried paint all over them and a black wife beada.
he asked wat i was doing and said he was on his way to pick me up just to see me for a few minutes. so he picked me up and as soon as i got in the car he had to crack a joke by sayin “damn u still look hot even with paint all over you” and started laughing
as we started to drive off, he said “oh, wait, first things first…” he stopped the car in the middle of the road, leaned over wrapped his arms all around me and kissed mefor a good 5 or 6 long seconds.
then we left and we went to a little hang out spot and were sitting in his car just talking to each other, we started kissing again then he tried makin a move on me and i thought quickly to myself “we just stared hanging out again after a really long time of not talking… this is probably a mistake… CANT DO IT”
so i touched his hand and simply said “not yet, its to soon” and he was fine with that so we continued to kiss and he layed my seat back and i playfully pushed him off me and held his hands down said “no its to soon, we just started talking again” and so he gently touched my face and we kissed softly and then just layed there with each other holding hands….
give it time and he might come back.. it happen for me and i been through the worst with him
Thank You Lauren, i hope you are doing better and well? Well i pretended to be a friend of my self and i wrote him he once thought it was another person and was making a date to see (cindy) which was is really me LOL, Anyways i wrote him around xmas time and i told him how i(Rosey) was feeling and he replied after two years already just answered Why are you e-mailing me? then i guess he blocked me or just prefer to not reply anymore or not read my email .
I would like to know what happened next. Any update on your love life? 🙂 As I started reading your story, I completely got interested 🙂
Thank you for sharing, my daughter just went through a rough break up. Her bf broke up with her……. saying he wasn’t feeling it and he could t love her the way she loved him. She is devastated this is her first bf.
I dont know what happened my boyfriend just stop talking , emailing and answering my emails just like he disappeared from the face of the earth. No Goodbye or sorry i found someone knew its very hard.
I was in a marriage for 18 years and I filed for the divorce.It was a sexless marriage,we were better friends than lovers. Well shortly after I left I fell for a man who was 30 and I was 50.We hit if off right away and moved in together. We were a couple for 2 years. And than we broke up. I relalized now it was so passionate because of what I was missing. The sex and the attention. I believe I did love him,but I also put up with his moods etc just to have him.It was a very hard break up for me and still dealing with him and it 4 months later. We still had the sex after the break up and that was dumb but I had a hard time letting go.Stronger now but still miss him at times. That is me, when I care for someone I can’t just never see them again.Also still friends w my ex-husband and glad we are. Thanks for the insights.